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Experiencing post-hook up weirdness?

My friend David has had his first post-divorce dating misadventure and he is already confused. It seems that he was surprised that women no longer want to sleep over after “doing the do.” I felt bad for him because he took it personally and worried that he did something wrong.

Everyone has “the morning after” or post-hook up behavior and rituals. It doesn’t always mean something good or bad. Sometimes women won’t feel like cuddling, talking, or even hanging around long (I know that sounds like the perfect woman to some men!) – you can rarely predict that kind of thing though.

Have you ever been confused about something a person did after you hooked up with them?

Do you think that it was solely because sex was involved?

Do you have any post-hook up patterns that you didn’t notice you had until someone called you on it?

Do you act differently afterwards?

439 comments Add your comment

Levi Johnson!

July 8th, 2011
9:44 am

Just go jack yourself ‘abc’

Your tension will wear off,you will be pleased!

Tito Jackson

July 8th, 2011
9:46 am

David, is emotional and wanted to cuddle or maybe he did not please her. Better yet maybe she had to go home to her man. Having sex does not mean she gets to stay over, or maybe she has been programmed as a jumpoff before with other men. Orgasm then get the hell out. #kanyeshrug.

No bad post hook up experiences, maybe because I just did not pay attention to them.

Carrie Bradshaw

July 8th, 2011
9:46 am

abc – Let’s get into your creative side….if you chose a Halloween costume, what would it be?

Tito Jackson

July 8th, 2011
9:47 am

abc, probably could not leave the porch to play as a youngster.

NY2GA

July 8th, 2011
9:47 am

I know I’ve been gone for a minute, but is this Hollywood Actor/Actress Day?

Where is Celisia, Slim, Purp, etc, etc, etc?

Sly Stone

July 8th, 2011
9:47 am

All of my chicks know about the others. May not know them personally, but they know of them. Don’t like it? you can’t be one of my chicks.

Tito Jackson

July 8th, 2011
9:48 am

NY, we getting money now. You better come on in. “We rich byyyytchhhh!”

ShoNuff "Kiss my Converse"

July 8th, 2011
9:49 am

Reio

July 8th, 2011
9:51 am

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Samantha Jones aka "Bit-O-Hunny"

July 8th, 2011
9:51 am

@ Levi J.- Indeed. He takes care of every aspect of a great morning *wink*
@ Carrie B.- Hun, if I went into dets…I would be promptly kicked, banned and forbidden from this site again. LOL. Let’s just say a lady is feeling LOVED by her man! CHEERS!

Coffy AKA Foxxy Brown

July 8th, 2011
9:51 am

Have you ever been confused about something a person did after you hooked up with them?

No, if we’re just “hooking up” then it’s pretty much understood that’s all we’re gonna do. No need to confruse the situation for anything other than that.

If I was “slayed” then I’ll want to take a brief intermission and then go at it again. Being awakened by a great lover is a wonderful experience…

Me,too! If it was great then I’ll definitely want another round(or two) and that morning after kinda lovin is a grrreat way to start the day.

George Clooney

July 8th, 2011
9:52 am

Jill I’m listening ya sound wonderful.

Tito Jackson

July 8th, 2011
9:52 am

I’ve always hated Micheal, I was supposed to be the lead singer

George Clooney

July 8th, 2011
9:52 am

Carrie when at my house not only do your pictures adorn my walls there’s an ocean of seduction that once you have dipped you will want to stay.

NY2GA

July 8th, 2011
9:53 am

This is getting comical, post hook-up weirdness what are we 16 years old, what’s going on. If you are an adult, what is there to feel weird about? You spent some time, handled your bus and keep it moving. It would be weird if you woke up and didn’t recognize the person, now that would be a problem…

Levi Johnson!

July 8th, 2011
9:53 am

Hey Tito!

How’s the lil one and wify?

:lol:

Samantha Jones aka "Bit-O-Hunny"

July 8th, 2011
9:54 am

@Marlo S.-I’m exhausted and exhilarated!

Carrie Bradshaw

July 8th, 2011
9:54 am

Maybe buddy was feeling a little ego-shocked since the chick didn’t want to stay for another round, or just to be in his company which would lead him to believe she liked it…but being that she dipped out, it’s leaving him with question marks….I need to know how the next few days played out. Has she called him, have they talked about their little rompus or what? DETAILS, WE NEED DETAILS…I’m a columnist dammit and I demand DETAILS.

I wonder if Mr. Big will notice my toothbrush, hair dryer, box of tampons, favorite ice cream, one earring, one holey sock, and spinning hub cap cover that I left at this spot

Angela Bassett

July 8th, 2011
9:54 am

Maybe it was weird for him because he’s been out of the game for awhile. Didn’t I read this was his first occasion since his divorce

Fred Williamson

July 8th, 2011
9:57 am

Coffey come over here girl I been waiting two hours on you. How did you like that loving this morning?

Carrie Bradshaw

July 8th, 2011
9:57 am

Sade – Can I hear a little of Babysfather?

Sade

July 8th, 2011
9:59 am

Angela – I agree, he’s been out of the game. He should be thankful she’s not being clingy and stalkerish. She might have felt awkward, especially if he didn’t invite her to stay longer. She didn’t want to wear out her welcome on their first night together like that. I think he’ll be fine. Especially if he called her later to say he had a lovely evening and she took his call and felt likewise. He should just be cool.

Karrine Steffans

July 8th, 2011
10:00 am

I don’t get what the problem is. He should have just had me over and paid me for the extra time.

Jock

July 8th, 2011
10:00 am

Happy to have them leave. “Hit it, and forget it….”

Jill Scott

July 8th, 2011
10:01 am

Tito Jackson

July 8th, 2011
9:52 am
I’ve always hated Micheal, I was supposed to be the lead singer

I knew it! :lol:

Sade

July 8th, 2011
10:01 am

Sure, but I’m bigtime now. The first song is free, I charge per song after that, a penny less than iTunes.

Angela Bassett

July 8th, 2011
10:02 am

So I see the psuedo names won’t really garner real talk today. LOL

George Clooney

July 8th, 2011
10:02 am

Tito where is the gig tonight. At Carrie’s house be sure we get Coffy over its gone be a good night.

Jill Scott

July 8th, 2011
10:03 am

Maybe it was weird for him because he’s been out of the game for awhile. Didn’t I read this was his first occasion since his divorce

I was thinking the same thing Angela.

THE INFAMOUS DK

July 8th, 2011
10:03 am

He didnt put it DOWN.. He didnt do the whippin he got whooped.

Carrie Bradshaw

July 8th, 2011
10:04 am

George – With writing being my niche and all, the words you speak are talking to me. OCEAN, DIPPED, SEDUCTION….ooooh something is happening between my ears. I always heard you were good with women, even if not for the long haul.

Jill Scott

July 8th, 2011
10:05 am

Tito, I need some tissue…… :lol:

THE INFAMOUS DK

July 8th, 2011
10:05 am

NY2GA Im with you.. I didnt get the memo

The Flip Flop Gal

July 8th, 2011
10:05 am

Tell em daddy

Nia Long

July 8th, 2011
10:06 am

I thought I had Carrie pegged, but must regroup!

For the life of me I can’t understand why there would be any “weirdness” on anyone’s part. Grown and sexy people getting bummed out because someone won’t stay the night is crazy. If one’s emotions are that raw, perhaps they’re not ready to date!!!

Carrie Bradshaw

July 8th, 2011
10:06 am

He was probably just missing that comfort that you get in being married and he tried to get it from the new girl after a quick romp. He’s just out of practice with how things are in the fast food, drive-by, want it now world.

Tito Jackson

July 8th, 2011
10:06 am

abc, this is for you.
http://www.motifake.com/image/demotivational-poster/small/0804/the-negro-communtiy-demotivational-poster-1207694258.jpg

The party is where I am, all the time! Do the people want a song?

Levi, you are the new K-Fed!

Angela Bassett

July 8th, 2011
10:07 am

I know who both Nia and Carrie are :)

Tito Jackson

July 8th, 2011
10:09 am

My hair is naturally curly!

Coffy AKA Foxxy Brown

July 8th, 2011
10:10 am

How did you like that loving this morning?

I bet the neighbors know your name ;-)

Levi Johnson!

July 8th, 2011
10:10 am

New K-Fed?

famous because of the famous pudsy on my notch…

Kinda in the same league with Karrine but am the classier one!

SKEETER

July 8th, 2011
10:11 am

Dam where I am ?? Angela, Nia, Sade……hmmmm either one or all three.
Guess how old i were when i was given the name Skeeter ;-) “sho ya right”

lysa

July 8th, 2011
10:11 am

At first my ex never wanted me to stay the night, although he lived a good 45 mins away from me. (Couldn’t do the do at my house, the kiddie was there with babysitter) So I finally let him know, I was NOT coming over to do the do, hang out, cuddle and then head for home, in the middle of the night. He changed his tune, but I think it might have been the other girlfriend that he had that I didn’t know about that caused his concern. I didn’t leave a bra there one time, totally by accident. I had showered and changed outfits in the morning, but he swore up and down I had left it there on purpose, and was pretty annoyed by it too. Again, may have been because of that whole 2nd girlfriend he had coming over.

Tito Jackson

July 8th, 2011
10:11 am

Levi, and you are making money.

I know Foxxy is!

Sade

July 8th, 2011
10:12 am

I know who Levi is! :)

I don’t see how you stood it in Alaska!! :lol:

Tito Jackson

July 8th, 2011
10:12 am

Iysa, that is only because you had 2nd string puddy. Renovate your puddy and get 1st string treatment.

Michelles Obamas

July 8th, 2011
10:13 am

I bets nobodys knows who I is. BAM!!

Tito Jackson

July 8th, 2011
10:14 am

Levi Johnson!

July 8th, 2011
10:14 am

Angela?

I like your droopy lips.

How is your palate,short or long?

:lol:

Angela Bassett

July 8th, 2011
10:15 am

LOLOL @s Michelles Obamassss