Relationships with expiration dates
I’m just at a loss of what to say to women who still believe that great sex is enough to keep a man. I think it is one of those situations that people have to experience before they get it.
The reality is it’s easy to entertain, like, and be enamored with one another when your clothes are off. That’s actually the easier part in a lot of ways!
What happens when your clothes are back on and you start to realize that outside the bedroom, you actually don’t connect in other ways?
Let me give you a hint: Tick. Tock. That’s the timer ticking to down to the demise of the relationship.
It’s not just because orgasms aren’t enough to keep two people interested. It takes more. A lot more. Especially if you want more.
Sure the amazing bedroom trysts will be a shiny new toy you can’t stop playing with – but the novelty wears off. What do you think it takes to sustain a relationship without expiration dates?
Don’t you think it rather… interesting.. that sex alone can’t sustain a relationship but a relationship without sex won’t last either?
Why do you think that is? Or do you disagree?
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For Real
July 26th, 2011
4:31 pm
Skit two:
Dude: Hello.
Chick: How are you?
Dude: I’m well. (places his cellphone on table)
Chick: Nice phone. What’s your number?
Dude: Thanks. 773-9311…
Chick: (Click..) You have a message.
Equals, good times in the sack but no way in hell do I ever marry that chick.
Demi
July 26th, 2011
4:32 pm
There are actually differences… In general, you’ll find less fake boobs, better curves (and more variety of shapes/sizes) & more, ahem, skilled dancing at the black clubs. Most white skrippers are like Stepford Wives of ho’s, IMO…
Swiss…you should have added:
White Chocolate
and drop the mic, LOL
only you can pull that one off
Casual Observer
July 26th, 2011
4:32 pm
Dynamic, Don’t belive the hype!!!! If you feeling dude go for yours…If he is the Grown azz man that he is supposed to be ( and you don’t put it down like a leading lady in a ZANE book) you can move forward and everything will be everything…Be confident, Follow you own dating trail and Mr. Do Right might just be your Long term guy….But more than anything else, please dont assume that because jumped in it with both feet, that he jumped in with both feet…
SlimNu
July 26th, 2011
4:32 pm
Random – If someone is talking on the cell phone while in the restroom, am I supposed to try to wait to flush as long as possible, when they’re done?
Demi
July 26th, 2011
4:32 pm
For Real, SUP!!!
For Real
July 26th, 2011
4:35 pm
D-mic: Unfortunately Celisea has mis-informed you as to what men mean by “Too Soon”.
Too Soon means there is no chemistry with the chick. No chemistry equal “It’s just sex” which she probably has done with some other dude before.
For Real
July 26th, 2011
4:36 pm
What up DEMI…. Everythang is everythang?
Fion
July 26th, 2011
4:37 pm
@Dynamic
Bayyybe, Early, Late, that’s not important. It’s what you bring to the table.
Because the day of what ever you are puttin down does not out weight the residual charges (time, money, effort, ect.) related to the maintenance of the relationship there ain’t a Man breathin that will stick around.
Leggs
July 26th, 2011
4:37 pm
Can anyone break down Celisea’s last 8 words of her 4:27?
For Real
July 26th, 2011
4:38 pm
Slim: No you are suppose make sounds like you are trying to show that Number 2 whose Number 1 and when you finish you scream out YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH BOIIIIIIIIII!!!!!! Then double flush to show respect to the fight that Number 2 put up.
For Real
July 26th, 2011
4:39 pm
Leggs: I would but I promised Celisea I would keep it to meself.
Demi
July 26th, 2011
4:39 pm
I was kickin it wit a chick and after bout the 3rd time I knocked her down, she shows up with her trick bag, we had big fun, but….never looked at her the same, instantly fell off my long term radar.
She may have looked at you the same, lol
Exiled!
July 26th, 2011
4:40 pm
Dynamic!?
Celisea advice: PLEASE by all means keep it to yaself!
Fellas,see when abc says All women Lie!
Celisea is giving Dynamic some debauchery advice to be a whorrre as long as it’s on the low low and the dude with the ring don’t know!
My My!
PR’s 2038 wife!
For Real
July 26th, 2011
4:40 pm
For Real now trying to reach his 8 post per day minimal.
i'm swiss™
July 26th, 2011
4:42 pm
Demi — You know, that’s a good idea. Matter of fact, I think I need to start ending every post that way…
Slim — Did you leave this box of red Koolaid flavored fruit roll ups on my desk? They’re the extra-absorbent kind with wings.
White Chocolate
Leggs
July 26th, 2011
4:42 pm
@ForReal ~ it’s not that difficult, just wanted the actual words.
Exiled!
July 26th, 2011
4:43 pm
I did Leggs
Purple Rain
July 26th, 2011
4:44 pm
Exiled, leave my Celisea alone, she know how to keep me smiling. LOL
And as all MLBs know, let a hoe be a hoe and don’t retire her to wife status.
Demi
July 26th, 2011
4:44 pm
Leggs…yep and he still carried her behind up stairs, lol
thats real love
BlackMagicWoman...in NYC
July 26th, 2011
4:46 pm
DEMI…I missed you love! how are you? Yes, I am saddened but not suprised by Amy’s passing. I love her music! Hopefully she finally has some peace.
SWISS….
I swear you need help!!!!
Purple Rain
July 26th, 2011
4:46 pm
So being a grown man means being able to accept sex quickly and work through it?
Purple Rain
July 26th, 2011
4:46 pm
But yet if a guy was trying to get some to soon………………….
Dynamic
July 26th, 2011
4:46 pm
@ Exiled…. what???
Let me say that I am single and not currently having sex, but we have the same urges that yall have. If I have been knowing someone for a few weeks,talked on the phone w/ all the get to know you b.s, we went out a few times, and I am attracted to them….I’m supposed to hold out b/c I eventually want to get married one day? That just doesn’t make any sense to me. Do you men really think that your wives have never done any of that real freaky nasty ish w/ no other guy? She had to learn it somewhere….
Fion
July 26th, 2011
4:47 pm
Nah, If you know you can Turn Women out, then hell, it ain’t news.
Its just the way it goes down.
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda The Womb Beater
July 26th, 2011
4:48 pm
@Demi…lol,
…it would have been easier if that was the case, but I had to fade shorty to black, she was super cool and I liked the chick, but there was no way that I was going get caught up and wife her up.
For Real
July 26th, 2011
4:48 pm
Purp: “don’t retire her to wife status” – Sadly, that message hasn’t reached all of the fellas but I guess if some of the dudes didn’t retire that hoe to wife status who would the milkman fugg?
The food chain is starting to get clear-re-er.
Willie Dynamite
July 26th, 2011
4:48 pm
Dynamic – let me guess, you have ALOT of male “friends”.
Purple Rain
July 26th, 2011
4:49 pm
LOL @ “All that get to know each other b.s.”
Purple Rain
July 26th, 2011
4:50 pm
LOL@Willie and probably the git that keeps on giving.
Willie Dynamite
July 26th, 2011
4:50 pm
and oh yeah, you don’t really get along with females right?
SlimNu
July 26th, 2011
4:50 pm
swiss – ewwwwwww. You’re probably going to have that not-so-fresh-feeling any minute now if you ate those.
Purple Rain
July 26th, 2011
4:50 pm
For Real I am not calling anyone a hoe but some in here type with hoe tendecies. LIke Exiled said a lion is a lion is a lion and wont ever be nothing but a lion.
Purple Rain
July 26th, 2011
4:51 pm
@Willie, because women have to much drama so she prefers to hang with guys.
Demi
July 26th, 2011
4:51 pm
For Real…life is treating me well…some drunk dude ran over my parked bike, so now I am looking for a new one.
Swiss…you wild!!!
Ms.Eye, I miss you as well…I hope is treating you well!!!
For Real
July 26th, 2011
4:51 pm
“don’t really get along with females right?” – Classic Willie classic…..
Leggs
July 26th, 2011
4:52 pm
I see that you did, Ex!
That’s love, Demi! (Lololol)!
@BMW ~ Amy’s last CD is very nice. Well, she only made 2. Some songs are deep! I love it.
Exiled!
July 26th, 2011
4:52 pm
Dynamic?
Sorry baby I didt realize u want some practice di-ick!
any man here can give u that but since I’m first to actually get that outa u,I get first dibs
What’s ur email add so we cam do dis? U can host?
I go by Meelo and that name gone be in the subject area.
Cool
Celisea
July 26th, 2011
4:52 pm
Dynamic – See what I mean? Since you posed your question you’ve gottenat least 4 variations of not too soon. I believe what I said collaborates with PR, Swiss and somebody else (ya’ll better not turn on me…lol) Don’t go by For Real because he denounces “happily ever after” so there is no such thing as “too soon” by his standards. Don’t listen to Exile because if you heave too heavy and your bosom is “appealing” you made the “ho” list. It’s always a lose lose in his book. If you ain’t getting it, you ugly or some sort of man repellant and if you’re having the best of relations and relating…you ain’t married you’re a wh@ore….again by his standards. Do you and what you like and keep it private and personal.
For Real
July 26th, 2011
4:54 pm
Dayum!!! Exiled you forgot to add your pimp laugh.
Purple Rain
July 26th, 2011
4:55 pm
LOL@ Practice “D”
Fion
July 26th, 2011
4:55 pm
The only dudes shocked at gettin’ Punanni quote un quote early are dudes that ain’t
never asked for it..
Men let me ask you, Chick telles you the Punanni ain’t in Play. You stickin’ round????
that’s what I thought.
Casual Observer
July 26th, 2011
4:56 pm
Dynamic, Cut the games sister!!!! Invite dude over…make a nice dinner, Put the kiddie pool in the living room, Fill it up with bananna pudding, Put on your cowboy hat and some Chaps on, and let him eat Fruit Roll ups for desert…. You owe yourself that much….
Willie Dynamite
July 26th, 2011
4:56 pm
lets be fair now. That word hoe is thrown out all willy nilly nowadays. Some have earned it while others have just fell into it (pun intended). The new school hoes, excuse me independant women like to think of themselves as aggressive, confident and liberated yet classy. hahaha
Dynamic
July 26th, 2011
4:56 pm
Thanks Cel….back to lurking I go. I didn’t know that asking questions will get you tagged as a HOE
Purp's Hoe
July 26th, 2011
4:56 pm
You could’nt lgo home to your boring azz wife without me! Stop playing Dude!
For Real
July 26th, 2011
4:56 pm
“Don’t go by For Real because he denounces “happily ever after” so there is no such thing as “too soon” by his standards.” – When did I ever say that Celisea. You know I don’t mind you putting your body parts in my mouth but words I didn’t say? Homey don’t play that…..
Purple Rain
July 26th, 2011
4:56 pm
Fion that is the lady that garners more interest and respect from a guy like me. And I love me some me.
Purple Rain
July 26th, 2011
4:57 pm
Fion and to counter, I think that the guy who jumps at every woman who wants to give him some is the guy who is not used to getting women and has to cease every opportunity.
Celisea
July 26th, 2011
4:57 pm
PR –
That’s why we’re permanently penciled for 2038 “my Celisea”
Exiled!
July 26th, 2011
4:58 pm
U made me laugh with that ‘back to lurking’ and HOE reference Dynamite Dynamic
Wait,that’s Willie’s ex?