Do bossy women get married?
My friend Allen is dating a smart woman who runs her own company. Allen seems to be really impressed with her now but she told them if they met 5 years ago, he probably would have run for the hills.
She admitted that before they met, she was a real piece of work – very strong-willed, opinionated, and well bossy. She finally realized this was not serving her well on the dating scene. According to her, bossy women don’t get asked out – and few end up with the men they want.
Once she started to find a balance, she noticed a big difference in the type of men she met and attracted. This makes me think about the fine line single women often have to worry about: bossy versus confident. Men love confident women! A confident woman who is too bossy? Well, let’s just say some men view them as a challenge – others think of them as the type to avoid.
Ladies, have you found it difficult or challenging to project your confidence without appearing overconfident or bossy? Is it a good idea to to tone it down when you meet someone new? Would that be misleading?
Guys do you believe that some women can really be attractive while being confident and bossy? Do you think women should balance it more so they don’t send the wrong message?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
1:17 pm
BMW, stand on one leg…now bark like a dog!
Scene: Purp chilling in a hot tub seemingly alone. Suddenly the waters starts to shuffle and up rises BMW
BMW:”Purple, the royal penis is clean”
Purple:”You missed a spot”
(Purple pushes BMW’s head back under water)
ANNNND SCENE!
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
1:23 pm
How charming, abc.
SlimNumeroUno
June 22nd, 2011
1:36 pm
Howdy folks….looks like I missed a lot but not sure what I just walked into….Hmmmm BMW deep see diving for eel…wooooow
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
1:37 pm
Nobody puts Baby in the corner….
@PR ~ stop forcing that woman underwater!
kimmie
June 22nd, 2011
1:38 pm
Truth – Thanks. That’s okay, I understand. Us bossy women don’t know how to share anyway.LOL!!!
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
1:42 pm
Leggs….”I’ve had the time of my life….”
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
1:44 pm
Leggs, she likes it rough can’t you tell by her bossiness. LOL
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
1:44 pm
I am not my brother’s keeper…
Again, PR, you can’t make that woman submit to you.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
1:45 pm
Laughing at and with you, UGA!
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
1:45 pm
Kimmie…..some bossy women love to “share”.
kimmie
June 22nd, 2011
1:46 pm
UGA – It’s an inside joke, me & Truth!
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
1:46 pm
Yep, love to share their “wrath!”
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
1:49 pm
Does abc know In the Light is a woman?
Funny and ironic how he gives her a public,sharia law kinda public flogging but calling ITL somebody with middle eastern-like(Alqueida) passion and beliefs.
BMW?
U dating now over there in NYC?
UGA?
so have u fielded the kids of the mums whom u slept with.
How are those relations not intentional?
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
1:50 pm
kimmie, I had you pegged all wrong. And to think I was sad when you got married but you were just entertaining many suitors virtually. I am vitually heart broken. LOL
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
1:52 pm
Yay! Fun blog is back!!!
kimmie
June 22nd, 2011
1:53 pm
Purple – I cannot stand that “let a man be a man” statement! With that being said, I do understand the concept. Basically I take it to mean a woman not interferring with the man being the head of the household. It doesn’t mean she can’t have her input. But at the end of the day the final decision is his on behalf of the entire household.
Mr_NYC
June 22nd, 2011
1:53 pm
Commercial break – any of you kind folks care to share a few suggestions on spots to catch live music in the ATL? And nice parks for relaxing walks. Visiting this weekend and could use a tip or two. Thanks.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
1:56 pm
I’m a peacock, you’ve got to let me FLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
kimmie
June 22nd, 2011
1:58 pm
Purple – It was common knowledge that Truth & I were blog married & blog divorced. When he went over to Kuwait, we realized how much we meant to each other, so were still “involved”, so to speak. But neither of us expected the other to blog-twiddle our thumbs. When someone else of blog-interest came along, like you, we were both free.
Even though Truth & I are no more, we hold a small place in each other’s blog heart!
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
1:58 pm
Exiled….i must be honest…..they may have played a little more than they should have.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
2:00 pm
kimmie, you just showed me that you have game! Do you still love me? (said with droppy eyes) Let me be a man….lol
kimmie
June 22nd, 2011
2:02 pm
Purple – I never stopped!
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
2:02 pm
UGA, I like your honesty. LOL I have a buddy who coaches little league and has a field day with the mothers.
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
2:03 pm
kimmie, you are talking me right out of my clothes…..you words are music to my ears….you really going to pay my beeper bill?
Celisea
June 22nd, 2011
2:03 pm
PR – Your friend is shoplifting the pootie
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
2:06 pm
Celisea, well they left the pootie in an open market. Now that would be a reality show I would watch. LOL
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
2:07 pm
UGA?
I guess these are single mums u taking about right?
Ever slayed a bossy mum that wanted kid playing time favors? How did she rate in the sack….still bossy?
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:07 pm
@Mr_NYC ~ Have you heard about WindDown Wednesdays? It’s live jazz concert at Centennial Park from 5-8. FREE. There are vendors there selling food and drink. The artist performing this evening (rain or shine) is the unique sound of Phillippia.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
2:08 pm
Talking
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:09 pm
Exiled….it has actually happened a few times…They rate ok, the conversation during the act is always somewhat odd.
kimmie
June 22nd, 2011
2:11 pm
you really going to pay my beeper bill?
Purple – Come on, I can’t believe you are asking bossy ME that!! Us bossy women don’t like whiny, cheap, technologically-stunted men!LOL!!
Mr_NYC
June 22nd, 2011
2:11 pm
@Leggs, no that one is new to me. Looking mainly for Saturday afternoon and evening. Even a decent place with nice food and music is cool too. A jazz club or the like.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:12 pm
“technologically-stunted men” – CRAZY!
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
2:13 pm
Leggs, he said he was coming for a weekend not a wednesday, c’mon tink tink..LOL
kimmie, you are right. What should I do now, your laundry and paint your toes? (okay enough of acting like a wimp) lol
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:14 pm
I’m looking for the same thing, Mr_NYC! I’ve heard the W has a nice jazz theme, but don’t know which days!
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:15 pm
@PR ~ reading is fundamental. I didn’t read that part.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:15 pm
And, don’t need to tink tink. Just need to read read.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
2:17 pm
UGA!?
I understand.
I wldnt want a bossy woman to rap on my mike either.
Might suffer a fracture there in the process.
Yea,I get pretty stiff there ladies!
But a good, really good sticking,if u can handle it.
SexyCool
June 22nd, 2011
2:18 pm
Poor Little Tink-Tink. (lmao)
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
2:21 pm
“They rate ok, the conversation during the act is always somewhat odd”
Okay, that one gave me a mental image that had me laughing out loud.
Bossy Mom: C’mon…who’s your clean-up hitter?
UGA: Johnny is
BM: Say it louder! Who’s batting clean-up
UGA: John…ny…issss……
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
2:22 pm
Leggs, LOL!
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
2:23 pm
LOL @ Leggs.
Mr. NYC – how about Cafe 290?
Purple Rain
June 22nd, 2011
2:23 pm
Sexy Cool, LOL
ITL, that skit was funny!
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:26 pm
ITL…..GREAT!
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:29 pm
@ITL ~ I was thinking along the same lines as you. Bed talk cannot possibly be arousing!
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2011
2:30 pm
If UGA does not compliment Johnny on any aspects of his game or appears too critical,then she dries up…no amount of finguring will do it.
UGA1999
June 22nd, 2011
2:30 pm
Leggs….ABSOLUTELY it can be….
Into the Light
June 22nd, 2011
2:31 pm
@UGA: I think she meant when discussing kids; at least that’s the way I read it. I agree with you on the ABSOLUTELY; me like a little talky-talky…
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:33 pm
Oh, cool…it didn’t sound like it when you said
“the conversation during the act is always somewhat odd.”
Leggs
June 22nd, 2011
2:34 pm
Yes, when discussing the kids…who didn’t get that (besides UGA)?