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Telltale signs of a booty call

There may come a time when you have to ask the tough question: Am I just a booty call? It would seem that this would be an easy thing to figure out, but alas..dating is not always easy.  Sometimes you have mixed signals, double talk, sweet talk, lip service (not the good kind), and plain old jedi mind tricks.

So what are the signs that let you know you are just there for entertainment?  Few people come out and say, “Hey you are just something to do until somebody else comes along” but their actions somewhat support that statement.

Guys do you know (or care?) when you are being considered only as the maintenance man?  Would you prefer to be told that it’s never going anywhere, so just enjoy the ride while it lasts?

What are the top telltale signs…you’re just a booty call?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

342 comments Add your comment

Celisea

July 13th, 2011
11:04 am

My uncle use to tell us this story about riding on the edge or taking the middle of the road. PR, you’re dangerously close to riding on the edge…move to the middle of the road where there no possibility of falling in. You sound weak this morning my man…lol

Willie Dynamite

July 13th, 2011
11:04 am

Purp – First of all I totally totally understand your dilemma. Controlling temptation is probably the hardest thing for a Married Dude to master. Secondly, it is great that you understand your limits. Lastly, Hang in there Man. Going to another store is only a temporary solution. What happens after a while when you do (and you will) run into her again? I offer no advice cause frankly I haven’t quite figured that part out myself.

Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)

July 13th, 2011
11:05 am

LOL @ PR…the gal I mentioned above, Patty D. was the sexiest woman I have ever met. Not beautiful, just must have been pheromones or something. She was dating a co-worker but she would walk into the office and every male (and maybe the females even) would dayum near bite a hole through their tongues. Another friend of mine ran into her one night at Calhouns (the major meat market in Knoxville) and he said she walked into the room wearing a black sheath and it was like the hundred other women there just vanished. Every man in the room couldn’t take his eyes off of her. My friend said he went up to hit on her and she told him gently that she didn’t date married men, but her friend with her was interested. His comment was “I didn’t even notice you were with someone until you told me”.

I know that if she even hinted to come hither, I would have walked away from everything for that one night. Stupid maybe, but she had that kind of effect.

Celisea

July 13th, 2011
11:05 am

And speaking of temptations….Mr. Eye Candy that’s here a couple times of month just walked by. I can’t lie, I do a friggin double take EVERY time I see him. Of course it’s after he’s passed by. He don’t need me to stroke him no more than he’s getting stroked. Dang fine self.

He ain’t tempting though. I’ve heard rumors.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 13th, 2011
11:06 am

“I would bite her on the booty then just be done and go home”

A wolf doesn’t always need a full moon to seek it’s prey…..LOL

Celisea

July 13th, 2011
11:08 am

Well, I stay away from things I can’t or haven’t mastered. I might break.

Leggs

July 13th, 2011
11:12 am

@Blackfoote, booty and full moon really are the same thing (lol)!

SexyCool

July 13th, 2011
11:12 am

Actually, going to another store works just fine.

I used to frequent a gas station down the street from the apartments that I lived in and would get so aggravated with the clerk that always tried to hit on me when I went in…even after I tried to discourage him.

I’m a dunce…it took me way to long to figure out that this was not the only gas station in town.

Purp – I’m hoping that you all have more than one store that you can frequent.

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2011
11:14 am

LOL, thank you all for not chirping me to death on me having temptations. :)

Into the Light

July 13th, 2011
11:14 am

Top 5 answers on the board, and survey says – Find another gas station, PR. :)

abc

July 13th, 2011
11:15 am

PR, karma being what it is and all, I’d speculate that your wife is carrying on just like that with her friends, family or coworkers about some random guy she encountered at a dayum gas station. A gas station, really, not even a verbal exchange, and it’s all that.

All this booty call rhetoric, it just makes me think that people’s standards have dropped a lot in the past 10-20 years or so.

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2011
11:15 am

All I could hear in my head was that song by Deborah Cox “How did you get here” lol

Into the Light

July 13th, 2011
11:15 am

Well, you know what they say, PR: Opportunity knocks, but temptation will lean on the doorbell!!

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2011
11:16 am

abc, where I am from a gas station is a grocer, eatery , feed depot and gas station. And so what if my wife is, if she handles it like I have I have no problem with it.

Leggs

July 13th, 2011
11:18 am

@PR ~ you know darn well, we don’t “chirp” people to death, we stone them!

abc

July 13th, 2011
11:18 am

Like I said, standards have dropped. Whatever floats your boat, ‘course.

Exiled!

July 13th, 2011
11:19 am

Good morning..very nice and juicy topic today!

Sorry,too busy to state my opinions and defend them…

lurking……..

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2011
11:20 am

Exactly, abc. You stay in your house I stay in mine.

Leggs, very true. ;)

Celisea

July 13th, 2011
11:20 am

I have a dude…the same dude that I’ve mentioned that’s probably been the only dude like cryptonite for me. He resurfaces from time to time. What’s worked for me is to simply avoid. With this one, I know I don’t know my limits so I keep away. Got a text last night..didn’t answer. He wants to talk and he knows that I know I will cave. It’s worked so far and Imma keep right on running…one of us will get tired. I honestly thought it would be him first but I guess not.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 13th, 2011
11:20 am

LOL….@Leggs
I didn’t think of it like that, but it is….LOL

Celisea

July 13th, 2011
11:22 am

Actually PR, abc is knocking on something. If nothing else, maybe thinking of Jules in this position. Or better yet, think of Jules and how she would feel just knowing. You say she reads on here right?? Ut oh. Mabye that will give you the jolt you need.

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2011
11:23 am

Celisea, why are you running from this one? I have a reason to not indulge, I would gain nothing at all except a temp pleasure and lose all that I value. But you are single, you should slow down your pace a little. LOL

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2011
11:26 am

Celisea, once again. I don’t keep secrets from my wife. She knows about the woman and how fine I think she is. But she trusts me and knows that I would not act on it. Like I have not and I told her I was going to another station so that I am not tempted. I think anyone is a liar of they think that their libido or eyes just go away once trhey are married. You can look at the menu all day, just don’t order or flirt or anything like that. I share my thoughts with my wife and on here, not with the woman whom I am attracted to carnally. I probably can count on one hand how many times I have just said “hello” and this morning was probably the longest sentence I have said to her which was a response to “How are you” and I said “I’m good”

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 13th, 2011
11:26 am

ITL:
That’s a good saying, I’ve leaned on way too many doorbells with no answer…..LOL

Celisea

July 13th, 2011
11:27 am

PR – I have my reasons…none of which can be divulged on a blog. Maybe we’ll email about it…you might pitch some good advice. Too, if I take him back I’ll become a liar.

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2011
11:27 am

lol my wife is my buddy, she knows me inside and out. She would not be surprised by anything I type on here I am the same on line as in real life,

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2011
11:28 am

Celisea, okay if you want to share we can discuss it.

Celisea

July 13th, 2011
11:28 am

PR – I’m not condemning you. I get you’re human and then a man to boot…lol Heck we all look and wonder and lust. It’s just going knowing when to leave it alone and walk away. I trust you’ll be the standup man you’ve always been. Now, go to another station next time :)

Randyt (aka, BEEN THERE, DONE THAT, HAVE A CLOSET FULL OF T-SHIRTS)

July 13th, 2011
11:30 am

@ PR I think I have told this story before at some point. When I was in my early thirties, family would rent condos on Amelia Island. I had a condo right above the pool. For a couple of days in a row I saw the sexiest gal I had ever seen at the pool. One day I was laying by the pool when she took the lounger right beside me with that unbelievably perfect body, perfect skin, small bikini. Then she turned around and started talking in a very friendly way, where she was from, how long she was staying there, etc. I’m drooling and thinking could I somehow pull this off without wifey finding out.

About that time she said, “I am so excited”. So I responded, “what are you excited about honey” or something stupid like that. Then she said, “next week is my birthday and I get to get my drivers license”…AAAAWWWWW NNNOOOO. “Please God let GA be a state where you have to be 21 or something to get a drivers license”. So I kind of stuttered, “You, you, you, are 15?” She said, “yep and next week I’ll be 16 and get my drivers license”. I literally had to take a cold shower, and still trying to rationalize sleeping with a 15 year old. Finally the thought of being “engaged” to Uncle Bubba in the Federal pen told me to run and don’t even think about it.

15…I still think about that.

Celisea

July 13th, 2011
11:31 am

As the good book says, “resist the devil and he will flee from you.” A lot of responsible and ability to do the right thing, God has trusted in our hands.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 13th, 2011
11:35 am

I get temptations just like any other it’s how you control and handle them that defines your character. In the past I lacked so much character I almost believed in the ones I made up. Experience and time has a way fixing things.

Simple Man....

July 13th, 2011
11:38 am

Stand strong Purp…based on all that you have told us, I think you have handles this “thing of yours” in the best possible way!! :)

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2011
11:38 am

Dang Randy, that is funny and sad at the same time. You would have had Chris Hanson come out of the pool with scuba gear on and a camera crew.

Celisea, lol My wifes always responds “tell your lil girlfriend hello”, when she knows I am going to the gas station

Celisea

July 13th, 2011
11:39 am

Tell Jules she’s alright in my book :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 13th, 2011
11:40 am

RandyT:
A 15 year old, you might not have to think of jail if daddy get a hold of you first…..LOL

Celisea

July 13th, 2011
11:41 am

“15 will get you 30″ is my motto/mantra

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2011
11:41 am

Yeah, I don’t have the heart to mess around, but I sure realized I have the feelings. LOL

Leggs

July 13th, 2011
11:42 am

WOW, RandyT! That’s what scares me about my 16 year old. But, mine looks 16 and giggles like a 16 year old. You really couldn’t tell you were lusting after a teenager?? Well, I understand cuz some of these young ladies look like grown women!

Mr_NYC

July 13th, 2011
11:42 am

Greetings folks
Purp man I admire you resolve. Also appreciate how you speak of the friendship between you and your wife. Pass on some tips to a fella sometimes. Someday I hope to give the marriage thing another go.

Leggs

July 13th, 2011
11:43 am

@Blackfoote ~ jail, smail, he better be thinking about death!

Celisea

July 13th, 2011
11:43 am

PR – Now admit it. Doesn’t it feel good to get it out and hear the moral majority chanting “do the right thing?” Don’t you feel strong enough to go yet another day? We can’t chant for you now everytime you need to fill up. Get you another gas station.

Celisea

July 13th, 2011
11:45 am

BTW PR, not being single does not mean married. Just thought I’d let you know. Well not to For Real but I’m just saying.

Sweet Pea

July 13th, 2011
11:47 am

PR~At least your wife is confident and finds humor in it. We don’t need to hear about another Lorena Bobbitt story :x

Stay strong and away from the Women in Red ;)

Sweet Pea

July 13th, 2011
11:49 am

hear another not about…Sorry

Lovely Brown

July 13th, 2011
11:50 am

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2011
11:27 am
lol my wife is my buddy, she knows me inside and out. She would not be surprised by anything I type on here I am the same on line as in real life,

Awww PR, this made me like you a little more :lol:

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2011
11:50 am

NYC, thanks man. She is relly my best buddy that’s all I can say. I married my friend who happens to be a beautiful woman. Took a while to get there though I was sour on marriage, but once I thought about it I went all in. All I can say is that when you meet the one and you have no thoughts on if you can do better in any aspect…..that is the one you are supposed to marry.

Celisea, I am not to surprised of the moral majorities response, even though this is online I have a general feel that this is a nice moral group. Even when it gets raunchy, I resepect everyone for who they are even if I think they are hypocritical assholes or just plain pussies. And I think the majority that know me kind of know I would not do anything as well. But I will admit it does feel good :) Now I am waiting on For Real, to ask me for that girls number so that he can take her on a dolphin ride. LOL

Into the Light

July 13th, 2011
11:57 am

Stand strong Purp…based on all that you have told us, I think you have handles this “thing of yours” in the best possible way!!

Unlike SOME, huh, Jiffy Lube?? :evil:

Celisea

July 13th, 2011
11:57 am

PR – I dig :) Have you retracted your fangs?

Into the Light

July 13th, 2011
11:59 am

And, YES, my 11:57 is a JOKE!!

PR, honesty and consistency, right?!?!? :) You are A-OK, man.

Purple Rain

July 13th, 2011
12:00 pm

Celisea, you know when and were my fangs will come out. LOL and they are not out in this instance