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Dating news: Men like getting asked out!?

Earlier this week, we talked about whether or not women should date more like men. Ladies, if you ever wonder what men go through on the dating scene, try approaching a perfect stranger.

In my experience, approaching a man can be exciting, terrifying, and empowering (assuming he doesn’t find you repulsive or crazy) – all at once. I don’t do it often enough, but I really should!

The men I know are genuinely surprised and happy to have a woman approach them – compliment them. Oh, asking when you can see him again? Apparently, it’s one of those ego stroking things that some men really enjoy. A lot. Not unlike how women feel when we get asked out!

Do you think living in the south, women are less inclined to approach a man? Friends in other cities say that women don’t have much apprehension about it like us “girls raised in the south” and maybe this is an obstacle in dating.

When a woman approaches a man, does it really seem desperate? Does it depend on how she delivers her “opening line” or how she carries herself?

Guys, when was the last time a woman approached you? What was your first impression? Do you generally like getting approached by women?

Do you think it is better when a woman breaks the ice and then you take it from there?

Ladies, what is your biggest beef with approaching a man? What message do you think it sends to the guy?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

288 comments Add your comment

JASon

July 20th, 2011
6:41 am

Wise diva, my advice would be to lose some weight and work on your appearance. Then you won’t have to works so hard. This will never be a world in which hot women go up to men to talk to them.

Foxy

July 20th, 2011
7:03 am

Good Morning Kids!
Foxy thinks confidence is everything! If you want something – go for it!

Anthony Weiner

July 20th, 2011
7:04 am

I like it when women approach me !

;)

Shut up, JASon!

July 20th, 2011
7:10 am

Jason, hush, you fool! Are you trying to spoil it for us men? I would LOVE it if women approached me.

Bill Clinton

July 20th, 2011
7:13 am

As long as it is not Hillary, I also like women to approach me. :)

John Edwards

July 20th, 2011
7:17 am

All of us Democrats like hot women to approach us! That why I keep a video camera with me all of the time.

Jessie Jackson

July 20th, 2011
7:18 am

I’m always thankful when hot women approach me; however, I am not too keen on fat chicks.

Granny Godzilla

July 20th, 2011
7:20 am

You should always let the man make the first move; otherwise, you look like a slut.

Ted Kennedy's Ghost

July 20th, 2011
7:20 am

I’ll drink to that !

Atlanta School Teacher

July 20th, 2011
7:22 am

Makes no difference to me…I’m constantly cheating on whoever I’m with.

J Henry

July 20th, 2011
7:26 am

It would be refreshing to have a woman compliment or approach us from time to time.

Shy Guy

July 20th, 2011
7:28 am

What do woman think about straight men who shave thier legs?

J Henry

July 20th, 2011
7:29 am

I disagree Granny Godzilla.. It’s 2011, a woman can approach a man without seeming slutty.. The confidence that women seek in men, we ask in return..

Ahhhnold

July 20th, 2011
7:34 am

What’s wrong with sluts? Men love sluts!

APS Teacher

July 20th, 2011
7:42 am

Everybody cheats.

Coach Vince "Coke Head" Dooley

July 20th, 2011
7:43 am

I’ve rarely been caught cheating.

Beverly Hall

July 20th, 2011
7:48 am

I never cheat! ;)

Damon Evans

July 20th, 2011
7:50 am

Be advised that cheating can come back to bite you. :(

Eddie Long

July 20th, 2011
7:51 am

Amen, Damon.
The key is to deny, deny, deny.

Nancy Pelosi

July 20th, 2011
7:52 am

I’ve never had any sane men approach me…what’s wrong with me?

Homer Simpson

July 20th, 2011
7:55 am

This is a funny blog.

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MzNewy

July 20th, 2011
8:00 am

I’m old school, I think you let him make the first move. If subtle across the room eye contact and a smile doesn’t entice him to approach me, then I took it as he is not interested…and that is ok, you aren’t going to be everyone’s type.

IMHO, I don’t find it empowering, I find that it smacks of desperation.

Rickster

July 20th, 2011
8:01 am

The last time a Woman approached me was in 1984…got married in 1986 and just celebrated our 25th Anniv. in April.

Jezebel

July 20th, 2011
8:09 am

I get asked out all the time by Married men! What gives?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
8:19 am

I am old school and if I recieve eye contact and a smile, I would approach you. I’m impressed and flattered, I don’t think of anything being wrong with her. I see nothing desperate about her actions, ask me out and I’ll go. It don’t always mean a sexual encounter, small convo can be just as sensual.

Good Day To You:

Dave

July 20th, 2011
8:26 am

I think in today’s times, equality means equality. I have been asked out many times and it sure is appreciated.I also do the asking out and it works just as well. But I don’t think that a woman that is described as “HOT” will do much of the asking out. She may act all interested and do everything BUT ask you out, but she’ll let you make the first move. It’s because usually HOT women have a plethora of men already persuing her, so she’s in no hurry. More mature women will ask if they can buy you a drink or even ask you out. That’s confidence and not being concerned with all of the old sociaties stigmatas. You want it and you go get it. Saying it smacks of desperation is simply admitting that you DON’T have that confidence, IMO.

Dave

July 20th, 2011
8:30 am

It’s like when a women is “making the first move” or “initating the emcounter”. It sure is a welcomed change when a woman is vibing so well with you that she takes the lead. Doesn’t mean it will happen all the time, but the surprise when she does is quite arousing. I’ll take one of that order every day and twice on the weekend days.

Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)

July 20th, 2011
8:34 am

There is nothing wrong with either party doing the asking, IMHO. It is how one spins the approach that makes it threatening or not. I really dont do the bar scene, but an invitation on Match or eHarmony by a lady is flattering. If one is looking for a partner rather than a conquest, no male should be offended by being asked out. If the person is someone you see you have no interest in, just thank them graciously for the flattering request but you are seeing someone and looking to see where it might go. A white lie no doubt, but it is not necessary for anyone to destroy the other person’s ego for just asking.

MzNewy

July 20th, 2011
8:36 am

@ Dave, I have confidence but I am old fashion. I believe in being courting. I am engaged but when he and I were just dating, after we had gone out awhile, I would pick up the phone and suggest we do something and would pay for it. Because I believe if you suggest something you should pay. As for the initial encounter, I stick by what I said, but that is just me and how I was raised.

MzNewy

July 20th, 2011
8:37 am

*courted oops

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
8:52 am

MzNewy:

Would you say courting and dating be two different entities? Courting being where two people are working toward a relationship and dating is more a social activity where either person can evolve from.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
8:58 am

RandyT how’s it goin? It is flattering when one decides to do that, and I understand the one’s that may want to and is held back by the way they were raised.

MzNewy

July 20th, 2011
9:05 am

@ Blackfoote – yes they are. That is why I clarified…”back when we were dating” Yes I did ask him out after we had been dating awhile. But for the initial approach, I let him do that.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
9:14 am

I believe they are different too. When I court you my feelings are more aligned and in tune with your emotions. Dating will only lead to or away from the courtship.

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
9:16 am

Good morning.

First things first, HAPPY B-DAY TO OUR ONE AND ONLY TRUTH. HOPE YOU HAVE A FANTASTIC DAY!

I see nothing wrong with asking a man out. I have asked out a few and I have paid for the date!

Amia in Atl

July 20th, 2011
9:19 am

@ Jason – I have seen plus size, curvy women with so much confidence that they can approach any many.
I personally think that a man should still do the asking out initially. I have no problem flirting and giving you all the signd you need to have the confidence. If I have given all the signs, short of jumping on you, and you still don’t do it, then I take it as lack of confidence or you aren’t into me. Fine, I just take my flirting to the next.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
9:20 am

Hello Leggs.

Simple Man....

July 20th, 2011
9:23 am

” I don’t find it empowering, I find that it smacks of desperation.”

WOW!!! Really???? What ever happened to being a strong, liberated woman???

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
9:24 am

Morning,

We’ve talked about this before. A person should do what works for them. For me? I like the man to approach and be the pursuer he was born to be. It’s within our gender roles to make happen what nature intended to happen. The woman gives off her scent (smiles, come hither looks, inviting, warm, the friendlies, etc) and the man takes the cue. Nothing hard or unnatural about that. I dunno, it’s jus always so much more, how shall I say it….gratifying when I know you’re interested by the obvious actions.

IMO, women not interested will in most cases make it known. No need to take it further. However a man not REALLY interested may “go along” because if nothing else, he may get a little something out of it. My other reason for never really buying into the whole idea of approaching a man. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not shy….at all and like MzNewy said have no problem initiating time together once we’ve established something.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
9:30 am

Dating vs Courting Depends on the person and their intents. IMO, if you aren’t really interested in anything to serious and want to have a plethora of “friends” then dating is the safe term. If a person is seriously interested in pursuing where things can potentially go, dating or courting….IMO, it all becomes the same. If they are truly different at what point does one segue into the other? If they are truly different is there a conversation from dating to courting? Do you say I’m no longer dating you, I’m now courting you?? Not likely. I think it depends on the person and their intents. Someone REALLY digging you and wanting in it to win it…IMO don’t have to have that conversation. Things progess accordingly.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
9:30 am

Celisea you sarting early talking about giving off her scents and things. How else will a wolf track you down j/k……LOL

MzNewy

July 20th, 2011
9:31 am

@ Simple – I believe in still letting a man be a man. I don’t proclaim to be a “strong liberated woman”. Yes, I believe in being able to take care of myself, but my fiance’ still has the lead and will have the lead in our home.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
9:31 am

Blackfoote – YOU are starting early. I made no mention of wolf. You must have a ready button for those fangs…lol I kid I kid.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
9:35 am

There must be a “scatch and sniff here” button the some of the screens…lol

J Henry

July 20th, 2011
9:36 am

Celisea-So you’re saying that you would initiate certain “cues” as a form of making the 1st move?

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
9:36 am

I’m strong and liberated but I still want you to want me and come after me and show me… hey I likes what I likes. A woman feeling that will naturally reciprocate.

Now that “someone” in back in the country…I got meetings. Maybe I can pop back in later.

MzNewy

July 20th, 2011
9:36 am

@ Celisea – IMHO, they become different when you each stop seeing other people. It may not be a conversation perse, but there is a change in the interaction. For example, when Mr. Newy and I switched from dating to courtship, it was somewhat subtle. I would always call first before coming by, even if we agreed on hanging out; when he announced that “I didn’t need to call first” was the first sign that our relationship was changing. We didn’t announce that we weren’t seeing others, but we spent so much time together that others fell off naturally.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
9:37 am

Celisea I’m as harmles as a new born puppy…..LOL

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
9:37 am

J Henry – So you’re saying that you would initiate certain “cues” as a form of making the 1st move?

I’m saying if a woman if feeling you she’ll give you an opening. Sometimes things are misread or misleading but overall…for me…I have no problem letting you know you can approach.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
9:40 am

MzNewy – IMHO, they become different when you each stop seeing other people. It may not be a conversation perse, but there is a change in the interaction.

I agree. That’s why I said depending upon the person’s intent. It’s all seamless for someone that truly intends on making it happen. It’s not hard to scale back when you’re wanting more and to pursue more with someone.

CoolShadow

July 20th, 2011
9:52 am

When a woman approaches a man, does it really seem desperate? Does it depend on how she delivers her “opening line” or how she carries herself?

I don’t think it’s desperate for a woman to approach, in some ways it’s courageous. It means she is stepping out of comfort zone and being proactive. Women don’t need a line, just walk up and start talking; most men’s interest will be captured by the mere act of her approach.

Guys, when was the last time a woman approached you? What was your first impression? Do you generally like getting approached by women?

It happened last fall; I was flattered and admired her courage but wasn’t impressed by her. That lack of feeling was confirmed when she stated that because she approached, her work was done. Huh?

UGA 1999

July 20th, 2011
9:54 am

SURE THEY DO!

Dave

July 20th, 2011
9:55 am

I think women, in general, are stepping up more in all avenues. Course, they don’t want men to treat them EXACTLY like we treat other men because we are pretty ruthless with each other, kid each other about fails and shortcomings mercilessly and pretty much any weakness is hammered….but it’s all in good fun and we know that. Those that get offended are chastised even more.

But women are really changing. Used to be a woman that had a lot of notches in her bedpost was considered a “slut”, but from what I hear, now she is considered “experienced”, “liberated” and “sensual”. They even are pretty much open about “no we don’t really date, we just have sex because he is goooood.”. The old FWB. I like the openness and frankness, simply because I hated the old adage of “rules to go by”. Today, rules are met with a slight eye roll and almost viewed as a challenge to break them. So I appreciate the occassional “How about we go get some supper this weekend” from a woman or even “Let’s hang out Saturday night.” Times are achanging and IMO, it’s for the better. Makes me tingle….LMAO

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
10:04 am

Excuse me, I was rushing and didn’t really read the topic. It has nothing to do with asking a man out for a date. So, on point, nothing wrong with approaching a man. I use to be shy but I’ve outgrown it. I will approach a man in a heartbeat. I will give a compliment as easy as it is for me to breathe. I have even offered to pay for a man’s lunch who may be sitting at another table. Hell, it’s not all on the man to approach us. Reciprocation of the species should be the order of the day!

J Henry

July 20th, 2011
10:06 am

Here Here Leggs..

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
10:07 am

Hello Blackfoote! How’s it going?

@Rickster ~ congrats to you on your 25th anniversary. That’s is way cool.

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
10:10 am

Morning All!

Nothing really to add to the topic that I haven’t already said a thousand times about this topic. Like Celisea said, do what works for you. There will always be someone who likes your way, whether you do the approaching or prefer the man to make the initial move. One is neither right nor wrong or outdated. It’s all about what you and the other are comfortable with.

In my case, I made myself approachable and my husband made the first move. He pursued me initially and then we began to pursue each other. The rest is history.

Whether I approached or not had nothing to do with my strength or liberation as a woman.

I would rather guys say that they prefer to make the first move and pursue the lady, rather than label those that approach them desperate. To me that comes off as the guy thinking a bit too highly of himself, like he’s just all that. Oh really? :shock:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
10:12 am

Doing good Leggs, laying low under the stairwell.

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
10:12 am

Case in point – I was standing in line at the airport, and the gentleman in front of me had on a really nice blazer. I told him I thought his blazer was sharp. The look on his face was precious. He was most appreciative of the compliment. Told me it was his favorite blazer and no one has ever complimented him when wearing it. I smiled and told him glad I was the first and I bet he’ll be getting more going forward.

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
10:13 am

:lol: :lol: You still under that stairwell. Hope you’ve gone home and at least changed your drawers. :lol:

CoolShadow

July 20th, 2011
10:16 am

@Leggs- props to you! If you asked me out, I’d still pay. Although the unwritten rule is whoevever asks first pays, reasonable men will still pick up the tab.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
10:17 am

Wonder where something “unwritten” is kept or stored or documented? Hmmmm

MzNewy

July 20th, 2011
10:19 am

@ Leggs…Like you, I do compliment men, but I don’t approach them for the first date (as the topic is indicating)

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
10:19 am

I like to approach the woman, she may give off signs that she wants me to approach. Even if she does not give off signs that she wants me to approach I will approach anyway if I feel like meeting her. If a woman approached me it would be fun for the moment or whatever. But I am the man I find women they don’t find me. If she notices me before I notice her she probably was just not noticable to me.

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
10:21 am

Thank you CoolShadow. You may or may not know, but I am an advocate of “paying it forward” and being kind to people. Sure, I can be a beyotch if provoked, but who couldn’t! Be nice folk and make others around you smile! It’s so so easy to do.

For the ladies – before the day is out how about giving 3 men (strangers) a compliment today.

OSHH

July 20th, 2011
10:21 am

you know what I don’t care if it was the year 7001, some things should never change. It’s like men don’t want to be MEN anymore. Reagrdless of what anyone says men and women are different, maybe equal on some human being accords but are still yin and yang.

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
10:21 am

Leggs – I really do love giving compliments! And that’s to men, women, children, young and old. It makes people feel good. I give credit where credit is due!

I don’t put giving a man a compliment in the same category as asking a man out. Are there women who really have a problem doing that? Does that take “courage” or make them look “desperate”, just to give a man a compliment? I guess I don’t see it that way because when I’ve given compliments they are not used as an “opening line”. They are genuine and I have no motive, only to comment on what I’m seeing in a positive way. Not to flirt.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
10:24 am

LOL…..@Leggs
Ouch you smacked me across my nose. That’s one way to tame a wolf.

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
10:24 am

@MsNewzy ~ ok, my reading comprehension is a bit off today. Gotcha!

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
10:27 am

EXACTLY, kimmmie! It makes people feel good. It’s that simple.

@Blackfoote ~ stop acting like you some big bad wolf with sharp fangs. You’re a little stuffed teddy bear that wouldn’t harm a fly!

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
10:27 am

LOL @ OSHH….I’m there with you girlie.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
10:30 am

Morning PR – I agree with your 10:19

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
10:32 am

How’s the gas station gal thingy going? Have you found another location?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
10:33 am

True I can be a teddy bear, but I’m not a little one…LOL

CoolShadow

July 20th, 2011
10:34 am

@Celisea/kimmie- what do you do or have done to make yourselves approachable? It seems as if all women think their hints to approach are universally understood, but they’re not. I’ve been in the presence of women that indicated no interest in me but found out later that they were. And there have been other situations where smiles and words were mouthed indicating interest but when I approached them they shut down.

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
10:40 am

Good morning Celisea, I have not seen her since last week. I am going to the same station, not going to run and have to spend more money just for that reason. I can control myself. Wait I did see her once she was on the other side of the store, she waved..I tipped my hat and that was it.

SexyCool

July 20th, 2011
10:42 am

Some people do not have to consciously do anything to make themselves approachable. We just are.

That’s all I got! (lol)

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
10:52 am

Cool – I don’t know what to tell you. I think it is just trial and error and part of the game really. For example, with me, I have a tendency to look serious if I’m not actively smiling. I’ll be out, minding my own business thinking about what I’m doing at the time. People would tell me, “I saw you at Publix but you were looking so mean I didn’t bother you”. So when I was out, especially at social events, I would make an effort to look pleasant. But then, some men would see me smiling and think I was flirting or being coy, when I was just being nice.

Same with men. I would misread their signals. Some would be looking at me very intense, with no hint of a smile. Later I would find out these men “liked” me.

My husband has what I would call a “pleasant” face, which is what I love on a man. I’m not turned on by the hard, intense types.

So I would say, even with women, go for those that seem to have a warm, inviting spirit about them. You’ll probably find that they are not trying too hard and are the most real. Even if you misread them and find they are just nice to everyone, they probably won’t shoot you down and make you feel bad about approaching them.

Lovely'Much Better Now' Brown

July 20th, 2011
10:56 am

Good Morning All! :-)

Before I got married, if I saw a guy and wanted to get to know him better I had absolutely no prob asking him out. I’m very confident( always have been) and I don’t think it makes a woman look desperate or thirsty, as my teenagers would say :lol: The men seemed to find it very alluring and appreciated the attention….whether it turned into a ‘love connection’ or not.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
11:02 am

CoolShadow – I don’t really “do” anything per se. I might become more intentional with my interaction. Sort of like being natural, to the second power. An unexpected APPROPRIATE touch, not looking away if you catch me looking, a super super smile…all naturally fueled though.

I dated this one guy where we tap danced soooo long around getting things off the ground. He was “supercool” and assertive in being such a good friend but always braked to go further. Now I understood there was an attraction driving him to always want to hang out and do things but danggit he needed to make a move. When we’d go out…as friends of course, he’d always make sure I was on the inside of the sidewalk or open the car door or held my hand and many other signs but he always seemed hesitate to make a move. He kept referencing me being such a good good friend and just so I helped him out. Only because I WAS CERTAIN he was feeling me I told him, you know I’m digging you right. Of course he went through a number of terms…whaaaat, bewildered…so forth and so on. I had to say boy stop acting you’ve been digging me a long time to break the rest of the ice..lol That’s the gray area I think we’re missing in these conversations.

When I say I don’t approach, that’s not inidicative that I don’t know how to be accomodating. I will say though had he not indicated first more than I would never gotten comfortable enough to go there.

Willie Dynamite

July 20th, 2011
11:05 am

Morning All,

Fellas just for the hell of it the next time a Woman approaches you just give her the side-eye and then igg her. j/k j/k

Women seem to have a definitive answer about this subject. One of the few times when it is no Grey area. Seems to be that way from the posts. At any rate I fall on the side of DO YOU. I also say its not a indication of anything; liberated, loose, traditional or what not. I think its just your personality.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
11:05 am

CoolShadow – I agree with Kimmie, there’s a warm inviting about a woman attracted or have her interest peaked.

Good for you PR :)

Ron O'Neal - a.k.a. Super Fly

July 20th, 2011
11:10 am

I love it when a woman approaches me, it demonstrates confidence and shows her swag …

But like Celisea said earlier, it’s up to each person, there is no wrong or right, it’s what you are comfortable with ..btw – stop writing novels … Mrs. C.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
11:14 am

“make sure I was on the inside of the sidewalk or open the car door or held my hand and many other signs”

Celisea I’ve done that dance before, I did the approaching took her out several times. After it came a time where I knew I was treading water, and when the pursuit ended is when she jumped in wanting to be submissive. Exhausted from doing all the pursuing I had to let go I had nothing left. Sometimes it’s hard to tell when to hold ‘em or fold ‘em.

Rickster

July 20th, 2011
11:17 am

@Leggs

Thank You Leggs…She is the Love Of My Life :)

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
11:18 am

Gee thanks Ron ONeal, I’m going to be hearing Curtis Mayfield’s song Superfly all day…lol

Am I the “C” getting a warning on the long post? Sorry :(

Blackfoote – Sorry to hear that. Naw, I wasn’t about to miss out on a good thing :) That’s the kryptonite dude…btw

SexyCool

July 20th, 2011
11:21 am

“Used to be a woman that had a lot of notches in her bedpost was considered a “slut”, but from what I hear, now she is considered “experienced”, “liberated” and “sensual”.”

Depends on who you’re talking to.

CoolShadow

July 20th, 2011
11:21 am

Celisea/Kimmie – fair enough, when I get mixed/contradictory signal on approaching, I just assume that I misread her signals. Now you’ve got me wondering if maybe the signaler doesn’t know how to throw them to be interpreted properly.

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
11:22 am

Blackfoote, sometimes they wait to long to let that guard down.

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
11:23 am

If I go out with a woman she should know that I have an interest in her. I don’t just hang out with women for the sake of hanging out.

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
11:24 am

Purp does not do “girl’s day”!

SexyCool

July 20th, 2011
11:26 am

VSB is talking about Steve.Harvey today.

http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 20th, 2011
11:26 am

Did somebody say fangs? :lol:

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
11:28 am

PR – What’s “girl’s day?”

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
11:31 am

Hey BMW :)

Celisea, I don’t know. It’s whatever the women do when they all go out together. I just hear it called “girls day” it’s usual average cost around 3 to 400 dollars. lol

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
11:31 am

Now you’ve got me wondering if maybe the signaler doesn’t know how to throw them to be interpreted properly.

Cool – Very well could be.

Blackfoote/Celisea – There is nothing more frustrating than trying to decipher where a guy is coming from – all the normally obvious signals are there, but you just aren’t sure…….!! There have been a few that just waited to dang long to let me know! It’s cool to take your time, but it’s a fine line!!!

Lovely'Much Better Now' Brown

July 20th, 2011
11:31 am

SexyCool

July 20th, 2011
11:21 am
“Used to be a woman that had a lot of notches in her bedpost was considered a “slut”, but from what I hear, now she is considered “experienced”, “liberated” and “sensual”.”

Depends on who you’re talking to

tha truth!

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 20th, 2011
11:32 am

LEGGS…if a guy smells good, I will let him know he smells good. Or like you if he is wearing something that is noice or gives him a bit of umph, I will compliment him. Sometimes I am not interrested in him. But I think a person should know when they have something giving them that extra spark. A compliment (not “dayum girl your body is all dat”…that is insulting) could make somebody’s day.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
11:34 am

Purple:
Exactly, like Leggs said I’m not the big bad wolf or anything……LOL
I really tried to be a teddy bear, but of course my niceness was mistaking for weakness.

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
11:34 am

Is “I can see your panty line” not considered a compliment any more? How about “Is that skim milk in those tittaayys?”

Chas

July 20th, 2011
11:40 am

So SexyCool and Lovely, if a guy had 20 notches in his bedpost and a woman has 20, is there a double standard? He’s a stud and she’s a slut? Sorry, that one doesn’t compute. I for one WANT the experienced, sensual type with a libido and confidence in herself. I do NOT want June Cleaver, Mary Poppins, the Flying Nun or even a virgin (are there any left?). If someone makes it to 35 and still have their V card, she’s either got hangups or fat or fugly. Sorry, but I speak the truth. As long as she’s not on DVD’s or charging by the hour, I’ll take an average looking woman with experience and confidence over a beauty queen that is “saving herself for that special guy” at the age of 35. No can do, seniorita…..

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
11:41 am

Kimmie – There have been a few that just waited to dang long to let me know! It’s cool to take your time, but it’s a fine line!!!

Exactly! I with you here.

SexyC – Depends on who you’re talking to

Yep…true so true

CoolShadow – Your 11:21 I think it could go either way. Sometimes you are probably on the money, sometimes not. It’s always funny to hear men say that women will misread polite for trying to hit on them. I have misread and assumed one thing when it was actually something else. I have also been polite in return only for that to turn into someone being misled. Sometimes you gotta crash and burn.

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
11:41 am

@BMW ~ when fangs was mentioned yesterday, I was waiting for you to pop in, but it was mentioned again today and POOF, here you is (LOL). And, especially if a man’s cologne is on point.

Chas

July 20th, 2011
11:42 am

Even if she says “I’ve only been with one other man in my life”…..I’m outta there and leaving skid marks.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
11:43 am

LOL….@Kimmie

Folks that can’t make a sound judment about their own feelings tells me a lot about them.
1) they’re not that interested, 2) wishy washy 3) unable to make rational decisions

Simple Man....

July 20th, 2011
11:47 am

“I for one WANT the experienced, sensual type with a libido and confidence in herself. I do NOT want June Cleaver, Mary Poppins, the Flying Nun or even a virgin (are there any left?). If someone makes it to 35 and still have their V card, she’s either got hangups or fat or fugly. Sorry, but I speak the truth. As long as she’s not on DVD’s or charging by the hour, I’ll take an average looking woman with experience and confidence over a beauty queen that is “saving herself for that special guy” at the age of 35. No can do, seniorita…..”

As tha blog ladies often say…” This is worth repeating!!!”

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
11:47 am

Blackfoote your 11:43 is on the mark.

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
11:48 am

I won’t take a woman with average anything. To many people in the world for me to find what I want. And I like nothing that is average.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
11:49 am

PR – Your 11:34…you okay today? That was a bit crass mister.

Chas

July 20th, 2011
11:50 am

^5’s Simple. It may not be politically correct, but it’s the plain truth.

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
11:50 am

Celisea, BMW is around and I was just trying to get a spanking or something. LOL

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
11:52 am

Leggs:
BMW knows I’m a big nice wolf she’s seen the fangs before.

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
11:52 am

Blackfoote – Or 4)all of the above!LOL!!

But from my experience with men, even the shyest will find a way to go on and let you know. So more than likely, he’s not THAT interested. Some but not enough to put himself out there. For example, one sticks out in my mind. He hemmed and hawed until I got frustrated and started dating someone else and made sure he knew it. We stayed friends. Not too long after that he was openly DATING a lady. He had no problem making it clear that he was interested in her and asked her out. And here I was, chalking it up to him being “shy”!

Chas

July 20th, 2011
11:52 am

Ifn she’s got that many notches in her bedpost, odds say she must know what goes where, why it goes there and how long it needs to stay there. If she’s also got a great personality and confidence, that my friends is what we call a WINNER!

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
11:52 am

Blackfoote you have wolf fangs. I have vampire fangs. LOL

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
11:55 am

I think both genders know how to play that shy game really well.

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
11:55 am

@Blackfoote ~ “she’s seen the fangs,” oh my! Watch out now!

“…odds say she must know what goes where, why it goes there and how long it needs to stay there

That was funny!

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
11:56 am

Chas – odds say she must know what goes where, why it goes there and how long it needs to stay there

I ain’t knocking you at all but if I may…you do know you don’t have to have a gazillion disco sticks to know what when where and how right? Just asking

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
11:56 am

Men may play shy, women more “coy” than anything else.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
11:57 am

PR – Celisea, BMW is around and I was just trying to get a spanking or something.

Gotcha :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
11:58 am

LOL….@Purple
She needs a spanking real bad herself!

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
12:00 pm

There are some women who have been with one guy for a long time that are way better in bed sexually than some who have high mileage. It’s like they are trying to make up for lost time or she had just been honing her skills on that one guy.

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 20th, 2011
12:00 pm

LEGGS…sorry I did not pop in yesterday. I was at Fangtasia all day and night with Eric Northman! :lol:

PURPLE….time for your spanking! Assume the position! :lol:

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
12:00 pm

To be honest, shy has never been attractive to me. I prefer quiet confidence in a man. Shy on a man comes off as weak. Coy isn’t cute to me either.

SexyCool

July 20th, 2011
12:02 pm

Chas – I went back and read my post to see where I said anything close to the way you seem to have interpreted my post….and er, um…yeah….you’re pulling words out of thin air and cramming them into my post.

ALL I said was that it depends on who you’re talking to. To be QUITE frank, what another woman does with her va-jayjay is not my business and I do not judge. Additionally, as one with at least two notches to many my-damn-self, I am in less of a position and would be a hypocrit for doing so.

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
12:03 pm

I just don’t talk alot when just meeting someone, I would not call it shy. I call it just feeling the person out. Unless I am interested in her then I just adapt to the scenario.

BMW, :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
12:06 pm

Kimmie you have to think, you helped bring him out of that shyness when you made it known you had moved on.
That’s a good wake up call…..LOL

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
12:06 pm

What you do to your body and how many times is only the concern of those actually involved with you.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
12:09 pm

LOL….@SexyC
I believe SexyC can straighten a dude out too…

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
12:11 pm

Blackfoote, I don’t even want to kow what your 12:09 means

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
12:11 pm

Blackfoote – That’s a sweet thought, but I just have seen it happen too many times with other guys. If a man wants a woman bad enough, he’ll make it known, versus letting some other dude come in and swoop her up while he’s twiddling his thumbs!

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
12:11 pm

Kimmie, that is true.

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
12:12 pm

Well kimmie, I just thought about it. That is not always the truth. Sometimes they just call the cops on the other dude like Simple Man did. Or they will comeo n the blog crying like B.A.B.

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
12:16 pm

Purple – Yeah, I forgot about the cry babies. But they don’t count, and what real woman would want them anyway?

Not talking about Simple though! :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
12:16 pm

LOL…..@Purple

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
12:20 pm

‘R Kelly has emergency throat surgery!’

Watch out Simple Man! :lol:

the experienced one might come back to haunt u…

DJ Sniper

July 20th, 2011
12:21 pm

I’ve had discussions about this before, and of course, there have been women who say that the most they will do in this situation is give off the subtle flirting hints and what not. I’ve also heard women say that if a guy doesn’t notice them doing these things, then that means he’s not interested. Um, I hope these women realize that these guys didn’t even see them in the first place, so if a guy doesn’t even see you doing these things, how can you can say he wasn’t interested? That doesn’t seem logical at all.

Also, I’ve heard women say that they don’t approach men because, more often than not, that will lead to a failed relationship. If you ask around and talk to women about their failed relationships, I bet most of them will tell you that the guy approached them first, so I don’t buy the line about how the woman approaching leads to a high rate of failure.

Lastly, even if approaching a man isn’t your thing, realize that making the first move does NOT make you look desperate.

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
12:22 pm

Well at least R. Kelly can still do the other thing he was famous for if he does not recover from having his tonsils removed.

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
12:23 pm

If knock out blonde approaches you, more than likely she wants you.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
12:27 pm

Hey Purple, SexyC 12:02 give me the notion she can handle herself against any guy……LOL

Simple Man....

July 20th, 2011
12:28 pm

Come on Purp…… I was a young trainee, unaware of the full powers of the force… But now I am a Master Jedi completely capable of making my light saber twirl without the use of my hands…..

SexyCool

July 20th, 2011
12:28 pm

Today is The Truth’s birthday.

VSB reader

July 20th, 2011
12:28 pm

If y’all like VSB (www.verysmartbrothas.com), check out this article… ” Sadie’s Suspect: Four Reasons Why Women Shouldn’t Pursue Men”.

Goes perfectly with the topic today and written from a man’s point of view. I’m a woman, and I can’t find fault with anything The Champ said…

His reasons (in case you don’t want to look it up):

1. From a relationship standpoint, a woman making the first move usurps one of a man’s most basic duties: to show a woman that he has enough “stones” to approach her.

2. Women don’t grow on us.

3. It’s not hot

4. It doesn’t work.

Read the article for the breakdowns of these reasons.

Purple Rain

July 20th, 2011
12:29 pm

Simple Man, yeah but you still called the cops on a dude. LOL

Chas

July 20th, 2011
12:30 pm

Celisea, that would be presumptuous as far as how many men or “disco sticks” as you put it. But even so, I will assume that she has had more than 5 lovers by the time she’s 35 and still single (or single again). It matters not to me whether she’s had 10 or had 40. I’m not going to broadcast my numbers, but with her confidence and experience, I’ll lay my money that she is well versed in knowing all types. I just prefer confidence in a woman and a libidious nature. What she did and with how many numbers is none of my concern. It’s not an end all, beat all method, but if she’s had a number of lovers, odds say that she has the “know how” and probably is pretty enthusiastic about the experience. Both are intoxicating to me…but that’s just me. Add the personality and…..you know the rest.

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
12:31 pm

DJ – All you need is one. Doesn’t really matter what signals are given out or who does the approaching,as long as the two that want each other get together!

If these guys didn’t “see” these women, what do they care if the woman thinks they aren’t interested, which obviously they were not? No it’s not logical, is it?

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
12:33 pm

@SC ~ I wished him a Happy Day earlier thinking he might pop in.

Willie Dynamite

July 20th, 2011
12:33 pm

I’ve come to appreciate and relish the obvious and not so obvious differences in Women. The coyness in some, the subtle flirts from others as well as the full frontal attack. I took it upon myself to educate and recognize the differences to better prepare myself for whatever direction I wanted to take. I think whats lost is the substance behind the approach. SOME people place so much thought into the initial approach/ask out that they dont have anything left.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
12:34 pm

Chas – I just prefer confidence in a woman and a libidious nature. What she did and with how many numbers is none of my concern.

Gotcha. I was just wondering because it’s not the amount of lovers you’ve stacked, it the know how. You don’t need one hundred dudes to teach one hundred new tricks.

Simple Man....

July 20th, 2011
12:35 pm

No Purp…I called the cops on HER….He happened to have the misfortune to be UNDER her when the cops got there!!!! LOL

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
12:35 pm

@PR, your 12:03 is the best approach. Don’t talk too much. Listen to everything and you will find out a great deal about a person.

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
12:38 pm

Hey Chas?

If she’s that experienced and ‘libidious’ (word??) because she has had several lovers,why is she not settled on one then by 35 or 40 years old?

Maybe she’s not that good afterall coz she keeps getting recycled!

I bet if u want know how,go on Cleveland avenue or courtland street at 12 midnite and u have a better chance of getting an experienced woman.

Willie Dynamite

July 20th, 2011
12:38 pm

Leggs/Purp – That s/b in every Mans How To Manual. Shut the fugg Up 101. You will get alot further listening to a Woman than trying to talk your way into something.

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
12:39 pm

@Ex ~ maybe she doesn’t want to settle down with one. It’s not always because a guy hasn’t asked. One track mind.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
12:42 pm

LOL….@Exiled
I haven’t thought about Cleveland Ave. in so long.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
12:42 pm

MMEELLOO – go on Cleveland avenue or courtland street at 12 midnite and u have a better chance of getting an experienced woman.

Ummm just how do you know? Do tell…lol

Lovely'Much Better Now' Brown

July 20th, 2011
12:43 pm

@ Chas- Even in 2011, there is still a double standard IMO. Like SC said and I cosigned, it depends on who you talk to. I know men who will bed women that they think are sluts, but will never marry them, let alone take them out on a date or introduce them to anyone they know. I don’t judge anyone or tell them what to do with their ’stuff’. It is what it is. And we all know the old saying…opinions are like azzholes, everybody has one :-)

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
12:44 pm

@ Leggs?

Ok,tell Chas I’m selling mobile medical testing kits if those are the kinda women he seeks! :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
12:44 pm

Leggs:
You calling Exile a one track minded man……LOL

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
12:45 pm

Cel

I was a shuttle driver once,in Atl

been around

Lovely'Much Better Now' Brown

July 20th, 2011
12:47 pm

Ok,tell Chas I’m selling mobile medical testing kits if those are the kinda women he seeks!

ewww.com :lol:

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
12:48 pm

there is still a double standard IMO.

There will always be…just how it is.

DJ Sniper

July 20th, 2011
12:49 pm

I haven’t read the article on VSB yet, but I gotta disagree with those last two reason. I, for one, do find it hot when a woman approaches. I like the fact that she doesn’t feel the need to stay stuck in a particular box when it comes to dating. Also, I’m quite sure that it has worked for more than a few people.

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
12:54 pm

@Blackfoote ~ yes I am. He’s always spitting if a woman is so good at this or so good at that why isn’t she attached to a man. Perhaps she doesn’t want to be with one. Just maybe she likes living her life under her terms answering solely to herself. So many men like Exiled, think a woman is by herself because she’s not worthy to be tied down to a man. I feel that line of thinking definitely isn’t true!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
12:58 pm

Y’all got me tears right now……LOL

Sassy Black ;-)

July 20th, 2011
12:59 pm

You will get alot further listening to a Woman than trying to talk your way into something.

For sho nuff worth repeating. Dang Willie, you deserve a prize for that ;-)

SexyCool

July 20th, 2011
1:00 pm

Uptown Comedy Corner is out they rabid ass minds if they think I’m about to pay $30 to see corny ass Shawn and Marlon Wayans. (Just received an email from them pushing a $5 discount on the tickets – methinks they must not be selling so well.)

deezanutz

July 20th, 2011
1:16 pm

Yes men like it, only from attractive women though. The truth is if a man gives you eye contact more than two times and smiles, than he is probably interested in you. Again I state, only if she is attractive. Ladies, you know if you are attractive by the number of men that come up to you.

Sassy Black ;-)

July 20th, 2011
1:23 pm

Yes men like it, only from attractive women though.

Blog Men?!…. is that totally true. Have you ever been approached by a aight late at night, if I squint my eyes real tight she might be cute kind of woman and rebuffed her b/c she wasn’t attractive or can you look past the aesthetics and appreciate the woman?

Willie Dynamite

July 20th, 2011
1:25 pm

Sassy – a prize hunh? I’ll err on the mushy side and say I already got my prize. But then again I am a Man and I want my cake with extra icing. hahaha

SC – we need a word for extremely Corny. I’m thinking lame,not funny but those don’t quite convey what I’m trying to say. They should pay you to sit through that garbage.

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
1:25 pm

@ Lovely!

I know men who will bed women that they think(??) are sluts but will never marry them….

duh @ U Lovely! :lol:

Lovely'Much Better Now' Brown

July 20th, 2011
1:28 pm

Yes men like it, only from attractive women though. The truth is if a man gives you eye contact more than two times and smiles, than he is probably interested in you. Again I state, only if she is attractive. Ladies, you know if you are attractive by the number of men that come up to you

ummm….like my momma used to say, pusci don’t have a face :lol:

The number of men that approach me is not a gauge of my attractiveness (?)

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
1:30 pm

Down to 32 emails…yaaah

Lovely'Much Better Now' Brown

July 20th, 2011
1:30 pm

@ Exiled

I had to laugh at that myself…you got me :lol:

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
1:33 pm

@Lovely ~ I say that here on the blog all the time. A few men tried to shoo me away saying that statement isn’t true then have the nerve to come back and say they’ll sleep with a fat hog, in the dark and wouldn’t let their friends know about it! Whatever (lolololol).

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
1:45 pm

Sassy attractiveness got it’s place, but it would be shallow as most men would go for the beauty queen and women for the cute guy. Myself I will ask a big woman to dance and I have seen some very attractive big girls. Beauty does not make one a queen, and a queen don’t have to beautiful.

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
1:46 pm

See Blackfoote, when you use commas and periods, you have very romantic posts (lololol).

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
1:49 pm

Just a natural Leggs….LOL
I remember the last time you pointed that out.

Sassy Black ;-)

July 20th, 2011
1:56 pm

when you use commas and periods, you have very romantic posts

Cosign….

Beauty does not make one a queen, and a queen don’t have to beautiful.

That was really sweet….

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
2:00 pm

@Leggs!

a fat hog don’t have to be on the window display…

But it don’t mean it ain’t tasty!! :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
2:02 pm

The fangs are polished, or you can cuddle me like a teddy bear….LOL

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
2:02 pm

Not talking about it being on display. Saying dude is embarrassed that he mounted it so he won’t admit it to his friends….e.g., puddy has no face!

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
2:04 pm

That was, SassyB! Um, I think I’ll spell your name out cuz “SassyB” has me thinking Sassy Beyotch (lololol).

Sassy Black ;-)

July 20th, 2011
2:11 pm

No worries Leggs…plus you’ve met me so you know I can be just that…. :mrgreen:

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
2:11 pm

Myself I will ask a big woman to dance and I have seen some very attractive big girls.

Blackfoote – Again, the key word is attractive.

I agree that men like being approached by pretty women. Even if sounds shallow to admit it openly, deep down, absolutely cause men are visual.

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
2:13 pm

@Leggs!

Yea,all I’m saying is that guys know that the fat one is mountable but is not eye candy sometimes.

That’s why we want them to stay at home and we visible on the town with the phine sophisticates that wear heels well but are are kinda too quarrelsome when we ask for puddy..

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
2:13 pm

@Sassy ~ I was thinking that same thing, I’ve met her so I know! Too funny!

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
2:14 pm

You stupid Ex (lol). I gotcha!

Lovely'Much Better Now' Brown

July 20th, 2011
2:16 pm

a fat hog don’t have to be on the window display…

But it don’t mean it ain’t tasty!!

Exiled! You owe me 1.25 for my Coke Zero :lol:

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
2:17 pm

That’s why we want them to stay at home and we visible on the town with the phine sophisticates that wear heels well but are are kinda too quarrelsome when we ask for puddy..

My gracious…I don’t know who is winning today you, Deez or Chas Fickle I tell ya.

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
2:21 pm

Celisea – I think not fickle, just being their usual selves, especially Exiled! I am so not surprised!LOL!

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
2:22 pm

Kimmie – just being their usual selves

You have a point here…lol

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
2:29 pm

LOL……@Exiled
He’s definatley back…..LOL

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
2:30 pm

going back to my corner then :sad:

Ghostrider

July 20th, 2011
2:35 pm

@Exiled!
a fat hog don’t have to be on the window display…

But it don’t mean it ain’t tasty!!

Licking my Chops :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
2:37 pm

Kimmie yes we are visual, and I have to sometimes ask myself is it worth it trying to find a shiny new diamond or is this diamond in the rough just as good. I’ll take the rough every time cause then I know what I have.

Robert

July 20th, 2011
2:37 pm

This is ATL. Women out number men 20-to-1. You have 2 choices, either participate or be a spectator. I prefer a woman who is confident enough to recognize her potential and bold enough to get what she wants and not settle for less ( immature men in ATL always wearing baseball caps, blue jeans and tennis shoes). The choice is yours. Deal with immaturity or find yourself a mature real man.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
2:43 pm

He’s got my name sake y’all, love the no nonsense attitude.

Sassy Black ;-)

July 20th, 2011
2:45 pm

So is that your “evil twin” Black Rob?

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
2:49 pm

Blackfoote – Don’t have to go for the shiny or the rough. Go for what is attractive to YOU. Just because one decides to go for “rough” that doesn’t automatically mean they are going to be more real or authentic or worth it to deal with. Doesn’t mean their automatically gonna be nice. On tne flip side, just because that diamond is shiny, it doesn’t mean they are gonna be stuck up or high maintenance or hard to deal with.

What I’m trying to say is you can’t judge a book by it’s cover either way.

There are certain basics I find physically attractive that I looked for. Once those were met, at first glance, then it’s time to dig under the surface. Those basic features that were not attractive me got either magnified or cancelled out based on what I found under the surface. A lot of folks look real good until they open their mouths!LOL!!

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
2:49 pm

Robert – Don’t get fooled by the ratio number. How many throwbacks will you get in that number? Yeah, by the time you wad through a bunch of brainless chicken heads (sorry ya’ll…that ain’t intended to be personal), we’ll see who’s winning..male or female.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
2:51 pm

I ain’t a dude and I ain’t screwed around like men do but I’m willing to bet that after so much azz and after a while, randomly laying around with chicks and the “what next” look/thought that follows gets tired.

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
2:51 pm

Robert – What are you always wearing? What is the MATURE uniform? LOL!!

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
2:52 pm

Celisea – It’s got to. Get tired, that is. I mean really!!

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
2:53 pm

@Celisea ~ no need to apologize because not one woman on this blog thinks they’re a chickenhead. We know you were talking about a particular breed of woman!!!!

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
2:54 pm

It does get tired, even SimpleM admitted it a few weeks back.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
2:56 pm

LOL….@Sassy
Yep I’m the good one, I told y’all I was…..LOL

LOL….Kimmie
Yep that’s all folks gotta do is open mouth and it shows. It never fails.

Willie Dynamite

July 20th, 2011
2:58 pm

For the record; PSA….

New Puddy DOES NOT, I repeat DOES NOT get old. EVER. Now dealing with NP and all that comes with getting NP gets old.

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
3:00 pm

If it never get’s old, how long does it take for it not be deemed NP???? NP is only NP if you have old P at home and at some point, that was NP for you! So, how long before it turns into OP (lololol)?

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:01 pm

C’mon WillieD – Just screwing and screwing and screwing and screwing with no light of day in sight don’t get old?

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
3:02 pm

If Willie D or Simple don’t co-sign that Celisea 2:51, I ain’t touching it either! :lol:

Men Law Board article 4:235 article 9 :lol:

(never co-sign female induced pudy tolerance limits) :lol:

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:02 pm

WillieD – Now dealing with NP and all that comes with getting NP gets old.

Well yeah…that’s what I’m talking about.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
3:04 pm

“What is the MATURE uniform?”
Kimmie I have no idea what this is…….LOL

SexyCool

July 20th, 2011
3:04 pm

Robert – ball caps, blue jeans and tennis shoes = equals immaturity. Really? Elitist much?

And as to the 20 to 1 number, once you cut out the undesirables, those numbers shrink a bit.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:05 pm

MMEELLOO – If Willie D or Simple don’t co-sign that Celisea 2:51, I ain’t touching it either! Men Law Board article 4:235 article 9 (never co-sign female induced pudy tolerance limits)

LOLOL…stop it

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:06 pm

Kimmie – Your 2:52

It does…they’ll never let us be right..lol

SexyCool

July 20th, 2011
3:11 pm

What’s old puddy to you is new puddy to somebody else.

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
3:12 pm

Celisea – Although I’ll never know, NW ought to get old too. NW = new wang!LOL!!

Really, just the whole process, not the act itself perse, ought to get old. The meeting, screening, etc.

Willie Dynamite

July 20th, 2011
3:15 pm

Zulu – I had to at least try and set the record straight. Dudes round here getting all Teddy Bearish. The value of New Puddy aint never dropped, had a recession or needed a bail-out. hahaha

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
3:17 pm

Celisea!

What Willie is saying,in essence,is that NP can fall on a man’s lap!

and like I have always said here and someofyall don’t pay attention:

A Lion is a Lion always a Lion and will forever be a Lion!

never a chiuahuah.. :lol:

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
3:17 pm

SCool – Maybe not new, just different.

Willie Dynamite

July 20th, 2011
3:17 pm

Really, just the whole process, not the act itself perse, ought to get old. The meeting, screening, etc

Exactly

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
3:20 pm

Exiled – Old, used-up, passed around P or W is just that, old and used-up and passed around. You can put a shiny bow on it, bedazzle it all day. Might be “different” to you, but it is what it is! :lol:

SexyCool

July 20th, 2011
3:22 pm

And technically, all puddy is used puddy after the first time off the lot.

But I understand. It’s new to you…no matter how many miles it has on it.

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
3:26 pm

It’s new to you…nomatter how any miles it has on it.

SCool – Why did I crack up when I read that?!!LOL!

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
3:29 pm

@Kimmie/SexxyCool?

u ladies are basically putting urselves in same class as the night time pudy hustlers if we go by ur definition then.

Men view new pudy as New only coz the woman carrying it has some desirable qualities..

U disagree?? U say it don’t matter?

I’m troubled by that. :lol:

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:29 pm

no matter how many miles it has on it.

LOL…wonder how many have fiddle with the odomoeter…

Willie Dynamite

July 20th, 2011
3:29 pm

ok without getting too technical or raunchy. What I’m saying is NP has its value. Even in a committed relationship or Marriage. Not in the sense of finding a side piece I mean in the mind of a Man. Why do you think that tight lil Nurses outfit or Mrs.Clause uniform brings the beast out in your Man? He’s thinking something new and different. Now wear that same outfit 2-3 times a week and see how old and tired it gets.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:30 pm

Sooooo we go back to the 20/1 ratio. Not really huh?

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
3:31 pm

That was a good one, Celisea – fiddle w/odometer. Too funny!

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
3:32 pm

I’m going to ask my beau to fiddle w/my odometer when I meet him (LOLOLOLOLOLOL).

Ghostrider

July 20th, 2011
3:32 pm

You Guys\Gals are a trip…this is some funny azz sh1t…But I will say Puddy, is good eating, eat all you want and never gain wait. It’s the other white meat. :)

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:33 pm

Ghostrider

July 20th, 2011
3:34 pm

Ooops “Weight”

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:34 pm

We should say there’s a higher ratio as it relates to body count but quality women the number is probably significantly lowered.

SexyCool

July 20th, 2011
3:35 pm

Cel – you know you have to be wary of trusting those used puddy salespeople…

And…Meelow…yeah…no…not in the same class as a hooker at all.

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
3:35 pm

Exiled – I’m in a class by myself!LOL!!

No, i actually get what all you guys are saying. Variety can be the spice to add some spark. Remember that yourselves – we ladies like “brand new” sometimes too. Don’t get in a rut and expect us to like it any more than you do!

What I’m saying and said before, it’s really the process that gets tired.

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
3:39 pm

You made an excellent point, kimmie. Men always talking about maid outfits, uniforms, etc. to help add to their sexual experience. Heck, you guys need to make yourselves “brand new” too.

Friend of Dorthy

July 20th, 2011
3:44 pm

I hate for women to approch me……but then again, I’M GAY.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:45 pm

SexyC – you know you have to be wary of trusting those used puddy salespeople…

Exactly. Pour a lil perfume on it, polish the outside and hand it off. One good thing about used salesman, they know themselves it ain’t hardly worth half the price their asking. Most times, they ain’t REALLY proud of their models but wear the face to sell it off to the next chomp.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:46 pm

Friend of Dot – Did you take a wrong turn? I have a GPS if you need one. LOL

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:47 pm

It serves as a GAYDAR too….just saying in case you need direction. :)

Simple Man....

July 20th, 2011
3:48 pm

Just poppin’ back in to co-sign with WillieD’s 3:15!!! NP is Like Microsoft stock…the Value continues to go up and up!!!

toto

July 20th, 2011
3:48 pm

glad you’re happy friend :lol:

Willie Dynamite

July 20th, 2011
3:49 pm

ladies – understood it IS a two way street. You do have to add spice into it on both sides.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:50 pm

My kid just call me and said Bow Wow killed himself

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:51 pm

Let me check and see….gheesh

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
3:51 pm

Simple – Yeah, but Apple stock is looking better these days!!LOL!!

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:52 pm

I don’t see anything but she is physically shaken up. I hope it’s a rumor

Lovely'Much Better Now' Brown

July 20th, 2011
3:53 pm

Remember that yourselves – we ladies like “brand new” sometimes too. Don’t get in a rut and expect us to like it any more than you do!

cosign 2X!

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:54 pm

Simple Man – Stock going up on the “old new new” last about as long as getting a used car off the lot for that thing to clonk out or as quick as you hit it.

Sassy Black ;-)

July 20th, 2011
3:55 pm

we ladies like “brand new” sometimes too. Don’t get in a rut and expect us to like it any more than you do!

cosign 3X!!!

TenderRoni

July 20th, 2011
3:56 pm

Simple Man....

July 20th, 2011
3:57 pm

LOL.Kimmie…I like happen to like IPuddy too!!! Hope I can find one that has some long term capabilities and is easliy upgradeable :)

TenderRoni

July 20th, 2011
3:57 pm

we ladies like “brand new” sometimes too. Don’t get in a rut and expect us to like it any more than you do!

cosign 4x!!!!

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
4:00 pm

Celisea, I don’t see a thing about Bow Wow! Where did she hear that?

Willie Dynamite

July 20th, 2011
4:03 pm

Personally when I took my NP off the lot the value has increased steadily. As a matter of fact I think with all this rain I may just make sure and put a fresh coat of wax on it tonight. Wouldn’t want it to get dull and whatnot.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
4:05 pm

Kimmie – I don’t see anything either….thank goodness. A coworker’s mom called and told her. She LOOOOOVES Bow Wow..she couldn’t speak coherently

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
4:06 pm

My kid’s coworker

Sassy Black ;-)

July 20th, 2011
4:06 pm

I don’t see a thing about Bow Wow!

Well I hope it’s just a rumor. Plus just last week(or maybe two weeks) he finally revealed that he had a baby girl and that she was the best gift ever he’d ever gotten. I hope he wouldn’t leave her like that. I know we all go through some isht in this life but it’s never been enough to make want to off myself.

SexyCool

July 20th, 2011
4:06 pm

Exactly, BigWillieStyle. If you treat yours right, make sure it’s properly maintained, it will last and last and last. And after awhile, you get to know it so well, you can sense when something is off with it, when it needs attention/upkeep, you know whether or not it will go the distance or leave you stranded on the side of the road.

Sassy Black ;-)

July 20th, 2011
4:07 pm

A coworker’s mom called and told her. She LOOOOOVES Bow Wow..she couldn’t speak coherently

awwww then…

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
4:08 pm

Sassy I’m suspecting it’s just a rumor…made my heart drop as well. With her dern cute self.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
4:09 pm

Sassy….lol

I was saying my kid couldn’t speak coherently as a result of a coworker’s mom calling…lol

That’s right…you keep that thing serviced and treated and she’ll pure like a kitten

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
4:10 pm

pur…not pure

Sassy Black ;-)

July 20th, 2011
4:12 pm

Yes she’s a pretty baby Celisea…

I was saying my kid couldn’t speak coherently as a result of a coworker’s mom calling…

just as cute still…

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
4:13 pm

Sassy – I bet she is….

Any movie he plays in, she’ll watch over and over and over…lol

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
4:15 pm

Any you all remember Joe Millionaire? I forgot all about him, but they mentioned him on Q100 this morning.

It was like The Bachelor. These women were competing to get with “Joe”, who was supposed to be a millionaire, but ended up actually being a construction worker.

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
4:19 pm

WHAT, BOW WOW killed himself…say it ain’t so!!!!

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
4:20 pm

Leggs – I think it’s just a rumor..thank goodness

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
4:23 pm

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
4:24 pm

It was like The Bachelor. These women were competing to get with “Joe”, who was supposed to be a millionaire, but ended up actually being a construction worker.

He should have been caned a thousand strikes for that…lol Those chicks should have been fooled. Fools gold.

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
4:24 pm

I think it says the article was written or posted July 8, 2011.

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
4:28 pm

Celisea – That mess was funny!! He was a big ole dufus!

Sassy Black ;-)

July 20th, 2011
4:34 pm

He should have been caned a thousand strikes for that

Yeah he should’ve…but I wonder what the gold diggers thought and how they felt knowing they got played. He ended up choosing a woman who seemed to not care if he had money or not and at the end of the show they BOTH got some dough. Sadly they didn’t stay together but c’est la vie.

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
4:36 pm

Baby mamas?!

Why is it that the pudy is ohhh, so so guuuud, and its luv dovy untill there is a baby!

then the father dips and there is no luv anymore?
WHY?
(reading this Bow Wow article)

Mr. McNair

July 20th, 2011
4:50 pm

Chicks dig my smooth legs. And so do I.

TenderRoni

July 20th, 2011
4:51 pm

the pudsy or wang means nothing when resentments, disappointments, cheating, bitterness, hurtful words, bad communication, and the self-persavation build-up in a relationship which leads to anger (the darkest emotion ever).

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
4:53 pm

Yay, my name was picked for the lottery here at work. I won a lap for $100. 76 entries for 29 laptops.

TenderRoni

July 20th, 2011
4:56 pm

meant to type:self preservation

BlackMagicWoman...in NYC

July 20th, 2011
4:57 pm

Leggs…can I get $20? :lol:

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
4:57 pm

I meant a laptop (LOLOLOL)….

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
4:57 pm

Sure you can BMW, just text me your address (lol).

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
4:58 pm

I am going to leave with this joke:

Secrets to a long marriage:

A woman was sipping on a glass of wine, while sitting on the patio with her husband, and she says, “I love you so much I don’t know how I could ever live without you”…Her husband asks, “Is that you, or the wine talking?”…She replies, “It’s me…talking to the wine.” :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Peace!

Chococarmel

July 20th, 2011
7:00 pm

I like you Dave!

Unwanted, but content

July 20th, 2011
8:36 pm

The belief that the man should be the only one to initiate a date is an antiquated mating paradigm resulting from rigid gender roles. Women can fix cars, perform physically demanding home repairs and work very successfully in fields previously limited to men. There’s no good reason why a woman can’t ask a man out. The determining factor in who should start the interaction should be personality, not gender. Some women are outgoing and some men are shy. As long as they can’t handle rejections, more power to them.

Unwanted, but content

July 20th, 2011
8:38 pm

Oops, I meant to say, “As long as they can handle rejections as well as most men do, more power to them”.