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Is their home life a mystery?

One of our readers would like some advice about a new romance she is in. They have been on at least 4 dates and they met Memorial Day weekend. She has had him over to her place and he even met some of her friends. However, he has been a little less inclined to share his home life with her.

She has not seen where he lives, nor does he talk about his personal life that much. Obviously, it makes her uneasy because she is starting to think he is concealing something or someone. Do you think it is a red flag if you don’t get invited over to someone’s place?

It is possible that he is a private person. How quickly do you let people in – so to speak?

When do you introduce the person you are dating to friends and family? Do you wait until you are in an exclusive relationship?

What would you do if the person you are interested in is too mysterious for you? Do you snoop and do your own digging or cut your losses at the “shady” behavior?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

429 comments Add your comment

Simple Man....

July 21st, 2011
8:18 am

LOL…Are you serious???? Please tell me that this woman is not that blind…….

ali

July 21st, 2011
8:19 am

He’s married!!

missy

July 21st, 2011
8:19 am

Only 4 dates since Memorial Weekend? He’s either not into her as much as she is into him or he’s got a wife and kids at home…just saying!

NLT

July 21st, 2011
8:29 am

Soulds like he’s married or just isn’t that interested. She should move on. At least she’s asking the question early and didn’t wait for months.

Mark B

July 21st, 2011
8:32 am

Google him or check out Facebook. Might get lucky.

Him

July 21st, 2011
8:50 am

I just like a little bit of privay. Okay?

Button

July 21st, 2011
8:57 am

I can’t expect my date to move at the same pace as I am when it comes to home invitations and meeting family/friends. Face it, some people move too fast for whatever reason when it comes to this issue. Just because you invite me to your home doesn’t mean I should follow suite. It doesn’t work that way. Wise if the reader has reservations @ date for not extending an invitation to his/her house then the reader should let her/his date know how she/he feels and take it from there. Jumping to conclusion never solve anything. He/she could be married or just not ready to let her/him in his/her circle yet. And besides it’s only been a little over a month, and 4 dates, give it time and space, really what’s the rush?

good morning :)

CurlyPuff

July 21st, 2011
9:06 am

Hi everyone!

I would have to say she needs to consider it a big Red Flag. Only she can decided if it’s a showstopper, though. My guess is she already knows. Once a women feels something in her gutt that won’t go away, it’s true–or some version of the truth. I am a secretive person but I still let out a little bit about me. It bothers me if I have seeing and talking to someone for a couple of months and I still don’t know anything new about him or more than I did one day one. RED D&MN FLAG!

blaley

July 21st, 2011
9:09 am

A woman with kids should NOT invite a man to her place for quite some time, until she is very sure of him. That will probably take more than 4 dates. That doesn’t mean she’s married. However, the reverse is not true for a man. If he’s not talking about his personal life, she hasn’;t seen his place, or met any of his friends…. RED FLAG. Be careful. Doesn’t mean he’s married, but it sure looks like a duck…

My rule for dates: Google em, Cyberstalk em, find out who you ar dealing with..

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
9:11 am

“She has not seen where he lives, nor does he talk about his personal life that much.”

Classic river rat. She reads the blog, surprising.

Good Day Folks:

Button

July 21st, 2011
9:16 am

My question to the reader, how is the communication between you and your date? if the communication is limited then there could be a chance dude (taking a guess here) is hiding something. This is such a toss up b/c dude could be innocent and really taking things slow. I say talk to the guy and let him know how you feel. But whatever you do don’t sound like you’re accusing him of anything. Nobody wants to be accused of doing something they are not doing and you don’t want to come across as insecure or controlling, That could be a red flag for him to bounce.

MsMarriedUp

July 21st, 2011
9:20 am

I’d too see it as a red flag, for whatever the reason. However I’ve known people to be ashamed about their home/background, etc.. Like most have said, the person likely has another life stashed.

My advice; just ask. ‘Hey, let’s hang out with your people,’ or ‘at your place.’ Instead of wondering, open up and communicate. I’d come right out with it, ‘what’s up with you?’ ‘You hidin’ something,’ ‘embarrassed’, ‘what, you don’t like me?’ …but you don’t have use my words. You can phrase it your way. ;-)

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
9:22 am

Morning,

I wouldn’t say he’s married but I wouldn’t count it out either. I wouldn’t say he’s sitting home twiddling his thumbs either. It’s a red flag (in my book) and should be duly noted. You shouldn’t be nervous about asking what you want to know or asking around something that’s bugging you. It might not be anything but if you don’t ask you won’t know. Are you afraid to rock the boat? Are you afraid of what the outcome might be? Yes, it would seem rather odd to me that he’s allowing me to open up and share and just naturally not reciprocate the same. If you’re opening up and sharing personal things about you and your home life and family, at some point it seems natural that he would do the same.

SSB

July 21st, 2011
9:23 am

We as women are to quick to share our personal information -which includes our demographical information, family and friends and we no nothing about the person we are dating. with four dates you should be meeting @ a neutral location anyway(resturant, movies etc.) Not that he’s not willing to share his personal information with you it’s just you shared your information too soon….now when u move foward this is somebody else that has all your personal business which is useless to them because you are no longer with them. Just think everytime you meet someone and go on a date a couple of times you let them into your world…Do you not realize how many people no your business? Just a lilttle food for thought. Possibility he might not be hiding his personal life just not willing to share it with you with only four dates but usually in a case like this it’s something about his living arrangements that he’s not willing to share.Think about It!

My Thoughts

July 21st, 2011
9:23 am

This man might be hiding something, perhaps she should ask him just that?

Some people (myself included) appreciate taking things slow, gives you a chance to actually learn about a person. See them. Believe it or not, most of the time people show and tell you exactly who they are from the very first time you meet.

Those who have ears, let them hear.

Button

July 21st, 2011
9:35 am

I’ve met men who shared their information from date one. I doesn’t mean that they was that into me either, that’s just how they were. I DID NOT follow suite and started divulging my information to reciprocate either.

MsMarriedUp

July 21st, 2011
9:37 am

ooo and yes, but this is for the guy. If he is hiding something, he’d better go on and open up before that snooping and background checking starts. I hear that’s what most dating folks are into nowadays! Nothing like gettin’ your version out first.

Exiled!

July 21st, 2011
9:39 am

Good morning!!!

Wise Diva,why don’t u provide a lil more detail?

She invited him to her house,it went down and Now she’s all gaga!!?

See,classic case of too much speed on the part of the chic…

Button

July 21st, 2011
9:44 am

@Exiled, you might have something there @ it went down :lol:

Anthony Weiner

July 21st, 2011
9:50 am

I prefer to just sext.

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
9:51 am

Good morning. Not sure what got up my ass in the middle of the night, but I am in a funk this morning. Oh well, life goes on….

On topic ~ I agree wholeheartedly with Button’s 8:57.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
9:51 am

Button:
As a man I would be (just me) very secure and comfortable sharing information on a first date. I wouldn’t expect the same from you, but at some point if we keep going I need to know who you are.

kimmie

July 21st, 2011
9:53 am

Morning All!

Okay, if they met Memorial Day weekend, we’re talking almost 2 months now. If its only been 4 dates, and their not even hanging out at his place, that’s not much time spent together. Assuming he’s not married or shacking with someone else, it’s possible he’s just not into her that much. At the very least, he’s dating a few other women and is just not bringing all of them over to his place. She’s not high enough on the rotation yet to warrant an invite to the batcave. Part of playing that game is not revealing much about his personal life. If he brought her around his friends, something might slip about the other girl he brought to the BBQ last week! Either way, she’s thinking they are on the road to boyfriend/girlfriend status, but to him they are just kicking it err now & then. Sure, he’ll meet her friends and chill at her place, no sweat off his brow. But no, he’s not compelled to do the same.

I’ve actually been in a situation just like this. A friend introduced us, so I knew he was not married. He wasn’t seeing others either. He had a very nice apartment and a lovely family & friends. He just used to try to keep me on edge. He was playing me. When I backed off and started being just as elusive as he was, he suddenly became an open book. But by then, I really was not that into him anymore, so I kicked it with him for awhile, then moved on to someone more mature.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
9:53 am

Leggs:
A Blush and a (Face Palm).

Bill Clinton

July 21st, 2011
9:55 am

Sorry, I have not brought you to my home. Hillary does not like for me to bring friends home when she’s here and the neighbors all have cameras. ;)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
9:59 am

Ms. Reader one way or a another you need to ask questions to clear your uneasiness. If he’s hesitant to give you any answers, then form your own.

Button

July 21st, 2011
9:59 am

@Blackfoote you share what you want when you want but you can’t expect your date to do the same just so soon jmo

Sharing information should be a personal decision, what works for sue doesn’t mean it’s going to work for you. Use your own judgement. You can’t copy cat on everything when it comes to relationship/dating.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
10:00 am

The adult thing to do would be to ask him directly instead of getting strangers opinions.To many unknown variables to make a informed decision or even speculate on what is going on. They could have jumped in the sack to soon and he is keeping her at arms list. Or he is moving at a slow pace, he could be married or he could still be dating other women. He may live with his mother or something. He could be a good guy but has other priorities in life. She may want more than he wants.

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
10:07 am

@Blackfoote ~ what you blushing for? Are you over there a wishing and a hoping (lolol)?

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
10:10 am

Four dates in two months? Buddy must have an awfully full schedule. I’m just wondering how he has her so into him with that behavior.

As I found out about someone who I dated in the past, his standard operating procedure was to engage in a text/email/IM campaign that gave the appearance of always being available, not only to me, but to the other six or seven chicks he had in his rotation.

I politely bowed out of that circus.

Him

July 21st, 2011
10:12 am

I work my tail off for a modest salary. I go home and take care of my mom, who I invited to live with me when her health began to fail after Dad died. My life is boring. I date in order to get OUT of the house and enjoy myself a little bit. If I tell her these things, she will probably never see me again, and I cannot blame her. If I don’t tell her these things, she will probably become suspicious and — at some point — decide not to see me again. So, I just leave things as they are and play this out for as long as I can because she is nice and I enjoy being with her. When she leaves, I’ll try to find someone else who I can date again for awhile until the cycle repeats itself. Such is life.

kimmie

July 21st, 2011
10:13 am

The adult thing to do would be to ask him directly

Purple – That’s the only way to go, at least for me it would.

You really have to do what’s comfortable for you. After dealing with Mystery Man and a few others, I learned about what worked for me when it came to sharing. Married is a no-brainer. Whether he’s seeing someone else or just not into you, it equals the same. He’s unavailable to you except on a very limited basis. I learned I was uncomfortable with men that held certain parts of their life off limits. Not only off limits physically, but even in conversation. After 2 months I don’t expect to have a key to his house. I don’t have to have met the family or any of his friends yet. But after 2 months I should know some basics about his life, where he lives and what’s going on. If he’s living with his mama or is a hoarder and embarrassed for me to see his place, I need to know by then so I can make an informed decision.

There is a difference between being private and being evasive. I consider myself somewhat private, but I’m not a mystery either.

MzNewy

July 21st, 2011
10:16 am

@ Kimmie – I totally agree with your 9:53.

I think she is not high enough on the rotation to warrant intro to friends and family. She is not a franchise player but just a bench warmer, subject to being traded at any moment. Too bad for her if she gave up the goods and got sprung. 4 dates in two months smh…too soon to look for anyone to open up. She needs to exercise her right to be a free agent and bounce.

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
10:16 am

Him – you need to learn to be a better judge of character when it comes to picking dates….or….STOP LYING.

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 21st, 2011
10:17 am

WISE…tell your girl to run like hell. That dude is a Liar and a loser! He will eventually start lying about the death of relatives, he job or lack there of, places he’s been, he may claim to live some place he does not. Then he may proceeed to attempt to rip her off. He may be a con man with warrants! He may be an IBM (Instant Baby Maker). Or pehaps he has bodies in a basement somewhere. Basically he is a sociopathic narcissist! That show, “Who the BLEEP Did I Marry?” is a testament that you can no longer give people the benefit of the doubt. Doubt nothing and question everything is my motto! If it walks and qaucks like a duck…d@mnit, it’s a friggin’ duck! She can save her self the trouble…run like a brotha from child support! :lol:

Sassy Black..Good is good...GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
10:20 am

Four dates in two months? Buddy must have an awfully full schedule. I’m just wondering how he has her so into him with that behavior.

Cosign. First and foremost it’s apparent that she’s into him much more than he’s into her. If a man wants to be (really wants to be) with a woman he WILL make it happen. Never make a person a priority when you’re only their option…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
10:20 am

Button, that is my pace if I’m into you. I would never expect a woman to be as transparent. I’m as private as the next, If were dating and I’m into you it’s my duty to erase your uneasiness and show you I’m not the Phantom of the Opera.

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
10:21 am

BTW, Him – that sounds like a typical married cheater’s line of bllsht.

Fion

July 21st, 2011
10:22 am

I think “Him” is laying out the plausibility of a possible scenario. Since the room is full of speculation, the thesis shouldn’t be discounted.

Exiled had good point as well@ 9:39.

For Real

July 21st, 2011
10:22 am

4 dates in two months!!!!

4 dates in two months!!!!

4 dates in two months!!!

And he is the one with the red flags???? This chick is a crazy and ole boy knows it!!!!!

4 dates in two months!!!!

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
10:22 am

4 dates in two months smh…too soon to look for anyone to open up. She needs to exercise her right to be a free agent and bounce.

Okay?! Let it go and K.I.M.

why oh why

July 21st, 2011
10:23 am

There are 4 situations that going on. The 1rst is he is married. He is keeping the personal life to a minimal and the less he says the less he has to lie about. 2nd is they are not exclusive. If they have only gone out 4 times since Memorial Day then he has others to occupy his time. This is not a bad thing if he has not told her he wants to be exclusive. If I am not exclusive with a person, they don’t meet my friends and they don’t come to my house.- that is to cut down on stalkers. If she has introduced him to her friends after 4 dates that seems sporadic, then she is moving way to fast and needs to slow down… He has no reason to meet your inner circle if he is not committed to you. 3rd is he is gay. He is in the closet, down low or whatever the term is these days. He is dating her to keep a low profile. And number 4. He is just straight up putting up a front. The car you see him drive, maybe his mother’s, the clothes he has on may be his brother’s and the money he paid with may have come from his sister. He may be in a half-way house and doesn’t want you to know. He is not showing you the real him.

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
10:24 am

In that case, For Real, why does he not break it off?

Oh my God!

July 21st, 2011
10:26 am

This isn’t rocket science. Procedures for the clueless:

1. Ask him what you’d like to know.

2. If the answers satisfy your curiosity, stay with him. If they don’t, move on.

Try it. I think you’ll find it works pretty well.

Lack of communication is usually one of the nails in the coffin of a healthy relationship.

For Real

July 21st, 2011
10:26 am

GOT DAYUM BMW!!!! You need an Easter Hug. Come here….

kimmie

July 21st, 2011
10:27 am

Blackfoote/BMW – Really the minute I have to sit and question things and have my imagination run wild is the minute I start formulating my exit plan.

“Mysterious”, “Complicated” – not sexy at all to me!

All this “well you can’t expect him to move at your pace” stuff is for the birds too. Find someone you can move at the same pace with then, one you’re in sync with. Not someone you’ve got to accomodate to the point you’re uncomfortable and not being yourself.

For Real

July 21st, 2011
10:28 am

ScooL: Break what off? There is nothing to break off.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
10:28 am

You all are funny, why can’t she be held accountable for even putting up with or still hanging around someone who is not meeting her standards. Maybe she is just not that interesting. Assuming is immature, ask him directly. You can ask a blog anonymously but you can’t ask him. Ma’am, you are not fit for a relationshp.

Really???

July 21st, 2011
10:28 am

lol wut? cumm in mi butt ^_^

Lovely Brown

July 21st, 2011
10:30 am

Good Morning all! :-)

I don’t understand. If she (WD’s friend) has questions about dude she should ask him. I would not sit there and wonder, talk…..open your mouth and get the info you are looking for! Then again, I believe that the reason why some folk don’t ask the person that they are interested in particular questions is because they don’t really want to know the truth….they woul rather continue to function in the fantasy that they have of that person. She may find out that dude is not married and does not have other chicks, he just is not feeling her like she is feeling him. Or he may just be a person that likes to take it slow and actually get to know who he is dealing with before he lets someone into his personal space….oh the horror of that being the reason why in this day and time of TMI :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
10:30 am

Leggs:
That caught me off gaurd. Wolves are cunning creatures….LOL

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
10:31 am

Why should he break it off, he is getting what he wants.

Button

July 21st, 2011
10:31 am

LOL @ all of why oh why

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 21st, 2011
10:31 am

HIM….then you are being deceitful. If what you say is true, then of course you are doing what is expected of you when it come to aging or ailing parents. But at the same time you are not giving the lady the chance to make a yay or nay decision on if dating you is a worth or a waste of time. Would you like being an “in the meanwhile date” to a woman when you are looking for a real relatiosnhip, and she knows that she is keeping you in the dark? You would be mad as hell. To me it takes too much work to play the I will let you know info in spurts game. I am all about putting all the cards on the table so we both know what the other wants, (if one wants a relationship and the other does not, split now and move on to find someone with the same like mindframe), we learn of expectations, will stand for, won’t stand for, automatic deal-breakers, etc. Things are MUCH easier that way. But because grwon @$$ folks can’t be upfront and NOT act like children, and greedy lil’ b@stards…is why we have all the problems that we do! I can’t do the representative crap either. Unless I am a performing, it takes way too much work to be anybody or anything than I really am. When someone meets me, what they see and get on day one…is the same that will continue to get. Granted, we all grow and mature. But that is totally different than plain ole deception, the old bait and switch. Men, stop lying and tell females BS just because you want the booty. You are too old for that crap once you hit 25! Stop acting like the old head in the 18 and up club! Grow up. Ladies, stop being delusional and thinking YOU can be the one to tame or change the Playboy. It will either take GOD or himself to make that change!

Ok….I am hopping of my soapbox…for now! :lol:

For Real

July 21st, 2011
10:31 am

ScooL: The only relationship going on is in her head. Hell ole boy probably doesn’t know the depths of her psychoticness.

Dayum For Real just made a new word. I’m going to put that word right up there with Jessie Jackson’s “joggatize”.

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
10:32 am

Fion – possibly – but let’s break some of these statements down.

“My life is boring.” You working a full time job and taking care of your sick mother. How do you have time to be “bored”?

“I date in order to get OUT of the house and enjoy myself a little bit.” – If he is dating for entertainment (which he is well in his rights to do) and she is dating for a relationship. Well……

“If I tell her these things, she will probably never see me again, and I cannot blame her.” – If you tell her what? That you work a lot and have your mother living with you because she is sick and you are taking care of her? or…That you are dating just to break up the monotony? Case 1 – if she leaves, so be it. Either she was not of strong character or she is exercising her right to step away from a decision that she chooses not to take on…kinda like someone choosing not to date someone with kids. Case 2 – again…if she is dating because she wants to be in a serious relationship, you’re right. You can’t blame her for gettin’ the hell on.

“So, I just leave things as they are and play this out for as long as I can because she is nice and I enjoy being with her. When she leaves, I’ll try to find someone else who I can date again for awhile until the cycle repeats itself. ” – Punk move. Too much game playing in relationships as it is. Be upfront with a person and allow them the choice of making a decision to be involved with you.

Josh Hamilton

July 21st, 2011
10:33 am

Here’s what I would do: Lure him to a baseball game and get front row seats in the first inning. Ask him straight up whether he is cheating on you or not, if he is, give me the signal and I’ll take care of the rest…

THIRST FOR BLOOD ‘11

chris

July 21st, 2011
10:33 am

why is everyone over reacting? maybe the dude has dated some crazy women. there are quite a lot of you. could it possibly be that the guy had a bad past relationship or a stalker or something crazy? just as much of a chance that is whats happening. but all women want to do is say….”hes married or it has to be a problem with him…maybe hes weary of women…and rightfully so.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
10:33 am

I say this with full confidence, this is all her fault. She chooses to still deal with it.

Simple Man....

July 21st, 2011
10:33 am

Sooooooo the women here are suggesting that ole boy just put all of his bizness in the street in the first four dates????

Him

July 21st, 2011
10:36 am

SexyCool — I’ve been around long enough to know that — when push comes to shove — no-one else really wants to help care for someone else’s pets, kids, or any other family member for which you have responsibility. Some might sincerely think they won’t mind, but when faced with actually doing it after the inevitable hum-drum settles in with the partner that drew them into it, the appeal quickly wears off and things very easily take an ugly turn. Hard to blame anyone — that’s just the way it is. Would consider getting rid of a pet (if I had one) under those circumstances, but kids (if I had them) and Mom are here to stay.

Button

July 21st, 2011
10:36 am

@ Josh how can you cheat on someone you’re just dating?

kimmie

July 21st, 2011
10:36 am

why can’t she be held accountable for even putting up with or still hanging around someone who is not meeting her standards.

Purple – I don’t think anyone is saying she’s not to be held accountable, at least from what I’m reading. Whatever his reasons are for holding back, and they could be quite innocent and honorable, he’s not letting her in and most of us are saying she should move on.

Even if she took him back to her place and it went down on the first date, so what? She intoduced him to her friends after so what? They’ll be some guy out there that’ll be just fine with that. Folks have gotten married and moved at faster paces. She just needs to look for someone who’s comfortable moving at the same pace she is.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
10:37 am

Simple Man, I am just amazed that few are holding her accountable at all. Even if the guy is innocent or guilty of any wrong doings.

For Real

July 21st, 2011
10:38 am

Amem Purp!!! The ladies are so quick to every reason under the sun why ole boy is wrong but place no blame on the chick.

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
10:38 am

Plito – no one absolved her of any responsibility. Whereas he seems to have too much going on his life, she doesn’t have enough. Because quite frankly if I’d only been on a date with a person four times in two months, I’m probably really not going to give him too much thought….UNLESS….I’d slept with him. Which could result in an initial o-induced clouding of my vision, but er, um…yeah…no dizzle is good enough to make me set up camp in FantasyLand.

Yall are right about the fact that babygirl is in this relationship by herself.

Button

July 21st, 2011
10:39 am

@ chris there’s so many possibilities with the dude but he’s the only one with the answer of what’s really going on. We sometimes always go for the negative instead of being optimistic. Besides it’s only been 4 dates!

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 21st, 2011
10:39 am

SIMPLE MAN…I am not saying put your SS number, Credit Score and family deep dark secrets out on front street. …dayum, If I wanted a mystery, I’d join Scooby Doo’s crew and go hunting for msysteries to solve! I should not have to be Sherlock Homegirl to find out about a grown @$$ man. I personally will ask a guy what I want to know. If he proceeds to lie, then he is a scumbag who should kicked in the groin with pointy stillettos! I am woman enough to either tell the truth or simple say I do not wish to answer that question at that moment. If he decides that that answer will not suffice, he is free to exit stage left! If the table were turned and it were me, I would respect that. Not saying that I’d like it, but I sure would respect him for it.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
10:39 am

So the resolution is for her to move on. See situations like this happen when you lead with your heart and not your mind first. DATE LIKE A MAN! Make sure she/he is worthy before jumping in and introducing people. Gave up the goods to quick because you thought it would last, now in the 4th month you are the same as you started….just a random piece of ass

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
10:40 am

Kimmie exactly if they dont’ want to share no matter the reason fine with me, really a lot I don’t care to know but give me some basics and were’re cool.

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
10:40 am

the women here are suggesting that ole boy just put all of his bizness in the street in the first four dates????

No not all of his bizness perse….but if they’re not on the same romantic page then she needs to know so she can go….S.T.A.T. She should’ve been gone already…

Josh Hamilton

July 21st, 2011
10:41 am

I think you misremembered what I said Button. What I meant was, if they’re lying, then I will, let’s just say ‘take them out’ for you. (kill them)

I’m like Hamilton, like the old Josh Hamilton

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
10:42 am

Maybe she has a dirty house and bad hygeine and he is hoping she will get it together eventually or maybe she had friends who are finer than her and he is biding his time to get to them. HE probably just doesn’t like her enough and he visits her on his slow days.

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
10:42 am

ALL in business? ALL? I think the following are standard get to know you questions:

So, where do you work? I’m a security guard downtown.

What part of town do you live in? Decatur

Do you live alone? No. I take care of my mother. She lives with me.

What do you do with your free time? What free time? I work and I take care of my mother.

For Real

July 21st, 2011
10:43 am

Okay, lets set the record str8.

Blog ladies after 4 dates in 2 months what information do need to know about a dude? (sex doesn’t matter)

Blog dudes the same question for you.

Exiled!

July 21st, 2011
10:43 am

Sexycool..why does he not break it off?

Ha…

a lion chasing away a goat falling onto it’s path.

ComeOn SexxyCool. U wiser than that!

Some women are just desperate Period!

She was trying(proly) to reel him in by inviting him to the crib and giving it Up.

You know ladies,that happens.

But in this case it’s(proly) not working…

Him

July 21st, 2011
10:43 am

Oh … I haven’t been deceitlful … she hasn’t asked. If she asks pointed questions about my personal life, I will answer them as honestly as I’m able. Instead, she — apparently — ‘just wonders’ and looks here for advice. She is nice, and I enjoy being with her, but I’m afraid she’s not very smart. Oh well — can’t have everything.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
10:43 am

Sassy, wouldn’t you think a sane woman would know if it were 30 days in between dates that she should move on? Especially if they live int he same city?

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
10:44 am

If a man wants to be (really wants to be) with a woman he WILL make it happen

Cosign – Money and time are the two things men will do for a woman they’re truly intersted in.

This is not rocket science. She’s needs to ask what she wants to know rather than asking…should she ask. If she can’t get straight answers she needs to get in the wind…with the quickness. Next couple of months when it’s time for their scheduled date, she’s need to get ghost.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
10:45 am

LOL….Purple have given BMW that spanking yet? She needs the open hand method.

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
10:45 am

Oh…and IF I’d slept with him too quick and finally saw reason after I came out of the haze of o’s (hopefully), then I would count it as a life experience and move on. No use being clingy and needy and bitter and let it take up any more of my life than necessary.

SERIOUSLY?!?!??!

July 21st, 2011
10:45 am

Seriously…If he is single (which I SERIOUSLY doubt) then he obviously isn’t THAT into her. She is his fall back girl and “thing to do” when he doesn’t haven’t anything better on his calendar. If a guy is into you, he WILL make time for you; plain and simple! And if he isn’t then WHY THE HELL ARE YOU MAKING TIME FOR HIM!?!?! Have more respect for yourself women!!!!

Josh Hamilton

July 21st, 2011
10:46 am

So, where do you work? The Ballpark at Arlington

What part of town do you live in? Dallas

Do you live alone? I live alone, and I work alone.

What do you do with your free time? Murders and Executions, while battling my former demons.

THIRST FOR BLOOD ‘11. 6′3 f’ing drilling home runs

kimmie

July 21st, 2011
10:46 am

chris – That’s cool if he’s cautious. He’s within his rights. I just wouldn’t want to date him.

Simple – To your question, speaking for myself, no. But there is a difference between being private and being evasive and sneaky. You know that.

Simple, you have said you enjoy dating and you see more than one lady. Can you say your behavior models the behavior of the guy in question here?

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
10:47 am

What the heck is him is talking about???

Simple Man....

July 21st, 2011
10:47 am

Lets flip this around…If this were a woman and she was “particular” about the info she gave a dude..Or if a he had not been to her home after four dates would the ladies assume her isht was shady as well ????

Baam

July 21st, 2011
10:47 am

She gotta ask him about it, see what he says. Of course, she gotta be delicate so it don’t sound paranoid or psycho. But still, guessing and speculating is just that.

Amazing to me how many people with “relationship issues won’;t start by TALKING to the other person FIRST. In person. Look in their eyes, watch body language, get the feel of it.

Purple Rain 10:28 said it all. NEXT TOPIC. this one is dead.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
10:48 am

What the heck is him talking about? This place is becoming the playground for lunatics.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
10:48 am

Blackfoote, BMW has tourettes or something, open hand spankings will not help. Just don’t fall asleep around her.

BMW are you one of those chitty chatty women on the first date that doesn’t let the guy say a word? LOL

For Real

July 21st, 2011
10:49 am

Purp: DIRTY HOUSE!!!! Man you would not believe the number of nasty ass women walking around this city. Me and my crew were just discussing this the other day. When did women stop being clean? We got an answer when a several women overheard our conversation. Their answer was “So long as my daughter has good grades she doesn’t have to worry about cooking and cleaning. I’m her mother and that’s what I’m suppose to do”

Button

July 21st, 2011
10:49 am

@ purple maybe he’s not ready to take her home yet. plain and simple.

4 dates in 2 months? well at least he’s still coming around..lol he must like something about the lady.

classic addictive personality

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
10:51 am

“…the minute I have to sit and question things and have my imagination run wild is the minute I start formulating my exit plan.”

Not only that, why is she questioning his home life, friends and family after only 4 dates. Enjoy the dates and see if there’s a true connection where they will want to become exclusive. Now, if they’ve already shared the milk and cookies, that’s a mistake on her part. Sorry, but that’s how I see it.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
10:52 am

Blog ladies after 4 dates in 2 months what information do need to know about a dude? (sex doesn’t matter)

1. If you’re married
2. Rotation?
3. If not, what’s up with few far and inbetween
4. If you’re seeing dudes on the side
5. If you’re employed
6. If you’re living with your mama

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
10:52 am

For Real, that was actually said with a straight face to you?

Button, yep maybe so.

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
10:52 am

For Real – to answer your question.

Nothing. Because there wouldn’t be a date number 5.

Button

July 21st, 2011
10:53 am

co sign @ Leggs

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
10:53 am

wouldn’t you think a sane woman would know if it were 30 days in between dates that she should move on?

Am I bloggin in Chinese? That’s what I’ve said…per my last post. She should’ve been gone a long time ago. At least that’s what I thought I said per my 10:40.

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
10:54 am

Nothing. Because there wouldn’t be a date number 5

neeext….

SERIOUSLY?!?!??!

July 21st, 2011
10:55 am

I agree with Purple Rain on this is completely HER fault! Why does this girl not see more value in herself? What is wrong with women these days? Are they all just so desperate that they will put up with anything that a man is willing to throw them???? UGH! It makes me sic kand embarrassed to be a single woman in this city!

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
10:56 am

They haven’t been dealing with each other long enough to have to develop a plan of exit. Just leave. LOL

Simple math. I want to go out with someone, they are not available when I went to see them or talke etc. Guess what, I don’t deal with that person. LOL she would not get past the 30 day mark, without a valid explanation. Heck even if it were valid I probably still wouldn’t wait. i would think that they have to much going on to be with me.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
10:56 am

I wouldn’t ask those type questions with dates being few far and in between but with no clarity, we would default completely to being done.

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
10:56 am

@Him ~ you are dating some very shallow people. I can’t imagine any woman walking that wouldn’t understand and APPRECIATE what you’re doing.

kimmie

July 21st, 2011
10:57 am

4 Real – I’ve heard guys say the same thing actually, about dirty women. Actually, once I had invited a guy over to my house for the first time. He proceeded to the kitchen and opened my fridge and pantry. He smiled. Then he asked to use the restroom. I was looking at him like he was crazy. He explained he was checking to see if I was nasty because his last lady friend was and he couldn’t deal with it again.

I guess I passed the test. :shock:

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
10:57 am

Reminds me of a guy that I met at a Hawks game a few years back. He would call like once a week, trying to get me to meet him out somewhere, saying he had just come back in town from business travel and he wanted to see me. I would decline the impromptu invitations. After about a month, I said to him, “Look, if you don’t have enough interest in or respect for me to call and plan a proper date, you can just stop calling me. I won’t be mad and both of our lives will go on.”

Last time I’ve ever spoke to him in life. True story. (lol)

Button

July 21st, 2011
10:59 am

@ Sassy, why should she should’ve been gone long time ago?

Fion

July 21st, 2011
10:59 am

@ Leggs
You would be amazed.

Just sayin’

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
11:00 am

Sexy Cool, I am sorry but I was just really working hard on getting my bedazzled socks business off the ground. Care to me at the Hawks Season opener?

Sassy, me chinese me play joke me put……..LOL

A dirty woman’s house would make me question her body cleanliness.

For Real

July 21st, 2011
11:01 am

Purp: Yep. Right in all 7 of our faces. The follow up question was how often do you clean your house and the answer was “I don’t clean my house I get a service for that!” Next questions was how often do you cook and the answer was “I don’t”. Our response was DAYUMMMMMMMMMMMMM!!!!!!

Celisea: Can you expound upon your #3?

ScooL: Exactly!!

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
11:02 am

For Real, I bet she was single too wasn’t she?

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
11:02 am

kimmie – I would have then had to have him take me to his house for a similar look-see.

Don’t come up in my space performing a home inspection and not expect one in return.

Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)

July 21st, 2011
11:05 am

My reaction is the same as all the above…MARRIED WITH CHILDREN!!! Honestly, we are talking 1 1/2 dates per month here with no disclosure. I hesitate to say this, but your friend is either desperate, or not the sharpest tool in the shed. This one is tooooo easy.

Simple Man....

July 21st, 2011
11:05 am

Celisea,

The only thing in your 10:52 that should matter after 4 DATES is number 1 and Of course number 4…..

Fion

July 21st, 2011
11:05 am

@ Leggs
to futher prove my point (not that I need to), just read what For Real is saying. That’s what’s walking round out here cause he ain’t lying.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
11:05 am

3. If not, what’s up with few far and inbetween

Few fare and inbetween for me feels and sounds like I’m either in rotation, you have a wife or even with nothing to do on a sunny day, I’m not your a priority. I don’t think I’d stick around trying to understand the obvious.

For Real

July 21st, 2011
11:06 am

Kimmie: Yeah nasty is nasty but ain’t nothing nastier than a nasty woman.

Purp: Yep but all of them were of the I.N.D.E.P.E.N.D.A.N.T variety. They been around each other and cosigning each other for so long they believe the ish that’s coming from their mouths.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
11:06 am

You can tell, if a perspon is clean or not as soon as you make it to the couch or by the persons car interior.. The car is hit or miss, but if the car is clean with a woman more than likely her house is too. Now with a guy if his car is clean his house can still be trashy….but them rims are still spinning!

Button

July 21st, 2011
11:07 am

Kimmie Kimmie the dude went into your fridge and pantry? classic snooping with eyes wide open lol

Exiled!

July 21st, 2011
11:08 am

A dirty woman’s house would make me question her body cleanliness

:lol:

Purp..a co-worker saw me laughing and asked ‘why u laughing like that?’

:lol:

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
11:08 am

I had invited a guy over to my house for the first time. He proceeded to the kitchen and opened my fridge and pantry. Then he asked to use the restroom. He explained he was checking to see if I was nasty….

That would have been his last time. You taking liberties will get you shut down as quick a man would do a woman for living with the nasties.

Simple Man – The only thing in your 10:52 that should matter after 4 DATES is number 1 and Of course number 4…..

No, the only thing that should matter after 4 dates in 2 months is finding the exit sign.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
11:09 am

For Real, they probably all like each other. Until some man comes and runs a game on them, then they secretly act hard when she is with the other girls but is a kitty cat when with the dude. He loses respect for her because she is one way with him and projects another when with her friends. He then starts to play her, they break up she is even more bitter and back with her girls even more “independant”

kimmie

July 21st, 2011
11:10 am

Not only that, why is she questioning his home life, friends and family after only 4 dates. Enjoy the dates and see if there’s a true connection where they will want to become exclusive.

Leggs – I wouldn’t be questioning his life after 4 dates if those 4 dates were so far apart, as these appear to have been. Because, like Purple said, after about a month it’s obvious things are not going to go “exclusive”. There is no true connection, at least not on his part.

There should be a vibe there that, while neither has to have laid everything out on the table, there shouldn’t be any discomfort about the unknown either. I’ve met men who’ve been in “situations” before – yes, lived with mom, took care of sick parents, etc. No we didn’t sit and have a long drawn out convo about it, but it was a part of their life and they were just matter-of-fact about it. No evasiveness. EACH and EVERY time I thought I smelled a rat – there was one!

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
11:10 am

I agree with you men on nasty women. That mess ain’t cool. I had a dude to compliment me and say “and it’s clean too” but he wasn’t walking around…nuh uh, no way…lol

I tell my daughter ALLLLLLL the time, ain’t no dude going to deal with your nasties. I STAY on her about cleanliness.

Simple Man....

July 21st, 2011
11:11 am

SexyC…define a “proper date”????

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
11:11 am

Button really?…you need ask? Get better boo boo….you can do it :mrgreen:

For Real

July 21st, 2011
11:12 am

Celisea: What liberties did he take? The kitchen and the bathroom are open areas to a guess?

kimmie

July 21st, 2011
11:12 am

SCool – You know I did. He house was immaculate, almost better than mine!

Button

July 21st, 2011
11:14 am

Yeah I asked, I would like your reasoning behind her should’ve been gone.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
11:14 am

For Real – My house…mine, the one I own is not open for inspection. I’m clean and my house is clean. If you’re an invited guest, be that not an inspector.

For Real

July 21st, 2011
11:15 am

Purp: Exactly but you left out one of her friends starts fuggin him cause she deserves to be happy too. Then when the chick finds out they will spin it around and call the dude all kinds of dogs all the while promoting their sisterhood of independence.

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
11:17 am

Simple – a lot of activities/meetings/planned events/unplanned events can be considered a date of course. However, if buddy had not developed a immediate pattern of attempting to see me on the run, my spidey sense would not have been alerted so quickly.

But really, if all you’re doing is calling me after your “plane just landed at Hartsfield” or at the last minute on a Saturday afternoon, talking about “I’m going to hang out with my boys later on, but wanted to see if I could I come through.”, then hell naw, negro, you can’t.

For Real

July 21st, 2011
11:18 am

Celisea: So you are saying it’s unreasonable for a person to inspect your kitchen if he/she is going to partake in a meal and it’s unreasonable for a person to inspect your bathroom if they are going to partake in a dump?

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
11:20 am

I’m saying it’s unreasonable to walk your azz around my house checking for stuff. If it’s the kitchen we’re entertaining do that and trust me to have handled the cleaning part before you came and as something I do…daily…you ain’t gotta inspect. If you need to take a dump, you’re free to do so without checking up and inspecting. Spin how you wish, there’s a difference.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
11:20 am

LOL….@Sassy
Button wants your reasoning.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
11:20 am

For Real, lol they are all independant but all are jumping in bed with the same guy. Then he is the bad guy when it is over. So that explains the 4 dates in 3 months. LOL He is just working them all. lol

For Real your 11:18 you always have to inspect the seat before you sit down on it.

Button

July 21st, 2011
11:20 am

If a guy invities me to his house and he doesn’t take the initative to clean up then he’s just nasty and lazy and don’t give a fluke. nasty is as nasty does. you can tell when someone just cleaned up, the house smells like pine sol…lol

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
11:21 am

So For Real, you have no problem if the lady you’ve invited over drops her purse and proceeds to walk around to see if it’s up to standard?

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
11:21 am

We have to have had 4 dates before I take a dump at her house. Once you get a whiff of what I can put out we have to be committed to each other. LOL

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
11:21 am

Button…reading is fundamental.

kimmie

July 21st, 2011
11:22 am

Celisea – You sound just like how my mom was with me. I am that way with my daughter, a straight-up drill sergeant! No, I didn’t dump dude then, but he got the same treatment back. I did let him know it was very rude though.

I had to get on one of my friends about keeping her house nasty. It was a factor in why she got divorced, I do believe. She was at it again with a guy she was dating. I came over and her place looked like the city dump. Her man was out of town but coming thru that weekend. I asked her if she was going to clean up and she said no. She said “he KNOWS me, he won’t care”. I told her he may not say anything because he wants to get the goods, but he definitely will notice and care. Men don’t like nasty women. She thought about it and got it together.

Fion

July 21st, 2011
11:23 am

@For Real

you puttin it down this morning Cat! Now, that is straight Talk. The scenario’s you laying out with Prup are spot on.

Fion

July 21st, 2011
11:23 am

meant Purp!!!

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
11:23 am

@Fion ~ just got back on. Are you referring to For Real’s post about women not cleaning and hiring a service and not cooking? If so, yeah I am amazed at women who do that. Me, I clean my own home and I cook my own darn food! Even if I had the $$ to waste like that, I wouldn’t!

@Celisea ~ I just told my rug rat last night that her college roommate is going to hate her because she’s a slob. I seemed to have hurt her feelings. We all know, the truth can sometimes hurt!

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
11:24 am

Kimmie – I wasn’t knocking you. I thought that was rude. IMO if he knew you well enough, he should have trusted you would handle your business.

Yes ma’am drill sergeant is my name when it comes to her room. She asked me the other day if I wanted to come watch a movie in her room with her. I was like, I don’t think so :|

Button

July 21st, 2011
11:24 am

smh @ Sassy..not going there with you. I asked a simple ? and you’re taking to another level.

and you wonder why we can’t get ahead.

Him

July 21st, 2011
11:26 am

Leggs — I wouldn’t say they’re shallow. They’re just pragmatic. Every decision we make is based upon what we perceive to be in our own best self interest (but that’s a whole topic in and of itself). Most women are able to see that whatever benefits there might be of getting involved in a situation that also requires that they care for someone else’s pets / kids / others are generally outweighed by the problems those things cause for them. As long as that is true, they will not get involved in such a situation. Can’t blame ‘em.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
11:27 am

And if my house is not clean you’ll know that by how I carry myself way ahead of any home inspection. I agree with whatever person said if your house is clean you hygiene is questionable or not up to par.

Fion

July 21st, 2011
11:28 am

@ Leggs
Yep. I was just using what For Real saying as example. Now that sounds crazy, but it’s true.
You would be amazed at some Women today.

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
11:28 am

“Shug Avery got that nasty woman’s disease.”

Boy….I tell ya’….laughing my ass off…..

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
11:28 am

Sassy it’s getting worse isn’t it. You ready to burst?….LOL

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
11:29 am

Leggs – I seemed to have hurt her feelings. We all know, the truth can sometimes hurt

Exactly. I know I was stepping on toes last night about the dirty room and this morning about just being plain ole lazy but if mama don’t tell ‘em who will? I tell her because I love her and want her to know if you don’t strive and do better….well

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
11:29 am

“Celisea: What liberties did he take? The kitchen and the bathroom are open areas to a guess?”

Ummmm, not really. The first time in my home you are not at liberty to open my cabinets, my fridge w/o asking me! This is not a common area. It’s my home and you are to ask before you touch. Now, if you ask where the bathroom is and go to snooping that’s on you, because that’s what I expect you to do.

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
11:29 am

not going there with you. I asked a simple ? and you’re taking to another level.

As I stated..I’ve already given my reasons as to why she should’ve been gone. That’s back on page one…which is why I said reading is fundamental. Had you read my posts(any of them really) you would’ve gotten the answer to your ?. For real B. :lol:

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
11:30 am

Ummmm, not really. The first time in my home you are not at liberty to open my cabinets, my fridge w/o asking me! This is not a common area. It’s my home and you are to ask before you touch. Now, if you ask where the bathroom is and go to snooping that’s on you, because that’s what I expect you to do.

Let me just repeat this in bold :mrgreen:

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
11:31 am

“Every decision we make is based upon what we perceive to be in our own best self interest (but that’s a whole topic in and of itself).”

So not true! That’s all I have to say! You are hanging with shallow women!

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
11:31 am

And the first time in my house you ain’t made it to “my man” status yet. Sit your azz on the couch please.

kimmie

July 21st, 2011
11:33 am

Celisea – Yeah, I thought rude too. I knew you were not knocking me. Believe, if he hadn’t had other redeeming qualities about him that I liked and was not so cute(lol), he’d have been out with the quickness!

Plus, I actually had heard horror stories and statements made like 4 Real said those women said, that I knew nasty women were out there. And you see these women and they are neat and fashionable and well put together, but nasty as all get out. And that mess about their daughters not needing to know how to keep a clean home or cook – heard that mess before too. Those women are in for a rude awakening. They don’t make mama’s like we had much anymore. And my mama was not only on me, but my brothers as well. She used to tell them they may not be as fortunate to meet a woman that would keep a home like she did.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
11:33 am

I said it Celisea.

For Real

July 21st, 2011
11:33 am

Celisea: I do not have a problem with a lady inspecting my house if I invited her over. The line in the sand is going thru my ish (ie opening draws, hacking my computer or stealing my porn)

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
11:34 am

Actually, if a woman has kids, you can really tell what her true cleanliness/appearance standards are by how her kids look.

I HATE to see a woman dressed to the nines and her kids look like slave babies – hair not combed/cut, clothes dirty dingy, ill-fitting……gggrrr….

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
11:35 am

And the first time in my house you ain’t made it to “my man” status yet. Sit your azz on the couch please

Tell it Celisea! I also agree with Leggs in that you just don’t go through MY things at MY house without having enough respect to ASK. Plain and simple.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
11:36 am

Celisea: I do not have a problem with a lady inspecting my house if I invited her over. The line in the sand is going thru my ish (ie opening draws, hacking my computer or stealing my porn)

Well you know the saying, give and inch and we’ll take a mile. If she can uninvitedly inspect, going through you stuff is next…lol

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
11:36 am

Sassy:
LOL……I saw that coming, do you need something to cool you off?

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
11:37 am

And the first time in my house you ain’t made it to “my man” status yet. Sit your azz on the couch please. RIGHT ON! RIGHT ON! :lol: :lol: :lol:

kimmie

July 21st, 2011
11:37 am

Tell it Celisea! I also agree with Leggs in that you just don’t go through MY things at MY house without having enough respect to ASK. Plain and simple.

I agree. Didn’t put it to practice that one time with that dude, but I totally agree. That’s how I was raised, anyway.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
11:38 am

For Real

July 21st, 2011
11:39 am

Celisea: “And if my house is not clean you’ll know that by how I carry myself way ahead of any home inspection.” – That’s not true. These women will look the part in the street but when you get to their house it smell like dog pee cause they too lazy to walk their rat ass dog. But to each his own. You invite me Imma look for my own safety and if you don’t like I’ll just leave your nasty ass house. lol

Kimmie: Exactly my point to Celisea and Leggs. Also, Kimmie did ole boy ask first? If not, then yes that was rude.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
11:39 am

Sassy/Kimmie – May as well start ‘em off right…lol

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
11:39 am

From the time I bought you that drink, I am your man. Now give me a key to your house.

Exiled!

July 21st, 2011
11:39 am

Celisea..I agree with whoever said…..if your house is (not) clean you hygiene is questionable…

look at u girl, spinning like u don’t know Purp said that…

U just Promoting your 2038 marriage odds on the sly! :lol:

Fion

July 21st, 2011
11:40 am

Dayum !!!! this bolg is full of Tell, Tell Signs of things to pay attention to this morning in the quote “Dating Game”. I hope the Neophytes are paying attention this morning.
Pop Quiz to follow Class.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
11:41 am

You invite me Imma look for my own safety and if you don’t like I’ll just leave your nasty ass house. lol

LOLOLOL

Yeah, for me it’s a matter of respect. No matter what my “observation” is at your house, out of respect, I would not take liberties with yours.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
11:41 am

Dirty house with a dirty rat dog. LOL

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
11:41 am

Y’all funny, sit your azz on the couch. Really that’s disrespectful if you don’t, unless you need a light bulb changed you couldn’t reach.

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
11:42 am

You guys are keeping me laughing this morning. Thanks, the black cloud is lifting.

@SC ~ I like to believe I’m a nice dresser, but you best believe, my child dresses just as well (and not too many name brands)….we look good whether it’s from Ross, Marshalls or Saks!

For Real

July 21st, 2011
11:42 am

ScooL: That is a pevee of mines. I hate to see that men or women. Scumbags!!! If you are not going to put your kids first why did you have them?

Also, what’s up with chicks and these little rat dogs sleeping in their beds?

Button

July 21st, 2011
11:42 am

@ Sassy the snide remark clearly was not needed, my bad for not going back to page one and reading your post.

Button

July 21st, 2011
11:44 am

@ Blackfoote I got my eye on you @ egging the girl on.

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
11:44 am

“and was not so cute(lol),”

Good looks will allow a person to get away with a heck of a lot more than a mud duck.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
11:44 am

Exiled – look at u girl, spinning like u don’t know Purp said that…U just Promoting your 2038 marriage odds on the sly!

You silly. I hopped off for a minute this morning so when I came back in, I was skimming through.

For Real

July 21st, 2011
11:46 am

ScooL: A fine ass mud duck can get away with some ish too. That’s why God created darkness.

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
11:46 am

Perhaps it’s just me, but I’m not sleeping with an animal. I believe anything with teeth can turn on you on any given Sunday. I’m not going to wake up to find my cat or dog chewing on my nose, finger, nuffin….

Him

July 21st, 2011
11:47 am

Leggs — That’s not an indictment of anyone; it’s just human nature. Everything decision we make is made to satisfy OUR needs, not those of anyone elses. Many or even most are made to satisfy the need to keep our conscience clean so that we can live peacefully with ourselves. And that’s a very worthy goal. Otherwise, we cannot live a long, happy, healthy life. For example, those involving the care of our children. Let’s face it — a lot of parental duties are very unpleasant, but we could not live with ourselves if we chose to neglect our children rather than properly care for them. I could cite many many more examples. But if you really stop to think about it (and it’s not always very clear at first), at the bottom of every decision you make is some benefit to you. Some decisions we make are simply the best of several bad options, but that in itself is a benefit. I didn’t want to go down this path, but you might take some time to consider this. It may come in handy by helping you understand your own decision-making.

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
11:48 am

Goodness, we have “rat ass dog,” and now “mud duck”.
:lol:

Button

July 21st, 2011
11:48 am

@ For Real what’s up with these dudes walking those lil rat dogs around the neighborhood?

I love those lil toy dog, they are so cute.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
11:50 am

Blackfoote – Not saying a dude can’t walk around but if you’re invited, please know I will handle my business. You ain’t gotta inspect. I can’t keep you from “observation” because know Imma do the same but just up and opening cabinets and drawers and the refrigerator and you’re a guest? Nope, not cool.

SexyC – I agree about kids looking like rag dolls and you’re dressed to the nines. That ain’t right. My kid is making her own money and I want so bad for her to like “classic” styles like I do but hey she’s a teenager and I can’t do that to her. I’m try to hold my peace (as long as it aint’ nekkid and hoodratish) but some of the crap she picks out looks cheesy. When she was smaller though she was top notch. She didn’t have any say so…lol Hair ribbons, bows, laced top socks, patent leather dress shoes, t-straps school shoes. I NEVER bought sneakers…lol Her dad but not me. She HATES that kind of stuff now…lol

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
11:51 am

@Him ~ I don’t know who you are and I’m pretty sure you don’t know me. I thoroughly understand the decisions I make. The good ones, as well as the bad ones. Thanks, but I’m introspective all day, everyday. Trust!

And, it may be handy for you to believe that everything is not done to self-serve!

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
11:52 am

do you need something to cool you off?

No, thank you Blackfoote. I’m fine..no feathers ruffled over here…it’s all peaches n cream.

May as well start ‘em off right…

Exactly Celisea…

Kimmie gurl you’ve gotta let ‘em know it’s just like Martin said,“Respect MY house! :lol:

For Real

July 21st, 2011
11:53 am

“For Real what’s up with these dudes walking those lil rat dogs around the neighborhood?” – They fuggin some nasty ass chick with a rat ass dog.

kimmie

July 21st, 2011
11:53 am

Also, what’s up with chicks and these little rat dogs sleeping in their beds?

4 Real – :lol:

And yeah, he asked at the same time he was opening the fridge though. He was rude. So yes, he did get the same treatment back at his place.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
11:54 am

A animal in your bed is just nasty.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
11:54 am

And animals in the bed…no way Jose. Back in the day dogs slept under the car port/garage with a nice dog basket and cushion…winter spring summer fall. He was flea dipped occasionally and might have had the luxury of a dog collar and ate real chicken bones. Oh, and maybe the luxury of a fence…lol That’s it though. He got his behind tapped with a thin switch if he broached coming in the house…lol

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
11:56 am

Yeah..but we know there is a big difference between a teenager’s style statement and a snotty nosed six year old little boy with hair knotted up and bead-dee-beaded up so tight Jesus couldn’t comb it and dirty, run over tennis shoes or a little girl with a too big dingy white shirt hanging off of her, some too short leggings and hair sticking up all over her head. And then they momma looking like an Dots ad with hair ghetto freezed into place, a different design on every fingernail and acrylics on her pedicure.

Disclaimer – I do shop at Dots – I get a lot of t-shirts from there.

kimmie

July 21st, 2011
11:56 am

Sassy – Martin is my MAN!!! :lol:

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
11:57 am

freezed into place. LOL

kimmie

July 21st, 2011
11:58 am

SCool – mail

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
11:58 am

I am wearing a white pantsuit. Someone just pointed out to me that I have a big red stain on my right butt cheek. I have to walk around like this all day. Jacket isn’t long enuf to cover. It looks more like a magic marker stain than what you may be thinking. Doesn’t matter, a stain is a stain!

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
11:59 am

Leggs – If it ain’t too tacky, dabs a bit of dish detergent on the stain. It’s mild and does wonders (when presoaked) for removing stains.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
12:01 pm

Button
I don’t know what’s going on and I hope it don’t escalate. I don’t want to see that, and that’s real.

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
12:02 pm

Aww dangit Leggs!! Don’t you just despise it when that happens! I love wearing white but sometimes I swear it’s a stain magnet.

Exiled!

July 21st, 2011
12:04 pm

Didn’t SlimNu say she got a lil pooch that she let’s lick the CT eve now and then? :lol:

Or there are women who do that?

which is it? :lol:

Kimmie,u know anything bout that? :lol:

For Real

July 21st, 2011
12:04 pm

Button: Don’t listen to Blackfoote. We want to see a catfight. I hope you a wearing a holter top. I know Sassy is wearing a tear-away white tank top. Now what were you saying again about Sassy momma and that freemason?

Button

July 21st, 2011
12:04 pm

@ Celisea @feeding the dog chicken bones..lol

My dog refused to eat dog food, he always wanted what we had, grits, rice you name it he wanted to eat it except for what he was supposed to eat.

Button

July 21st, 2011
12:05 pm

LOL @ For Real, I know Blackfoote was trying to start a lil sump’in sump’in but I’m a lover not a fighter

Mo (aka Moeisha)

July 21st, 2011
12:06 pm

Afternoon All!!

Okay so I was popping in thinking we would be like on page 3 and we are on page 5! So what are we talking about? Has the topic gone by the wayside already??

kimmie

July 21st, 2011
12:08 pm

Exiled – H to the NAW I don’t know jack about that! I don’t even like animals! I put up with the kids two cats cause they were there before me, but I am so not an animal lover!!!

For Real

July 21st, 2011
12:11 pm

Button: So you want to make love to Sassy? I’m all for love too.

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
12:11 pm

Dogs being treated like little humans is a result of pet services industry marketing.

kimmie – “I am so not an animal lover!!!”
+1

However, I like my dog (most of the time) and we treat her very well….as a result of pet services marketing.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:12 pm

Button – My dog refused to eat dog food, he always wanted what we had, grits, rice you name it he wanted to eat it except for what he was supposed to eat

I don’t have animals but I’ve always heard whatever you start them off eating is what they’ll eat.

Buttons – Who are you? We get newly recycled folks almost everyday now that will stick around and drop off change monikers.

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
12:14 pm

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
12:15 pm

Good question Celisea…

Simple Man....

July 21st, 2011
12:16 pm

Public service announcement!!!

” Please Spend lots of money taking care of your pets!!!!!”

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:16 pm

Button

July 21st, 2011
12:17 pm

@ For Real no way will I love someone who has a sassy temper! besides just by reading her, she’s not my type if I was that way.

@ Celisea I’m hanging out with you guys for the day, can’t promise I’ll stay around b/c job duties don’t allow for that much down time.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:18 pm

Button – Hanging around is fine…just change your moniker back to who you are and behave :)

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:19 pm

Button

July 21st, 2011
12:20 pm

@ Celisea is this blog available to just a oldies and no newbies? I know no other blog that has restrictions such as.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
12:23 pm

Button
LOL…..Glad to see you’re a lover, let me apologize if you think I’m trying to start something.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
12:23 pm

Don’t cater to your animal with food. No matter what you start them off with. If you need tog et them on a certain food give it to them. Don’t stray away from it, that dog will eat it before he does. It’s just who has the stronger will power, the owner or the dog?

Him

July 21st, 2011
12:23 pm

Leggs — Okay, I hear you. But I challenge you to present a single example of a decision you made that — at the time you made it — you perceived (not knew) that there was nothing whatsoever in it for you. I’m not talking about the results of those decisions. I’m referring to your perception of what those results would be. Why in heaven’s name would you ever make any decision that you believed would not serve your interest in some way? It so happens that many or most of our decisions happen to serve the interests of other people as well (and it’s nice when that happens), but we always believe that they will serve our own interest in some way. Always.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
12:24 pm

Celisea, Celisea be nice or are you trying to get me started? LOL

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:25 pm

PR – Okay…lol Don’t do it.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:25 pm

I don’t know what’s worse…dumb or playing dumb

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:27 pm

Alright folks…it’s lunch time

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
12:28 pm

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
12:29 pm

Celisea calling folks out……LOL
Seem like I’m on the list too.

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
12:29 pm

@Celisea ~ I took my pants off and pre-soaked the pocket area in some peroxide. I’m now sitting at my desk in my gym shorts w/a blanket wrapped around me. I look a hot mess!

@Him ~ I was driving home the other day. Saw an older woman at the bus stop with groceries. I stopped and asked if she wanted a ride. The bus route is the same route I take home. She thanked me and said yes. She was going out of my way, but I didn’t mind. I drove her to her home. A benefit to me….um, I got a smile out of it!

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
12:31 pm

I told my boss not to ask me to get anything that’s not already at my desk for the next hour!

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
12:32 pm

besides just by reading her, she’s not my type if I was that way.

awwww :lol:

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:32 pm

Blackfoote – Not really and honestly it’s not by business. It just stinks though when folks change names and pop in all brand new and target someone they don’t have the courage to do under their regular moniker and then “play dumb.” Just jump in and roll with it and say what you have to say. If you don’t like someone’s post then just move on. Button was about to get a hole torn out of her/his frame. Then too, that mess is moist if you’re a man posing as a woman…who does that?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
12:33 pm

Leggs:
Thats’ what you were talking about his morning, about last night what you’re doing now…..LOL

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
12:34 pm

Leggs the peroxide should work…and for the sake of your pristine white suit I hope it does.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:34 pm

Leggs – Saw an older woman at the bus stop with groceries. I stopped and asked if she wanted a ride. The bus route is the same route I take home. She thanked me and said yes. She was going out of my way, but I didn’t mind. I drove her to her home. A benefit to me….um, I got a smile out of it!

Be careful cause some grannies are packing…lol

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:34 pm

Alright ribs hitting my back now

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
12:35 pm

. It just stinks though when folks change names and pop in all brand new and target someone they don’t have the courage to do under their regular moniker and then “play dumb.”

I Cosign Celisea….

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
12:36 pm

Leggs, is showing off her legs at work.

Blackfoote, Celisea is funny. I am waiting on the day when she just lets her real thoughts flow on the blog. LOL

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:36 pm

Leggs – I’m now sitting at my desk in my gym shorts w/a blanket wrapped around me.

I missed this…lol That’s funneee

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:37 pm

Sassy – :)

PR – Hursh man

Button

July 21st, 2011
12:39 pm

@ Celisea it’s not that serious, aren’t we ALL under disguese? you’re reaching, and it’s not lady like—tsk tsk. You really need to get a life outside of the blog, it’s not THAT serious. I see no disclaimer that says you must keep your moniker at all times when blogging. And IF i chose to change my name tomorrow I can do it b/c it’s my PEROGATIVE. GET IT?? HOPE SO!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
12:40 pm

I know Celisea it’s funny aint it. Rather than say For Real was trying to start something she giggled. I offer an apology and tell her I don’t want to see that shi I’m trying to start something. (Face Palm)

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
12:40 pm

@Celisea ~ lol…I thought about that. I instantly got a good vibe when I rolled down my window in the rain so I went for it.

@PR ~ ssshhhh, but I always show off my legs. Very rare for me to wear pants.

Button

July 21st, 2011
12:42 pm

disguise not disguese–sorry

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
12:43 pm

LOL….@Purple

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 21st, 2011
12:43 pm

PURPLE…I am chatty, but I am not too chatty where I do not let him speak. I just like to know what his motives and intentions are. And I also want to know if I should even progress on to date #2 or know it is a waste of time and keep it moving!

KIMMIE…I had a friend who kept such nasty crib, that I told her that I always felt like some thing was crawling on me. Amd her told her that when guys saw her nasty home they thought that that was how she kept her body. I know if I go to a guy’s ctrib and it’s nasty..I am grossed out. And I will not mess with him. He doesn’t have to be as OCD as I am…but he must be neat! I think I may have offended some guys because on instinct I woudl start cleaning. I would not even realize that I was doing it. Oh well…clean your crib nasty!

PURPLE…that ex friend I spoke of, her car looked like somebody take a dumpster and just tossed all the contents in the back seat. There was so much garbage that you could not see the floor. The trash came up to the seats! UGH!

Button

July 21st, 2011
12:44 pm

I feel extra important today thanks to Blackfoote and Celisea :lol:

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:44 pm

Blackfoote – Your 12:40 exactly

Leggs – Good for you…be careful though :)

Him

July 21st, 2011
12:45 pm

Leggs — Very good. That’s what I’m talking about. You did a very commendable thing, and you should be pleased with yourself for doing that. But, of course, that’s my point. It did please you to do it. Almost all volunteer work, by the way, is based on that concept. We do it not only because there’s a need for our services, but it makes us feel good about ourselves. Raises our self-esteem. We feel better about ourselves after lending someone a hand. A win-win situation for everyone. And there’s nothing shameful about that. We need to feel good about ourselves to live a happy healthy life. So, I encourage you to continue to be nice to little ol’ ladies. Everyone (except maybe the bus company) benefits from it.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:45 pm

You’re welcome….ButtonBooBoo the Clown. Anything to help :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
12:48 pm

Button:
You are special calm down, we all good join in the fray don’t be an enemey of it.

Button

July 21st, 2011
12:49 pm

Awww Celisea GIRL you really shouldn’t have :wink:

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
12:50 pm

How does one surmise that one has no life outside of the blog in one day?

BMW, hey I love you because you and I have a defined relationship. I sex you and you spank me, we are not complicated. LOL

Him/Buttin, you type like Dreamsmaterialize. But it is probaly just Simple Man doing his shape shifter thing again.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
12:50 pm

Ok I might not have spelled enemy right…LOL
But you know what I mean.

Button

July 21st, 2011
12:51 pm

Blackfoote, you started this radazzle but it’s all good, should I expected better from you?

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
12:51 pm

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
12:51 pm

Leggs – about a month ago, I returned a rental car for a traveler who was going to miss her flight to one of the islands because she had tried to check in at the wrong airline.

I don’t know that old woman from Eve. It was a chance meeting, I just happened to be headed upstairs for lunch when she asked for directions and I offered to walk her to where she was going. She ended up telling me of her dilemma in route. I helped her at a cost to me – $32 because by the time I got to her rental car, I realized she did not give me the parking ticket to get out of the lot and time away from my office), no real benefit other than doing something to help someone else.

Into the Light

July 21st, 2011
12:53 pm

Celisea, I hate to burst your bubble, but I just got here. I am not “Button”, or anyone else for that matter.

If I have something to say to or about someone, I say it to them and I make sure they know it’s coming from me. I know some folks feel the need to represent themselves one way on the blog, and then act like the cast of Mean Girls via e-mail but that’s not me. I am the same today, tomorrow, and yesterday whether you talk to me on the blog or via e-mail or in person. For those on the blog who are not back-biting, elitist, clique-dwellers: thanks for making me feel welcome.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
12:57 pm

Button, you didn’t get the memo did you I’m always starting shi on here. I’m sorry I got you involved in this mess, I promise I’ll do better. We good.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:58 pm

I’m scared Buttons

Simple Man....

July 21st, 2011
1:00 pm

Come on Purp……Still waiting on the fedex guy to bring me the damn cuff key!!!

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 21st, 2011
1:00 pm

PURPLE…will you be my Alcide? ;-)

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
1:00 pm

Why is the vibe going sour, ladies let’s all get naked and point and laugh at each other.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
1:01 pm

ITL
Hello how are you. Caught me at a bad time I’m caught up with Button, miss reading you.

Him

July 21st, 2011
1:02 pm

SexyCool — Very good. Again — very commendable. (There are a lot of nice ladies on this blog.) Now, dig deeper. Why would you go out of your way to help someone else? You already offered a clue, and I could nudge you to the obvious conclusion. But I’ll let you think through this for yourself.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
1:04 pm

LOL….@Purple
The edges have unraveled and I caused it all.

Into the Light

July 21st, 2011
1:04 pm

Thanks, Blackfoote. I’ve been in training and working on some emergent priority projects and haven’t been on the blog much lately. :)

You still under the stairs, or have you emerged???

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
1:04 pm

harpo?!….who dis woman?….

Exiled!

July 21st, 2011
1:05 pm

ITL…

u know damn well I ain’t elitist,backbiter(but azz biter) nor clique dweller…

I am ur muckraker, at your service Always!

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
1:06 pm

Blackfoote nothing’s unraveled…we’ve seen some unraveling and this ain’t it.. Trus mi p’on dat, seen?!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
1:06 pm

BMW:
When Purple finish spanking you, come here you got another one to go.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
1:08 pm

ITL
I think I’m in the dumpster today thanks to Button…..LOL

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
1:11 pm

BMW, I am more of an Eric than Alcide, but mostly Purple

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
1:11 pm

Be careful that woman is a MAN!

Into the Light

July 21st, 2011
1:12 pm

Thanks, Exiled. :)

You know, Celisea, I’ve tried since day one to be nice to you. Even with all your little snide remarks, I just let them pass and kept ignoring it. And I will continue to do so.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
1:14 pm

I really don’t think there is that much strife, let it slide!

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
1:19 pm

@Button ~ since you’ve changed monikers no need for me to throw out the welcome mat. However, you do still have your vest? Yes? No?

@SC ~ Awwww, she forgot to give you the parking ticket. Although you had to shell out $32, you did a darn good thing!

@Him ~ WTH you have to knock everything down. A good deed is a good deed! Leave it at that! First people are knocking each other down because they lack character, and now people are being knocked down because of their character….SMDH!

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
1:20 pm

Leggs, how are you?

Exiled!

July 21st, 2011
1:20 pm

Fellas?

so who is the baddest playa on the blog?

I’m throwing u a challenge or better yet,we make this an annual blog contest..

I wanna see who is going to be the one to pull it off…

A ThreeSome comprising ITL,her blog protagonist(she) and Any of of us guys….

On your marks….

GO! (u can start the process of wheeling and dealing)

too bad Blue ain’t blogging anymore…

she would have been a natural in that role :lol:

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
1:20 pm

By the same token, a few weeks ago, this dude knocked on my door, having come up to my house on a bicycle….(I do live in “the hood.”) Recognizing him from having knocked on my door the previous afternoon when I did not answer the door, I decided to go ahead and see what he wanted. He came at me with the guise of coming to see if I had any sort of work that he could do because he was just trying to earn MARTA fair to get to a school he was trying to enroll in. Well, know I didn’t have any work, but…falling for the line, I gave him $5 and wished him well.

So….two days later, TheDude and I were getting ready to go out and our door was open while I waiting on him to finish a phone call. WWWWHHHHYYY did this dude come back to my door with that same bllsht? I was, “Um, yeah, no…I don’t have anything for you to do and I don’t have any money to give you today.” And….being too nice, I followed up with the line, “Check back some other time.” TheDude was NOT happy. In fact, we had a bit of a tiff about it. His position was that because I was too friendly, buddy was going to keep coming back.

So….yeah…of course, day before yesterday, he rang my doorbell again. And not wanting to be bothered, I didn’t answer the door. And sure enough, yesterday, there his just outta drug rehad looking behind was again, I answered the door. He starts with his line. I was like, “Dude, look, I understand. You’re looking for work to earn some money. I don’t have any work for you to do and I don’t have unlimited money for you when you come around here basically looking for a handout.” “No ma’am. I’m not looking for a handout. I want to do something to earn some money.” “I don’t have anything, sweetie. I’m never going to have anything, but I do wish you the best.”

What I really wanted to say was “Dud, come the fck on. I have a yard that is the size of a postage stamp and an uncle who owns a landscaping company. So, I don’t need you to do anything in my yard. And I know good and damn well you don’t think I’m about to let you IN my house. And on top of that, you done showed yo’ ass up at my house without al’naln tool, talking about you need some work to do. GTF off my porch with that mess.

Oh..and I didn’t even mention the fact that the first day when he was making his presentation, the other little dude comes up, empty handed, talking about he was raising money for school. Okay, yeah…first of all, little negro, it’s July. There are no school fundraisers going on. Secondly, IF there was an actual fundraiser, no school is going to send you around without some sort of flyer or something. I told, “I can only handle one charity case a day. Buddy beat you to the door.”

Yeah..this is long….lol

MzNewy

July 21st, 2011
1:20 pm

Okay, lets set the record str8.

Blog ladies after 4 dates in 2 months what information do need to know about a dude? (sex doesn’t matter)

Hmmm…At least if he has a job, does he have any kids, what side of town is he on. He definitely won’t get any cookies after that short period of time. Also if he can only talk at odd hours, he can forget about it because I won’t be interested .

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 21st, 2011
1:21 pm

PURPLE…I thought you’d be more Alcide…being the Italian Stallion! :-)

Button

July 21st, 2011
1:22 pm

@ Celisea @ ohhhhhhh you skerd! LOL
GIRL you are one SILLY meekrat

@ Into the Light, why are you even explaining yourself to someone BEHIND a keyboard??? Is there some kind of majic dust floating in the air?

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
1:22 pm

@PR ~ if we all got naked and pointed at each other, you can bet locks of your hair that I wouldn’t be laughing. I’m grabbing someone by the hand and we’re going to do the monkey dance! :wink:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
1:23 pm

Just damn, Sassy you say what haven’t unraveled. Lady’s come together, lets turn this into a love day. I’ll go first I need it the most, anybody else need love.

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
1:24 pm

@PR ~ I’m much better, thanks for asking!

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
1:24 pm

No, I am taller than Alcide :)

Exiled, blue would have won hands down. LOL

Button

July 21st, 2011
1:24 pm

@ Sexy Cool your story is a lil creative loafing crime blotterish…

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
1:26 pm

PR???

Not the time? Okay then…not the time.

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
1:26 pm

Him – yes, I will and have gone out of my way to help folks from time to time. However, it is well within my rights to know about a situation that would call for me to sign on for your long term commitment to another person’s care or cause should the relationship become serious. However, if I were to have met you, you wouldn’t even give me the benefit of the doubt because you would have made the decision for me.

But then too…you have made it plain that your intent in this scenario – whether real or made up for the entertainment of yourself and this blog – is simply to use this individual for as long as you can and with no aim other than to provide a break in your boring life.

Also, if I were to meet your bored ass, I wouldn’t walk away from you because you are helping yo’ sick momma, I would run the hell away because my purpose in life is not to provide kicks and giggles solely for the entertainment of another grown person.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
1:27 pm

Button, let it go please. We are that kind of place.

Leggs, that’s not my hand you are grabbing. I am glad that you are better now though :)

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
1:28 pm

@SC ~ first off, you shouldn’t have ended it with “check back some other time.” I’m on TheDude’s side.

SC, I had to cover my mouth and I have tears in my eyes from laughing in my hand @ little negro, it’s July!

Button

July 21st, 2011
1:31 pm

Yes sa masta Purple I will let it go

Exiled!

July 21st, 2011
1:32 pm

Why am I still yawning,at 1:31pm?

too much nocturnal dancing!

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
1:32 pm

Button – I live near MLK and Ashby, sorry, Joseph P. Lowry. It is a transitioning neighborhood. I have a story for every day of the week.

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
1:33 pm

since you’ve changed monikers no need for me to throw out the welcome mat. However, you do still have your vest? Yes? No?

:lol: I wonder….

Blackfoote please beleive this blog has seen quite a bit of back n forths between folks and this is really minor. No let me take that back, maybe this is the most you’ve witnessed but I’ve read worse but no need beating a dead horse. Seems like you’re really entertained, goody for you. :lol:

Him

July 21st, 2011
1:34 pm

Leggs — No, no, no .. you’re missing the point. I’m not trying to knock anyone down. On the contrary, I praised your commendable behavior (and that of SexyCool). And — for extra measure — I defended the women who you called shallow. I said that I did not blame them, they were just being pragmatic, and set out to explain why. Gosh — I thought I was being nice to everyone. Talk about getting knocked down … :-)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
1:37 pm

Sassy I was here when Kym and Dirty Diana sqaured off. Didn’t like then, don’t want to see it now.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
1:37 pm

Don’t throw rocks and hide your hands is all I ask :)

Him

July 21st, 2011
1:38 pm

And, SexyCool, she will continue to go out with me as long as it provides some benefit to her. What that ceases to be true, she will stop. I have no problem with that. That is not ‘using’ someone.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
1:38 pm

I’m talking boulders…when no one is looking and then act innocent.

That is all.

Into the Light

July 21st, 2011
1:39 pm

Blackfoote, there’s no “squaring off” to be done. I said what I had to say and I am finished, period.

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
1:39 pm

Speaking of which, the little guy that was talking about raising money for school…turns out he was the front man for three or four other teenagers, looked to be 13/14 – who that same afternoon were hanging around on the porch of the empty house next to me. So, to keep my eye on them, I went out in my yard and started pulling weeds. When they see me, he comes over and was like, “I coulda done that for you.”

“I thought you were raising money for school. And if you’re raising money for school, schools are out, but even so, where is your proof? Schools don’t send you out without some sort of documentation to support the fundraiser.”

“Well, really, we’re just trying to see what we can do to make some money so that we can go to the pool.”

“Oh and you’ve been going around lying about a fundraiser to go to the pool?”

“No ma’am.”

So, I called them all over and began to question them about what they were up to. They basically said that they had been going around to people’s houses knocking on the door, asking if they could do anything to earn money.

“Anything like what?”

“We can mow yards, pull weeds, wash cars, take out the trash, anything.”

“Where are your tools?”

“We ain’t got none.”

“So, are y’all a business and all of y’all are partners?”

“Yes ma’am.”

“Where’s your flyer? How are you advertising your services? Do y’all have a plan?”

“No ma’am.”

“Y’all need a plan. How much is it to get in to the pool?”

“$4″

“Tell you what, y’all come back tomorrow and show me where y’all have put down something on paper that talks about what your business plans are and what services you will offer and remember my name, and I will give all of y’all the money to get in the pool for two days.”

Haven’t seen them little dudes since.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
1:39 pm

I spelled square wrong.

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
1:41 pm

Blackfoote I wasn’t referring to that but okay..point make, point taken.

Button

July 21st, 2011
1:43 pm

Becareful @ your neighborhood @ Sexycool

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
1:45 pm

Celisea, you just are not going to play nice are you?

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
1:48 pm

PR – Mums the word :) I’m good. I’m taking the higher ground :mrgreen:

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
1:49 pm

@Him ~ cool, if I read you wrong, my mistake.

@SC ~ girl, sounds like something I would have done…Good for you.

@Blackfoote ~ you are too funny. You have told us upteen times that you are not a good speller.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
1:53 pm

Blackfoote – I spelled square wrong.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I need a blog spellcheck

Button

July 21st, 2011
1:55 pm

@ Purple it’s hard to get children to listen sometimes, you have to tell them 50-11 times to stop, you want a switch for that one?

Into the Light

July 21st, 2011
1:56 pm

BMW, I thought of you yesterday. We were at Chipotle and a guy walked in that could have been Alcide’s younger brother. No beard, but same build and fine as h-e- double hockey sticks. It wasn’t the tomatillo salsa making this girl sweat. :)

Into the Light

July 21st, 2011
1:57 pm

Okay, really? Button, if Celisea and I are letting it go, you should, too. Enough already.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
2:01 pm

I’m out of it, I tried to be peacemaker but I guess I suck at that. lLadies have at it.

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
2:02 pm

Button – I’m not scared in my neighborhood. I’m as comfortable living there as anywhere. I stay aware in my surroundings, but that’s anywhere. For the most part, it’s just folks trying to survive. (Keeping my head above water, making way when we can….)

I do possess the necessary skills to live and thrive in this environment. I keep my head on a swivel, but know how to get along with folks. I know bllsht when it’s being fed to me. And I don’t mind entertaining “the natives” from time to time.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
2:02 pm

Great I feel the love is in the air.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
2:04 pm

I might have spoke too soon.

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
2:06 pm

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
2:07 pm

give it a rest already…

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
2:08 pm

Celisea and I are letting it go

For the record all I said today was “behave”…and for good reasons. I have nothing to let go because I’m not guilty.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
2:08 pm

Me too Purple I’m tired, I always give the woman the last word. What do you do when it’s all women?

Button

July 21st, 2011
2:08 pm

YAWN @ into the light

Good for you Sexycool, just saying becareful, as I am always trying to do the same all the time.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
2:08 pm

Now let’s turn the page

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
2:13 pm

Now let’s turn the page

thank you

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
2:14 pm

Oprah will be in the A on October 15th. Tix are $125 each. Now, if I can win or be gifted some tickets. I wouldn’t mind going at all. (lol)

Button

July 21st, 2011
2:14 pm

also for the record all I did was ask for a “reason” and said it was my bad I didn’t read Sassy’s first comment and next thing I know “reading is fundamental” and if I changed my blog name and so on and so forth. shm at the whole scenerio and LOL at the same time.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
2:16 pm

Blackfoote, lol@ the “all I did’s” now. Just let the women have the last word and hopefully we will know today if we will have NFL to watch this year.

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
2:16 pm

The other day I actually went to the barbershop for the haircut that I was talking about. I ended up with a TWA.

While I was in there, the barbers where having a conversation about a dude that had been by selling iPads. Last night, there was a story on the news about 18 iPads being stolen from the Buckhead target a few days ago. However, I guess many folks don’t realize that they can be tracked when turned on.

Hmmm…coincidence much.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
2:17 pm

Last night, there was a story on the news about 18 iPads being stolen from the Buckhead target a few days ago.

Saw this on the news.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
2:19 pm

My wife is my barbershop, she doesn’t have cool stuff like ipads..she only has bills. LOL

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
2:19 pm

LOL….@Purple
NFL yep the lockout should be toast today.

Into the Light

July 21st, 2011
2:20 pm

SC, did you go for the Janet or the Chrisette?

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
2:24 pm

They are meeting down there right?

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
2:26 pm

Kept the same basic shape that I had – which was similar to Janet, just had it trimmed down so it’s a bit shorter in the top than Janet’s so that I can wear it kinda spiky sometimes.

Fion

July 21st, 2011
2:28 pm

Speaking of Rat Azz Dogs,

I’d been dating this chick for a minute. It was the summer affair chick I mentioned once before.
We get home one night from a night out. Her place. We make it about half into the house and close start coming off.
Torrid hot sex to the 1st degree. I’m Up on a down stroke and I feel something wet of my right butt cheek. Right. It’s her Rat Azz dog sniffing my azz. How ‘bout the Rat Azz dog starts licking my butt cheek. Last thing I’m thinking is pullin’ out.
Needless to say I was in a quandary. I didn’t know whether to blow my wad for her or drop a crap for the dog. Later on before round two started she commented that the sex between us was always great, but that that session was something special.
I never did tell her that her Rat Azz dog was sniffing my azz.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
2:28 pm

Yep the vote today in the A. I heard on the radio teams are ready to jump on the free agents starting tomorrow.

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
2:28 pm

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
2:31 pm

Fion, did you just say that you were having sex with a woman while her dog licked your backside and you kept going? LOL

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
2:31 pm

@Fion ~ THAT HAS GOT TO BE THE FUNNIEST STORY TOLD ON THIS BLOG THIS MONTH!

Fion

July 21st, 2011
2:32 pm

@Purp
what was I gonna do man!!!!

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
2:32 pm

Later on before round two started she commented that the sex between us was always great, but that that session was something special.

That’s cause it was a threesome…LOL

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
2:34 pm

LOL….@Fion

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
2:35 pm

Good one, Celisea!

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
2:36 pm

also for the record all I did was ask for a “reason” and said it was my bad I didn’t read Sassy’s first comment and next thing I know “reading is fundamental”

Right and when you said “my bad” I left you alone. The “reading is fundamental” comment was made prior to your mia culpa. It’s okay…it’s totally okay…

Carol Ann it’s okay to go into the light…the light is your friend

Simple Man....

July 21st, 2011
2:37 pm

“I never did tell her that her Rat Azz dog was sniffing my azz.”

DROPS THE MIKE………Exit stage left………….

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
2:39 pm

Leggs – Man and beast “becomes one” :)

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
2:40 pm

I bet that wasn’t the first nor last man’s azz that dog has licked..it’s a learned behavior

Into the Light

July 21st, 2011
2:42 pm

Wow, Fion. That was funny and creepy all at the same time. But mostly funny.

Into the Light

July 21st, 2011
2:42 pm

And, PR, what do you wanna bet she lets the dog lick her face? Ewww, ewwww, ewwww!

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
2:43 pm

That is not all she let’s the dog lick. LOL

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
2:44 pm

That dog saw azz in the air and went to work. Better be glad he did not start humping you.

Just had a thought, does that make you gay because you had a male dog licking your butt instead of a female dog? LOL

Button

July 21st, 2011
2:45 pm

YAWN @ Sassy

Fion

July 21st, 2011
2:47 pm

@ Purp
You know you crazy, right?

Lovely Brown

July 21st, 2011
2:49 pm

:lol: :lol: :lol: @ Fion

Why didn’t you tell her about the dog?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
2:49 pm

LOL….@Purple
Button you haven’t fallen asleep yet? You’re doing a lot yawning. Need a teddy bear?

Button

July 21st, 2011
2:50 pm

fo the record it’s mea culpa- at least get it right.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
2:51 pm

Meant want a teddy bear? You aint Sassy1 are you?

Fion

July 21st, 2011
2:52 pm

@ Lovely
exactly how do you say “ya know sex is great, but ya dog sniffs my azz”.
There is just good way to say it.

Fion

July 21st, 2011
2:52 pm

meant …no good way

Button

July 21st, 2011
2:54 pm

LOL Blackfoote is the teddy bear adult size?

Into the Light

July 21st, 2011
2:54 pm

Fion – you could say, “I enjoyed it, my pretty….and your little dog, too!!” (in your best Wizard of Oz witch’s voice)

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
2:56 pm

Fion, yes I know. LOL

Button

July 21st, 2011
2:57 pm

Yes Blackfoote, I’m sassy1 sassy2, jellybean1, jazzmeup and whomever else you think I am.

kimmie

July 21st, 2011
2:57 pm

Fion – Are you going to see her again? Are you ever going to tell her about the dog?

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
2:57 pm

Fion, you could have started buy the dog gifts and stuff too. Now you only date women with little rat dogs huh?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
2:57 pm

Full length, can also morph into a wolf as well you like that….LOL

Button

July 21st, 2011
2:58 pm

Blackfoote pay me $259,000,000 and I’ll tell you who I am :wink:

Fion

July 21st, 2011
2:58 pm

@ Kimmie
we don’t date anymore. This 5-6 yrs ago. be back in 30 folks.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
3:01 pm

I think you’re Button, today…..LOL

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
3:02 pm

Button is that all it will take, I carry that in the trunk of my car, where do we meet.

Lovely Brown

July 21st, 2011
3:03 pm

exactly how do you say “ya know sex is great, but ya dog sniffs my azz”.
There is just no good way to say it.

can’t stop laughing :lol: Thanks Fion! :lol:

Exiled!

July 21st, 2011
3:03 pm

There are meeting down there right?

PR..the moment u said ‘Down There’, Simple appeared!

Coincidence? j/k Simple :lol:

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
3:04 pm

Simple Man....

July 21st, 2011
3:08 pm

Ex….I heard somebody mention salad tossing thats why I popped back in…I did not know it was the rat azz dog that was doing the tossing!!!!

DAMN DAMN DAMN…….

Button

July 21st, 2011
3:10 pm

Blackfoote can I get a raincheck? Got lots to do in the next 50 years with my boo.

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
3:14 pm

I did not know it was the rat azz dog that was doing the tossing!!!!

:lol:

Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
3:14 pm

Button it’s cool we don’t want to have to get your boo involved in our transactions. I’ll see ya in 50 hold on to that raincheck.

Exiled!

July 21st, 2011
3:17 pm

Simple/PR/Fion!

U see the power of pudy?

Fion wld not disengage from the woman after Clearly being sniffed by the dog! Even the thought if the chiuhua playfully plucking and attempting to play with his balls(like all dogs do) never crossed his mind!

Pudy!!

Simple Man....

July 21st, 2011
3:24 pm

*SMH* Puddy is a powerful thing……*SMH*

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
3:29 pm

I just ate the juiciest peace I had all summer! I sure hope this doesn’t fall right under Ex’s post on pudddy (closing my eyes).

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
3:30 pm

Damnit, where you come from SimpleM

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
3:32 pm

It came close Leggs..

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
3:33 pm

I see, Sassy, I see…..

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 21st, 2011
3:34 pm

FION….baby, do you feel violated? Are you curled in fetal position? Do you need to lie down on my couch and tell me all about it? :lol:

LEGGS…you know you should clarify that statement. Exiled, PR and a few other Nasty Nelsons will run with that one! I can’t lie…I want to! :lol:

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
3:37 pm

Oops, BMW, didn’t know I spelled the word wrong until just now. I mean PEACH, the juiciest PEACH.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
3:39 pm

How was it Leggs?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
3:40 pm

Never mind I thought you were talking about something else.

Into the Light

July 21st, 2011
3:40 pm

LOL@Leggs. I thought you did that just to get Ex riled up. Too funny! :) I made some grilled peaches the other night that were amazing.

Into the Light

July 21st, 2011
3:42 pm

Ex, I’m gonna need you to take the stand and tell us how it is you know so much about how, where, and what dogs like to lick. :?:

Exiled!

July 21st, 2011
3:42 pm

U just ate the juiciest ?
@Leggs?
u said earlier,ur pants were off,and u were in ur office,alone…

Now some woman has joined u and she juicy?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
3:43 pm

BMW
You calling me Nasty Nelson?

Simple Man....

July 21st, 2011
3:43 pm

“I just ate the juiciest peace I had all summer!”

Thats twice today….You feeling ok??? Do we need to put out a Code blue and send a rescue wang in your direction????

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
3:43 pm

I type “peace” so much it was automatic.

Man, that was a loaded statement, but didn’t mean for it to be! I have to thank all of you for not going hard on me.

Exiled!

July 21st, 2011
3:45 pm

ITL?

No, I know dogs like to play with balls….tennis balls ITL!

and the sniffed Fion’s but didn’t yck them off..Thankfully! :lol:

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
3:45 pm

@Ex ~ I have to give you that one…I kinda deserved that. :lol:

OMG @SimpleM ~ could be my subsconscious playing with my typing. That was funny too.

And, I’m taking back my “thanks.” :lol: :lol:

Simple Man....

July 21st, 2011
3:49 pm

One more time Leggs…..

“thank all of you for not going hard on me.”

all things considered, going hard on you might not be teh worst thing that could happen…. :) :D :)

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
3:49 pm

Too funny!…not the “rescue wang”…

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
3:51 pm

@SimpleM ~ I’m choking over here. I didn’t see that one either! :lol: :lol: :lol:

For Real

July 21st, 2011
3:53 pm

Truth Dog Training Class…..

Truth: Today in dog training, we are going to teach your dog how to properly toss salad.

For Real

July 21st, 2011
3:56 pm

Leggs: Peace… Peach it doesn’t matter all we heard was “eat and juicy” and that’s all we need to know.

Into the Light

July 21st, 2011
3:57 pm

Note to self: That code blue had me LOL.

For Real

July 21st, 2011
3:57 pm

eat
juicy
Going hard on me

Repeat

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
3:58 pm

@For Real ~ no doubt.

Fion

July 21st, 2011
4:00 pm

@BMW
baby, do you feel violated? Are you curled in fetal position?

Actually Dr. I found it rather stimulating.

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
4:00 pm

this blog is sumthin…I tell ya :mrgreen:

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
4:03 pm

Ut oh, Fion. You just opened up another can of worms.

kimmie

July 21st, 2011
4:05 pm

Fion

July 21st, 2011
4:05 pm

@ITL
“Ex, I’m gonna need you to take the stand and tell us how it is you know so much about how, where, and what dogs like to lick. ”

I hollered on that one. Now that is funny.

SamE

July 21st, 2011
4:06 pm

Run. I’ve been there years ago when I first moved to Atlanta and was unaware of the “predators” out there. I dated a guy I met while waitressing during the college years and we hung out weekly, I never did see his place..one year later!!! I was so naive it’s painful to remember. If he hasn’t told you were he lives from the jump, then run. It’s not worth it.

Fion

July 21st, 2011
4:07 pm

@Leggs
That’s a story for another day. I was kidding with BMW, but child I got some stuff that will make ya hair fall out.

Into the Light

July 21st, 2011
4:09 pm

Kimmie, you have to tell me what the formatting code is for the bug-eyed emoticon. That’s the one I was trying to put at the end of my post to Ex, but ended up with the question mark. D’oh.

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
4:10 pm

@Fion ~ I figured you were since you somewhat stated your discomfort in your earlier post, just not enough to stop stroking, um deep thrusting. Just figured the guys would jump on your sentence!

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
4:10 pm

: shock : but w/o spaces.

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
4:10 pm

kimmie

July 21st, 2011
4:12 pm

Light – Yeah what Leggs said! : shock :

Into the Light

July 21st, 2011
4:13 pm

Ex….I heard somebody mention salad tossing thats why I popped back in…

Seriously rethinking the plans to go to Doc Green’s tonight….

Exiled!

July 21st, 2011
4:18 pm

I just know that abc is reading but does not like the tone of this blog discourse!

If I were to ask abc if he goes down on his woman what wld be his answer?

I wonder!

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
4:19 pm

Random – I’ve begun posting to my personal blog regularly if anyone is interested in checking me out. A bunch of *really* random stuff. (Most of which can be seen on my FB page as well.)

Into the Light

July 21st, 2011
4:22 pm

:shock:
That makes me laugh every time.

Into the Light

July 21st, 2011
4:22 pm

that = the emoticon

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
4:25 pm

We didn’t need you to break that down, ITL (lol)…

For Real

July 21st, 2011
4:26 pm

“baby, do you feel violated? Are you curled in fetal position?”

For Real now picturing BMW forcing Fion to dress up and perform scene from Yentl

Exiled!

July 21st, 2011
4:27 pm

ITL?

I see u having some emotico issues

I can help u Out :idea: (light bulb moment?)

Coz I don’t want to see u :sad: see

Fion

July 21st, 2011
4:28 pm

@For Real

I’m on the floor after that one man. Uncle, I give.

Exiled!

July 21st, 2011
4:32 pm

SexxyCool on Random?

I hope u show off,just ur Leggs,like what Raqi does on hers.(blog)

:lol:

Into the Light

July 21st, 2011
4:47 pm

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 21st, 2011
4:51 pm

FION….we now we have other issues to address! :lol:

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
4:54 pm

Don’t hurt him BMW…

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 21st, 2011
4:55 pm

SEXYCOOL….will your blog post random things such as my thoughts like mine? You remember how I said Pimpin’ goes back tot he biblical days? What male can lie around and do jack shhhhh while the the females do all the work and he gets all the glory. He will sometimes “protect” his territory every blue moon to make himself fell relevant. Ladies and gentleman…may I present, the Lion! He was one of the animals that was on board Noah’s Ark.

I have too much time on my hand sometimes! :lol:

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
4:55 pm

Then again he might like that..

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 21st, 2011
4:56 pm

Pardon my typos…this heat and humiduty of NYC is baking my brain. I have to go down to hell…I mean the subway to get home! UGH!

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
5:00 pm

Pray not for freedom from difficulties, but for peace in your difficulties.

PEACE!