Mate debate: Can we find everything we want?
I’m not a big fan of dating checklists. I think they end up becoming an excuse not to give perfectly good candidates a real chance. I think we all have our preferences, and we definitely know what grabs our attention. I have to wonder though, how does that all come in to play when we actually meet the person who is ideal for us?
Do you think the person you really want and desiwav can have everything you ever wanted in a mate? Imagine the traits, character, looks, and even the body of your “Dream” mate. Would they want to be with you? Would you be a good match for them?
Do you think the people we are looking for actually exist? Would we recognize them right away or would we miss out because they don’t look/sound/behave the way we expected?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Leggs
July 25th, 2011
12:19 pm
Order a POD sounds good, but it won’t be on my property. Let’s see how this week plays out. If the items are gone before week’s end, I’ve done my good deed. If not, the other side of me will be shown.
Fion
July 25th, 2011
12:20 pm
meant she could not find…….
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
12:23 pm
LOL….@Leggs
You killing me, talking about the other side of you.
SexyCool
July 25th, 2011
12:24 pm
Leggs is from NYC. There is most definitely another side.
“You wouldn’t like me when I’m angry.”
BlackMagicWoman...in NYC
July 25th, 2011
12:28 pm
Good afternoon from a cooler NYC! Whew….
I tried to lessen my list or lose it all together. But I realize I am unhappy with the results as well. Call me shallow. but physical attraction in number one. If I am not attracted to you, I can’t see passed that and being great in every other aspect will get him in to my best friend zone. If you don’t look good in your pants, there can be no romance! Hit the gym buddy, I do! I am disgusted by men with pregnant guts! Sorry! I have tried to not be that way. Butif I want to barf at the thought of sleeping with you, it will only end in disaster. Yes, I am a lover of tall, handsome well chisled (body and face) men. Why lie or dent myself of eye candy? Yes, looks are just the icing on the cake. But if I don’t like the icing/frosting, I will never take a bite of the cake.
Now I have a thing against dating older men. I am trying hard to get over that. Maybe I would meet one that is finally over the BS running stage. Granted, there are some old fools (which are the most pathetic creatures). You wnat to h0 around until you are old and gray. But then want some young woman to want your dried up @$$ just because you have money and some Viagra/Cialis. Yes those pills can help your wang to get up and stay up. But your heart can’t keep up.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
12:29 pm
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
12:33 pm
@BMW ~ I thought too about the Viagra and the heart rate. It’s scary and that’s one of a few reasons why I don’t want an older man!
Oh, glad the heat index isn’t as high as last week’s.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
12:33 pm
LOL….@BMW
Pregnant guts, old fools, and Cialis.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
12:36 pm
“You wouldn’t like me when I’m angry.”
Too funny, because I read “you wouldn’t like me when I’m hungry. – Basically, the same thing (LOLOLOL)!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
12:38 pm
Hold up Leggs why you wont give dude a shot?
Fion
July 25th, 2011
12:39 pm
@ BMW
……. so I’m unclear about your feelings on Older Men?????? lol
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
12:42 pm
@Blackfoote ~ what dude. The unreliable one. I think it speaks for itself.
BlackMagicWoman...in NYC
July 25th, 2011
12:42 pm
I knew Amy’s death was coming. She just couldn’t get right. Demons are hard as hell to fight. The drug demon is enough by itself. But she dealt with bulimia, cutting and depression. As a person who has fought the Bulimia and Depression demons myself, you fight them until the day you die. You can shelf them, hide them and/or put them in a coma. But we all know that anything can bring them back with a vengence. The trigger can be trivial. But it can be the pebble that begins an avalanche. May she finally have some peace.
LEGGS,….that woman’s stuff would have been in my garage when hell has a snow day! You are a better person that I am. I woudl have told her to store her stuff in her @$$!
PR…did you watch True Blood honey?
SCOOL….I think I will try your list, after I rearrange a few traits. I will let you know what happens
FION….I am not attracted to older men. Unless he really keeps himself up and does not look it, I can not date anything over 40. The Blogs Fam will tell you how I barf at the thought of his pubes looking like Christmas Tinsel. (I believe I won a Blog Award for that phrase).
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
12:50 pm
Leggs:
Unreliable yep don’t need an able body person who has the un’s.
Breezy
July 25th, 2011
12:53 pm
I’m not looking for perfection, just a connection (preferably physical, intellectual, spiritual, emotional…).
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
1:07 pm
@Blackfoote ~ if you’re agreeing, then why ask why I won’t give him a twirl???
@BMW ~ I know what your response would be (lol). Also, although I don’t like her and she doesn’t like me, she’s still lil leggs grandmother.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
1:16 pm
BlackMagic….I didnt think people actually kept their pubs anymore…haha
>>>
July 25th, 2011
1:19 pm
We have had to come to grips with women shaving their pubes, But please dont tell me the dudes have resorted to cleaning up and looking like pre-teens as well…..
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
1:20 pm
BMW, yes I watched True Blood. Sookies is a fool, Tara is lost. Do you really think Bill is going to kill Eric?
Totally Random
July 25th, 2011
1:26 pm
This question was just posed on another site: If a dude wears sneakers to work and puts on his dress shoes when he arrives, is he ghey?
Sounds a bit strange if you ask me, unless he is wearing Prince type dress shoes, fully equipped with 4+ inch heels
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
1:26 pm
Anybody here seen Lincoln Lawyer?
Read My Lips
July 25th, 2011
1:26 pm
Mine trimmed his down to a manageable length after I assured him that it would result in greater enthusiasm when it came to a certain activity.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
1:27 pm
Well, is he doing a lot of walking from the train station? Is he riding a bike?
SexyCool
July 25th, 2011
1:28 pm
TR – what if buddy walks to work?
Besides, men’s shoes can hurt their feet too.
SexyCool
July 25th, 2011
1:36 pm
And then too…he could be trying to extend the life of his shoes by only wearing them inside.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
1:36 pm
I’m back, and so enjoyed the zuppa toscana today.
@Blackfoote – I do both. Well, to be more exact, I swim AND sit topside working on my tan and trying to look cute. I gotta say, though, not all men find a sweaty ITL to be a pretty ITL.
@Leggs: bikini comment? Refresh my memory….
@BMW: Alcide….. (*sigh*)
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
1:37 pm
Leggs – I have not seen LL yet but that’s on my list for my next redbox pick…it has 4.5 stars so i’m guessing it’ll be at least decent.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
1:38 pm
Sounds a bit strange if you ask me, unless he is wearing Prince type dress shoes, fully equipped with 4+ inch heels
Reminds me of the Prince Basketball skit on The Chapelle Show. One of the funniest skits ever!
SlimNu
July 25th, 2011
1:39 pm
Sounds like buddy must do a lot of walking but never seen or knew of a dude that did that, unless he drove a bike to work.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
1:40 pm
@SlimNu ~ I’m asking because I saw it on Saturday and I might have missed something. The last 5 mins were in Spanish. Was it just my bootleg version or is this the way the movie ends. I was scratching my head!
Sweet Pea
July 25th, 2011
1:46 pm
I had to come out of lurking for >>>> pubes looking like Christmas Tinsel….BMW you are HILARIOUS!!
AND >>> please dont tell me the dudes have resorted to cleaning up and looking like pre-teens as well…I think it’s ok to trim the hedges and not have a forest down below as too much could possibly ignite a wildfire..
ok back to lurking…enjoy the day!
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
1:47 pm
LOL@SweetPea. One of my guy friends calls it “manscaping”…..
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
1:48 pm
Leggs:
I didn’t know you mentioned he was unreliable until your 12:24.
Lovely Brown
July 25th, 2011
1:49 pm
Reminds me of the Prince Basketball skit on The Chapelle Show. One of the funniest skits ever!
Shirts vs. Blouses…..game, Blouses
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
1:53 pm
ITL:
Sweaty isn’t all that bad, especially when it involved a command performance.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
1:55 pm
Dang, BF, when you come out from under the stairs, you come out frisky!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 25th, 2011
2:02 pm
It is lonely under there, and the tail does go to wagging when I come out…..LOL
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
2:03 pm
So do the women on this blog prefer “trimmed”, “natural” or “bald” when it comes to maintenance?
Into the Light
July 25th, 2011
2:03 pm
Shirts vs. Blouses…..game, Blouses
Now THAT’S funny!
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
2:03 pm
@Blackfoote ~ ok, I mentioned it on the previous page.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
2:05 pm
Want to make sure I get this right, UGA, preference for ourselves or for the man????? Hey, this is a legit question?
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
2:08 pm
Leggs….for the man.
SexyCool
July 25th, 2011
2:09 pm
Trimmed…for both of us.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
2:09 pm
Natural, but some of the stragglers can be trimmed.
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
2:10 pm
SexyCool….i understand….I am bald…”down there, chest….everything.” Just easier that way.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
2:10 pm
So I guess that’s trimmed! I’m cracking myself up.
Leggs
July 25th, 2011
2:11 pm
No disrespect, really none whatsoever, but I immediately thought of the look of Perdue’s chicken being all bald and all. Hey what do I know!
UGA 1999
July 25th, 2011
2:13 pm
Leggs….it is funny that you say that because I was with a woman one time and that is EXACTLY what it reminded me of.
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
2:13 pm
Trimmed yes, for the both of us. Nothing bald on me except for my sack and only her lips.
Im hungry!
Purple Rain
July 25th, 2011
2:15 pm
Nothing worse than an untrimmed woman, and they have the nerve to be proud to show you that.