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Relationships with expiration dates

I’m just at a loss of what to say to women who still believe that great sex is enough to keep a man. I think it is one of those situations that people have to experience before they get it.

The reality is it’s easy to entertain, like, and be enamored with one another when your clothes are off. That’s actually the easier part in a lot of ways!

What happens when your clothes are back on and you start to realize that outside the bedroom, you actually don’t connect in other ways?

Let me give you a hint: Tick. Tock. That’s the timer ticking to down to the demise of the relationship.

It’s not just because orgasms aren’t enough to keep two people interested. It takes more. A lot more. Especially if you want more.

Sure the amazing bedroom trysts will be a shiny new toy you can’t stop playing with – but the novelty wears off. What do you think it takes to sustain a relationship without expiration dates?

Don’t you think it rather… interesting.. that sex alone can’t sustain a relationship but a relationship without sex won’t last either?

Why do you think that is? Or do you disagree?

453 comments Add your comment

Fion

July 26th, 2011
11:20 am

@BlackFoote
Yeah, I know. Once you turn’em out you can’t hardly get rid of’em.

BTW Casual Observer 10:55 post hand a cuolpe of good points.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2011
11:20 am

LOL…@Da_Man
Ok since you went there, Wilona and Thelma.

Lovely Brown

July 26th, 2011
11:22 am

June more like a doormat.

Says who? I think the Junes of this world have it going on. Just because they are not always advertising their wares they gotta be doormats? I have found out those that do all that yip yappin about how they get it in are usually the ones that aint doing ish! Ward knew that June had the goods:lol: And they were all his! To me that says a lot. Who wants something everybody has had or seen……

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2011
11:22 am

Especially Thelma!

Fion

July 26th, 2011
11:23 am

Nah, Nah BlackFoote “Julia’. Damn Dianne Carroll was the #@%^&$*&>

Exiled!

July 26th, 2011
11:26 am

People spend too much time……on the outside…

Nope, Nada, Disagree!

The Outside influences the brain to think positive about the inside!

Once u in,the nana looks good,u get a chance now to look around closer….all this while,getting easy access to the puna-ni! U evaluate,analyze and evaluate further. Now,if the inside character checks out and u have done a cost benefit,Roi etc,u may decide to settle on that.
That’s comfortable right there. If u decide to leave,at least u smashed although it was a win-lose!

Now,to not focus on the outside and just go in,after an ugly chic just coz she may have a nice personality?
No maaam!

That’s a lose lose coz nobody knows that her punani other than ursf.

Good things are truly good when u can enjoy and also show them around.

Who shows off an ugly chic?

Da_Man!

July 26th, 2011
11:27 am

Ok @Blackfoote, you got me on Thelma!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2011
11:29 am

Lovely
I compared Helen and June, which one I would prefer I said Helen cause she was (to me) stronger than June that’s all. Both are liked well and I did say I would ask a Helen type out anytime.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2011
11:32 am

Fion I was gonna go Diane, during her Dynasty days. Yep she had it.

SlimNu

July 26th, 2011
11:33 am

swiss – You aren’t checking anything on the inside….welll…lemme at least see your credentials first.

i'm swiss™

July 26th, 2011
11:33 am

“That’s a lose lose coz nobody knows that her punani other than ursf.

Good things are truly good when u can enjoy and also show them around.”

Me.lo — That’s why the ugly ones are more likely to be swingers. :lol:

i'm swiss™

July 26th, 2011
11:34 am

“lemme at least see your credentials first.”

Slim — ZZZZZZIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIPPPPPPPPP, KA-PLUNK. :lol:

Casual Observer

July 26th, 2011
11:37 am

Exiled, I use to have an UGLY chic in my rotation….She had a GREAT job, was fine as frog hair, and was open minded and creative in the sack….her only thing was, she knew she was rough on the eyes and would not play ball if I was not willing to play in public. Had to resort to taking her out on the other side of town…The company was always good, But damn… She kinda looked like a combo of Sherly Swoops and Marion Jones…Once she figured out how to control that rouge tooth…the sex was Olympic quality!!!!

Easy E

July 26th, 2011
11:38 am

My 2 cents..

(A) Sex should never define a relationship. It is a very fleeting and fickle feeling (outside of a marriage). Within a marriage, it’s indescriable..(i’m sure this one is going to get shot down rather quickly..)

(B) A woman’s body should be treated like an asset. It should only be given up after a man is ready to spend the rest of his life with her. If she treats/trade’s it like a commodity (with sex being the value she places on it), it will one day reach its expiration date (like all commodities do) and she will be left with the pieces of the broken relationship while the man is off to the next (fresher/younger/richer etc..) commodity..

(C) However if a woman treats her body as an asset, those never have expiry dates. A man will respect that. But first a woman’s heart should be hidden with/in God..so a man will have to seek and find God before he finds her heart.

(D) Problem is that most women give up the puss/use their bodies as a way to find/seek/keep/hold-on to a man and wonder why he cheats..thats because all the above are physical charastertics which have an expiration date. It’s almost like building a lighthouse with sand as it’s foundation..when the waves come crashing, what do you think will happen to that lighthouse?

(E) i know my comments are going to be bashed with people saying that my views are outdated/unrealistic/etc but hey..this is just my 2 cents..

Plus, i’m a man..just with a different mindset/opinion..

Celisea

July 26th, 2011
11:38 am

Someone’s wearing a NEW SUIT….

My coworker said they bought while out of the country….LOLOL

We ain’t right :evil:

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2011
11:41 am

Casual – refrain from disclosing too much of the play book. We (read:most) all had that bench player like Rodman that we wouldn’t invite to the banquest but could play with the best of them and help us win championships.

Celisea

July 26th, 2011
11:41 am

Easy E – I’m agreeing all day with you. I won’t shoot your comments done but you might get pegged the Ward to my June.

Exiled!

July 26th, 2011
11:44 am

Casual?

My man :lol: I know that game well….

Swiss,I kinda agree..it’s hard to date an ugly chic..especially if she’s nice.

U gotta be real creative on the spots to take her too. :lol:

Coz again u don’t wana lose a nicer looking chic coz u were seem round town with the ugly!

Fion

July 26th, 2011
11:46 am

@ Willie / Casual

Here! Here!

Fion

July 26th, 2011
11:48 am

Damn!!!! Exiled there you go. Just give’em the combination to safe while you at it.

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2011
11:48 am

pulling Easy E to the side (I got this fellas) – blah blah blah blah blah. Take a deep breath, blah blah blah blah. What the heyal are you talking about???? This is not 1952. we may share some of the same thoughts as you but we DO NOT I repeat DO NOT voice them in that manner. Say what you need to say without appearing to be a Man with chick feelings.

Exiled!

July 26th, 2011
11:49 am

Easy E!

A man’s physique expires as well so that’s even

U talk as if only a woman’s nether expires.
If she uses the punani to get the man and her character checks out, More power to her

Lovely Brown

July 26th, 2011
11:50 am

Easy E- I agree with you :-)

SlimNu

July 26th, 2011
11:51 am

Exiled!

July 26th, 2011
11:51 am

My apologies Fellas!

Lovely Brown

July 26th, 2011
11:51 am

cracking up at Willie D pulling Easy E to the side :lol:

Purple Rain

July 26th, 2011
11:52 am

I guess a lot of people don’t read the topic, all I did was copy and paste the topic in my last posting and people starting talking to me like I wrote it. The bond, friendship and respect is the meat and potatoes, the sex is the gravy IMO. I prefer to not let sex cloud the starts of a new relationship, laugh at me all you want but I was just raised that way. In my day I may have had 3 -4 people of whom I had sex with and I knew that it was nothing but a sexual relationship whether they wanted more or not. Otherwise I would see if all of the other intangibles were there before we had sex. I never dated an ugly chick by mine nor anyones standards…LOL..I let hoes be hoes and did not even think of retiring them to wifey status, if I got the goods to soon or to easy I already filed her away as a fling.

Sweet Pea

July 26th, 2011
11:54 am

Who wants something everybody has had or seen……

Lovely~this reminds me of something my great-grandmother would say…Don’t let errybody know what’s under your clothes.. LOL

So true!

By the way, Easy E…I agree with wome of your points, however “D” I strongly disagree as people cheat because they desire to do so for other reasons not just what you indicated. It may hold truth to some women and that would be those who lack self-worth.

what do you think will happen to that lighthouse? It can be rebuilt..new and improved as they have all kind of enhancements if you so desire…LOL

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2011
11:55 am

I let hoes be hoes and did not even think of retiring them to wifey status, if I got the goods to soon or to easy I already filed her away as a fling.

I vote that we put this in the next Man Law book as a RULE. Chicks be quiet (respectfully of course). Men vote now.

Purple Rain

July 26th, 2011
11:56 am

Easy E, yes you are a man. I am just amazed how you used God and puss in the same post. LOL Just kidding, I agree with alot of what you are saying but do you use that as your calling card? If a woman heard all of that and still tried to give you some on the second date, what do you do?

Who was the blog lady who had the boyfriend that smoked weed while they read the Bible? LOL

Purple Rain

July 26th, 2011
11:58 am

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2011
11:59 am

Purple that was I Am.

Celisea

July 26th, 2011
12:00 pm

PR – What do you consider “easy or too soon” versus not?

Sweet Pea

July 26th, 2011
12:01 pm

oops…Some of your points not wome

E~I wanted to bring some humor to the blog on the lighthouse ?? as society is putting a lot of pressure on us with then cosmetic enhancement department, but I ain’t buying it…to each his own if that is what it takes to make one feel better. However, rebuilding body parts that will eventually go south is something that you would have to keep up til the end…IMO Like I said I agree with most of what you said.

Sweet Pea

July 26th, 2011
12:05 pm

the cosmetic enhancement not then….

I am being challenged with typos…I am human…sigh

Lovely Brown

July 26th, 2011
12:06 pm

Who was the blog lady who had the boyfriend that smoked weed while they read the Bible? LOL

:shock:

I know the Lord made everything and He made it good…. The yielding herb for real ! :lol:

Purple Rain

July 26th, 2011
12:06 pm

Celisea, easy means she is trying to get some after I just met her. To soon is if we both have interest in each other, but sex is the main topic and she is already trying to get some everytime we are alone in the initial stages. In the internet day and age if you meet someone and have been conversing for a while via phone, email, skype for a long period then I can understand trying to get some.

Celisea

July 26th, 2011
12:07 pm

That episode was clowndom at best

SexyCool

July 26th, 2011
12:07 pm

Purple Rain

July 26th, 2011
12:08 pm

Blackfoote, thanks. LOL

SexyCool

July 26th, 2011
12:08 pm

“What happens when your clothes are back on and you start to realize that outside the bedroom, you actually don’t connect in other ways?”

You should have figured that out before you got naked.

Celisea

July 26th, 2011
12:09 pm

PR – Gotcha…so it’s her trying to get some? Usually it’s him tryng to get some and surprised he got it so quick and soon and easily.

Purple Rain

July 26th, 2011
12:10 pm

Hey you all, I just tried to remember the last time I smoked and I can’t remember. It’s been that long. I may have to light one up to celebrate quitting. :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2011
12:11 pm

Lovely:
Stop it, the yielding herb….LOL

Purple Rain

July 26th, 2011
12:11 pm

I am speaking from a man’s POV Celisea. But it’s vice versa as well.

If a woman can’t be sexy with her clothes on then she is just a plain woman with her clothes off also.

Celisea

July 26th, 2011
12:12 pm

woodrow

July 26th, 2011
12:13 pm

My experience, great sex and great relationships are two separate animals. I have never had a great relationship. All the women I’ve know are totally self-absorbed and self-seeking. That will kill a relationship over time.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2011
12:14 pm

LOL….@Purple
Purple pass it on.

Purple Rain

July 26th, 2011
12:17 pm

Blackfoote, I didn’t even realize I quit until I typed about the praying weed smoker.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2011
12:20 pm

Sweet Pea:
I mean to ask what is wome……LOL