Friends don’t let friends cheat
I recently read an article about a groom to be who hooked up with a stripper at his bachelor party. Apparently, it was suggested/cheered on/witnessed by his friends to have one final romp. I thought about what kind of predicament the man found himself in and almost felt bad for the guy. Almost.
I mean if he stood his ground and said no, absolutely not, what is the worst that would have happened? He would have been clowned and maybe endure a few jokes about it. In my female and totally logical mind (ha), that is a small price to pay.
I am curious as to why people encourage someone to cheat on their mates. If you decide on your own, that’s one thing. Why go out of your way and prod a friend to do the same?
It may seem like this happens among males more but I think females are guilty of it just as much.
Do you think too many of us encourage, support, and condone infidelity?
When you are dating someone, do you ask them if they have ever cheated or been unfaithful? Do you find out what their views are about infidelity? What if all or most of their friends were unfaithful to their mates?
Happy Friday!
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Leggs
July 22nd, 2011
3:25 pm
@Celisea ~ Oh, ok…you don’t mix the fish in with the grits? I don’t like my food or mushed up together. Main reason I was leary about the shrimp and grits, but they were very good.
kimmie
July 22nd, 2011
3:26 pm
Sweet Pea – That was a Friday thing with us as well.
Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)
July 22nd, 2011
3:27 pm
Grandma come in the kitchen, here boy swallow this bread….
y’all gone get me in trouble…folks peeping in my office asking me what’s the matter
I don’t eat corn Leggs but canned salmon is good. That’s what I used for my Sunday salmon n grits…I’ve tried using other types of salmon(fillet/steak) and it just wasn’t the same. Nuthing like that can to add to the ambiance/memories.
Leggs
July 22nd, 2011
3:27 pm
And I haven’t had a bowl of grits since January 18th. I miss my grits (boo hoo, boo hoo).
Willie Dynamite
July 22nd, 2011
3:27 pm
I think my kids are throw-backs. They knew how to pick bones by 4 and eat blue crabs as well. My Son could shuck Oysters with the best of them by time he was 5.
Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)
July 22nd, 2011
3:29 pm
They knew how to pick bones by 4 and eat blue crabs as well.
BLUE CRABS!!!! IIIII EEEEE LOOOVE BLUE CRABS!!!
Leggs
July 22nd, 2011
3:30 pm
Canned salmon is good. I keep 2 cans in the cabinet at all times.
kimmie
July 22nd, 2011
3:31 pm
Leggs – Some folk like to mash stuff up in grits, like eggs. I’ve never seen people mix the fish & grits, but I’m sure some do it. For shrimp & grits, it’s usually like a gravy or scampi that’s served on top of the grits, at least that’s the way I’ve always had it.
I notice some northerners cring at the mention of fish & grits, maybe that’s what they were thinking? No, the grits are on the side, like mashed potatoes or rice.
Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)
July 22nd, 2011
3:31 pm
When we were little my fam and extended fam would get together early on Saturdays and go crabbin….man I miss that!! Where can one find FRESH blue crabs here?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 22nd, 2011
3:31 pm
Sweet Pea:
As a boy I had to pay for a lot shame on me’s. Grandma was first batter up with the switches, made me go get my own at that. They better not be skimpy cause that her madder. Then mom get home, they’d have their little chat about me. Then I’d be told take off all your clothes……LOL
Celisea
July 22nd, 2011
3:32 pm
Leggs – you don’t mix the fish in with the grits?
No way…lol Fish on the side
Bone in fish can be found at the curb market (down by Grady…ya’ll know the place..lol) or farmer’s market. I LOVE fish with bones. I have a cousin that will have it no other way. I’m always bumming from her when she cooks it.
Leggs
July 22nd, 2011
3:32 pm
@kimmie ~ I never knew that. I “assumed” the fish was mixed into the grits. I can easily eat that (when I go back to eating grits).
Leggs
July 22nd, 2011
3:33 pm
@Sassy ~ Farmer’s Market.
Leggs
July 22nd, 2011
3:34 pm
The club market by Grady is still there? That’s great.
Willie Dynamite
July 22nd, 2011
3:34 pm
Sassy – Dekalb Farmers market has them fresh/alive. You can usually go in and pick your own.
Leggs
July 22nd, 2011
3:36 pm
@kimmie ~ I’m a northerner and I’d always cringe. Never thought to ask if it’s mixed or not. Everyone in my family mashes their grits, eggs, bacon, or sausage together. I was the only one who didn’t. I use to ask my mother if I was adopted because I was so different on so many levels.
Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)
July 22nd, 2011
3:37 pm
Thanks Leggs and Willie!!
kimmie
July 22nd, 2011
3:39 pm
Leggs, yeah I never have liked food mashed together, like people do with babies! I can see where that would be a turnoff.
Same with the chicken & waffles – served on the side. But that’s actually a new thing with me. I’ve never been to Gladys Knights, but I did go to Roscoe’s Chicken & Waffles in LA. It was great, probably better to me than it really was. At the time, I’d been out there about a week and eaten mostly Mexican. I was so sick of it, I was missing comfort food! Rosco’s, with it’s old decor, felt like I was back in Atlanta on ML King at somewhere like Busy Bee!
Sweet Pea
July 22nd, 2011
3:39 pm
Kimmie~Fish and grits was a comfort food for me…bring back memories!!!
I notice some northerners cring at the mention of fish & grits..I’ve noticed this as well along with midwesterners too. My ex-husband eat sugary grits, and they serve rice for breakfast
Leggs~I keep canned salmon and sardines in the cabinet!
Sassy~We did too! Just had some Blue Crabs a few weeks ago..Delish It’s nothing like having a crab boil with corn and sausage in the mix!
Has anyone tasted the creamy grits at Copelands and/or the Flying Biscuit? I think it is the cream cheese and other cheeses that makes it yummy!
Sweet Pea
July 22nd, 2011
3:40 pm
meant to say ex-husband ate sugary grits and rice for breakfast…too much multi-tasking and failing quick at it…LOL
Celisea
July 22nd, 2011
3:40 pm
I love anything at Copelands
Into the Light
July 22nd, 2011
3:41 pm
So glad I decided to check out the blog this afternoon…y’all are bringing back happy memories. Fish and grits, salmon “crochet”s on a biscuit with lots of mustard, and fried bologna
Yum! Oh, and pimento cheese sandwiches.
Back to the pool. Hope you all have a great weekend.
Leggs
July 22nd, 2011
3:42 pm
@Sweet Pea ~ is your husband from Chicago. All my Chicago friends eats rice with their breakfast.
And, I’m going to start keeping sardines in my cabinet.
Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)
July 22nd, 2011
3:42 pm
It’s nothing like having a crab boil with corn and sausage in the mix
And a nice frosty beer on the side…man oh man. Gotta go to Dekalb…
Celisea
July 22nd, 2011
3:42 pm
We walk to Glady’s every now and then but for their signature plate I ain’t too crazy. I don’t like “big meat.” The wings are like pterodactyl…makes me thing something is wrong with ‘em.
Leggs
July 22nd, 2011
3:43 pm
your ex-husband…
kimmie
July 22nd, 2011
3:44 pm
Sweet Pea – One of my good friends’ husband made some grits and added cream cheese and they were so good. I’ve had them like that at other places. I’ve started adding it every now and then and my husband loves them.
Oh and sugary grits – nasty!
I realized folks that do that are looking at them like a cereal, whereas we see them kinda like rice or potatoes.
Leggs
July 22nd, 2011
3:45 pm
Reason why I don’t each Church’s chicken wings. Wings shouldn’t be that large! Naw, they can have that!
kimmie
July 22nd, 2011
3:45 pm
Celisea – You sound just like my best friends hubby – he hates “big meat” too! I do too – just means it’s been shot up with hormones!
Leggs
July 22nd, 2011
3:46 pm
WHT is wrong with me still typing “each” when I want to type “eat?”
Leggs
July 22nd, 2011
3:46 pm
Dang, now my WTH is dyslexic
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 22nd, 2011
3:46 pm
Why you don’t each Churchs chicken wings…..LOL
Sweet Pea
July 22nd, 2011
3:47 pm
Blackfoote~I remember that and don’t miss those unsightly welts nor the sounds of dem whoopings! Thank God they disappeared, and DFACS wasn’t policing like they do now cause Mama dem would be on lockdown!
Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)
July 22nd, 2011
3:51 pm
Okay y’all what about Church’s honey butter biscuits?…and them wings were huuuge!
Celisea
July 22nd, 2011
3:53 pm
Kimmie – No can do…makes me think steroids. If chickens getting steroids then we’re getting steroids. Then folks wonder why we can’t get the weight off easily…lol
Leggs
July 22nd, 2011
3:54 pm
@Sweet Pea ~ all our Mamas would have been on lockdown. Mine would be under the jail…lawdy was glad when the beatings stopped. And very thankful living in “concrete jungle” we didn’t have any trees to go pull any switches from!
Celisea
July 22nd, 2011
3:54 pm
I’d say about twice a year I want Church’s. A breast, a pepper and a pie…then I’m good. Not the sweet biscuits. I want a roll
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 22nd, 2011
3:54 pm
Sweet Pea:
Yep, those whoopings kept me in a straight line until the next time I got out of it. About a week later, it was always week to week I know sometimes they actually would get tired of whooping me.
Celisea
July 22nd, 2011
3:55 pm
and DFACS wasn’t policing like they do now cause Mama dem would be on lockdown
Ain’t that the truth. No such thing as calling the po po on mama. You would get beat within an inch of your life just thinking that…lol
Leggs
July 22nd, 2011
3:55 pm
See, there’s a silver lining in everything you just have to look for it (LOLOLOL).
Sweet Pea
July 22nd, 2011
3:55 pm
He’s from Iowa, however most of his relatives are in the Chicago/Milwaukee/Minneapolis area by the way of MISSISSIPPI!
Leggs…they are good to have as we all need to have something stored in case of a disaster…I can check them off my distaster preparedness list!
Kimmie~I hate Cream of Wheat..yuck
Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)
July 22nd, 2011
3:56 pm
Then folks wonder why we can’t get the weight off easily…
Not only that but try to figure out why these children are developing faster/younger than we did. Usually when there was a “big kid” in our class it was b/c (s)he got left behind and had to repeat the same grade over…
Leggs
July 22nd, 2011
3:57 pm
Growing up did any of your parents take the phone with them to work? Mama would either put a cylinder lock on the rotary phone, or just put it in her purse and take it to work. Straight Meanie!
kimmie
July 22nd, 2011
3:57 pm
It’s been fun remembering the good ole days! Gotta go!
Be easy & have a safe weekend!
Leggs
July 22nd, 2011
3:57 pm
Cream of Wheat was disgusting. I preferred Wheatina. Loved Wheatina!
Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)
July 22nd, 2011
3:59 pm
Ain’t that the truth. No such thing as calling the po po on mama. You would get beat within an inch of your life just thinking that…
What?! Who callin di police? Mommy would do us one better and tell us, “When you call the police go pack you isht, cause you goin with them when they get here!”
Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)
July 22nd, 2011
4:00 pm
Growing up did any of your parents take the phone with them to work?
That’s just wrong….
Celisea
July 22nd, 2011
4:01 pm
Sassy – Not only that but try to figure out why these children are developing faster/younger than we did. Usually when there was a “big kid” in our class it was b/c (s)he got left behind and had to repeat the same grade over…
Yep…so true…funny You’re right though. If a kid was big it’s was because more than likely they were repeating. True too on the kids being sooo big nowadays.
Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)
July 22nd, 2011
4:01 pm
should’ve been *pack your isht*..but y’all get it..
Sweet Pea
July 22nd, 2011
4:04 pm
True story told by my co-worker…a childhood friend of hers eye was knocked out by their mom as a result of their disobedience. I told her I couldn’t imagine explaining to others how I lost my eyesight. What ever that child did must have REALLY made that mom mad! SMH
Whew…I’m glad for my switches and welts cause losing an eyesight to a MKO(mama knockout) would be unsightly for real :/