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Dating: Youth or Experienced?

I asked Mr. M to guest blog and he wants to talk about something pretty interesting today, I do enjoy a male’s perspective to liven things up!

It’s all about compatibility in dating and he asks “What do you prefer, youth or experience?”

Dating in Atlanta always goes in waves and as time goes on, naturally our taste change as we discussed last week. Lately I have been doing  some volunteering, attending social mixers, events, conferences, and just being out and about. I am meeting a lot of new women who are really cool. There is only one issue that I am confused about: What do I prefer youth or experience?

The young women that I have been meeting are women ranging from 22-26, just getting started in their careers. They also seem a lot more laid back and just fun, maybe it’s because of their inexperience?  The women that are more experienced in life, careers and relationships have their pros and cons also.

If you have a choice, what do you prefer youth and someone that you may have to take your time with , or someone more experienced, who does not need you to hold their hand?

By Mr. M, Guest Blogger for Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

194 comments Add your comment

Blackfoote

May 25th, 2011
11:09 am

ED:
Haven’t your buddies seen any news that’s one of the quickest ways to die with out the guy who killed you going to jail. You got men killing each other over girlfriends now imagine their wives. Smart for you to not fall for the few moments of glee.

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 25th, 2011
11:10 am

Whatchu mean, “dern it,” C? You trying to say you’re disappointed it was me checking you out? :shock: :-( Lemme just go over here & sulk in the corner, then…

Olderandwiser49

May 25th, 2011
11:10 am

Celisea – more than likely it’s ‘how’ you’re hearing it.”

I have no doubt that you’re right. I hear it as either immature or unintelligent, when spoken by a younger woman, and as a failed, out-of-her-element attempt at being cool, when spoken by an older woman. I think, too, that there are many women, young and old, out there who would feel the same way toward a man who called her a “chick.” Communication between the sexes is, and will always be, one of the biggest obstacles to meaningful relationships. What is said, and how it is meant, are not always what is heard, and what it is understood to mean. Just my opinion.

Celisea

May 25th, 2011
11:10 am

PR – I like that you like women my age :)

Celisea

May 25th, 2011
11:12 am

Leggs – I know it ain’t right and wrong is wrong no matter the sex…man or woman that cheats but there’s something to be said for a married woman that will open her body and her home to another under, over and all around her husband…smh

kimmie

May 25th, 2011
11:12 am

Morning Gang!

I’ve always liked men my age. I don’t want a boy, but I don’t need another daddy either. I’ve never liked “authority” or being told what to do or being treated like a child once I reached mid-teens. I don’t need anyone to “mold” me, that was my parents job and they did it quite well. No, I need a companion around my age that I can relate to on all levels. Up or down 5 years is the most I’ve ever done.

Reggie

May 25th, 2011
11:14 am

Purple Rain…HOLD OUT FOR A YEAR??? Are you bloody KIDDING me? I get the twitches when I go two weeks without! You must be later on up in your years, because the women I’m around will flat out say that if their hubby can’t help them out at least once a week, they will either find someone that will or get a sponsorship from GE. A YEAR? Not me….

Lovely Brown

May 25th, 2011
11:15 am

LOL@ Leggs, I would like to thank the ladies on this blog…..and my husband thanks ya’ll too :-)

Back on topic- My single sister, she will be 39 next month, likes them young…. very young. Her last victim lol was 21. She says don’t knock it ’til you try it. I know even if I was single I could not do that big of a gap! Hell, her oldest son is 18…..no can do.

Celisea

May 25th, 2011
11:17 am

Swiss – Whatchu mean, “dern it,” C? You trying to say you’re disappointed it was me checking you out?

No, I’m disappointed I didn’t make your acquaintance.

Lovely Brown

May 25th, 2011
11:19 am

I’ve left a few of the younger generation with a glassy stare and had great pleasure in doing so

go on witcha’ bad self Wifey!

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 25th, 2011
11:22 am

C — Ahhhh…. In that case, I’ll be waiting for you on the elevator… :-D :lol:

Willie Dynamite

May 25th, 2011
11:25 am

Afternoon All,

Put me in the category of wanting a little seasoning on my meal. I dont want the author of the kama Sutra but I do need and want some substance with my meal. one of the mistakes that youngins tend to make when entering relationships is basing the 10% of time you spend in bed as the foundation. After a few romps its not new anymore then what? Dating and relationships are so much more involved than that. Now if its just the sexual escapade then I can pretty much see battle lines being drawn. Youngins want youngins cause they dont know any better. Slightly older folks want and need more than a quick rabbit dance. As with everything else just know your lane.

Celisea

May 25th, 2011
11:26 am

OlderAndWiser – in MY opinion, your stance on the “dude” of it all comes across as stilted, dated, judgemental and like a stick in the mud. However, this is one of the beauties of life – our individuality that is created by our preferences, our beliefs, how we filter things and the judgements that we make.

Thank you ma’am. I started typing a response but because it seemed a bit outdated and judgemental to as well, I figured why bother. I didn’t respond but I will cosign.

SexyCool

May 25th, 2011
11:26 am

OlderAndWiser – in MY opinion, your stance on the “dude” of it all comes across as stilted, dated, judgemental and like a stick in the mud.

However, this is one of the beauties of life – our individuality that is created by our preferences, our beliefs, how we filter things and the judgements that we make.

Blackfoote

May 25th, 2011
11:29 am

Those women don’t have any reason to be married if they are giving it up the way you say they are. It may feel good (temporarily) or it is an adrenaline rush. Playing russian roulette one day you will meet the russian.

Celisea

May 25th, 2011
11:29 am

to me as well..is what I meant

Purple Rain

May 25th, 2011
11:30 am

Reggie, those are not women.

2038!!!!

The ladies pet, a man's threat

May 25th, 2011
11:31 am

Celisea

May 25th, 2011
11:32 am

Let me guess

Willie Dynamite

May 25th, 2011
11:34 am

confession time- as a youngin (20-25) I entertained many a married Woman. I learned over time how to fully please a Woman from them. Dead wrong i know and will readily admit to that. At the time it was a dangerous mix between ego, lust, immaturity and opportunity. Not looking for a medal or anything but i did have a conscious. I refused to be with any Woman in their home, that to me was MORE disrespectful and dangerous than what I was already doing. Now that I look back on it the biggest lesson learned that i try to apply to my marriage is to make sure the Home-front stays 100. In closing I may be a walking contradiction with this statement but i’ll tell you now, If i catch you in my house then you getting a couple hot ones fast.

The ladies pet, a man's threat

May 25th, 2011
11:35 am

I am in the sweet spot so until i am too old..it will always be young to the old…young women are more casual..so if i want a quick hook up…i would look above 25….25-30 in that i am grown i want a family lane…so sometimes they are sticks in the mud..selling you the dream about how “good” they are…yeah eyah…30-35….either they are crazy or cool..or both..lol…proceed with caution….35-40…out the game and really on the family tip..or maybe like F it and just cool with FWB for a minute…40 plus….without kids..KRAZY…with kids..they are looking for family..

I feel every woman with desire and every man with fear

May 25th, 2011
11:37 am

Mature women, by a long shot. No need to discuss it further. Case closed. Young ones are simplistic, boring and just lie there and squeak. Mature women are smart, confident and with the drive they have going, they can keep you up all night, all day or wake you at 3AM. Not even close.

SexyCool

May 25th, 2011
11:41 am

I feel every woman with desire and every man with fear – I think you meant FILL.

MC Hammock

May 25th, 2011
11:44 am

Sup, peeps! How’s it going in here? Anyone bleeding yet? LOL

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 25th, 2011
11:45 am

SexyC — Nah, I bet he literally gropes them.

Leggs

May 25th, 2011
11:45 am

“…just lie there and squeak”….That is hysterical! Nothing like the moans, groans and demands from a WOMAN!….too funny!

casual observer

May 25th, 2011
11:46 am

Ed, You are gonna catch grief here, but you should beat that p***y like a rented mule…The moral majority will fry you for doing so, but she is the one with teh obligation, not you…..If she has no regard for her husband, why should you????

The ladies pet, a man's threat

May 25th, 2011
11:48 am

old women squeak as well..they not all A grade..some of them been thru so much they have nothing left for anyone…young ones…at least have a positive outlook on life..and not thinking just because they hit an age benchmark – life is over…lol@sex game talk..

Blackfoote

May 25th, 2011
11:50 am

Men who have the courage to dip that way lack courage cause he’s a creep in the night/day and I aint judging. I’ll watch your story and how it unfolded on the news.

casual observer

May 25th, 2011
11:54 am

“Men who have the courage to dip that way lack courage”
Make up you mind bru…which one is it??? Do they have courage or not???

The ladies pet, a man's threat

May 25th, 2011
11:56 am

lol@ed…dude you did right..i feel sorry for dude..he over there risky is life and his h oe arse wife fixing plates and giving away tushy…smh

silent friend

May 25th, 2011
11:57 am

Speaking of, I have a friend of mine that really is a twin of Brooke Burke in every facet. She’s been married for close to 20 years. He’s a nice guy, but morbidly overweight, but very wealthy. She has had multiple affairs and many of them on going even today. She’s even introduced me to a couple of them. She said that she needs to be satisfied in that way and won’t stop. She says if he divorces her, she’ll just take half his wealth and just keep doing what she has been. I can’t be friends with her any more, but it disturbs me that someone is so up front about it, her desires and she’s even told me she’s had a few threesomes. What’s wrong with people these days?

Leggs

May 25th, 2011
11:59 am

“If she has no regard for her husband, why should you????”

I would imagine because he likes being above ground and not six feet under!

Willie Dynamite

May 25th, 2011
11:59 am

Silent – I bet her husband knows. He may not advertise it but I bet he knows.

MC Hammock

May 25th, 2011
12:04 pm

@silent and WD…that hubby is what is commonly referred to as TRAPPED. He can’t divorce her (lose his shirt and everything else) and staying married, he knows she’ll just keep beating these lovers brains loose. He had no where to go and he knows it.

Blackfoote

May 25th, 2011
12:06 pm

He has courage to sleep with somebody’s wife but lack courage=(coward) to meet the husband you figure which one I already know.

The ladies pet, a man's threat

May 25th, 2011
12:06 pm

@sf…whats wrong with people..crazy story.

Keepingitreal

May 25th, 2011
12:07 pm

Don’t usually post but couldn’t resist the topic today. I’ve dated someone 24 years younger! Where do I start? The short answer is, I prefer experience. There were just way too many things that we kept having arguments about that I finally had to admit to myself that she was not ready for yet. At that age you’re still in the “Me” stage of life. I kept talking and doing things from the “We” perspective, she was all about herself. I don’t think she has gotten to the point of realizing what’s important in life. As I take a step back, it’s not that she’s an awful person, just that she’s still in a stage of life that doesn’t work well for relationships. She still needs a lot of attention from a lot of guys, still flirts a lot, still goes out with a lot of male “friends” (even though some of them are exes). I’ve seen the cycles of those things and know that they are dangerous for a relationship whereas she sees them as harmless. I say, I have to have the experienced.

Leggs

May 25th, 2011
12:09 pm

@WillieD ~ perhaps. And, he may be over there fighting believing his wife is home taking care of the homefront, not her front! Hell, he may come on to a Dear John later and be utterly devastated.

MC Hammock

May 25th, 2011
12:13 pm

This Ed guy y’all are talking about made a decision that the vast majority wouldn’t make. There’s no way he would get caught, it was just sex for sex’s sake and if she liked him, she may keep him “on call” without ever paying for a single dinner or movie.

THAT my fellow peeps is a gift of the wrong sort and he said NO. I think he should be commended….and maybe have his head examined at the same time. LOL

MC Hammock

May 25th, 2011
12:14 pm

I meant to say “It’s a gift, but a gift of the wrong sort.”

casual observer

May 25th, 2011
12:21 pm

“He has courage to sleep with somebody’s wife but lack courage=(coward) to meet the husband you figure which one I already know”
Why does he need to meet the husband??? SHE should be the one you are blasting. I am amazed that you folks jumped strait to buddy getting his head blown off…I have a friend that went to Iraq and then was transfered to Kuwait….About 18 months after he came home, his wife opened the door andwas given a certified letter from an attorney wanting to meet with her husband ( My boy) about the child support suit he was about to file on behalf of the Kuwaiti girl he was creeping with while there, So please don’t assume that dude is on the front lines being all Forrest Gump…He might just be a regular dude and taking care of his urges teh same way she is…..

Sassy Me...Stir it Up :-)

May 25th, 2011
12:27 pm

I’ve left a few of the younger generation with a glassy stare and had great pleasure in doing so.

Me,too chile!! ;-)

On topic: For as long as I can remember I’ve been involved with men younger than I am and it’s been a mixed bag. Some have been rather mature for their age and others were still on the tit….or acted like it. My last serious relationship was with a man ~6-7 years younger than me and it definitely made me realize more of what I want in my next relationship(whenever that is). The only thing a man in his twenties can give me is the wood but I’m past that. Early to late thirties would be a good start but I have yet to date an older,older like father/grandaddy aged man and I wouldn’t want to…like someone said earlier high blood pressure and other type isht come into play. Eeeeeew I just had a visual of a little pig in the blanket for some reason.

Purple Rain

May 25th, 2011
12:29 pm

casual observer, at some point you have to be man enough to get your own woman and not getting second hand leftovers and in her case I am sure he would not have been the first to have sex with her. A real man knows that he does not have to have sex with everywoman that presents it to him, but a boy will just pump away as it comes.

Blackfoote

May 25th, 2011
12:32 pm

Observer:
Don’t you know women are emotional they get a pass for that alone. Again I’m not judging but we (men) like your boy will tread on that emotion like he did to the Kuwaiti girl.

reality check

May 25th, 2011
12:32 pm

We all have those primordal urges…men…women…all of use. Some have them worse than others and some have passing fancies. I’ve known women that get so worked up they would sit down on anything that got stiff and others that could take it or leave it. Some just flat out can’t go without it for any length of time and others could give it up at the drop of a hat. I’ve met all shades and you can be dayum sure of the type that I prefer. Ya just gotta be able to keep up…..and keep IT up.

Willie Dynamite

May 25th, 2011
12:33 pm

Leggs – you may be right. Then again i suspect based on the specifics given this was more of a business deal from the start. I’m guessing its a two way street. Obese and wealthy old man getting his rocks off as well.

Sassy Me...Stir it Up :-)

May 25th, 2011
12:33 pm

Put me in the category of wanting a little seasoning on my meal. I dont want the author of the kama Sutra but I do need and want some substance with my meal.

I hear you. I had my days where I’d take a young buck to school but I don’t always want to be the teacher…been there done that.

SexyCool

May 25th, 2011
12:35 pm

Having been a military wife, I can assure you that while military marriages shouldnt’ be different from civilian marriages, they most certainly are.

Leggs

May 25th, 2011
12:37 pm

I agree with that, SexyC, but the common denominator in civilian marriages and military marriages should be one’s morals. It’s not impossible to ignore the urges of the flesh if you honestly went into the marriage respecting each other!!!