Do bossy women get married?
My friend Allen is dating a smart woman who runs her own company. Allen seems to be really impressed with her now but she told them if they met 5 years ago, he probably would have run for the hills.
She admitted that before they met, she was a real piece of work – very strong-willed, opinionated, and well bossy. She finally realized this was not serving her well on the dating scene. According to her, bossy women don’t get asked out – and few end up with the men they want.
Once she started to find a balance, she noticed a big difference in the type of men she met and attracted. This makes me think about the fine line single women often have to worry about: bossy versus confident. Men love confident women! A confident woman who is too bossy? Well, let’s just say some men view them as a challenge – others think of them as the type to avoid.
Ladies, have you found it difficult or challenging to project your confidence without appearing overconfident or bossy? Is it a good idea to to tone it down when you meet someone new? Would that be misleading?
Guys do you believe that some women can really be attractive while being confident and bossy? Do you think women should balance it more so they don’t send the wrong message?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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321 comments Add your comment
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:35 pm
Leggs….that is true….if we start talking about the kid during the “act” it is an immediate turn off.
GET THIS…..about two years ago one of the fathers asked me if I wanted to join him and his wife in an escapade…..haha
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:36 pm
OMG! By any means necessary, I’m gettig my child on that team…that’s rich!
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
2:37 pm
UGA….?
and….
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
2:37 pm
Where the heck do you coach, UGA??? Sodom or Gomorrah?
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:38 pm
A woman was arrested Monday for sending threatening letters to her boy’s coaches and to the principal when her son didn’t make the team.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:38 pm
ITL….no I am up in Gwinnett….
I did not take him up on the offer. However he didnt know that his wife and I had already messed around about a week prior.
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
2:39 pm
“Now batting clean-up for the Sodom Satellites, Little Johnny…most of you already know his mom”
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:40 pm
ITL….i love your banter.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
2:45 pm
Wow….UGA…!!
now that’s corruption….
No,I’m not judging u!
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:46 pm
Exiled…corruption? No…..just enjoying life and the position.
Just wanna know?
June 22nd, 2011
2:48 pm
“However he didnt know that his wife and I had already messed around about a week prior.”
Right…Dude was probably hiding in the closet with a Video camera!!!
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
2:49 pm
Thanks, UGA. You should write a book…or at least submit your life story to Marc Cherry.
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
2:51 pm
must…resist…urge…to…ask…which…position…..
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:52 pm
That is funny…..as a matter of fact another woman wanted to video the experience.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
2:54 pm
ITL??
I wld say doggie…but UGA can answer ur sky question.
What’s yr fav position urself, by the way?! Why?
...
June 22nd, 2011
2:54 pm
horny much?
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
2:54 pm
Sly not sky
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
2:54 pm
Not speechless often.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:55 pm
I meant coaching position…..
BlackMagicWoman-NYC
June 22nd, 2011
2:57 pm
PURPLE…. I’m gonna kick your @$$!
Now sing, “she’s your queen to-oo beeeeee”!
SLIM…you are a true nut girl! Deep sea eel diving!
EXILED….I have a roster here in NYC. But I have a starting 5 as well!
It’s looking like United Nations in this piece!
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
2:58 pm
So, SC….did you have to endure the catcalls this morning, or was grandpa still sleeping?
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:58 pm
I will be in NYC next week….
Simple Man
June 22nd, 2011
3:00 pm
OK…all late and off topic..
Why is my assistant in the copy room listening to the “Wobble” song all loud???
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
3:01 pm
It was raining when I left for the office this morning. So, I drove to the West End Station. (I don’t like driving my truck for distances that are less than a mile if I don’t have to. Plus, since I had to drive anyway, it made more sense to me to go ahead and drive to a station where I wouldn’t have to transfer at Five Points.)
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
3:02 pm
BMW, what did I do? LOL
Sexy Cool, I’m with you. lol
UGA have you ever been married?
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
3:03 pm
yes
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
3:04 pm
UGA?
One more question and im done….
Did the mums offer u a full course meal….I mean,no holds barred?
Or they were tight on doing some routines..
I guess the very last question is:
Are u hiring?
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
3:05 pm
I think Exiled may be typing with one hand while reading UGA’s story. LOL
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
3:06 pm
UGA – You telling tales?
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
3:08 pm
LOL@PR. We might have to open the blog bar early today. Exiled is going to need a cold beverage (and a cigarette).
Leggs, maybe you should introduce UGA to your whip.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
3:08 pm
Exiled…..no holds barred??? Not sure I understand the question. Keep in mind I have been coaching for over 7 years.
BlackMagicWoman-NYC
June 22nd, 2011
3:09 pm
PURPLE….do you dine on Southern Cuisine?
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
3:10 pm
I like the Wobble song. It grew on me!
@UGA ~ was it very awkward when the relationship ended and the kid was still on your team? Guess you didn’t have any remorse when interacting with the mom and dad at the same time???
I was attracted to my daughter’s coach and he to me, but explained to me he had dated a few of the parents on his team over the years and finally told himself he would not be doing that anymore…too much drama when there’s a nasty breakup. Fine with me because what he didn’t know is I didn’t want to necessarily date him then, but definitely wanted to pluck him!
@WillieD ~ if you’re lurking, the only time I actively contemplated a maintenance man (LOLOLOL)!
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
3:12 pm
@BMW ~ you missed the convo on Monday when there was a lot of talk on Southern Cuisine. I see you watch the show as well. Do you thin it represents the dating scene in the real world???
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
3:12 pm
UGA?
another version to the question is:
Did they wholly and totally submit to ur commands…when u got down to bizzness?
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
3:12 pm
Leggs…no it was never really ackward because we both knew that it wasnt going to turn into a relationship. Just a fun time and that is it.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
3:13 pm
BMW, yes…yes I do…from the back on occasion!
On to the next team mom, it’s not a problem if her kid was 3rd string and she was humping the coach for him to move up….LOL, that’s hilarious…All I know is that I will be taking my son to all of his games….alone!
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
3:14 pm
UGA?
and the hiring part. I am a brother….
An African brother and wld luv to come on board!
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
3:15 pm
PR….it happens way more often than you may think. Why do you think so many guys want to be coaches when it does not pay anything?
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
3:16 pm
Exiled….sorry dude I am not AA……. However you are still my brother.
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
3:17 pm
Leggs – Fine with me because what he didn’t know is I didn’t want to necessarily date him then, but definitely wanted to pluck him!
I remember you mentioning him. Sooo if that’s all you wanted, why should it have mattered if he dated the other women in the circle/kids’ moms? Just asking.
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
3:18 pm
Everything is cool until you are on the the news because of a violent domestic incident.
Everything is fun until it isn’t.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
3:18 pm
UGA I know it happens, I mentioned earlier that one of my friends cleans up with the mothers.
Exiled, go find yourself a rex lead do the back ground check and become a soccer coach
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
3:18 pm
PR?
Alone?! that made me laugh…
U said ye wife is bossy,remember?
So u be thinking about UGA when u protest profusely she can’t take junior but U?
BlackMagicWoman-NYC
June 22nd, 2011
3:18 pm
LEGGS….yeah I watch the show. I miss ATL….so I at least get to see it on TV! Sniff sniff! I believe some of it is true because I have experienced it myself. But of course some is far fetched.
PURPLE….. in my British accent….”You naughty boy! Go to the corner for your time out”
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
3:20 pm
I fear to speak to morals (thanks WillieD)…j/k/b/n/r…ummm what’s up with getting a kick out of doing folks wives? That happens. Let me rephrase, what’s up with having no decency and happily putting it out there that your screw no only the team moms but the married ones? What’s up with that UGA. You gonna burn dude. Don’t judge me for saying so
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
3:21 pm
Where is Willie D today????
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
3:21 pm
Exiled, my wife is bossy and I am the boss…don’t get it confused..Remember I eat and you don’t better watch your wife. LOL
BMW, NO!
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
3:21 pm
Celisea….burn? Arent you being very judgemental for saying that alone?
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
3:23 pm
Celisea, UGA is who he is. If he is ever caught he will just have to pay the price, the wives are just as guilty. I am I have heard of supporting your kids and what not but damn….Maybe that is why Lebron james mother is so loose.