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Dating news: Men like getting asked out!?

Earlier this week, we talked about whether or not women should date more like men. Ladies, if you ever wonder what men go through on the dating scene, try approaching a perfect stranger.

In my experience, approaching a man can be exciting, terrifying, and empowering (assuming he doesn’t find you repulsive or crazy) – all at once. I don’t do it often enough, but I really should!

The men I know are genuinely surprised and happy to have a woman approach them – compliment them. Oh, asking when you can see him again? Apparently, it’s one of those ego stroking things that some men really enjoy. A lot. Not unlike how women feel when we get asked out!

Do you think living in the south, women are less inclined to approach a man? Friends in other cities say that women don’t have much apprehension about it like us “girls raised in the south” and maybe this is an obstacle in dating.

When a woman approaches a man, does it really seem desperate? Does it depend on how she delivers her “opening line” or how she carries herself?

Guys, when was the last time a woman approached you? What was your first impression? Do you generally like getting approached by women?

Do you think it is better when a woman breaks the ice and then you take it from there?

Ladies, what is your biggest beef with approaching a man? What message do you think it sends to the guy?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

288 comments Add your comment

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
2:49 pm

Blackfoote – Don’t have to go for the shiny or the rough. Go for what is attractive to YOU. Just because one decides to go for “rough” that doesn’t automatically mean they are going to be more real or authentic or worth it to deal with. Doesn’t mean their automatically gonna be nice. On tne flip side, just because that diamond is shiny, it doesn’t mean they are gonna be stuck up or high maintenance or hard to deal with.

What I’m trying to say is you can’t judge a book by it’s cover either way.

There are certain basics I find physically attractive that I looked for. Once those were met, at first glance, then it’s time to dig under the surface. Those basic features that were not attractive me got either magnified or cancelled out based on what I found under the surface. A lot of folks look real good until they open their mouths!LOL!!

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
2:49 pm

Robert – Don’t get fooled by the ratio number. How many throwbacks will you get in that number? Yeah, by the time you wad through a bunch of brainless chicken heads (sorry ya’ll…that ain’t intended to be personal), we’ll see who’s winning..male or female.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
2:51 pm

I ain’t a dude and I ain’t screwed around like men do but I’m willing to bet that after so much azz and after a while, randomly laying around with chicks and the “what next” look/thought that follows gets tired.

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
2:51 pm

Robert – What are you always wearing? What is the MATURE uniform? LOL!!

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
2:52 pm

Celisea – It’s got to. Get tired, that is. I mean really!!

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
2:53 pm

@Celisea ~ no need to apologize because not one woman on this blog thinks they’re a chickenhead. We know you were talking about a particular breed of woman!!!!

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
2:54 pm

It does get tired, even SimpleM admitted it a few weeks back.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
2:56 pm

LOL….@Sassy
Yep I’m the good one, I told y’all I was…..LOL

LOL….Kimmie
Yep that’s all folks gotta do is open mouth and it shows. It never fails.

Willie Dynamite

July 20th, 2011
2:58 pm

For the record; PSA….

New Puddy DOES NOT, I repeat DOES NOT get old. EVER. Now dealing with NP and all that comes with getting NP gets old.

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
3:00 pm

If it never get’s old, how long does it take for it not be deemed NP???? NP is only NP if you have old P at home and at some point, that was NP for you! So, how long before it turns into OP (lololol)?

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:01 pm

C’mon WillieD – Just screwing and screwing and screwing and screwing with no light of day in sight don’t get old?

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
3:02 pm

If Willie D or Simple don’t co-sign that Celisea 2:51, I ain’t touching it either! :lol:

Men Law Board article 4:235 article 9 :lol:

(never co-sign female induced pudy tolerance limits) :lol:

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:02 pm

WillieD – Now dealing with NP and all that comes with getting NP gets old.

Well yeah…that’s what I’m talking about.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
3:04 pm

“What is the MATURE uniform?”
Kimmie I have no idea what this is…….LOL

SexyCool

July 20th, 2011
3:04 pm

Robert – ball caps, blue jeans and tennis shoes = equals immaturity. Really? Elitist much?

And as to the 20 to 1 number, once you cut out the undesirables, those numbers shrink a bit.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:05 pm

MMEELLOO – If Willie D or Simple don’t co-sign that Celisea 2:51, I ain’t touching it either! Men Law Board article 4:235 article 9 (never co-sign female induced pudy tolerance limits)

LOLOL…stop it

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:06 pm

Kimmie – Your 2:52

It does…they’ll never let us be right..lol

SexyCool

July 20th, 2011
3:11 pm

What’s old puddy to you is new puddy to somebody else.

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
3:12 pm

Celisea – Although I’ll never know, NW ought to get old too. NW = new wang!LOL!!

Really, just the whole process, not the act itself perse, ought to get old. The meeting, screening, etc.

Willie Dynamite

July 20th, 2011
3:15 pm

Zulu – I had to at least try and set the record straight. Dudes round here getting all Teddy Bearish. The value of New Puddy aint never dropped, had a recession or needed a bail-out. hahaha

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
3:17 pm

Celisea!

What Willie is saying,in essence,is that NP can fall on a man’s lap!

and like I have always said here and someofyall don’t pay attention:

A Lion is a Lion always a Lion and will forever be a Lion!

never a chiuahuah.. :lol:

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
3:17 pm

SCool – Maybe not new, just different.

Willie Dynamite

July 20th, 2011
3:17 pm

Really, just the whole process, not the act itself perse, ought to get old. The meeting, screening, etc

Exactly

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
3:20 pm

Exiled – Old, used-up, passed around P or W is just that, old and used-up and passed around. You can put a shiny bow on it, bedazzle it all day. Might be “different” to you, but it is what it is! :lol:

SexyCool

July 20th, 2011
3:22 pm

And technically, all puddy is used puddy after the first time off the lot.

But I understand. It’s new to you…no matter how many miles it has on it.

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
3:26 pm

It’s new to you…nomatter how any miles it has on it.

SCool – Why did I crack up when I read that?!!LOL!

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
3:29 pm

@Kimmie/SexxyCool?

u ladies are basically putting urselves in same class as the night time pudy hustlers if we go by ur definition then.

Men view new pudy as New only coz the woman carrying it has some desirable qualities..

U disagree?? U say it don’t matter?

I’m troubled by that. :lol:

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:29 pm

no matter how many miles it has on it.

LOL…wonder how many have fiddle with the odomoeter…

Willie Dynamite

July 20th, 2011
3:29 pm

ok without getting too technical or raunchy. What I’m saying is NP has its value. Even in a committed relationship or Marriage. Not in the sense of finding a side piece I mean in the mind of a Man. Why do you think that tight lil Nurses outfit or Mrs.Clause uniform brings the beast out in your Man? He’s thinking something new and different. Now wear that same outfit 2-3 times a week and see how old and tired it gets.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:30 pm

Sooooo we go back to the 20/1 ratio. Not really huh?

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
3:31 pm

That was a good one, Celisea – fiddle w/odometer. Too funny!

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
3:32 pm

I’m going to ask my beau to fiddle w/my odometer when I meet him (LOLOLOLOLOLOL).

Ghostrider

July 20th, 2011
3:32 pm

You Guys\Gals are a trip…this is some funny azz sh1t…But I will say Puddy, is good eating, eat all you want and never gain wait. It’s the other white meat. :)

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:33 pm

Ghostrider

July 20th, 2011
3:34 pm

Ooops “Weight”

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:34 pm

We should say there’s a higher ratio as it relates to body count but quality women the number is probably significantly lowered.

SexyCool

July 20th, 2011
3:35 pm

Cel – you know you have to be wary of trusting those used puddy salespeople…

And…Meelow…yeah…no…not in the same class as a hooker at all.

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
3:35 pm

Exiled – I’m in a class by myself!LOL!!

No, i actually get what all you guys are saying. Variety can be the spice to add some spark. Remember that yourselves – we ladies like “brand new” sometimes too. Don’t get in a rut and expect us to like it any more than you do!

What I’m saying and said before, it’s really the process that gets tired.

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
3:39 pm

You made an excellent point, kimmie. Men always talking about maid outfits, uniforms, etc. to help add to their sexual experience. Heck, you guys need to make yourselves “brand new” too.

Friend of Dorthy

July 20th, 2011
3:44 pm

I hate for women to approch me……but then again, I’M GAY.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:45 pm

SexyC – you know you have to be wary of trusting those used puddy salespeople…

Exactly. Pour a lil perfume on it, polish the outside and hand it off. One good thing about used salesman, they know themselves it ain’t hardly worth half the price their asking. Most times, they ain’t REALLY proud of their models but wear the face to sell it off to the next chomp.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:46 pm

Friend of Dot – Did you take a wrong turn? I have a GPS if you need one. LOL

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:47 pm

It serves as a GAYDAR too….just saying in case you need direction. :)

Simple Man....

July 20th, 2011
3:48 pm

Just poppin’ back in to co-sign with WillieD’s 3:15!!! NP is Like Microsoft stock…the Value continues to go up and up!!!

toto

July 20th, 2011
3:48 pm

glad you’re happy friend :lol:

Willie Dynamite

July 20th, 2011
3:49 pm

ladies – understood it IS a two way street. You do have to add spice into it on both sides.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:50 pm

My kid just call me and said Bow Wow killed himself

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:51 pm

Let me check and see….gheesh

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
3:51 pm

Simple – Yeah, but Apple stock is looking better these days!!LOL!!

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
3:52 pm

I don’t see anything but she is physically shaken up. I hope it’s a rumor