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Experiencing post-hook up weirdness?

My friend David has had his first post-divorce dating misadventure and he is already confused. It seems that he was surprised that women no longer want to sleep over after “doing the do.” I felt bad for him because he took it personally and worried that he did something wrong.

Everyone has “the morning after” or post-hook up behavior and rituals. It doesn’t always mean something good or bad. Sometimes women won’t feel like cuddling, talking, or even hanging around long (I know that sounds like the perfect woman to some men!) – you can rarely predict that kind of thing though.

Have you ever been confused about something a person did after you hooked up with them?

Do you think that it was solely because sex was involved?

Do you have any post-hook up patterns that you didn’t notice you had until someone called you on it?

Do you act differently afterwards?

439 comments Add your comment

OPRAH

July 8th, 2011
10:41 am

Gayle get’s mad at me whenever I make her leave after we hook up because I don’t want Stedman to get upset. I thought by allowing her to come on my show numerous times to help her get her own thing, that it would be enough. I’m so torn.

Lauren Hill

July 8th, 2011
10:42 am

I guess the post hook ups can get weird especailly in the beginning and if the hook-up was unexpected. I had one ex that at the beginning he would make sure to tell me that he couldn’t stay the night b/c he has to get up early in the am. I was like “cool” b/c I really wanted the snake and not the extra company. Someone puleeze tell me why he would ALWAYS end up snoring in my bed till I woke him up the next morning??? I think that was more confusing for me, but the sex was great so I chose not to complain :)

Jill Scott

July 8th, 2011
10:42 am

What’s up Blogsville – Hello Jill, I know you can smell what I’m cooking. You wanna write a song about it

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Tito Jackson

July 8th, 2011
10:44 am

Marlo, when Bugs comes around do NOT try on his red hat that he is selling. Carrie, nobody likes you even though you are a mainstay of Sex and The City!

Sade, it is my time to shine!

Nia Long

July 8th, 2011
10:45 am

This is going too fast. Can’t keep up!!

Tito Jackson

July 8th, 2011
10:45 am

Oprah, is Dr. Phil sleeping with Steadman?

Carrie Bradshaw

July 8th, 2011
10:46 am

YOu now have the secret to the “jackson shine”

:lol: :lol: You mind if I write a column about it? I promise not to advise who my source is.

George Clooney

July 8th, 2011
10:47 am

Didn’t I already say this I would NOT let Harris Faulkner leave my house. If I did I still wouldn’t let her leave no matter what her husband thinks about it.

Levi Johnson!

July 8th, 2011
10:48 am

Lauren?

How about if you guys stop smoking kush before the do?

maybe,just maybe he won’t forget himself and sleep and snore like that.

Tito Jackson

July 8th, 2011
10:49 am

Carrie, no problem. Let’s give it to the world!

OPRAH

July 8th, 2011
10:50 am

Lauren – I would like to do a show with you and discuss some of the…questionables of your career moves and personal life. Why did you lie about having married your kids father? Do you have any personality disorders?

Tito – No Dr. Phil messed around a little with Dr. Oz but not my Steadie..

Whitney Houston

July 8th, 2011
10:51 am

BOBBYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!, Anybody seen my BOBBBYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!

Tito Jackson

July 8th, 2011
10:51 am

Oprah, why won’t you get married?

matthew mcconaughey

July 8th, 2011
10:53 am

Carrie of course I am wearing deoderant today….ralph lauren…

George Clooney

July 8th, 2011
10:55 am

Tito your 10:45 sent me on break to recoup. I can’t hold it no more and these folks think I’m passing out.

Sade

July 8th, 2011
10:57 am

Living my life like it’s golden, golden…

Ooops, sorry Jill!

Ron O'Neal - a.k.a. Super Fly

July 8th, 2011
10:57 am

Whitney, I got that good, good for you .. Holla at me …

Bubba Bexly

July 8th, 2011
10:57 am

( In my Blind Mello Jelly voice) I WANT MY DADDIES RECORDS BACK!!!

Tito Jackson

July 8th, 2011
10:57 am

George, do you want to be a tour sponsor?

Nia Long

July 8th, 2011
11:00 am

Whitney, whateva made you say “crack is whack” or “show me the receipt?” You know you looked like a damn fool!!

Hill Harper

July 8th, 2011
11:00 am

Jill Scott

July 8th, 2011
11:02 am

Tito you are cracking me up :lol:

Imma have to write a song about you….what do you like to eat? :lol:

Angela Bassett

July 8th, 2011
11:02 am

OMG….this is truly the looney bin…

Bobby Brown

July 8th, 2011
11:03 am

I still got it. Whitney I know you want me.

Beatrice Kiddo

July 8th, 2011
11:03 am

For some reason, during my dating days, guys did seem surprised when I did not stay over or insist that they leave.

Glad I don’t have to navigate those waters any longer.

Beatrix Kiddo

July 8th, 2011
11:04 am

My Bad…spelled my name wrong.

Jill Scott

July 8th, 2011
11:06 am

Sade

July 8th, 2011
10:57 am
Living my life like it’s golden, golden…

Ooops, sorry Jill!

:lol:

This is no ordinary love, no ordinary love…….

Halle Berry

July 8th, 2011
11:07 am

What in the heck is goin on in herrre

Beatrix Kiddo

July 8th, 2011
11:11 am

Sadie is the only person I know for sure.

Sade

July 8th, 2011
11:11 am

Jill, we should do a tour together! (said in my best English accent)

Bobby Brown

July 8th, 2011
11:11 am

Every lil step I take you will be there

Alfrie Woodard

July 8th, 2011
11:11 am

Ummmm, think I stepped into another planet.

Sade

July 8th, 2011
11:12 am

Trixi – I know who you are too!

Marlo Stansfield aka "Mr Sticky Chin"

July 8th, 2011
11:12 am

Watch out now…Halle just showed up and we all she will run off every man in town….

matthew mcconaughey

July 8th, 2011
11:12 am

I think I know who Sade is.,…

Tito Jackson

July 8th, 2011
11:14 am

Jill, “Makee me some breakfast, toast, two scrambled eggs, griiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiits”
LOL

Sparkle

July 8th, 2011
11:14 am

I can’t seem to understand why people show up unannounced–even if the sex is grreeeaaatttt. Can you at least call first and if i don’t answer the phone, please stay away from my home!!!

OPRAH

July 8th, 2011
11:15 am

Tito – I came too far to give up everything I have worked so hard for to some fly-by-night marriage. Men can be just as much of a gold digger than a woman can. Plus I don’t even really like dizzle…I just play like it on tv for the sake of public appearance. Don’t tell Gayle but I had a think for Maya a few years back.

Halle Berry

July 8th, 2011
11:15 am

@Marlo- I can get any man I want, I just don’t keep them for long. I want to do Monster Ball.

Tito Jackson

July 8th, 2011
11:15 am

I will tour with Sade and Jill as long as I get my solo!

Tito Jackson

July 8th, 2011
11:16 am

Okay, OPRAH is BMW. She just told on herself.

Levi Johnson!

July 8th, 2011
11:17 am

Enter your comments here

Bristol Palin

July 8th, 2011
11:18 am

Levi- bring you @ss back to alaska, see bout yo child!

Whitney Houston

July 8th, 2011
11:19 am

Bobbbbbbbyyyyy, am I still your tender roni?

Nia – Crack is Wack…everybody knows that. Crack is beneath me and the level of class that I am on. I schmooooke Rock, not crack but I don’t use a pipe. I like to sprinkle it over my Capri 100’s. I believe the chirren are our future….Ahhhhhhh cough cough Ahhhhhhhh And I need receipts for tax purposes. This is medicinal Rock Cocaine.

matthew mcconaughey

July 8th, 2011
11:19 am

Halle…what is monster ball?

Marlo Stansfield aka "Mr Sticky Chin"

July 8th, 2011
11:20 am

Shhhh…Everybody be quite….Billy Bob Thornton is at the door in that lame azz Bad Santa Suite Looking for Halle (or Angelina if she happens to drop by)

Halle Berry

July 8th, 2011
11:22 am

Ohhh Matthew, you would be a good candidate. Do you like it doggie style?

Avoiding "hook ups"

July 8th, 2011
11:22 am

The best way to prevent any kind of post-hook up weirdness is to not hook up at all. The reality is too many men and women “hook up” and wonder why they feel awkward afterwards. There is no relationship, love, and/or intimacy involved in that. In Good Will Hunting, Robin Williams is speaking to Matt Damon about love. He says, “You don’t know about real loss, because that only occurs when you love something more than you love yourself.” Those who invest their lives in “hooking up” aren’t loving past themselves. One night stands are at best an adventure in pleasure and intimacy, and at worst a feeble attempt to feel alive. Perhaps the best thing we can do is commit ourselves to seeking out true love, which transcends “hooking up.” True love and intimacy digs deeper and causes us to sacrifice ourselves for the other person. Hopefully that can happen.

Sade

July 8th, 2011
11:23 am

I’m a soldier of love
Everyday of my life!!!

Alfrie Woodard

July 8th, 2011
11:25 am

Sparkle’s milkshake has the boys in her yard.