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Is their home life a mystery?

One of our readers would like some advice about a new romance she is in. They have been on at least 4 dates and they met Memorial Day weekend. She has had him over to her place and he even met some of her friends. However, he has been a little less inclined to share his home life with her.

She has not seen where he lives, nor does he talk about his personal life that much. Obviously, it makes her uneasy because she is starting to think he is concealing something or someone. Do you think it is a red flag if you don’t get invited over to someone’s place?

It is possible that he is a private person. How quickly do you let people in – so to speak?

When do you introduce the person you are dating to friends and family? Do you wait until you are in an exclusive relationship?

What would you do if the person you are interested in is too mysterious for you? Do you snoop and do your own digging or cut your losses at the “shady” behavior?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

429 comments Add your comment

For Real

July 21st, 2011
12:04 pm

Button: Don’t listen to Blackfoote. We want to see a catfight. I hope you a wearing a holter top. I know Sassy is wearing a tear-away white tank top. Now what were you saying again about Sassy momma and that freemason?

Button

July 21st, 2011
12:04 pm

@ Celisea @feeding the dog chicken bones..lol

My dog refused to eat dog food, he always wanted what we had, grits, rice you name it he wanted to eat it except for what he was supposed to eat.

Button

July 21st, 2011
12:05 pm

LOL @ For Real, I know Blackfoote was trying to start a lil sump’in sump’in but I’m a lover not a fighter

Mo (aka Moeisha)

July 21st, 2011
12:06 pm

Afternoon All!!

Okay so I was popping in thinking we would be like on page 3 and we are on page 5! So what are we talking about? Has the topic gone by the wayside already??

kimmie

July 21st, 2011
12:08 pm

Exiled – H to the NAW I don’t know jack about that! I don’t even like animals! I put up with the kids two cats cause they were there before me, but I am so not an animal lover!!!

For Real

July 21st, 2011
12:11 pm

Button: So you want to make love to Sassy? I’m all for love too.

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
12:11 pm

Dogs being treated like little humans is a result of pet services industry marketing.

kimmie – “I am so not an animal lover!!!”
+1

However, I like my dog (most of the time) and we treat her very well….as a result of pet services marketing.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:12 pm

Button – My dog refused to eat dog food, he always wanted what we had, grits, rice you name it he wanted to eat it except for what he was supposed to eat

I don’t have animals but I’ve always heard whatever you start them off eating is what they’ll eat.

Buttons – Who are you? We get newly recycled folks almost everyday now that will stick around and drop off change monikers.

SexyCool

July 21st, 2011
12:14 pm

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
12:15 pm

Good question Celisea…

Simple Man....

July 21st, 2011
12:16 pm

Public service announcement!!!

” Please Spend lots of money taking care of your pets!!!!!”

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:16 pm

Button

July 21st, 2011
12:17 pm

@ For Real no way will I love someone who has a sassy temper! besides just by reading her, she’s not my type if I was that way.

@ Celisea I’m hanging out with you guys for the day, can’t promise I’ll stay around b/c job duties don’t allow for that much down time.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:18 pm

Button – Hanging around is fine…just change your moniker back to who you are and behave :)

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:19 pm

Button

July 21st, 2011
12:20 pm

@ Celisea is this blog available to just a oldies and no newbies? I know no other blog that has restrictions such as.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
12:23 pm

Button
LOL…..Glad to see you’re a lover, let me apologize if you think I’m trying to start something.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
12:23 pm

Don’t cater to your animal with food. No matter what you start them off with. If you need tog et them on a certain food give it to them. Don’t stray away from it, that dog will eat it before he does. It’s just who has the stronger will power, the owner or the dog?

Him

July 21st, 2011
12:23 pm

Leggs — Okay, I hear you. But I challenge you to present a single example of a decision you made that — at the time you made it — you perceived (not knew) that there was nothing whatsoever in it for you. I’m not talking about the results of those decisions. I’m referring to your perception of what those results would be. Why in heaven’s name would you ever make any decision that you believed would not serve your interest in some way? It so happens that many or most of our decisions happen to serve the interests of other people as well (and it’s nice when that happens), but we always believe that they will serve our own interest in some way. Always.

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
12:24 pm

Celisea, Celisea be nice or are you trying to get me started? LOL

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:25 pm

PR – Okay…lol Don’t do it.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:25 pm

I don’t know what’s worse…dumb or playing dumb

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:27 pm

Alright folks…it’s lunch time

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
12:28 pm

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
12:29 pm

Celisea calling folks out……LOL
Seem like I’m on the list too.

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
12:29 pm

@Celisea ~ I took my pants off and pre-soaked the pocket area in some peroxide. I’m now sitting at my desk in my gym shorts w/a blanket wrapped around me. I look a hot mess!

@Him ~ I was driving home the other day. Saw an older woman at the bus stop with groceries. I stopped and asked if she wanted a ride. The bus route is the same route I take home. She thanked me and said yes. She was going out of my way, but I didn’t mind. I drove her to her home. A benefit to me….um, I got a smile out of it!

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
12:31 pm

I told my boss not to ask me to get anything that’s not already at my desk for the next hour!

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
12:32 pm

besides just by reading her, she’s not my type if I was that way.

awwww :lol:

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:32 pm

Blackfoote – Not really and honestly it’s not by business. It just stinks though when folks change names and pop in all brand new and target someone they don’t have the courage to do under their regular moniker and then “play dumb.” Just jump in and roll with it and say what you have to say. If you don’t like someone’s post then just move on. Button was about to get a hole torn out of her/his frame. Then too, that mess is moist if you’re a man posing as a woman…who does that?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
12:33 pm

Leggs:
Thats’ what you were talking about his morning, about last night what you’re doing now…..LOL

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
12:34 pm

Leggs the peroxide should work…and for the sake of your pristine white suit I hope it does.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:34 pm

Leggs – Saw an older woman at the bus stop with groceries. I stopped and asked if she wanted a ride. The bus route is the same route I take home. She thanked me and said yes. She was going out of my way, but I didn’t mind. I drove her to her home. A benefit to me….um, I got a smile out of it!

Be careful cause some grannies are packing…lol

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:34 pm

Alright ribs hitting my back now

Sassy Black..Good is good..GREAT is better ;-)

July 21st, 2011
12:35 pm

. It just stinks though when folks change names and pop in all brand new and target someone they don’t have the courage to do under their regular moniker and then “play dumb.”

I Cosign Celisea….

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
12:36 pm

Leggs, is showing off her legs at work.

Blackfoote, Celisea is funny. I am waiting on the day when she just lets her real thoughts flow on the blog. LOL

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:36 pm

Leggs – I’m now sitting at my desk in my gym shorts w/a blanket wrapped around me.

I missed this…lol That’s funneee

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:37 pm

Sassy – :)

PR – Hursh man

Button

July 21st, 2011
12:39 pm

@ Celisea it’s not that serious, aren’t we ALL under disguese? you’re reaching, and it’s not lady like—tsk tsk. You really need to get a life outside of the blog, it’s not THAT serious. I see no disclaimer that says you must keep your moniker at all times when blogging. And IF i chose to change my name tomorrow I can do it b/c it’s my PEROGATIVE. GET IT?? HOPE SO!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
12:40 pm

I know Celisea it’s funny aint it. Rather than say For Real was trying to start something she giggled. I offer an apology and tell her I don’t want to see that shi I’m trying to start something. (Face Palm)

Leggs

July 21st, 2011
12:40 pm

@Celisea ~ lol…I thought about that. I instantly got a good vibe when I rolled down my window in the rain so I went for it.

@PR ~ ssshhhh, but I always show off my legs. Very rare for me to wear pants.

Button

July 21st, 2011
12:42 pm

disguise not disguese–sorry

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
12:43 pm

LOL….@Purple

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 21st, 2011
12:43 pm

PURPLE…I am chatty, but I am not too chatty where I do not let him speak. I just like to know what his motives and intentions are. And I also want to know if I should even progress on to date #2 or know it is a waste of time and keep it moving!

KIMMIE…I had a friend who kept such nasty crib, that I told her that I always felt like some thing was crawling on me. Amd her told her that when guys saw her nasty home they thought that that was how she kept her body. I know if I go to a guy’s ctrib and it’s nasty..I am grossed out. And I will not mess with him. He doesn’t have to be as OCD as I am…but he must be neat! I think I may have offended some guys because on instinct I woudl start cleaning. I would not even realize that I was doing it. Oh well…clean your crib nasty!

PURPLE…that ex friend I spoke of, her car looked like somebody take a dumpster and just tossed all the contents in the back seat. There was so much garbage that you could not see the floor. The trash came up to the seats! UGH!

Button

July 21st, 2011
12:44 pm

I feel extra important today thanks to Blackfoote and Celisea :lol:

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:44 pm

Blackfoote – Your 12:40 exactly

Leggs – Good for you…be careful though :)

Him

July 21st, 2011
12:45 pm

Leggs — Very good. That’s what I’m talking about. You did a very commendable thing, and you should be pleased with yourself for doing that. But, of course, that’s my point. It did please you to do it. Almost all volunteer work, by the way, is based on that concept. We do it not only because there’s a need for our services, but it makes us feel good about ourselves. Raises our self-esteem. We feel better about ourselves after lending someone a hand. A win-win situation for everyone. And there’s nothing shameful about that. We need to feel good about ourselves to live a happy healthy life. So, I encourage you to continue to be nice to little ol’ ladies. Everyone (except maybe the bus company) benefits from it.

Celisea

July 21st, 2011
12:45 pm

You’re welcome….ButtonBooBoo the Clown. Anything to help :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 21st, 2011
12:48 pm

Button:
You are special calm down, we all good join in the fray don’t be an enemey of it.

Button

July 21st, 2011
12:49 pm

Awww Celisea GIRL you really shouldn’t have :wink:

Purple Rain

July 21st, 2011
12:50 pm

How does one surmise that one has no life outside of the blog in one day?

BMW, hey I love you because you and I have a defined relationship. I sex you and you spank me, we are not complicated. LOL

Him/Buttin, you type like Dreamsmaterialize. But it is probaly just Simple Man doing his shape shifter thing again.