What about your dating reputation?
It can be hard to pull off a “blind date” these days. Once you get the person’s full name, you can usually do a little recon on them. Whether it is through mutual friends (six degrees of separation feels like .5 degrees in Atlanta sometimes!) – or a quick Internet search, your reputation can easily be tracked.
This is especially true when you are a raging jerk with anger issues, a conceited, narcissistic moron, or my personal favorite married but still looking chump. If you have a laundry list of romantic crimes, eventually it may ruin your chances with someone you actually like.
I used to wonder if the singles who treated people so horribly would ever have to answer for all those dating misadventures. Do they ever think about or care about their dating reputation?
Have you ever done a google search for your name to see if something unfavorable pops up? Do you ever worry about your romantic past haunting your future?
If you had to guess, what kind of dating reputation do you think you have?
Would you ever date someone who had a bad dating reputation?
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203 comments Add your comment
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
8:17 am
Good morning all….hope I don’t end up being the only one up in this camp today.
thewatchdog
July 1st, 2011
8:26 am
See, you won’t even run my comment.
Dave
July 1st, 2011
8:39 am
I have been divorced (I filed both times) twice and am very hesitant and telling someone that. I usually just say that I am divorced and have two children from it. I rarely just openly say I have been divorced twice. Maybe I’m making more out of this than I should, but…..
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
8:42 am
Dave – If you don’t mind me asking, why led to the divorces (both of them)?
Fion
July 1st, 2011
8:42 am
Nah, Slim it’s me you and this Pig Imma B-B-Q Sunday. We gone ride it out!
Lana
July 1st, 2011
8:43 am
I couldn’t care less about what people think about me. I have a few skeletons in my closet and I’m not gonna exactly wait until I get married to jump them. I am what I am. I’m fun, happy and have a lot of friends. I have no problems getting asked out on the weekends and many of them have wanted to go exclusive. So if you want to play the check list game and go 007 with your recon, go to it.
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
8:43 am
thewatchdog – If you had any foul language in your post, then that’s probably why you’re having posting issues
Dave
July 1st, 2011
8:50 am
@slim, the first one, she did whatever she felt like she had to do to get married and then everything just stopped. We went to couceling a year and a half after we got married (she walked out of two different couselors) when they told her things she didn’t want to hear. She just did her own thing, paid no attention to intimacy or together time. She just wanted to be married and felt after that, the race was over.
The second time, we just came to a point in the relationship where we were at to different junctions in life. She was 5 years older than me, her kids were out of the house, I had a 10 and 14 year old, she wanted to travel all the time and I couldn’t because of my commitment to my children, we just had differences that gradually drew us apart. It was a no contest divorce and we are still friends.
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
8:52 am
meant to say WHAT, not Why….
Regarding the topic, folks can google me all day long. It’s not like you’re going to find nekkid pics of me roaming around. Plus, what could really be out on the net regarding folks I’ve dated in the past? As far as skeletons go, don’t have very many of those that I would say i’m embarrassed or ashamed of. Thank Goodness!
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
8:54 am
Dave – Did you date both of your exes for a long period of time before marrying?
Dave
July 1st, 2011
8:57 am
First one I dated a little over a year and the second for almost 5 years
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
9:06 am
I know it’s easy to be outside looking in on someone else’s situation…but with the second marriage taking place 5 years after dating, was your commitment to your kids not an issue with her, PRE-Nuptials?
chink
July 1st, 2011
9:13 am
testing
chink
July 1st, 2011
9:14 am
No skelatons…I wouldn’t want to date a guy with a bad rep….
Dave
July 1st, 2011
9:14 am
It wasn’t an issue because she still had her older kids living with us. at the time we got married, mine were 6 and 11. Hers were 15, 17 and 19. Five years later, hers had moved out of the house. She began traveling a lot on her own with long weekend trips, some longer and I couldn’t go on 80% of them because either my kids were coming to see me or financially, because I was paying child support and didn’t have the extra cash to get airline tickets and travel expenses. All of mine were going to bills and I had a little left over for local stuff. She just wanted to travel a lot.
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
9:21 am
Have you ever done a google search for your name to see if something unfavorable pops up?
Yeppers and the dude was married. Get this, the phone number that he called me from WAS IN HIS WIFE’S NAME!!!!! What a dummy. I patiently waited until he contacted me and boy did I tell him how trifling I thought he was
Morning and happy 4th!!
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
9:24 am
Ut oh, I didn’t read well this morning…I guess I was sitting on the gun for this topic…lol
Yes, I’ve googled myself. Work related stuff mostly. A court date from a ticket I got my dad’s obit and my uncle’s obit
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
9:24 am
Dave – Oh ok…guess I can see that now. Would you get married again?
MsMarriedUp
July 1st, 2011
9:31 am
Funny how all the casanovas are the ones always paired up, while the singles (?) are trying to teach singles how to do what? …stay single?
Nothing means nothing til you got somethin’… and there’s somethin’ out here for everyone – REGARDLESS of this so-called rep. Just takes knowing yourself to love others. Got that from the casanovas… you know…the ones who got someone!
Dave
July 1st, 2011
9:32 am
@slim. At this point, probably not. I kinda have a bad attitude towards the establishment right now. Kinda along the lines of “If you hate to be alone, don’t ever get married” and “Getting married is like deciding that your’ve played with this grenade long enough and you decide to pull the pin.”
Something like that……
Dave
July 1st, 2011
9:35 am
I mean, I date a lot of people and wouldn’t mind having a steady, but something happens for some reason or another, when that ring gets put on that finger. Scares the hell outta me right now, to be perfectly honest.
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
9:48 am
Morning All!
Hey Slim,Celisea,Fion, other visitors! Happy pre-holiday weekend to you all!!!
Well, your past can come back to haunt you. Other than basics, like whether or not one is married or a fugitive, I don’t know about the excessive CSI on folks. How did we get to know people before Google? People want things instantly and don’t want to do their due diligence – really ask questions and observe and spend time and get to know a person these days. As a result, they get what they put out!
People do deserve to be able to make a fresh start and overcome their mistakes, I believe.
RebelDiva
July 1st, 2011
9:56 am
A friend of mine met this guy she thought would be perfect for me. We talked a few times. I decided to google him since she “technically” didn’t know him well.
Imagine my surprise when I found out he was accused of gang raping a woman when he was in the military. Needless to say, we never went out or spoke again.
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
10:02 am
Well Dave, guess you just contributed to the already 97,584,685,410,422 Bitter Men Deficit.
SexyCool
July 1st, 2011
10:05 am
Thanks to social networking, the SIX degrees of separation have shrunken to THREE.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
10:08 am
My posts aren’t posting!
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
10:09 am
Good morning!
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
10:09 am
Guess I’m liked again.
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
10:10 am
Slim – If I were still on the market, that’s what I would be afraid of running across – a bitter man! There are a lot more of those running around than straight up criminals on the run! They come across great at first. But if you take your time and really talk and get to know them, they can’t keep that bitterness hidden for long.
There is really nothing you can do with a person like that. They are constantly waiting for the other show to drop. They can’t enjoy themselves. They are not free and open to love. Unless you are just looking for a quick hookup – I would run from this type of person!
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
10:20 am
My cousin said if she attract another broken, bitter dude she is going to scream. The cable guy tried to talk to her the other day and he is going through a divorce. She has never been married but wants to…so I can see her point of dating a guy still going through a divorce, recently divorced or has sworn off marriage altogether.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
10:23 am
I know this, it’s hard to get a date, but easy to get d…. It’s crazy!
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
10:26 am
Slim – Your cousin sounds like one of my best friends. That’s all she runs into. And see, all you gotta do is talk to them and you find out everything, sometimes the first time you meet them, like the cable guy!!
Dan - Simply...Superior
July 1st, 2011
10:26 am
It’s not about being “bitter” it’s about accepting failure.
Let’s not belabor the point, but there’s some bitter chicks out there too.
Bitter men and women have yet to accept that they did anything wrong – even down to picking the person that hurt them.
Once you accept your own faults, being bitter becomes a waste of time.
MsMarriedUp
July 1st, 2011
10:30 am
…and that past coming to haunt you stuff…PLEASE!!!
If anyone has ever seen GOOD people, sweet beautiful honest people who have never done anyone a bit of harm… babies even…newborn babies…and even many singles who really are good people looking to do right…but end up with someone who hurts them bad…physically, mentally, just all the way around… then please explain this? What, their past life is rolling over into their new life? Is that the explanation for racial divides too… why some can’t never seem to catch a break!?!
BlackMagicWoman-NYC
July 1st, 2011
10:33 am
Happy F’in Friday folks! Now for your morning Funny Flashback……
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F582K7fMDQA
Okay…now for the topic. Slim, I am like your cousin. I must have an “@$$hole magnet” on my forehead. I have met all types. Let’s just say, I’ve been there, done that, bought the tshirt and hated the fit! Now that I have come back home, I am not even interested. I’d rather be alone!
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
10:34 am
Let’s not belabor the point, but there’s some bitter chicks out there too.
Dan – Yeah, lets not belabor it. None of us said there were not any bitter chicks. But we happen to be women, talking about women who are interested in meeting “available in every way” men.
My warning for men would be the same – run away from a bitter chick if you don’t want to deal with a stressful situation. Take the time to talk to women you meet – it won’t be long before the bitterness comes to the surface.
Call it bitterness, refusal to accept failure, not getting over past hurt, whatever – this type of person would not be open and available if you are looking to develop a long-term relationship.
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
10:36 am
Dan – Well Good morning to you too lol Came in busting down the doh without as much as a sip of coffee first.
I know there are bitter women, men, dogs, cats etc…I date guys so my POV would be regarding the bitter men, not bitter women even though they both exist. Also, folks should take an objective view of their specific situations which is why I asked what the issues were in Dave’s two marriages. If I met him and he advised of two failed marriages, that would throw up a red flag to at least find out the culprits
Fion
July 1st, 2011
10:41 am
“there are bitter women, men, dogs, cats etc”
……lawd, lawd what did the Dogs and Cats do to deserve this!!!!!
I’m here to represent the Dog and Cat union, and demand an apology!!!!
Dan - Simply...Superior
July 1st, 2011
10:44 am
@kimmie/slim
I get it, but in my mind the two aren’t unrelated.
chicks (male and female) running around in stinky undies being mad at the world and not themselves give me pause.
Kaiser Swiss-e
July 1st, 2011
10:47 am
“I must have an “@$$hole magnet” on my forehead”
Thanks for the visual, BMW. Didn’t know you got down like that…
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
10:47 am
@Dan ~ it’s a given there are bitter men and women.
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
10:51 am
Okay Dan, whatever. When I was out there looking, I didn’t care who they were mad at, it didn’t have anything to do with me!
Kaiser Swiss-e
July 1st, 2011
10:55 am
What do dogs have to be bitter about? Hell, they can lick their own d@mn ballz — what’s the problem…?
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
11:04 am
Where’s a great spot to go dancing tonight????
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
11:04 am
Yall need to lighten up with taking things to literally…
Swiss – My cat still tries to lick his ballz even though he barely has any…(no offense)
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
11:05 am
Swiss Beatz – What’s going on with you these days, fellow Bulldog? When was that last time you were in Athens, by the way? I want to take the kids up there one day to hang out, hit the bookstore & see my old dorm and grab lunch downtown somewhere. I want to do it before fall semester and the crowds.
Fion
July 1st, 2011
11:05 am
Kaiser, did you take your medication this morning?
SexyCool
July 1st, 2011
11:10 am
It just hit me – kimmie is *officially* a mommie.
Just wow….
Fion
July 1st, 2011
11:10 am
The Lawrence Welk band is doing a BAll Room dancing Gig at the Buckhead Ritz.
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
11:11 am
SCool – Yes I am! Proud mama!
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
11:17 am
The Lawrence Welk band is still living? Wow, that’s great
SexyCool
July 1st, 2011
11:19 am
That is so cool. Nothing like hugs from a mommie.
About to call mine…
SexyCool
July 1st, 2011
11:21 am
Lawrence himself cannot still be alive AND performing. He was old as dirt when I was a little kid.
Fion
July 1st, 2011
11:21 am
@Cleisea, I’m kidding.
Hopefully Leggs saw some humor in it.
Fion
July 1st, 2011
11:23 am
…His Band does still play. Sexy is right Ol’ Lawrence is standing on that
Big Bubble Machine in the sky.
BlackMagicWoman-NYC
July 1st, 2011
11:24 am
KAISER…you need some professional help! LOL
Kimmie…..how does it feel to be an instant mama? And do you plan on adding to your family?
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
11:27 am
SexyC – I think Lawrence died in the what 70s
Fion – Gotcha
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
11:28 am
For me, today ain’t a good day for being mama. The youngin and her smart mouth gonna be the death of her (by my hands)…j/k but I’m just saying. Dang kids this generation…
Fion
July 1st, 2011
11:35 am
…..ah Mom, just give her a Big Ol Hug and tell her I was real Hip and Super Cool prior to being
Super Mom.
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
11:36 am
Fion – One good thing, you can’t stay mad at those little jokers for ever. Just kills me how much they THINK they know but just as green as a cucumber. She’ll be alright. I’ll be alright.
Fion
July 1st, 2011
11:40 am
You tellin me. I thought that my Ol’ man was Crazy and Dumber than dirt when I was 16.
By 21, til this day (God rest his Soul) one of the smartest Men I’ve ever known, point blank, period.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
11:52 am
Haa haa haaa, Fion! As soon as I read your comment, I laughed.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
12:01 pm
I AM FREAKING BORED…..
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
12:08 pm
I think I’ll go to Bonefish to see how many people I can find that look alike!
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
12:15 pm
Ba da bing….flatlined….
Into the Light
July 1st, 2011
12:18 pm
Hey y’all. Happy Friday!
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
12:20 pm
Leggs – I was like that yesterday…..I have a short day today so i’m hoping it doesn’t move at a snails pace
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
12:24 pm
I wonder if Eddie Long will have any smart remarks for the one accuser that was arrested on drug charges
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
12:25 pm
Hadn’t thought about it SlimNU, but I’m going to make this a short day too. Might as well, I have no work and the office is practically empty.
Into the Light
July 1st, 2011
12:27 pm
I’m planning to beat feet out of here ASAP today. Just as soon as my boss leaves….
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
12:27 pm
Yep, he was dumb! Who drives without plates and no license and $1,000 worth of weed. Wait, we are in Atlanta. Quite a few dummies do exactly that.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
12:29 pm
I shouldn’t even have come in. My boss has been gone for 1.5 weeks. But since I took a “me” day Wednesday, saved my time (like I need to do that).
Kaiser Swiss-e
July 1st, 2011
12:30 pm
kimmie — I’m just living the dream… and you?
It’s been a minute since I’ve been back to Athens. Last time I was there was for the Tennessee game in 2008. I used to buy season tickets, but Mrs. Swiss isn’t much of a football fan, so I haven’t renewed them for a few years…
BMW — I would respond, but every time I try my backside is mysteriously pulled toward your forehead…
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
12:30 pm
Leggs, not to mention he’s in Miami close to a holiday weekend when PoPo’s are in full effect for every little thing. I’m praying I make it to the tag office before any 5-0 see’s me today…but best believe, i’m riding around with Herbs in my ride lol
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
12:31 pm
I’m going to Miami for Fashion Week in two weeks. I’m so looking forward to it, but I’ll be riding clean and staying as far away from the po po as possible.
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
12:36 pm
I’m NOT riding around with herbs in my car…..dayum, almost set myself for a sting
Into the Light
July 1st, 2011
12:36 pm
Leggs, have you been for Fashion Week before?
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
12:36 pm
Too funny…
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
12:37 pm
No, never been to Miami.
Into the Light
July 1st, 2011
12:37 pm
LOL@Slim.
I’d hate to see you gettin’ cuffed and stuffed on my way home today.
Into the Light
July 1st, 2011
12:38 pm
Dang…I’m bored. Maybe I’ll start a new Words with Friends game….
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
12:40 pm
ITL – Yeah that would totally suck, plus I’d be in there longer because of the extended holiday. No court sessions will be going on until next week so everybody needs to be safe and level-headed this holiday. lol
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
12:40 pm
What are yall going to do this weekend?
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
12:43 pm
@SlimNU ~ I’m looking for trouble as I post….
Into the Light
July 1st, 2011
12:45 pm
I’m going to relax as much as possible. Probably spend lots of time at the pool, and I’m going to cookout/fireworks on Monday evening.
Willie Dynamite
July 1st, 2011
12:46 pm
Afternoon All,
I see everybody bored up in this camp. Boredom is the Devils playground. Sharpening my horns as we speak. hahaha
Leggs – Prowling tonight are we?
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
12:51 pm
Well I don’t have any real plans…I’m not that hard up for some bbq since I’ve had that the last few weekends. I only really want to catch some fireworks somewhere but not looking forward to the traffic or crowds. The beau said we could probably watch them from the rooftop he knows of.
BlackMagicWoman-NYC
July 1st, 2011
12:56 pm
HAMPTONS…HERE I COME!
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
12:58 pm
BMW – You must be going to the Motor Speedway in Hampton, GEORGIA?
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
1:05 pm
@WillieD ~ yep, just don’t know where I’m going yet.
Knowing BMW, she’s going to hob nob it in The Hamptons.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
1:07 pm
@SlimNu, that’s a perfect place to watch the fireworks. Brings me back to the roof tops in The Bronx. Had lots of fun of there watching all kinds of stuff, but fireworks were nice.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
1:09 pm
@SlimNu ~ you do know BMW is in NYC, right?
Mr_NYC
July 1st, 2011
1:11 pm
Hey folks – watching the fireworks from the rooftop downtown.
Leggs, I’m an ex-NYer. South Bronx near Willis & 138th. Where were you at?
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
1:14 pm
Leggs – Yeah, I know she’s ‘up top’…I was just joking on the Hamptons reference.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
1:17 pm
Never an “ex-NYer”. I’m Gun Hill Road, East 205th Street (not the side of Edenwall Projects, but the other side going toward DeWitt Clinton H.S. (LOLOL).
Ok, SlimNU, thought so.
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
1:18 pm
Fion – By 21, til this day (God rest his Soul) one of the smartest Men I’ve ever known, point blank, period.
Me too – my daddy
Willie Dynamite
July 1st, 2011
1:19 pm
Slim – Me and the Wifey have quite a few free days to burn without the mini-me’s. I think we’ll hit the coast and riiiide. We agreed to treat each other like boyfriend/girlfriend for the next few days. I’m thinking debauchery personally. Footprints on the windows, Sand in the draws, hotel balcony you know all the isht that proper Moms and Dads dont do on the regular. hahaha
Leggs – purring or growling? Kitty or Cougar???
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
1:20 pm
I wish I grew up with a “daddy” and a “grandmother.” Main reason why I work so hard to make sure mine has both in her life!
whitey
July 1st, 2011
1:23 pm
Im gonna be an eletical engineer!
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
1:24 pm
should have spelled “engineer” wrong…
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
1:25 pm
Willie – Make sure you give her that naughty side eye whenever she walks by and give her a good firm palm slap on the booty!
That actually sounds fun to just ride out. The beau and I are hoping this trip pans out towards the end of the month. I am in SUCH a need to getaway.
Willie Dynamite
July 1st, 2011
1:28 pm
yay a repeat voyeuristic Troll
Whitey – what did you dress up as last halloween?
Willie Dynamite
July 1st, 2011
1:38 pm
Slim – I tell ya we act like teenagers sometimes and just do random isht. Sometimes I come home on a Friday and no kids in sight. She takes my cell phone and lap top and tell me we got bout 36hrs to act like whatever. My only response is NO is not in your vocabulary.
Every now and then We like to just ride for some hours together and stop wherever to get a room check out the sights in whatever city and wake up to do it again the next day.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
1:41 pm
http://paid.outbrain.com/network/redir?key=b86ed8dd3a1135000d8134520bbfdcda&rdid=214963357&type=CAD_def_la&in-site=false&pc_id=3383291&req_id=15f97695bf6db62950b8b3e92e67ae6e&agent=blog_JS_rec&recMode=4&reqType=1&wid=1&imgType=0&version=39490&idx=4
WOW!!
SlimNumeroUno
July 1st, 2011
1:42 pm
Willie – I would definitely like to be like that when or if I ever get married. Just ride owt
SexyCool
July 1st, 2011
1:46 pm
I just want to make a proclamation that I will be beating the Kenyans in the Peachtree Road Race on Monday.
.
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.
.
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In.
My.
Dreams.
Willie Dynamite
July 1st, 2011
1:46 pm
Slim – you gotta practice. LOL!!!
Honestly how many days straight you think you and ol boy can go without outside interference (cell phone, lap top, etc) from family and friends just you and him before you get on each other nerves. You gotta go all in. Me and wifey worked our way up to about 4-5 days depending on the locale before I tell her to get the heyal on.
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
1:49 pm
Back from an extended lunch!
BMW – It feels great being an instant mom! They are the best kids anyone could ever wish for. I love kids and have always wanted a bunch of them. And they’ll be the only kids I have unless something happened and I had to raise my goddaughter. Hubby has an older daughter that has 2 babies that she brings over often, so that cures my baby fix! They are wonderful too!
Into the Light
July 1st, 2011
1:50 pm
Whitey – what did you dress up as last halloween?
Why, an eletical engineer, of course!!! LOL
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
1:51 pm
Now, that was a very hearty laugh, SC. Thank you!
Into the Light
July 1st, 2011
1:52 pm
Did y’all see the story about the woman who drowned on Sunday, and they didn’t find her until Tuesday night? Oh, and did I mention she was in a pool with other swimmers, lifeguards, and staff? WTH?????
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
1:52 pm
Parenting is a joyous thing (until they become teenagers)!
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
1:53 pm
@ITL ~ what’s so bad about that story is the boy she hit before she went under. He said he saw her go under the water but didn’t see her resurface. Damn, open your mouth and say something.
Into the Light
July 1st, 2011
1:57 pm
Oh, Leggs, I have not heard that part yet. So, so, sad….
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
1:57 pm
Leggs – I’m trying to do some preemptive work on them before the teen years, like my mom did with us!
Fion
July 1st, 2011
2:01 pm
@ Slim
“I’m NOT riding around with herbs in my car…..dayum, almost set myself for a sting”
Not to worry, from what I read in the Fish Wraper, the best Smoke and Coke are at the
Fulton Co. Jail anyway.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
2:01 pm
@kimmie ~ I did too. It’s the only way to ward off as much waywardness as possible. I told her I wasn’t having it point blank. I’d put foot to ass w/the quickness. Seriously, I’m nice, yet old school. There will be no “grown” child walking around my house!
Willie Dynamite
July 1st, 2011
2:03 pm
kimmie – so you are a Grandma now? Dammit man back to sqaure one on the kimmie fantasy. Details Dynamite details. hahaha
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
2:04 pm
Parenting is a joyous thing (until they become teenagers)!
You ain’t neva lied…lol I was thinking that reading Kimmie’s post. My kid was the cutest lil thing and was just so smart and so apt and had naturally curly hair and baby fuzz on her cheeks and was super cute because she was so tiny and was talking before she turned one and just alllllll that other good stuff.
They turn into something foreign right around the time of puberty…chest knots and a couple of hairs…yep I said it. Danggit now they think their as grown as you and think they’ve mastered life…lol
This is a bit exaggerated but ya’ll can relate.
Fion
July 1st, 2011
2:06 pm
@Leggs
you have to Love your kids enough to be their Parent and not worry about trying to be their Friend.
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
2:08 pm
Right now (these years) my daughter can’t stand me. I must be doing something right. I throw a road block up for every avenue she think she can take…lol Been there done that…and as we commonly say, I have the t-shirts to show for it.
Willie Dynamite
July 1st, 2011
2:15 pm
Parents – we throw around the old School label alot but I was wondering just how effective that is nowadays. Times have changed and the whole Do as I Say mantra obviously doesn’t cut it anymore. Plus as a kid growing up with old School parents didn’t you naturally find ways around it? Yeah you got the Tshirt and the experience but your Old School parents did too and that didn’t stop you. Personally in my youth I found that the kids of the Hardcore old School parents were usually the most naive and gullible.
Just wondering without too deep of a debate for a Friday.
Fion
July 1st, 2011
2:16 pm
One good thing ‘bout working the holiday Friday, you can get in that 2hr lunch with no problem.
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
2:17 pm
Willie – Yes, I’m a sexy mom and grandmama! Hubby has a 21 year old, and an 8 and 10 year old. It’s kids all over the place most weekends.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
2:17 pm
You got that right, Fion. I tell her I’m the parent and I’ll always have your back. I’m not concerned if you don’t like me all the time.
@Celisea ~ I believe my child still likes me, but she has no time for me…just her friends. I’m at that stage of bank, chauffer and chef (or and room and board).
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
2:19 pm
@WillieD ~ I’m old school, but never said “Do as I say!” I told mine early on that I don’t care what she sees her friends doing or saying to their parents, but if she ever, ever, EVER raise her hands up to hit me I will choke her to death and then spend the rest of my life in jail!!!
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
2:21 pm
I believe in giving her a certain amount of freedom to be a teenager because I trust her. When that trust has been broken, then I’ll start playing her with a different deck.
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
2:21 pm
One good thing ‘bout working the holiday Friday, you can get in that 2hr lunch with no problem.
Yeppers….went to gym and no one even knew. I can’t believe we have as many folks working today. Most times nobody is here…a ghost town. Just the way I like it.
Leggs – She likes me when she needs something. Just everything she comes with, if I think it’s more harm than hurt I turn it down. Then she pouts for a day or so. I just igg and go on about my business. She was mad about something Sunday so she didn’t eat. You know I had to ask who’s hurting the most me (being full) or you (ribs touching your back)…lol Tell me they ain’t silly. But we been there so hey, I hang in there until she passes this stage/phase.
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
2:22 pm
I give the kid 16 year old freedom. Even if the intent is not to get into anything that’s harmful, if I have the oversight to see further, not happening.
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
2:26 pm
Willie what you described is the exception rather than the rule as far as Old School not working on New School kids. My parents were very old school. You darn right we found a way to work around it, that’s what kids are supposed to do. I think my parents had just the right dose of strictness and leeway. They did the work up front, like me & Leggs are talking about. We knew what they would and would not tolerate up in that house. We knew the stuff we could work around and the stuff that just was not going to happen. By the time we were teens, it was smooth sailing. They would let us participate in things, like trips away, that the super-strict parents would not let their kids do. My mom would say “I’ve raised you, you know the rules. You mess up, it’s over from here on out.” When you did dare to mess up, my parents made life a living H—!
Kids want and need direction. You are not doing them any favors being their friend and bowing to this “well things have changed” mentality. The more things change the more they are the same. Hubby’s older daughter admitted to me that her daddy was so much of a softie that she knew she could get away with stuff off of him, but that stuff didn’t fly when she stayed with her mama.
I’m old school and hubby is not, so we balance out very well.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
2:27 pm
You know by the way they say “mommy” that all they want is new clothes, money or “can I go….”
I just told myself last night that I didn’t like age 14 and I’m not liking age 16.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
2:29 pm
“I’ve raised you, you know the rules. You mess up, it’s over from here on out”
EXACTLY!!
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
2:31 pm
@kimmie ~ your post is definitely on point!
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
2:31 pm
Leggs Yes, yes..lol
I’m speaking from personal experience…from birth until now. She’s a pretty good kid. I’m not experiencing nothing that shouldn’t come from this phase. Too, knowing how much rope is dependant on the child. Every parent knows their own child and the cloth they’re cut from.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
2:34 pm
Most definitely, Celisea. I have a very good child and I am thankful, but we have good children because we enstilled early in life our expectations of them. How can a child give you respect if you don’t show them any respect and carry yourself as a parent. It’s normal for a some teenage acting out, I realize this. However, a full blown teenage meltdown is not going to happen my watch. I know the cloth I’ve placed on her body (lol).
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
2:36 pm
Leggs – You are doing fine with lil Leggs. Just like my sister did well with my niece – a smart, beautiful young lady. Believe me, lil Leggs won’t admit it, but she has mad respect for you and will have even more when she leaves home.
I’ve heard some adults whose parents let them run wild regret their upbringing. They feel their parents could have helped them make better decisions that would have made life a little easier. As hard as you try, kids are going to make mistakes, that’s a fact. The best you can hope for is that you help minimize the damage.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
2:37 pm
And, when I say I don’t like this stage, I mean I don’t like the “goes in one ear and out the other,” the sloppiness of the room, forgetting garbage day (after 11 years in the house), coming home to dishes in the sink, etc. Attitude just a little off at times, but she knows me well to keep it in check….
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
2:37 pm
Leggs – 2:34…exactly
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
2:38 pm
Leggs – And, when I say I don’t like this stage, I mean I don’t like the “goes in one ear and out the other,” the sloppiness of the room, forgetting garbage day (after 11 years in the house), coming home to dishes in the sink, etc. Attitude just a little off at times, but she knows me well to keep it in check….
Do we have the same kid?? Seriously…lol
Fion
July 1st, 2011
2:39 pm
@Willie D,
IMO Old School is timeless. You have to raise your kids with the ability to discern and think critically, clearly. I’m not saying they will always exercise it, but usually they eventually come around.
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
2:40 pm
I thought about Kym the other day and had to laugh to myself. I don’t know if you can recall her talking about making her son wash dishes in the wee hours of the morning. Well, I didn’t make her wash them at 2:34 a.m. but dangit I got her up and told her…not another time!! She was up at 6:00 a.m. washing dishes. LOLOL, she said I can’t believe you woke me up in the middle of the night…ha!
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
2:41 pm
Thank you, kimmie!
As a matter of fact, she’s on a college tour of the University of Auburn right now. My neighbors were going and asked if she would like to join them. She jumped at the chance to visit the school. Ironically, I was taking her there next weekend.
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
2:41 pm
I’m not saying they will always exercise it, but usually they eventually come around.
Exactly…train up a child in the way he should go….doesn’t mean they won’t be kids but if you root and cultivate, they can’t abandon if they tried. It’s gonna ALWAYS be with them.
Willie Dynamite
July 1st, 2011
2:41 pm
Kimmie – whew, that fantasy rewrite was just too much to ask. I’ll respectfully leave out the Grandma and hubby part and just focus on the Sexy part. Thank you in advance.
Now speaking about your MILF rant or excuse me I was distracted your parenting advice. You are absolutely right. My Mom was Old School as they come. I feared her BUT she’s finding out now after the fact that even with that upbringing I was shall we say a Wolf in sheeps clothing. Nothing against her or how I was raised.
Parents – Don’t get me wrong I’m not a friend to my kid. I’m just asking and reaching out because I have a 14 y/o certified playa playa in the making, 6ft 205 lbs (solid) with dimples, red hair and a killer smile according to some grown azz women with boyish shyness and Nuts to throw you a curve. The force is strong in this one. He is almost the spitting image of my GrandDad personality wise which is a very bad thing. My GrandDad was and is a certified Mack. Anyway, The Dynamite part of me is sooooo proud that he has the Game but the Huxtable side of me is in a battle. Yeah I got a foot for that azz but society bringing automatic weapons and stealth technology to the battle. He’s a good kid with a great head on his shoulders but its still 50/50 on whether he’ll be Dynamite IV (hope not) or Theo Huxtable when the War is said and done.
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
2:42 pm
Thanks Leggs! This is my first go at parenting, but with the environment I grew up in and live among, I’m not totally green. You want to be able to enjoy your kids. They are actually fun to have around. We have a good time. But they know what the expectations are. We make sure we show them the benefits of doing well.
Baby girl’s birthday is tomorrow. She just missed getting straight A’s twice the last school year. She’s helpful around the house and cleans up her room. She’ll be getting that iPod she wants so bad.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
2:46 pm
Exactly, Celisea! That’s old school. Our parents woke us up in the middle of night to finish whatever we didn’t do during the day. Goodness, we were mad as heck, but we turned out just fine. And, you have to let them know you “mean what you say.” So many parents get tripped up by not following through with what they say!!!
I am a neat person and I swear, my child must have morphed into a boy. She is a pig (and it doesn’t bother her). WTH!!! I realize most teenagers have sloppy rooms, but dang, why doesn’t walking over your clothes not bother you??? I don’t throw anything on the floor, never have. Guess she didn’t get the neat freak gene (lol).
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
2:48 pm
@Celisea ~ Proverbs 22:6. I read it every morning. It’s taped to the corner of this computer screen!
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
2:49 pm
Willie – Your son sounds a lot like my little cousin out in Cali. Good looking and smart as a whip, darn near genius. He went thru that “smelling himself” phase. He graduated college last year with a double major, is a 2nd lietenant in the Air Force with a cushy job paying him nice money and is in Officer’s training to be a 1st lietenant.
Just stay on him & don’t let up!
Fion
July 1st, 2011
2:50 pm
@Willie
Then it is discretion and moderation the Jedi must learn. Example:
the Lion is the King of the Jungle. Although the Lion could kill for Sport It does not. It only feeds for Preservation of the Pride.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
2:50 pm
Dang, I like the way you said all of that WillieD.
Half the battle is knowing your child. Continue watching. When a shfit occurs you’ll easily see it. But glad you’re paying close attention.
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
2:51 pm
Yeah you got the Tshirt and the experience but your Old School parents did too and that didn’t stop you. Personally in my youth I found that the kids of the Hardcore old School parents were usually the most naive and gullible
Honestly, AND NOT SOUNDING RIGHTEOUS….it did. If some of the things my mom and dad hadn’t been there, I probably would have done A WHOLE LOT MORE. I was out there among many that fell prey but there was ALWAYS something nagging in my ear when I wanted to go as far as those around me but somehow couldn’t. I think for me, I was exposed enough to know the streets, how to survive without falling prey to so much stuff. I don’t think it could have been any worse with my kid’s dad. He did and tried everything. Most times, I was on the sidelines. Too scared to induldge with him because of that nagging thing my parents instilled. I was the last of eight and honestly I missed the hardcore stuff but my comparison to this day and age, my rearing far outweighs what I see now. My sibs say I got away with murder.
For raising kids now, I lay it out there. The dos and don’ts and the consequences. I will not follow my kid around but I tell her here’s what happens if you take this road and here’s what happen if you’re hardheaded. One thing I can say for those old folks, if you made your bed hard, you laid in it. No better teacher if you wouldn’t listen as you was being told/taught. I think most parents try to shield or cover or hid. If a kid has in their mind they’re going to be disobedient and rebellious it should be crystal clear, here’s what your outcome will be along with that. I’ve already told my kid, she’s in the phase of making choices. The right one and she can go far, the wrong one, she’s going to walk that walk…and learn. It may be the long walk home but if she chooses, so be it. I’ll be there for her but I won’t move not one inch of lessons she’ll get if she result to being hardheaded.
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
2:52 pm
Willie – YOU were a wolf in sheeps clothes?!! I could write a book on it! I told my mom years later some of the stuff I used to sneak and do, it blew her out of the water! But thinking back, it’s all real mild compared to the stuff some of these kids do now right out in the open!
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
2:54 pm
Continue watching. When a shfit occurs you’ll easily see it.
Exactly…I pay attention to EVERYTHING.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
2:55 pm
@kimmie ~ you are doing an excellent job in that you treat them as though they came from you. They feel the love, the needed discipline, the structure and more importantly the respect you give them for their “space.” It all meshes together.
Hold your ears when the squeals of delight start once she opens her gift.
@Celisea ~ you too are doing a bang up job. All the mommies on this blog are doing a wonderful job.
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
2:58 pm
A friend of ours was upset because the their teenage daughter was seeing some dude almost 30. He was coming up to the school and picking her up.
I just listened to them wringing their hands, talking about they didn’t know what to do. See my mom would have shown up to the school. Gorilla warfare!
Fion
July 1st, 2011
2:58 pm
We’ve all been there. You have to give you kid tools and skills to fight Peer Pressure, and all the other ills of the teen social Hierarchy.
You can learn a lot by simply talking to your kid. Listen, they will tell you. I have never met a child that does not like attention.
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
2:59 pm
Thanks Leggs!
Fion
July 1st, 2011
3:00 pm
meant give your kids…….
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
3:00 pm
“I was out there among many that fell prey but there was ALWAYS something nagging in my ear when I wanted to go as far as those around me but somehow couldn’t.”
That’s the key. I was afraid of my mother and that nagging/pulling of my sensibilities stopped me in my tracks all the time. Sure, I got in trouble but mostly from having a smart azzz mouth. I didn’t do too much crazy stuff. I think the craziest thing I did was going out the window in my Junior Achievement class to go meet with my boyfriend on the rooftop. Whew. Lame compared to today’s standards, I know. And, I appreciate my lameness.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
3:05 pm
@kimmie ~ with that example you just gave, no way would the words “I don’t what to do” come out of my mouth!
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
3:06 pm
Just visualizing my 16 with a 30 year old made me forget to type the word “know”….
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
3:08 pm
Leggs – Girl, I was hot just listening to it all!!!
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
3:13 pm
Fellas, plug your ears. Ladies, do you insist your daughter tell you every month when her cycle comes on???
Willie Dynamite
July 1st, 2011
3:13 pm
Fion – discussion right before school ended.
Dynamite -How you looking on cash for lunch?
WD IV – I got it I’m good.
Dynamite – what you mean you good? i know you broke and I know ya mama aint giving you nothing.
WD IV – Dad listen straight up, i got bout 4 that like me and wanna buy me lunch everyday. They easy and i don’t want it cause they giving it to me.
Dynamite – (In my dad voice) Giving you what?
WD IV – Lunch man, Lunch man thats all, anyway keep up. I got 2 girls in my Honors classes that are gonna be all that in a few years I’m just waiting. They both like me and I sit with them most of the time.
Dynamite – First of all i’m not man and change ya tone of voice. What about the other times?
WD IV – Well the lunch lady always say she like my smile so i never go hungry.
Dynamite – what?
WD IV – she chonky and got a lil mustache but I aint neva hungry.
thats what I’m dealing with
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
3:15 pm
Leggs – Thanks…and your right…and sounds like we’re doing the same things…great job to you too!
You know, I’m thinking about it, my mom was old school but dangit she wasn’t an angel. Not from what she tells me. Honestly, I can appreciate that. It lets me know the things I desired as an adolescent and what my kid desires and want, aren’t strange or anything new. I think that’s key. Let the kids know (I mean you ain’t gotta give out explicit details) but let them know hey what you’re thinking or feeling ain’t strange. It comes with age and life. When you make them feel like what they’re experiencing is strange and you can’t relate will only isolate them. Let ‘em know, if jonesing for a girl, hey I did too…at your age. They’re hot in the panties, hey been there too…still do (don’t judge me). But as I’ve said before, there comes a shift and if somebody has to practice decorum it’s got to be the adult. Both can’t still be all silly acting and falling for any ole thing….let them do that, part of youth is being entitled to mistakes.
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
3:19 pm
Too, I think part of the problem is so many ain’t telling. Tell them and let them decide if they want to follow. They’ll have a choice. But if you don’t say nothing or tell them anything, how else will they know? How can they do or be different from beasts? That’s allll I see now. But it’s because so many have abandoned lessons and rules and upbringing. Most of these kids are raising themselves.
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
3:21 pm
Fellas, plug your ears. Ladies, do you insist your daughter tell you every month when her cycle comes on???
I know when it should happen. We are back to back or either the same week. When it don’t I ask (even though I already know) when was your last cycle….to let her know I’m on it.
BlackMagicWoman-NYC
July 1st, 2011
3:21 pm
Celisea…I am with you on the make your own decisions thing when it comes to kids. I was always told, “I raised you with God given common sense and and the knowledge of right and wrong. You can make your own choices. But you will deal with what comes after on your own”. When I got the sex talk (I guess they felt as I got older and started dating that I needed a re-up) I was told that if I choose to have sex with a boy, not only would I have a rep for being a Fast @$$ h0, but that i could get the clap from the nasty @$$ boys who would do anything in a skirt with a pulse and that i could get pregnant. And that would be the end of my choir, cheerleading, dance, acting and all my free time to enjoy being a teen. That was enough to make me wear a chastity belt, metaphoricly speaking. Being strict would have only made me want to rebel. With rebillion, comes stupidity. With stupitidy brings disaster.
KIMMIE…if my parents found that some old perv was dating me when I was in high school, my mother would have ended up on Snapped. And my dad would get life for killing him!
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
3:24 pm
@BMW ~ you know I think of you a lot when it comes to “freedom” and the things I let mine do!!
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
3:24 pm
@BMW ~ I remember one time I was going to call you to ask you something, but I already knew what your answer was so I hung up (LOLOLOL)!
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
3:26 pm
“…my mother would have ended up on Snapped. And my dad would get life for killing him!”
Now, that’s an appropriate response. Not sitting in someone’s home wringing your hands WONDERING what to do!
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
3:29 pm
Off topic – hip hip hooray! Nike re-signed MVick to endorse their product! I’m glad!
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
3:31 pm
Leggs – My mom always knew with me because I would be sick with killer cramps.
Imma remember that though, when baby girl starts.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
3:34 pm
Yes indeed, kimmie. Please do. We parents do it to keep track, but you can let her know at most of her doctor visits they always ask when was her last cycle.
You know darn well, they won’t remember the date. I have a calender and I put a “P” in the right hand corner. Yes, ma’am I sure do!
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
3:35 pm
And that would be the end of my choir, cheerleading, dance, acting and all my free time to enjoy being a teen.
BMW – My mom painted this dismal picture for me too, what my life would look like if I got preggers as a teen. She also, one day out of the blue, took me & my 2 younger brothers out of the front door. She said “you see that curb out there, where the trash can is? There will be NO PAMPER BOXES sitting there!!”
Willie Dynamite
July 1st, 2011
3:36 pm
I was listening to Ricky Smiley the other morning (dont ask me why). anyway they had a comic on and they asked him what does he tell his daughter about Sex.
He said i’m Old School, i raise my kids traditional style azz whuppings and do all the scare tactics but I tell her “after you have sex with that 2nd dude you belong to the game so choose wisely”.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
3:38 pm
“There will be NO PAMPER BOXES sitting there!!” – Now, that’s original. I have to use that. I also use Maury as a deterrent & 16 and Pregnant!
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
3:39 pm
Leggs it was PRICELESS!! LOL!!!
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
3:41 pm
Yes indeed, PRICELESS. I should have said that!
Fion
July 1st, 2011
3:45 pm
@ Willie D
Cool. You on it. Let him know.Just because you can, doesn’t always mean that you should.
That’s how I raised mine.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
3:46 pm
WillieD’s son isn’t doing anything at the moment. His eyes are on the other 2 and their maturity/blooming onions in a few years, then he’ll pounce!
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
3:47 pm
Exactly BMW – I was told that if I choose to have sex with a boy, not only would I have a rep for being a Fast @$$ h0, but that i could get the clap from the nasty @$$ boys who would do anything in a skirt with a pulse and that i could get pregnant. And that would be the end of my choir, cheerleading, dance, acting and all my free time to enjoy being a teen. That was enough to make me wear a chastity belt, metaphoricly speaking
Thing too, back in my day if you got preggers in school, you couldn’t participate in NOTHING. Sit on the sidelines or take it to the house. No extracirricular activities whatsoever. You’re right too in talking about sooo many times (not so many dudes) I wanted to “go there” but I was like ut uh, you ain’t getting me pregnant. That’s all you could envision…having to tell your mama you was pregnant. Not to mention having to tell dad. So by the time all that played in your head you made him take his hand back. I did a LOT of kissing and halfway smootched and sat in my boyfiend’s lap (with his deep dimples and 6 ft tall self) EVERYDAY. My homeroom teacher would say, girl if you’re mama saw that she’d beat your back….she was right…lol My mama was known around those parts as eight of us went to that school. But that’s as far as it went. I can’t really recall either too much pressure from him. He asked I said no and that was it. I did get into full throttle of getting felt up and done up and twisted up until the kid’s father….in which I was grown. No grown folks stuff though did I fully broach while in high school.
Fion
July 1st, 2011
3:49 pm
Right, right!!! As one should. and so on and so forth!!!!
Willie Dynamite
July 1st, 2011
3:50 pm
Just being Devils advocate – i really am with all yall BUT
Remember we have kids and part of society now that thinks O -R -A -L is not sex. No pampers boxes on the curb but lil Suzy Q got her knees scuffed up on the bus. IJS.
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
3:51 pm
I feel bad for WillieD’s son, he ain’t gonna be able to move or breathe on his on in a year or so…these girls are fast and bring it like grown women. I have to tell my kid, you don’t chase boys. Do you, be you and they’ll come to you. My nephew, right now, has this cutie he likes but everytimes he tries to make a go of it, she becomes smothering. Which only makes him back away. My sister said she’s gonna tell to put the brakes on and she’ll get what she’s wanting for…him to like her or at least show her how much he likes her in return.
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
3:53 pm
I’m soooooo happy for Michael Vick
BlackMagicWoman-NYC
July 1st, 2011
3:53 pm
LEGGS…Oh I want to know what you were going to ask me!
Girl, 16 and Pregnant is my show. Hell I haven’t been 16 for a minute..but that is my birth control!
KIMMIE…your mother was right on the money for that pampers joint!
Kudos to mami!!!!
My grandfather (RIP) one day we were sitting in the den and he goes, “I bet you can’t hold this quarter between your knees”. And you know me, I LOVE a challenge! So I go get the quarter and sat down by him and held it between my knees. And to be a show off…I walked back over to my chair with the quarter still between my knees. Then I say, “look, I can even walk with it, now what”? He goes…”that’s good Tink, now as long as you hold the quarter betwwen your knees, you won’t get pregnant!”! That was priceless! So after I laugh myself into mini asthma attack…I said, “touche pop…and I’m keeping your quarter”!
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
3:54 pm
Willie – All I can do is talk to them about diseases. Most teenagers don’t even know how to keep themselves clean, use proper hygiene. That’s one of those decisions that if they choose to make, they have to deal with the consequences. That’s one of those things as a kid you’d rather your parents did not find out you were doing.
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
3:55 pm
I know, WillieD! Great point. I talk to mine about that as well. In plain English I tell her, you put nobody’s d….in your mouth! Her best friend’s father was telling a boy asked his daughter to show him her “like” for him by doing that. I asked mine what would she say if a boy asked her that. She said “I would tell him guess I don’t like you after all.” I told her great answer. Sure, she can be saying this because this is what I want to hear, but I have to respect and take her at her word until I see differently. Like I said earlier, I know the cloth she walks with!
Fion
July 1st, 2011
3:58 pm
“Peace”
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
3:58 pm
@BMW ~ I don’t even know what the question was at this moment. When I’ll think of it again, I’ll most definitely will let you know.
kimmie
July 1st, 2011
3:59 pm
I out folks!
Have a safe and fabulous 4th weekend!!!
Leggs
July 1st, 2011
3:59 pm
I’m out…everyone please be smart, careful and safe! Have a good 4th of July!
Peace!
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
4:00 pm
You know I’m crazy, we got the greenlight at 3:00. I got work though. Happy 4th to all!!
Willie Dynamite
July 1st, 2011
4:04 pm
somebody catch BMW up. Tink aka lil Tink Tink is off the chain now. hahaha
Celisea – yo fast azz. I loved good girls like you. 2nd base by dark then move on to the other neighborhood good girl. You caught a break because if i was round then, 2nd base in 10th grade meant I knew ya Old School Daddy and Momma’s work and bible study schedule. By 11th grade yo azz would be a real good girl. j/k j/k
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
4:16 pm
WillieD – LOLOL…that was funny. That’s how most of you wolves approached us good girls. Always showing their fangs. If somma those wolves would have retracted and wasn’t so dang obvious…just maybe. A dude bringing it too strong always scared the bejesus out of me and sent me arunning…lol Oh and btw, we was at bible study with moms…she know bout them wolves.
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
4:16 pm
That was back then though.
BlackMagicWoman-NYC
July 1st, 2011
4:20 pm
Willie…my nickname has been Tinkerbell since I was a toddler. It came from my first ballet recital. So that is why he called me Tink for short.
Willie Dynamite
July 1st, 2011
4:30 pm
Celisea – I learned real early to smile without the fangs (wink wink). Plus I knew Moms and you were at bible study cause I was there. She liked me and you did too cause i was a good guy.
BMW – Tinkerbell grew up with a fat azz and a razor under ya tongue hunh. hahaha
Willie Dynamite
July 1st, 2011
4:35 pm
BMW – I sincurly apologize. I know you take exception to anyone mentioning your fat azz I mean your full grown donk I mean your well proportioned voluptious juicy I mean you back side. I didn’t mean it that way honestly. I think you as an independent, smart and brilliant woman was raised just great and I appreciate the benefit to society that you have exhibited. Hows that?
BlackMagicWoman-NYC
July 1st, 2011
4:38 pm
Willie….I am going to kick your @$$!
Celisea
July 1st, 2011
4:40 pm
WillieD – Yeaaah but for all you dude that wouldn’t sport your fang and feign your good boy, my daddy and brothers was always ready and guarded…they had fangs too. Fangs to fend off and those same fangs for prey. We had to march and parade our boyfriends in front of them. By the time the message got across, most backed away. Yeah but I know. I tell my kid, don’t you listen. They get you away from under your mama and you’ll see the real side…mmm hmmm. I knowssss
Willie Dynamite
July 1st, 2011
4:51 pm
BMW – then what? You still smiling and if I didn’t have this ring it would be round 2. hahaha j/k What your plan in the Hamptons? it’s gonna be some talk. man did you see that *#@*& in the tutu and devil costume? She was something else. Bruh bruh did you know Tyrone ended up in the hospistal cause he tried to grip that a** but ol boy Thurston bit it and took some pics?
Celisea – yeah I know, I’m just being devils advocate remember. I really was a good guy and too shy to approach girls until I was bout 22.