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Dating news: Men like getting asked out!?

Earlier this week, we talked about whether or not women should date more like men. Ladies, if you ever wonder what men go through on the dating scene, try approaching a perfect stranger.

In my experience, approaching a man can be exciting, terrifying, and empowering (assuming he doesn’t find you repulsive or crazy) – all at once. I don’t do it often enough, but I really should!

The men I know are genuinely surprised and happy to have a woman approach them – compliment them. Oh, asking when you can see him again? Apparently, it’s one of those ego stroking things that some men really enjoy. A lot. Not unlike how women feel when we get asked out!

Do you think living in the south, women are less inclined to approach a man? Friends in other cities say that women don’t have much apprehension about it like us “girls raised in the south” and maybe this is an obstacle in dating.

When a woman approaches a man, does it really seem desperate? Does it depend on how she delivers her “opening line” or how she carries herself?

Guys, when was the last time a woman approached you? What was your first impression? Do you generally like getting approached by women?

Do you think it is better when a woman breaks the ice and then you take it from there?

Ladies, what is your biggest beef with approaching a man? What message do you think it sends to the guy?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

288 comments Add your comment

Simple Man....

July 20th, 2011
12:35 pm

No Purp…I called the cops on HER….He happened to have the misfortune to be UNDER her when the cops got there!!!! LOL

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
12:35 pm

@PR, your 12:03 is the best approach. Don’t talk too much. Listen to everything and you will find out a great deal about a person.

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
12:38 pm

Hey Chas?

If she’s that experienced and ‘libidious’ (word??) because she has had several lovers,why is she not settled on one then by 35 or 40 years old?

Maybe she’s not that good afterall coz she keeps getting recycled!

I bet if u want know how,go on Cleveland avenue or courtland street at 12 midnite and u have a better chance of getting an experienced woman.

Willie Dynamite

July 20th, 2011
12:38 pm

Leggs/Purp – That s/b in every Mans How To Manual. Shut the fugg Up 101. You will get alot further listening to a Woman than trying to talk your way into something.

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
12:39 pm

@Ex ~ maybe she doesn’t want to settle down with one. It’s not always because a guy hasn’t asked. One track mind.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
12:42 pm

LOL….@Exiled
I haven’t thought about Cleveland Ave. in so long.

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
12:42 pm

MMEELLOO – go on Cleveland avenue or courtland street at 12 midnite and u have a better chance of getting an experienced woman.

Ummm just how do you know? Do tell…lol

Lovely'Much Better Now' Brown

July 20th, 2011
12:43 pm

@ Chas- Even in 2011, there is still a double standard IMO. Like SC said and I cosigned, it depends on who you talk to. I know men who will bed women that they think are sluts, but will never marry them, let alone take them out on a date or introduce them to anyone they know. I don’t judge anyone or tell them what to do with their ’stuff’. It is what it is. And we all know the old saying…opinions are like azzholes, everybody has one :-)

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
12:44 pm

@ Leggs?

Ok,tell Chas I’m selling mobile medical testing kits if those are the kinda women he seeks! :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
12:44 pm

Leggs:
You calling Exile a one track minded man……LOL

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
12:45 pm

Cel

I was a shuttle driver once,in Atl

been around

Lovely'Much Better Now' Brown

July 20th, 2011
12:47 pm

Ok,tell Chas I’m selling mobile medical testing kits if those are the kinda women he seeks!

ewww.com :lol:

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
12:48 pm

there is still a double standard IMO.

There will always be…just how it is.

DJ Sniper

July 20th, 2011
12:49 pm

I haven’t read the article on VSB yet, but I gotta disagree with those last two reason. I, for one, do find it hot when a woman approaches. I like the fact that she doesn’t feel the need to stay stuck in a particular box when it comes to dating. Also, I’m quite sure that it has worked for more than a few people.

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
12:54 pm

@Blackfoote ~ yes I am. He’s always spitting if a woman is so good at this or so good at that why isn’t she attached to a man. Perhaps she doesn’t want to be with one. Just maybe she likes living her life under her terms answering solely to herself. So many men like Exiled, think a woman is by herself because she’s not worthy to be tied down to a man. I feel that line of thinking definitely isn’t true!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
12:58 pm

Y’all got me tears right now……LOL

Sassy Black ;-)

July 20th, 2011
12:59 pm

You will get alot further listening to a Woman than trying to talk your way into something.

For sho nuff worth repeating. Dang Willie, you deserve a prize for that ;-)

SexyCool

July 20th, 2011
1:00 pm

Uptown Comedy Corner is out they rabid ass minds if they think I’m about to pay $30 to see corny ass Shawn and Marlon Wayans. (Just received an email from them pushing a $5 discount on the tickets – methinks they must not be selling so well.)

deezanutz

July 20th, 2011
1:16 pm

Yes men like it, only from attractive women though. The truth is if a man gives you eye contact more than two times and smiles, than he is probably interested in you. Again I state, only if she is attractive. Ladies, you know if you are attractive by the number of men that come up to you.

Sassy Black ;-)

July 20th, 2011
1:23 pm

Yes men like it, only from attractive women though.

Blog Men?!…. is that totally true. Have you ever been approached by a aight late at night, if I squint my eyes real tight she might be cute kind of woman and rebuffed her b/c she wasn’t attractive or can you look past the aesthetics and appreciate the woman?

Willie Dynamite

July 20th, 2011
1:25 pm

Sassy – a prize hunh? I’ll err on the mushy side and say I already got my prize. But then again I am a Man and I want my cake with extra icing. hahaha

SC – we need a word for extremely Corny. I’m thinking lame,not funny but those don’t quite convey what I’m trying to say. They should pay you to sit through that garbage.

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
1:25 pm

@ Lovely!

I know men who will bed women that they think(??) are sluts but will never marry them….

duh @ U Lovely! :lol:

Lovely'Much Better Now' Brown

July 20th, 2011
1:28 pm

Yes men like it, only from attractive women though. The truth is if a man gives you eye contact more than two times and smiles, than he is probably interested in you. Again I state, only if she is attractive. Ladies, you know if you are attractive by the number of men that come up to you

ummm….like my momma used to say, pusci don’t have a face :lol:

The number of men that approach me is not a gauge of my attractiveness (?)

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
1:30 pm

Down to 32 emails…yaaah

Lovely'Much Better Now' Brown

July 20th, 2011
1:30 pm

@ Exiled

I had to laugh at that myself…you got me :lol:

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
1:33 pm

@Lovely ~ I say that here on the blog all the time. A few men tried to shoo me away saying that statement isn’t true then have the nerve to come back and say they’ll sleep with a fat hog, in the dark and wouldn’t let their friends know about it! Whatever (lolololol).

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
1:45 pm

Sassy attractiveness got it’s place, but it would be shallow as most men would go for the beauty queen and women for the cute guy. Myself I will ask a big woman to dance and I have seen some very attractive big girls. Beauty does not make one a queen, and a queen don’t have to beautiful.

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
1:46 pm

See Blackfoote, when you use commas and periods, you have very romantic posts (lololol).

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
1:49 pm

Just a natural Leggs….LOL
I remember the last time you pointed that out.

Sassy Black ;-)

July 20th, 2011
1:56 pm

when you use commas and periods, you have very romantic posts

Cosign….

Beauty does not make one a queen, and a queen don’t have to beautiful.

That was really sweet….

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
2:00 pm

@Leggs!

a fat hog don’t have to be on the window display…

But it don’t mean it ain’t tasty!! :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
2:02 pm

The fangs are polished, or you can cuddle me like a teddy bear….LOL

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
2:02 pm

Not talking about it being on display. Saying dude is embarrassed that he mounted it so he won’t admit it to his friends….e.g., puddy has no face!

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
2:04 pm

That was, SassyB! Um, I think I’ll spell your name out cuz “SassyB” has me thinking Sassy Beyotch (lololol).

Sassy Black ;-)

July 20th, 2011
2:11 pm

No worries Leggs…plus you’ve met me so you know I can be just that…. :mrgreen:

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
2:11 pm

Myself I will ask a big woman to dance and I have seen some very attractive big girls.

Blackfoote – Again, the key word is attractive.

I agree that men like being approached by pretty women. Even if sounds shallow to admit it openly, deep down, absolutely cause men are visual.

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
2:13 pm

@Leggs!

Yea,all I’m saying is that guys know that the fat one is mountable but is not eye candy sometimes.

That’s why we want them to stay at home and we visible on the town with the phine sophisticates that wear heels well but are are kinda too quarrelsome when we ask for puddy..

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
2:13 pm

@Sassy ~ I was thinking that same thing, I’ve met her so I know! Too funny!

Leggs

July 20th, 2011
2:14 pm

You stupid Ex (lol). I gotcha!

Lovely'Much Better Now' Brown

July 20th, 2011
2:16 pm

a fat hog don’t have to be on the window display…

But it don’t mean it ain’t tasty!!

Exiled! You owe me 1.25 for my Coke Zero :lol:

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
2:17 pm

That’s why we want them to stay at home and we visible on the town with the phine sophisticates that wear heels well but are are kinda too quarrelsome when we ask for puddy..

My gracious…I don’t know who is winning today you, Deez or Chas Fickle I tell ya.

kimmie

July 20th, 2011
2:21 pm

Celisea – I think not fickle, just being their usual selves, especially Exiled! I am so not surprised!LOL!

Celisea

July 20th, 2011
2:22 pm

Kimmie – just being their usual selves

You have a point here…lol

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
2:29 pm

LOL……@Exiled
He’s definatley back…..LOL

Exiled!

July 20th, 2011
2:30 pm

going back to my corner then :sad:

Ghostrider

July 20th, 2011
2:35 pm

@Exiled!
a fat hog don’t have to be on the window display…

But it don’t mean it ain’t tasty!!

Licking my Chops :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
2:37 pm

Kimmie yes we are visual, and I have to sometimes ask myself is it worth it trying to find a shiny new diamond or is this diamond in the rough just as good. I’ll take the rough every time cause then I know what I have.

Robert

July 20th, 2011
2:37 pm

This is ATL. Women out number men 20-to-1. You have 2 choices, either participate or be a spectator. I prefer a woman who is confident enough to recognize her potential and bold enough to get what she wants and not settle for less ( immature men in ATL always wearing baseball caps, blue jeans and tennis shoes). The choice is yours. Deal with immaturity or find yourself a mature real man.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 20th, 2011
2:43 pm

He’s got my name sake y’all, love the no nonsense attitude.

Sassy Black ;-)

July 20th, 2011
2:45 pm

So is that your “evil twin” Black Rob?