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Should women date like men?

I was listening to a song the other day, called Do It Like A Dude. It was by the singer Jessie J and the lyrics – and video – are quite hilarious. I thought how silly it would be if women behaved as men. No offense to the gentleman folk but I am not sure I could ever carry on like you do.

When it comes to dating, I can be dude-like in some instances, though. I know a lot of men who don’t rush a dating relationship. I am the type that takes it super slow, and I don’t usually get clingy with the men I date.

What would happen if more women dated like men, though? Would it be a good thing for some, bad thing for others?

Could some men stand to date like a woman?

What dating or relationship habits/behaviors do you think we could benefit from adopting from the opposite sex?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

392 comments Add your comment

Jessie Jackson

July 18th, 2011
6:48 am

This is why a sister went to college? You should be covering political candidates and dating civil rights icons..

Foxy

July 18th, 2011
7:14 am

Foxy says when a woman dates like a man…the VaJJ shelf life wont be long!
Have a good day Kids! :)

Exiled!

July 18th, 2011
8:05 am

Good morning!

Maybe some lesbians(masculine) date like men.

Now,it’s kinda funny to think that they’re some brokenhearted lesbians(feminine) out there….licked and then dumped by their mates…ha ha ha ha!

A lick can cause that much pain…

On the prowl,like a man……..just to lick? :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 18th, 2011
8:41 am

There are gals who will date several guys at the same time. All I can tell her is do what makes you happy and take your time. She must be doing something right if a lot of guys want to date her. I’m not meaning anything sexual, her persona could be what attract many prospective guys.

Good Monday Morning:

LeeH1

July 18th, 2011
8:44 am

Uh, do you mean women pay for the outing instead of the men, even when the women make more money? Do you mean calling the man up to ask for a date, and face the possibility of rejection? Do you mean having the woman take into consideration the tastes and desires of the man when chosing a date locale?

Just what do you mean about “dating like men”?

Mike P

July 18th, 2011
8:47 am

Good Morning…

“What would happen if more women dated like men, though? Would it be a good thing for some, bad thing for others?” – WD

There would be a lot more single, used-up, un-marry-able women out there if this were to happen. So no, it would be very bad for women to play this game, and very bad for stand-up guys looking for marry-worthy women.

“Could some men stand to date like a woman?” -WD
I don’t see how this could even work.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 18th, 2011
8:49 am

SexyC, Celisea, Black Coffy:

Sorry I wasn’t around to answer your questions Friday. If you take a look at the last entry you will see I tried to answer them. I will now go back under the stairwell where I belong….LOL

Foxy

July 18th, 2011
9:07 am

@Blackfoote – Your 8:41 – Since you put it that way!

MzNewy

July 18th, 2011
9:13 am

I have dated like a man. What folks don’t realize is some folks say “date” when they mean “I’m giving up the goods”. Nope I mean date…as in “a social engagement usually established to get to know a person of the opposite sex”. As women, we could benefit from “dating” like a man in several ways. I found that before I dated this way, I got to know men and could adequately categorize them. For example there was “Sport Dude”- I loved going to sporting events and sports bars with him, but after a few dates, pretty much solidified him in my “hang out with to watch the game” section. Then there was “Music Dude” – Great dancer but was one diminsional. I think with women, alot of times we find a guy and say “I want to establish something” and try to couple up too quick. Whereas men seem to decide they want to couple up and find a woman that has qualities they can live with.

Personally, I am glad that I was brought up in the world of “courting”. If we truly “date” the way it was intended and not jump in the sack so quick and call it dating, then we would have alot more long lasting relationships.

What?!?!?

July 18th, 2011
9:27 am

Again with the name, and again no wisdom whatsoever…

MsMarriedUp

July 18th, 2011
9:37 am

wait…wait… let me make sure I’m reading this right!?! The men date like X. And the women are dating WHO then? Because if they are dating these men who date like X, then they ARE already dating like men.

Now, too, I could be reading this wrong. If so, please excuse this interruption.

SlimNu

July 18th, 2011
9:45 am

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 18th, 2011
9:50 am

Hey Foxy:
How are you?
MzNewy said it better than anything I can say.

Into the Light

July 18th, 2011
9:52 am

MzNewy – LOVE your 9:13 post, especially the last paragraph. :)

CoolShadow

July 18th, 2011
9:56 am

@LeeH1: your 8:44 is on target. When you interpret like that, women would never “date like a man”. That would be like ceding power for no reason.

abc

July 18th, 2011
9:56 am

So, what exactly does ‘date like a man’ mean?

Purple Rain

July 18th, 2011
9:58 am

If women dated like men they would not be so hurt and jaded all of the time. They would know to protect their heart before falling in love and would have more meaningful relationships. So yes ladies you should date like men.

Celisea

July 18th, 2011
10:01 am

Should Women Date Like Men

Here are my thoughts from Friday…I’ll just copy and paste again:

Sometimes folks get offended at the 2sidedness of the game but hey, like they say, don’t hate the player hate the game. When it comes down to dating, I’m not concerned with how men do it, if it’s fair and if I should try and step like men do. We are separate genders for many many reasons and in the world of dating carefree and carelessness sometimes falls to a man’s advantage….frankly that’s neither here nor there with me. I do what I do and don’t sweat how and what work for men. We aren’t intended to date the same way.

Blackfoote – We was just having fun. The sort of fun you have after 5:00 because if we lay it out like that during the daytime, most certainly someone would get offended :)

Purple Rain

July 18th, 2011
10:01 am

Blackfoote, I held it down for you. You should only hide under the stairs for explaining yourself. LOL

Celisea

July 18th, 2011
10:01 am

Celisea

July 18th, 2011
10:03 am

Morning PR!!

Purple Rain

July 18th, 2011
10:03 am

Celisea, hello.

Purple Rain

July 18th, 2011
10:04 am

kimmie

July 18th, 2011
10:04 am

Morning All! Hope everyone had a nice weekend.

On topic – Here we go again, with the expectation that women need to change to accomodate men. When can we all get back to being what we are? Women be women, date like a “smart” woman. Make wise decisions concerning the men you date and your behavior. Men, do the same. Be a man, a “smart” man, make decisions concerning the women you chose and how you treat them.

Don’t make decisions that are going to come back and haunt you later, is the main point I want to make.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 18th, 2011
10:07 am

Hey Purple, Celisea, ITL:

Thanks man good to know somebody has your back covered.

Purple Rain

July 18th, 2011
10:10 am

Here comes kimmie with that old married woman advice, you are out of the dating scene kimmie stop rubbing it in these other women’s lonely faces about how they should stay the same and not change. LOL

Celisea

July 18th, 2011
10:13 am

Hey Blackfoote

I was having fun but I was for real :)

MsMarriedUp

July 18th, 2011
10:14 am

…if a man is not sharing his feelings with you; if he’s bed hopping; heart swapping; gettin’ the 5 min fix; hittin’ it and quittin’ it; whatever dating ‘like men’ is supposed to mean, then whomever he’s doing this with, or to… and admittedly not obliquing, maybe for many not even knowingly, but if this is your date, then this is how you date.

Now if you’re with a man who doesn’t date like this, then of course the woman doesn’t date like this either.

Kinda have to be careful with this one, because it sounds like it may be dealing with ‘emotional’ control as opposed to a style of dating.

Mike P

July 18th, 2011
10:14 am

I totally agree with your 10:04am post Kimmie :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 18th, 2011
10:16 am

LOL….@Purple
I like it when she says be a smart man and woman. Classic.

UGA 1999

July 18th, 2011
10:18 am

Women think like men so why not date like men?

kimmie

July 18th, 2011
10:18 am

Purple – Whatever!!LOL!!! I’m just tired of hearing how we women need to change up to accomodate men all the time! I’m not saying women need to stay the same and not change, not at all. If I had done things the same way I was doing them, I’d probably still be single. I’m saying, if what you’re doing is not working for you, do the necessary tweaking. But at no time did I give up my womanhood. I certainly wouldn’t be taking notes from some of these weak behind men out here! Men have not cornered the market on successful dating and relationships. It takes TWO to have a successful relationship anyway.

kimmie

July 18th, 2011
10:20 am

Thanks Mike P!

SexyCool

July 18th, 2011
10:20 am

Don’t date like anybody, man or woman, except yourself. Find out what works for you and go with that. This typically happens through trial and error, knowing yourself and knowing what you really want out of life and need from a parter.

Celisea

July 18th, 2011
10:21 am

PR – There you go assuming. Some of us don’t need a manual. Just because we aren’t all “statused” (is that a word) the same don’t go assuming the worst. Dudes knocking down the door to “ho” ain’t exactly something to jump at….just saying.

kimmie

July 18th, 2011
10:21 am

Blackfoote – Thanks to you too. Sounds simple, but folks make it hard@

kimmie

July 18th, 2011
10:22 am

SCool – I like that!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 18th, 2011
10:24 am

Celisea:
Good we should all be able to have fun, I have to smile at something or somebody daily good or bad. I’m thick skinned so if it’s at my expense I can laugh at that too.

SexyCool

July 18th, 2011
10:25 am

Rob – yep, like Cel, just having fun…but was really wondering. Cool to know that you had a nice time.

Oh and….thanks for confirming that you are not the curly-kit slAngin’, gold chain, polyester suit wearing, taco meat chest hair showing, old dude sitting at the bar.

Purple Rain

July 18th, 2011
10:25 am

Celisea, what are you talking about in your 10:21? Ohhh you are being serious in response to my joke. Celisea, darling you are “statused”

Purple Rain

July 18th, 2011
10:26 am

Taco Meat. LOL!

Celisea

July 18th, 2011
10:28 am

Oh and….thanks for confirming that you are not the curly-kit slAngin’, gold chain, polyester suit wearing, taco meat chest hair showing, old dude sitting at the bar.

LOLOLOLOL

PR – Don’t be tryna get me riled up early this beautiful Monday morning :)

Purple Rain

July 18th, 2011
10:30 am

Celisea, it is not beautiful here, it’s raining. Besides, you know you are a cutie patooty when you are riled up. Ugggg I am using to much baby language now.

Celisea

July 18th, 2011
10:33 am

PR – Rainy days can be good days as well….

Curl up by the fireplace and read a good book. Ask Jules to bring you a nice cup of java :) You know I said “curl up” right? That goes with the cutie patooty thingy you called me :) Do men curl up?

Okay, we distracting from the topic…let’s wait a couple of hours before we move off topic.

Celisea

July 18th, 2011
10:34 am

we’re…not we

Purple Rain

July 18th, 2011
10:34 am

Sexy Cool, how are the plans coming along? If you need a stripper for your bachlorette party I can do it free of charge. I like you you are cool and plus I like being naked around a bunch of women. #bucketlist. Help me help you :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 18th, 2011
10:34 am

You’re welcome Mrs. Kimmie:
People do make it hard, folks will dry up their brain trying to make 2+2=5…..LOL

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 18th, 2011
10:39 am

LOL….@SexyC
Taco Meat.

SexyCool

July 18th, 2011
10:40 am

Thanks for asking, P-lito….and for volunteering to be the naked Italian dude who won’t make the pictures of the party that night. (lol) I will…..um…..let you know.

We found the perfect location on Saturday. It’s a newly built garden park that is in the West End and a part of the Beltline project.

In fact, I need to contact them about the requirements for reserving the space.

Ricardo Cabeza

July 18th, 2011
10:42 am

“Get in, sit down, shut up, and hang on!” Nah. Doesn’t sound right comin’ out of a chick.