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Summer flings

Even though it’s been crazy hot for weeks, today is officially the first day of summer! It’s not exactly “boo” season – single people are enjoying their freedom – a lot.

From beach parties, patio pimpin’ (it’s a thing), and scantily clad beautiful people – conditions are ripe for the casual hook ups aka flings with no strings.

It’s interesting because a lot of relationships are hot and heavy by the holidays when we meet those supposed “summer flings.” These are those casual encounters that we claim don’t mean anything; so there are no expectations, no drama – just fun. Right, summer fling fun…and apparently, this is the best way to start a relationship!

Do you think summer flings are a good idea? Have you ever had one?

Have you ever had a summer fling that developed into a full-fledged romance? Do you think it had anything to do with the pressure free approach?

If you are only interested in a fling, how do you let the other person know that? How can you say it without sounding like a player?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

390 comments Add your comment

SlimNumeroUno

June 21st, 2011
8:02 am

Good morning, guess I’m first today.

Um…no summer flings….next lol

Mr Unknown

June 21st, 2011
8:24 am

Morning,

Flings never work, someone always gets caught up with there “feelings” and messes up the party! Rules for summer fling keep it light and simple. Theres a time limit, nothing over three weeks. Over three weeks you start thinking/looking at that person like hmmm..she got potential. Ha!!

Simple Man....

June 21st, 2011
8:29 am

Morning Slim1!!!

No summer flings for the slim1 huh??? Its funny, I have always been the exact opposite and had flings during the winter…I like being free in teh summer to come and go with the fewest amount of restictions.

LL411

June 21st, 2011
8:30 am

Working on one now :) Not really, I’m looking for someone to go the distance with. If it starts as a fling (carefree, fun, energized) , perhaps that will set the tone for something we’d both like to keep going.

Ark2011

June 21st, 2011
8:36 am

Summer flings are fun if both parties are on the same wave length. Many times it’s just a matter of circumstance (he’s ther, she’s there, you’re both drinking) and many, many times the informality leads to some spectacular experiences. I lived in an apartment a few years ago and we had a group of friends that hung out, no commitments, just having fun. I had gotten with more than one or two of them during the summer and some even made calls at midnight to anounce “I’m coming over.” I’m sue that there may have been some hurt feelings, but no one ever let anyone else know about it.

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
8:37 am

Nothing like a summer hook up at the pool….bikini’s can really get the juices flowing.

Dan - Simply...

June 21st, 2011
8:37 am

Had a few

One with “the stalker”, although I didn’t make my intentions clear about the “fling” part.

She transferred schools and the whole nine (in part because she was homesick and the other part, well…).

They can be fun as long as both parties are clear about the intentions.

Lana

June 21st, 2011
8:39 am

If it’s among friends, those are easily my favorite flings. It’s just for fun and usually you get together a handful of times and then stop without anyone getting really involved. It’s doing it because it’s available, it’s fun and feels supremely good. You wake up and maybe even laugh about it. You don’t broadcast it to everyone, but you know that they still know about it.

MC Hammock

June 21st, 2011
8:43 am

Aaaah, summer! Bathing suits, pools, summer parties, lake parties and everyone is looking their best. Those that look their best are also confident about it. That leads to a drop in inhibitions and like in Risky Business, you think “What the f*k?” You’re not lobbying for relationships (though some do happen) and you are just in it for the moment and plan to make it as memorable a moment as you possibly can. Yeah, I’ve had a few flings and plan on having a few more this summer if the opportunity and situation presents itself. Moment like that just are hard to beat.

Lana

June 21st, 2011
8:46 am

I know of a man that I have recently seen at my pool and I’ve thought “I’m gonna get him before this pool season is over.” Maybe something beyond that will happen, but I’m not thinking about it. Right now, he’s hot, nice and seeing him at the foot of my bed is a sight I would love to see…..and the sooner the better.

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
8:50 am

GOOD MORNING!!! (Yes, I shouted that)!

No surprise, but I don’t do flings. If it’s stated upfront that this is the route we’re going down, then I have to keep on happily skipping.

SlimNumeroUno

June 21st, 2011
8:50 am

Morning Simple!!

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
8:51 am

Lana, you are a mess. Go get your man! :lol:

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
8:52 am

Lana….WOW I didnt know you felt that way about me….I have noticed you at the pool as well.

Lana

June 21st, 2011
8:53 am

Leggs, if/when I do get him, it’s gonna be QUITE a mess all over the room if all goes as planned! LOL

Wifey

June 21st, 2011
8:56 am

Lana’s postings are making me squirm and fidget around in my seat. I might just pull the UPS man inside and just say “Shut up and do what I tell ya!” Joking really…….maybe…..

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
8:56 am

Lana, don’t break anything around the room. Sounds like an afternoon or evening of rough, sweet pain! Go get yours and stop dreaming about it. It’s up to you to make it happen.

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
8:58 am

Wifey….wow I could tell you a story or two….Lets just say I am in outside sales management….I used to have to cold call to businesses around Georgia…..

Lana

June 21st, 2011
9:02 am

LMAO@Leggs, I just hope the reality of the matter isn’t too far below what I have it built up in my mind. He might look at me and say “Naah”. It has to go both ways. Otherwise it’s called Rape…..but I’m not above the idea of raping him if the need arises….ha ha

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
9:02 am

@Wifey ~ I’m over here saying, Lana has got it started this morning and it’s only 9:03 a.m.!

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
9:02 am

Lana…..wow, seems like you know what you want. GO for it!

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
9:05 am

I am cracking up. Yeah, it sounds like you wanting to rape him! Just get his consent and it’s on and popping! Don’t know why I just pictured the man in the book “Disappearing Acts.” But when made into a movie, Taye Diggs had the part. The man in my mind was much better than Taye Diggs.

MC Hammock

June 21st, 2011
9:07 am

Fertheluvagawd, where do Lana and Wifey hang out???? Y’all have any sisters or friends like you??? LMAO

Simple Man....

June 21st, 2011
9:07 am

Morning Ladies…Sounds like Lana and Wifey are really feeling it this morning…All we need is for KOB to come in and shut it down all before 10am!!! Makes me wonder where these ladies are hanging out on teh weekend…Might need to recruit them to serve as wingmen….:)

Lana,

June 21st, 2011
9:09 am

I’m thinking about the scenes with Diane Lane and that French guy in the movie Unfaithful. That scene where he walks by Diane in the cafe shop barely looking at her. You can just see the steam rising off of her when he disappears and she just goes back into the bathroom and they go MONKEY on each other. THAT’S what I think is HOT!

Angie2011,

June 21st, 2011
9:12 am

Good morning everyone. Seems like Wifey and Lana need tome serious “tending to”. While I’ve had a couple of flings, I don’t make it a standard. But I have to admit, the thought of just meeting someone smoking hot and just tearing each other’s clothes off right then and there does sound quite appealing. I just don’t think I have the courage to pull it off.

Simple Man....

June 21st, 2011
9:15 am

Angie, what are you afraid of??? If you are really sure what you want, then for once just go for it…In fact, if you like I will be your test subject and you can work the kinks out on me!!! :)

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
9:18 am

Angie….you do trust me you do…

Blackfoote

June 21st, 2011
9:24 am

Sex talk is as good on Tuesday as it is on Monday and Friday. Keep it coming, I can never get enough of your loving.
Good Taunting Tuesday:

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
9:24 am

@UGA ~ are you trying to hypnotize her?

SlimNumeroUno

June 21st, 2011
9:24 am

Just like the comedian Monique said, just walk up to a dude that you’re interested in and say, “Excuse me sir but can I get some of you D ick?” :lol:

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
9:25 am

Leggs….of course. The power of hypnotizm is amazing.

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
9:32 am

Good one, SlimNU!

I wonder, how would a man really feel if while sitting at a bar (or anywhere for that matter), an attractive woman walks over and drops her room key in his lap and walks away. How many do you think would sit there for a moment in disbelief then head to the elevator???

SlimNumeroUno

June 21st, 2011
9:34 am

Leggs – I think this would be a great show idea for that “What would You do” show. I’d love to watch the reactions from the men, married, single or whatever….

MC Hammock

June 21st, 2011
9:36 am

Leggs, that situation is a fantasy that 99.9% of men wish would happen every day. Problem is, is it a set up and your wife/girlfriend/co-workers/etc are waiting upstaurs when you let yourself in? If a hot woman were to do that, something is up…..lol

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
9:38 am

Leggs….happens way more often than you think.

Angie2011

June 21st, 2011
9:38 am

I wish I had the backbone to pull that off (dropping the key in his lap and walking away). I’d be afraid I’d get in my body stocking and pose next to the balcony window…..and still be there by myself an hour later. That would be my luck!

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
9:38 am

Leggs….and everytime the woman that has done it is married with me anyways.

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
9:40 am

“Problem is, is it a set up and your wife/girlfriend/co-workers/etc are waiting upstaurs when you let yourself in?”

I agree, but the gluttony/stupidity of some men takes over and reason is thrown out the window because their big ego starts acting up (literally).

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
9:40 am

@UGA ~ believe me, I know it happens often. Men aren’t the only ones dropping keys on tables!

Leggs

June 21st, 2011
9:41 am

But, Angie. It’s a chance you have to take. A woman doing that must realize that not everyone will take her bait. You have to have a strong enough constitution to say “oh well, another one bites the dust and k.i.m.”

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
9:42 am

Leggs….in my experience women (of a certain age) seem MUCH more forward than men with their wants and desires.

Dan - Simply...

June 21st, 2011
9:43 am

When single,

I waited just long enough for her to make it back, get undressed and be at the door knocking shortly after – i.e. 3 – 4 drinks

Simple Man....

June 21st, 2011
9:44 am

OK Angie, are you prepared to just go with it if a good looking guy hits on you like that???

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
9:45 am

Leggs and Angie….the bigger question is what would most women do if they were at a bar and they were attracted to a man…..and the man walks over and just drops off his room key.

MC Hammock

June 21st, 2011
9:46 am

Oh well, at least I can imagine a Carmen Electra lookalike walking by and dropping her room card in my lap while looking at me like a Leopard looks at an Antelope. But that’s about as far as I expect it to go….*sigh

Blackfoote

June 21st, 2011
9:47 am

Leggs:
I wouldn’t be in disbelief, but I would be cautious to what’s up. My curiosity would win out of course, it has happened to me in casinos. It’s why I like going to them often.

Lovely Brown

June 21st, 2011
9:48 am

Lana,

June 21st, 2011
9:09 am
I’m thinking about the scenes with Diane Lane and that French guy in the movie Unfaithful. That scene where he walks by Diane in the cafe shop barely looking at her. You can just see the steam rising off of her when he disappears and she just goes back into the bathroom and they go MONKEY on each other. THAT’S what I think is HOT

Wellll, Good Morning All! :-)
Lana- That is one of my favorite movies ever, pure hotness!
and get yo man girl, if he is single and you single why not?!

On topic- Before I got married I had a few summer flings- Hot back yard parties, hot night air, alcohol, little clothes, the perfect mix! It is what is, just pure fun.

UGA1999

June 21st, 2011
9:48 am

Blackfoote…..Blackjack and Texas Hold’em BABY!!

MC Hammock

June 21st, 2011
9:48 am

I wouldn’t think a woman, especially a hot woman (she’s used to having men hit on her constantly) would react very positively to a man just dropping his room card in her lap. If that same woman did that to a man, he just may beat her to the room…lol