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Summer flings

Even though it’s been crazy hot for weeks, today is officially the first day of summer! It’s not exactly “boo” season – single people are enjoying their freedom – a lot.

From beach parties, patio pimpin’ (it’s a thing), and scantily clad beautiful people – conditions are ripe for the casual hook ups aka flings with no strings.

It’s interesting because a lot of relationships are hot and heavy by the holidays when we meet those supposed “summer flings.” These are those casual encounters that we claim don’t mean anything; so there are no expectations, no drama – just fun. Right, summer fling fun…and apparently, this is the best way to start a relationship!

Do you think summer flings are a good idea? Have you ever had one?

Have you ever had a summer fling that developed into a full-fledged romance? Do you think it had anything to do with the pressure free approach?

If you are only interested in a fling, how do you let the other person know that? How can you say it without sounding like a player?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

390 comments Add your comment

Purple Rain

June 21st, 2011
2:51 pm

LL411 is the toy girl not ITL right? ITL was the one with her brother to save her?

Willie D, I know the game and how to keep score. Bar, alcohol flowing I told you I live with a woman THEN the convo goes from 0 to 100 and you mention a toy….red zone offense 2 minute drill time. LOL

SexyCool

June 21st, 2011
2:54 pm

I would have expected the conversation would have gone from 100 to 0. (lol)

Willie Dynamite

June 21st, 2011
2:55 pm

My bad I got the stories intertwined.

ITl – you got dudes stalking you? dayumm, Do I need to put you on the do not talk to list? haha

I’ll admit I practice giving compliments just to see the reaction. You can tell when a Woman is not used to getting compliments without the obligatory game to follow. That puts MOST Women on the offensive cause they are not used to that. My bad, I just give compliments as needed now stop following me round the store I’m Married.

Purple Rain

June 21st, 2011
2:56 pm

LOL once that motor gets started..lol

SlimNumeroUno

June 21st, 2011
2:58 pm

The honest compliment with no strings attached is a lost art. We gots to do better

I still practice this art but I guess the fact that men don’t get them often, dudes seem to assume that I want to get with them. I should be able to compliment a man’s choice of cologne, nice arms, smile or whatever w/o automatically taking it as a possible booty hook up…but yet, I keep handing them out. ;-)

Sassy1

June 21st, 2011
2:59 pm

Happy Tuesdays BAM!!

Into the Light

June 21st, 2011
2:59 pm

WilleD – Stalked. Past tense. And all jokes aside, that is a scary situation. I’m a strong woman, and have always been able to handle my business but that one….

SexyCool

June 21st, 2011
3:01 pm

Slim – hence the reason for my disclaimer. (lol)

SlimNumeroUno

June 21st, 2011
3:01 pm

but yet, I keep handing them out

Compliments that is, not booty hook ups <—-clarification here :-D

Purple Rain

June 21st, 2011
3:01 pm

I take compliments in stride. I have a married man flow IRL.

Where is Mr I Just Stick and Never Lick? LOL

This Collective Bargning Agreement has the game all messed up. Can’t even give compliments now.

Purple Rain

June 21st, 2011
3:04 pm

Woman gives me a compliment I say thank you. A woman gives me a compliment that I am midly attracted to I say Thank You give her a quick knowing look, then I beat feet out of there!

SlimNumeroUno

June 21st, 2011
3:07 pm

Purp – I picture your feet moving like the Roadrunner in those cartoon trying to get away from Willie Coyote lol

I’ll never forget the dude who basically stalked me the whole time I was shopping in Walmart. CWAZY ARSE DUDE!!

Dan - Simply...

June 21st, 2011
3:08 pm

@PR/Wille D

The compliment isn’t gone; it’s just referred to as “game” by ladies now.

Especially ladies that can’t believe a man could compliment them and keep it moving. Instead of “a random guy gave me a compliment today” it’s “this dude tried to holla”. I listen to the stories and be like, “you actually do smell nice, maybe he was stating a point of fact…”

@Slim

If you compliment a man’s cologne in an fashion other than passing, it means you’ve sniffed him, and the animal instincts don’t just go away…

Willie Dynamite

June 21st, 2011
3:14 pm

ITl – you good with me, Do You. BTW, I like your typing, prose and subject/verb agreement. At any rate my booth is over there deeeep in the corner. I drink Killians Red and GOOD Scotch, I take new visitors on Tuesdays and Thursday afternoons. Stop by and say hi sometime. If you happen to see a 6ft Redbone chick and/or a thick chocolate chick smiling then just wave and K.I.M. hahaha j/k j/k

SexyCool

June 21st, 2011
3:14 pm

Naw, Dan….some dudes walk around with a PigPen like cologne cloud. I don’t sniff them. I am attacked by them.

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
3:15 pm

“The compliment isn’t gone; it’s just referred to as “game” by ladies now.”

NOT EVEN! We are talking about compliments, not pickup lines. A woman can most definitely discern a compliment from “GAME!”

Into the Light

June 21st, 2011
3:16 pm

LOL@SC. I can always tell when Colleague X has been on the elevator…to quote the Cranberries, I guess he had to let it linger…. :)

Willie Dynamite

June 21st, 2011
3:18 pm

SC – hopefully you dont compliment them. Some people need a reality check. I would assume you would tell a dude straight up, Coughing and weezing “too much man too much” hahaha

Leggs – you are being naive. Shall I remind you of the compliment I gave to you about said bartender???

Into the Light

June 21st, 2011
3:19 pm

Awww, thanks, Willie D. I’ll stop by your booth and say hello.

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
3:19 pm

@WillieD ~ nope, I’m not being naive! Not at all.

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
3:19 pm

Yeah remind me.

Mr_NYC

June 21st, 2011
3:20 pm

Give and receive the compliments without the disclaimer.
Additional knowing looks take it a bit further and are at your own risk.

chink

June 21st, 2011
3:21 pm

Shut the fugg up 101
Don’t do dumb Isht 102
Slow down Tito Dayummm 101
Sometimes punting is your best Move 102

HILARIOUS!!

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
3:22 pm

Thank you, Mr._NYC! A compliment doesn’t have to be followed up with a lustful, greedy look in one’s eyes.

Willie Dynamite

June 21st, 2011
3:23 pm

Leggs – happy hour, Mgr filling in for KEO. I told you she was sexy and then you told her. All heyal broke loose and I told you thats why I didnt tell her cause she was a biaaatch and wouldn’t know how to take it. remember now???

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
3:24 pm

Way off-topic: They’ve arrested the man wanted in the murder of Tupac!

Purple Rain

June 21st, 2011
3:24 pm

Leggs, not all women.

Purple Rain

June 21st, 2011
3:25 pm

I thought the guy was already in jail

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
3:26 pm

Ok, I remember that. I wouldn’t say “all hell broke loose.” Come on, man, that’s a bit much. Was she a beyotch…YEP!

And the remark was ladies refer to it as “game.” Again, not all ladies. Well, I know real women don’t.

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
3:28 pm

Dan - Simply...

June 21st, 2011
3:30 pm

@Leggs

Um, didn’t you see his compliment as game on ole girl?

Plus, I can’t help ‘lustful’ looks, it’s just..how I look

Into the Light

June 21st, 2011
3:32 pm

Speaking of shots (okay, lame, but I had to say it), what time is the blog bar opening today?

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
3:33 pm

@Dan ~ he did tell her the compliment he told me! There’s a difference.

Well, someone seeing lust in someone’s eyes when they first met is not a turn on (especially if you like Shrek).

SlimNumeroUno

June 21st, 2011
3:33 pm

OMG this dude came into the office a few weeks ago smelling like he fell IN the damn cologne bottle. Then to top it off, it was some old man smelling cologne. I had a damn headache hours after he left. How do you politely tell a dude he needs to update his cologne game to something preferrably made AFTER 2007 at least.

Regarding receiving compliments, this guy that I see every week at the job finally came up to me and complimented me on my shape/size. I smiled, thanked him and kept it moving as if that was his sole purpose was just to let me know…no biggie. But if you’re ‘complimenting me’ as you shake my hand but fail to want to let it go, then you turn into a creeper. lol

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
3:33 pm

Meant he DIDN’T tell her….

Dan - Simply...

June 21st, 2011
3:38 pm

@Slim/SC

Why compliment stank?

I call shenanigans for all follow-up to my comment regarding stank.

@Leggs

Lust is lust – how it is received is on the object

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
3:39 pm

SlimNumeroUno

June 21st, 2011
3:39 pm

ITL – Shiiiiiiiiit I don eeeen know. All I know is I beens dranking hiccup…since dis mawnin….hey why are all yall spinnin’? stop dis ride…I wanna…hiccup…get off

Mr_NYC

June 21st, 2011
3:40 pm

@SlimUno – was he rocking that Drakkar or the Avon Wild Country LOL

Into the Light

June 21st, 2011
3:41 pm

Ugh, SlimNU. Creepers are gross. I was in Wal-Mart on Saturday, and an employee asked if I needed help finding anything. I responded that, “No, I’m fine,” Creepy McCreeper waits until I turn to walk away and then under his breath says, “You sure are!” Am I supposed to be flattered? Ick.

SexyCool

June 21st, 2011
3:41 pm

I didn’t/don’t compliment stank/cologne cloud attacks.

Sassy Me...I'm soo ready :-)

June 21st, 2011
3:43 pm

But if you’re ‘complimenting me’ as you shake my hand but fail to want to let it go, then you turn into a creeper

ditto….

what time is the blog bar opening today?

For real ’cause they working me like a Hebrew slave in here…lemme get a shot of Crown Royal Black on the rocks…

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
3:43 pm

Sassy Me...I'm soo ready :-)

June 21st, 2011
3:44 pm

was he rocking that Drakkar or the Avon Wild Country

It was Old Spice :lol:

Into the Light

June 21st, 2011
3:44 pm

LOL. Slim’s comments reminded me of:

You are riding on a beautiful white horse.

On your left side is a drop off.

On your right side are several ostriches being chased by a lion.

In front of you are four large gazelles which won’t get out of your way and you can’t seem to overtake them.

Behind you is a stampede of horses.

What must you do to get out of this highly dangerous situation?

Get your drunk a$$ off the merry-go-round.*

Exiled!

June 21st, 2011
3:46 pm

I took my son to his doc about a month ago, a day be4 his trip and the doc secretary there made/passed a comment/compliment that is still ringing in my mind,leaving me confused coz didnt know what to make of it.

When my son comes back,I’m telling Queen that the kids need a check-up and I’ll take him back there coz I’m curious to see if there is gon be some bite! :lol:

Howdee folks!?

Purple Rain

June 21st, 2011
3:46 pm

Leggs, that;s the guy they say ordered ths shooting but not the shooter right?

A woman with to much makeup or perfurme is unbearable as well. And they always want to hug you too

SexyCool

June 21st, 2011
3:46 pm

Just this morning, I was walking to the train station. This old dude was sitting on his porch when I walked by.

Old Dude: Good morning.
Me: Hello.
Old Dude: You sure do look nice today.
Me: Thank you. (polite smile and never slowing down.)
Old Dude: But you knew that didn’t you?
Me: (Just a nod and a quicker step.)
Old Dude: (Now hollering at me down the street.) You knew you looked good today, didn’t ya?
Me: (Thinking to myself) Now, gddammit. Am I going to have to start driving around the corner to the train station to avoid this aggravating ass old man?!? Sheesh…..)

SlimNumeroUno

June 21st, 2011
3:49 pm

Dan – I don’t compliment a guy who STANK, Just the good smelling ones…

Mr NYC – I have no idea what it was but all the women in my office were disgusted by it. When he came in he spoke to everyone and sort of patted us on our shoulders as he did his rounds. Later in the day, I’m like, why in the heyal am i still smelling this dude. Come to find out, whatever he had on, was on his hands and now on the shoulder of my shirt!!! lol

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
3:50 pm

@PR ~ the article says he’s accused of being THE shooter.