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Summer flings

Even though it’s been crazy hot for weeks, today is officially the first day of summer! It’s not exactly “boo” season – single people are enjoying their freedom – a lot.

From beach parties, patio pimpin’ (it’s a thing), and scantily clad beautiful people – conditions are ripe for the casual hook ups aka flings with no strings.

It’s interesting because a lot of relationships are hot and heavy by the holidays when we meet those supposed “summer flings.” These are those casual encounters that we claim don’t mean anything; so there are no expectations, no drama – just fun. Right, summer fling fun…and apparently, this is the best way to start a relationship!

Do you think summer flings are a good idea? Have you ever had one?

Have you ever had a summer fling that developed into a full-fledged romance? Do you think it had anything to do with the pressure free approach?

If you are only interested in a fling, how do you let the other person know that? How can you say it without sounding like a player?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

390 comments Add your comment

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
11:03 am

Anyway, don’t let me hog the blog…back to summer flings….

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
11:05 am

Celisea….wow so you guys must have a REALLY productive office, being that you are all on here all of the time?

Blackfoote

June 21st, 2011
11:06 am

Celisea:
LOL….She pouted cause I wouldn’t go out alone with her. Not that I didn’t want to. This was before cell phones so there was no one I could call for directions. I didn’t want to get lost again.

SlimNumeroUno

June 21st, 2011
11:08 am

Ok, I know we touched on folks, sending randomly inappropriate texts…well, I just got a call from a friend who was sort of introduced to this guy and they’ve met up only twice. So please tell me why that constitutes receiving a text from him saying:

Dude: Hey there. What are you up to?
Chick: Nothing much…watching tv

Dude: I just can’t seem to sleep
Chick: Why what’s wrong?
Dude: I just have stuff on my mind. Not anything bad.
Chick: Um…okay then..well stuff like what?

Dude: You
Chick: I seriously doubt that but what about me?
Dude: How I want to be inside of you

:shock: :shock: WACK!!!!!!

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
11:08 am

Blackfoote – I’m telling you…it was planned…lol

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
11:09 am

Slim – Ummm, yeah that was wack

SexyCool

June 21st, 2011
11:09 am

Slim – Buddy get a double “L” for Lame and Loser.

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
11:11 am

Off-topic ~ we all know there’s an obesity crisis taken place. Why in the heck would someone come up with the crazy idea of fried kool-aid. Goodness gracious. The articles says people are liking it.

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
11:12 am

@SlimNU ~ seriously, I am truly cracking up. I so can identify. You just shut it down and delete the number. I’ve been laughing since Lana came on this morning.

SexyCool

June 21st, 2011
11:13 am

Leggs – saw the GMA clip this morning. One person said that it tasted like a cherry donut. Somehow, that made sense to me.

Simple Man....

June 21st, 2011
11:13 am

OK…Slim, How is what buddy did different from the lady dropping her key in a guys lap at the casino????

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
11:15 am

@SexyC ~ oh, it was on GMA. I must have left the house already.

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
11:15 am

SexyCool

June 21st, 2011
11:16 am

It looks like the *creator* just mixed cherry koolaid in some batter and drops in it the deep fryer.

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
11:18 am

SexyCool….I saw that as well….it cannot be good.

SlimNumeroUno

June 21st, 2011
11:22 am

Simple Man – How are you trying to compare apples to oranges? We were discussing flings and random hookups, things of that nature. Not a situation where two folks are sort of hooked up to date and see where it goes. If that’s what buddy was looking for, seemed he should’ve had a little different approach, but what do I know. Has finesse gone out the window?

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
11:28 am

Has finesse gone out the window?

It seems more and more that’s becoming the theme.

Purple Rain

June 21st, 2011
11:31 am

Summer flings, maybe when I was younger and careless. I would not do it now married or not.

Cell phones in county jails or prison are easy to get/use. I still have another friend who is still in and has a Facebook page. LOL

SlimNumeroUno

June 21st, 2011
11:33 am

Celisea – Guess I should’ve taken heed to that song by the Ying Yang Twins…What till you see my D ick! –> Sign of the times lol

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
11:35 am

PR – I would not do it now married or not.

Me either…

Cell phones in county jails or prison are easy to get/use. I still have another friend who is still in and has a Facebook page.

Getouttahere…seriously? FB? In jail?

Slim – LOL…exactly

SlimNumeroUno

June 21st, 2011
11:36 am

I still have another friend who is still in and has a Facebook page

Well I’ll be damned. lol I think there’s no better time than now to head to the blog bar.

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
11:36 am

Celisea….never say never.

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
11:37 am

UGA – Somehow, I’m thinking the words that I type are translating different than what I’m saying. Or you’re fishing…still. Move over buddy.

Into the Light

June 21st, 2011
11:38 am

Good morning, all!

I remember summer flings from middle school. I can remember my mom dropping us off at Six Flags, and our group of girls meeting up with a group of guys. If we hit it off, we would hang together all summer, and the biggest thrill was riding the Monster Plantation and sneaking a kiss.

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
11:39 am

Celisea….you said “Me either” to PR’s comment I would not do it now married or not.

I am just reading what you wrote.

SexyCool

June 21st, 2011
11:39 am

Random Thought:
Temptation IS a mphcka.
That is all.

Dan - Simply...

June 21st, 2011
11:39 am

@Slim

Finesse assumes a degree of care.

That is to say, if I want more from you (not ‘you’, the nebulous you) than sex, I’ve got to figure a way in.

However, if it’s a numbers/interaction game – who cares? I’ll say the 2nd most clever thing I can think of and if you fall for it, great; if not, what have I really lost?

Purple Rain

June 21st, 2011
11:39 am

Celisea and Slim, yes they take and post pictures. Talk about their morning workouts, talk to girls, etc.

Blackfoote

June 21st, 2011
11:40 am

Some of those dudes are getting married to prosperous women along with having phones and FB pages.

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
11:41 am

Blackfoote – Some of those dudes are getting married to prosperous women along with having phones and FB pages.

Where? Jail? Gettouttahere….what do you consider “properous?”

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
11:43 am

PR – Are they revealing though that they’re in jail?

SlimNumeroUno

June 21st, 2011
11:43 am

Finesse assumes a degree of care

Well there you have it in black and white…Point taken. ;-)

Purple Rain

June 21st, 2011
11:46 am

Blackfoote, I have seen some guys land some very successful women while in jail. Now I think to myself what is wrong with her…yesh she is pretty and makes money but to find a prison guy? Also I think about single men who complain about not being able to find a woman…if an incarcerated guy can find a woman.. a free guy should be able to as well.

My best friend who got out has a FB page, another guy that we kinda knew had one as well. He sent me a message asking me to do “stuff” for him. Of course I ignored it. But it was great for keeping in contact with my friend until he got out. He was only on during the early mornings or late at night.

Purple Rain

June 21st, 2011
11:46 am

Celisea, yes. In the location and you can tell by the pictures.

Blackfoote

June 21st, 2011
11:48 am

It caught my attention on Oprah of all things where this guy on death row was marrying this woman who was well off. She was villified for her actions but went through the vows with him. Dude was put to death about 3 months later. It was interesting to see a woman do that and not care what anybody thought of it.

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
11:49 am

PR – I mean I know “stuff” (i.e. jailhouse marriages) happens all the time but cell phones and fb? We’re on awholenother level with that. No wonder most keep going back or have no problem going. Shoot they don’t skip a beat…life continues.

Purple Rain

June 21st, 2011
11:49 am

Blackfoote, if you get a woman’s mind………………

Purple Rain

June 21st, 2011
11:51 am

Celisea, cell phones, fb, sex with women (staff, guards) etc. If your “on” on the streets you don’t skip a beat while in jail. Unless you committed a crime against a child or rape a woman, then it’s very rough.

Blackfoote

June 21st, 2011
11:55 am

Purple I’ve personally seen men in jail (me visiting) have some of the prettiest women come see them. Kiss them, play in their crouch area. Leave money on the books all kind of things.

Purple Rain

June 21st, 2011
11:59 am

Blackfoote, yep.

Blackfoote

June 21st, 2011
12:01 pm

“If you get a womans mind”, you have the body and soul. The lady I’m talking about said she didn’t see in him what everybody else saw. Even though dude had murdered two people execution style.

Purple Rain

June 21st, 2011
12:03 pm

There are a lot more murderers out of jail than there are in jail. LOL

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
12:05 pm

if you get a woman’s mind………………

That’s why my daddy said don’t stop to listen…lol

Purple Rain

June 21st, 2011
12:07 pm

Celisea, just take the bait and be happy. LOL

Blackfoote

June 21st, 2011
12:07 pm

LOL…..@Purple
The truth is spoken. Most predators are waiting for the right moment to strike.

Blackfoote

June 21st, 2011
12:10 pm

LOL…..@Celisea
Daddy used to say, take your time young lady. Don’t you rush to give up……LOL

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
12:10 pm

Yes yes Blackfoote….daddy said all those things. Daddy knows best…lol

Blackfoote

June 21st, 2011
12:17 pm

LOL…..”Yes yes Blackfoote”
Celisea I’m backing away from that but it sounds good…..LOL

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
12:21 pm

Yes Yes Blackfoote…how’s that for ya??

Yes yes Blackfoote :) Imma stinker ain’t I?

Willie Dynamite

June 21st, 2011
12:30 pm

Afternoon All
Flings the story of my life. Just be honest and open. Don’t try to sell a lifetime warranty for something that’s designed to be obsolete in 60 days.