You have to hand it to relationship writers. They come up with the most fascinating ways to spin the topic of marriage. Did you know that there are categories of marriage that are clearly defined? I know you are probably skeptical. I was too when I read about it.
(Sidebar: If you are on the fence about marriage. Stop reading here. No, really. Come back tomorrow.)
So of all the different types of marriage that author Pamela Haag outlines in her book, I was most interested in the semi-happy marriage. To wit:
All marriages have their ups and downs, but the semihappy marriage is chronically ambivalent. It’s a marriage that’s neither miserable nor all that successful. Semi happy spouses genuinely can’t decide if they should stick it out and live with the faults in the marriage, or if those faults are too much to handle.
I don’t know about you, but my unmarried self does not read this and think of marital bliss. I am thankful to have my parent’s marriage as a real life example of what it takes to make a marriage work.
I have no expectations of 24/7 marital happiness and joy with kittens and rainbows all the time. I expect that days will come when I contemplate ringing my husband’s neck, and other days I won’t be able to keep my hands off of him.
My guess is that semi happy couples that are married were semi happy people before they hooked up and became “chronically ambivalent couple” in one house. Or perhaps I am being naive since I’ve never been a wife.
What do you think? Is there such a thing as different “types” of marriage? If so, what “type” of marriage would you label and define? If you are married or have been married before, how would you describe the type of marriage you have/had?
Hat tip to Simple Man for sending this topic idea to me.
(Feel free to send other topic ideas to me MIA blog family! Wise.Diva@gmail.com)
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