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Worse Date Ever

A reader emailed me because she thinks she had the worst first date. It was so bad, she was starting to believe there were hidden cameras secretly taping her reaction to the “Grade A dirtbag” and his antics.

It started out bad and only got worse. He asked her out on text message, showed up late, and throughout the evening kept bringing up the topic of threesomes.

I admit that sounds pretty awful! Bad dates are just a part of dating that nobody can escape. My Dad calls it “character building” because you may hate it but you are wiser because of it.

Once you get through those bad dates, you can learn to avoid certain things – like guys who think strip clubs are appropriate first date ideas. Or women who are classic prima donnas that complain about everything.

What is your worst date experience?

Now that you have endured bad dates, do you know how to avoid them? What are the best ways to prescreen potentially bad date
candidates?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

366 comments Add your comment

Chantal

June 20th, 2011
8:18 am

you accept a date via text mail? you didn’t expect prince charming i would image. at least you shouldn’t have

Wifey

June 20th, 2011
8:32 am

I had a date who asked me out, took me to an expensive restaurant and then claimed to have forgotten his wallet. When we finally got back home, he asked me for $20 to put gas back in his car and get back home AFTER we had sex(can you believe that he just assumed we were going to do that?). Only the $20 happened just to get him away from me and I haven’t returned his calls or emails since.

Ark2011

June 20th, 2011
8:37 am

I had a date that started well enough. She was pretty, but a little bit eccentric. We had dinner and made it back to her apartment, where she proceeded to tell me of all of the anti-depressants she was on because her last boyfriend left her. She cried and cried and asked me to just lie down on the bed (it was a water bed)and hold her. NOTHING happended (not that I would after all the drama), but I did eventually fall asleep. The next morning, I woke up and felt wet all over and there was the smell of urine. She had PEED in the bed and since the mattress was plastic, it had soaked the sheets everywhere. All I could do was grit my teeth and slowly put my shirt and pants back on and ease out the door. THAT, my friends, was one for the redord books!

Simple Man....

June 20th, 2011
8:37 am

Morning Wifey….Hope you had a great weekend… :)
On topic…So he pulled the forgotten wallet trick and you STILL had sex with him AND gave hime gas money?????

Wifey

June 20th, 2011
8:43 am

Hell no I didn’t have sex with him. He added that little jewel to his request for the $20. He said “AFTER we have sex, could I bottow $20 to put some gas into my car and get home?” I just rolled my eyes and handed him a twenty while I escorted him to my front door.

Wifey

June 20th, 2011
8:44 am

Oh and I had a good weekend, not great, but a good one. How about you?

Nobody puts baby in the corner

June 20th, 2011
8:46 am

Wifey CLEARLY stated that she did NOT have sex with him. At least that what I got out of it.

Simple Man....

June 20th, 2011
8:50 am

Wifey…Weekend turned out better than I expected on EVERY level…I am surprised you even did the $20.00…Never quite understood how a guy could ask a lady for money…especially after “forgetting” his wallet… :(

Anthony Weiner

June 20th, 2011
8:51 am

Wifey,

Give me a call.

Bill Clinton

June 20th, 2011
8:52 am

I like to meet ladies at the office. ;)

John Edwards

June 20th, 2011
8:53 am

Never date women that own video cameras.

Nina Totenberg

June 20th, 2011
8:55 am

Attention Ark2011,

I made a mistake…give me a call soon.

markie mark

June 20th, 2011
8:58 am

Does this qualify? it was an almost date…In the late 70’s, St Simons was a pretty small island….only about 7000 people lived there and we pretty much knew or recognized each other. I worked in Murphy’s Tavern from the time I was 18 to 21 as a bartender. A girl that I was crazy about accepted my date to go to dinner and then to a rock club for my 21st birthday. I asked 3 weeks in advance, and to me, it was a huge deal. When I showed up to pick her up, she came out of her house wearing a t-shirt and old blue jeans. Imagine my shock when she told me the band she sang part time in had called a band practice for that evening. She told me to “go ahead without her and she would catch up with me later”…I tossed her the dozen red roses I had bought for her and told her don’t bother. About midnight she walked into the club and said she had been looking for me; I just looked at her and walked away. Some 21st birthday, huh?

Steven Q. Stanley

June 20th, 2011
8:58 am

“Prince Charming” Alert!!!!!!

Anytime you see someone talking about Prince Charming or Mr. Right you’ve got someone who is going to die alone.

LL411

June 20th, 2011
8:58 am

All chatty Saturday night with drinks, and a social retard at dinner on Sunday.

MC Hammock

June 20th, 2011
8:58 am

Ark2011, that may be the most disgusting thing I have ever read. I’m sure your buddies got quite a laugh out of that one.

I did have a date that was obviously not impressed by my restaurant selection for our first date (Bonefish), then she sent not one, but TWO meals back because she didn’t like thet way they tasted. The waiter kept looking at me and all I could do was shake my head and shrug. During the evening, she kept telling stories of how her previous boyfriends had flown her to Vegas, cabo San Lucas and New York for weekend trips, then she bad mouthed my car. The whole date from beginning to end was only about three hours. I was in my own bed and releieved to be rid of her by a little after ten o’clock. Talk about a nightmare!

Ricardo Cabeza

June 20th, 2011
9:04 am

Diva, the correct heading for this piece is “Worst Date Ever.”

Amia

June 20th, 2011
9:05 am

I have had really good dates in my life, but last September I agreed to meet up with a guy (blind date). Actually I had met him once years ago, but honestly didn’t remember him, so a mutual friend set us up. We had many conversations over the course of 2-3 weeks and greed to meet. He lives in La Grange so he drove all the way here. I told him that we could go to Atlantic Station and eat and hang out there. We get out there and his personality is bland as all get out and said he wasn’t impressed with Atl Station. I ignored and asked if he were hungry. “No”. WTF??? After trying to get him to talk for about 30 mins, I walked my butt right back to parking garage and left. Hope he had a long safe drive back to Lagrange! Before any asks, it was not me. He had seen many pictures of me before meeting me.

Lovely Brown

June 20th, 2011
9:13 am

Good Morning All! :-)

MCHammock- I had date with a guy that did almost the exact same thing, he sent back his food about three times and was rude to the server….told her that her tip was goin’ down every minute that he was not satisfied. I ended up tipping her because his rude, obnoxious azz refused to…said he paid enough for the food and drinks. I was totally embarrassed. And this fool had the nerve to think he was going to get some sex…..NOT! I still run into him from time to time, and he always has the nerve to bring up the worst date ever.

Roberta

June 20th, 2011
9:17 am

How many different iterations of the “dating” scenario can we beat to death? Good date, bad date, OK date, while you’re out on a date you see someone else your dating out on a date……oy vey.

UGA1999

June 20th, 2011
9:21 am

Worst date? Hmmmmm that is a tough one.

SlimTattedUno

June 20th, 2011
9:23 am

Good morning all,

I can knock on wood as I state that I have yet to experience a bad date…

How’s everybody this Monday morn???

Mary

June 20th, 2011
9:24 am

I would NEVER sleep with anyone on the first date. That just screams desparation!!!

SlimTattedOne

June 20th, 2011
9:25 am

Roberta – Um…just like any sitcom or tv show, there WILL be re-runs. But the great thing about cable, or in this case blogs, is that you can turn the channel or merely hop on another more interesting blog elsewhere. Are there some dating topics that we have no explored that you would like to suggest? ;-)

Retired

June 20th, 2011
9:26 am

I had serious doubts about going out with a co-workers cousin who was visiting from another state when he said “She has a really nice personality,” but I owed him a favor so I agreed. Picked her up right on time and headed to the restaurant to meet up with co-worker and his date. She smoked 4 cigarettes in an hour, dropped one in the floorboard of my car, (no fire – just a burn mark on the mat) then shared that she downed 2 shots of tequila before I arrived to “chill.” Dinner was fairly uneventful but as soon as we arrived at the concert venue she headed for the bar. Seeing the train wreck coming, I faked receiving a cell phone call from my brother that another relative had been in an accident and blah, blah, blah. I “apologized” for having to bail, got my co-worker to agree to take her home, and got the hell out of there. On Monday I was very up front and told the co-worker I had lied to get away from “Date-zilla” and if he ever even breathed the idea of setting me up again I would seriously consider doing him bodily harm. Oh, by the way . . . she had him text me after I left to say she was “In the mood to rock ‘n roll” if I had a chance to return. I declined.

UGA1999

June 20th, 2011
9:29 am

Mary……you dont know what you are missing.

Not desparation, just emotions.

midlifewoman

June 20th, 2011
9:35 am

I have a divorced friend who lives in ohio. She met a guy online and everything seemed fine. They agreed to meet at a restaurant half way between where they lived (for her 20 miles). They met in the parking lot, went in, sat down, ordered drinks and snacks. He excused himself to use the restroom–and NEVER came back! Stuck her with the bill and all. The kinda thing you see in movies but never believe someone could be so low..

UGA1999

June 20th, 2011
9:37 am

midlifewoman, your friend must of either had some personality issues or she was not attractive at all. Something tells me there is more to your story that any of us know.

Mary

June 20th, 2011
9:43 am

Nope sorry, I don’t give it up on the first date. I don’t know enough about the other person to give myself wholly to them. I prefer to get to know someone, and then see if I’m willing to give up the goods. I have more respect for myself, than to sleep with someone a few hours after meeting them.

Katie

June 20th, 2011
9:48 am

People, your computer has Spell Check, use it. Especially the blogger using the word desparation!!!!!!

The Real JC

June 20th, 2011
9:50 am

Posting this on behalf of my brother: Last year, he asked out a cute girl who worked as a barista at a local coffee shop. They met up for drinks and got to talking, where she revealed that her best friend was a stripper – not a dealbreaker, but a little odd to mention. She then shared that her ex-boyfriend is in prison – at this point, he starts looking toward the door. Finally, she mentions that she’s a recovered meth and crack addict. Being a gentleman, my brother still offers to walk her home – on the way back, they are approached by a homeless person, who CALLED THE GIRL BY NAME!

Think you guys should send him a plaque or something.

Leggs

June 20th, 2011
9:50 am

Good morning!

@MC Hammock ~ you know I love a good laugh and I laughed after reading Ark2011 post!

Can’t really think of any, but guess when I went out with 2 Tons of Fun because I accepted a date with him by only seeing his face and telephone conversations we had. He was a nice dude, but way to large for little ole me!

Into the Light

June 20th, 2011
9:54 am

Good morning, all!

UGA1999

June 20th, 2011
9:57 am

So Mary, you have never simply had a “hook up”?

Call it like it is

June 20th, 2011
10:00 am

Went off with this young lady while attending Kennesaw. Date itself was okay but no connection, however at the end of the night, reached in to give her a hug and a peck on the cheek, and she turned in for the worse kiss I have ever received. It was like being stuck to a wet/dry vac and it hurt. Had to push her away to get a breath. Move out of there quickly. I called the next day advise thanks for the date, but tried to make it clear I wasnt interested in any more. 3 days later I came out of “night” class and she was sitting in my car! I had an old mustang, doors didnt lock. Long story short, I had to call campus police, to whom she got in a fight with and was arrested. Scary lady

David

June 20th, 2011
10:06 am

I did have a date with a lady I met online and she drove to my house from North Carolina. Her body was absolutely incredible, but her face would’ve scared a dog off of a meat truck. Talk about being conflicted! We introduced ourselfves and she said she was hungry. After that she excused herself to the bacthoom and came back in some Fredricks of Hollywood outfit. This was LESS than an hour from when she walked in the door. She damn near tried to kill me that weekend. After a day and a half, I even tried to stem the tide by putting a dip (Skoal) in my mouth, but all that did was stop her from kissing me. As long as I kept my eyes below chin level, I was OK, but that face was horrid. I didn’t take her outside of the house the whole weekend. By Saturday night, I wanted to just shoot myself and this lady was relentless. I finally told her on Sunday morning that I had a call from work (fake) and had to leave town. I also told her she couldn’t stay, so that finally got rid of her.

Leggs

June 20th, 2011
10:07 am

Like I have said so many times, puddy has no face. Thanks for the laugh, David.

UGA1999

June 20th, 2011
10:12 am

Leggs…..GREAT POST!

Dynamic

June 20th, 2011
10:13 am

Ok I got one. I met a guy in Walgreeens when I was in my early 20’s. We exchanged numbers and talked on the phone sporadically throughout the week. He asked me out, but told me that I would have to drive due to his car being “in the shop”. He told me that he would pay for my gas, we would go out to eat, go to the beach (Lake Michigan) and watch the sunset. I picked him up he had a cooler full of beer and drank one in the car on the way to the restaurant. Made it to the restaurant and I didn’t eat all of my food, and he proceeded to eat off my plate without asking. He kept calling me honey and baby all through dinner. He paid for dinner, but made stupid comments about tipping. We get back in the car, he proceeds to drink another beer. I went to the gas station and pulled up and waited to see if he was going to show some initiative and pay. Needless to say he didn’t, I made up a lame excuse and took him back to his income-based apartment. Before I could kick him out of my car, he grabs my head and before I knew it he had his tounge probbing my mouth and slobbing me down like a over zealous blood hound…Ugh! Worst Date Ever

UGA1999

June 20th, 2011
10:16 am

Dynamic….that could have really been a scary situation.

SexyCool

June 20th, 2011
10:18 am

Can’t think of anything right offhand. But would be curious to know if I have ever been considered someone’s worst date and why they feel that way. I wonder that because some things that we consider truly horrible may have been fine for the last one and will be a perfect match for the next one.

(Oh well….some things we will never know.)

blue-eyed-blonde

June 20th, 2011
10:18 am

Good Monday morning all!
I went on a date set up by a mutual friend. They guy had been widowed for about 2 years. She showed us pix and we each thought the other was attractive. Had a few phone conversations and he asked me to dinner. We met at the restaurant and from the git go he kept talking about his dead wife. I tried to be compasionate and a good listener but he was really creeping me out Even the power went off in the restaurant…felt like I was in an eposide of the Ghost Whisperer. I truly wanted to disappear….which I did shortly thereafter…thanked him for dinner and ignored his phone calls from then on….

MC Hammock

June 20th, 2011
10:20 am

@David, talk about suffering much enjoyment. Good thing your “nether regions” didn’t fail you after your eyes saw her mug. The thing about spending a weekend with a nymphomaniac is that the first 24 hrs, you think you’ve died and gone to heaven. After that, you think you’ve died and gone to hell…lol

UGA1999

June 20th, 2011
10:20 am

Blue eyed (me too) – That is funny, I have actually heard of this happeneing many times in the past. I think after the second comment I would have had to stop him and say see ya.

The Unmarried, but Equally Cunning Linguist Twin Brother of Swiss

June 20th, 2011
10:20 am

David — You could always tell her you’re some kind of new-age muslim & that according to your beliefs, she can show as much of her body as she wants, but she’s got to keep her head covered 24/7. :lol:

UGA1999

June 20th, 2011
10:21 am

MC…..I dated a girl for about 6 years that was a nympho….she was willing to try ANYTHING once…..lets just say it led to many great memories.

Dynamic

June 20th, 2011
10:26 am

@ UGA “that could have really been a scary situation” Hell yeah!!!! That’s why I dopped him off and burned rubber. He said we could do the beach next time….I went home gargled with mouth wash and thanked God I had gotten away!

UGA1999

June 20th, 2011
10:28 am

Dynamic….I dont blame you….you get an A for effort but wrong place, wrong time, wrong person.

BriansSong

June 20th, 2011
10:32 am

Get this, when I was in college, I dated a woman that was obviously a virgin, but later wanted to get busy. What she would do is go at it until JUST BEFORE SHE HAD AN ORGASM….then she told me to stop. This went on for a few months until I decided this was too wierd for me. Can you imagine doing it until the moment before you crash the walls and wanting to stop? I guess in her mind, that still meant she was a virgin. Like we say in the south “My folks ain’t like them folks”.

Celisea

June 20th, 2011
10:36 am

Morning,

Can’t really say I’ve had a “the worst ever” date. I can recally not really feeling the person but even so…to my recollection…even those were okay/so so.