Are you guilty of speed dating?
Have you ever met someone and liked them so much you wanted to fast forward through the awkward and unknown phase? It’s tricky because you don’t want to go too fast and you don’t want to back off either. Is there a way to balance it out and go at a nice and steady pace?
I think that when you are speed dating, you end up alluding to, or bringing up sex in a way that could come across as too eager. A lot of guys want to smash before date three. I’m sure some men would say they experience the same urgency with the women they meet too. What is the big hurry!?
I remember one guy once telling me that he expected to close the deal before he would even consider a relationship. I gave him my best “But…but..we just met” response. That is when I learned that you should date the people that want the same things that you do..in the same time frame. It’s not as easy as it sounds!
How do you handle it when you are seeing someone you really like but they are pushing things too fast?
When you first meet someone, how do you know that they are on the same track and same pace as you are?
Maybe this is my dumb question of the day but: why do so many single people expect to smash so soon after meeting you?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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540 comments Add your comment
SlimNumeroUno
July 7th, 2011
2:51 pm
Does everyone leave early since it’s summer time? Appears that the blog gets a bit slow around this time of day.
Yall think if we all came in here with new monikers that we would be able to figure out who was who by the end of the day?
Leggs
July 7th, 2011
2:56 pm
@Blackfoote ~ it just might sell. A book for knuckleheads who will finally understand why they’re constantly being turned down.
DFW DC
July 7th, 2011
2:56 pm
Lyfe Jennings
UGA 1999
July 7th, 2011
2:56 pm
I am still here….barely hanging on….tired.
Leggs
July 7th, 2011
2:56 pm
We suggested that a few weeks ago, SlimNU…I say let’s go for it. Tomorrow is Friday. Everyone down???
kimmie
July 7th, 2011
2:57 pm
Leggs/Blackfoote – No they will be too knucklehead to read it! LOL!! Why do you think they are called knucklehead?!
Purple Rain
July 7th, 2011
2:58 pm
Lyfe is back in jail so he gets no credit
Purple Rain
July 7th, 2011
2:58 pm
We are changing names tomorrow for the day?
Exiled!
July 7th, 2011
2:59 pm
Slim?!
It’s summer…all u need to do is put the lower half of ur body in glass cage and have the CT up front and visible and the folks can stream by and watch…2pm to 5.30pm
Assured of long blog lines!
SlimNumeroUno
July 7th, 2011
2:59 pm
All in favor say AYE!
AYE!
Purple Rain
July 7th, 2011
2:59 pm
Everyone should just be a number LOL
UGA 1999
July 7th, 2011
3:00 pm
AYE
SlimNumeroUno
July 7th, 2011
3:00 pm
We can call it FIGURE IT OUT FRIDAY…lol
Exiled!
July 7th, 2011
3:00 pm
UGA?
U banged some soccer mum recently?
Simple Man...
July 7th, 2011
3:01 pm
aye….
Purple Rain
July 7th, 2011
3:01 pm
Sure….MONKEY PAW!
SlimNumeroUno
July 7th, 2011
3:01 pm
Purple – The number thing my get confusing…go ahead and tell me what number you’re thinking about being?
UGA 1999
July 7th, 2011
3:01 pm
Exiled…recently? No…football season starts in three weeks…let the fun begin!
Purple Rain
July 7th, 2011
3:02 pm
I may change myname to Wacka Soulja Boy Ross
Leggs
July 7th, 2011
3:03 pm
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 7th, 2011
3:03 pm
LOL…..@Leggs and Mrs KImmie.
Slim1:
Aye,aye skipper.
Purple Rain
July 7th, 2011
3:03 pm
Slim my number 96 instead of 69 because it’s a reccesion…take care of yourself
Lovely Brown
July 7th, 2011
3:06 pm
Leggs
July 7th, 2011
2:56 pm
We suggested that a few weeks ago, SlimNU…I say let’s go for it. Tomorrow is Friday. Everyone down???
Sounds like fun! I’m in
SlimNumeroUno
July 7th, 2011
3:06 pm
Purp – I think they call that 68 Owe you 1
Ok, so anybody that gets in early in the morn…make sure to make an announcement in case we all forget & to let the other regulars know when they come in to bring their masks. lol
Leggs
July 7th, 2011
3:07 pm
AYE!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 7th, 2011
3:07 pm
I gottta get BMW back for calling me Cletus.
BMW I’m coming to NYC to take a bite out of your Big Apple…..LOL
Everyone enjoy your evening:
Exiled!
July 7th, 2011
3:08 pm
UGA?
What park? I’m gon bring my son but not my wife.
not funny tho!
Leggs
July 7th, 2011
3:09 pm
@PR ~ she said all in favor say “AYE” not “Sure!!!”
UGA 1999
July 7th, 2011
3:09 pm
Exiled….lets just say Gwinnett.
Leggs
July 7th, 2011
3:10 pm
Now, changing up monikers doesn’t mean changing writing style.
Purple Rain
July 7th, 2011
3:13 pm
Leggs, suck my toe!
Exiled!
July 7th, 2011
3:14 pm
AYE!
uall luv my fake S.W.Atlanta slang(ebonic accent) and Mechanicisville swag tmrw!
Purple Rain
July 7th, 2011
3:14 pm
I think I am going to change my name to Sexy Cool
Purple Rain
July 7th, 2011
3:19 pm
LOL we should all have a famous person’s name.
Leggs
July 7th, 2011
3:19 pm
I don’t do the toe sucking, you do! Please remember that.
Leggs
July 7th, 2011
3:20 pm
Ok, is that going to be the theme, everyone picks a famous person’s name? Aye!
UGA 1999
July 7th, 2011
3:20 pm
Good idea…pick a famous person that you feel you identify with….great idea.
Purple Rain
July 7th, 2011
3:22 pm
Aye! I choose Ron Jeremy!
UGA 1999
July 7th, 2011
3:24 pm
Ron Jeremy??? hahaha a short old fat guy?? Have at it.
SexyCool
July 7th, 2011
3:27 pm
That will be allowed ONLY if you are indeed sexy and in fact, cool.
UGA 1999
July 7th, 2011
3:27 pm
Ron Jeremy….that brings up an interesting questions…
IF A WOMAN HAD TO CHOOSE BETWEEN HAVING SEX WITH A MAN THAT IS GOOD LOOKING BUT HAS NO IDEA WHAT HE IS DOING IN BED…
OR…
A NOT SO ATTRACTIVE MAN THAT KNEW EVERYTHING….
Which do you choose?
Purple Rain
July 7th, 2011
3:28 pm
Sexy Cool, yes I am! lol
UGA, thank you!
SlimNumeroUno
July 7th, 2011
3:28 pm
I guess it has been decided….we will ALL use different monikers using the theme of FAMOUS PEOPLE. So whoever busts in the door in the AM, please shoot the reminder.
BlackMagicWoman-NYC
July 7th, 2011
3:28 pm
PURPLE…you are on a friggin’ roll today!!
BLACKFOOTE…I’m gonna kick your @$$!
Purple Rain
July 7th, 2011
3:30 pm
really don’t get why people like brunch. What’s the benefit of combining break-dancing and lunch?
Purple Rain
July 7th, 2011
3:31 pm
Slim there should be no reminder, that would make it more fun. LOL when someone we know pops in just act like we know them anc that will confuse the heck out of them
Purple Rain
July 7th, 2011
3:32 pm
I’m wondering if sharks are mean because they feel unloved, or do they just have a mean way of sharing their affection with others?
BlackMagicWoman-NYC
July 7th, 2011
3:32 pm
UGA….I think I’d have to go for the unattractive one…but only in complete darkness. That way, I can picture hot pieces of @$$ like; the sexy Vamps & Werewolves on True Blood (Eric & Alcide), Shemar Moore, Ryan Reynolds,etc….
Purple Rain
July 7th, 2011
3:34 pm
It’s a mistake to think you can solve any major problems just with potatoes, Now, potatoes and duct tape and you may have a chance!
Purple Rain
July 7th, 2011
3:34 pm
Speaking of Eric, has he forgotten who he is now and is about to eat Sookie?