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Relationships: Do we improve for the next one?

You end one relationship and hopefully take some wisdom into the next one. What can we do avoid the same pitfalls that torpedoed the last relationship?

My friend Ben thinks his last relationship ended mainly because of his hectic new job that involved a lot of traveling. He believes that his new relationship will benefit from the lessons he learned about balancing work and home life.

Do you think you get to correct the wrong moves you made in past
relationships?

How have your dating and relationship experiences contributed to your personal growth?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

If your current significant other met you years ago do you think you would have been a good match for them?

286 comments Add your comment

Purple Rain

June 24th, 2011
11:54 am

I am shopping right now, not to much in my size but there’s tons of stuff on there for the wife.

Celisea

June 24th, 2011
11:54 am

Yaaah…I’m gonna use that credit!!

Willie Dynamite

June 24th, 2011
11:57 am

Purp – you real close to getting a demerit. Its Friday and you talking bout shopping. Stop it I say. At least throw in a reference to stilletos/high heels or Lingerie.

Celisea

June 24th, 2011
11:58 am

Noooo Purp you’re doing just fine…. :)

Blackfoote

June 24th, 2011
11:59 am

Light:
Balance speaks for itself, knows only a few.

Purple Rain

June 24th, 2011
12:06 pm

Willie, I refuse to buy my wife shoes anymore…she does that well enough on her own. LOL

Purple Rain

June 24th, 2011
12:08 pm

It’s bailing season so I am going to not be on the next two weeks. You all don’t miss me to much. LOL

alibel

June 24th, 2011
12:09 pm

Keep it simple. I’m not a church-goer (I’m actually Buddhist, but he’s on to something…) but I will quote Andy Stanley:
“Are you the person you’re looking for is looking for?”

For me, in all relationships – not just with my partner, it begins with me. Live with the mindset of the prayer of St. Francis. For it truly is in giving that we receive.

alibel

June 24th, 2011
12:11 pm

Oh, to answer some of the questions, lol:
My relationship with myself has been the biggest influence. It has allowed me to take a look at those past relationships in a way that helps me grow.

If your current significant other met you years ago do you think you would have been a good match for them? HELL NO. Hahahaha! He wouldn’t have been a good one for me either. All in God’s time :)

Blackfoote

June 24th, 2011
12:12 pm

Purple:
Got me a pitch fork ready.

Purple Rain

June 24th, 2011
12:17 pm

Blackfoote, you are going to need some leather gloves and a hook. Smallest bale is 700lbs the largest is 1800lbs. LOL, a pitchfork wont cut it. We cut the fields go back and toss the hay so it will dry, go back flip it again so it will dry on the other side…than bale it..after that you have the ground crew that lifts them to the trailer then you have the trailer crew who stacks them on the trailer…from there you take it back to the barn and pass it back down to the ground crew who then stacks them in the barn. Good money to be made for the workers baling and for me after the bales are sold!

Sassy Me...Pretty Young Thing :-)

June 24th, 2011
12:19 pm

R.I.P. Michael

If your current significant other met you years ago do you think you would have been a good match for them?

No not at all. I’m not easy and I’m not for everybody…this was even more so when I was younger. As I’ve matured over the years I realize and recognize that I’m still a work in progress…

Happy Friday y’all!!!!

Purple Rain

June 24th, 2011
12:24 pm

Oh yeah baling hay is different than baling straw. LOL Hay is dried grass, straw is dries wheat, barley, oats etc..

Blackfoote

June 24th, 2011
12:26 pm

Purple, ok good looking out I’ll meet y’all up at the selling point……LOL

SlimNumeroUno

June 24th, 2011
12:29 pm

Purp – Do you have rough hands?

SexyCool

June 24th, 2011
12:32 pm

Purp – do you have a problem finding employees? Since they passed that immigration bill here in Georgia, the farmers are struggling to get their crops harvested.

Purple Rain

June 24th, 2011
12:36 pm

Blackfoote, good move. Equipment breaks from stress a lot…so a lot of long days and nights coming up. It’s a seasonal work and we have a lot of day laborers that sign on to help. But if they can’t cut it they get fired on the spot, some of them get mad because they don’t get hired….but if the aren’t over 180lbs they won’t be able to hack it. Little skinny guys try and get work though. This is by far one of the hardest jobs. I like to get out of the tractor and work with the ground crew sometimes for a few hours…great workout. I know why my dad always judged my sisters boyfriends by “Doesn’t look like he can bale much hay” LOL

Slim, my hands are jacked up. Big rough and hard, not good for caressing and that type of stuff.

Purple Rain

June 24th, 2011
12:39 pm

Sexy Cool, we only hiring external employees doing cropping and bale season. People really don’t mess with us up here. That being said we have very few illegal immigrants. There are large Indian reservations and they come out and hold down most of the jobs. Also there are large Somali and Ethiopian contigents too, they are here legally as refugees. I can rarely use them because they are to small and frail to lift.

Purple Rain

June 24th, 2011
12:42 pm

Sexy Cool, I think it’s like 1.8% of the population or something low like that is our ratio of non documented and illegal citizens.

SexyCool

June 24th, 2011
12:46 pm

Glad to hear you aren’t facing those kinds of challenges.

A few nights ago, Channel 2 was interviewing a farmer who says that his projected loss on a cucumber crop is $40K because he didn’t have the help to get them picked fast enough.

Blackfoote

June 24th, 2011
12:53 pm

If you ever need a work at home foreman, I’m available…..LOL

Simple Man

June 24th, 2011
12:54 pm

Off topic…Had a Pot luck for my staff today….Why are there so many women that can’t cook??? I told them there was a 50 prize for the best dish…Looks like one of the men will win!!

kimmie

June 24th, 2011
1:02 pm

Simple – I can cook, but I rarely cook for work potlucks anymore. Cooking for my family and for profit keeps me busy enough. I’ve got an order for 5 chocolate layer cakes, of which 3 I have to have done for Monday morning.

Now if we were having a potluck, do you think I would cook something for it or purchase something for it? You do the math, not to mention what my time is worth!

Lovely Brown

June 24th, 2011
1:06 pm

Simple Man

June 24th, 2011
12:54 pm
Off topic…Had a Pot luck for my staff today….Why are there so many women that can’t cook??? I told them there was a 50 prize for the best dish…Looks like one of the men will win!!

:lol: what were some of the entries you received?

Willie Dynamite

June 24th, 2011
1:10 pm

Random – For the weekend maybe tomorrow weather permitting I’m thinking I’ll light my Smoker and do a Brisket with a few slabs of ribs and do a Country Crab Boil. Crabs, Shrimp/Crawfish, Sausage, Corn, Potatoes and anything else I throw in the pot

Simple Man

June 24th, 2011
1:12 pm

Lovely,

Stuffed shells, Mac and Cheese, meat loaf, Spinich dip, rice pilaf…One dude made Fried Chicken, BBQ ribs (really nasty) Potato salad A pound cake from the receptionis t that came directly from HEAVEN!!! an Apple pie and some home made Ice cream that I am afraid to try :)

Leggs

June 24th, 2011
1:14 pm

Laughing at Blackfoote bringing a slingshot to a gunfight!

@SimpleM ~ that is horrible! Not that a man will win, but so many women can’t cook.

What were the dishes at the pot luck made by women and what dish will actually win?

Blackfoote

June 24th, 2011
1:18 pm

Willie D. go ahead the weather will be good. When do you start smoking? When I smoke I start around 6am and let it do it’s thing to about 5pm that evening. Man.

kimmie

June 24th, 2011
1:18 pm

Light – I like your post! You actually said what I was thinking all along about today’s topic. If you truly have some type of issue or personality trait that’s affecting your relationships, it’s probably not just affecting the romantic ones. By all means, work on it. Other than that, you are just not going to be a match with everyone, and that’s okay.

I had to learn to recognize men I could possibly get along with and not clash with. Stopped trying to make stuff work that clearly was not. Find someone I could accept for who he is and find someone that could do the same for me.

All of the above, I feel, is accepting responsibility. All I can do is work on the one constant – me. A large part of that is choosing well.

Leggs

June 24th, 2011
1:20 pm

BBQ ribs (really nasty), how the heck is that possible.

Willie Dynamite

June 24th, 2011
1:21 pm

Black – The brisket is a 12 hr job at least. I too start around 5-6am and go till the temp reaches what I’m looking for.

Simple Man

June 24th, 2011
1:22 pm

Leggs, I think he cooked them on a gas grill and you can still taste the propane….YUCK!!!

Blackfoote

June 24th, 2011
1:23 pm

Leggs:
When Purp mentioned the smallest bale at 700 lbs…..LOL I knew then my labor skills were overmatched.

SexyCool

June 24th, 2011
1:23 pm

Exactly what kimmie said. Well…except the cooking for profit part….although….my pound cakes and sweet potato pies are to die for….(lol)

kimmie

June 24th, 2011
1:23 pm

Leggs – I don’t think that’s such a big deal. Nobody would be saying anything if the dudes didn’t cook anything. Plus, who’s to say the ladies can’t cook? Maybe, like me, they just don’t have the time to cook for their family AND the office. Maybe they can but they just didn’t want to. Who is to say the guys that brought that stuff in actually prepared it? Maybe their women at home did or they bought it? :lol:

kimmie

June 24th, 2011
1:28 pm

SCool – You gotta tell me how you make your sweet potato pie. Mine are okay, but I want to do better!

Blackfoote

June 24th, 2011
1:33 pm

Willie D. that briskett sound good I can tatse it now. One thing I’ve noticed when it come down to the sauce, some people don’t want it and some cooks just spread it over the meat. What ever sauce I use I like to cook it which makes it richer, thicker and stick to the meat.

Purple Rain

June 24th, 2011
1:33 pm

Blackfoote, no stay ate home foremen needed. You can work the pit and just serve everyone food. LOL

Sexy Cool, I think the cold weather keeps most of the illegals away. Except those that come from North of the border.

SlimNumeroUno

June 24th, 2011
1:37 pm

Maybe we can put together a blog cookbook of all our best dishes….I’d love to have some great recipes of things that are actually good.

kimmie

June 24th, 2011
1:37 pm

Blackfoote – I like a good dry rub on bbq. If the meat is well seasoned, I don’t need sauce. My husband makes a rub that is a nice sweet-spicy combo. He serves the sauce on the side.

Blackfoote

June 24th, 2011
1:38 pm

LOL…..@Mrs. Kimmie
“Maybe their women at home did or they bought it”?

kimmie

June 24th, 2011
1:39 pm

Slim – A fabulous idea! I actually cookbooks of that sort, like some I have that are put together by churches or other organizations. They usually have some good treasures that are better than what you will find in a fancier cookbook.

kimmie

June 24th, 2011
1:40 pm

Blackfoote – Just sayin!

Plus, to be honest, I don’t eat everything that people bring from their houses. A lot of people are not too clean!

Blackfoote

June 24th, 2011
1:40 pm

LOL…..@Purple
The pit now I can handle that…..LOL

Purple Rain

June 24th, 2011
1:41 pm

I love to cook and grill, everything from scratch…even my seasonings

Lovely Brown

June 24th, 2011
1:43 pm

BBQ ribs (really nasty), how the heck is that possible

Everybody can’t cook ribs. And please don’t get me started on steak.

My brother in law(RIP) would get drunk and burn up people’s meat…… :lol:

Leggs

June 24th, 2011
1:44 pm

Now I can definitely understand messing up steak.

Purple Rain

June 24th, 2011
1:45 pm

Leggs, how can someone mess up a steak, that’s the easiest thing to grill.

Leggs

June 24th, 2011
1:45 pm

And, if you don’t know how to grill, please don’t start with ribs! Blasphemous!

Blackfoote

June 24th, 2011
1:46 pm

Mrs. Kimmie:
You’re right when the meat is on, sauce is unnecessary.