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Just like one of the guys

When a single woman suddenly realizes she has an entire collection of guy friends, she probably will wonder, “Why aren’t I dating any of my amazing guy friends?!”

I think being just like one of the guys has it’s perks, but what should a girl do when all she gets invited to are boy’s night out? Once a guy perceives a girl as a homie, one of the guys, could she ever make him see her differently?

Guys do men like women who are cool and non-girly? If these are the types that seem low maintenance, why is it hard to ask them out? Why go for the high maintenance type if being like one of the guys is a positive thing?

by Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

189 comments Add your comment

Leggs

July 5th, 2011
11:42 am

WHAT, PR!!!! Oh my…that is a hoot…Congratulations!

Leggs

July 5th, 2011
11:44 am

“Still don’t know how that happened so quickly” ~ you horny, alpha male jumped her bones and injected her with your super sperm! That’s how that happened!!!

Purple Rain

July 5th, 2011
11:45 am

Yeah, I guess I should be happy. I mean we already had one so what is one more? There is not any alone time with me and Jules now so might as well have another. I thought she was pulling my leg. WTF?

Leggs

July 5th, 2011
11:51 am

I am cracking up. I know this isn’t suppose to be funny, so I apologize.

SexyCool

July 5th, 2011
11:52 am

How’s the hay/straw(?) project going?

Celisea

July 5th, 2011
11:55 am

Morning,

Most people have a diverse bunch in their lives and for good reason. Every person shouldn’t be an “opportunity.” Live and let live. I don’t have a plethora of guy friends but I have a couple of die hards that will go through it with…if need be. Why would I ruin that? No frenemies necessary.

Congrats PR!! How about you sound a bit more enthused please??

SexyCool

July 5th, 2011
11:56 am

Every person shouldn’t be an “opportunity.”

^THIS should be shouted from mountaintops.

Lovely Brown

July 5th, 2011
11:58 am

Congrats PR!! How about you sound a bit more enthused please??

Co-sign

cba

July 5th, 2011
11:59 am

Congrats PR, man what are you feeding your tadpoles :lol:

Kudos to SC on the Peachtree…..I ran alot in my mid-twenties and early thirties, but never ran in the big one.

Into the Light

July 5th, 2011
11:59 am

co-signing Celisea’s 11:55 and SC’s 11:56

Leggs

July 5th, 2011
12:04 pm

I’ll co-sign as well, but I’m concerned about him already complaining about him and Julia not spending a lot of time together.

SexyCool

July 5th, 2011
12:05 pm

I didn’t see it as a complaint. Just an observation about reality.

Celisea

July 5th, 2011
12:09 pm

Welllll….they have SOME time together…obviously :)

SlimNumeroUno

July 5th, 2011
12:09 pm

Purp – Congrats!! I guess all that manly farm work has turned your little soldiers into SuperSperms. You considering the snip snip at all?

Leggs

July 5th, 2011
12:10 pm

I read it with a twinge of complaint.

Purple Rain

July 5th, 2011
12:10 pm

Sexy Cool, the floods did a number on us.
Celisea and Lovelybecause I’m the one who has to comfort her during the emotional and physical toll it puts on my wifes body due to it being high risk. We lost our first child during the second trimester. We tried again and had a healthy Dante, but she was worried the whole pregnancy and plenty of preventive doctor visits. So I’m not going to be overly happy right now..I have to get into mode and be there for my wife and her emotions and her worries. We are going to go for it…again but it is a long road

Celisea

July 5th, 2011
12:10 pm

Oh, and I loooove my guy friends….like brothers…anything on the other side of that is ewwwww…lol

Celisea

July 5th, 2011
12:13 pm

Pray for a safe delivery if it’s the will of God for another child to be born AND for the health (mental and physical) of Jules. We understand the toll it can have on you both. I’m going to wish you both all the best through now until the newest little one makes it.

Celisea

July 5th, 2011
12:13 pm

Now through the delivery of the newest little one…is what I meant

Leggs

July 5th, 2011
12:13 pm

Sorry to hear about all that worrying. Yes sir, you will definitely carry the brunt of it. The emotional and physical toll will be a bear. Bite the bullet and hopefully this pregnancy will not be as bad.

SlimNumeroUno

July 5th, 2011
12:20 pm

Purp – Well you know you always have us to sort of give you a small break from reality, even if it is a laugh here or there. Feel free to vent here when of if it becomes overwhelming. ;-)

Purple Rain

July 5th, 2011
12:53 pm

SexyCool

July 5th, 2011
12:54 pm

One of my gf’s who has been married 21 years has just been told by her husband that he may have a 22 year old son.

Leggs

July 5th, 2011
12:58 pm

Oh no! Dayum, that’s a helluva secret! Wait, when did he find out?

SexyCool

July 5th, 2011
1:00 pm

I don’t know all the details yet. But apparently, he found out recently as well. The mother sent him a letter in the mail.

Leggs

July 5th, 2011
1:02 pm

Dayum. Shame on the mother. Shame on her!!!!

Simple Man...

July 5th, 2011
1:03 pm

Damn…That kinda stuff happens more often than folks wanna admit…I have a friend from High school that has son born in the fall of 1986 to a girl that graduated with us…to thsi day he still does not know…..

SexyCool

July 5th, 2011
1:16 pm

Simple – if he’s a friend, how do you know and he doesn’t know? And…if he is a friend…as opposed to just a former classmate, why haven’t you told him?

kimmie

July 5th, 2011
1:18 pm

Purple Olive – Congrats! And after little Olivette is born, you & Julia be extra careful. Those few months after giving birth are EXTRA fertile! Why do you think it’s so many kids with sisters & brothers close in age? :lol:

But I feel you on the worry. One of my best friends lost her baby at 5 1/2 months back in 2009. She delivered a healthy boy last July, but she & her hubby worried thru out the entire pregnancy. They are thinking about going for another soon.

Simple – You are right, it happens QUITE a bit!

Lovely Brown

July 5th, 2011
1:20 pm

My husband has a brother that he did not know he had until he went to college…..ummm hello, I think I may be your brother WTH! :lol: They get along great now though. Happens more than people think.

kimmie

July 5th, 2011
1:20 pm

SCool – It’s probably not his place to tell, in case he is wrong.

I don’t know! :(

Into the Light

July 5th, 2011
1:21 pm

← munching on popcorn and enjoying today’s episode of As the Blog Turns…

Simple Man...

July 5th, 2011
1:21 pm

SCool…The girl use to live next door to me growing up and she and I have been and continue to be really tight. She went away to college after high school and gave birth in the place whe went to school. Her aunt and uncle adopted the son and have raised him since birth. Now the guy is cool with me…In fact, we are playing in a golf tourney on the 21 and 22nd together, but it has been 25 years….There are alot of lives tied up with this and I don’t see what can be gained from opening that can of worms

Into the Light

July 5th, 2011
1:23 pm

Maybe not now, Simp, but what about 25 years ago???

abc

July 5th, 2011
1:25 pm

There’s only one reason a man will keep so-called platonic company with a woman, and that’s to wait for a chance to hit it.

Now, tell me this: WHY would a man want to keep platonic company with a woman? You don’t have much of anything in common, chances are, simply due to gender differences. He doesn’t want to take you to the ball game, out to dinner, out boating at the lake, nothing, except in the hopes of hitting that booty. Otherwise, he’d be out with other men, people who could do the man thing, not having to temper everything for mixed company.

If you think you have actually platonic male friends, girls, you’re just kidding yourselves. Something tells me that you really know better.

SexyCool

July 5th, 2011
1:25 pm

Wow…that is a drama that just has so many levels.

Into the Light

July 5th, 2011
1:26 pm

Passing you the popcorn bowl, SC…

kimmie

July 5th, 2011
1:29 pm

Simple – Sounds like you are closer to her than you are him. I don’t blame you, I’d stay out of that.

Simple Man...

July 5th, 2011
1:32 pm

ITL, 25 years ago we were all kids…they made a huge mistake, but why was it my place to “run-tell-dat”??? And as the years have gone on, It had become apparent that everything worked as for the best…If there business has not hit the streets after all of these years, I wont be the one to put it there….

SexyCool

July 5th, 2011
1:35 pm

Simple’s position”

My name is Bennett and I ain’t in it.
My name is Fess and I ain’t in that mess.
(lol)

Simple Man...

July 5th, 2011
1:36 pm

Kimmie, right..She is closer but I still conside him a friend. Regardless, This is a case where sleeping dogs will be left alone…

kimmie

July 5th, 2011
1:38 pm

SCool – My name is Wess…..

Simple Man...

July 5th, 2011
1:39 pm

Would any of you have told?

SexyCool

July 5th, 2011
1:41 pm

Sticky situation. I don’t know. Hope I to never find myself in that situation.

Into the Light

July 5th, 2011
1:41 pm

Simple, I understand what you’re saying, and I don’t think it was your place to tell him.

What I wonder, though, is if the person whose place it is to tell refuses to, then does this man go through his life never knowing he has a son?? It sounds like the son grew up in a house where he was loved and wanted by two parents, but I wonder if he wonders about his biological father?

abc

July 5th, 2011
1:43 pm

I’d have told. The man has a right to know of his own children. To withhold the information deprives him of his own family, and likewise for the child, and for what purpose?

Into the Light

July 5th, 2011
1:46 pm

It’s a mess, to be sure. And I wouldn’t want to betray her friendship. But, the man has a right to know that he has a child. I’m not sure how I would handle it…probably would speak with him and tell him he needed to have a serious discussion with her.

kimmie

July 5th, 2011
1:49 pm

Simple – I guess I’ve seen too much Maury. Too many times things can go wrong with paternity. It still could not be your friend’s child. Especially with the way it was handled, I would have considered it a family matter that I had no place in getting involved with. The most I may have done is tried to convince the girl to tell the guy.

Getting up in stuff like that can get folks killed.

The closest situation I’ve known like that involved a guy I dated. He was in the Air Force stationed in Fla and was seeing a lady there. He got stationed overseas, but some of his buddies told him he needed to come back and take a look at his lady. Yep, she was preggers and was not going to tell him, since he didn’t want to get married.

Into the Light

July 5th, 2011
1:53 pm

COMPLETELY OFF TOPIC: Casey Anthony verdict today at 2:15….

Purple Rain

July 5th, 2011
1:54 pm

Let’s flip the topic to “Just one of the girls” as a man. LOL