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Friends don’t let friends cheat

I recently read an article about a groom to be who hooked up with a stripper at his bachelor party. Apparently, it was suggested/cheered on/witnessed by his friends to have one final romp. I thought about what kind of predicament the man found himself in and almost felt bad for the guy. Almost.

I mean if he stood his ground and said no, absolutely not, what is the worst that would have happened? He would have been clowned and maybe endure a few jokes about it. In my female and totally logical mind (ha), that is a small price to pay.

I am curious as to why people encourage someone to cheat on their mates. If you decide on your own, that’s one thing. Why go out of your way and prod a friend to do the same?
It may seem like this happens among males more but I think females are guilty of it just as much.

Do you think too many of us encourage, support, and condone infidelity?

When you are dating someone, do you ask them if they have ever cheated or been unfaithful? Do you find out what their views are about infidelity? What if all or most of their friends were unfaithful to their mates?

Happy Friday!

Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

272 comments Add your comment

SexyCool

July 22nd, 2011
12:35 pm

I figure I’m there to support the couple. If they make it a part of the ceremony, so be it. It’s just a silly tradition. There really is no black magic attached to it.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
12:37 pm

Oh the bouquet tossing is sure nuff comical Leggs.

And don’t forget about losing wigs or having it some type of sideways on your big noggin

I know right?! :lol:

SlimNu

July 22nd, 2011
1:03 pm

I must have the same charge as a bouquet because whenever I get up to catch one, it always goes the opposite way. I never have to jump or elbow anyone lol.

SlimNu

July 22nd, 2011
1:04 pm

I’ve seen boobies come out during a bouquet wrestling match. :shock:

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
1:08 pm

Dang Slim Nu…wha had happened to errbody?

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
1:15 pm

I had such an awesome time last weekend, guess I do some neglected chores this weekend.

SlimNu

July 22nd, 2011
1:20 pm

Sassy – I have no idea being that I really haven’t been too focused on the blog…been a weird week it seems.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
1:23 pm

It’s been a funny week indeed. I’ve been busy writing reports/assessments n such for our counterparts across the globe but I broke the monotony with the blog a few days. You know how things here tend to flux back n forth…

SlimNu

July 22nd, 2011
1:39 pm

Time for a new topic maybe?

Friends don’t let friends wear biking shorts in public
Friends don’t let friend pick their nose and eat the boogers
Friends don’t let friends drunk text their exes
Friends don’t let friend double dip

Willie Dynamite

July 22nd, 2011
1:40 pm

Afternoon All,

I’m sure the topic has changed but I’ll throw my lil bit in anyway.
While not side-stepping the cheating part i’ll say that whoever/however let the Bachelor party shenanigans out needs to be dealt with. If anything whether they encouraged or discouraged the fact that it got out will tell you that moving forward your dalliances will be advertised. methinks a better breed of friends is in order.
As for the actual Cheating – It is wrong plain and simple. It doesn’t need or deserve an explanation or reason. The reason/excuse doesn’t change the outcome.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
1:46 pm

School starts in 2 weeks. The school system has redistricted us. As a result, no school buses. She can stay at the school and finish her senior year, but I will have to take her to school every morning…I’m am not thrilled about this. Not at all.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
1:50 pm

Friends don’t let friends drunk text their exes

Awww dammit!..I’ve seen some of my girls do this…usually after a night out and they’re feeling all hot n bothered and the guys come-a-runnin…

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
1:50 pm

I’m venting…I apologize.

SlimNu

July 22nd, 2011
1:52 pm

Leggs – Is she driving yet? Own car to drive herself?

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
1:56 pm

but I will have to take her to school every morning…I’m am not thrilled about this. Not at all.

…the sacrifices of parenthood. I know I could never ever repay my mommy for all she’s done for my other siblings and I.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
1:57 pm

Slim Nu lil Leggs suffered a tragedy some time back(I think a friend of hers passed away as the result of an accident) and she’s been afraid to drive….not unless that’s changed.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:05 pm

Good memory, Sassy. She just went last week to get her permit. Her father is going to teach her how to drive. I’ve given her a few lessons, but since the accident, she said she’s in no rush to learn. All the running around she’s done this summer has slowly helped to change her mind.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
2:10 pm

Friends don’t let friends jump out of air planes with no parachute.
Friends don’t let friends stand in the middle of 285 North.
Friends don’t let friends see their mama naked.
Friends don’t let friends wear their underwear.
Friends don’t let friends hurt my friend.
Friends don’t let friends eat food 6 days old.
Friends don’t let friends use their blow up dolls.
Friends don’t let friends swim with sharks.
Friends don’t let friends use their food stamps.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
2:11 pm

She just went last week to get her permit.

Awww then, the baby….good for her.

All the running around she’s done this summer has slowly helped to change her mind.

Uhh huh I’m sure …getting chauffeured around sounds nice til you get busy and gotta go go go.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:11 pm

@Blackfoote ~ can they let them stand in the middle of 285 South????

Friends shouldn’t be friends w/anyone who has a blowup doll.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
2:16 pm

Leggs:
Some of them you want to put right in the middle of 285 west,east,and yep south……LOL

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
2:19 pm

Friends don’t let friends use their food stamps.

I ‘on know ’bout that one. I ain’t shamed to admit I used my friends stamps when we were all in college a few times when things were lean….we used to invent meals using Ramen noodles but you still got tired of it at times.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:21 pm

I have never, ever had Ramen noodles (thank goodness). But, I’ve eaten my share of SPAM so I’d say I’m even.

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
2:21 pm

Willie – Its possible nobody really told. Pics might have been taken, a text sent, convo overheard. Nothing stays completely secret anymore and a lot of cheaters are sloppy.

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
2:23 pm

Oohh, our next door neighbors just sent a text inviting us to a birthday dessert party tonight! I’m gonna be all up in that!!

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:27 pm

I can see your drool way over here, kimmie.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
2:29 pm

Sassy if I knew someone with food stamps I would use them no problem.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:30 pm

@Blackfoote ~ some people sell their foodstamps. For $50 cash you get $100 in stamp usage (lol).

kimmie

July 22nd, 2011
2:30 pm

Leggs – Yep! :lol:

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
2:30 pm

Leggs I don’t remember eatnig SPAM ever, but I haven’t had Ramen noodles since college. I know who ever owns that company is über rich. How can you cook SPAM?…is that an acronym?

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
2:32 pm

*How do you* cook SPAM is what I meant…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
2:32 pm

It seems like everybody has them, I’ve seen teenagers whip out a card. Am I missing something from the system?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
2:38 pm

Shee 50 for a hundred?
I saw these three ladys in a volkswagon van the damn thing was leaning on one side. They opened the rear door and it looked a they put the store inside of it. (Face Palm)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
2:39 pm

meant 100 for 50

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
2:40 pm

I take that back I’ll give fifty bucks for hundred….LOL

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
2:40 pm

Shee 50 for a hundred?

You’d be surprised….hang in the hood on/around the first & 15th and you can get ALL kinds of isht…

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:41 pm

I haven’t had SPAM since I’ve moved out of my mother’s house. The only way I ate it was fried. I hated SPAM and I hated those nasty little vienna sausages. Well, those were a little more tolerable than the SPAM. No, don’t believe it’s an acronym? But, I did love sardines. Ate a lot of those. Heck, I don’t eat much of anything I grew up on.

Willie Dynamite

July 22nd, 2011
2:42 pm

Food Stamps – They changed the game when they started using the cards that had a pin# instead of actual stamps. .50 cents on the $ was the going rate unless circumstance were involved.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:44 pm

@BMW ~ how you doing with the heat wave? I see it’s 102 in the City!!!

SexyCool

July 22nd, 2011
2:45 pm

One day I posted on the blog about wanting to use somebody’s EBT card, I was contacted offline about whether or not I was serious.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
2:47 pm

Willie D.
I’m telling you I saw a teenage girls pull out a card, me assuming you had to be a certain age to recieve. I guess it could have been her moms or somebody but it was unusual because she was buying about 30 dollars worth drinks, honey buns and candy…..LOL

SexyCool

July 22nd, 2011
2:47 pm

My neighbor offered me sixty cents on the dollar. Said she’d just give me her card and tell me the PIN.

SexyCool

July 22nd, 2011
2:49 pm

I did it a couple of times, but…not anymore. It was scresing with my conscience.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 22nd, 2011
2:49 pm

LOL….@SexyC

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:50 pm

@Blackfoote ~ her mother could be the “candy lady” in the neighborhood.

Sassy Black..Who gone check me BOO? ;-)

July 22nd, 2011
2:50 pm

I hated those nasty little vienna sausages.

OMG!! I ate my share of that with them little saltine crackers….my granny used to call them vi-eeeeenas. I remember the first time I saw “souse meat”….I used to wonder how come we couldn’t let it get warm til mine melted one time. I haven’t eaten that since I was a small child but one day I read the ingredients and was like :shock: They put errthang from the roota to the toota in that…

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:51 pm

It was scresing ← what does that mean?

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:52 pm

Exactly, Sassy, that’s why I don’t eat crap like that anymore. Mama fed us the best way she could, but damn, some of that stuff was plain NASTY and unhealthy!

SexyCool

July 22nd, 2011
2:53 pm

typo – screWing…

And I’ve noticed that since I stopped doing business with her, I don’t see her anymore.

Leggs

July 22nd, 2011
2:55 pm

@SexyC ~ I too have done it, but it’s been a long while.