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Friends don’t let friends cheat

I recently read an article about a groom to be who hooked up with a stripper at his bachelor party. Apparently, it was suggested/cheered on/witnessed by his friends to have one final romp. I thought about what kind of predicament the man found himself in and almost felt bad for the guy. Almost.

I mean if he stood his ground and said no, absolutely not, what is the worst that would have happened? He would have been clowned and maybe endure a few jokes about it. In my female and totally logical mind (ha), that is a small price to pay.

I am curious as to why people encourage someone to cheat on their mates. If you decide on your own, that’s one thing. Why go out of your way and prod a friend to do the same?
It may seem like this happens among males more but I think females are guilty of it just as much.

Do you think too many of us encourage, support, and condone infidelity?

When you are dating someone, do you ask them if they have ever cheated or been unfaithful? Do you find out what their views are about infidelity? What if all or most of their friends were unfaithful to their mates?

Happy Friday!

Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

272 comments Add your comment

Michael P.

July 22nd, 2011
5:54 am

I do not believe in cheating, and to the question regarding condoning infidelity, I, personally would never do it with anyone, much less a friend.
There have been occasions at work where I have commented favorably on a womans appearance who has entered our store, and have immediately been asked, “So, would you?” That’s all it seems to take to get my co-workers to prompt me to cheat. I have had the same experience with some friends over my life.
And, yes, I have tried to discover someones views on fidelity when I was dating. Simply put, if that individual expresses a lax attitude to cheating and infidelity, then the only thing I truly know about them is that they may cheat on me.
It’s the same as a man and woman who cheat on their respective mates with each other, then divorce the spouses to marry each other. Then at some time in the future, one of them cheats on their new spouse…well, what did you truly expect?!

Foxy

July 22nd, 2011
7:30 am

Foxy thinks however you start out, is how you will end up!

GM Kids!

Don

July 22nd, 2011
8:37 am

Nothing feels better than a new pair of socks

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
9:00 am

Morning.

@Foxy ~ you definitely speak the truth!!!

All I can say is I don’t condone cheating, would never “egg” my girl on to do it, would not loan my home to a friend to cheat (and I have been asked to do this). I don’t care what anyone says, if you cheat on me, you’re telling me you have no respect for me nor my feelings. AND, if you cheat the night before our wedding, what a fool YOU are. Too many people get caught up in the notion of now having “a ball and chain,” or “have one last romp” before you settle down. WTF! You’re stupid and your friends are stupid who suggest this!

MsMarriedUp

July 22nd, 2011
9:21 am

Oh, but friends don’t mind thinking they should get the ‘hookup’.

It’s disconcerting, and not this post, because I really enjoy the questions, but it’s funny about the amount of energy put on one matter. Cheating doesn’t begin with the actual act, and oh… how can we count the ways folk cheat…cheating starts in the heart. I don’t care what your cheating on or about, a cheater is a cheater… and that said I know more cheaters than I do devout upright pious folks.

Should this be the case? Well just let me digress back and stick witht topic here:-) I do think it might be nice if one person would only show affection to one person. Boring… but I guess it would be nice. One thing I don’t condone about cheating is putting me in the mix. You know it… levaraging that old hookup mentality…”can you say I was at your place,” or “can you ride me over there,” or “can I hide my car in your garage…” stuff like that. No! I’m not hooking no one up unless I’m getting a piece. (Just kidding!!! …on that last bit that being).

Sweet Pea

July 22nd, 2011
9:23 am

Good Morning!

I don’t believe in cheating and never desired to be in the company of friends who did so. If a person(you are dating) seems to surround themselves with a group of cheating friends then I would think you would need to check your person of interest out as this would implicate that he/she may have the same tendencies as well.

I don’t care what anyone says, if you cheat on me, you’re telling me you have no respect for me nor my feelings

Great minds think alike! Right on Leggs ;)

Ms. Atl

July 22nd, 2011
9:24 am

I find it astonishing that someone can cheat on their spouse with another married person and think that their union will be successful. How can there be trust between two people who both were married to other people when they got together and had a baby? Honor among thieves? I think not…

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
9:24 am

Morning folks,

Birds of a feather…..

I wouldn’t encourage someone to cheat and I definitely would have something to say about it if it’s a real friend but you cannot make folks do right.

For a real friend, we’d probably mull over it and talk through it. If I had a friend that practiced no decorum or regard, I’ll probably more than likely distance myself.

Alright…got a client visit today waaaaay up near Canton…great

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
9:29 am

Apparently, it was suggested/cheered on/witnessed by his friends to have one final romp. and I mean if he stood his ground and said no, absolutely not, what is the worst that would have happened? He would have been clowned and maybe endure a few jokes about it.

And really….who would make someone feel bad for taking the high road? Who does that? That person should reevaluate who they’re keeping company with.

Dave

July 22nd, 2011
9:32 am

I have heard on more than just a few occassions from both men and women, “If you don’t treat me right/tend to my needs, I’ll find someone that will.” I think that men cheat for the sex and the “different cookie jar” complex. Women cheat for the attention or connection, but more and more are doing it for the sex. I hear people all the time spout off about the bad kharma of cheating, when many of those same people have of have had lovers on the side. I don’t trust anyone that comes down too hard and rail on the “vile thing” that is cheating. Thou dost protest too much….ya think? It’s call diverting the attention from themselves.

Dave

July 22nd, 2011
9:35 am

In a nut shell, cheating is bad, but like my divorce lawyer had told me that 90% of here clients were involved in infidelity. The court barely even notices it in the papers. Bottom line, it goes on all over the place and you can either ignore it and move on or get up on your soap box and preach. As long as it doesn’t affect me, I’ll just ignore it.

Lovely Brown

July 22nd, 2011
9:36 am

Good Morning and Happy Friday to all! :-)

cheating starts in the heart- MsMarriedUp

This is the truth and I also believe that no one can ‘egg’ a grown person on to the point that they feel like they have to cheat….that’s BS. Also if a person has that urge to cheat, no one is going to stop them either.

David B.

July 22nd, 2011
9:39 am

Most guys are dogs, and that’s a fact.

Mike

July 22nd, 2011
9:40 am

I agree with Don. Believe me, that guy was all about getting some “strange” before his sex life comes to an end. GO get em’ boys!

Purple Rain

July 22nd, 2011
9:41 am

I wonder which one of his friends told. Not that I condone it but someone should not have been telilng what happened at the bachelor party. I have met plenty of cheaters, but I have yet to meet one that admits to cheating if asked. Do any? I don’t condone cheating at all but I do not know peoples particular situation so I won’t cast judgement. I can see how it could happen but it shouldn’t happen.

USMC

July 22nd, 2011
9:47 am

“In my female and totally logical mind (ha)…”—Wise Diva

/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\— No Such Thing :-)

MsMarriedUp

July 22nd, 2011
9:48 am

LovelyBrown… you’ve said it so right.

And Dave…I love a good laugh, and you gave me one!!! LOL… ‘my divorce lawyer had told me…’ oh man, I’m now crying.

Aah…

thewatchdog

July 22nd, 2011
9:50 am

That is a great wquestion. I really like it. Encouraging someone to cheat, first, it is not cheating, people are polygomous by nature. Would anyone call it cheating to simply follow your natural instincts?
Sex is a natural normal activity. Why sooooo much is made of it boggles my mind. Ever look at those National Geographic magazines? Those natives without clothes, that is a very natural way.

SexyCool

July 22nd, 2011
9:54 am

I don’t believe that I can keep a friend from cheating, would definitely discourage and would most certainly not ENcourage it.

SlimNu

July 22nd, 2011
9:58 am

I did not say anything vulgar but the blog monster shole ate it up…WACK!

Long story short: I DO NOT CONDONE CHEATING! I know how it feels to be cheated on and it burns straight down to the core. It shakes the foundation of how you previously viewed your partner and creates a crossroads for how the future will be. Trust is such a hard thing to rebuild, once compromised. I just don’t understand why folks are so greedy these days, or are so bent on looking OUTSIDE the relationship as a remedy for something that maybe wrong. It takes a person being able to open themselves up and allow their vulnerability to be exposed, to love someone. So after you go through the process of gaining their trust, their love, what’s the point of it all if you’re going to then take a chance on ruining that? If that’s your deal, then move the hell on! I don’t need another stitch in my heart…no thank you, no siree, i’ll pass

Purple Rain

July 22nd, 2011
10:03 am

Not me, I have heard some people state that cheating helps keep them happy at home? OMGWTFBBQ!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
10:08 am

I don’t condone it, I wont judge it. Every grown able minded person in the western culture know it’s wrong.

Good Day:

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
10:09 am

people are polygomous by nature

We are beasts by nature but we know when and what to do to tame. Why aren’t we killing folks or walking in a store and talking what we want without paying? Why do we say excuse me and thank you?

Yes we are all beasts by nature but we aren’t animals. The ability to do contrary to my nature is a learned behavior. Not necessarily from someone literally teaching you step by step. I learn from how I wish to be treated…to treat or not to treat someone. None of us wants to go to prison so we check our nature. We have learned as we progress in life parameters and measures and what nots. To blame nature on carelessness does not justify one’s actions. It’s in all of us to be tamed and act like we got some sense. Some just chose not to.

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
10:11 am

To blame carelessness on nature…rather

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
10:11 am

Morning, Happy Friday!!!

Do you think too many of us encourage, support, and condone infidelity?

You can’t make a grown person do anything they don’t already want to do. The dude at the bachelor party, and his friends are immature frat boys.

I’ve always said people have to be married first in their head before they actually sign the papers. There is no room for that “there’s no ring on my finger yet” mentality if you are in a mature, committed relationship.

That’s another thing people need to watch when getting into a relationship with someone – the type of friends they hang around. Birds of a feather definitely do flock together. It’s hard for some people to pull away from the crowd and have their own mind about how they want to run their lives. They are weak. If their friends are all players and running around on their SO’s, and acting like their having a good time doing it, the peer pressure is strong.

When dating my husband, I noticed all of his friends seem to be real family men. Even those that are divorced or still single are devoted dads and seem to treat their girlfriends well. That positive behavior is bound to rub off on everyone, just like negetive behavior would.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
10:13 am

Hello Celisea good you brought that up.
I was trying to figure how do you encourage someone to cheat and say they’re not cheating.

Dave

July 22nd, 2011
10:13 am

Purple, I have heard the same thing, just not quite as openly and not very often. It seemed as the other spouse was unwilling to change or compromise the behavior that put the “look elsewhere” idea in the person’s mind. I saw an interview with three ladies that were on the Asley madison site and they had been having ongoing affairs for 3-5 years and that it actually HELPED them stay married. I think only one husband new and gave her the green light. The other two husbands had no idea. Go figure….

Oh my God!

July 22nd, 2011
10:15 am

Alcohol and strippers usually don’t mix. I’ve never met anyone who said that cheating made their marriage stronger.

That said, this guy wasn’t married yet, and how many opportunities does your single, average guy ever have to nail a stripper?

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
10:17 am

this guy wasn’t married yet, and how many opportunities does your single, average guy ever have to nail a stripper?

See that is what I’m talking about. The key words – not married YET.

And if a single guy not in a committed relatioship wants to get with a stripper, what’s stopping him?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
10:21 am

Let me give more clarity, encourage someone to cheat, they act on it. Then say they’re not cheating because of primitive instincts.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
10:21 am

@OMG ~ a single, average guy can “nail a stripper” any day of the week. All he has to do is walk into a strip club with some moolah and BAM, he’s in like flint!

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
10:23 am

All he has to do is walk into a strip club with some moolah and BAM, he’s in like flint!

Leggs – Okay!!!! :shock: SMH

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
10:24 am

@kimmie ~ I’m lost on what you’re saying. He’s not married yet, but he was at his Bachelor party. He’s in a committed relationship with his gf until they stand at the altar reciting their vows to become man and wife! Ok, he didnt’ cheat on his wife, but he did cheat on his fiancee!???

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
10:24 am

LOL……Hey Kimmie, I see the light. You must have been a English major you can pick those key words.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
10:26 am

@kimmie ~ I was just defending his stance that an average joe blow couldn’t get with a stripper.

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 22nd, 2011
10:26 am

“Foxy thinks however you start out, is how you will end up!”

Me thinks FOXY is right! For example….Marc Anthony was still married when he hooked up with Jennifer Lopez. And now it’s always been said this dude has cheated on her multiple times! Newsflash, if a man will cheat on his current love to be with you….what makes you think you are are friggin’ special that he won’t do it to you?

I would never tell my friend to cheat on their mate. Now if I do not like him/her, I will suggest that they leave the scum alone. But to condone or suggest infidelity is horrible. If my fiancee hooks up with a stripper at his bachelor party, it’s a wrap. He risked not only my life by hooking up with some skank, but he totally disrepected me! If he cheats, he does NOT love me. So why marry me? I always say men should think of how they would feel if the table were turned. How would they feel? But of course the self b@stards only thinki of themselves. Please get your skank-a-licious romps out of the way before getting with me. And also get a good STD blood work up as well. Like mosquitos, they spread disease! I am not saying women don’t cheat either. So the same thought process should go both ways!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
10:30 am

I love NYC.
LOL…..They can bring it.

Dynamic

July 22nd, 2011
10:38 am

Although I believe that infidelity is wrong I disagree with the comments about the influences on grown ass folks and the birds of a feather comments. I have a few gay friends, a few whorish friends, and a few faithful friends. I am an adult and no matter what my friends are doing it does not dictate my actions! I love my friends b/c we have common interests and enjoy each other’s company, not because who they choose to sleep with.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
10:39 am

Leggs:
Did anything last night happen that was strange?

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
10:41 am

SlimNu

July 22nd, 2011
10:42 am

Dynamic – co-sign ;-) I’ve always danced to the beat of my own drum no matter who was playing the flute or the cymbols or the trombone lol

Dave

July 22nd, 2011
10:51 am

co-sign with slim. If you are going to judge me on my friends, you have a wide array of behavioral choices. Jocks, Preppies, millionaires and broke as church mice people. Yep, I’ve even got some friends, men and women, that would hop in bed with anything that registered a pulse (married or not) and some that think that sex is the most overrated thing on this earth. Take your pick…..

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
10:51 am

Dynamic/Slim – I’m talking about WEAK people. Those that easily bend to peer pressure. More “like” folks tend to flock together than “unlike”. Plus sometimes, you can also be a victim of guilt by association. I’ve always had a mind of my own too. While I have a FEW friends/associates that are “different”, the majority of my friends have similiar interests and lifestyles.

Blackfoote- No, a business major, but my mother taught English! :)

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
10:52 am

Do you think too many of us encourage, support, and condone infidelity?

I’ve witnessed others tryna get one of their partners/friends to cheat(both men and women) but I woulnd’t do it b/c I wouldn’t want it done to me. Karma is a b!#$h and as far as the cheating, if they do it with you, they’ll do it to you.

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
10:57 am

Leggs – Your 10:24, read my first post about being married “in your head” before you sign the papers. There’s no way my fiance’ could excuse cheating on me with “well, we weren’t married yet”. We’re in a committed relationship!!!

You are right, he didn’t cheat on his WIFE because she wasn’t his wife yet. But some folks seem to have the mentality that until they say the vows, they are not cheating. I would hate to be involved with someone that thought that way.

Button

July 22nd, 2011
10:59 am

I don’t condone cheating, I’ve cheated in the past but I was young and selfish. Fast forward, I know how to handle my emotions and not let another action dictate my actions.

I don’t and probably will never understand why some men allow their boy(s) to have “relations” in their bed/room.

Lovely Brown

July 22nd, 2011
11:00 am

@ Dynamic- I agree with your 10:38, well stated!

I have a sister who is skankalicious and makes no apologies for it :lol: We go out for dranks, not drinks ;-) often. Sometime her friends who are just as skanky, but loveable come too. They know I don’t get down with their mess.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
11:02 am

Ok, kimmie. I’m understanding!

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
11:03 am

Leggs – I was agreeing with you about joe average getting with a stripper as well.

UGA 1999

July 22nd, 2011
11:12 am

Yes they do! In most cases it is friends cheating with friends…..

TenderRoni

July 22nd, 2011
11:14 am

Mornings,

I do believe people will do what they want to do. But I would not encourge nor support my friend with any attempts of cheating. How does ” girl ya man ain’t layin it down at home, you better get with some of this eye candy in here”- that just sounds dumb to me. Which by the way I have over heard when I was out.

Though my friend has her own mind, I would try to talk my friend out of getting herself in some drama/mess.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
11:14 am

@Button ~ I will never understand that either. To this day, I have this one dude that stopped speaking to me because I wouldn’t let him use my home as his hotel. WTH, are you kidding me!!!!!

TenderRoni

July 22nd, 2011
11:17 am

Oh, and to add- I would especially try to talk to my friend if they are/were intoxicated. Blame it on the alochol! #lameexcuse.

UGA 1999

July 22nd, 2011
11:19 am

TenderRoni….this is a cop out more than an excuse!

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
11:20 am

I’m also not talking about people a person might have a drink with or hang with from time to time. I’m talking about the friends you hang with the majority of the time, talk to on the regular, those that would be the best man or maid of honor in your wedding.

I’m speaking from my experience too. One guy I dated had a lot of friends that were down on marriage. A few were married but claimed to be miserable. A few cheated, most complained constantly about their married life. His brother was on his 2nd marriage and had fathered an outside child during that 2nd marriage and was miserable. The single friends couldn’t commit. He would tell me his friends troubles all the time and constantly surrounding himself with that negativity did have an effect on him, and eventually on us. It would make me mad that he allowed someone else’s bad experience to influence him.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
11:22 am

That’s why its important to surround yourself with positive people. Negative Nellys or Nelsons are too draining!

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
11:22 am

Leggs – Absolutely!

Chas

July 22nd, 2011
11:27 am

But kimmie…..it IS miserable……

Dynamic

July 22nd, 2011
11:27 am

@ Kimmie, but if you are a naturally weak minded person. I seriously doubt it if being around “stong” people will change a person that much. If they are that weak they might need to seek professional help.

And some of my closest friends are opposites from me and we all live different lifestlyes. Thats is again what I love about them….the Diversity! If they were all like me then our relationships would be boring.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
11:29 am

I have this one dude that stopped speaking to me because I wouldn’t let him use my home as his hotel.

:shock: Scandal!!

He’s a cheat and a cheap cheat to boot….

What I’ve encountered recently is a very bla`se´ attitude towards fidelity and cheating…The ones that care the least about fidelity are some of the most prolific cheaters. Some guys/women have no problem cheating and going home afterward. I’ve met a few guys that were either in a relationship or married but was still down to cheat. What’s more disheartening is that they looked at me like :shock: for not wanting to cheat with them. Chile pleaze…

Dave

July 22nd, 2011
11:31 am

I have unwittingly lived vicariously through many of my more “amorous” friends in their carnal adventures. Sometimes I wonder “What if….”. but that’s as far as it goes.

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 22nd, 2011
11:36 am

Oh I refuse to be a party to cheating…friend or no friend. I will NOT cover for you…and no you can not bring your skeezah dogs to my crib to leave it’ fleas! And when the cover is blown, I WILL say I told you so!

Also the lame excuse of being drunk is irrelevant! I do not believe liquor makes you do things that you would not do! It’s just liquid courage….balls in a bottle…to do what you are too chicken sh!t to do soberly! God wants no excuses and nether do I!

Lovely Brown

July 22nd, 2011
11:37 am

@ Chas- your partner probably feels the same way you do.

people kill me

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
11:40 am

Dynamic – What I’m talking about really isn’t that deep, stuff that one needs professional help for.

I have a diverse group of friends as well, different races, styles, etc. But there are basics my main friends and I have in common. A lot of our moral values are the same. We naturally gravitated toward each other for those reasons.

It’s like when you grow up and get married. You find you start to hang more with married couples. You are leading a different lifestyle. Not to say you don’t have anything to do with your single friends anymore, not at all. But alot of your free time is going to be with other couples, not hanging out with your single friends as much.

For Real

July 22nd, 2011
11:41 am

There is no right or wrong with cheating. It’s a choice to break ones word period. Right or wrong is subjective. Everyone has the God giving right to choose. Cheater make a choice to cheat and those that stay with cheaters make choice and those that leave cheaters make a choice. Get off your high horse.

For Real

July 22nd, 2011
11:44 am

Leggs: too much of either is not good. you should surround yourself with balance.

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
11:45 am

Leggs, what are you eating for lunch today?

Button

July 22nd, 2011
11:47 am

@ Kimmie, it’s kind of hard to escape all of the negativity out there. It’s on every corner. I try to make sure I keep positive thoughts in my mind and when I encounter negative talks esp about marriage and relationship, I nip it in the bud with the quickness.

????

July 22nd, 2011
11:48 am

Why is it that women are so FOR getting married and men are so AGAINST it? Women will flat out hit pavement to catch the thrown bouquet at a wedding and men act like the thrown garter is a hand grenade dipped in AIDS? Women say it’s because men can’t commit and men say it’s because their French Poodle turns into a frigid Pit Bull once the ring is on her finger. Wonder why that is….for both genders?

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
11:48 am

@ForReal ~ it’s balanced because you will always encounter negative as well as positive people. It’s up to you who you let shine the brightest in your life.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
11:49 am

@kimmie ~ salad and piece of salmon with a tall glass of water.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
11:51 am

@??? ~ never got up to catch the bouquet. Women look crazy running, falling, grabbing and elbowing each other. I wanted no parts of that foolishness. You raise some interesting questions, none of which I can answer (lol).

For Real

July 22nd, 2011
11:52 am

Button: So if someone tells you about their marriage and it’s negative how do you nip it in the bud?

To bury your head in the sand and make believe that negativity doesn’t exist and that your life or marriage will be filled with pixie dust and elves is childish and foolish at best. Reality is consist of positive and negatives. World cannot exist without both.

Postive: Leggs is eating a juicy peach for lunch. AGAIN!!!

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
11:53 am

Button/Leggs – Yeah, it will always be negativity out there, and misery loves company.

I chose not to be company to the misery!

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
11:55 am

I don’t know what I want. Kinda feeling some chinese food though.

For Real

July 22nd, 2011
11:55 am

Leggs: “It’s up to you who you let shine the brightest in your life.” – But it’s through negative experiences that we learn life lessons. The key is learning.

For Real

July 22nd, 2011
11:57 am

Kimmie: Negative and misery are to completely separate issues. I feel you on not choosing misery but you don’t have much control over the negative.

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
11:59 am

4 Real – Man, we get it, there are hills and valleys on this road called LIFE!! No escaping it! We grown, we know!!

What are you doing this weekend that’s interesting? Or not.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
11:59 am

never got up to catch the bouquet. Women look crazy running, falling, grabbing and elbowing each other.

Me either!! When they announce the throwing of the bouquet I go in the opposite direction of the crowd and wait til that part is done. I’ve seen women damn near go to blows tryna catch it and if it’s made with real flowers(cause I’ve seen some fake ones), it usually ends up lookin like a hot mess of twigs n leaves afterwards.

TenderRoni

July 22nd, 2011
11:59 am

????- thats a good question. i talked to some friends a man and women about that. My male friend said most men he know are married because of circumstances and they thought it was the next logical step in being a man. but ended up not happy bc they didn’t take time to fall in love/like with women. He is 30, he says the reason he’s not married is because he hasn’t found unconditional love.

I thought that was interesting. Oh, and he said the oppornities he has had to get married, he said if he asked the woman he was with there would be no hesitation to say ‘yes’ simply because they were in love with the idea of getting married.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
12:01 pm

@ForReal ~ I ate another peace around 11:00. Started to say something, but changed my mind (lol).

Yep, the key is learning and being receptive. Cuz if you ain’t receptive you caint learn.

@kimmie ~ what I really want is a stuffed slice of pizza. I’ll get one this weekend. I’ve had salad for lunch all the time so I can splurge with my “comfort” food.

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
12:02 pm

Leggs – I always hated the bouquet toss!!!LOL!! Like that’s REALLY going to determine if you’re next to marry!! I remember this old woman almost knocked me down when I was 15. I didn’t care about the legend, I just wanted the pretty flowers. Guess she needed them more than me!LOL!!

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
12:02 pm

See I typed peace again. Sheesh. Peach, Peach, Peach, Peach, Peach, PEACH! Ok, I think I got it now!

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
12:04 pm

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
12:04 pm

@kimmie ~ with you being 15. was she really an old woman? That is funny to me, a 15 year old thinks a 30 year old woman is OLD.

Button

July 22nd, 2011
12:07 pm

For Real I nip it in the bud by knowing like the song says “trouble don’t last always” “weeping may endure for a night but joy cometh in the morning”. Also I don’t have too many ppl coming to me telling me all the bad stuff that happens in their marriage, but when the two times it did happened I listened and offer my advice and was much appreciated for it too.

I would be foolish to think that all marriages are a bed of roses For Real. That is not reality, reality is knowing how to handle the situation when it arises and not let it grow into a mountian.

For Real

July 22nd, 2011
12:07 pm

Kimmie: Teaching football 101 (running back position) to my youngest son on Saturday. On Sunday the continued dominance of my older son in basketball. Then hellua alot ice and anti-inflamory medicine. Oh and I am going to start a counter on how many exclamation points you in a blog day when you respond to me.

11:59 – 5 exclamation points

TenderRoni

July 22nd, 2011
12:08 pm

I have an embrassing story about the bouquet toss- couple years ago my aunt got married, she had a small wedding just family really and a few members from her church. There probably was maybe 3 or 4 single women. I decided to stay seated at the tossing. My aunt towards her back, she was getting ready to toss the bouquet. all of a sudden she stops, turns to me and says I’m going to change this up, because this has been on my heart. she walks over to me and hands me the flowers. I turned so red i didn’t know what to say. I think I was like gee, thanks!

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
12:08 pm

Leggs – Thinking back, no joke, I remember her looking to be at the least mid 50’s. And that’s being generous. I remember her having close-cut salt and pepper hair. Not premature grey with a young face either.

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
12:10 pm

4 Real – !!!!! :lol: There are a few more to add to your count!

Sounds like fun though, your weekend.

For Real

July 22nd, 2011
12:12 pm

Tender: That was a sweet story. Hey look I was going to throw this out but I have decided to give it to you. Zippppppppppppppppppppppppppp!!!! Cause it’s been on my heart.

Lovely Brown

July 22nd, 2011
12:13 pm

I’ve seen women damn near go to blows tryna catch it and if it’s made with real flowers(cause I’ve seen some fake ones), it usually ends up lookin like a hot mess of twigs n leaves afterwards.

I have seen this too…..always makes me :lol:

And the bouquet aint the only thing that ends up lookin a hot mess….I have seen women lose clothing, boobs and azz flying everywhere :lol:

TenderRoni

July 22nd, 2011
12:16 pm

@for real- funnie, watch where you sling that thang!

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
12:24 pm

@TenderRoni ~ that is funny. A lot people believe in the theory behind catching the bouquet as people truly believe in witchcraft. I’m not messing with either of them.

@SassyMe ~ I too walk in the other direction with they annouce the throwing of the bouquet. But, it is one of the funniest things at a reception.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
12:25 pm

And don’t forget about losing wigs or having it some type of sideways on your big noggin…

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 22nd, 2011
12:26 pm

Since it’s a Friday……here’s a blast from the past…..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8AqVtTVbZms

SexyCool

July 22nd, 2011
12:28 pm

I would always get up to participate in the tradition, but wasn’t seriously trying to tackle anyone to catch the bouquet. It’s a cute, fun thing to do at a wedding. Nothing more nothing less.

Having caught a bouquet in 1998 because there was only one other single chick that got up didn’t bring me a single stroke of luck when it came to dating.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
12:32 pm

Even hearing little snippets of those songs felt good.

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 22nd, 2011
12:32 pm

SEXYCOOL…girl I always try to be in the bathroom or run like hell when they throw the bouquet! I wants no parts of it!

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 22nd, 2011
12:33 pm

LEGGS…I just remember being a child and crackin’ up at the end of that commercial. “No, No my brotha…you’ve gots to get yo’ own”! LMAO

SexyCool

July 22nd, 2011
12:35 pm

I figure I’m there to support the couple. If they make it a part of the ceremony, so be it. It’s just a silly tradition. There really is no black magic attached to it.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
12:37 pm

Oh the bouquet tossing is sure nuff comical Leggs.

And don’t forget about losing wigs or having it some type of sideways on your big noggin

I know right?! :lol:

SlimNu

July 22nd, 2011
1:03 pm

I must have the same charge as a bouquet because whenever I get up to catch one, it always goes the opposite way. I never have to jump or elbow anyone lol.

SlimNu

July 22nd, 2011
1:04 pm

I’ve seen boobies come out during a bouquet wrestling match. :shock:

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
1:08 pm

Dang Slim Nu…wha had happened to errbody?

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
1:15 pm

I had such an awesome time last weekend, guess I do some neglected chores this weekend.

SlimNu

July 22nd, 2011
1:20 pm

Sassy – I have no idea being that I really haven’t been too focused on the blog…been a weird week it seems.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
1:23 pm

It’s been a funny week indeed. I’ve been busy writing reports/assessments n such for our counterparts across the globe but I broke the monotony with the blog a few days. You know how things here tend to flux back n forth…

SlimNu

July 22nd, 2011
1:39 pm

Time for a new topic maybe?

Friends don’t let friends wear biking shorts in public
Friends don’t let friend pick their nose and eat the boogers
Friends don’t let friends drunk text their exes
Friends don’t let friend double dip

Willie Dynamite

July 22nd, 2011
1:40 pm

Afternoon All,

I’m sure the topic has changed but I’ll throw my lil bit in anyway.
While not side-stepping the cheating part i’ll say that whoever/however let the Bachelor party shenanigans out needs to be dealt with. If anything whether they encouraged or discouraged the fact that it got out will tell you that moving forward your dalliances will be advertised. methinks a better breed of friends is in order.
As for the actual Cheating – It is wrong plain and simple. It doesn’t need or deserve an explanation or reason. The reason/excuse doesn’t change the outcome.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
1:46 pm

School starts in 2 weeks. The school system has redistricted us. As a result, no school buses. She can stay at the school and finish her senior year, but I will have to take her to school every morning…I’m am not thrilled about this. Not at all.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
1:50 pm

Friends don’t let friends drunk text their exes

Awww dammit!..I’ve seen some of my girls do this…usually after a night out and they’re feeling all hot n bothered and the guys come-a-runnin…

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
1:50 pm

I’m venting…I apologize.

SlimNu

July 22nd, 2011
1:52 pm

Leggs – Is she driving yet? Own car to drive herself?

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
1:56 pm

but I will have to take her to school every morning…I’m am not thrilled about this. Not at all.

…the sacrifices of parenthood. I know I could never ever repay my mommy for all she’s done for my other siblings and I.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
1:57 pm

Slim Nu lil Leggs suffered a tragedy some time back(I think a friend of hers passed away as the result of an accident) and she’s been afraid to drive….not unless that’s changed.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:05 pm

Good memory, Sassy. She just went last week to get her permit. Her father is going to teach her how to drive. I’ve given her a few lessons, but since the accident, she said she’s in no rush to learn. All the running around she’s done this summer has slowly helped to change her mind.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
2:10 pm

Friends don’t let friends jump out of air planes with no parachute.
Friends don’t let friends stand in the middle of 285 North.
Friends don’t let friends see their mama naked.
Friends don’t let friends wear their underwear.
Friends don’t let friends hurt my friend.
Friends don’t let friends eat food 6 days old.
Friends don’t let friends use their blow up dolls.
Friends don’t let friends swim with sharks.
Friends don’t let friends use their food stamps.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
2:11 pm

She just went last week to get her permit.

Awww then, the baby….good for her.

All the running around she’s done this summer has slowly helped to change her mind.

Uhh huh I’m sure …getting chauffeured around sounds nice til you get busy and gotta go go go.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:11 pm

@Blackfoote ~ can they let them stand in the middle of 285 South????

Friends shouldn’t be friends w/anyone who has a blowup doll.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
2:16 pm

Leggs:
Some of them you want to put right in the middle of 285 west,east,and yep south……LOL

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
2:19 pm

Friends don’t let friends use their food stamps.

I ‘on know ’bout that one. I ain’t shamed to admit I used my friends stamps when we were all in college a few times when things were lean….we used to invent meals using Ramen noodles but you still got tired of it at times.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:21 pm

I have never, ever had Ramen noodles (thank goodness). But, I’ve eaten my share of SPAM so I’d say I’m even.

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
2:21 pm

Willie – Its possible nobody really told. Pics might have been taken, a text sent, convo overheard. Nothing stays completely secret anymore and a lot of cheaters are sloppy.

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
2:23 pm

Oohh, our next door neighbors just sent a text inviting us to a birthday dessert party tonight! I’m gonna be all up in that!!

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:27 pm

I can see your drool way over here, kimmie.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
2:29 pm

Sassy if I knew someone with food stamps I would use them no problem.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:30 pm

@Blackfoote ~ some people sell their foodstamps. For $50 cash you get $100 in stamp usage (lol).

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
2:30 pm

Leggs – Yep! :lol:

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
2:30 pm

Leggs I don’t remember eatnig SPAM ever, but I haven’t had Ramen noodles since college. I know who ever owns that company is über rich. How can you cook SPAM?…is that an acronym?

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
2:32 pm

*How do you* cook SPAM is what I meant…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
2:32 pm

It seems like everybody has them, I’ve seen teenagers whip out a card. Am I missing something from the system?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
2:38 pm

Shee 50 for a hundred?
I saw these three ladys in a volkswagon van the damn thing was leaning on one side. They opened the rear door and it looked a they put the store inside of it. (Face Palm)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
2:39 pm

meant 100 for 50

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
2:40 pm

I take that back I’ll give fifty bucks for hundred….LOL

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
2:40 pm

Shee 50 for a hundred?

You’d be surprised….hang in the hood on/around the first & 15th and you can get ALL kinds of isht…

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:41 pm

I haven’t had SPAM since I’ve moved out of my mother’s house. The only way I ate it was fried. I hated SPAM and I hated those nasty little vienna sausages. Well, those were a little more tolerable than the SPAM. No, don’t believe it’s an acronym? But, I did love sardines. Ate a lot of those. Heck, I don’t eat much of anything I grew up on.

Willie Dynamite

July 22nd, 2011
2:42 pm

Food Stamps – They changed the game when they started using the cards that had a pin# instead of actual stamps. .50 cents on the $ was the going rate unless circumstance were involved.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:44 pm

@BMW ~ how you doing with the heat wave? I see it’s 102 in the City!!!

SexyCool

July 22nd, 2011
2:45 pm

One day I posted on the blog about wanting to use somebody’s EBT card, I was contacted offline about whether or not I was serious.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
2:47 pm

Willie D.
I’m telling you I saw a teenage girls pull out a card, me assuming you had to be a certain age to recieve. I guess it could have been her moms or somebody but it was unusual because she was buying about 30 dollars worth drinks, honey buns and candy…..LOL

SexyCool

July 22nd, 2011
2:47 pm

My neighbor offered me sixty cents on the dollar. Said she’d just give me her card and tell me the PIN.

SexyCool

July 22nd, 2011
2:49 pm

I did it a couple of times, but…not anymore. It was scresing with my conscience.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
2:49 pm

LOL….@SexyC

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:50 pm

@Blackfoote ~ her mother could be the “candy lady” in the neighborhood.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
2:50 pm

I hated those nasty little vienna sausages.

OMG!! I ate my share of that with them little saltine crackers….my granny used to call them vi-eeeeenas. I remember the first time I saw “souse meat”….I used to wonder how come we couldn’t let it get warm til mine melted one time. I haven’t eaten that since I was a small child but one day I read the ingredients and was like :shock: They put errthang from the roota to the toota in that…

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:51 pm

It was scresing ← what does that mean?

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:52 pm

Exactly, Sassy, that’s why I don’t eat crap like that anymore. Mama fed us the best way she could, but damn, some of that stuff was plain NASTY and unhealthy!

SexyCool

July 22nd, 2011
2:53 pm

typo – screWing…

And I’ve noticed that since I stopped doing business with her, I don’t see her anymore.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:55 pm

@SexyC ~ I too have done it, but it’s been a long while.

Sweet Pea

July 22nd, 2011
2:55 pm

Don’t forget the potted meat….wasn’t too fond of that one either. It was spreaded over the saltine crackers…what a salty combination that is to digest now…yuck! Enough of sodium to cause a stroke!

my granny used to call them vi-eeeeenas~FUNNY

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
2:57 pm

LOL….@Leggs
I didn’t think of that, I haven’t of heard the candy lady in a millenium. Thought they were extinct like the dinosaur.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:57 pm

Gotcha. Couldn’t figure out which letter was wrong.

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
2:58 pm

Hey Blackfoote (Pg 1)

Candy lady…best thing ever

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
2:58 pm

Leggs you’re right It was very unhealthy but it was cheap n plentiful and when you’re on a budget you gotta make ends meet by whatever salty,fatty means you can. I laugh at it now when I think about souse meat and why it had to stay cold but as a child you don’t know those things. When I go to the nursing home to visit with my granny, we laugh about it and thank God for how He’s brought us a mighty looong way. :-)

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
3:00 pm

I see not much shaking today :)

Potted me…ugh

Vienna Sausage – Use to eat

Sardines – ugh

Spam – Momma use to buy as backup plan

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
3:01 pm

I always got my mom to buy the deviled ham because of the devil on the label. Hated the taste of the meat, but I would keep the label to play with as a kid.

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
3:01 pm

Oh don’t let me forget b o l o g n a….fried was the best thing ever

Willie Dynamite

July 22nd, 2011
3:01 pm

.50 cents on the $ was/is the going rate for stamps unless there is some circumstances involved.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:02 pm

The worst meat I had to eat was Tongue and that turkey loaf. White meat on half and dark meat the other half. Can you imagine a white side and a brown side of one loaf. Disgusting! I nibbled as much as I could before throwing most of it out the window down in the alley before my mother could come back in yelling at me for being a slow eater. Pretty sure I contributed to some of the rats in NYC.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
3:03 pm

Thought they were extinct like the dinosaur.

NO way!! We had a neighborhood candy lady and now that she’s sinced passed on, her daughter is doing it. Penny candy,now-n-laters,pickles,pickled pig’s feet(yeah we in the country down there),likka(only to adults though) and all kinds of stuff.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
3:03 pm

Celisea you’re back hi again.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:04 pm

“….but I would keep the label to play with as a kid.”

You have no idea how hard I’m laughing over here!

@Sassy ~ yes ma’am we’ve come a mighty long way.

Willie Dynamite

July 22nd, 2011
3:04 pm

I will say that Govt Cheese that use to come in that big long block that was hard as heyal to cut. That made the best grilled cheese sammich ever. Them was the days.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:05 pm

@Celisea ~ we talkekd about fried bologna on here a year ago. I hadn’t thought about fried bologna sammichs in years. Went to the store that day and bought some and had me a fried bologna sammich for dinner. Man o man, it brought back some memories.

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
3:05 pm

Livercheese (I think that’s the term)

My mama bought it but only she and my sister would eat it.

SexyCool

July 22nd, 2011
3:06 pm

We had a shot house, too. Always a buncha drunk folks hanging around.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
3:06 pm

Oh don’t let me forget b o l o g n a….fried was the best thing ever

ooooh yes m’aam!!. Fried bologna with that gubment cheese was the bizness!!

Still eat sardines/salmon n grits from time to time. It’s like a Sunday morning ritual for me…

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
3:06 pm

Leggs – Don’t make me go and get a couple of slices for old time sake :)

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
3:06 pm

Sassy – My brother was the only one that ate sardines…

Willie Dynamite

July 22nd, 2011
3:06 pm

Sassy – back home our Candy Lady was just like that. Candy, bootleg likka/beer, cigarettes and nickel bags. We knew who was getting what based on what door you used to come and go out of.

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
3:07 pm

I still eat Salmon and grits, fried chicken and grits and fish and grits

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
3:08 pm

Govt Cheese that use to come in that big long block that was hard as heyal to cut.

with that hard azz wax like paper around it….dang near got carpal’s tunnel tryna cut that stuff…

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
3:08 pm

Dang that livercheese was nasty! Hated bologna, but could tolerate it fried.

Hated Spam, but could tolerate it fried too. Liked vienna’s okay.

That govt cheese was the bomb!

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
3:08 pm

We used to take a wagon and walk the neighborhood looking for drink bottles where you’d get a nickel for returning…most days that was our spending money.

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
3:09 pm

Celisea – Fish and grits – one of my favorite things in the world!! The entire world.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
3:10 pm

Candy, bootleg likka/beer, cigarettes and nickel bags. We knew who was getting what based on what door you used to come and go out of.

Yep that’s how it went! It also helped that our candy lady was family :-)

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:10 pm

@Celisea ~ I’d recommend a fried bologna sammich to anyone. Go get some. Just don’t each it often cuz your hips will spread!!!!

I love sardines on some saltine crackers. Now, I think I’ll go to the store and get some of that for this evening. Yep, I’m gonna do it. I can eat them right out the can or smash them up with some mayo and plop it onto a cracker.

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
3:11 pm

Yes yes Kimmie…Fish and grits w/toast and a cup of coffee…mmm mmm mmm

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:11 pm

Sheesh…don’t EAT it often…

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
3:12 pm

Leggs – Just don’t each it often cuz your hips will spread!!!!

Exactly. I can’t remember the last time I had a bologna sandwich.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
3:13 pm

Ya’ll got me tripping……LOL
Leggs:
After about 3 or 4 cans would stack up my mom would say why aint you ate none of that damn food I spent my hard earned money on boy. I’d have that droopy eye look and say I just wanted the labels….LOL

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
3:14 pm

Fish and grits – one of my favorite things in the world!!

I think I’m going to have that for breakfast tomorrow morning…ahhh the memories you guys are bringing back..

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:14 pm

Never had fish and grits. Was real curious about shrimp and grits and how many said it was good. I definitely didn’t understand the concept, but had some at Emeril’s before they closed. It was delicious.

Much like chicken and waffles, I don’t understand that concept either, but apparently its popular.

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 22nd, 2011
3:15 pm

LEGGS…girl I am sweatin’ like a runaway slave in this friggin’ city! :shock: No concrete Jungle should be this dayum hot! The subway stations are pure murder. I feel bad for the Muslim ladies in their garb. They must feel like they are about to spontaneously combust! I hope nobody’s thighs rub…that will most likely cause a forrest fire! POOF! :lol:

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:15 pm

@Blackfoote ~ my mother would have whupped your behind.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
3:16 pm

Anybody here used to eat Van Kamps(sp) pork-n beans?

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:16 pm

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: Exactly, BMW.

Willie Dynamite

July 22nd, 2011
3:16 pm

speaking of Fish it amazes me how Kids nowadays won’t eat fish with bones in it. Shiiiiid when I was a kid if you didn’t know how to pick bones then you S.O.L. wudn’t no filets happening in our camp.
Take that with them old school Real Grits you had a Meal.

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
3:18 pm

Sassy – Anybody here used to eat Van Kamps(sp) pork-n beans?

Oooh…meeee (got my hand raised) with weiners cut up in them. That was a “stretch” meal my mama made. There would be 4 cans of beans and 1 pack of weiners..lol

Sweet Pea

July 22nd, 2011
3:18 pm

Blackfoote~I just wanted the labels…Shame on you! LOL

Fish and grits was a Friday ritual at my granny’s house and today I still enjoy it along with sardines in the cabinet..gotta have an ace in the whole ;)

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
3:19 pm

Much like chicken and waffles, I don’t understand that concept either, but apparently its popular.

It’s the sharp salty/sweet contrast on the palate… I’ve never had chicken n waffles but shrimp/fish n grits….yummy!!!

Sweet Pea

July 22nd, 2011
3:19 pm

along w/ keeping

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:20 pm

@Sassy ~ another dish I hated. I would gag. Do not do pork-n-beans. Between that and Chef Boyarde, I did a lot of throwing up as a kid. I have given my child pork-n-beans and hopefully I can continue not giving her that. No can food for me. I had my fill. Well I do eat corn out of the can (sometimes) and that can salmon to make salmon croquettes.

Speaking about breakfast from back in the day, I think I’m going to make some homefries with my eggs and OJ.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
3:21 pm

Willie D.
Aint nothing like getting a fish bone stuck in your throat. Grandma come in the kitchen, here boy swallow this bread….LOL

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:22 pm

I have NEVER given her is what I meant to type…

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
3:22 pm

That was a “stretch” meal my mama made. There would be 4 cans of beans and 1 pack of weiners..

It sure was….mommy would have that and a pot of rice(yes we really did eat rice errday) and it was ON!! The leftovers tasted even better the next day.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:22 pm

Now that took me way back, Blackfoote. Hurry, somebody get a slice bread before she chokes on that bone!!! Yes sir!!!

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
3:24 pm

Leggs – Just get you some good fried fish, seasoned well and cooked with meal, and a side of grits. Off the chain. Love the shrimp and grits as well.

Some don’t understand the concept of combining a so-called breakfast food with a meat normally served at lunch or dinner.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:24 pm

@BMW ~ to this day, I still read the NY Daily News!

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:25 pm

@Celisea ~ Oh, ok…you don’t mix the fish in with the grits? I don’t like my food or mushed up together. Main reason I was leary about the shrimp and grits, but they were very good.

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
3:26 pm

Sweet Pea – That was a Friday thing with us as well.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
3:27 pm

Grandma come in the kitchen, here boy swallow this bread….

y’all gone get me in trouble…folks peeping in my office asking me what’s the matter

I don’t eat corn Leggs but canned salmon is good. That’s what I used for my Sunday salmon n grits…I’ve tried using other types of salmon(fillet/steak) and it just wasn’t the same. Nuthing like that can to add to the ambiance/memories.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:27 pm

And I haven’t had a bowl of grits since January 18th. I miss my grits (boo hoo, boo hoo).

Willie Dynamite

July 22nd, 2011
3:27 pm

I think my kids are throw-backs. They knew how to pick bones by 4 and eat blue crabs as well. My Son could shuck Oysters with the best of them by time he was 5.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
3:29 pm

They knew how to pick bones by 4 and eat blue crabs as well.

:shock:

BLUE CRABS!!!! IIIII EEEEE LOOOVE BLUE CRABS!!!

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:30 pm

Canned salmon is good. I keep 2 cans in the cabinet at all times.

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
3:31 pm

Leggs – Some folk like to mash stuff up in grits, like eggs. I’ve never seen people mix the fish & grits, but I’m sure some do it. For shrimp & grits, it’s usually like a gravy or scampi that’s served on top of the grits, at least that’s the way I’ve always had it.

I notice some northerners cring at the mention of fish & grits, maybe that’s what they were thinking? No, the grits are on the side, like mashed potatoes or rice.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
3:31 pm

When we were little my fam and extended fam would get together early on Saturdays and go crabbin….man I miss that!! Where can one find FRESH blue crabs here?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
3:31 pm

Sweet Pea:
As a boy I had to pay for a lot shame on me’s. Grandma was first batter up with the switches, made me go get my own at that. They better not be skimpy cause that her madder. Then mom get home, they’d have their little chat about me. Then I’d be told take off all your clothes……LOL

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
3:32 pm

Leggs – you don’t mix the fish in with the grits?

No way…lol Fish on the side :)

Bone in fish can be found at the curb market (down by Grady…ya’ll know the place..lol) or farmer’s market. I LOVE fish with bones. I have a cousin that will have it no other way. I’m always bumming from her when she cooks it.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:32 pm

@kimmie ~ I never knew that. I “assumed” the fish was mixed into the grits. I can easily eat that (when I go back to eating grits).

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:33 pm

@Sassy ~ Farmer’s Market.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:34 pm

The club market by Grady is still there? That’s great.

Willie Dynamite

July 22nd, 2011
3:34 pm

Sassy – Dekalb Farmers market has them fresh/alive. You can usually go in and pick your own.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:36 pm

@kimmie ~ I’m a northerner and I’d always cringe. Never thought to ask if it’s mixed or not. Everyone in my family mashes their grits, eggs, bacon, or sausage together. I was the only one who didn’t. I use to ask my mother if I was adopted because I was so different on so many levels.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
3:37 pm

Thanks Leggs and Willie!!

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
3:39 pm

Leggs, yeah I never have liked food mashed together, like people do with babies! I can see where that would be a turnoff.

Same with the chicken & waffles – served on the side. But that’s actually a new thing with me. I’ve never been to Gladys Knights, but I did go to Roscoe’s Chicken & Waffles in LA. It was great, probably better to me than it really was. At the time, I’d been out there about a week and eaten mostly Mexican. I was so sick of it, I was missing comfort food! Rosco’s, with it’s old decor, felt like I was back in Atlanta on ML King at somewhere like Busy Bee!

Sweet Pea

July 22nd, 2011
3:39 pm

Kimmie~Fish and grits was a comfort food for me…bring back memories!!!

I notice some northerners cring at the mention of fish & grits..I’ve noticed this as well along with midwesterners too. My ex-husband eat sugary grits, and they serve rice for breakfast :(

Leggs~I keep canned salmon and sardines in the cabinet!

Sassy~We did too! Just had some Blue Crabs a few weeks ago..Delish It’s nothing like having a crab boil with corn and sausage in the mix!

Has anyone tasted the creamy grits at Copelands and/or the Flying Biscuit? I think it is the cream cheese and other cheeses that makes it yummy!

Sweet Pea

July 22nd, 2011
3:40 pm

meant to say ex-husband ate sugary grits and rice for breakfast…too much multi-tasking and failing quick at it…LOL

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
3:40 pm

I love anything at Copelands

Into the Light

July 22nd, 2011
3:41 pm

So glad I decided to check out the blog this afternoon…y’all are bringing back happy memories. Fish and grits, salmon “crochet”s on a biscuit with lots of mustard, and fried bologna
Yum! Oh, and pimento cheese sandwiches.

Back to the pool. Hope you all have a great weekend.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:42 pm

@Sweet Pea ~ is your husband from Chicago. All my Chicago friends eats rice with their breakfast.

And, I’m going to start keeping sardines in my cabinet.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
3:42 pm

It’s nothing like having a crab boil with corn and sausage in the mix

And a nice frosty beer on the side…man oh man. Gotta go to Dekalb…

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
3:42 pm

We walk to Glady’s every now and then but for their signature plate I ain’t too crazy. I don’t like “big meat.” The wings are like pterodactyl…makes me thing something is wrong with ‘em.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:43 pm

your ex-husband…

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
3:44 pm

Sweet Pea – One of my good friends’ husband made some grits and added cream cheese and they were so good. I’ve had them like that at other places. I’ve started adding it every now and then and my husband loves them.

Oh and sugary grits – nasty! :( I realized folks that do that are looking at them like a cereal, whereas we see them kinda like rice or potatoes.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:45 pm

Reason why I don’t each Church’s chicken wings. Wings shouldn’t be that large! Naw, they can have that!

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
3:45 pm

Celisea – You sound just like my best friends hubby – he hates “big meat” too! I do too – just means it’s been shot up with hormones!

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:46 pm

WHT is wrong with me still typing “each” when I want to type “eat?”

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:46 pm

Dang, now my WTH is dyslexic

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
3:46 pm

Why you don’t each Churchs chicken wings…..LOL

Sweet Pea

July 22nd, 2011
3:47 pm

Blackfoote~I remember that and don’t miss those unsightly welts nor the sounds of dem whoopings! Thank God they disappeared, and DFACS wasn’t policing like they do now cause Mama dem would be on lockdown!

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
3:51 pm

Okay y’all what about Church’s honey butter biscuits?…and them wings were huuuge!

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
3:53 pm

Kimmie – No can do…makes me think steroids. If chickens getting steroids then we’re getting steroids. Then folks wonder why we can’t get the weight off easily…lol

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:54 pm

@Sweet Pea ~ all our Mamas would have been on lockdown. Mine would be under the jail…lawdy was glad when the beatings stopped. And very thankful living in “concrete jungle” we didn’t have any trees to go pull any switches from!

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
3:54 pm

I’d say about twice a year I want Church’s. A breast, a pepper and a pie…then I’m good. Not the sweet biscuits. I want a roll

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
3:54 pm

Sweet Pea:
Yep, those whoopings kept me in a straight line until the next time I got out of it. About a week later, it was always week to week I know sometimes they actually would get tired of whooping me.

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
3:55 pm

and DFACS wasn’t policing like they do now cause Mama dem would be on lockdown

Ain’t that the truth. No such thing as calling the po po on mama. You would get beat within an inch of your life just thinking that…lol

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:55 pm

See, there’s a silver lining in everything you just have to look for it (LOLOLOL).

Sweet Pea

July 22nd, 2011
3:55 pm

He’s from Iowa, however most of his relatives are in the Chicago/Milwaukee/Minneapolis area by the way of MISSISSIPPI!

Leggs…they are good to have as we all need to have something stored in case of a disaster…I can check them off my distaster preparedness list! :)

Kimmie~I hate Cream of Wheat..yuck

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
3:56 pm

Then folks wonder why we can’t get the weight off easily…

Not only that but try to figure out why these children are developing faster/younger than we did. Usually when there was a “big kid” in our class it was b/c (s)he got left behind and had to repeat the same grade over…

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:57 pm

Growing up did any of your parents take the phone with them to work? Mama would either put a cylinder lock on the rotary phone, or just put it in her purse and take it to work. Straight Meanie!

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
3:57 pm

It’s been fun remembering the good ole days! Gotta go!

Be easy & have a safe weekend!

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
3:57 pm

Cream of Wheat was disgusting. I preferred Wheatina. Loved Wheatina!

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
3:59 pm

Ain’t that the truth. No such thing as calling the po po on mama. You would get beat within an inch of your life just thinking that…

What?! Who callin di police? Mommy would do us one better and tell us, “When you call the police go pack you isht, cause you goin with them when they get here!”

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
4:00 pm

Growing up did any of your parents take the phone with them to work?

:shock:

That’s just wrong….

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
4:01 pm

Sassy – Not only that but try to figure out why these children are developing faster/younger than we did. Usually when there was a “big kid” in our class it was b/c (s)he got left behind and had to repeat the same grade over…

Yep…so true…funny You’re right though. If a kid was big it’s was because more than likely they were repeating. True too on the kids being sooo big nowadays.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
4:01 pm

should’ve been *pack your isht*..but y’all get it..

Sweet Pea

July 22nd, 2011
4:04 pm

True story told by my co-worker…a childhood friend of hers eye was knocked out by their mom as a result of their disobedience. I told her I couldn’t imagine explaining to others how I lost my eyesight. What ever that child did must have REALLY made that mom mad! SMH

Whew…I’m glad for my switches and welts cause losing an eyesight to a MKO(mama knockout) would be unsightly for real :/

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
4:05 pm

Oh my Lord…I’m eating Pistachio Cake from this place we ate. First time having….to die for.

Sweet Pea

July 22nd, 2011
4:06 pm

your eyesight not an eyesight…

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
4:07 pm

I can’t imagine hitting my child that hard let alone in her face. I grew up slapped left and right. I vowed I would never do that if I had children and I haven’t done it.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
4:07 pm

Yes Celisea they are getting so big so fast n early. One day at Walmart I saw this older guy hittin on a child..she had a body on her but she was a child and she looked at me with fear in her eyes. Before I knew it I told that guy,”Why are you hitting on this child?!…you’re wrong and nasty and need to walk away before I alert security!” He countered with,”I was trying to see who she was on the phone with”, so I said “You’re a pedophile and a liar…a BAD liar and @##$%%^^*&&$%^”. I got a little carried away cause she looked like a deer in headlights.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
4:09 pm

Reminds me of the time my mother had my younger brother hold his hand over the open flame on the stove for burning down a bldg. I thought that was so cruel and stood in the middle of the kitchen crying! It didn’t teach him a lesson because he then burned our couch! Mama nearly killed that boy!

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
4:12 pm

Yeah we had that old school discipline,too. Now-a-days if you even threaten them with a whoopin you can go to jail.

Sweet Pea

July 22nd, 2011
4:12 pm

Leggs~that was brutal, and I agree with your post.

Celisea~Have you tried any desserts from Southern Sweets Bakery in Decatur near the Farmers Market? Vanilla Bean and Caramel are my favs there! Pistachio sounds delicious!

Sassy~Get em’….It is disgusting to see guys gawking at kids….that is why I make sure my daughters are dressed appropriately although they are some well developed kids out there…they can’t help it but these perverted men can!

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
4:14 pm

Sassy – ”Why are you hitting on this child?!…you’re wrong and nasty and need to walk away before I alert security!”

That’s a dang shame….ain’t no telling what else

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
4:16 pm

Sweet Pea – I haven’t but sometime ago, I think somebody mentioned a bakery in Decatur. This is sooo good. It’s very light, not too heavy.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
4:24 pm

It is disgusting to see guys gawking at kids….

It is! It was like a relfex or something when I looked into her eyes and she looked back at me like “help me”…it is indeed a shame.

Celisea what was the name of that drink you said was kinda like the lemon drop?..at least I think it was you that mentioned it..

Sweet Pea

July 22nd, 2011
4:26 pm

This is sooo good…Girl, stop the teasing! I love Pistachio gelato so I am sure the cake is delish! :)

It’s been fun blogging with everyone! Have a cool and relaxed weekend Blog Fam!!

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
4:28 pm

Hope you enjoy your weekend as well, Sweet Pea!

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
4:28 pm

Byyy eeeee Sweet Pea!!

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
4:28 pm

Sassy – I think ITL mentioned Lemon Drop…I think it was her.

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
4:29 pm

A good weekend to you Sweet Pea…stop by the bakery :)

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
4:31 pm

Well I think I’m going to head on out,too. Today’s walk down memory lane was indeed fun. Now I wonder who’s gonna have fish n grits and fried bologna sandwiches this weekend…I’m sure nuff having some fish n grits in the morning and thinking about y’all as I prepare it :-)

Have a great weekend everybody!!

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
4:32 pm

Oh okay Celisea, thank you.

Celisea

July 22nd, 2011
4:34 pm

I’ll be here…boo hoo I got work up to my elbows. Being gone 4 hours sure didn’t help…

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
4:36 pm

Yes indeed. Walking down memory lane mostly put a smile on my face.

Purple Rain

July 22nd, 2011
4:45 pm

Hello all, how’s the day?

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
4:45 pm

I hope everyone has a fabulous weekend. Drink plenty of liquids cuz it’s gonna be a scorcher!

“Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see.”

PEACE!

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
4:46 pm

Daggoneit, I broke my own rule!