Fighting unfairly a red flag?
In the midst of a heated argument, my friend “Sara” was taken aback when her boyfriend said something really hurtful. Not only was it insulting, he ended it by calling her a name – not the sweet kind – the “C” kind.
She is pretty shook up by it for a couple of reasons: This was their first big relationship fight; he didn’t seem that remorseful; she wonders if these below the belt verbal jabs are a sign of something deeper. How would you handle this?
Have you ever said something hurtful to the person you are dating or married to? Do you think there are certain lines you just should not cross when you are having a disagreement?
Has someone ever gone too far and said something awful to you? How can you tell when it is verbal abuse and when it is just “fighting unfairly” in an argument?
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To the Left
June 30th, 2011
6:14 am
GM!
When that happened to me, he said by definition ‘no fight is ever fair”. It took me a little while, but I sent that arse packing. It’s a form of abuse that no one should tolerate.
Exiled!
June 30th, 2011
8:07 am
GM!
What’s the ‘C’ word?
sorry uall,linguistically challenged here!
Simple Man...
June 30th, 2011
8:11 am
Morning folks….This is simple….If you can not maintain respect for your partner when you are pissed, then yoo DO NOT have rescpect for them at anytime….
Bishop Eddie Longs Red Pantys
June 30th, 2011
8:15 am
The c word is C&nt
Fion
June 30th, 2011
8:18 am
“What’s the ‘C’ word?”
Maybe he called her a Chipmunk.
Lucinda
June 30th, 2011
8:19 am
How somebody fights says a lot about them as a person. We all get upset, we all say things we may regret later — but calling somebody a C reveals underlying character. She has learned something important about him.
My ex used to say things like “you control what you believe, so it doesn’t matter what I say.” To some extent, yes, but if the person who is supposed to have your back says ugly stuff, that, once again, says something about their character. There is a fine line between being upset and emotional, and being abusive. I wish I had known that then. Now I have a PERMANENT Restraining Order against him. Think about the evidence needed to get that from a judge.
So, listen carefully please. What happens in arguments tells you about that person’s character, and character drives everything.
Now I have a great new man and it is amazing how much brighter life is.
Getting off the podium now.
Lucinda
June 30th, 2011
8:21 am
p.s. I know the regulars here are a tough group to crack, so I don’t often post, but I’m hoping somebody recognizes a person of poor character and gets out of the situation before it turns truly ugly.
I am the angry boyfriend
June 30th, 2011
8:22 am
I called her that because that what she was being….If you have a problem, have her correct her behavior!
Exiled!
June 30th, 2011
8:24 am
Ha!
Simple Man..
June 30th, 2011
8:25 am
Lucinda, teh regulars here are not nearly as tough as they pretend to be!!
Bishop Eddie Longs Red Panties
June 30th, 2011
8:30 am
Enter your comments here
Sweet Pea
June 30th, 2011
8:47 am
Good Morning!
Taking cheap shots at a person by hurling insults that are hurtful only reveals the true character of that person, shows he/she has no respect for you, and it reveals their own insecurities in my opinion. If you’ve shared things that were hurtful in your past with a person who takes the opportunity to insult you in an argument by reflecting back on those things……then certainly it is not only a red flag but a cue to decide whether the relationship is right for you especially if it is verbal abuse.
Fion
June 30th, 2011
9:00 am
Aye man, Conflict Resolution is tricky. Some folk are skilled at it and have skills to reach positive outcomes.
Others are not skilled and have no Conflict Resolution skills at all.
To prevent being caught off guard, pay attention to how Folk handled, resolved prior relationship conflicts and Life battles.
Listen and learn. Life struggles don’t build character, they reveal it. Let the facts speak to you. They are who they are.
What you say + What you do = Who you are.
DeeDeBee
June 30th, 2011
9:04 am
Lucinda you are correct. Character drives everything. January 15, 1990 my husband (now several years divorced) called me the B word. It hurt me to my very soul. So please be careful and loving when you “fight”. IT IS POSSIBLE!!
Lucinda
June 30th, 2011
9:04 am
Simple Man mebbe.
What you do when nobody could ever find out about it is the true measure of your character.
Celisea™
June 30th, 2011
9:05 am
Morning,
While I agree with the masses (so far), I’ll be the first to admit I’ve done. Is it right to do? No. But I have been irked, provoked or at the height of my anger and went there….no holds barred. While it’s no excuse, I was younger and less in control of emotions and feelings and had a whole lot to learn….mainly about myself.
I’m older and still believe what I believe about tolerance and compromise, etc. I just think though there’s a much better and calmer to do and say and accomplish what you should.
I find it hard to believe though that EVERYBODY so far have never ever spoken a word out of terms or been provoked beyond the point of return. I gather most was born say around 30/35 years of age?? Just saying…not a jab at anyone.
SexyCool
June 30th, 2011
9:06 am
Lucinda…we’re really just a bunch of big softies. (lol)
SexyCool
June 30th, 2011
9:07 am
And on another note….
For some reason, I just feel like second lining this morning. (lol)
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
9:09 am
Fighting with words are just as harmful as getting pumelled with hands. Strangist thing it can be a man being abused by a woman. Women take the brunt of abuse, if you are abused in any kind of way get out and start with a new life it aint worth your precious heart.
Good Morning: The Real Black/Blackfoote
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
9:10 am
Good morning and happy Thankful Thursday – Like to start off by saying i’m thankful for my blogsville fam that helps me skate through my days and give me some crazy azz stuff to laugh at when I really need it. You guys definitely keep me entertained for the most part
On-topic: It’s one thing to fight, argue, debate or what not while in a relationship because no two folks will ALWAYS agree. But to call your partner out of their name just to be hurtful is absurd. Once the argument is over and the anger has subsided, the effect of those hurtful words still remain. I would question how a person REALLY felt about me if they felt the need to speak to me in that way.
LeeH1
June 30th, 2011
9:13 am
People who have to win arguments, even if it means losing the relationship war, are people with disorganized thinking. They can’t keep their eye on the goal, because they have to win at any price, even if it means hurting the people they love in order to score a point.
When a woman escalates an argument, or is unfair in her dealing with me, I run away as fast as possible. If they can’t fight fairly, then they also haven’t been trained to deal fairly with others. Usually, you can look at the parents and see the cause.
It is not only a red flag, it is a sign to put up a white one and to surrender the relationship.
whitey
June 30th, 2011
9:19 am
Im gonna be an eletical engineer!
CDW
June 30th, 2011
9:20 am
How you fight is often more important to the relationship than how you conduct yourself when everything is fine. Fighting dirty is just that – dirty. My husband used to aim as low as possible, until we had a blow out that didn’t need to happen: he stated his complaint, I said “you are right – I apologize” and he went on from there to make all sorts of attacks on my character.
He admited afterwards that he was used to fighting dirty, fighting to wound. I pointed out that he went from being right with an apology to being a JA and groveling for forgiveness, so maybe that method wasn’t going to work anymore.
As for the Diva’s friend, assuming the BF isn’t a nasty JA overall, just a mean fighter, she might consider having the conversation with him (NOT in the heat of battle) establishing ground rules for fighting. Those rules might include a cooling off period, no name calling, stick to the point of the arguement, do not instigate character or personal attacks, no threats (such as threaten to leave). She might point out that if he wouldn’t hit her physically, he shouldn’t do so emotionally, either.
Kim
June 30th, 2011
9:21 am
Having a disagreement about a specific topic means the argument should be about that issue. When someone starts being insulting, rude, and disrespectful and is off topic that is a clear flag that they lack communication skills. What people often forget is that after the argument is over the nasty things said are NEVER forgotten especially if they had nothing to do with the argument at all. You can’t take those nasty words back long after the argument is over.
MsMarriedUp
June 30th, 2011
9:25 am
That last part @Celisea™ wrote “I find it hard to believe…” is on point. True, I’ve been married up 2xs and have never been ’single’ which the one thing I’ve picked up on is every relationship has these worthy of walking away from moments. (&I mean SERIOUSLY) worthy of walking away moments!!! So, you really have to size up more than what really hurts your feelings because if this is the ’sole’ yardstick used to determine people or things, and grant it… I find calling someone a c– over the line…but this alone is just not enough information to say it’s worth walking away from.
The funny thing is, people say and do hurtful stuff all day long on these jobs… I mean all day long taking jabs at each other, and we hang in there cause we need the money. But really!?! We can hang in there and try to work things out for the man, but not with our mate!?! Quiet as it’s kept, it’s all kinds of money-making potential in two making it work vs. one.
Exiled!
June 30th, 2011
9:25 am
Hey softies,give me an example(s) of fighting dirty…please.
Somebody!
there is no such thing as a fair fight..otherwise it’s not a fight.
Amia
June 30th, 2011
9:27 am
When a person gets angry you tend say things that having been festering inside you for a long time and they come out in a hurtful way. That’s the problem…he is disrespectful and I wouldn’t have another word to say to him.
Bearded Clam Hunter
June 30th, 2011
9:28 am
“Think about the evidence needed to get that from a judge.
Yes but women get restraining orders all the time as a tool of revenge. (I am not saying you did, but I’m saying in general)
“So, listen carefully please. What happens in arguments tells you about that person’s character, and character drives everything.”
No, I somewhat disagree.
Sometimes, and I speak from experience, one person will ABSOLUTELY FVCKING REFUSE TO STOP aggravating & harassing the other in an argument, then will bitch and complain when the other person reacts in an “undesirable” or very upset fashion.
This can easily happen to people who would never, ever go off the deep end in any other part of their life. Harassing the hell out of someone until they break and then calling them “abusive” or “out of control” does not an argument make.
You can’t have it both ways. But again, I don’t know your situation, not saying you did, just a friendly reminder of the lack of both sides of the story that exists sometimes.
Bit-O-Hunny
June 30th, 2011
9:32 am
I can admit that I cut deep in the heat of an argument. Only b/c I’ve been cut myself. I’m not a confrontational person and am usually upbeat but when I get there….please be advised…it ain’t nice and certainly not fair.
Celisea™
June 30th, 2011
9:38 am
MsMarriedUp – I agree
I’m far beyond even getting to the point of being irked and spouting things that are harmful. But where I was going is that I’ve been provoked and pushed to that point. The point of saying what I REALLY feel and think…not so much name calling. Things I’ve held back to spare someone’s feeling but they’re actions didn’t spare mine. Giving out brutal honesty. I say it all the time, never been one for tolerating too much but I have cared so much so that I’ve tipped around an issue. What I learned was getting things out when it’s time to talk about them, not when you’re angry and handing remarks or insults (be it the truth) in a heated moment. It NEVER comes out right nor is it received at all or as well as could have been had it been spoken at the right time. Those are things that I as a person had to learn to do…not waiting, not holding back when it’s needed, etc.
Simple Man..
June 30th, 2011
9:39 am
I am Proud to say that while I have been in some SUPER HEATED arguments, I have never resulted in calling a person I was involved with a B**ch, or a C**T or anything of a sort…..I was rasied by strong and beautiful women and because of such I don’t think I could bring myself to hurl that kind of insult at anyone I have / had feelings for…
Celisea™
June 30th, 2011
9:40 am
And I’ve had the same returned…in a heated moment, brutal honesty. Outside of the kid’s father (cause honestly he don’t count…don’t judge me), I can’t recall name calling and things of that sort.
Lovely Brown
June 30th, 2011
9:50 am
Enter your comments here
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
9:54 am
Good morning!
Has anybody defined the C word yet. If not, the only race I know that really uses that word are Spanish/Caucasian people. Of course, I may be wrong, but haven’t really heard of many black men calling their SO’s that.
I feel that when arguing, the level of respect you have for that person SHOULD curtail certain derogatory things a person would say. Nothing wrong with arguing. But, when you get “gutter” on the one you supposedly love, I have a problem with that. The love and respect you have for a person should automatically FILTER the level you’d take the argument to. And, when that isn’t done, I will have to seriously question if I will continue in the relationship. Words hurt and most words are said to injure. However, you may just be sketching the outline of the demise of the relationship. Arguing doesn’t mean disrespecting your partner with hurtful, angry words just because you’re angry. There’s an art to arguing and respect for one another should be at its foundation.
Lovely Brown
June 30th, 2011
9:59 am
I hate when that happens!
Good Morning all….today is my Friday at work and I am so happy!
On topic- I admit me and my husband have fought unfairly. He has said some things to me and I to him that would be a dealbreaker for some folk. I remember when we were taking marriage counseling before we got married….the couple, our former pastor and his wife said they never fought. We couldn’t wait to get out there because we said somebody is lying or one/ both of them is ticking time bomb waiting to explode!
You are gonna fight in a realtionship, you have two indivduals that are trying to compromise, everyone is not good at that. You have to decide what level of fight you can take IMO.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
9:59 am
Leggs & Celisea:
Thing I learned, a person wont argue by them self. I know it made them more inflamed when I gave them nothing to feed off of. After a little cooling time, I would ask are you ready to talk or continue running up your blood pressure. Some arguements are healthy in a relation, others should exit quickly.
Exiled!
June 30th, 2011
10:04 am
Lovely B!
U so right. I’ve never called my wife the ‘B’ word coz she does Not have,even remotely,those qualities. But there are some characteristics if hers that I don’t like but tolerate because I luv her.
Now when we fight,Yes,I will call her on those qualities,with examples.
That’s fighting fair,I think.
@Leggs..what is the C word. U know I ain’t Spanish nor Caucasian. Lol
Lovely Brown
June 30th, 2011
10:05 am
But where I was going is that I’ve been provoked and pushed to that point. The point of saying what I REALLY feel and think…not so much name calling. Things I’ve held back to spare someone’s feelings but they’re actions didn’t spare mine- Celisea
Been there before myself….it was ugly.
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
10:05 am
The “C” word sounds like blunt but without the BL
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
10:08 am
@Blackfoote ~ good for you. I know it’s hard to walk away from an argument. I have tried on a few occasions to no avail. However, what he called me and how he said will forever ring in my ears. And, when I thought things have calmed down and asked him again if he truthfully felt that way and received the answer of Yes, I knew it was time to go!
To an extent, arguing is healthy to any relationship. But, come on folks, this is the person you’re sleeping with, perhaps even a parent with. Watch what you say and how you say it!
CoolShadow
June 30th, 2011
10:08 am
If someone’s fighting unfairly with me (taking info that’s confidential or sensitive to me and throwing back in my face during an argument), my next move is to evaluate whether it’s an isolated event or start of a trend. If they immediately apologize, I’m more likely to forgive and move on. But if it’s their strategy I’m retreating from opening up, which is probably the beginning of the end.
Exiled!
June 30th, 2011
10:13 am
I didnt know WD is caucasian/Spanish
Robert
June 30th, 2011
10:13 am
I guess I’m in the minority. My wife and I have never had a fight in 19 years of marriage. Nothing even close to a knockdown argument. Inside or outside the relationship, I’m the type of guy who would never say anything to anyone that would hurt a person’s feelings or humiliate them. When you come right down to it, calling someone else an ugly name is simply immature, and I believe adults to it because of their own insecurities.
Argument resolves nothing, and has the result of hardening rather than converting the stance of the other party. Stop arguing and saying hurtful things to each other and get to the bottom of what’s truly bothering you.
Celisea™
June 30th, 2011
10:14 am
Blackfoote – Yeah, most men I know will not say anything. But that’s not always good. There are things that honestly need to be discussed to avoid breaking points. I did see where you said you’ll come back once things have sort of calmed down a bit. Sometimes though, some folks don’t want to hear or discuss anything…just let it ride. That only causes a person to explode at some point.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
10:22 am
I had a friend tell me her and man got into an arguement recently. LOL……(funny and not funny) She said he told her to eat shi and die, now all she can hear ringing in her ears is that phrase. It was during the heat of the moment, and the damage it caused lingers longer.
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
10:24 am
@Exiled, reading back I see the C word was defined at 8:15, from all people, Bishop Eddie Long who apparently doesn’t like that too much!
I too may be wrong, but I thought the C word stood for C U N T!
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
10:25 am
It’s WD’s friend, Sara, who’s asking Exiled.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
10:30 am
I thought that’s what it meant too Leggs.
Mimi
June 30th, 2011
10:33 am
she should run far far away from this guy like her arse is on fire
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
10:34 am
That’s what it means, Blackfoote. Don’t even know why I questioned myself.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
10:36 am
Did MC come back yesterday and straighten out his actions…..LOL
He gave one for the Gipper, I haven’t laughed that hard in a while. I admit I was hooked, except for the hug at the pool by another man.
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
10:38 am
Let’s just say, he didn’t come back as any of the 3 monikers at issue.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
10:42 am
LOL…..@Leggs
I still get an uncontrollable laugh at that fiasco.
Exiled!
June 30th, 2011
10:43 am
I see Leggs!
Now if u are a chic and ur guy has obviously grovelled and howled in delight, like DMX, whilst down there and u know ur C is a damn sweet spot,no way his calling u that should make u mad.
U will know he’s thinking if it and afraid of losing it!
Now,! If he has complained in the past when doing the belly button test,that there was a bad whiff…and then comes the C word..u know he’s trying to rub it in and hurt u!
Celisea™
June 30th, 2011
10:44 am
And who does that…call folks c@nt? I’ve heard of b@tch, ho, skank, punk, heffa (heifa), trick, buster, joker…but not that…not in my neck of the woods anyway…lol
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
10:45 am
All of the fiasco’s here have been comical, except one.
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
10:45 am
I wonder what in the world they were arguing about that would lead to being called a c-unt.
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
10:46 am
Shet it up, Exiled. No one uses that word as a term of endearment…no one!
@Celisea ~ growing up in NYC, you hear it A LOT!!!!
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
10:47 am
I think this is a world record as far as having 3 different personalities on the Blog’s Most Wanted list which actually only belongs to one person.
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
10:48 am
I have an ex-friend (the one who refuses to pay me back) who’s ex-husband would call her “maggot.” Oh my. When I first heard that I thought “what backward town did he come from.” Who calls their wife a “maggot” during a heated argument. But, looking back…hmmmmmm, he may be onto something (lol).
Celisea™
June 30th, 2011
10:48 am
Slim – I wonder what in the world they were arguing about that would lead to being called a c-unt.
Me too…
Leggs – Really? Not heard much in the south…at least I haven’t. Not as in name calling anyway
SexyCool
June 30th, 2011
10:48 am
Oh…and Lucinda…congrats on the new love in your life. I love LOVE. I am in love and I wish I could dish out an extra serving of it to everybody…even the folks I don’t like. (lol)
Fion
June 30th, 2011
10:52 am
“I wonder what in the world they were arguing about that would lead to being called a c-unt.”
She said some nasty things about him for using a coupon for dinner.
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
10:53 am
Back home, C U N T, is used as often as Mami, Papi, along with Bese Me C U L O!!!!
Exiled!
June 30th, 2011
10:56 am
Leggs!
I googles the word and in one of the explanations,I saw this:
she has the sweetest/prettiest c
I want to eat her c
I want to f-ck her c
I can’t think of any better superlatives at a woman’s sweet spot
Simple? ain’t I right?
Even tho it’s a moment of anger and argument,any woman being calked by her man foe what’s probably one of her most precious asset and man magnet should smile instead!
Reminds of that statement,’ shake what yr mama gave u!’
Exiled!
June 30th, 2011
10:58 am
Me
SexyCool
June 30th, 2011
10:59 am
Shthead never called me out of my name, but he didn’t have a problem saying things in our disagreements that were meant to intentionally hurt.
After I put him out and he called me to “talk about things”, once it became clear that he could not charm/explain his way into my good graces, he began to accuse me of being paranoid, crazy, lacking confidence, less than a woman. He even said that he was going to be married long before me and that I was going to be single forever. (OKAY….press pause…that is even funnier to me now than it was then.)
And is he married today? I have no idea. I don’t socialize with any of the folks that know both of us and have no reason to know anything about what is going on in his life. But I do know that I’m not single.
Take that. Take that. Take that. LMAO!
Celisea™
June 30th, 2011
11:05 am
And honestly, I think there’s a clear line in having a heated argument and treading dangerous zones, even to the point of no return versus straight taking it to the street…as in b*itch, ho and the likes.
Celisea™
June 30th, 2011
11:09 am
Soooo what else is new…any imposters today?
kimmie
June 30th, 2011
11:12 am
Morning All!
The concept of expecting someone to watch what they say to me during a disagreement came early in my dating life. My first serious boyfriend never called me out of my name, but would hit below the with his words. When I would bring it up later, he thought all was okay because he said it while he was mad. He was one that just had to have the last word and “win”. Some of the stuff he said haunts me somewhat to this day. Words can definitely do lasting damage, just like physical harm can.
I’ve never called a guy out of his name. I did yell so bad at one guy the walls in my house shook. I know the neighbors had to hear me. I’m not proud of that though.
“It was in the heat of the moment” is not an excuse for me. Not just in romantic relationships, but in other relationships too. Self-control is what seperates us from wild animals. I won’t have anyone talking to me any kind of way.
SCool – My first boyfriends said some of those same things to me.
kimmie
June 30th, 2011
11:14 am
boyfriend, not friends!
Simple Man..
June 30th, 2011
11:17 am
Co-sign with Exiled’s 10:56!!!
SexyCool
June 30th, 2011
11:17 am
I’m at the dealership getting some recall work done on my truck and they have the Casey Anthony case on in the waiting area. I have only been subjected to about 45 minutes of this and I’m about to commit hari-kari. Sheesh…….
(Praise Jesus that I thought to bring my laptop because they have free wi-fi and I can *kinda* ignore this mess.)
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
11:18 am
Exiled ~ you’re missing the point. We know it’s the sweet spot, but that’s not what it means when a man calls you that. He’s calling you a skank, grimy, dirty. Isn’t it amazing how it takes on an entirely different meaning when it’s said during an argument!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
11:19 am
LOL…..sometimes I would over hear two women argueing and one would say, say it call me a btch and I’ll knock your azz out……LOL I noticed most women don’t like being called that. It’s a staple word in a verbal fight between women.
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
11:20 am
Feels like it’s going to be another Molasses blog day…I need a jolt of something and fast. It’s too early to be ready to go home already. sigh
kimmie
June 30th, 2011
11:23 am
Simple, that blows my mind that you cosign. Thought you had a little more finesse than that.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
11:27 am
LOL….@Slim “another Molasses blog day”
Lucky for me I get the hell out of dodge at 3. Sometimes when I’m working later I hang around.
Fion
June 30th, 2011
11:28 am
All arguments are not about the supposedly “discussed” issue. Sometime it’s about control, domination and power in the relationship.
Example: argument starts, but the person is yellin’ about something totally unrelated to issue supposedly the argument was about.
IMO, those are the most dangerous folk to be in any type of relationship with.
those seeking Control and Power.
Lovely Brown
June 30th, 2011
11:28 am
LOL…..sometimes I would over hear two women argueing and one would say, say it call me a btch and I’ll knock your azz out……LOL I noticed most women don’t like being called that. It’s a staple word in a verbal fight between women
Blackfoote- I have heard some women use it as a term of endearment toward “their girl(s)”….oh hell no.
I don’t play that way though. If you call me a bytch, thems fightin’ words
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
11:29 am
@kimmie ~ thank you, I was surprised when he co-signed as well.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
11:32 am
LOL….@Lovely Brown
I’ve heard women tell guys that too, hey that’s my btch you talking to…..LOL
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
11:34 am
@Blackfoote ~ you have got to be kidding!
Fion
June 30th, 2011
11:37 am
Sidebar::
Ladies Ya’ll turn ya heads for a minuite
@Exiled & Simple
Pissssst, exactly which Pimpin’ Manual ya’ll using????
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
11:42 am
Seriously Leggs a friend of mine was talking to a lady, she told him she was gay. One of the girls she was with (about 6 of them) came up to him and said that’s her btch he was trying to talk to. She look the dominate part as well. We raised our eye brows shrugging at each other.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
11:50 am
I hope no one get offended, but I can’t take the women wearing the calf length shorts with tank top and baseball cap. Any who does I will not judge you.
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
11:52 am
A woman will be quick to call another woman a bitch…There seems to be a very large disparity between the selection of negative/hurtful adjectives used to refer to a woman, than there are to describe a dude. I think that’s why women resort to ragging on a guy’s little weenie or lack of bedroom skills when they are trying to hit below the belt. (no pun intended)
Exiled!
June 30th, 2011
11:54 am
Blackfoote,u are holding fort very well and explaining to them how a so called bad word can be good when used to a different audience and context.
Simple/Exiled’s pimping manual is actually borrowing from your insight.
SexyCool
June 30th, 2011
11:56 am
Oh…Slim…folks just aren’t being creative….I can think of SEVERAL. (lol)
BF – just recently, it just IRKS me to see all these chicks dressing like men. Saggin, Timberlands, wifebeaters, hats to the back, walking hard, just hard masculine mannerisms. I don’t get it.
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
11:56 am
What’s wrong with that outfit, Blackfoote. The outfit can look different depending on the shoes. What if she has heels on?
Lovely Brown
June 30th, 2011
11:58 am
@ Blackfoote- I had neighbors that are lesbians. As long as they kept their grass cut..they were cool with me
Seriously, they were alright. My husband used to tell me not to have any drinks with them though….I used to laugh, but he was dead serious 
Exiled!
June 30th, 2011
12:02 pm
They are lesbian SexxyCool,why can’t u get it!?
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
12:03 pm
Those chicks are dikes, SC.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
12:03 pm
Exiled: Yeah it goes both ways.
SexyC: Make it worse it is young girls going in that direction.
Leggs: If her pants are saggin at her butt……LOL her heels she’s wearing aint gonna help that look.
Exiled!
June 30th, 2011
12:06 pm
Blackfoote,u know Rachel Maddow?
SexyCool
June 30th, 2011
12:07 pm
Just because they are geigh, they don’t have to dress like men. Hell, half the time, I’m walking up on folks wondering if they are lesbian or just little men.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
12:08 pm
Lovely Brown:
Throughout my working life I have had the opportunity to work with gay men. I never had any problem with them or been approched by any of them. They were quite cool and funny as hell. I can recall when they would be upset with their partner and it would be a laugh fest.
Exiled!
June 30th, 2011
12:10 pm
But that’s a choice based on how they feeling and want to represent themselves
same way with u when its a sunny day and u dress in a short mini sun dress showing ur phine chiseled legs,feeling extra sexxy special coz theDude is coming!
Right?
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
12:11 pm
@Blackfoote, you said wearing pants down to the calf. I thought you were talking about capri pants, a tank top and baseball cap with ponytail sticking out at the end….I’m sorry, had the wrong visual!
Kellibean
June 30th, 2011
12:12 pm
I think everyone has said something they shouldn’t have said in the heat of an argument. I know I have and I felt horrible about it and apologized immediately, but the words still hurt him for a while. I now know how to control the anger and not say anything that I will regret later.
I really believe that you can tell a lot about a person by the way they fight. I was engaged about 10 years ago and the guy always agreed with me on everything! I would try to get him to fight so that I knew how he fought, but he wouldn’t fight back. I know that sounds stupid, but I was afraid that after a long time, we would get into an argument and he would get nasty. I never found out. There were many reasons, but I called off the engagement.
Now…my ex boyfriend used to throw my past in my face any chance he could during a fight. He was HORRIBLE to me!!! He also had mental problems, so I would try to not let it bother me, but then he did it one time too many and I had to let him go. He was definitely mentally abusive and if we lived in the same town, it probably would have gotten physical. I later found out that he physically abused an ex. If he had tried to lay a had on me, then I would have probably killed him!
My current s/o and I have had some blowouts in the past, but neither one of us hits below the belt. Maybe early in the relationship one of us had said something out of line, but immediately apologized for it. It’s amazing what anger can do to you. We have since learned to fight well!
We are respectful to each other and only fight about the issue. There are times when I’ve been tempted to bring up other things, but it’s not worth it because things usually don’t get resolved in the heat of the moment. We will let it all out, then end up calmly discussing the issue and figuring out how to resolve it.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
12:13 pm
LOl….@SexcyC I know what you mean, I can’t tell who they are or what they want to be.
Exile no I don’t know her.
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
12:13 pm
Next time, say sagging pants, not pants down to the calf…big difference.
kimmie
June 30th, 2011
12:15 pm
Leggs, I thought capri at first too!
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
12:17 pm
Yay, just won lunch for 2 at This is It! Hey, free lunch is free lunch.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
12:19 pm
Sagging pants……LOL
Hey I like that capri look, with the pony tail out the cap. Big difference.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
12:22 pm
I’m a Sag too Leggs how in the world you have so much good fortune. I know it in one word blessed.
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
12:22 pm
Thanks kimmie. Otherwise, I never would have made the shoe comment.
It seems to be a fad with the teenagers to see what it’s like to be with a girl. One has already came on to my child. Her track team is full of them and there’s lots of drama. Growing up, we had “butches,” but nothing like what’s rampart right now. It’s unbelieveable. Sometimes, I have to look hard to see if there’s any hint of tit tays or if the person really is a boy.
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
12:23 pm
Well, that’s what you described earlier, Mr. Man (lol).
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
12:24 pm
@Blackfoote ~ those are just little nuggets toward the big fortune (lololol).
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
12:24 pm
ooooooooooh, ‘dike’ is a bad worrrrrrrrrd
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
12:29 pm
Mega Millions 105……claim it
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
12:30 pm
Leggs – I think i’m going to give you my money and numbers to start playing lotto for me…you always seem so lucky. Me, not so much
kimmie
June 30th, 2011
12:30 pm
Leggs – It is scandalous and upsetting. I remember when I was in high school the marching band was invited to perform in one of the Mardi Gras parades in New Orleans. We were going to stay overnight 2 nights, 2 or 3 to a hotel room. One of the drum majorettes was very popular and had signed up to room with me & my best friend. Well a week before the trip, she “came out”. I was informed of this coming out on the busride home after school. I freaked out and said no way she was rooming with me & my friend! Sorry, but I was 15 and not used to having to deal with that. Word got back to her and she changed rooms. But people were talking about ME, that I didn’t have to react the way that I did!!
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
12:31 pm
One of my best friends is openly gay…
Celisea™
June 30th, 2011
12:32 pm
Leggs – Yay, just won lunch for 2 at This is It! Hey, free lunch is free lunch.
I ate there last night..the one on Camp Creek…mmm mmm mmm…rib tips, collards, mac and cheese and cornbread…mmm mmm mmm….actually I didn’t eat it. I thought about eating late and decided to eat a couple of tips, a fork of collards a couple of spoons of mac and cheese and brought it for lunch
I’m about to hit the treadmill (slow walk) until I get my mojo of endurance back at the gym downstairs. The cutie gave me a free pass for a week. Think I’m gonna go back to Anytime (gym) in Smyrna
Fion
June 30th, 2011
12:32 pm
@Slim
How do you feel about that Slim?
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
12:33 pm
She had male relationships back in the day and even up through college. I think the latter part of her college years was where her life began to change. She ended up writing me a long letter basically coming “out” to me. I had said the ‘dike’ word around her, not knowing that it was considered offensive and she didn’t waste anytime letting me know it.
kimmie
June 30th, 2011
12:35 pm
Slim – One of mine is too – male.
But at 15, I was not comfortable with that.
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
12:37 pm
Fion – I feel indifferent…It doesn’t bother me one way or the other. I still love and treat her the same. I treat people and judge folks on how they act and treat others…not necessarily on their sexual preference. She was my friend before coming out, so I am her friend after the fact. I’ve had cousins of mine question or say they couldn’t be associated with a friend that was gay because folks assume birds of a feather flock together. I’m not that closed minded so I told them that all sounded like a PP to me (personal problem). I’ve supported her by acompanying her to Pride on various ocassions as well as other rainbow events…doesnt bother me in the least.
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
12:39 pm
kimmie – understandable
kimmie
June 30th, 2011
12:40 pm
Slim – You are a great friend.
Lovely Brown
June 30th, 2011
12:42 pm
My 25yr old stepdaughter is gay. It has made for some tense family gatherings
but what can you do? I believe in folk living their lives however it makes them happy. As long as they are taking care of themselves and not committing any crimes they are cool with me.
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
12:42 pm
thanks, I try….sometimes lol
Celisea™
June 30th, 2011
12:43 pm
Well I had a post mentioned basketball wives and their filthy mouths and bad behavior and the way they (kidding or fighting) call each all kinds of names
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
12:45 pm
I’ll say this Mrs. Kimmie when we were (young boys) we would taunt and ridicule them to the end. Looking back I see how awful my actions were, and now today I can tolerate them a whole lot better.
SexyCool
June 30th, 2011
12:47 pm
I actually don’t have a problem with a person’s sexuality, whether it be by choice or birth (a -whole-nother debate topic).
I just have an opinion about women who look like men. That is all. It just doesn’t make sense to me that if you want someone who dresses like a man, looks like a man, you should be with a man.
Last I check, clothing style did not dictate sexuality. Trust, I know some femmes and bi’s who are just as gay as the boy/man looking women.
Exiled!
June 30th, 2011
12:49 pm
I was sitting next to a drop dead gorgeous lady this past Saturday,working on some work stuff. I don’t know her like that and that was our second time meeting.
Two hours str8 and I wasn’t feeling like I am with a beautiful woman. It rang kinda odd and initially I thought it was my light skinned woman mental phobia! Something wasn’t quite right coz normally,my mind is predatory even tho I may not act on it!
Anyway,come Monday,we exchange emails and she mentions that she just chilled the rest of the weekend with her 3 dogs!
I think that’s it,she’s a Maddow!
Fion
June 30th, 2011
12:49 pm
Kellibean
“If he had tried to lay a hand on me, then I would have probably killed him!”
I once heard a ShaoLin Master (82yrs Old) answer his student who asked,
“ master I’ve never seen you engaged in combat (confrontation)?
He answered by saying “if I place myself in the position to use the skill that I have,
I am not worthy to be called your master.”
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
12:53 pm
Swxycool – Does the issue with dress only apply to women dressing as men or does it also apply to the men that are SUPER flagrant, wearing womens clothing, being overly dramatic etc?? Because that sort of rubs me the wrong way in the sense that, it can be flattering to have someone mimic you but women don’t act that over the top…at least I don’t think so lol
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
12:54 pm
oops, meant SExyCool
Fion
June 30th, 2011
12:55 pm
“Last I check, clothing style did not dictate sexuality.”
Damn! I guess that dude I saw getting on the elevator in the Tutu this morning don’t count.
DaQuan aka Delicious
June 30th, 2011
1:00 pm
Whats wrong with a man wearing a Backout Halter top,and some Gouchos??? As long and the Mule shoes match, what does it matter????
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
1:01 pm
DaQuan aka Delicious
June 30th, 2011
1:01 pm
and Mr. Fion, that was not a tutu, It was a fluffy bottom minin dress….
SexyCool
June 30th, 2011
1:01 pm
Actually, some women do. I have some gay neighbors and I promise you the only thing feminine about this chick are her biological parts. She is just HARD. A good person, just very, very manly. Her girlfriend is quite the opposite. And my sister has a friend who was, in her words, “trying out the lesbian lifestyle”, and was dating a chick that would wear her dill.doe under her street clothes and to work.
I am not feeling anyone, male or female, that is extra and dramatic for no reason. As for men who dress like women, *most* of the time, you either can’t tell or it’s so obvious that it’s comical. For me, it goes both ways. If you want a man who is dressed like a woman, just be with a woman.
However, at the end of the day, these are just my opinions. I really do believe in live and let live. If Shanteboomquisha wants to look like a Harold and if Sean wants to look like a Barbara (or Cee-lo in a Pattie LaBelle wig), so be it. To each his own.
kimmie
June 30th, 2011
1:02 pm
Slim – I can’t get with the over-the-topness of that either.
Exiled!
June 30th, 2011
1:02 pm
Actually I think,in their defense,sexuality dictates what some of them want to wear…
If they feel like men then they want to represent like men…
I see chics that dress in long pants and dress shirts that sometimes, it easy to miss them and think they are real men…(with balls) untill u look closely!
I suppose the attempting to project what they feel..
Although deep down I feel a commitment to Jesus can cure that! And I aint a Thumper
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
1:03 pm
Slim I’m thinking Rupaul.
I’ve seen some men in drag on the web, obvious you can tell most are men but there were a few that raised the eye brow and make you wonder as a man have you been duped by one.
Uncle Peaches
June 30th, 2011
1:04 pm
Somebody called me?
Fion
June 30th, 2011
1:05 pm
@ Slim
Huh?????
not sure which comment you are referring to?
SexyCool
June 30th, 2011
1:05 pm
Fion – what I’m saying is that he’s not gay BECAUSE he puts on a tutu or she’s not gay BECAUSE she looks like a little bitty man (or in some cases, a big dude). They wear those things and choose those appearances BECAUSE THEY ARE GAY.
So..again…what is hanging in my closet does not dictate my sexuality. In the examples that I gave, sexuality dictates style.
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
1:07 pm
Exiled – I almost ashamed to say that I am agreeing with you a bit on your 1:02 as far as them wanting to project what they feel inside.
About 2 months ago some friends and I were at Shout and this TALLLLLLLLL mixed looking chick was in there. It didn’t take long to see it was actually a dude. She almost looked like Kimora Lee..one of the guys I was with at first was going to try to approach her before we caught the adams apple and HUGE feet.
Uncle Peaches
June 30th, 2011
1:08 pm
Oooh I’m crushing on Mr. Blackfoote
kimmie
June 30th, 2011
1:09 pm
I can handle one dressing/acting for the purpose of being in drag. It’s when one is over the top for their regular everyday dress and their mannerisms that get on my nerves somewhat. I don’t stress over it, it just irritating.
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
1:12 pm
Fion – I was laughing at the Tutu comment (12:55)
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
1:12 pm
Uncle Peaches I’m crushed to that you’re crushing on me……LOL
Fion
June 30th, 2011
1:15 pm
@ Sexy
You wear those things because of identification and socialization.
They are dressing that way because that’s how they see themselves.
What you wear is a reflection of how you identify yourself.
Exiled!
June 30th, 2011
1:16 pm
Ashamed to agree with me?
I think folks who are truly conflicted actually deserve a lil bit more of our sympathy than scorn or despise!
It gotta be tough on the inside….
SexyCool
June 30th, 2011
1:17 pm
Um…yeah….you said the same thing twice and said exactly what I said.
SexyCool
June 30th, 2011
1:21 pm
Mee.low are you talking to me?
Because we are essentially saying the same thing. And I don’t scorn or despise them. I just don’t relate because I’m not gay. Like I said, I don’t get it….and that’s okay, because I don’t have to.
What they do is their business. However, as I have said a couple of times, that doesn’t stop me from having an opinion about it.
Fion
June 30th, 2011
1:22 pm
@Sexy
My blood sugar is low and I got to go lunch. I’ve got read that again.
cba
June 30th, 2011
1:50 pm
I have a niece who’s currently attending a wedding in Key West and she posted some pics on FB. She’s 30 and there’s a pic of she and her girl friends in a hot tub along with this swiss guy. He has on a lime green “something other”, a thong with shoulder straps. The front is only covering his “junk” and there’s a butt shot and you can see that its a thong. Man, what a site. That’s why I never have an intentions of getting in a public hot tub.
Exiled!
June 30th, 2011
2:03 pm
No,it was a general commentary Sexxy..
SexyCool
June 30th, 2011
2:04 pm
My taste buds are adjusting to my diet changes.
This morning, I only put one tablespoon in my entire bowl of oatmeal. I used to just pile it on.
Water with lemon (no sweetener of any kind) is starting to actually taste like lemonade.
Grapefruit is starting to actually taste good to me. <–This is a MAJOR shock to me. I used to not be able to eat grapefruit to save life.
SexyCool
June 30th, 2011
2:10 pm
As soon as I typed that, one of my co-workers brought me in a slice of cheesecake that he bought for me because I helped him with a project last week.
Lead me not into temptation….
Exiled!
June 30th, 2011
2:12 pm
Makes sense SexxyCool,especially if u get drip sugar at nite…on the regular!
No need to load up on sugar in ur oatmeal in the morning!
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
2:15 pm
SexyC – We were talking about cheesecake this morning. That is truly one of my FAVORITE desserts outside of peach cobbler. Mmmm goood
SexyCool
June 30th, 2011
2:21 pm
Apparently, my taste buds can still be seduced. I’ve taken two bites of it.
I’m debating whether or not to throw the rest of it away. (I abhor throwing away/wasting food. Too many folks that don’t have any.)
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
2:22 pm
LOL…..Uncle Peaches why couldn’t you be Aunt Peaches then we would be cool.
Of all the beautiful women on this blog I draw Uncle Peaches, I’ll just go get my B.A.B. shirt and sit down under the stairwell.
Exiled!
June 30th, 2011
2:26 pm
Bla
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
2:27 pm
@SlimNu ~ we can put our numbers together and play. Now, you can’t pull out one day after playing for a month and that’s the day I hit and you want to take me to court…put your dukes up.
I grew up with “butches,” and I was afraid of them. They were hardcore lesbians and forceful in their pursuit. It wasn’t as prevalent as it is today. Everywhere you go, there are lesbians. They didn’t bother me just as long as they stayed in their lane. I grew up with gay friends, partied with them and didn’t necessarily care what they did. Just don’t force it upon me. If I wanted to taste the “sweet spot” as Exiled so eloquently stated it will be done on my terms not because I was “jumped.” To each their own as long as it doesn’t interfere with the way I live my life.
And, for the record, if my child told me she was gay, I wouldn’t see her any differently. That’s the truth.
Lovely Brown
June 30th, 2011
2:34 pm
And, for the record, if my child told me she was gay, I wouldn’t see her any differently. That’s the truth.
Leggs- That is I feel about my daughter. We all had a hard time at first because we were not sure how the younger children would handle it. To them she is big sister….it is the other grown folk in our family that were trippin’ and I mean TRIPPIN’!
Into the Light
June 30th, 2011
2:46 pm
Afternoon, y’all!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
2:47 pm
Speaking from under the stairwell I don’t see gay people any different, I’m not into what they do. It is a two way street, they can also not like what I do.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 30th, 2011
2:49 pm
Hello Light, over here look under the stairwell…..LOL
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
2:55 pm
@Lovely Brown ~ I hear ya. One of the parents on the team found out her daughter is being “turned out” (her words) by another girl (the other girl is 19, her child is 18). She went cat isht ballastic. Cussing her daughter out in front of 2 of us other parents. Threw her out the house since she’s 18 and blasted her to hell forever. I felt so bad for her. The mother said “I will not have that type of behavior in my house.” I think she has calmed down a little. I quietly laugh at the mother because her lot in life right now is to be somebody’s hoe. Seriously, she just wants to hoe around and have a good time for a little while! I went to a Jamaican club with her once and she kept disappearing. Each time I walked up on her she was on the wall grinding with some random. Tsk, tsk, tsk, but to each their own.
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
3:19 pm
Hey, where is everyone????
Simple Man
June 30th, 2011
3:28 pm
Like a ghost town in here….
OK..Off topic…Got “The Best of Ronnie Laws” Playing In the Building today…Can’t Believe I got the Grumpest woman in teh entire Buliding to step an entire song with me….
Fion
June 30th, 2011
3:37 pm
I’m gonna have a Love affair this weekend with that PIG. I’m gonna dip her, baste her, lay her on the grill……
hell I might even Tango with her.
Yeah, I said it. All ya’ll Pig haters. You don’t like it. Do sumthin!
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
3:37 pm
Awwww, I hope she started smiling???
SexyCool
June 30th, 2011
3:40 pm
Tonight, TheDude and I have our last pre-marital counseling session.
Simple Man
June 30th, 2011
3:41 pm
Everyone on her team stood and cheered LOL…That was the most she has smiled in the last 6 months !!
SexyCool
June 30th, 2011
3:41 pm
Next week……obedience classes………
For the dog, that is. (lol)
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
3:52 pm
That’s great, SimpleM! Perhaps the things she’s carrying is a little lighter just because she danced today and smiled!
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
3:54 pm
are a little lighter….
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
3:55 pm
That’s great, SC (on the last pre-marital session).
Lovely Brown
June 30th, 2011
4:01 pm
@ Leggs your 2:55- That is a mess. But it happens more than people think, I know a lot of parents that act like they are the child.
@Simple man- Your post made me smile like I was dancing….who can dance and frown?!
They are trying to make me earn it today, esp since I am off until Tues. But if they keep messing with me they will not see me ’til Weds. I got the time….
take that, take that
Simple Man
June 30th, 2011
4:06 pm
Awww… Lovely
Not many things better than great music and sweet dance….
Exiled!
June 30th, 2011
4:08 pm
So u ain’t taking the to ‘honor and obey’ class urself Secxycool!?
it’s important!
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
4:11 pm
@Exiled ~ I thought we stopped talking about bitc… awhile ago.
Lovely Brown
June 30th, 2011
4:14 pm
SC- that is great about the counseling session. Hopefully your counselor(s) are more helpful than ours was…we still crack up laughing about them 15 years later. They also said dining”southern cuisine” should not be on the list of bedroom activities
is how we were looking….no wonder they was looking so sad all the time 
SexyCool
June 30th, 2011
4:29 pm
I don’t get your question, African.
SexyCool
June 30th, 2011
4:30 pm
Oh…and I meant to ask if you are at work today. Are you?
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
4:30 pm
@SVC ~ he was being facetious in that you need to go into the marriage knowing how to be obedient. Implying you may pick up some pointers from the dog training class in obedience.
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
4:31 pm
Please disregard that sneaky little “V”, SC!
SlimNumeroUno
June 30th, 2011
4:33 pm
I must say that today has been a true skruggle to get through….i’m rhet to go
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
4:40 pm
ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ
Leggs
June 30th, 2011
4:58 pm
Oh my, must have dozed off.
Often when we lose hope and think this is the end, GOD smiles from above and says, “Relax, it’s just a bend, not the end!
PEACE~
The Buzz
June 30th, 2011
5:02 pm
Interesting situation. If he is angry enough to call her that, why doesn’t he want to break up? Sounds like no matter which way you look at it, this is the sign of an unhealthy relationship beginning to bloom. She should cut the ties. They obviously aren’t right for each other one way or another if this was the outcome of their very first fight! Either she’s a total harpie (so why does he want her) or he’s an abusive guy and this is the first sign (why would she want him). End it!
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June 30th, 2011
5:07 pm
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Into the Light
June 30th, 2011
5:30 pm
Dang…I missed y’all today! I’ve been so busy, I don’t know whether to scratch my watch or wind my butt!
Hope to see you tomorrow!