Every so often I have to remind some of my guy friends that women aren’t mannequins.  Our hair sheds and can clog your sink. We burp on occasion.  We have bad days. It’s a part of being a living breathing creature.

We all have those silly expectations and I think that we can set ourselves up for failure and disappointment, especially in relationships.  I don’t believe that you should expect someone to fill every single need and desire you have.

You will only be disappointed because someone can’t live up to your impossible standards. Do you think we are holding out for relationships that are unrealistic? I wonder how much fantasy and how much “reality” exist in our expectations.

I think most reasonable people just want mutual love and respect. Everything else will work itself out if two people decide they want to be with one another.

I am not naive to think that love conquers all, but do we expect too much from relationships? Are they supposed to make us happy and fulfilled …

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Have you ever been in one of those situationships – you know a situation trying to resemble an actual relationship?  Let me tell you, it blows.  Somehow you have managed to break up and reunite more times than you want to admit.

Why do we do it? The better question is, how do we stop doing it?

What do you do when you are no good together and you are miserable when you are apart? It’s like being stuck on a roller coaster ride that makes you sick and anxious, yet excited at some point.

What is the best way to break up with someone who you have unsuccessfully tried to part from in the past?

How do you cope with the aftermath and the void that the crazy roller coaster feeling leaves?

I know it’s been said that the best way to get over someone is getting under someone else, but how effective is that? Seriously, I’m going to need statistics and pie charts because I’m not convinced!

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I have lost count on the number of breakup stories I’ve heard involving Facebook, Twitter,  even LinkedIn! I don’t know how long it will take before people realize that social networking and romantic relationships can become problematic.

More people are finding each other on social networking and that is a great thing.  However, when it comes to maintaining a relationship…well, social networking can pretty much become a major source of a relationship drama.

When you are dating someone, do you add them to your friend’s list on your social networking sites?

Do you think it’s a good idea to find the online profiles of people you are interested  in dating?

My friend Greg thinks that it’s the same thing as taking your man or woman to a bar/club. You think it’s a good idea until someone says or does something that crosses the line.  Then you are wondering why you even bothered “taking sand to the beach” in the first place.

We agreed that the way you handle the situation says a …

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When you are single at my age *cough*, you figure out that it isn’t all that practical to delay the big LIFE plans like house purchases, pet adoptions, or even globe trotting.  Some of us think it would be great to share all these life planning choices with the one you plan to be with forever and ever.

Of course, it’s a personal choice and preference but I sometimes wonder if I polled the people who waited to decide and the people who didn’t, what advice would they give in hindsight.

Do you think waiting on a mate to make big choices is a good idea or a risky one?

If you are single and own a home, did you consider the possibility of meeting your future spouse/mate soon after you bought it?

This may be something that is more prevalent in women.  I think some women want to put part of their life choices on hold in hopes that they will have someone to share their lives with.  I actually understand that logic but I wonder if that is something they will regret later.

Does it …

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Hello everyone! Our guest blogger today is Molly, who is a returning MIA guest blogger. Check out what she has to say about those inexplicable “connections from a distance”

You meet someone. You instantly connect. I’m talking a connection that takes you aback. It can’t even be classified as a lust or an in love at first sight. It’s simply a familiarity and an immediately accepted love for the other individual. You realize you KNOW this person without ever having known or ever having met them previously.

For some this sounds a bit out there but, for others, you know the exact feeling I am describing.  You are immediately in a deep connection with this someone. Sex doesn’t play a role in your connectivity current, although, attraction certainly does. It’s deeper than that. You are thrilled to have even found this person at all.

Yet, things begin to drift. It’s almost an unspoken understanding between the two of you. Perhaps, this person doesn’t live …

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I want to wish all of the mothers a Happy Mother’s Day.  I am so thankful to have my Mother give me great love, support, and advice.  She certainly is the original Wise Diva. I have learned a lot about love and relationships from watching her and listening to her.

What is the best advice you ever received from your Mother? Did you listen to her?

I was talking to a friend who told me that her new boyfriend thinks she would be a great mom. She was really flattered that he saw her in that way.  How important is it to men that women show/have a desire to be a mother?

Happy Friday!

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I understand that the way to a man’s heart is through his home-cook starved stomach, but I had no idea that women who cook for men get more dates.  Apparently it’s true.  My friend cooked for a great guy she was interested in and the next thing you know she is getting all kinds of attention!

Everyone loves a great meal and there is nothing sexier than a man in the kitchen…cooking.   The thing about men cooking….a lot of them choose not to cook for women they are casually dating.  When a man makes a meal, he must really like you a lot.

Actually, the same can be said for me because I only feel compelled to whip up something for a man after he has been around for a while. I won’t cook for any random dude who has shown half the effort towards getting to know me.

When do you think cooking meals for your date is appropriate?  Guys, what do you think of women who offer to cook for you?

Ladies, has a man ever cooked you a special dinner with no expectations of having you as …

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I have learned to be fairly resilient when it comes to dating.  After your ego is bruised or your heart is broken, you eventually manage ways to keep it moving.  What happens when those classy individuals who faded into oblivion without explanation return to the scene of the crime?

My friend Justin is going through this now with a young woman he met last spring.  She stopped returning his calls and he was never sure why.  She claims that she was afraid they were getting too close too fast.  Of course, now she is ready.

Why does it seem like the moment we have hit our stride again and moved past the dating misadventure, people who blew their chances come back? That is one of those dating situations that always baffles me.  Why do people do that? What do they expect?

I think people can change their bad dating behavior or habits, but your character is probably going to remain the same. Do you give second chances to people who seem to want one?

f someone from your past asked …

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I had an interesting conversation with an older gentleman recently.  He made a comment about men and masculinity that sort of stuck with me.  When he discovered that I was not married, he said he “understood why” so many women like me couldn’t find a man. Yes, I had to actually have this conversation with a stranger…..again.

Apparently, all the real men left on the planet is in his generation (He was 58 years old).  Well, it turns out he had this theory that if a man’s masculinity is questionable (for any number of stereotypical reasons) then he isn’t a real man.

I started to think about what masculinity is defined as now. I imagine that this is a generational thing because men today can be sensitive and strong at the same time.  Does every man who can’t rebuild a car engine need to have his masculinity questioned?

Do you think that masculinity has been redefined to represent something new or different?

Do you think masculinity is measured by the wrong things? Does it ever …

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We have all heard those cautionary dating tales that make you stop and shudder.  They seem so outrageous and ridiculous that it is hard to imagine it happening to you.  Until it happens to you… and then you can totally see how people misrepresent themselves.

It’s unfortunate that a few dating misadventures can turn us into cynics.  I think it happens to the best of us, but you never want that to be the reason you blow things with the new guy or girl. What do you do when you have doubts about someone you are dating?

I think it is always good to check your cynicism before your let your spidey senses go off.  There are a lot of great people to date who aren’t trying to annihilate your heart.

Do you ever get paranoid? Have you ever dated someone really great but you started to have random doubts?  That awful cynical voice says, “It’s too good to be true” and you are suddenly fighting off negative thoughts. How do you handle it?

What is a healthy dose of skepticism and …

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