Is their home life a mystery?
One of our readers would like some advice about a new romance she is in. They have been on at least 4 dates and they met Memorial Day weekend. She has had him over to her place and he even met some of her friends. However, he has been a little less inclined to share his home life with her.
She has not seen where he lives, nor does he talk about his personal life that much. Obviously, it makes her uneasy because she is starting to think he is concealing something or someone. Do you think it is a red flag if you don’t get invited over to someone’s place?
It is possible that he is a private person. How quickly do you let people in – so to speak?
When do you introduce the person you are dating to friends and family? Do you wait until you are in an exclusive relationship?
What would you do if the person you are interested in is too mysterious for you? Do you snoop and do your own digging or cut your losses at the “shady” behavior?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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429 comments Add your comment
Lovely Brown
July 21st, 2011
2:49 pm
Why didn’t you tell her about the dog?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 21st, 2011
2:49 pm
LOL….@Purple
Button you haven’t fallen asleep yet? You’re doing a lot yawning. Need a teddy bear?
Button
July 21st, 2011
2:50 pm
fo the record it’s mea culpa- at least get it right.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 21st, 2011
2:51 pm
Meant want a teddy bear? You aint Sassy1 are you?
Fion
July 21st, 2011
2:52 pm
@ Lovely
exactly how do you say “ya know sex is great, but ya dog sniffs my azz”.
There is just good way to say it.
Fion
July 21st, 2011
2:52 pm
meant …no good way
Button
July 21st, 2011
2:54 pm
LOL Blackfoote is the teddy bear adult size?
Into the Light
July 21st, 2011
2:54 pm
Fion – you could say, “I enjoyed it, my pretty….and your little dog, too!!” (in your best Wizard of Oz witch’s voice)
Purple Rain
July 21st, 2011
2:56 pm
Fion, yes I know. LOL
Button
July 21st, 2011
2:57 pm
Yes Blackfoote, I’m sassy1 sassy2, jellybean1, jazzmeup and whomever else you think I am.
kimmie
July 21st, 2011
2:57 pm
Fion – Are you going to see her again? Are you ever going to tell her about the dog?
Purple Rain
July 21st, 2011
2:57 pm
Fion, you could have started buy the dog gifts and stuff too. Now you only date women with little rat dogs huh?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 21st, 2011
2:57 pm
Full length, can also morph into a wolf as well you like that….LOL
Button
July 21st, 2011
2:58 pm
Blackfoote pay me $259,000,000 and I’ll tell you who I am
Fion
July 21st, 2011
2:58 pm
@ Kimmie
we don’t date anymore. This 5-6 yrs ago. be back in 30 folks.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 21st, 2011
3:01 pm
I think you’re Button, today…..LOL
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 21st, 2011
3:02 pm
Button is that all it will take, I carry that in the trunk of my car, where do we meet.
Lovely Brown
July 21st, 2011
3:03 pm
exactly how do you say “ya know sex is great, but ya dog sniffs my azz”.
There is just no good way to say it.
can’t stop laughing
Thanks Fion! 
Exiled!
July 21st, 2011
3:03 pm
There are meeting down there right?
PR..the moment u said ‘Down There’, Simple appeared!
Coincidence? j/k Simple
Purple Rain
July 21st, 2011
3:04 pm
LOL@Exiled
Simple Man....
July 21st, 2011
3:08 pm
Ex….I heard somebody mention salad tossing thats why I popped back in…I did not know it was the rat azz dog that was doing the tossing!!!!
DAMN DAMN DAMN…….
Button
July 21st, 2011
3:10 pm
Blackfoote can I get a raincheck? Got lots to do in the next 50 years with my boo.
Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)
July 21st, 2011
3:14 pm
I did not know it was the rat azz dog that was doing the tossing!!!!
Blackfoote
July 21st, 2011
3:14 pm
Button it’s cool we don’t want to have to get your boo involved in our transactions. I’ll see ya in 50 hold on to that raincheck.
Exiled!
July 21st, 2011
3:17 pm
Simple/PR/Fion!
U see the power of pudy?
Fion wld not disengage from the woman after Clearly being sniffed by the dog! Even the thought if the chiuhua playfully plucking and attempting to play with his balls(like all dogs do) never crossed his mind!
Pudy!!
Simple Man....
July 21st, 2011
3:24 pm
*SMH* Puddy is a powerful thing……*SMH*
Leggs
July 21st, 2011
3:29 pm
I just ate the juiciest peace I had all summer! I sure hope this doesn’t fall right under Ex’s post on pudddy (closing my eyes).
Leggs
July 21st, 2011
3:30 pm
Damnit, where you come from SimpleM
Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)
July 21st, 2011
3:32 pm
It came close Leggs..
Leggs
July 21st, 2011
3:33 pm
I see, Sassy, I see…..
BlackMagicWoman...in NYC
July 21st, 2011
3:34 pm
FION….baby, do you feel violated? Are you curled in fetal position? Do you need to lie down on my couch and tell me all about it?
LEGGS…you know you should clarify that statement. Exiled, PR and a few other Nasty Nelsons will run with that one! I can’t lie…I want to!
Leggs
July 21st, 2011
3:37 pm
Oops, BMW, didn’t know I spelled the word wrong until just now. I mean PEACH, the juiciest PEACH.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 21st, 2011
3:39 pm
How was it Leggs?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 21st, 2011
3:40 pm
Never mind I thought you were talking about something else.
Into the Light
July 21st, 2011
3:40 pm
LOL@Leggs. I thought you did that just to get Ex riled up. Too funny!
I made some grilled peaches the other night that were amazing.
Into the Light
July 21st, 2011
3:42 pm
Ex, I’m gonna need you to take the stand and tell us how it is you know so much about how, where, and what dogs like to lick.
Exiled!
July 21st, 2011
3:42 pm
U just ate the juiciest ?
@Leggs?
u said earlier,ur pants were off,and u were in ur office,alone…
Now some woman has joined u and she juicy?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 21st, 2011
3:43 pm
BMW
You calling me Nasty Nelson?
Simple Man....
July 21st, 2011
3:43 pm
“I just ate the juiciest peace I had all summer!”
Thats twice today….You feeling ok??? Do we need to put out a Code blue and send a rescue wang in your direction????
Leggs
July 21st, 2011
3:43 pm
I type “peace” so much it was automatic.
Man, that was a loaded statement, but didn’t mean for it to be! I have to thank all of you for not going hard on me.
Exiled!
July 21st, 2011
3:45 pm
ITL?
No, I know dogs like to play with balls….tennis balls ITL!
and the sniffed Fion’s but didn’t yck them off..Thankfully!
Leggs
July 21st, 2011
3:45 pm
@Ex ~ I have to give you that one…I kinda deserved that.
OMG @SimpleM ~ could be my subsconscious playing with my typing. That was funny too.
And, I’m taking back my “thanks.”
Simple Man....
July 21st, 2011
3:49 pm
One more time Leggs…..
“thank all of you for not going hard on me.”
all things considered, going hard on you might not be teh worst thing that could happen….
Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)
July 21st, 2011
3:49 pm
Too funny!…not the “rescue wang”…
Leggs
July 21st, 2011
3:51 pm
@SimpleM ~ I’m choking over here. I didn’t see that one either!
For Real
July 21st, 2011
3:53 pm
Truth Dog Training Class…..
Truth: Today in dog training, we are going to teach your dog how to properly toss salad.
For Real
July 21st, 2011
3:56 pm
Leggs: Peace… Peach it doesn’t matter all we heard was “eat and juicy” and that’s all we need to know.
Into the Light
July 21st, 2011
3:57 pm
Note to self: That code blue had me LOL.
For Real
July 21st, 2011
3:57 pm
eat
juicy
Going hard on me
Repeat
Leggs
July 21st, 2011
3:58 pm
@For Real ~ no doubt.