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Summer flings

Even though it’s been crazy hot for weeks, today is officially the first day of summer! It’s not exactly “boo” season – single people are enjoying their freedom – a lot.

From beach parties, patio pimpin’ (it’s a thing), and scantily clad beautiful people – conditions are ripe for the casual hook ups aka flings with no strings.

It’s interesting because a lot of relationships are hot and heavy by the holidays when we meet those supposed “summer flings.” These are those casual encounters that we claim don’t mean anything; so there are no expectations, no drama – just fun. Right, summer fling fun…and apparently, this is the best way to start a relationship!

Do you think summer flings are a good idea? Have you ever had one?

Have you ever had a summer fling that developed into a full-fledged romance? Do you think it had anything to do with the pressure free approach?

If you are only interested in a fling, how do you let the other person know that? How can you say it without sounding like a player?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

390 comments Add your comment

Simple Man....

June 21st, 2011
9:49 am

With my luck, I would run up to the room And Chris Hanson would be asking If I want some “Fresh Lemonade”……

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
9:49 am

@UGA ~ pray tell why is that a “much bigger question?”

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
9:51 am

In my experiences if you are upfront and honest and tell the woman exactly what you want and expect, you get much more.

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
9:52 am

Leggs….because more woman play the innocent/modest game.

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
9:54 am

Hmmmmmm….

Must admit I didn’t realize so many men truly didn’t see the flirtations by women until I got on this blog.

Blackfoote

June 21st, 2011
9:55 am

1999:
The blackjack and roulette tables are magnets for lust……LOL
Played Texas hold’em with a lady and she kicked our butts, she got up and patted her own azz. she was ripe for any man and had our money too…LOL

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
9:55 am

Leggs….what do you mean?

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
9:55 am

Blackfoote….hahah now THAT was funny.

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
9:57 am

Nothing…not worthy of further convo.

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
9:58 am

Morning,

No flings here…no can do. Not ashame to admit I catch feelings. Aside from that, not into free loving.

Woman dropping keys in lap reads “DECOY.”

SexyCool

June 21st, 2011
9:58 am

In this month’s issue of Essence, there is an article that gives tips on how to have a summer fling. I found it to be rather irresponsible and a bit insulting, actually.

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
10:00 am

Celisea….it happens more often than you would think.

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
10:01 am

@Celisea ~ possibly, so you think if a guy accepted the key and went to the room he could plead a case of “entrapment?”

Blackfoote

June 21st, 2011
10:05 am

LOL….@Celisea
LOL….Catch feelings, free loving.

Blackfoote

June 21st, 2011
10:09 am

Leggs:
If I was married, I wouldn’t go. If I was that guy who did I would cry a river and accept the pain I caused.

Simple Man....

June 21st, 2011
10:11 am

Sexycool, why was it insulting / irresponsible??

Dan - Simply...

June 21st, 2011
10:18 am

@Leggs

As stated here before, men might see the subtle sign, but not notice them. And in 2011 with people busy and the competition stiff, batting the eyes might leave a woman sitting alone and with a headache.

There’s nothing wrong with being open and honest.

Blackfoote

June 21st, 2011
10:21 am

In my scenario, I’m playing blackjack and a lady was sitting at another table. We made eye contact several times, smiled and flirted at each other. She got up came over to where I sitting and placed her PURSE in my lap. Talked a little while and found out she was from Marietta, GA. We hung out for a couple of months.

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
10:24 am

might see the subtle sign, but not notice them. – ok!

SexyCool

June 21st, 2011
10:24 am

Lana is the chick that you date and have to wonder how many of the guys at the cookout she took you to has she slept with.

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
10:25 am

Leggs – If he was careless, I think he’d jump at the opportunity. If he has a lot to lose, even if he steps out on his wife, I would hope common sense would have him to at least hesitate and wonder if it’s a set up. I mean I get how things pop off and easily nowadays but if I was a man, I would wonder….but that’s me. I’ve seen cheat with no holds barred and I’ve seen them cheat and try (notice I said try) to act like they have some discretion.

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
10:26 am

Blackfoote – I take matters of the heart seriously…lol I’m not built for “free love” no can do…lol

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
10:26 am

UGA – Trust me when I tell you I’m nowhere blind to what goes on. Heck I had two sets of friends on both ends of the spectrum. Booty Shakers/hoochies and the boo-ghee…lol Really, they weren’t that far removed from each other in actions, but they thought so…lol One set kept it real and the other did their thing on the low low.

The boo-ghoo smoked weed, hooked up with unknown dudes, got drunk to the point of passing out, oh and let’s not forget getting hotel suites for a weekend. Heck they’d hit corporate America Monday morning like nothing. Not saying I was a goodytooshoes but I moved away from that group because I got tired of being either the designated driver or the one that kept things in tow….the gatekeeper. I remember them doing a party at the Sheraton in Midtown one year and I found myself alone in the room. It started out with them talking across he court to a couple of dudes. Next thing I know I’m walking through the hotel looking for them cause they “found” some dudes to hookup with. When I found them, those chicks were so drunk they could hardly stand up….I left and went home…that was my last outing with them.

I stayed with the roomshakers/adulterers for 2 months…of course I had to get my own spot cause I couldn’t hang….lol The dudes that would come over would ask, what’s up with the mean one…lol Whatevs! But I distinctly remember an orgy about to go down…lol Actually I thought about it yesterday and almost blogged about it. There was a couple of dudes that lived across the hall and they always had about 6 other dudes hanging out there. We were cool most days. We’d play cards, drank (drink), laugh and talk, grill. I will NEVER forget one Sunday evening though when it was about to go down…lol 2 chicks to all those dudes. One stepped to me and I was like HOOOOLD UP, let me get my purse and go. I had just started dating my kid’s father. I called him, he came over and we left. One of the roommates ended up pregnant by one of those dudes. After 2 months I got my own spot but those two stayed together. But ummm, yes yes yes, I’ve seen much in my time.

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
10:30 am

bootyshaker not roomshaker

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
10:30 am

It was 3 of us that lived together so when I say 2 chicks to all those dudes…I meant the 2 of them….lol

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
10:37 am

Celisea….that must of been somewhat crazy….

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
10:41 am

Off topic: What’s up with the new guy? Seriously. I know it might seem petty or catty of me to say so but c’mon dude, you’ve been gone since last Tuesday. Today there was an email from him to the team at 6:43 am stating he was still out of town but his “cousin” is being relelased from hospital today. Ummm, in all my hospital experience with a dying sister, a dying father and a now a mother that’s spent a significant amount of time in the hospital….NEVER have we been able to say at 6:43 am, for certain, they’ll be released. When doctors make their rounds around 8/9ish most time the green light to go home is given and sometimes later. Just lies lies lies all in his email. Trifling I tell ya….he’s no doubt still on the beach with his luva…SMDernH…

That is all

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
10:42 am

Celisea…..who are you talking about?

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
10:42 am

Just a vent/rant

SexyCool

June 21st, 2011
10:44 am

Cel – he’s in jail and is getting out today.

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
10:45 am

Cel – he’s in jail and is getting out today.

LOLOLOL….could very well be..you never know.

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
10:46 am

Hmmmm, you know…in his email last Wednesday giving his “update” he said “Imma need Friday and Monday…hmmm

SexyCool

June 21st, 2011
10:47 am

SlimNumeroUno

June 21st, 2011
10:48 am

I didn’t think they let inmates use cellphones, let alone that early in the morning. Ask that he provide documentation upon his return…admission and papers of release.

Blackfoote

June 21st, 2011
10:48 am

Celisea:
Me and a guy friend went to pick up my sister from Howard University during Christmas break. When we arrived her most of her female friends was drooling over us. One asked if I could take her to an aunts house near by, not knowing much about D.C. I did it anyway. We get there and no one is home so the show begins. I left to go back to the dorm and couldn’t find my way back till the next day. They were all looking at me strange, like they knew why I was gone so long. Then another one asked for a ride…..LOL

SexyCool

June 21st, 2011
10:49 am

And he’s probably not sending the emails himself. Someone is sending them for him. (lol)

Gotta love imagination….

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
10:49 am

Slim – 10:48…true

Back to being on the beach with his luva…lol

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
10:49 am

@UGA ~ she’s talking about a new employee who is never at work. Always has, what he thinks, are “legitimate” excuses for not coming to work. Celisea sees nothing but holes in his excuses (lolol).

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
10:50 am

Blackfoote – I’ll tell ya, there’s a plethora of flinging going on. I ain’t knocking what folks do. I just know I’m a punk with that kind of stuff. LOL They probably had that planned.

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
10:51 am

Leggs – The whole team can see through. Folks may think it’s bogus but keep it at a day or so. A whole dern week???

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
10:53 am

I just read that article, SexyC. To think her parents are gung-ho. There’s something wrong with the man for wanting a 16 year old, virgin.

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
10:53 am

SexyC – Reading that article and looking at her pics, she ain’t been 16 in a loooooong time. Still ain’t right though.

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
10:53 am

Her parents probably ain’t been able to do a thing with her for sometime now. They’re probably happy someone took has fast tail off their hands. Still ain’t right though.

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
10:54 am

@Celisea ~ I have no doubt. The only person who doesn’t see the problem is him. That’s the comical part. He really thinks he’s smart enough to outfox you guys into thinking he has all these family emergencies and he must be there to help in the healing process.

Blackfoote

June 21st, 2011
10:54 am

How does that dude hang on to that job if he’s new. Does y’all boss give him that much string to hang himself?

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
10:55 am

Hey Blackfoote you know that wasn’t her mama’s house right? That other chick was gonna take you to the same spot…lol

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
10:55 am

Do all you guys work together?

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
10:57 am

Blackfoote – We’re a team but we all have different managers. His manager is in FL, mine in DC. We’re pretty much on our own. The thing is to make sure you cover your self. Still though, ethically speaking you shouldn’t wear a good thing out. This is every week. If senior members of the team complain to his manager she’ll have to address. If he become habitual, she’ll address.

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
11:00 am

Leggs – The only person who doesn’t see the problem is him. That’s the comical part. He really thinks he’s smart enough to outfox you guys into thinking he has all these family emergencies and he must be there to help in the healing process.

You are exactly right…it’s comical because it’s very transparent. He’s the youngest one (aside from this other chick). There are sooo many things he does where he thinks he’s outfoxed folks and really you can see through. I’ll chaulk some of that up to being inexperienced. He got a very bad habit of smoozing up to them and then turn in the same breath and gossip. Of course I chomped him off with that. He no longers tells me…lol I’m sure somewhere he’s gossiping, just not with me. I don’t play games…especially those kind. You can tell he believes eating out of folks’ azz is the way to go. He’ll learn. Especially with this group…it can be cutthroat.

Celisea

June 21st, 2011
11:02 am

UGA – Yes, we do but most days folks are out and about…there’s a lot or traveling that happens so it’s rare to see all of us together.