Mate debate: Can we find everything we want?
I’m not a big fan of dating checklists. I think they end up becoming an excuse not to give perfectly good candidates a real chance. I think we all have our preferences, and we definitely know what grabs our attention. I have to wonder though, how does that all come in to play when we actually meet the person who is ideal for us?
Do you think the person you really want and desiwav can have everything you ever wanted in a mate? Imagine the traits, character, looks, and even the body of your “Dream” mate. Would they want to be with you? Would you be a good match for them?
Do you think the people we are looking for actually exist? Would we recognize them right away or would we miss out because they don’t look/sound/behave the way we expected?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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352 comments Add your comment
Foxy
July 25th, 2011
7:43 am
Morning Kids!
Foxy thinks that sticking o a list and vanity will keep you from your soul mate. Real Love is always transformational
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
8:53 am
Good morning,
To have a long list of ideals and expect to cross paths with someone that will meet every single item is far fetched and simple crazy….unless of course your list looks like this:
All fingers and toes
A job
A pulse
Speaks some form of English, whether broken, ebonics, spanglish etc
However, we all know that any list we come up with would not look that scarce. I’m sure if we had the ability to create in a factory all the things we wanted in a mate, that once we got that “perfect guy/girl”, we’d probably still find something wrong them. Plus, whose to say that person would want YO ARSE.
It’s Monday so let’s keep it uplifting and fun
Dave
July 25th, 2011
8:54 am
No, there is no one that will exactly fit your mold perfectly. You just have to find the one that closests fits and see if you can live with the parts that don’t fit. Too often, we compare future prospects to what we have experienced in the past and that’s not fair….but it is reality.
????
July 25th, 2011
8:56 am
I have a question. Why is it that when I was married, women were coming from all angles, propositions, asking me out, etc. Now that I’m divorced, I can literally hear crickets and they won’t give me the time of day. Kind of makes me go “Hmmmmmm…..”
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
9:01 am
???? – I believe we’ve discussed this sort of thing before. I think it has something to do with the energy or vibes you give off when you’re already in a relationship versus the how it is when you’re single.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
9:34 am
Good morning.
I don’t think having a list (much like Chili’s list) is a good tool to use when trying to find a mate. However, having comparable traits of faith, character, morals, respect will help one gravitate toward the mate for them. All else can sink in a barrel of cement.
Mr_NYC
July 25th, 2011
9:41 am
Good morning all – a list might have some merit if it was prepared with the assistance of a neutral objective third party who took the time to know you. Otherwise our jaded perceptions and prejudices can sometimes get in our own way. Back to the sidelines, have a good day everyone.
Hello Leggs
By the way, anyone watch Breaking Bad? Has it gotten weird?
Steve
July 25th, 2011
9:46 am
In my mid 40s, it’s hard to find someone without a huge amount of baggage. Like glaring problems. Or you meet someone that is great on paper, but there’s no chemistry. It’s frustrating, this whole dating thing.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
9:50 am
Hello Mr_NYC! Hope you are well.
@Steve ~ I feel you. At my age, It’s difficult to find someone who wants to build a relationship. So many would rather play “revolving door.” I don’t like the rules to that game so I have to sit on the sidelines.
thewatchdog
July 25th, 2011
9:56 am
That is a great question. I really like it. Their is a per fect match and that is the one that lights your fire every time.
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
9:59 am
Good morning!
Guys,the female lists don’t matter coz the females use them as talking(discussion) points with friends.
Nothing more, nothing less.
If a guy’s looks are good to the chic,by date three,he’s smashing.
If he sticks it good,when she tosses the panties to the floor, there goes the shallow and superficial list, with them panties!
Tossed for good!
So yeah,umm, List my foot!
MsMarriedUp
July 25th, 2011
10:00 am
I have to agree. The problem with checklists, you have to keep revising and updating. People change. There are at least 6 major phases getting from infancy thru mid-life crisis on to seniorhood.
And then past that…sometimes crap along the way.
Yep, how nice it would be without accidents, and diseases, and unemployment…but stuff happens and changes people and just f’s all be to damn a good thoughtful list. Though (LOL) once upon a time I did make a list. Had 1 requirement on about 50 sheets of separate paper!!!
Mr_NYC
July 25th, 2011
10:05 am
@Exiled Man that’s hilarious and true more times than will be admitted.
SexyCool
July 25th, 2011
10:08 am
Three Words Daily – Just give thanks.
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
10:15 am
There are over 7 billion people in the world, you can find your exact one if you have patience and are not in a rush. I see nothing wrong for having a list and not settling for something beneath your standard. I said it before and I will say it again, you know you have found the right one when you know that you can’t nor do you have the desire to find someone better.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
10:15 am
That’s it in a nutshell, PR!
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
10:18 am
G’Morning Leggs, how was your weekend?
SexyCool
July 25th, 2011
10:20 am
A “basic” checklist has it’s uses. However, it should be used as a guide and not the hard, fast, unyielding standard.
I see nothing wrong with having a short list of desired traits. I also think it makes sense to update the list as you grow and become to know yourself and what does or does not work for you. If anything, it is proof that you have actually given the dating process some thought and that you are not just out dating blind.
Determine what your dealbreakers are. Compile a list of top desired traits, go with the 80/20 rule and you should be fine.
I mean, think about it, you don’t go house shopping or car buying without a list of desired features…or at least you shouldn’t.
ali
July 25th, 2011
10:20 am
I think lists are overrated as you will never find someone matches all of your requirements. I just want a guy who’s respectful, honest, has a great sense of humor, is employed, single and is mildly attractive. That shouldn’t be too difficult right??
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
10:23 am
@PR ~ weekend was good. Did “some” of my chores, went to a party at a neighbor’s place and chilled on Sunday watching the movie “Thor.” Good movie. I’m refreshed, ready for whatever this week brings my way.
How’s the pregnancy coming along. Any severe mood swings or are you use to it all now?
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
10:28 am
LOL, does one ever get use to severe mood swings?
kimmie
July 25th, 2011
10:30 am
Morning All!
I see nothing wrong with knowing what you want and don’t want, whether you actually write it down or have a sort of mental list. Because see, in a few days the complaint, or topic will be that women and/or men don’t know what they want!
As for having a list and not veering from it as an excuse to not give “perfectly good candidates” a real chance – so what? “Perfectly good” is relative. They may be perfectly good, just not perfect for you. What works for you may be a dealbreaker for someone else.
I’m with Purple – have patience and don’t be in a rush. But that doesn’t mean act like you have all the time in the world and waste people’s time either.
I’m all for having standards. Being flexible and willing to change with circumstances does not mean you’ve abandoned your standards.
Folks can always chide others about being too “picky” when they don’t want to jump at the first person that has a pulse. The thing is, you have to be true to yourself. Settling does nobody any favors, not you or the person you settle for. And you don’t need to try and predict gloom & doom to those that choose not to settle. If a person has decided to focus on a narrow standard and decides to hold to that, more than likely they also understand the “challenges” they might face in finding it and are prepared to deal with it. THEY have to live with their choice, not you!
Celisea
July 25th, 2011
10:32 am
It’s possible to find “everything you want”….keeping mindful, that does not equate “perfection.” If it’s a list you need as a means or a mental note while interacting do what works for you. I too don’t believe a hard line drawn with a gazillion dos don’t cans can’ts wills won’ts just isn’t reality. We aren’t perfect and shouldn’t expect perfection. Moreso a look for someone that mirrors and “believe like I do” is how I tend to operate. Believe like I do meaning, finding ourselves the majority of the time on common ground. Similiar ethics, morals, beliefs, ideas, etc. Similiarities in what we like and do-able solutions where we might not all the time agree.
IMO
July 25th, 2011
10:33 am
If people operated daily at the standard they imposed on others, I could get with lists. But because we don’t, being regular and seeking ideal out of someone else is a little hypocritical. Of course, if you’re being everything you’re asking for, the last sentence doesn’t apply.
Celisea
July 25th, 2011
10:35 am
But because we don’t, being regular and seeking ideal out of someone else is a little hypocritical
and what MrNYC said:
a list might have some merit if it was prepared with the assistance of a neutral objective third party who took the time to know you. Otherwise our jaded perceptions and prejudices can sometimes get in our own way.
If we have to go with a hard drawn list, I agree with both statements.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
10:35 am
Also, R.I.P, Amy Winehouse. Her last CD is NICE!
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
10:36 am
I must say I’ve one of the laziest weekends that i’ve had in a loooong time, this past weekend. I barely left the house at all, except to run to the redbox for a movie & pickup some grub. The beau is in Miami this week so it was all about Slim doing whatever the hell I wanted or didn’t want to do.
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
10:36 am
Leggs, I am used to it all. My weekend was great the guys went out of state and did some bow hunting and fishing
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
July 25th, 2011
10:36 am
Only two kinds of people have flaws…every man and every woman. Look long enough and you will find something. If having any flaw is a deal killer then be prepared to live a very lonely life.
Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)
July 25th, 2011
10:38 am
Re Amy Winehouse, she was big news when I was in England last Spring. The tabloids were documenting her downward spiral and assuming her end was a matter of when not if. Sad. Another talented but tortured soul. Maybe they go hand in hand.
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
10:40 am
Do what WORKS for you. Some people can actually find exactly what they were looking for, no excuses or other ways about it. Some can’t. So be it…..
Lovely Brown
July 25th, 2011
10:41 am
Good Morning All!
I agree with Exiled!
ummmm, I have nothing else to say…..
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
10:41 am
Not surprised by Amy Winehouse’s death. The road she stayed on only ended at death, she finally made it to it’s destination.
kimmie
July 25th, 2011
10:42 am
To what Mr NYC said, as much as those close to me think they know me, they really don’t know what’s in my heart. My perceptions and prejudices are what makes me me, the good and the bad. Plus, I’m headstrong. So no way would I be guided by a “list” drawn up by anyone but me. I’m grown, I know what I want and what I need. If I get in my own way, so be it.
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
10:43 am
Another talented but tortured soul. Maybe they go hand in hand.
Randy – I was thinking the same thing as I was watching Celebrity Rehab last night and just thinking about many folks in the world of entertainment that have crazy issues…If you think about some of the histories of these people, we would probably be amazed at what it showed. Maybe gifts are like diamonds that are formed from high pressure applied to coal….
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
10:48 am
Slim, I think that there are many more talented people with gifts that are not facing “issues” than there are those that are.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
10:51 am
That’s good, PR. I believe in men having their “man time” away from the females.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
10:55 am
Unfortunately, we all saw her death quickly approaching.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
10:56 am
It’s a little slow in here in. I have a “What Would You Do” scenario that just happened. You want to hear about it?
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
10:58 am
PRain – Could very well be…guess we just get a few stories that makes us believe it’s the whole lot of them…TV at it’s finest
I saw the movie Unknown with Liam Neeson and it was pretty good. I was not expecting that outcome at all…
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
11:00 am
Good morning, all and happy Monday!
I think it’s a good idea to have an idea of what you do/do not want in a mate, but I never made a pen and paper list until after my last breakup. It helped the healing process to clarify what I did and did not want going forward.
Amy Winehouse….not unexpected, but so tragic and sad.
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
11:00 am
I like Liam’s movies. DIdn’t his wife die while he was filming Uknown?
Leggs, what do you have?
Celisea, good morning!
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
11:01 am
Not trying to be a tool, but why is it tragic now that she is dead? Actually I am kind of happy for here because she no longer has to struggle with her addictions anymore.
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
11:06 am
Leggs – Go for it….nothing else poppin off in here…Give us what you got
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
11:08 am
“What Would You Do”
My ex called me last night asking if I could store his mother’s items in my garage. She’s moving down here at the end of this month. Supposedly her other son rented her a storage unit but when they got there with the truck last night, someone else’s lock was on it. Yeah, ok. Hmmmmm….Anyway, they called their cousin who said she didn’t have space. So, he calls me asking if I would be willing to pull my car out of the garage and store the items for a short time. At first I was offended simply because my ex-MIL did not care for me. She has ignored my child when she was born and still barely corresponds with her. The birth of the other two children by her other son made her get on a plane and come see those “golden children” who are hellions. She’s the type to smile in your face and SLAM you behind your back. She said some pretty mean things about me over the years (all the while believing her son could do no harm but marry me). She even told me the worst day of her son’s life was when he married me….WOW!!!!! During that same convo I was attempting to talk to her about her son and his actions. After she said that to me, I simply hung up on her. OMG, that was the “hang up” heard around the Long Island Sound. My then hubby came home ready to wring my neck for hanging up on his mother. I told him he can eat the same isht his mother is eating if he thinks I’m concerned that her feelings are hurt.
Although I was a bit pissed to be asked to do anything to assist his mother, I relented. When they all got back to my house they started unloading all that stuff. My ex thanked me profusely because he knew I didn’t want to do this. His mother left me a voicemail (pretty sure at his request) thanking me saying I helped her put out a fire and left her number. I promptly deleted the number. I haven’t spoken to this woman in 8 years.
This is a prime example of why one shouldn’t burn their bridges!!! Would you have helped out or let them suffer through their bad planning???
SexyCool
July 25th, 2011
11:09 am
“a neutral, objective third party who took the time to know you”
Does that exist? I mean, really, anyone who took the time to know me would now have formed some sort of opinion about me that would affect both neutrality and objectivity.
As to the Winehouse of it all, I can’t tell you a single song she sang, but I can tell you that her death was certainly no surprise because any time I’ve EVER heard her name, it was attached to drunken, drugged behavior. And quite frankly, Ms. Winehouse was committing suicide right before our eyes. And for most, it was little more than entertainment news, fodder for gossip.
Celisea
July 25th, 2011
11:09 am
Morning to you PR!! So I see the mancation was good for you
Amy Winehouse – It’s just tragic to me because dope and drugs are soooo senseless and many many times a person can’t get free. I believe God delivers but it’s such an uphill climb that many don’t possess the faith needed for getting there.
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
11:11 am
PR – I didn’t hear that about his wife…that would be terrible if that was the case…I’ll try to look it up. One of the mangers here at my job husband died a few weeks ago. They were planning a camping trip and she was to go ahead and head to the site while he took care of some last minute things at the house….Needless to say, he never made it to meet up with her. He ended up having a heart attack. From what I hear, they were the type of couple that always did stuff together, traveled, partied, camping etc Terrible thing to lose your soulmate
Celisea
July 25th, 2011
11:12 am
I think the point MrNYC was driving with his statement had more so the intent of being objective if you’re going to draw a list or hard line what you deem “perfect” for you. I don’t think was he said differs too much from any that said you can’t expect perfection because no one is perfect. I agree it’s hypocritical to expect in return what a person can’t deliver themselves.
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
11:12 am
Amy Drughouse’s death tragic?
Don’t think so unless u wanna be romantic!
She died High…. floating High Happy!
The best death one could ever Imagine!!
SexyCool
July 25th, 2011
11:15 am
Leggs – karma will be kind to you….hopefully. However, I would have him sign an agreement TODAY with a certain to give them a time limit (six weeks) for free storage. Then, start charging them a $100 a month for leaving her things there for another two or three months and let them know that after that, you will be having it removed and sending them a bill for the removal. (Send him a text/email stating that he needs to come over this afternoon so that you all can sign an agreement regarding this storage deal.)
Really, your short time could be next week and hers could be this time next year. “It was only a year.” (lol)
Because I promise you, the first time you can’t pull into your garage because of her stuff and it’s pouring down raining, yeah…no…you won’t be feeling so generous.
At least, that’s what I’d do….
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
11:15 am
Leggs, you can be nice to them…But my answer would be “NO”. She will find someplace elst to put it, tons of storage stores down there. I would not even ponder the decision. Besides, that really bothers me when people use the garage for other stuff besides cars. LOL
Celisea
July 25th, 2011
11:17 am
Leggs – I would do it for her and show her how she should have communicated and related to me over the years or in the past. This is just me but I would have gotten her number from the ex and called her. I would have said you know I’m surprised you’re asking me to help you out when it’s apparent you don’t care for nor ever cared over the years….being your extended daughter. But hey, I’m learning and growing too as a person and forgivennes is high up on my list. I’d be more than happy to accomodate. Now you said you need my space for how long?
That might seem mean but I would do it. I might not say all of what I listed verbatim but I would take the opportunity to say what I needed to get it off my chest.
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
11:17 am
Celisea, yes the mancation was fun. Poppa came with us this time too.
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
11:18 am
Purp – She died as a result of a fall during a ski lesson while he was working on a film called Chloe…she didn’t die right after the fall, but days later. He was back dating 18 months later according to the internet.
Celisea
July 25th, 2011
11:19 am
Good for you PR
Leggs – Then I’d charge him…the son. I’d tell him that’s the least he could do for his mother.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
11:23 am
I have no list, if you do it’s all good.
Hello Evevryone:
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
11:24 am
Spelling taking hits already……LOL
Mr_NYC
July 25th, 2011
11:26 am
Interesting point Kimmie, no one knows self better than self.
Lovely Brown
July 25th, 2011
11:29 am
Leggs- I would have told them yes and given them a time and date to have her siht gone. She probably felt so small that she had ask you, that would be satisfaction enough for me
It never pays to be rude and nasty….never!
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
11:31 am
Not trying to be a tool, but why is it tragic now that she is dead?
Tragic in the sense that she was never able to conquer her addictions and it cost her her life.
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
11:32 am
I probably would have still done it because it could very well be a learning lesson for the exMIL and as my aunt would always say, Kill Em With kindness….God rewards honor and I would keep that in mind when I make the decision. However, i hope that you all have a clear understanding of the time frame you are allowing them to use your garage as a storage space. Hell, I even get a bit disturbed when my cousin parks too far on my side in the garage where I can’t fit, and it isn’t even my house…let alone, if it’s raining. lol
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
11:32 am
“Because I promise you, the first time you can’t pull into your garage because of her stuff and it’s pouring down raining, yeah…no…you won’t be feeling so generous.” – Yes ma’am!!! They said a few days. If still there after a week, I’ll draw up a contract.
@Celisea ~ that’s big of you. The main point is she didn’t ask me. It was her son’s request. All she did was call me saying “thanks.” If given the opportunity to actually speak with her I may say a few things.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
11:34 am
Leggs:
Get that stuff out of your garge.
SexyCool
July 25th, 2011
11:34 am
“God rewards honor”
Sure does…honor THY mother and father. That ain’t Leggs’ momma. (lol) But I get where you were going with that.
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
11:35 am
Sexycool – I know that isn’t Leggs’ mama lol I watched Joel Osteen yesterday and he was talking about this very subject of showing honor to others…
Mr_NYC
July 25th, 2011
11:37 am
I would say no. IMO, it doesn’t have anything to do with forgivenesss. Forgiveness does not require you to put yourself in the path of being disrespected and put down.
cba
July 25th, 2011
11:38 am
Leggs before I read the end of your story, I knew you would say yes. I can imagine it was quite difficult. One day some very lucky man is going to find his soulmate
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
11:40 am
co-signing LB’s 11:29
SexyCool
July 25th, 2011
11:41 am
As to the lists…I had a list that I had put together, but then, I received a list, via email, that included everything that was on mine, but was better broken down. It listed 12 traits. They are:
1 – Chemisty
2 – Good Personality
3 – Provision Oriented
4 – Attractiveness
5 – Financial Stability
6 – Similar Interests
7 – Reliability
8 – Handy
9 – Humility
10 – Faithfulness/Loyalty
11 – Good Listener
12 – Religion
Less than a week after I received this list and printed it out, I met TheDude. He possesses a degree of each and every one of these traits. I keep the list and take it out and give it a once over every now and then. It reminds me of how blessed I am.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
11:42 am
I’m going back under the stairs, I’m still misspelling easy words……LOL
James
July 25th, 2011
11:42 am
As a couple of people have said, a list should serve as a guide and not be all or nothing. I think in life we all have to make compromises. Ms. Winehouse’s death was a tragedy for she was SO young!
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
11:42 am
I’m printing it now, SC. Thanks for sharing.
SexyCool
July 25th, 2011
11:44 am
Slim – I watched that same broadcast. And what I got from it was to honor those that have a place of honor in your life and those in authority. (I especially liked his example about not crossing under the rope at the baseball stadium.)
I don’t see that in this situation. I see this as doing a good deed.
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
11:44 am
Leggs, think of this. How much of a headache would it be if something happened to her stuff while you were storing it and the fall out that would come from that. It’s not worth the risk.
SexyCool
July 25th, 2011
11:45 am
ITL – each entry on the list actually has a paragraph to back it up. Let me see if I can find a link for it and I will post that as well.
SexyCool
July 25th, 2011
11:46 am
Good point, PR.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
11:47 am
Thanks, SC!
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
11:48 am
@Lovely Brown ~ I must admit, there is some “satisfaction” in all this.
@cba ~ thank you much. It was difficult, but a Yes was really the only answer. How do I continue to teach my daughter that bitterness is a wasted emotion if I don’t show it by example? That too helped me with my decision (but I pouted). She was on the truck w/her father so I could do all the mean mugging I wanted while sitting on the couch sipping Paul Masson and Ginger Ale!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
11:49 am
Leggs:
I don’t know what a garge is, I was trying to say garage. Excuse me.
MzNewy
July 25th, 2011
11:49 am
Good morning All!
On topic…I have a list…but it is a list I compiled thru past relationships of what I don’t want in a relationship (deal breakers). I don’t believe there is a perfect match but I do beleive there is someone perfect for you…flaws and all. Your list need not be so narrow that you can’t see them.
@ Leggs….sorry but I would NOT have helped her. They would have waited until the storage place opened and gotten a unit. They probably didn’t even offer to pay for your space. smh The trouble with burning bridges is you better make damn sure you may NEVER need to cross it again.
Celisea
July 25th, 2011
11:51 am
I don’t believe there is a perfect match but I do beleive there is someone perfect for you…flaws and all. Your list need not be so narrow that you can’t see them.
Cosign
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
11:51 am
@PR ~ I hear ya, PR. Hopefully, this won’t turn into a nightmare you guys see me on Judge Mathis or Judge Pirro.
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
11:52 am
Leggs, me? I would decline. Folks like that wi abuse u and come back to bite ur azz.
Personally,I have had issues with my daughter’s mum(in England) and her brother and wife.. Way too much baby drama.
Now one time,we really had a big phone fight. Really messed up. Anyway few weeks after that they say they wanna come see my daughter. I said cool,when u get to Atlanta,call me so we can meet somewhere and I bring the kid there.
Whilst on their way they call me one or two times and I remember specifically reminding them about letting me know when they get near do I can can come to them.
Little did I know that these jokers had gotten my address from my daughter and were Ming str8 to my driveway.
So,they call my cell(I wasn’t at home,my wife was) ‘we here!’
I said’here where’
‘oh, outside by ur house’
I said’ u guys have no class!’ ‘how are u going to invite urself to my house!’
‘aaagh ummm,aaagh’ the beootch(auntie) stuttered!
I said call my wife,she’s in there and get the he’ll out there!
My wife came out and she said when she tried to invite them inside,they refused saying ur Hubby was hot!
See,I don’t feed my enemies.
I like to keep my blood pressure low!
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
11:52 am
Agreed, perfect no….however do your flaws match my flaws.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
11:52 am
@Blackfoote ~ see, now that’s one typo I didn’t even see. I automatically read “garage.”
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
11:54 am
were driving str8 to my driveway
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
11:57 am
Soup, salad and breadstick time.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
11:58 am
ITL:
You gave me a mental picture of you at the pool Friday. Was it a private one? Do you swim or stay top side and look pretty?
Mr_NYC
July 25th, 2011
11:58 am
I like your list SC, it’s broad enough to hit the important points, but not so confined as to allow for some flexibility.
SexyCool
July 25th, 2011
12:01 pm
This is *kinda* the list…but not quite…
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/107735/the_essential_qualities_of_a_good_mate.html?cat=72
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
12:04 pm
@MzNewy ~ her daughter is dating a trucker and he agreed to bring the stuff up on his trip. He had to be in NC early in the morning and couldn’t report to work with those items on his company’s truck. Talk about bad planning.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
12:07 pm
@ITL ~ look at Blackfoote visualizing you at the pool. Had to laugh at your earlier comment about the bikini.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
12:09 pm
“Talk about bad planning.”
So they asked to dump it all on you. Could have been the plan all the while….LOL
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
12:11 pm
@Blackfoote ~ please believe I thought about the storage unit not even existing. Trust!
SexyCool
July 25th, 2011
12:13 pm
This has some of what’s missing from the other list and some repeats.
http://www.articlealley.com/10-qualities-of-a-good-husband-133751.html
I think between these two links – everything is covered plus a few more that it could make sense to consider.
MzNewy
July 25th, 2011
12:14 pm
@ Leggs…notice the pattern….free transportation…free storage…no maam…I know they could have found somewhere else to dump her crap…I would tell her to order a pod and have her stuff gone by the end of the week. She sounds like a user…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
12:15 pm
LOL…..@Leggs
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
12:16 pm
I have a person interested in me, but because I know him and he doesn’t have #6 on the first list, I can’t see myself with him. It would drive me insane the inconsistencies. If I can’t rely on you to do what you say when you say, I see no reason to give my time to you.
Fion
July 25th, 2011
12:19 pm
@Purp
“Not trying to be a tool, but why is it tragic now that she is dead?’
It’s tragic in that whatever Pain she needed to escape from via Drugs was pointless and unnecessary. The revelation of the abundance of Love that was available to her eluded her
She could find it nor see it. That my friend is tragic.
“…..and you soar, flow, and the colors peek and so find
that every answer you sought was in your mind.”
-Lonnie Liston Smith
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
12:19 pm
Order a POD sounds good, but it won’t be on my property. Let’s see how this week plays out. If the items are gone before week’s end, I’ve done my good deed. If not, the other side of me will be shown.
Fion
July 25th, 2011
12:20 pm
meant she could not find…….
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
12:23 pm
LOL….@Leggs
You killing me, talking about the other side of you.
SexyCool
July 25th, 2011
12:24 pm
Leggs is from NYC. There is most definitely another side.
“You wouldn’t like me when I’m angry.”
BlackMagicWoman...in NYC
July 25th, 2011
12:28 pm
Good afternoon from a cooler NYC! Whew….
I tried to lessen my list or lose it all together. But I realize I am unhappy with the results as well. Call me shallow. but physical attraction in number one. If I am not attracted to you, I can’t see passed that and being great in every other aspect will get him in to my best friend zone. If you don’t look good in your pants, there can be no romance! Hit the gym buddy, I do! I am disgusted by men with pregnant guts! Sorry! I have tried to not be that way. Butif I want to barf at the thought of sleeping with you, it will only end in disaster. Yes, I am a lover of tall, handsome well chisled (body and face) men. Why lie or dent myself of eye candy? Yes, looks are just the icing on the cake. But if I don’t like the icing/frosting, I will never take a bite of the cake.
Now I have a thing against dating older men. I am trying hard to get over that. Maybe I would meet one that is finally over the BS running stage. Granted, there are some old fools (which are the most pathetic creatures). You wnat to h0 around until you are old and gray. But then want some young woman to want your dried up @$$ just because you have money and some Viagra/Cialis. Yes those pills can help your wang to get up and stay up. But your heart can’t keep up.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
12:29 pm
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
12:33 pm
@BMW ~ I thought too about the Viagra and the heart rate. It’s scary and that’s one of a few reasons why I don’t want an older man!
Oh, glad the heat index isn’t as high as last week’s.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
12:33 pm
LOL….@BMW
Pregnant guts, old fools, and Cialis.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
12:36 pm
“You wouldn’t like me when I’m angry.”
Too funny, because I read “you wouldn’t like me when I’m hungry. – Basically, the same thing (LOLOLOL)!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
12:38 pm
Hold up Leggs why you wont give dude a shot?
Fion
July 25th, 2011
12:39 pm
@ BMW
……. so I’m unclear about your feelings on Older Men?????? lol
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
12:42 pm
@Blackfoote ~ what dude. The unreliable one. I think it speaks for itself.
BlackMagicWoman...in NYC
July 25th, 2011
12:42 pm
I knew Amy’s death was coming. She just couldn’t get right. Demons are hard as hell to fight. The drug demon is enough by itself. But she dealt with bulimia, cutting and depression. As a person who has fought the Bulimia and Depression demons myself, you fight them until the day you die. You can shelf them, hide them and/or put them in a coma. But we all know that anything can bring them back with a vengence. The trigger can be trivial. But it can be the pebble that begins an avalanche. May she finally have some peace.
LEGGS,….that woman’s stuff would have been in my garage when hell has a snow day! You are a better person that I am. I woudl have told her to store her stuff in her @$$!
PR…did you watch True Blood honey?
SCOOL….I think I will try your list, after I rearrange a few traits. I will let you know what happens
FION….I am not attracted to older men. Unless he really keeps himself up and does not look it, I can not date anything over 40. The Blogs Fam will tell you how I barf at the thought of his pubes looking like Christmas Tinsel. (I believe I won a Blog Award for that phrase).
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
12:50 pm
Leggs:
Unreliable yep don’t need an able body person who has the un’s.
Breezy
July 25th, 2011
12:53 pm
I’m not looking for perfection, just a connection (preferably physical, intellectual, spiritual, emotional…).
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
1:07 pm
@Blackfoote ~ if you’re agreeing, then why ask why I won’t give him a twirl???
@BMW ~ I know what your response would be (lol). Also, although I don’t like her and she doesn’t like me, she’s still lil leggs grandmother.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
1:16 pm
BlackMagic….I didnt think people actually kept their pubs anymore…haha
>>>
July 25th, 2011
1:19 pm
We have had to come to grips with women shaving their pubes, But please dont tell me the dudes have resorted to cleaning up and looking like pre-teens as well…..
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
1:20 pm
BMW, yes I watched True Blood. Sookies is a fool, Tara is lost. Do you really think Bill is going to kill Eric?
Totally Random
July 25th, 2011
1:26 pm
This question was just posed on another site: If a dude wears sneakers to work and puts on his dress shoes when he arrives, is he ghey?
Sounds a bit strange if you ask me, unless he is wearing Prince type dress shoes, fully equipped with 4+ inch heels
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
1:26 pm
Anybody here seen Lincoln Lawyer?
Read My Lips
July 25th, 2011
1:26 pm
Mine trimmed his down to a manageable length after I assured him that it would result in greater enthusiasm when it came to a certain activity.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
1:27 pm
Well, is he doing a lot of walking from the train station? Is he riding a bike?
SexyCool
July 25th, 2011
1:28 pm
TR – what if buddy walks to work?
Besides, men’s shoes can hurt their feet too.
SexyCool
July 25th, 2011
1:36 pm
And then too…he could be trying to extend the life of his shoes by only wearing them inside.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
1:36 pm
I’m back, and so enjoyed the zuppa toscana today.
@Blackfoote – I do both. Well, to be more exact, I swim AND sit topside working on my tan and trying to look cute. I gotta say, though, not all men find a sweaty ITL to be a pretty ITL.
@Leggs: bikini comment? Refresh my memory….
@BMW: Alcide….. (*sigh*)
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
1:37 pm
Leggs – I have not seen LL yet but that’s on my list for my next redbox pick…it has 4.5 stars so i’m guessing it’ll be at least decent.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
1:38 pm
Sounds a bit strange if you ask me, unless he is wearing Prince type dress shoes, fully equipped with 4+ inch heels
Reminds me of the Prince Basketball skit on The Chapelle Show. One of the funniest skits ever!
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
1:39 pm
Sounds like buddy must do a lot of walking but never seen or knew of a dude that did that, unless he drove a bike to work.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
1:40 pm
@SlimNu ~ I’m asking because I saw it on Saturday and I might have missed something. The last 5 mins were in Spanish. Was it just my bootleg version or is this the way the movie ends. I was scratching my head!
Sweet Pea
July 25th, 2011
1:46 pm
I had to come out of lurking for >>>> pubes looking like Christmas Tinsel….BMW you are HILARIOUS!!
AND >>> please dont tell me the dudes have resorted to cleaning up and looking like pre-teens as well…I think it’s ok to trim the hedges and not have a forest down below as too much could possibly ignite a wildfire..
ok back to lurking…enjoy the day!
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
1:47 pm
LOL@SweetPea. One of my guy friends calls it “manscaping”…..
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
1:48 pm
Leggs:
I didn’t know you mentioned he was unreliable until your 12:24.
Lovely Brown
July 25th, 2011
1:49 pm
Reminds me of the Prince Basketball skit on The Chapelle Show. One of the funniest skits ever!
Shirts vs. Blouses…..game, Blouses
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
1:53 pm
ITL:
Sweaty isn’t all that bad, especially when it involved a command performance.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
1:55 pm
Dang, BF, when you come out from under the stairs, you come out frisky!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
2:02 pm
It is lonely under there, and the tail does go to wagging when I come out…..LOL
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
2:03 pm
So do the women on this blog prefer “trimmed”, “natural” or “bald” when it comes to maintenance?
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
2:03 pm
Shirts vs. Blouses…..game, Blouses
Now THAT’S funny!
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
2:03 pm
@Blackfoote ~ ok, I mentioned it on the previous page.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
2:05 pm
Want to make sure I get this right, UGA, preference for ourselves or for the man????? Hey, this is a legit question?
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
2:08 pm
Leggs….for the man.
SexyCool
July 25th, 2011
2:09 pm
Trimmed…for both of us.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
2:09 pm
Natural, but some of the stragglers can be trimmed.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
2:10 pm
SexyCool….i understand….I am bald…”down there, chest….everything.” Just easier that way.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
2:10 pm
So I guess that’s trimmed! I’m cracking myself up.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
2:11 pm
No disrespect, really none whatsoever, but I immediately thought of the look of Perdue’s chicken being all bald and all. Hey what do I know!
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
2:13 pm
Leggs….it is funny that you say that because I was with a woman one time and that is EXACTLY what it reminded me of.
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
2:13 pm
Trimmed yes, for the both of us. Nothing bald on me except for my sack and only her lips.
Im hungry!
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
2:15 pm
Nothing worse than an untrimmed woman, and they have the nerve to be proud to show you that.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
2:18 pm
This weekend I was at Lake Lanier (Sunset Cove). This woman and man were making out for awhile (no big deal). They she sat on the front of her boat (Facing the beach) and pulls her bathing suit to the side and shows everyone her goods. She was bald and wasted hahah.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
2:19 pm
Too funny because even they were “proud to show you that” bet you still take it!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
2:19 pm
1999:
I live with out it for hygiene purpose. Dirt clings to hair.
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
2:20 pm
Leggs, bet you I don’t/won’t.
Lovely Brown
July 25th, 2011
2:21 pm
Ewww at any man running around looking like a 12 yr. old boy around the wang
None for me, Thanks.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
2:21 pm
Lovely Brown like ungroomed!! YUCK!
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
2:23 pm
Good grief. Must be the weekend for flashers. There was a woman at the pool this weekend who couldn’t seem to keep her top in place.
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
2:23 pm
Lovely, not like a 12 year old just cleaned up. So you are saying that you like a manfro? You must get hairballs. LOL
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
2:23 pm
@UGA, how the heck can you say YUCK…you ever had one in your mouf??? Just asking
Lovely Brown
July 25th, 2011
2:23 pm
Not ungroomed….I just don’t need a man looking like a little boy down there
Not attractive to me at all
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
2:24 pm
Leggs….I have had an ungroomed woman before and yes I had her in my mouth and it was not very pleasant!
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
2:27 pm
Lovely, same reason I don’t want a completely bald woman.
Lovely Brown
July 25th, 2011
2:28 pm
Trimmed down is perfect…bald? Hell no.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
2:28 pm
I’m with LB on this one. Baldies and men needing a machete need not apply. LOL
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
2:28 pm
UGA?!
U compiling ur blog stats scouting report??
we got some of the best $&)&&& females on the blog!
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
2:29 pm
Wow, I prefer nothing down there. Just alot less messy.
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
2:29 pm
LOL, Lovely don’t be afraid of the “Pube Mullet”
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
2:30 pm
Exiled???? Your point?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
2:31 pm
LOL….@Purple
Must be trimmed, who wants a mouth full of hair.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
2:32 pm
Although I guess it makes me a little hypocritical, bc what I like for/on a man is not necessarily what I like for myself.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
2:32 pm
Blackfoote….NO KIDDING!!!
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
2:33 pm
Is their pube mullet the same as our airstrip????
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
2:36 pm
Speaking of mullets (the above the neck variety) I saw a kid at the salon getting HER hair cut into a mullet the other day. PLEASE tell me that is not making a comeback.
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
2:38 pm
Leggs a “Pube Mullet” is when the balls are shaved but they area above still has hair. The “Rick Ross” is when the area above is ball, but the ball sack is hairy. The “Chris Hanson” is when top and bottom are both bald.
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
2:39 pm
what point,I didn’t make any UGA
I aks(yes lol) a question.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
2:39 pm
Oh Snap, PR~ I wasn’t even thinking along those lines. Never once considered the balls. I need a refresher course on what it looks like down there.
Supposedly, the NFL has ended it’s strike…practice on Wednesday!!!!
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
2:39 pm
The “Rasta” is when it’s hairy top and bottom.
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
2:41 pm
Leggs, did you just ask me for a picture of my mullet? LOL
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
2:41 pm
Ewwwww on the Rasta.
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
2:42 pm
I can’t stand completely barren either…
feels like u licking chickin breast..a lil hair rub on my uugh is welcome.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
2:44 pm
@PR ~ don’t mean to show off my idiocy, but are those real names? I’ve heard of these people, but do people really get those looks. Nevermind, I’m now going under the stairs with my knees up to the chin rocking back and forth.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
2:46 pm
lip on lip is my thing….no hair needed.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
2:47 pm
@PR ~ sounds like I did, but didn’t mean to.
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
2:48 pm
I don’t have an issue with a dude who is bald balled or balled wanged or bald360…just as long as if there IS hair, that it is at least trimmed up nice & neatly.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
2:49 pm
Did that Norwegian guy kill 68 people? Is that what I heard on the news?
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
2:50 pm
I dont mind a small landing strip on a lady as long as it is well maintained.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
2:51 pm
I heard somewhere around 93 or 98, mostly children.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
2:51 pm
Mostly students, WTH.
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
2:51 pm
UGA u heard the report on CNN over the week end that said women are the most prolific texsexters of veejay veejay goodies?
Women are leading from the coochie!
If u don’t like my body nor my face guess what? U may like the shape of my salad!
that’s being proactive right there!
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
2:52 pm
Exiled….nice.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
2:52 pm
What 93 or 98, what hell was he using hand grenades?
Celisea
July 25th, 2011
2:52 pm
I saw the story on GMA while getting dressed this morning.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
2:53 pm
If it’s not maintained, UGA, it’s not an airstrip, it’s a fuzzy, unshapely bush.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
2:54 pm
Exiled, what is this about licking chicken? I thought you were on a chicken-free meal plan….
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
2:56 pm
LOL @ Leggs’ 2:53: “it’s a fuzzy, unshapely bush.”….suitable only for emergency landings….
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
2:56 pm
Leggs it could be an abandoned air strip. LOL
Those are real names that I just made up that are forever stuck in your head now. LOL
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
2:59 pm
Wow how can you kill nearly 100 people and not get taken out by the cops? Now he is saying there are two more like him, he shouldn’t be allowed to play those games. My gun would mysteriously go off in his nose.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
2:59 pm
I’m glad you asked, Leggs. I was confused on the name thing….
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
3:01 pm
Hey may be more valuable alive than dead. Torture him to see if there really are two more like him. Extremist come from every religion, he says he is a christian. I don’t care what point you are trying to make, killing innocent people does not help your cause.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
3:01 pm
The most he can get is 22 years in jail.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
3:03 pm
I would rather talk about grooming instead of some whack job that murdered nearly 100 people.
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
3:04 pm
ITL?
I did not swear…I just said it’s not a favorite of mine.
When I do go there,I make a prayer,grit my teeth,take a deep breath and then pray it helps the Wang get red hot!
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
3:05 pm
The name stuck the most will be Rick Ross. He has a thick, nice beard, but with a very unflattering gut. Looks like he’s about to give birth to an elephant.
Oh abandoned air strip = good one!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
3:06 pm
Yep Purple, since he’s still alive he needs the good ole medieval style torture.
1999
22 years what will they think of next.
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
3:07 pm
ITL?
in comparison,I’m not in the zone(in my natural element) like Simple would be..
Lovely Brown
July 25th, 2011
3:08 pm
PR- just the mention of Rick Ross make my CT dry up
His breast are bigger than some women I know. Moobs (man boobs) for real!
Supposedly, the NFL has ended it’s strike…practice on Wednesday!!
Yay!!!
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
3:08 pm
Okay, Ex. You might consider, too, that we (women) tend to be more giving when the favor is reciprocated…..
If that doesn’t fire up the red-hot poker, well…..
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
3:08 pm
I’m already have a bad cough, but truly chocking at Ex take a deep breath to please Queen…that is hysterical.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
3:10 pm
Please take it upon yourself to read y 3:08 with the proper wording…tk u.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
3:10 pm
Have moobs? Buy a bro…. (for you Seinfeld fans in the crowd)
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
3:11 pm
Exiled – Why you gotta hold the breath, is Queen not so fresh and clean down yonder?
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
3:12 pm
Right, Leggs?? I had this mental image of Ex standing there, sweating profusely, staring down at Queen, wiping his brow, popping his neck, doing the “psych myself up” dance, and announcing, “Okay, I’m going in…..” LMAO
BlackMagicWoman...in NYC
July 25th, 2011
3:12 pm
UGA…I used to do a landing strip! Now…I go Brazillian!
I personally like a manscaped man. I do not fancy “Pub Dental Floss”. Not to mention it can get stuck in the throat and make you sound like a cat hacking up hairballs as you try to dislodge it.
I went to my first Korean Spa this weekend, And well my friends, and my 2nd mom and her friend were all shocked when we learned we had to be in our brown suits. I mena it was my girls’ bday. But dayum, we had NO idea that we had to be in our birthday suits to partake in the steam rooms and mineral pools.
Those ladies had no problem walking around butt booty nekkid! Not that I was looking, but if you are in a pool and somebody walks by and all you see are untrimmed hedges….OMG! That is all I can say! It was an eventful day!
PURPLE….I don’t think Bill will get to kill Eric. Something/somebody (Sookie) will intervene.
ITL….Giiiiirrrrrl! That Alcide can get it on his mama’s kitchen table during breakfast! Whhhhhoooo!
ITL…I started getting down with a guy once…only to find he had moobs. Needless to say, I dried up like the friggin’ Sahara when I got that visual. No lovin’ for you “Moobie”! Now go put your “Manties” back on!
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
3:12 pm
Ok, here’s another one. You guys talking about Rick Ross, Chris somebody, airstrips, Rastas, etc. I thought about “tumbleweeds”…one that’s growing wildy and it’s overgrown. From the sound of the masses, no one wants a tumbleweed!
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
3:13 pm
If you have to hold your breath, you shouldnt be down there in the first place.
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
3:13 pm
ITL?
To be honest with u,this is a foreign concept to both of us…
So she wld understand if I ever expressed those thoughts..
Ofcourse this is a nugget I’ve shared with u exclusively and Queen don’t know this.
I do know tho that she likes it
So I feign like I enjoy it…Rather,I enjoy the response of her nether..coz her nana hugs my Wang like a kangaroo kid on the back of her mama
Sweet Pea
July 25th, 2011
3:13 pm
hmmmmmm Leggs/ITL… now we know the names and can create a cheat sheet if need be..Thanks Purp
However, I was thinking an untrimmed below the hang would be called NUTBUSH… LOL
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
3:15 pm
@Ex ~ you might need a tumbleweed. It’s depth may help you with the fragrance. But, it also might hinder making you retreating for more ammunition.
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
3:17 pm
Slim?
No..I’m just trying to do a mental graphic..
Like if I said ‘Slim,eat this fufu’
U wldnt willingly partake wld u?
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
3:17 pm
BMW – there’s one here, off 85. Jeju, I think it’s called. The “common areas” are pretty cool, but yeah, you better be comfortable in the altogether during your time in the ladies area.
And Alcide + table + ITL = our own wolfpack. I just told someone at lunch I would have a litter for that man AN-E-DAY!
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
3:18 pm
“So I feign like I enjoy it…”
I see nothing wrong there…you’re doing it to please your wife. Kudos!
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
3:19 pm
LMAO @ tumbleweed and nutbush.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
3:21 pm
Leggs….i like doing it…it pleases me and my significant other.
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
3:21 pm
Since you guys are getting a little spicy….Womenfolk, do you have any ideas of how to craft together some makeshift pasties? I know, strange request but I asked a few chicks at the office and masking tape is not the look I was going for.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
3:22 pm
UGA, you have a signficant other??? What does she think about team-mom meetings?
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
3:23 pm
ITL….she was a team mom….
Sweet Pea
July 25th, 2011
3:23 pm
Slim~double sided tape..the kind that’s used for scrapbooking(they are small squares of tape) or fabric tape
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
3:24 pm
Slim, depending on what size you need, how about the sticky circles you can buy at office supply stores? Other than that, I would say fabric circles and eyelash glue.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
3:25 pm
ITL….she was a team mom….
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
3:27 pm
ITL….?
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
3:27 pm
@UGA ~ I don’t know many men who doesn’t like it. With Ex, I think it’s a cultural thing. I know men who want to part those lips with their tongue with the quickness. Hope that doesn’t come out sounding bad???
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
3:28 pm
THANK GOD FOOTBALL IS BACK…NFL AND GFL!
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
3:28 pm
ITL – Hmmm, that might work…I was thinking some artificial rose petals but wasn’t sure how I’d get them to stick…ok…so I just may have it figured out now. Thanks
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
3:31 pm
Slim, just cut up some fruit rollups, they make nice pasties.
UGA, I agree if you have to hold your breath you should not be down there.
BMW, I am hoping someone will kill Sookie or make her a vampire already. What about her brothers sex dream…”HOYT!” LOL
Sweet Pea, you are welcome
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
3:31 pm
@SlimNU ~ are you about to put on a show later on…rose petal pasties…that would be lumping under a blouse or top.
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
3:31 pm
Leggs, I am guilty of your 3:27. I just don’t feel right if I don’t often.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
3:31 pm
lumpy…
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
3:35 pm
Leggs…not bad at all….I agree.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
3:35 pm
I like the rose petal idea. You could make a matching thong to go with. Very American Beauty.
LOL@ the Hoyt dream, PR. “Um, could you leave us a alone for a minute?”
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
3:37 pm
So UGA?
u have no issue going down on the rainbow of soccer moms u have bedded in Gwinnet parks?
no hangups?
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
3:37 pm
ITL, then Hoyt was on top of him, LOL
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
3:38 pm
Just curious, UGA, if they way/manner in which you got together ever causes trust issues….
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
3:40 pm
That was funny!! When the dream first started, I thought it would be Crystal and we were about to see Jason as a were-panther.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
3:41 pm
@SlimNu ~ how about going for edible pasties. Just a thought!
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
3:42 pm
Leggs – Not putting on a show but The beau will be back from Miami this week and I have the pleasure of picking him up from the airport. He had mentioned a while back that I should pick him up wearing nothing but a trench coat, but I don’t own one. So I was just throwing some ideas around in my head because I know he’s forgotten he’s ever said that. Just joking around I told him he should come back commando but he was like I am NOT going thru TSA without any draws on
But anyway, just wanted to catch him off guard when he hops in the ride 
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
3:42 pm
That’s thought, SlimNu! I think Purp said fruit roll-ups, which would be excellent. You could use a dab of Karo syrup to help them stick.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
3:42 pm
Exiled….in most cases no….I enjoy it. There may be a case or two that I wouldnt but if I dont feel like I would go down on her I typically will not entertain the idea of hooking up with her.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
3:43 pm
ITL….I never said we were monogomous.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
3:44 pm
UGA – my bad. You said “significant other”, so I assumed commitment.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
3:44 pm
A bit too hot for a trenchcoat, but loving the idea. Girl, can’t wait to implement have the stuff in my head.
In lieu of a trenchcoat wear a man’s long shirt, heels…hopefully you won’t have to get out of the car. Ok, that’s risky, but that’s what makes it so much fun!
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
3:44 pm
And Slim, for that scenario, you should borrow a trench coat…..
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
3:45 pm
I agree with UGA, if I am not comfortable enough to lick then I am not going to even stick.
Slim, use fruit rollups!
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
3:45 pm
ITL…no not really. Just hanging out together for fun mostly. May become serious but not know. Especially with football starting this week.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
3:46 pm
A little Kyro syrup and corn starch to make a paste. Put your boob in the freezer for a quick freeeze…I kid, I kid, kinda sorta!
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
3:47 pm
If I don’t feel like I wouldn’t go down on her I typically will not ….
Ok UGA…
So u go down on her(them) and hit Raw?
(at least if not true,that confirms that the Wang is sacred and protected limb!) so u good in my book…but I’m wondering till u respond!
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
3:48 pm
@ITL ~ not sure anyone would loan her a trenchcoat if they knew her plans….her nekkid booty cheeks all on the coat!
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
3:49 pm
Exiled…you lost me. English please.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
3:49 pm
I am SO READY for football! I can’t believe we (Ga) are kicking off in the dome against the smurf turf crew….
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
3:50 pm
ITL….AMEN!
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
3:50 pm
My wife would wear one of those dresses that you have to tie closed, she would have it draped over her shoulders while driving and when I flew into Atlanta airport she would not be curbside but over there where the shuttle vans were. I would call her and ask her where she is and she would tell me. By the time I got there she would be sitting there in the drivers seat with nothing but high heels on and a fancy bra. As soon as we hit the highway north I would snap that bra off and (I won’t go into details on what i would do before we got north of the city) pull over on I85 on the side of the road and have some fun.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
3:51 pm
LOL@Leggs. Probably would have to have it dry cleaned before returning it.
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
3:53 pm
ITL – I don’t have any Karo Syrup but i do have honey so that might be a plan
Leggs – Well, I do have this silky short robe that I could wear just to cover up with. I’d hate to have one of those airport bicycle cops telling me to move only to realize i’m nekkid and end up on Channel 2 news lol
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
3:54 pm
Purp – Is that something that actually happened or just a thought?
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
3:55 pm
UGA
do u hit them Raw after licking?
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
3:55 pm
Honey is better than Kyro syrup…..silky robe sounds like it can handle the job at hand.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
3:55 pm
Exiled….explain “Raw”?
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
3:55 pm
@SlimNU ~ re-read the post….it actually happened.
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
3:55 pm
Slim, happened often.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
3:56 pm
UGA and Ex are having the craziest convo…
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
3:56 pm
Honey should work. Plus, fruit roll-ups are kinda sticky anyway…. Still think you should consider making a matching set for the top and bottom.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
3:56 pm
Leggs….I know right!
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
3:58 pm
So, now that we’re finished with “costume design”….what are you doing for set decoration, Slim?
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
3:58 pm
@PR ~ I apologize for answering for you.
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
3:58 pm
I can not stress fruit rollups enough, when you get home you can even wrap some on “him”
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
3:59 pm
Leggs, it’s okay
Celisea
July 25th, 2011
3:59 pm
If riding almost nekkid, make sure it’s open front. You want accessiblility yet covered in case anything happens (i.e. accident, pulled over, etc) and good shoes to grip the gas pedal. It ain’t exactly easy to drive while getting felt up…just saying Pulled that from my archives. Oh and since it’s hot head on out to skinny dip while you’re at it…(night time is much better).
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
3:59 pm
PR….been there done that.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
4:01 pm
Celisea….you should really make your way up to Lake Lanier for a good weekend.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
4:01 pm
PR is right about fruit roll ups. That’s pretty much what they make the ones they sell at novelty stores from anyway.
So, PR, from a logistical standpoint – when you say pulled over on 85..you mean like right in the emergency lane??
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
4:02 pm
No condom = Raw
UGA come on!
no condom on the mouth
no condom on the stick
Raw!
?????
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
4:02 pm
Celisea, 3:59! Have I ever told you that I loved you?
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
4:03 pm
Quick poll…have any of the women on this blog ever been “watched” or do you like to be watched during the act….like public displays of affection.
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
4:03 pm
not sure anyone would loan her a trenchcoat if they knew her plans….her nekkid booty cheeks all on the coat
I was thinking the same thing…but I think i’m going to at least go with a skimpy wimpy see-through g-string
ITL – Set decoration?
Purp – I will be checking out the all new and improved Fruit Roll-Ups…i haven’t eaten any of those in years so i’m sure they have advanced & improved by now. lol I’m going to have to try them out tonight to make sure they stick for when I have to get him later in the week. (i hope he isn’t reading this blog lol)
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
4:04 pm
ITL, I yes a little farther than the emergency lane into the grass, if she were driving. Sometimes she would hop onthe passenger seat at the airport and It would drive while she had her way with me.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
4:04 pm
Exiled…no i typically use a condom.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
4:04 pm
Set decoration = the scene you’re going to set at home (or in the car)….
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
4:06 pm
ain’t exactly easy to drive……getting felt up..
@Celisea..
I just borrowed her soiled t-shirt…now taking a wiff
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
4:07 pm
@ITL ~ part of the set decoration with the the tar and white lines of the side of the road before reaching their final destination (LOLOLOL). Love
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
4:07 pm
Celisea – It’ll be a night since he’s coming in late but I was a bit concerned about the shoes part…I make it a point NOT to drive with my stilettos on so this’ll be interesting. Can’t very well pull up all sexy-like with one shoe on and one shoe off lol
BlackMagicWoman...in NYC
July 25th, 2011
4:11 pm
SLIM….please fold a bit ot TP into a square and use tape if bandaids are not available to take the high beams off!
PURPLE…I dayum near choked on my tea on the Jason/Jessica…Hoyt dream!
LEGGS…I love to do the men’s dress shirt with a cute panty/bra set and my CFM shoes. It’s one of my favorite costumes. I remember wearing that for my ex with a derby hat. And I used 2 large feather burlesque fans and danced to, “Able Mable”.
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
4:12 pm
part of the set decoration with the the tar and white lines of the side of the road before reaching their final destination
Leggs – This ain’t your first rodeo….I was thinking the same thing
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
4:13 pm
BLack Magic…that is very sexy.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
4:13 pm
@Celisea ~ excellent tidbit on shoes that grip. Must have that easy access so keep it slightly open…
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
4:14 pm
ITL – Maybe I should lay a blanket down on the living room floor, sprinkle lots of condoms over the blanket (sort of like make-shift rose petals) and a big bottle of warming gel nearby.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
4:16 pm
The new Fire/Ice gel is GREAT!
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
4:18 pm
U alright there Leggs?
BlackMagicWoman...in NYC
July 25th, 2011
4:18 pm
UGA…thanks! I’m a dancer so I love to perform. But of course I love to perform for my signifcant other privately. That way…no matter which style I choose to dance, I end up naked and so does he. That particular ex, has had a private, ballet (pointe), burlesque, pole dance, belly dance and contemporary dance that all ended with happy endings.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
4:19 pm
Black Magic…he is a very lucky man then.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
4:19 pm
BMW: Very 9 1/2 weeks….. “You can leave your hat on…..”
Slim:
You could keep the fruit theme going with the Yours + Mine strawberry/chocolate. You could even have real chocolate-dipped strawberries on a pretty plate next to the blanket/bed if you were so inclined.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
4:21 pm
One time I spent a weekend at a resort with a lady friend. We ordered chocolate covered strawberries and all that jazz. I love taking champagne and pouring it over her lady parts while going down on her.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
4:22 pm
@BMW ~ that’s one of my favorite looks too. The CFMPs, big shirt, props, it’s on and popping… Note to self: make sure there aren’t any mothballs in my damn shirts. I’m hollering over here!
@SlimnNu ~ hell no, this ain’t my first rodeo!!!! Ladies, yes ladies, should pull the car over to the side of the road and rape their man. Well, not rape him, but get a quickie in there and get back behind the wheel. He will love it!!!!
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
4:22 pm
Hey, what would be better…just do the fruit roll ups in the silky robe, Or do a black corsett underneath the robe and still keep the fruity pasties?? I forgot I had a black corsette Hmmm?
Celisea
July 25th, 2011
4:23 pm
PR – Celisea, 3:59! Have I ever told you that I loved you?
Yep…lol
UGA – Not a big fan of Lake Lanier
Slim – Since skinny dipping was always enroute and the premise for riding nekkid, if I was driving I always work a cute little slide or sandal with ridgiddy bottoms. Gotta grip the pedal
Ex – No comment
i'm swiss™
July 25th, 2011
4:24 pm
BMW — I regret to inform you that your “Brazilian” is subject to approval from the blog Ladyscaping Committee. As chairman of said committee, I’m going to need you to submit before and after photos depicting the change from “Landing Strip” to “Brazilian,” along with an explanation of why the change is desired and how the new design will complement the aesthetics of the blog community. You must also submit to an on-site inspection prior to approval. Thank you for your cooperation in this matter. ;-D
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
4:24 pm
@Ex ~ don’t worry about me over here….I’m fine. I have self-control. If I want to make myself tingle over all this talk and flashbacks, I could….but I have SELF FREAKING CONTROL. Now, leave me alone.
lol: 
Seriously, I’m good!!
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
4:24 pm
,em>champagne and pouring it over her lady parts Sounds bubbly de lic ious
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
4:25 pm
Slim….it is great.
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
4:26 pm
It’s a bird, it’s a plane, it’s SUPER SWISS the CT inspector lol
Celisea
July 25th, 2011
4:26 pm
Leggs – excellent tidbit on shoes that grip. Must have that easy access so keep it slightly open…
Keep the probability of an accident slim to none
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
4:27 pm
We were crawling like a turtle this morning, now we jumping around like freak jackrabbits outline the set/scenery for SlimNu! And the Academy goes to………..
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
4:28 pm
Ok ladies and gents I am heading out. we have football practice tonight. Have a good one.
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
4:29 pm
UGA
I think u and Simp’s tongue Definately need to be insured!
U think Geicko does Tongue insurance?
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
4:30 pm
You too, UGA! Don’t sweat on another Team Mom!
BlackMagicWoman...in NYC
July 25th, 2011
4:32 pm
UGA…not anymore. We are no longer together. So now I only perform regular performance gigs and of course the more sensual ones are for myself just for fun! I teach belly dance. I believe in the Fall I will be teaching Burlesque.
ITL…girl I love that song. Blues and Old School music makes for great Strip Tease ambience. I think one of my favorites songs I have done
SWISS….I am gonna kick your @$$!
EXILED…. You are getting a Time Out!
Tongue Insurance!
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
4:33 pm
Here’s a fantasy of mine I don’t mind sharing. My body used to look like the lady’s body on the cover of Honey (Ohio Players)….that was decades ago. Before I leave this Earth, someone is gonna lick honey off me! Was that TMI???? I’m still laughing over here….
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
4:36 pm
Night, UGA!
Leggs, before you live out that fantasy, let me make sure you have Andreia’s number. Believe me, if it dries, honey is stronger than any wax known to man. IJS….
BMW, there’s a great documentary on HBO this month about the history of Burlesque.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
4:39 pm
If it dries….ok, why would I need a woman’s number? Is she suppose to help lick it up before it dries????? Ut oh, the blog turns….(lol).
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
4:39 pm
“Does Geico do tongue insurance?” That reminds me of the commericals….
Can you really save more on your tongue insurance by switching to Geico? Does Ex hold his breath??
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
4:41 pm
Girl, no! She owns “Brazilian Waxes by Andreia”. LOL
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
4:41 pm
Slim, you could pull up to the airport and since you are slim, slide into the back seat when you see him coming.(You have to park by the shuttles not the pick up curb) Make him drive, while you are in that back seat naked playing with yourself, really get into it moaning and all…..then every so often rub your fingers across his lips so that he can taste you.
????
July 25th, 2011
4:41 pm
I AM WHATEVER YOU SAY I AM?
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
4:43 pm
I Am is back?
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
4:43 pm
Ok, ITL. I wasn’t sure where that was going…Gotcha!
I’m going to be someone’s Sweet Sticky Thing! Note: be careful with the honey!
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
4:45 pm
Mercy, PR…..I’m going to have to turn the fan on in my office…..
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
4:46 pm
How bout if Slim just crouches on the passenger side,let him drive and she works on his transmission as he drives?(she’s kinda slim and portable) so it’s fitting..
I hope he don’t wreck the car tho…
And he can be playing with her dangling tatas,using the right hand..
Nite time is best. Otherwise Chanel 2 helicopter might hover u if its daytime day!
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
4:47 pm
Yep, PR, that’s an excellent one.
Simple Man......
July 25th, 2011
4:47 pm
Ok…..Courtyard Marriott, Albany, and I check in to find what????? Manscaping is better for the ladies the “new weiner” look….Landing strip is GREAT for Simple especially if I get to trim it….. Tongue insurance…LOL Yup, StateFarm gives me extra coverage cause I have mastered the “broad and flat” the “point and tingle” and the “Probe and Twirl”
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
4:50 pm
This has been the latest edition of Moaning Mondays….
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
4:50 pm
Leggs, ITL…just sharing some secrets.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
4:51 pm
Hey Simp!
Exiled!
July 25th, 2011
4:52 pm
I salute u Simple!
Damn that’s some skill 4.47 I never imagined
i'm swiss™
July 25th, 2011
4:54 pm
“.I am gonna kick your @$$! “
BMW — Thank you, mistress, may I have another?
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
4:54 pm
I like those kind of secrets….. reminds me of a night at the Shoe Show with a former friend….
BlackMagicWoman...in NYC
July 25th, 2011
4:54 pm
PURPLE…you are trying to cause even more car accidents in ATL.
LEGGS…”Moaning Mondays”???? Good one!
EXILOED…was that your Brown b00ty going up and down in a pulled over car on the side of 285 on Channel 2 when the Sky-copter was shooting footage of traffic?
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
4:54 pm
Listening to Brown Sugar (although we know he’s not singing about a woman), we can act like he is. The words are sensual…
Simple Man......
July 25th, 2011
4:55 pm
hey, ITL Looks like I missed it today….You might have to bring me up to speed
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
4:57 pm
I’ll
showtell you all about it later.Leggs
July 25th, 2011
4:57 pm
I have nothing as an EOD…
See you guys tomorrow afternoon!
PEACE!
Simple Man......
July 25th, 2011
4:57 pm
Ex, Plus, I can and will work it like that froms the front, teh back, and both sides!!!!! And I don’t leave teeth marks!!!!
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
4:58 pm
@SlimNU ~ looks like someone else is about to get frisky in the car on their way down to Albany! We have now have two categories nominated for an Academy Award……ACTION!
Simple Man......
July 25th, 2011
4:58 pm
ITL….Fruit roll ups, HUH????
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
4:59 pm
BMW, and you thought I like 4×4’s just for hunting and off roading? LOL it’s easier up here to just drive off road somewhere hop in the back and be under the stars
i'm swiss™
July 25th, 2011
4:59 pm
By the way, Slim, I believe it’s about time for your bi-weekly CT inspection. You’re sticking with scorched earth motif, no?
Simple Man......
July 25th, 2011
5:00 pm
Leggs, Albany NY…..Thats an awful long drive just for me to have dinner at the “Y”
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
5:02 pm
“Honey, it’s not just for bears!”
Leggs, there is your end of the day quote or this one:
“Life is a mosaic of pleasure and pain – grief is an interval between two moments of joy. Peace is the interlude between two wars. You have no rose without a thorn; the diligent picker will avoid the pricks and gather the flower. There is no bee without the sting; cleverness consists in gathering the honey nevertheless.”
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
5:05 pm
Awww, nice quote, PR.
And Simp, I think I kind of resent the “just dinner” comment. I mean, there’s dinner at Mickey D’s, and then there’s dinner at Bacchanalia…..
Celisea
July 25th, 2011
5:07 pm
Ut oh, somebody put Ghiridelli chocolates in the jar….UT OH
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
5:08 pm
Celisea, do it in moderation. Do not let your sweet tooth take over.
Celisea
July 25th, 2011
5:10 pm
PR – I ate only 2. White mint chocolates. Lawd deliver me
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
5:11 pm
I love those little Lindt truffles….have mercy, those things are good.
Celisea
July 25th, 2011
5:12 pm
Alright folks…have a good evening. Need to work late but need to get by the dry cleaners before they close.
Simple Man......
July 25th, 2011
5:18 pm
ITL….i’m sorry…If you like, I will eat ANYWHERE and EVERYWHERE, ANYTIME you like:)
