Do bossy women get married?
My friend Allen is dating a smart woman who runs her own company. Allen seems to be really impressed with her now but she told them if they met 5 years ago, he probably would have run for the hills.
She admitted that before they met, she was a real piece of work – very strong-willed, opinionated, and well bossy. She finally realized this was not serving her well on the dating scene. According to her, bossy women don’t get asked out – and few end up with the men they want.
Once she started to find a balance, she noticed a big difference in the type of men she met and attracted. This makes me think about the fine line single women often have to worry about: bossy versus confident. Men love confident women! A confident woman who is too bossy? Well, let’s just say some men view them as a challenge – others think of them as the type to avoid.
Ladies, have you found it difficult or challenging to project your confidence without appearing overconfident or bossy? Is it a good idea to to tone it down when you meet someone new? Would that be misleading?
Guys do you believe that some women can really be attractive while being confident and bossy? Do you think women should balance it more so they don’t send the wrong message?
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321 comments Add your comment
BIL
June 22nd, 2011
8:30 am
Confident, sure. Bossy? Depends if they can find a wimp like my brother… gah, I hate my sister in law.
MC Hammock
June 22nd, 2011
8:31 am
A confident woman is very sexy. A bossy woman is someone to avoid. You can state your opinion and/or view, but understand that just because we don’t follow your point of view, it’s not a question of your intelligence and maybe….just maybe…there is another way to skin the cat. The same goes for men. It doesn’t have to be YOUR way all of the time. There is such a thing as compromise and debate.
Battery Operated
June 22nd, 2011
8:31 am
Dont find them attractive at all.. Im quite sure they know its a turn off..
Ark2011
June 22nd, 2011
8:34 am
I’ve noticed that some women give you two options. 1) Do it my way 2) “Just go ahead and do whatever you want!” Number two is said with a frown, shaling her head and with her arms crossed in front of her. In other words “You go ahead and do whatever you want, but you’re going to pay for this.”
Realist
June 22nd, 2011
8:36 am
Bossy is often a defense mechanism used by humans of both genders to avoid intimacy, and to keep from getting hurt. There is often a layer of control issues associated with it.
Not only is it not attractive, but it is a warning sign that the person may not be emotionally prepared or capable for a serious relationship.
In men it comes out as being aggressive, violent, or controlling. In women it is bossy or nagging. Same thing.
Run. Find someone with fewer serious issues, but to do that you have to make sure your own issues are in check first.
Big Un
June 22nd, 2011
8:38 am
Confident women lead and can also receive advise. This is most admirable and sexy. Bossy women bark like a terrier at any situation and never stop telling you what to do and how to do it. They also tell you how dumb you were for ever thinking that any other way in the first place.
Chris
June 22nd, 2011
8:39 am
Confident is fine. A quiet strength and confidence is even better. If you have to beat your chest about how a strong a woman you are you probably aren’t. Bossy women aren’t attractive at all. There can only be one man in a relationship. Only one woman can tell me what to do and that’s my mother. Some women may be capable at work but I’ve found in a relationship their skills are sorely lacking.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
8:40 am
Bossy women get divorced! Quickly.
DairyMan
June 22nd, 2011
8:40 am
Now if she is being bossy with “Get in here, take your clothes off and make me scream your name!”…..I like that kind of bossy…..
Steven Q. Stanley
June 22nd, 2011
8:49 am
If you over 30 and never married, let me say again, there is something wrong with you. And it most likely isn’t physical, ugly people get married all the time.
It’s probably one of two reasons. The first is you are too picky. You speak about Prince Charming and Mr. Right a lot, and you’ll never find him, because unless you get sucked into a Julia Roberts movie form the 90s, these people don’t exist. Plenty of good men out there, but you’ve chosen to ignore them because you have unrealistic expectations of a partner.
The second is bossiness, bitchiness, whatever you want to call it, it means you like to nag, you never shut up, and you are all around unbearable to be around. There is nothing wrong with being a confident woman, and you certainly shouldn’t let a man walk all over you, but you can be a reasonable person who isn’t constantly nagging her man about every little thing.
Bossiness is a top contributor to dying alone.
One Love
June 22nd, 2011
8:49 am
Heck…I was married to a controlling bossy woman for a real long time and through marriage counseling & therapy, it was revealed that she was simply insecure and tried her best to control every aspect of our lives through her bossy and controlling ways….I say run for the hills as I did and unfortunately, I waited until my kid was off to college before we divorced….now I enjoy a healthy relationship with a woman who is confident and is in control of herself. Now that is what I find attractive; not the nagging bossy woman…as they say “when people show you who they are, believe them”
Doophus
June 22nd, 2011
8:50 am
Yes, they get married. For awhile.
Harold
June 22nd, 2011
8:50 am
Confident is way better than bossy, but the real message is to be yourself. If a bossy gal is acting better just to meet someone it will eventually wear off. Unless you are making a real personality change, be yourself and look for someone who likes and accepts that part of you.
NG
June 22nd, 2011
8:52 am
Women who are bossy are annoying and miserable to be around. And like 99 said, they get divorced. Confidence and happiness are the most important. Bossy is like you’re in mini boot camp. I lived through one and thankfully never married but I notice she’s been divorced twice!
Wifey
June 22nd, 2011
8:53 am
I wouldn’t call myself bossy, but I do state my opinions. You have to know when to stand your ground and when to consider alternative options. I’ll never, ever be described as a door mat.
The Bosses Wife
June 22nd, 2011
8:53 am
I let him think he Is running it. But trust when
I speak its like EF Hutton….
Meerkat
June 22nd, 2011
8:54 am
Regardless of gender, I don’t think most people want to be with someone who is bossy.
Big Un
June 22nd, 2011
8:59 am
Bossy women are similar to the DEMANDING woman who thinks that her standard of things should be the norm for you and her. Whether it’s restaurants, clothes, vacations or even sex, she somehow has decided that she is “worth” the trouble, expense and won’t tolerate anything less. Sure, you can certainly be WORTH the trouble, but ask yourself, what do YOU bring into the equation that I may find so worthwhile? If you even put “I’m beautiful and could have anyone I want” anywhere in the reasoning, you just lost me and good bye.
OneWoman
June 22nd, 2011
8:59 am
It needs to be a balance. You should be confident in yourself enough to allow your partner to share their opinions and make decisions together. Respect him enough to allow him to express his opinions even if they differ from your own. This trait is a strength not a weakness.
DeeDeBee
June 22nd, 2011
9:00 am
DairyMan you are a HOOT! Realist you are speaking the truth about so many of my SINGLE friends. They have to over compensate so as not to appear weak. The quiet strength and confidence that Chris spoke of is indeed sexy!
Dan - Simply...
June 22nd, 2011
9:01 am
@Realist – I don’t agree
while you underlying assessment is entirely on point, running, is not a viable solution. You drew an incorrect conclusion.
Everyone you meet has issues. Whether defined, treated, or untreated, everyone has something from either their past (or present) that causes them anxiety. If the only problem with the person you choose to date is their habit of being “bossy”, consider yourself lucky my friend.
But to conclude that there are less serious issues than a psychological defensive mechanism that manifests itself as “bossy” and therefore one should “run”, strikes me as impulsive idealism (itself a defensive mechanism).
Ark2011
June 22nd, 2011
9:02 am
Naaah…after being married, I’ve decided that if you want to live permenantly with someone that loves you, will do anything for you just because of that love, won’t nag or complain….get a dog. It’s a lot less stressful.
Peaches
June 22nd, 2011
9:03 am
Yep, we sure do get married! In our 40 years of married life, he has calmed me down some and I’ve jazzed him up. His family was a quiet, sedate, sweet bunch and mine has always been loud, busy, silly, and forever doing something. I think he fell in love with the family first and then me. We have a marriage that brings the best of both families together and are looking forward to many more years. It takes work, patience (lots and lots of that), an open heart, and a willingness to realize it might not be so easy to stay together. We’ve made it work very well.
It might have helped that I’ve always worked in non-traditional jobs, taught shop & drafting over 30 years and had mostly male friends. He was the only male teacher at a rural elementary school and had mostly female friends. Neither of us ever had any reason to be jealous as our circle of friends was the same, wide circle.
Reio
June 22nd, 2011
9:05 am
Once I Determine That A woman Is Bossy, I Leave. Find Someone Else.
roughrider
June 22nd, 2011
9:06 am
I would imagine bossy women have a higher divorce rate.
The Wife
June 22nd, 2011
9:06 am
As someone who speaks her opinion, sometimes being confident is taken as being bossy, as a single parent I raised my daughter to be a confident, well established, responsible married adult. I decided not to get married until I was in my 40’s and love being married. Just because someone elects to not get married in their 30’s doesn’t mean there is something wrong with them.
Dukester
June 22nd, 2011
9:06 am
@BIL you pretty much summed it up. I hated my brother’s ex myself. When I got a chance to curse her I blasted her. She called my mom’s house on a holiday all of the family was over having a good time. She wanted my brother to leave. She refused to come inside with us. She sat outside in the car and called my mom’s house phone. I anwsered she thought it was my brother. She said “I thought I told you to come out of there!” I blasted her and told my mom and sister’s they pressured him to leave her alone because she was crazy.
The final straw was her spitting in his face and daring her to hit him! She stated” I dare you to hit me because you know you are law enforcement”
Tenacious Tee
June 22nd, 2011
9:08 am
Ladies….learn the meaning of submission and you won’t have to deal with being considered “bossy.” Men….learn the meaning of “confident” because we often get categorized wrongfully.
dan
June 22nd, 2011
9:10 am
Coming of age in the 60’s and dealing with women’s liberation was confusing to a lot of men. Since we men thrive on respect our identities became muddled for many of us as we were bombarded with the constant “evils” of masculinity. The things that form the core of masculinity…courage, determination, boldness and leadership were demonized causing many men to think the same as wowen pre-lib days did about themselves, that there was something inherently wrong with themselves.
While I am all for gender equality some women just don’t “get it” about what makes a man tick. Perhaps some men will live with a bossy woman for their own reasons, but I doubt that he will function as a man is meant to, nor will there be a proper order in their relationship, home and marraige.
Being a Christian the role of man emulating Christ’s is challenging. Humility, service and viewing others more important than himself, or better put serving others and laying down his desires for the good of his wife and family become respect-earners for a man in a commited relationship. In turn a spouse respects and honors him. It is mutual submission…no one person dominates, rather encourages the other to flourish through love and respect.
That is a tall order requiring maintenance and the model of Christ as their vision. It is a three-fold chord making it an even stronger bond, not easily broken. This type of relationship is rare outside of a Christ-centered home.
AlreadySheared
June 22nd, 2011
9:11 am
You have backwards – married women get bossy.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
9:12 am
Good morning! I agree with you, one love. Most bossy women are probably insecure in some form of fashion.
I’m with you, Wifey. I’m confident in that I state my opinions. You don’t have to agree with them, but I’m going to state them. I have no problem agreeing to disagree. I’m not going to ram my beliefs down your throat so to speak.
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
9:13 am
Morning,
Just listen at all the whiners. Gheesh
Dan - Simply...
June 22nd, 2011
9:14 am
Kanye has a line “do you have power enough to give power away”?
Is a variation of the Sun Tsu theme of ‘appearing weak’, but profound nonetheless.
abc
June 22nd, 2011
9:17 am
I don’t think that ‘confident’ and ‘bossy’ are different degrees of the same or similar things. Bossy is tough to tolerate from anybody, regardless gender. To me, though, a bossy chick is a turnoff, I wouldn’t hang around.
I’d think that a chick that would characterize herself as being bossy is probably insufferably so to everyone else.
T.O
June 22nd, 2011
9:18 am
nothing worse in a relationship then dealing with a bossy woman. Get out now before its too late. Only bad things can happen!
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
9:19 am
I like confident women, I like bossy women….they are strong. I’m the man in the relationship and that is never challenged. My wife is bossy and confident, but I know how to “keep her inline” (please don’t take that out of context) Actually I would not entertain a woman who was not bossy, but that’s just what I like.
Reio
June 22nd, 2011
9:21 am
You’re A Wimp, Purple Rain.
Lisa
June 22nd, 2011
9:23 am
Steven: “The second is bossiness, bitchiness, whatever you want to call it, it means you like to nag, you never shut up, and you are all around unbearable to be around. There is nothing wrong with being a confident woman, and you certainly shouldn’t let a man walk all over you, but you can be a reasonable person who isn’t constantly nagging her man about every little thing.”
“Bossiness is a top contributor to dying alone”
I couldn’t agree with you more….I am a woman and I hear the way my counter parts speak to their men and the way they “bark” at them and it make me want to leave, and I’m not a man. Women should take another approach to their conversations with these men and prephaps the relationship will improve. Women who nag men don’t realize this is not they way to go, but it is the way to get the man to leave and not look back.
Dan - Simply...
June 22nd, 2011
9:23 am
@dan
That 9:10 takes some people a lifetime of mistakes, study, and more mistakes to get.
Respect my man, respect
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
9:26 am
Furthermore, if your woman is constantly ‘bossy” towards you…she doesn’t respect, trust or feel secure in your care. Who is to blame for that, I mean you knew what you were getting into from the start.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
9:27 am
Bossy women have issues.
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
9:27 am
Good morning, all!
I’m not bossy, but I am strong-willed and have strong opinions. Those happen to be two qualities that I admire in a man, as well. It makes for richer discussions and, quite frankly, I’d rather be with a man who feels passionately about his beliefs than one who is passionate about nothing. For me, the key is for both of us to disagree agreeably.
Dan - Simply...
June 22nd, 2011
9:28 am
And let’s clear this up: being ‘confident’, ’stating your opinion’, or even ‘being strong willed’ is not the same thing as ‘bossy’.
‘Bossy’ is the habit, desire, and attempts to control situations by ordering people to conform to your idea of reality.
Now ’stating your opinion’, being ‘confident’ or ’strong willed’ and not know how/when to listen and consider other opinions (esp. that of your supposed significant other (SO)) – that’s just hard headed, contrary, and stubborn.
lisa
June 22nd, 2011
9:34 am
One Name …….KATE GOSLIN!!!
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
9:34 am
You have to admit that some weak men will interpret a strong confident woman as being “bossy” and on the other side…some women are just “bossy” …usually they are raise as a single child in a single parent household.
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
9:36 am
@Lisa: I can’t STAND her!!
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
9:39 am
Lisa….Ok THAT was funny!
Dan - Simply...
June 22nd, 2011
9:39 am
@PR
Nope. There are men that like to be told what to do – characterizing/calling them ‘weak’ is an arbitrary distinction and an inherent judgment on a person’s character with limited information.
And, single parent households don’t raise a ‘type’ of person, people are who they are.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
9:40 am
There are some men that like to be dominated.
BlackMagicWoman-NYC
June 22nd, 2011
9:43 am
UH….Mr. Stanley….hate to burst your bubble. But just because someone is over 30 and never married could also mean, they want to be mentally, emotionally, spiritually and financially ready to be married and stay married. They are not rushing to do so because some idiotic social stigma is telling them that 30 is the cut off for normalcy and that they are ph*cktards for not adhering to what “they” say is the set standard! And did it ever occur to you that not everybody sees marriage as something they want? Not every woman is dying to be wed and knocked up!
Oh an newsflash…unless you were a part of a multiple birth, you were born alone and you will die alone! So, your point is?????
PURPLE…get over here and do me!
I just had to make you laugh early this morning!
Tenacious….submission is NOT in my vocabulary…unless we put NOT in front of it. Submisison is for spineless twits who prefer to be doormats rather than put on their big girl/boy undies!
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
9:43 am
People become, more times than not, who they were raised to be or influenced by their environment. People are who they are…yes once they become adults. Yes some men like to be told what to do, but some men let women run all over them and then complain about it.
KeithB
June 22nd, 2011
9:45 am
I am married to one…so yes, they do get married.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
9:46 am
Well, BMW is over 30 and single, never been married….probably an only child raised…..and just told me to get over there and do her. Now I am no punk, but at this moment in time she is the Boss of me and I must do what she says. LOL
MsMarriedUp
June 22nd, 2011
9:46 am
No. Now confident women able to compromise and can hang with the give and take do get married and often stay married. Bossy people (male & female) who have rules and demands and want it mostly there way seem to opt for singlehood, which to say, isn’t nothing wrong with that. In fact, I’m sure a many of potential mates would prefer it!
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
9:46 am
BlackMajic…..are you single?
Dan - Simply...
June 22nd, 2011
9:47 am
@BMW
the day you accept that “submission” is not a bad word, you’ll be dangerous
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
9:49 am
I’m a bossy confident dude, with a bossy confident wife. There is nothing we can’t accomplish together.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
9:49 am
She’s already dangerous, please believe!
Hola, chica!
Orlando
June 22nd, 2011
9:49 am
Bossy women do end up alone. Me and my wife have a great life, financially and emotionally, but even though she makes more money than me, she will tell you I am the head of the house. Men, take back your house. Yes, I have a terrace level with all the man needs, pool table, home theater and bar, but i am not driven to go down there by her. I guess I have one of the rare relationships in Atl, she is beautiful, smart and she loves me. I feel good……
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
9:51 am
Leggs…..we believe you. But she will never find a solid strong stable man with her attitude.
abc
June 22nd, 2011
9:51 am
I don’t subscribe much to the ‘passionate about one’s beliefs’ stuff. I take it as passionate meaning an emotional commitment to one’s perspective. Once that emotional commitment to an opinion is there, no rationale matters anymore. It doesn’t make any sense to me to be that way. In fact, I think it’s a mistake to be that way. I figure passionate/emotional commitment to belief is why people in the Middle East act like whack jobs so much, for example.
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
9:52 am
UGA, did she say she was looking for one? I don’t remember that in her post; I’ll reread.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
9:52 am
Just be strong enough to tame her.
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
9:52 am
Believe me when I tell you confident women are easily submissive. A man’s man can get it done effortlessly. Don’t really know what all the whining is about.
Davidsblend
June 22nd, 2011
9:53 am
I think bossy chicks end up trying to run the show and that gets no play in my space. I usually ignore them or tell them no until they realize it’s not happening. No is a powerful word for someone who’s not used to it. Now confident women, a definite must…wimpy chicks are boring.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
9:53 am
Into the light….she didnt say that and I didnt imply that. Read again.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
9:54 am
Perhaps, but she’s mellowed a little over the years (LOL). Guess you don’t know much about her since you’re asking if she’s single.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
9:54 am
Celisea….there is a difference between confident and bossy.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
9:54 am
Leggs….it was a question….did I claim to know much about her?
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
9:58 am
Touche’ UGA (9:53) lol
Yes, UGA I get the difference. It’s all these dudes that couldn’t “conquer” some chick somewhere that’s whining. That’s getting to be the theme on here…”6-9, come and whine”
Dan - Simply...
June 22nd, 2011
9:58 am
@abc
Channeling passion towards a useful end is a good thing; as opposed to having passion with no direction or a non useful end.
M. (pronouced M dot)
June 22nd, 2011
9:58 am
Good day…
I think the issue of bossiness usually stems from people who have control issues and they wish they could control something tangible in their life and if they are single they probably cant control anything but themselves. She probably isnt a manager so not controlling employees, no kids to control, and so who does she pour this out on? Her relationship.
Also, her issue may not be bossiness, maybe she is just to combative. This is a huge issue with some women also.
Question, what if youre dating someone bossy in a relationship who is older than you? Dont they subconsciously think they can be bossy because they are older? If youre 32 and dating a 41 year old, she may think she is your mother! Older doesnt always equal mature.
@Steven
Interesting point about 30 year olds. My buddy said if she looks real good and never been married, somethings not right lol she is either crazy or a reformed woman…lol
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
9:59 am
Wow! Lots of defensiveness in here this morning. Truth be told, I’ll take that over abc’s asinine insinuation that being passionate about your beliefs makes you a card-carrying member of al Qaeda.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
10:00 am
Celisea….I have always heard “69 come eat anytime” hahaha.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
10:00 am
Tame that stallion!
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
10:01 am
Somebody please do.
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
10:05 am
Off topic, my coworker is here today. Somebody walked up and asked “did you have a good vacation” that was hi la ri ous as he had no comeback…lol
Back to the topic
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
10:06 am
@UGA ~ don’t get your knickers in a bunch. That question states you know nothing about her! That’s all my friend, that’s all.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
10:06 am
There are two types of men….you are either a hunter or a gatherer LOL
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
10:08 am
Leggs….not in a bunch at all. Just didnt want to get my words misunderstood.
Dan - Simply...
June 22nd, 2011
10:08 am
@PR – Again, bad supposition – you could be a chief running them other two
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
10:10 am
Cool…
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
10:12 am
“Interesting point about 30 year olds. My buddy said if she looks real good and never been married, somethings not right lol she is either crazy or a reformed woman…lol”
Reminds me of the saying “don’t trust a woman with a big ole butt!” JUST DUMB!
abc
June 22nd, 2011
10:13 am
Agreed, Dan — suppose one has a passionate and thus emotional commitment to the arts, born of creative drive. Or, one is passionate about achieving success in their small business. Passion can then result in effort required to produce and succeed.
On the other hand, passionate commitment to political and religious causes will result mostly in bias against the opposition. In a personal relationship sense, passion to drive a Benz and live in a McMansion is likely a destructive influence.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
10:18 am
Dan, only hunter’s become chiefs….upbringing
TenderRoni
June 22nd, 2011
10:19 am
I think bossiness is directly related to contolling. Both women and men have this trait/issue.
I have only been called bossy by one person- my daughter. And I told her I am the boss of her until she is 18, so sit your butt down and eat your broccoli!
Blackfoote
June 22nd, 2011
10:20 am
Bossy women do get married, they maintain just like any other woman. A man who knows how to handle it wont have any problem from her bossyness. If she’s strong you be the man and be stronger.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
10:23 am
Blackfoote, your 10:20 states it clearly.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
10:23 am
I bet Michelle is bossy to Barry…..poor thing.
Dan - Simply...
June 22nd, 2011
10:24 am
@PR – tell that to the murderous gatherer – nature
Blackfoote
June 22nd, 2011
10:29 am
TendeRoni:
After seeing how you spelled bossiness, and I still spelled it wrong please forgive me you’re the boss.
M. (pronouced M dot)
June 22nd, 2011
10:32 am
@Leggs
LOL that is a funny one…I also heard don’t trust women with a play brother..who makes up this stuff?
thewatchdog
June 22nd, 2011
10:35 am
That is a great question. I really like it. I am watching expert[female]witnesses testify in the Casey Anthony Trial. They are bossy[i can tell] just by looking at the tube. I would not be interested. They analyze information. Having said that, I could be interested but I like the sensuous woman that ooooooooozes sex appeal.
Blackfoote
June 22nd, 2011
10:38 am
Purple I don’t see what all the flak is about. Disecting and putting all this emotion in something fairly easy, in the wild females submit to the strong or fittest the weak and meek are left behind. Humans aren’t that much different, females are attracted to the strong or the fittest. That guy who can’t accept her for what she is, meek.
Commonsenseagitator
June 22nd, 2011
10:38 am
A confident woman is the sexisest type, a bossy woman is a witch.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
10:47 am
If she’s over 30,never been married,never declined or negated/broken an engagement but has been looking to be married all this while…..10,15 years of dating and not a single dude,after dating for a year or so has said,’let’s get married babes,what say u?’…
She needs to look in the mirror or ask auntie..Its on her!
Do bossy women get married?
Rarely! and if so briefly!
what’s for lunch?
O J Simpson
June 22nd, 2011
10:49 am
You fella’s do realize there is a cure for bossy women…..
kimmie
June 22nd, 2011
10:51 am
Morning All!
Blackfoote, like your comments!
Bossy women get married – I’m one!LOL!! I have just always known when, where & how to be bossy. I’m laid-back but respected at work. I’m more drill sargent-like with the kids, but in a funny way. I was like that growing up with my brothers. They would complain about my bossiness and I would laugh.
I have never liked being told what to do, unless you were my parent, a teacher or paying me! So I could never tolerate it in a relationship. I never needed another daddy, thank you, I had a great one. My relationship, though, is a stress-free, soft place to lay my head. I make sure it’s the same for him. So no controlling, bossiness from either of us. We are partners. Both of us are intelligent and have opinions and something to offer. He is very much respected as the head of the household. I am glad I don’t have to “wear the pants”! I am confident in his ability to handle the role and it’s a beautiful thing!
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
10:51 am
Oh snap, OJ is here with his take (lol).
BlackMagicWoman-NYC
June 22nd, 2011
10:53 am
UGA…yes I am. I find that I am happier that way.
I do not have an attitude, it’s my motto of MY life. Different strokes for different folks. I do not wear desperarion like a stinky cheap perfume. So I will not go pretending to be something I am not to have a man. I would be the only one unhappy because I am not true to myself! So to clear up and misunderstandings…I am not looking for a man. I want to live as stress free as possible. So adding a man would do the total opposite. I refuse to play the docile weakling so some lil’ boy’s ego won’t be bruised. The only stroking I will do is in bed! If a man doesn’t know who he is already then is is weak! I don’t need validation, so why would I get a guy who does?
DAN….submission is for the weak and I am NO weakling! Oh, and I am already dangerous!
HEEEEEY LEGGS! How ya’ doin’?
kimmie
June 22nd, 2011
10:54 am
What’s up, BMW?
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
10:55 am
Thought so….
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
10:58 am
Where did my comment go?
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
10:59 am
You either you do or you don’t….some people are built stronger than others. Some bow down, some bow out…others conquer.
Blackfoote, I agree with you again, maybe it was how I was raised.
Blackfoote
June 22nd, 2011
10:59 am
Mrs. Kimmie thanks.
BMW you never fail to bring the fire…..LOL
O J Simpson
June 22nd, 2011
11:00 am
Bossy women make you crazy…. have you thinking about trips to Chicago and small finger cuts. Anybody here know how to get blood out of car seat leather???
Dan - Simply...
June 22nd, 2011
11:01 am
@BMW
Submission is so not weak…hopefully one day you’ll really come to appreciate that.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
11:02 am
@Kimmie,
If u are bossy on the job but mummy-fied at home…there is no issue there.
If u are bossy in yr relationship and ur guy is equally bossy then we are awaiting the Clash of the Titans!
Now Bossy woman and gayish man(?), that’s a winner!
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
11:03 am
Third attempt….
kimmie – “My relationship, though, is a stress-free, soft place to lay my head. I make sure it’s the same for him.”
^THIS is what it’s all about.
kimmie
June 22nd, 2011
11:03 am
Funny, no one ever asks if bossy men get married. They do every day too.
It’s someone for everybody. There are some men and women that like to be controlled. There are those that like to be in control. Get in where you fit in. Don’t hide who you are, be yourself. Someone will be attracted to it. Some will even get off on the challenge to “tame you” or “bring you out of your shell”!
You just can’t make a blanket statement about people. “If you are over 30 & not married, something is wrong”, “Bossy women don’t get married”, etc. I see people break the mold every day.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
11:03 am
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
11:04 am
Hell, if ugly people can marry so can bossy people….NEXT!
kimmie
June 22nd, 2011
11:06 am
If u are bossy in yr relationship and ur guy is equally bossy then we are awaiting the Clash of the Titans!
Exiled – Man, I just don’t have the energy!LOL!! That’s why I love having a man that can handle things. Being the boss is tiring!
Blackfoote
June 22nd, 2011
11:06 am
LOL……@Leggs
Now aint that the truth…..LOL
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
11:09 am
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
11:09 am
co-signing Kimmie’s 11:03
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
11:09 am
Off topic: UGA, are you ready for some football?!?!?!
Simple Man....
June 22nd, 2011
11:10 am
Morning peeps…. Looks like Bossy has been beat to death!!
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
11:12 am
Funny, no one ever asks if bossy men get married. They do every day too
Thank you ma’am…
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
11:13 am
kimmie, I think it alls boils down to the man and woman knowing their roles and being held accountable to them. Not in a dominating or submissive manner, but just doing what you are supposed to do. My wife and I are both bossy, but we respect each other. It’s never a tug of war, but we do have disagreements and are both are strong willed…but we have like minds and give and take. Sometimes I sit back and smile while she is doing her thing and I know she finds comfort in knowing that I will handle whatever pops up. She gives me respect and I give her honor.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
11:17 am
Into the Light….I am always ready. Actually my youth football team has been doing speed and agility three times a week for the past month or so. I am just ready to see some hitting.
kimmie
June 22nd, 2011
11:18 am
Purple – Amen!
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
11:19 am
Least they’re not fined in youth football for hitting like they now are in pro!
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
11:20 am
UGA, this is way off topic…but humor me please. LOL Do you mess with the mothers of the youths on your team?
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
11:21 am
Kelis was “Bossy.” Now, she’s divorced. (lol – jokes, jokes)
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
11:25 am
Sometimes I sit back and smile while she is doing her thing and I know she finds comfort in knowing that I will handle whatever pops up. She gives me respect and I give her honor.
Now that’s what I’m talking about!!
UGA: I’m already counting down the days until Sept. 3 in the Dome….bring it, Smurf Turf.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
11:27 am
Purple Rain…..Do I do it intentionally?? No. However I have had relations with sevearal mothers that are on my teams from previous years. It is amazing what some mothers will do to ensure their kids get playing time.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
11:28 am
Into the Light…..I agree, I want to go to that game but I have not bought my tickets yet.
For Real
June 22nd, 2011
11:35 am
What up Blog Fam!!!
There is someone for everyone. With that being said I don’t find bossy women attractive. Hell I don’t like bossy people period. I find them to be selfish and only wanting of the boss title when things are good.
Most women make the mistake of confusing “strong/confidence” with being bossy. “Strong/confidence” is there for all to see. Bossy has to be loud and make scene in order to be seen.
Example: Last weekend I was at party where I heard a Bossy Lady say (very, very, very loudly) these words.
Bossy Chick: I will not apologize for my success and if I can’t find a man to marry me by the time I’m 38 I will find one and have a baby and tell him I don’t need a man!
Strong/Confident Chick: (In a calm voice) You do realize what you may call success someone else may consider it a failure. Also, why would you deprive a child of his father?
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
11:36 am
If u ugly but got a big bouncy booty,u fool a lotta men and proly get wifed up!
Yes maaam,I’ve seen that!
The Truth
June 22nd, 2011
11:37 am
Domination creates submission. If you don’t take charge of that situation she is forced to. Even the most submissive person takes the front when confronted with a more submissive person.
Unfortunately when the submissive party is the male it creates an unnatural balance. A lot of pressure is put on the woman, pressure she is not prepared to bare. A bossy married chick is looking for a “real man” to reign her ass in, 100% of the time. As soon as she finds one she’ll submit.
Dominant/bossy woman is an oxymoron. In my entire life I have never met one dominant female. I have met women that, due to circumstances, was forced to take charge of situations. Most of those times were due to some dude having dropped off on his responsibilities.
I worked with a very masculine gay chick once. Tats on her arm. Appeared hard to a lot of folk. She would straight smash chicks. Gang rush em and make them submit. When it came to work with the fellas she was not the same person.. She was simply filling a void for those chicks.
Oj, you have a point. A guy must have gears to get the job done. If she knows you’ll tap out at some point you have just submitted. You did go to the extreme though. LOL
Btw, good morning folks.
BMW, come over here and serve me breakfast.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
11:40 am
For Real, I don’t think that was a Bossy lady, but a crazy lady instead.
UGA, thought so…..lol
Exiled, I agree. That’s why I stay away from big bouncy booties and dairy products…..
For Real
June 22nd, 2011
11:46 am
“Dominant/bossy woman is an oxymoron” – Exactly and let me add intimidating. Oh and I can’t stand to hear a dude say about his woman “she won’t let me be the man”. Of course she will not you already gave her the title.
For Real
June 22nd, 2011
11:51 am
Purp you are probably right. Everyone stayed away from her after her statement. She was walking around the party trying to inject herself in everyone else’s conversation but no one would entertain her so she pronounced the party to be whack and stated that she’s jumping into her Benz and heading back to her big ass house!
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
11:56 am
For Real, you should have just jumped her bones and then give her 3 seconds of fury……
The Truth
June 22nd, 2011
11:58 am
For Real, one of my partners said those exact words. “She wouldn’t let me be the man”. WTF are you talking about? They’re getting divorced right now. Really, at this moment. lol
Kimmie, congrats on your wedding. Btw, what we had is over. I don’t share.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
12:03 pm
How can a woman not “let a man be a man”?
abc
June 22nd, 2011
12:11 pm
Wow! Lots of defensiveness in here this morning. Truth be told, I’ll take that over abc’s asinine insinuation that being passionate about your beliefs makes you a card-carrying member of al Qaeda.
You have a reading comprehension problem, Into the Light. Ordinarily I don’t respond to stupid trolling crap like that, but… that’s pretty stupid.
For Real
June 22nd, 2011
12:12 pm
Purp she is a beautiful lady (worthy of 19 seconds of fury for sure) but it’s obvious that she has been hurt and there is a void in her life that, that Benz and big ass house can’t fill. “Be careful of the shields you use to protect your heart for they will fend off good people while serving as a beacon to those that will harm you.”
Truth she took his manhood on the first day they met and he was fine with it until she started making him pee sitting down.
For Real
June 22nd, 2011
12:15 pm
Oh and abc I like you post about “passionate belives” and you are right where there is passion there is no room for logic or reason only what feels right.
Just wanna know?
June 22nd, 2011
12:22 pm
Whats wrong with peeing sittting down
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
12:23 pm
Hey Truth. Was thinking about you yesterday when I heard the song “Adore.” We both agreed a while ago it was a beautifully written song! Hope you’re doing well. You and the soon-to-be Mrs.
@ForReal ~ women who talk like that outloud, at gatherings, are somewhat insecure because they haven’t found a man yet. They blame that on the man and not on the issues they have with SELF. Also, probably said all that rolling her neck. An art I still cannot do…
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
12:30 pm
@abc ~ re: defensiveness. I think she was referring to the exchange between UGA and myself in first part of the morning (I may be mistaken).
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
12:31 pm
“Be careful of the shields you use to protect your heart for they will fend off good people while serving as a beacon to those that will harm you.” – LOVING IT, SO TRUE!
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
12:33 pm
How can you not love abc…lol
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
12:43 pm
Cel – you have got to respect his consistency even when you don’t agree with his position.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
12:47 pm
Leggs, the second part of your 12:23 is a ringer!
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
12:48 pm
SexyC – Exactly
BlackMagicWoman-NYC
June 22nd, 2011
1:01 pm
“Clash of the Titans” EXILED…now that is one of my favorite movies!
“Being the boss is tiring!” KIMMIE…thank God I have a lot of energy and stamina so I never grow tired!
Who says Bossy women don’t ever get married and stay married? Shall I introduce my mami?
I find it funny when “boys” think that they can make somebody submit. I am no dog and I do not require training. As a child I had to do what I was told…which of course caused rebellion. So as an adult….I will not be controlled like I’m some child who can’t yet think for myself. Any man coming at me with that “alpha male” crap gets the middle finger showing him to the nearest exit after I tell him where to kiss! Just because you were born with balls does NOT make you an authority figure! I progress, not regress. Why grown up only to be treated like a child again. That time will come when I am old, feeble and back in diapers. Until then….viva la BMW!!!!!
shay
June 22nd, 2011
1:05 pm
Bossy women can get married (and remain married) when they are not being “bossy” with their man. Being bossy at work, well sometimes that’s the nature of the beast. Being a team player at home is more the objective.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
1:17 pm
BMW, stand on one leg…now bark like a dog!
Scene: Purp chilling in a hot tub seemingly alone. Suddenly the waters starts to shuffle and up rises BMW
BMW:”Purple, the royal penis is clean”
Purple:”You missed a spot”
(Purple pushes BMW’s head back under water)
ANNNND SCENE!
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
1:23 pm
How charming, abc.
SlimNumeroUno
June 22nd, 2011
1:36 pm
Howdy folks….looks like I missed a lot but not sure what I just walked into….Hmmmm BMW deep see diving for eel…wooooow
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
1:37 pm
Nobody puts Baby in the corner….
@PR ~ stop forcing that woman underwater!
kimmie
June 22nd, 2011
1:38 pm
Truth – Thanks. That’s okay, I understand. Us bossy women don’t know how to share anyway.LOL!!!
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
1:42 pm
Leggs….”I’ve had the time of my life….”
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
1:44 pm
Leggs, she likes it rough can’t you tell by her bossiness. LOL
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
1:44 pm
I am not my brother’s keeper…
Again, PR, you can’t make that woman submit to you.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
1:45 pm
Laughing at and with you, UGA!
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
1:45 pm
Kimmie…..some bossy women love to “share”.
kimmie
June 22nd, 2011
1:46 pm
UGA – It’s an inside joke, me & Truth!
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
1:46 pm
Yep, love to share their “wrath!”
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
1:49 pm
Does abc know In the Light is a woman?
Funny and ironic how he gives her a public,sharia law kinda public flogging but calling ITL somebody with middle eastern-like(Alqueida) passion and beliefs.
BMW?
U dating now over there in NYC?
UGA?
so have u fielded the kids of the mums whom u slept with.
How are those relations not intentional?
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
1:50 pm
kimmie, I had you pegged all wrong. And to think I was sad when you got married but you were just entertaining many suitors virtually. I am vitually heart broken. LOL
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
1:52 pm
Yay! Fun blog is back!!!
kimmie
June 22nd, 2011
1:53 pm
Purple – I cannot stand that “let a man be a man” statement! With that being said, I do understand the concept. Basically I take it to mean a woman not interferring with the man being the head of the household. It doesn’t mean she can’t have her input. But at the end of the day the final decision is his on behalf of the entire household.
Mr_NYC
June 22nd, 2011
1:53 pm
Commercial break – any of you kind folks care to share a few suggestions on spots to catch live music in the ATL? And nice parks for relaxing walks. Visiting this weekend and could use a tip or two. Thanks.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
1:56 pm
I’m a peacock, you’ve got to let me FLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
kimmie
June 22nd, 2011
1:58 pm
Purple – It was common knowledge that Truth & I were blog married & blog divorced. When he went over to Kuwait, we realized how much we meant to each other, so were still “involved”, so to speak. But neither of us expected the other to blog-twiddle our thumbs. When someone else of blog-interest came along, like you, we were both free.
Even though Truth & I are no more, we hold a small place in each other’s blog heart!
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
1:58 pm
Exiled….i must be honest…..they may have played a little more than they should have.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
2:00 pm
kimmie, you just showed me that you have game! Do you still love me? (said with droppy eyes) Let me be a man….lol
kimmie
June 22nd, 2011
2:02 pm
Purple – I never stopped!
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
2:02 pm
UGA, I like your honesty. LOL I have a buddy who coaches little league and has a field day with the mothers.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
2:03 pm
kimmie, you are talking me right out of my clothes…..you words are music to my ears….you really going to pay my beeper bill?
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
2:03 pm
PR – Your friend is shoplifting the pootie
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
2:06 pm
Celisea, well they left the pootie in an open market. Now that would be a reality show I would watch. LOL
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
2:07 pm
UGA?
I guess these are single mums u taking about right?
Ever slayed a bossy mum that wanted kid playing time favors? How did she rate in the sack….still bossy?
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:07 pm
@Mr_NYC ~ Have you heard about WindDown Wednesdays? It’s live jazz concert at Centennial Park from 5-8. FREE. There are vendors there selling food and drink. The artist performing this evening (rain or shine) is the unique sound of Phillippia.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
2:08 pm
Talking
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:09 pm
Exiled….it has actually happened a few times…They rate ok, the conversation during the act is always somewhat odd.
kimmie
June 22nd, 2011
2:11 pm
you really going to pay my beeper bill?
Purple – Come on, I can’t believe you are asking bossy ME that!! Us bossy women don’t like whiny, cheap, technologically-stunted men!LOL!!
Mr_NYC
June 22nd, 2011
2:11 pm
@Leggs, no that one is new to me. Looking mainly for Saturday afternoon and evening. Even a decent place with nice food and music is cool too. A jazz club or the like.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:12 pm
“technologically-stunted men” – CRAZY!
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
2:13 pm
Leggs, he said he was coming for a weekend not a wednesday, c’mon tink tink..LOL
kimmie, you are right. What should I do now, your laundry and paint your toes? (okay enough of acting like a wimp) lol
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:14 pm
I’m looking for the same thing, Mr_NYC! I’ve heard the W has a nice jazz theme, but don’t know which days!
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:15 pm
@PR ~ reading is fundamental. I didn’t read that part.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:15 pm
And, don’t need to tink tink. Just need to read read.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
2:17 pm
UGA!?
I understand.
I wldnt want a bossy woman to rap on my mike either.
Might suffer a fracture there in the process.
Yea,I get pretty stiff there ladies!
But a good, really good sticking,if u can handle it.
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
2:18 pm
Poor Little Tink-Tink. (lmao)
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
2:21 pm
“They rate ok, the conversation during the act is always somewhat odd”
Okay, that one gave me a mental image that had me laughing out loud.
Bossy Mom: C’mon…who’s your clean-up hitter?
UGA: Johnny is
BM: Say it louder! Who’s batting clean-up
UGA: John…ny…issss……
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
2:22 pm
Leggs, LOL!
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
2:23 pm
LOL @ Leggs.
Mr. NYC – how about Cafe 290?
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
2:23 pm
Sexy Cool, LOL
ITL, that skit was funny!
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:26 pm
ITL…..GREAT!
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:29 pm
@ITL ~ I was thinking along the same lines as you. Bed talk cannot possibly be arousing!
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
2:30 pm
If UGA does not compliment Johnny on any aspects of his game or appears too critical,then she dries up…no amount of finguring will do it.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:30 pm
Leggs….ABSOLUTELY it can be….
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
2:31 pm
@UGA: I think she meant when discussing kids; at least that’s the way I read it. I agree with you on the ABSOLUTELY; me like a little talky-talky…
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:33 pm
Oh, cool…it didn’t sound like it when you said
“the conversation during the act is always somewhat odd.”
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:34 pm
Yes, when discussing the kids…who didn’t get that (besides UGA)?
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:35 pm
Leggs….that is true….if we start talking about the kid during the “act” it is an immediate turn off.
GET THIS…..about two years ago one of the fathers asked me if I wanted to join him and his wife in an escapade…..haha
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:36 pm
OMG! By any means necessary, I’m gettig my child on that team…that’s rich!
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
2:37 pm
UGA….?
and….
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
2:37 pm
Where the heck do you coach, UGA??? Sodom or Gomorrah?
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:38 pm
A woman was arrested Monday for sending threatening letters to her boy’s coaches and to the principal when her son didn’t make the team.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:38 pm
ITL….no I am up in Gwinnett….
I did not take him up on the offer. However he didnt know that his wife and I had already messed around about a week prior.
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
2:39 pm
“Now batting clean-up for the Sodom Satellites, Little Johnny…most of you already know his mom”
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:40 pm
ITL….i love your banter.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
2:45 pm
Wow….UGA…!!
now that’s corruption….
No,I’m not judging u!
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:46 pm
Exiled…corruption? No…..just enjoying life and the position.
Just wanna know?
June 22nd, 2011
2:48 pm
“However he didnt know that his wife and I had already messed around about a week prior.”
Right…Dude was probably hiding in the closet with a Video camera!!!
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
2:49 pm
Thanks, UGA. You should write a book…or at least submit your life story to Marc Cherry.
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
2:51 pm
must…resist…urge…to…ask…which…position…..
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:52 pm
That is funny…..as a matter of fact another woman wanted to video the experience.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
2:54 pm
ITL??
I wld say doggie…but UGA can answer ur sky question.
What’s yr fav position urself, by the way?! Why?
...
June 22nd, 2011
2:54 pm
horny much?
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
2:54 pm
Sly not sky
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
2:54 pm
Not speechless often.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:55 pm
I meant coaching position…..
BlackMagicWoman-NYC
June 22nd, 2011
2:57 pm
PURPLE…. I’m gonna kick your @$$!
Now sing, “she’s your queen to-oo beeeeee”!
SLIM…you are a true nut girl! Deep sea eel diving!
EXILED….I have a roster here in NYC. But I have a starting 5 as well!
It’s looking like United Nations in this piece!
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
2:58 pm
So, SC….did you have to endure the catcalls this morning, or was grandpa still sleeping?
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:58 pm
I will be in NYC next week….
Simple Man
June 22nd, 2011
3:00 pm
OK…all late and off topic..
Why is my assistant in the copy room listening to the “Wobble” song all loud???
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
3:01 pm
It was raining when I left for the office this morning. So, I drove to the West End Station. (I don’t like driving my truck for distances that are less than a mile if I don’t have to. Plus, since I had to drive anyway, it made more sense to me to go ahead and drive to a station where I wouldn’t have to transfer at Five Points.)
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
3:02 pm
BMW, what did I do? LOL
Sexy Cool, I’m with you. lol
UGA have you ever been married?
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
3:03 pm
yes
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
3:04 pm
UGA?
One more question and im done….
Did the mums offer u a full course meal….I mean,no holds barred?
Or they were tight on doing some routines..
I guess the very last question is:
Are u hiring?
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
3:05 pm
I think Exiled may be typing with one hand while reading UGA’s story. LOL
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
3:06 pm
UGA – You telling tales?
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
3:08 pm
LOL@PR. We might have to open the blog bar early today. Exiled is going to need a cold beverage (and a cigarette).
Leggs, maybe you should introduce UGA to your whip.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
3:08 pm
Exiled…..no holds barred??? Not sure I understand the question. Keep in mind I have been coaching for over 7 years.
BlackMagicWoman-NYC
June 22nd, 2011
3:09 pm
PURPLE….do you dine on Southern Cuisine?
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
3:10 pm
I like the Wobble song. It grew on me!
@UGA ~ was it very awkward when the relationship ended and the kid was still on your team? Guess you didn’t have any remorse when interacting with the mom and dad at the same time???
I was attracted to my daughter’s coach and he to me, but explained to me he had dated a few of the parents on his team over the years and finally told himself he would not be doing that anymore…too much drama when there’s a nasty breakup. Fine with me because what he didn’t know is I didn’t want to necessarily date him then, but definitely wanted to pluck him!
@WillieD ~ if you’re lurking, the only time I actively contemplated a maintenance man (LOLOLOL)!
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
3:12 pm
@BMW ~ you missed the convo on Monday when there was a lot of talk on Southern Cuisine. I see you watch the show as well. Do you thin it represents the dating scene in the real world???
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
3:12 pm
UGA?
another version to the question is:
Did they wholly and totally submit to ur commands…when u got down to bizzness?
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
3:12 pm
Leggs…no it was never really ackward because we both knew that it wasnt going to turn into a relationship. Just a fun time and that is it.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
3:13 pm
BMW, yes…yes I do…from the back on occasion!
On to the next team mom, it’s not a problem if her kid was 3rd string and she was humping the coach for him to move up….LOL, that’s hilarious…All I know is that I will be taking my son to all of his games….alone!
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
3:14 pm
UGA?
and the hiring part. I am a brother….
An African brother and wld luv to come on board!
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
3:15 pm
PR….it happens way more often than you may think. Why do you think so many guys want to be coaches when it does not pay anything?
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
3:16 pm
Exiled….sorry dude I am not AA……. However you are still my brother.
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
3:17 pm
Leggs – Fine with me because what he didn’t know is I didn’t want to necessarily date him then, but definitely wanted to pluck him!
I remember you mentioning him. Sooo if that’s all you wanted, why should it have mattered if he dated the other women in the circle/kids’ moms? Just asking.
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
3:18 pm
Everything is cool until you are on the the news because of a violent domestic incident.
Everything is fun until it isn’t.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
3:18 pm
UGA I know it happens, I mentioned earlier that one of my friends cleans up with the mothers.
Exiled, go find yourself a rex lead do the back ground check and become a soccer coach
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
3:18 pm
PR?
Alone?! that made me laugh…
U said ye wife is bossy,remember?
So u be thinking about UGA when u protest profusely she can’t take junior but U?
BlackMagicWoman-NYC
June 22nd, 2011
3:18 pm
LEGGS….yeah I watch the show. I miss ATL….so I at least get to see it on TV! Sniff sniff! I believe some of it is true because I have experienced it myself. But of course some is far fetched.
PURPLE….. in my British accent….”You naughty boy! Go to the corner for your time out”
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
3:20 pm
I fear to speak to morals (thanks WillieD)…j/k/b/n/r…ummm what’s up with getting a kick out of doing folks wives? That happens. Let me rephrase, what’s up with having no decency and happily putting it out there that your screw no only the team moms but the married ones? What’s up with that UGA. You gonna burn dude. Don’t judge me for saying so
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
3:21 pm
Where is Willie D today????
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
3:21 pm
Exiled, my wife is bossy and I am the boss…don’t get it confused..Remember I eat and you don’t better watch your wife. LOL
BMW, NO!
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
3:21 pm
Celisea….burn? Arent you being very judgemental for saying that alone?
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
3:23 pm
Celisea, UGA is who he is. If he is ever caught he will just have to pay the price, the wives are just as guilty. I am I have heard of supporting your kids and what not but damn….Maybe that is why Lebron james mother is so loose.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
3:23 pm
PR?
I don’t eat at home..
I mow!
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
3:24 pm
PR….agreed….this is probably my last year coaching.
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
3:24 pm
Nope, not being judgemental…if you don’t burn you’re bound to have your frame torn out. Either way…. Man that mess ain’t cute. You might have a couple of folks to engage but for the most part and a year or so ago, youda got stoned on here for bragging about doing other folks wives.
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
3:25 pm
PR – I agree, both parties are wrong but at least they ain’t blogging about it…not here anyway…lol
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
3:26 pm
@Celisea ~ it never bothered me that he dated other moms over the years. He didn’t want to do that anymore. It was his call. “…and finally told himself he would not be doing that anymore…” Therefore, my lost.
Peace ~ Bag of quotes thrown in air!
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
3:27 pm
Celisea….your comments are hilarious…..no one on here knows who I am. You dont even know what park I coach at.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
3:28 pm
Celisea…also you must come to the realization that there are cases where two consenting adults do not want to date and only have sex.
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
3:28 pm
Okay, I’m going back to work….my moral compass is endangered here…lol
So I’ll leave asking UGA this…what’s worse…Bragging about something the whole world knows is wrong and it’s cool with you getting your kicks and laughter or you brag and no one says a word
or
Someones says man you’re wrong for that? It ain’t judging..you know better.
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
3:29 pm
UGA1999 – Let’s say this, I’ve already peeped your style and I think you’re a regular.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
3:30 pm
Celisea…..why is it wrong?
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
3:30 pm
Just seems all around slimey – on all parts, for all reasons.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
3:31 pm
SexyCool….why?
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
3:32 pm
Are sins ranked in the bible Celisea?
there is felony and misdemeanor too with Heaven and Hell?
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
3:34 pm
You’re coaching to get pootie.
You’re banging team mom pootie.
You’re banging married pootie.
You’re being solicited for threesomes by married men.
You’re being solicited to be taped by other team mom pootie.
Team moms are banging you to advance child.
All around slimey.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
3:36 pm
Yep, some people aren’t worth trying to guide right you just have to let them learn their own lesson.
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
3:37 pm
Exactly PR…still he got it in writing. Let’s just say this (and I’m not wishing any ill however it’s bound to happen in the path you’re taking), when you either get a hole planted in your skull or beat senseless…then ask yaself…why? why is it wrong?
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
3:37 pm
SexyCool…..you call it slimey….I call it fun….only live once.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
3:38 pm
And that is Exiled dream job. LOL
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
3:39 pm
Honey MMEELLO ranks right down there with him…lol
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
3:39 pm
Celisea….you are overreacting…..
Creflo
June 22nd, 2011
3:39 pm
Damn, If I would have know the dating blog had gone all moral on me, Iwould have started using my real name a long time ago….Now..GO BACK!!! and support my friend!!!
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
3:40 pm
I believe though someone reminded a couple of weeks back….THIS AIN’T MY BLOG.
night folks
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
3:40 pm
UGA, are you still married? If not why did you get divorced? Did you cheat on your wife when you were married…did she cheat on you? Were yall swingers?
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
3:40 pm
Again – Everything is fun until it isn’t.
But hey…you are all adults. Do what you do.
I’m just a faceless name on a screen. My opinion means nothing.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
3:40 pm
I don’t care how many mums UGA bangs,he’s better than Eddie Long and the multitude of his followers who pay him homage and pack his place of sin every Sunday!
Let the Real Church say Amen!
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
3:41 pm
Wait…so we’re saying that UGA’s stories are fact and not fiction? Not sure I’m buying that. I know there are crazy parents out there, but dads and videos and lions and tigers and bears?? Naah.
Creflo
June 22nd, 2011
3:41 pm
call 911!!! The other peoples coochie police is in the building!
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
3:42 pm
Before I go….MMEELLOO, sounds like you’re just made EL ain’t invited you over. Make me believe you would decline the offer.
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
3:43 pm
va jay jay or dookie shute…I just believe you’d do either.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
3:43 pm
Exiled how do you figure, at least Eddie Long payed the men involved and they were not married? Besides I always find it odd when non church goers or non christians ridicule “Church” or religion. But knowingly messing with a married person is scum. Single mom’s who cares.
Simple Man..
June 22nd, 2011
3:44 pm
ITL..I fully believe the daddy wants to Video mommy thing!!! Its never happened to me, but I do know of couples that are azz deep into the swinging, open relationship, swapping free love thing….
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
3:45 pm
FACEPALM at Celisea’s 3:43. LOL, that was brutal.
Simple Man..
June 22nd, 2011
3:46 pm
Purp, Who do you think is worse, the married person that is creeping or the single person they are creeping with???
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
3:47 pm
Simple,both are just as guilty imo only if the single person knew that the other individual is married. But a lot of times people lie and act single.
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
3:48 pm
UGA’s idea of fun is having team moms and dads tossing panties and boxer briefs at him. Hilarious.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
3:49 pm
Celisea!
It’s ur prerogative….free at last to think however u want!
no dookey here!
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
3:50 pm
PR
U equate EL with religion? How so?
UGA hasn’t raped anybody!
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
3:53 pm
EL wasn’t accused of rape. Inappropriate sexual conduct…or words to that effect…but not with rape…at least not to my knowledge.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
3:57 pm
Inappropriate is a euphemism,why do u think there was a lawsuit?
There us no lawsuit in UGA as if now that u and I know of,is there!
All consensual albeit immoral
Now who here hasnt had their fair share of immoral stuff?
Who is casting the first stone?
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
3:59 pm
There is no lawsuit against UGA….meant to say.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
4:01 pm
If a husband who did not consent to his wife doing the ol’ ball coach. There would be a lawsuit.
Some debates are just silly, and not worth having.
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
4:01 pm
And “Inappropriate sexual conduct” ain’t limited the Eddie Longs…that term sticks to dudes sticking wives that ain’t theirs.
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
4:03 pm
AT least not yet…but when/IF there is…it will not only be against him, it will also be against the entire organization/recreation department that he coaches for.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
4:03 pm
and same husband is inviting u for threesome
then lawsuit?
Now that’s silly and not worthy of a jury’s time
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
4:06 pm
I’m sure there is more than one married woman in the lot.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
4:06 pm
Yea,UGA is an adult…I hope.
Let this adult play by his adult self and not try to be judged by other adult sinners.
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
4:08 pm
Meelow – refer back to my 340p comment.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
4:14 pm
Sexycool?
U right,3.40!
I hope to meet these other critical Saints in Heaven!
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
4:14 pm
I might be naive, but I am still not convinced there is this much messiness going on within one little league team. Some of the stories might be based in fact, but I think UGA was very free with his embellishments.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
4:16 pm
Exiled, you won’t be anywhere never heaven, how’s that for critical. LOL
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
4:18 pm
near
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
4:18 pm
ITL, I believe him.
Simple Man..
June 22nd, 2011
4:18 pm
ITL, How many people are there in your office???
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
4:23 pm
PR!
I’m not Roman catholic,so I got a chance! Lol
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
4:26 pm
LMAO
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
4:35 pm
Seriously, PR? Seems more like fiction/wishful thinking to me. Thus my Marc Cherry (creator of Desparate Housewives) reference.
Wondering why you would ask, Simp, but 400 or so….
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
4:36 pm
I guess at the end of the day, I don’t like to think that people are really that icky in real life.
Simple Man..
June 22nd, 2011
4:39 pm
ITL, On a little league team there are maybe 12 to 15 kids…Just trying to figure out why you would not think in a group of 15 or so parents, there would not be 6 or 7 that would be open for all kinds of after hours activities. Now in your office of 400, I would be willing to bet I could find EVERY Kind of Freak you could imagine…..
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
4:40 pm
Oh…but ITL, they are….obviously…
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
4:47 pm
Gross, Simp. I think I just threw up a little in my mouth.
Obviously disgusting!
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
4:47 pm
ITL?
If u live in Atl,iching is the business!
Are u kinda , still clean and fresh sexually?
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
4:50 pm
Have mercy. I need a glass of wine.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
4:50 pm
ITL
and don’t tell me u clean but u got a toy either..
that’s sodomy if we go by the celebrated bible…
some of these thumpers practice selective bible reading
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
4:51 pm
Exiled how would you feel if it were your wife or concubine that UGA was being an adult with? LOL
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
4:55 pm
I’m outta here. Y’all have a good night and be careful out there.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
4:58 pm
PR?
the question assumes I get to know at some point..
I would be mad,take it on the chin like a man and boss her out! It’s her prerogative to do as she pleases….
If it’s me and she finds out,I expect her to get mad but stay!
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
4:59 pm
Exiled, you are a very interesting individual. LOL
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
5:03 pm
I believe in polygamy remember!
so cheating by a man is winked at in polygamy circles..
Convince ur wife to turn to that religion PR
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
5:06 pm
Why is polygamy multiple wives but not multiple husbands?
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
5:08 pm
Exiled, sorry bro I am a one woman man.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
5:09 pm
The bible,that most of these folks quote but selectively apply would provide an answer Sexxcool..
The bible has the original polygamists we emulate…
Abraham and all the legion of them..
Philandering wives were and are sti cast aside
Polygamy is holy!