It can really fun and enlightening hanging around people who have been married or together for a really long time. I caught quite an earful when the topic of fantasies came up at a dinner party recently. There seemed to be a debate about whether they are healthy or if they can be dangerous.
I was surprised to find that while a few of the men supported their women having fantasies about other men – they just don’t want to hear about it. Ever.
Of course, being the “chatty” talk about everything type, the women over shared the fantasy details. That’s right, ladies…it’s all fun and games, until you start yammering away about who you were really thinking about when you were with him.
If you have been married or in a long term relationship, did you ever indulge in sharing your fantasies? Do you think having a fantasy is like the gateway drug to cheating? Is it something that should be handled delicately?
Should you keep your fantasies about other people to yourself? Could you handle hearing your partner talk about it? Would it matter if it were a celebrity fantasy?
I ask because one of the women works in the entertainment industry. She is constantly meeting all kind of fine men. Her husband clearly is not a fan of the fantasy sharing. He doesn’t want to be faced with a situation where he is in the same room with the “fantasy celebrity” – can’t say I blame him!
What do you think? If you are fantasizing about someone else, is that a sign that the relationship is in trouble?