Make the date guy friendly
I always have a great time on a date when the guy has put significant effort and thought into it. There is just something sweet about a “customized” date arranged to fit my likes and interests. Basically, the guy makes a great impression as a gentleman who tries to avoid “one size fits all” approach.
So how do ladies return the favor? Reciprocate the gesture and find out what he does to relax, have fun, or how he seeks adventure.
What would you consider guy friendly dates?
Ladies do you know how to plan a date that men would be excited about?
Guys what is the best time you have had on a date that was planned around your favorite things to do? What would you want to do on a date that was planned around what you are in to?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Lucinda
June 16th, 2011
8:29 am
I went fishing with my man, totally his “thing” to do. I baited the hooks without being squeamish, encouraged him when he hooked a big one, and most of all, did not talk talk talk talk talk like so many women do. He said afterwards that the biggest feedback from the guys on the boat (I was the only woman) is that I didn’t talk talk talk all the time. It was cool. We had a good time and best of all, he’s invited me along again.
Al B
June 16th, 2011
8:50 am
This is a totally unorthodox predicament, because 99% of the time, the guy does the asking out, the date planning and it’s the guy working to impress the lady rather than vice versa. I know in today’s world, that’s changing, but by and large, it’s the guy trying to do the impressing and the woman that is in the seat to be impressed. This should be good.
Simple Man....
June 16th, 2011
8:57 am
Morning Peeps…To piggyback on what Al B said, it really is not a fair question..By the time most womenare making plans for specific dates and going the extra mile, she is most likely in deep already, and you can’t compare a guy stepping up and building a taylor made date from scratch to a lady doing something cool for her guy..Its like a guy is judges on how he designs and builds a car, and the lady is judged on the paint color and the rims….
Wifey
June 16th, 2011
8:57 am
Back from a few days vacation. I think that if you plan a the date, you have to simply be happy, easy to get along with and don’t talk about the “woman” stuff too much. Nothing wrong about stating your take on things, but don’t have a chip on your shoulder. Just let the small things roll off your back and just be pleasant. Men are very surprised when a woman takes the reins on a date and other places where the enjoyment is mutual.
Simple Man....
June 16th, 2011
8:59 am
Morning Wifey…..Did you go away on your mini vaca??
MC Hammock
June 16th, 2011
9:02 am
I can’t think of a date when a woman planned it that was anything other than taking me to an extra nice place to eat. The activities that make men go “Wow” are largely not what women like to do. There are some nuances, sure, but a man thinks that a great date has something other than the “movie/dinner/bottle of wine/ get to know each other” prescription. Men and women are just wired differently in that aspect. Now there are some memorable times I had with a woman where she planned it out, but most of them were of the “intimate arts” variety. Not saying that there’s anything WRONG with that, might I add….LOL
Wifey
June 16th, 2011
9:04 am
@Simple, I went to a lakehouse with some friends. We went skiing, grilled out, drank, relaxed and I even shot a gun for the first time. Didn’t hit what I was aiming at, though…..
Simple Man....
June 16th, 2011
9:06 am
LOL…Not sure if missing your target was good or bad, but glad you had a fun time anyway!!
:D 
Brenda
June 16th, 2011
9:10 am
First time poster here. I’ve lurked, but never said anything. I took a guy that I was dating white water rafting and we had a blast. Then I arranged to have room service bring up a great steak dinner when we got back to the cabin. We made a fire and slept on a palet in front of it. Nothing like good lovin after all of that and two bottles of wine. Too bad we went out seperate ways after a few months, but it was time well spent.
Vlad Tepes
June 16th, 2011
9:17 am
While I guess it wouldn’t be classified as a DATE, per say. I was dating someone in the late 1980’s that had a thing for horror movies and vampires in particular. They turned her on like it was an adult movie. We had gone to Jekyl Island and stayed in a nice, but very old hotel. One night, she asked me to go to the grocery store to get some more wine and when I came back, the room was dark, except a ton of candles all around the room. She was standing on the balcony in a FULL vampriess getup. She never said a word the entire evening, but she did the whole seduction thing like in the movies. She even had those snap in fangs (they looked real and were pretty sharp). It was obvious that the further along in the role playing the hornier she got. It was simply spectacular and she even bit me at the end (no blood drawn). It was her own private fantasy and she planned the whole thing, but the residual effect for me reaped untold rewards. To this day I have never, ever forgotten that evening.
SlimNumeroUno - I done bumped my head
June 16th, 2011
9:20 am
Good morning all,
Simple Man has a point regarding chicks planning “specific to said guys interest” dates. During the initial dating phase, in the past, it’s really been on the guy to plan. That’s not to say there haven’t been any women to plan creative dates but that usually happens after some time has been spent together already.
Wifey
June 16th, 2011
9:21 am
Holy cow, Vlad! I gotta go take a cold shower after that post!
Simple Man....
June 16th, 2011
9:23 am
How are you feeling this morning Slim1?
Lovely Brown
June 16th, 2011
9:24 am
Good Morning All!
Brenda- that sounds like a fun, guy friendly date…..gave me a great tip for my guy. Thanks!
I have not been on a “date-date” in years….but I still date my hubby. So I will just be looking for ideas and tips today.
Celisea
June 16th, 2011
9:25 am
Morning,
Alright then Dracula…
SlimNumeroUno - you gone eat cho conebread?
June 16th, 2011
9:29 am
Simple – I am feeling a HUNDRED times better than i was yesterday. I had to cut out of work early because I lost my cookies. lol No more going out on a school night… I ain’t no sprang chicken anymore. lol
D.Hollywood
June 16th, 2011
9:31 am
I too am a first time poster here. I have planned a few guy friendly dates after one or two dates that the man has planned. Don’t get me wrong I love to be wined and dined like most women and I am a girly girl who loves romantic dinners, walks in the park and the like. However, I am most comfortable in a setting that involves fast cars and/or NFL football. I have planned dates around both once I knew the guy I was dating was into one or the other. For some reason after those dates the men seemed to kinda push back. Maybe it was all of my trash talking at the track or the sports bar. Who knows…lol. My guy friends have told me that it can be intimidating for some men to have their lady companion know more about the game than they do. Very interesting topic today.
Simple Man....
June 16th, 2011
9:35 am
LOL…Hollywood…What kinda kinda guys lets a woman know more about football than he does???? And then gets out of pocket about it??? LOL
Bill Clinton
June 16th, 2011
9:37 am
I always try to satisfy the women.
Blackfoote
June 16th, 2011
9:42 am
Can’t think of a time when I was asked on a date and told to relax I’m going to handle things. “It would be so nice, if only for one night”. Glad to hear some women do that for their man. You are a Refreshing, commendable, and adorable lady.
G. Morning:
kimmie
June 16th, 2011
9:42 am
Morning All
I’ve never asked a guy out on the first date/dates, so yes, those involved him planning the date. But I have always been the type to reciprocate after awhile, in fact, rather soon once it’s apparent that we’ll be seeing each other on the regular. I always took the “getting to know” stage seriously. That included finding out what he liked to eat and what types of things he liked to do. I always would prepare a meal of his favorites, take him to a movie he’s dying to see, get tickets to game of the sport he likes or plan the date around an activity he likes. One guy I dated liked putt-putt golf, so I took him. Not that hard to plan a date catering to him if you are truly getting to know the man.
Can’t get into the discussion about not wanting a woman to talk. Two adults should be able to carry on a decent conversation, give and take. If you want someone mute, I’m not the one.
Celisea
June 16th, 2011
9:43 am
I find doing “guy” things and not being a sissy about it are most impressive. Truly engaged, going along and having a nice time. You get extra points and lasting impressions for “letting” him teach you some thangs.”
SlimNumeroUno - no mo soup for you!
June 16th, 2011
9:44 am
Fellas,
So how about yall throw out some good date ideas that you would find impressive or creative…I’m taking notes
Celisea
June 16th, 2011
9:47 am
Too, after he’s done great planning activities, my favorite is showing him a good time in return of his thoughtfulness. Usually it’s something spontaneously done….either a surprise evening of good food cooked with a lot of “love” (by my hands) and a nice long evening or somewhere unchartered by us both…that could be a nice spot for the evening or a nice drive somewhere, compliments of me
Leggs
June 16th, 2011
9:50 am
Good morning.
Welcome to Blogsville, Brenda/D.Hollywood. We love people leaving Lurksville!
Unfortunately, I am a picky eater. I took a guy out on a date to a restaurant that I felt I’d probably leave hungry. He loves food and loves to eat different types of dishes. He was impressed that I stepped out of “my” box to accommodate him. After dinner, I fed him the best dessert I could think of. Nice evening.
D.Hollywood
June 16th, 2011
9:55 am
@Simple Man you would be disappointingly surprised!
Al B
June 16th, 2011
9:57 am
@Slim, I know that women like to dress sexy or even risque for their man (or so I’m told), but I always wondered what a woman would like for me to wear to be sexy to her. For men, it’s gotta go past the “attitude”, “personality” or “confident” moniker. Just letting the guy know what you like him to wear for you that is sexy and then showing it like you can’t keep your hands off him all evening to the point of being shocking. I was always curious about that…just something off the beaten path. Take him to dinner or an event and be risque and suggestive (even if you are putting in an Academy Award act). Letting him know that he’s more than your friend, confidant and soul mate. But that you actually WANT him physically in a bad way. That’s such an ego boost for the guy and it will get him to go even MORE overboard to do the things that you want (and I’m not necessarily referring to sexually). Men are very visual creatures and doing that harks back to the days when you first started dating and you couldn’t get enough of each other. Just my two cents…
Simple Man....
June 16th, 2011
9:58 am
Here you go Slim1…. A few months ago, a young lady and had an afternoon date at the Aquarium. While we were there we watched the divers feed teh fish inside teh main tank. I mentioned that I thought it was really cool the way they did that and we kept it moving…about two weeks later, we were set to hang out and she told me she had a surprise…She picked me up and took me to this place on Peachtree Industrial for a SCUBA class…it was tons of fun and truely out of the blue. I was really impressed that she payed that kind of attention to our small talk and was willing to invest her time and money in something that was out of the box for both of us…
Into the Light
June 16th, 2011
9:59 am
I think it’s only fair that a man have a guy-friendly date planned for him. After all, men like to be spoiled, too.
I once dated a guy that was really into hockey, so I showed up at his house with a gift bag. Inside, was a Thrashers shirt and two tickets to the hockey game. We went to his favorite wing/beer place, then on to Philips. It was a blast!
Into the Light
June 16th, 2011
10:01 am
@Simple Man’s 9:35: You might be surprised. I was hanging with friends one night at a sports bar and the guy at the bar next to me says, “Wow! You really know a lot about football for a girl!”
Grrrr….
MC Hammock
June 16th, 2011
10:03 am
Ummm…tickets to a UGA game where whe planned/prepared the tailgating food, then invited some friends of mine to go without me knowing it. In the past, I’ve always been pretty much the date planner and provider.
MC Hammock
June 16th, 2011
10:06 am
I liked the scuba thing from Simple. Vlad kinda steals my thunder from anything THAT far out of the box. It’s be pretty hard to let Vlad’s woman go….if he wound up doing that. That chick had imagination!
DJ Sniper
June 16th, 2011
10:08 am
I’ve never understood why some guys are so surprised that there are women out there who know and understand the game of football. I find it very attractive when I can sit and talk about the details of the game with the opposite sex. I’m fortunate that my wife is a fan as well.
Simple Man....
June 16th, 2011
10:09 am
I would love to hang out with a girl that THOUGHT she knew more about football than me… LOL
Into the Light
June 16th, 2011
10:09 am
@MC – I didn’t know you were a UGA fan!! Gooooooo, DAWGS!
PS – Now that you’re dipping your toe back into the dating pool, maybe you can stop by our tailgate sometime (or anytime – we have season tix). There are some cuties that hang out in our lot. (if you’re ready for that)
MC Hammock
June 16th, 2011
10:13 am
Let the Big Dawg eat in 2011!
kimmie
June 16th, 2011
10:14 am
Simple – I hate it when guys try to test your football knowledge with the same ole wack question – how many points is a safety?LOL!!
I have always liked a man with a sense of humor about things and could go with the flow. I’m glad my hubby is that way.
Once, I dated this guy that loved the Incredible Hulk. The movie was coming out and they had all this stuff out with the Hulk on it. For his birthday, I took him to one of his favorite restaraunts for dinner and to see the movie. Got him some cologne he said he wanted. I also gave him, at home, what was meant to be kind of a gag, jokey-jokey gift – an Incredible Hulk t-shirt. He got an attitude about it! I didn’t expect him to wear it out, just something fun to hang around the house in, no big deal. He didn’t get it. Kinda put a damper on the evening.
Blackfoote
June 16th, 2011
10:14 am
DJSniper:
I’ll agree with you, there are some women that are just as fanatical about football than some guys are. They’re great to be with at any footbal level because they know the game so well.
Leggs
June 16th, 2011
10:14 am
@Al B ~ like your question on what a woman thinks is sexy attire for her man. The same guy I took to dinner remembered me telling him I liked the way he looked wearing a particular pair of pants and the color shirt I thought would look best with those pants. He remembered and wore them on our date. One of my feet had a mind of its own and played with him all night under the table. It was comical watching him squirm through his meal.
Simple Man....
June 16th, 2011
10:15 am
DJ, I am not surprised that women know and love the game, I am just blown away when a woman know more about it and the guy is chased off because she does….
Celisea
June 16th, 2011
10:16 am
Blackfoote – I’ll agree with you, there are some women that are just as fanatical about football than some guys are
Good Lawd, my sister is….she is OVER THE TOP…with football. She can hang with just about any sport.
kimmie
June 16th, 2011
10:16 am
MC/Light – You guys are in the Bulldog Nation? Woo hoo!!! Welcome fellow DAWGS! I’m an alum!!!
Into the Light
June 16th, 2011
10:17 am
Co-signing Kimmie’s 9:32. Whether it’s cooking his favorite foods, taking him to a sporting event, or renting his favorite movies and having a movie marathon, they all say the same thing: I listen when you speak, because I am interested in you, I care about you, and want to show you.
@ Simple Man, Is that a challenge????
2CPTG
June 16th, 2011
10:18 am
morning….
hmmm, a date planned according to MY likings???? Preferably it’s done in the fall-football, likka, and debauchery!
hey Leggs! holla at me sometime….got some stuff to throw atcha!
kimmie
June 16th, 2011
10:22 am
Celisea – Out of my female friends, there are only maybe 2 that don’t know much about football. Just about every one I know is a fan and is as knowledgeable about it as the guys. One knows more than her husband. My dad was a serious football fan and having 4 brothers – that’s 5 men in the house, I couldn’t help but pick up on it and become a fan too. Dad would take us to the games too. Same with baseball.
Now where you lose me is basketball. Didn’t go to many games and didn’t watch it with the guys & Dad.
Ark2011
June 16th, 2011
10:22 am
How about on a Saturday morning after a busy work week, just tell him to stay in bed, watch TV, movies and she will make breakfast for him in bed, screw his brains loose after that, tell him to STAY in bed and she will cater to him all day….in between sessions of screwing his brains loose. Oops…the blog monster is gonna chomp on this one…
Dan - Simply....Superior
June 16th, 2011
10:23 am
And there’s the rub,
Find out what he likes to do, don’t do stuff for him that you think he would like.
BlackMagicWoman-NYC
June 16th, 2011
10:24 am
I’d say…go to the gun range. Then go get some drinks and food at a Sport’s Bar.
D.Hollywood
June 16th, 2011
10:26 am
Since when did one need three legs to know or love the game of football?…LOL I must say I have been doing some of my best work since the lockout started. Ask me anything I am a wealth of knowledge. Cmon Simple Man I am always up for a good challenge.
Simple Man....
June 16th, 2011
10:26 am
ITl, You up for the challenge???