Dating: Should ladies let it all hang out?
I read something funny that caught my eye and reminded me about something: A guy said , “Girls spend too much time deciding what to wear; like guys aren’t picturing them naked the whole time.”
It was funny because I had just gone on a date Saturday night and spent no less than 2 hours doing pre-date rituals (Admittedly, I’m crushing hard on the guy, it’s usually 45 minutes prep time.) Then, as I checked the mirror and headed down the stairs I thought, “I actually want him to like me in sweatpants and a t-shirt too!”
Everyone wants to make a good impression when it’s new but there is something to be said about reaching that stage where you can remove your bra and eat frozen yogurt in front of your man. I’m anxious to get there but I know the importance of getting dolled up and feeling confident on a date.
So be honest guys, how much of the hair, makeup, and clothes are you really paying attention to?
If your date went totally casual, all natural, “carefree” when she shows up, would you admire her and think it’s refreshing? Would you wonder why she made no effort in being sexy for you?
Do men ever go overboard with grooming and preparing for a night out with someone?
Ladies, do you ever want to just put your hair in a ponytail and go on a totally effortless date? What kind of reaction do you think you would get? Are you the type that keeps it simple in your appearance or do you go full on glam?
P.S. A lot ladeies are picturing guys totally naked too. Just sayin’
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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ASB
May 23rd, 2011
6:32 am
It depends. A first date could be a tennis date or something athletic. From my perspective and experience, many men want a woman who is versatile…comfortable at a game or a black tie affair.
My male friends emphasize women are too concerned with packaging their bodies (hair, nails, clothes, body enhancing or body sculpting underwear, etc.) and not keeping their bodies in shape.
JL
May 23rd, 2011
7:05 am
Women tend to notice what other women are wearing more than men do. Men want to know how you look in it (and out of it). Warm ups can be just as sexy as a dress and heels. It’s the woman inside the clothes that interests us. All the other stuff – hair, make-up etc – is mostly for other women. I’ve never been in a group of men that commented on a hair style, but that’s the only conversation going with a group of women.
the watch dog
May 23rd, 2011
7:20 am
That is a great question. I really like it. Girls are far more realistric than guys. Guys want their girl friend to let it all”hang out”, otherwise, being casual. Now girls, are far more interested in a guys earning potential than what they are wearing. Believe me, it is true. Take myself, I do not have a great sum of wealth, consequently, the girls are only minimally interested. That being said, I keep myself in perfect condition, which they seem to like.
Laura B
May 23rd, 2011
7:22 am
I generally keep my look pretty natural, but that is mostly due to the fact that I’m not very good with make up. I just cover up any imperfections on my skin and tend to dress nice while still maintaining comfort. I’m also quite tall so I don’t go to heels very often.
JackLeg
May 23rd, 2011
7:48 am
If you don’t have a good canvas all the paint in the world will not make a work of art…
Toby
May 23rd, 2011
7:51 am
The topic is too contrived for me to comment on other than noting that this, the US, is a sexist society, largely, against women & that is unethical. Women earned the right to vote less than one hundred years ago (within living memory), here, and the feminist movement is only about 50 years old: ethics is still progressing & talk about dolling one self up, instead of asking about ‘how to do good’ is highly questionable. Women should be free to dress as they please (the law which allows men to go shirtless & not women is clearly sexist and immoral) & ‘what men want’ shoud not be a primary concern.
CoolShadow
May 23rd, 2011
7:53 am
Naturally beautiful who don’t rely heavily on the external distractions (i.e., makeup, clothing, bling, etc.) are a plus. Generally speaking, true beauty might be camouflaged but not hidden. There have been situations where I have been awed by a random beauty in the supermarket dressed in Saturday morning casual gear whereas I’ve been in a formal setting where a woman was Paris runway ready and I was mildly impressed at best. To me, natural beauty and sexiness are parallel in that when it’s natural and organic, it radiates on its own. However, when those factors seemed overly contrived by a woman, it feels like she’s either trying too hard for attention or maybe doesn’t really know how to enhance what she naturally has (or simply ain’t got it). The less makeup a woman has to wear, the better.
@Leggs – what’s up lady, how have you been? You threw me a shout out Friday but didn’t notice until reading the blog again after it was closed.
CoolShadow
May 23rd, 2011
7:57 am
That shoul’ve read, “Naturally beautiful women”…
NIght Train
May 23rd, 2011
7:58 am
Lose the war paint ladies. Natural to very little is all that is needed. Eventually we will see you without the makeup and ‘false advertising’ has ended many relationships. If you think you need all that makeup to look good, you must not think very highly of yourself.
Less is better.
CoolShadow
May 23rd, 2011
8:00 am
That should be should’ve
Greg S.
May 23rd, 2011
8:01 am
Less is more is my rule. If you watch Survivor you’ll know what I mean. Most of the time the ladies look much better on the island than they do when they come back and are all made up. Women are just naturally attractive to men. So play to your natural beauty and you’ll be fine.
joe
May 23rd, 2011
8:14 am
Is this really STILL a question? This one’s easy… if you want to attract men that are only interested in how you look then by all means glam it up. If you want to attract someone deeper then keep it real. Some of us guys can see right through your cosmetic masks to who you really are and in many cases it’s not pretty.
Vidal Sasooooon
May 23rd, 2011
8:16 am
If you still got it,
. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Let it all hang out with no make-up.
Bill Clinton
May 23rd, 2011
8:18 am
I like the ladies….
Bill Clinton
May 23rd, 2011
8:22 am
Actually, I like the BIG ladies…
Le Siren (coming out of lurking mode...)
May 23rd, 2011
8:31 am
I fully expected men to answer with the “natural beauty is best” response, however, let’s just keep it real for a moment. When you listen to men talk about their “fantasy” women, or the women they find most beautiful in the entertainment industry, very rarely do you hear the names of any “natural beauties”. Most often, they’re talking about very glamourous women who put a great deal of time and effort into their bodies and appearance. Men are visual creatures, period.
Also, alot of women who appear to be “natural” beauties, myself included;), DO put alot of time and effort into their appearance. This includes time in the gym, nail salon, spa, ect. You’d be hard pressed to find an attractive woman who didn’t put ANY effort into her look!
growing older, but not up
May 23rd, 2011
8:38 am
I don’t know about dressing all the way down to sweat pants, but I do like to see jeans and a t-shirt.
czBrat
May 23rd, 2011
8:49 am
let’s see … first date i wore sweats, pony tail, no makeup. second was an after work meetup so not at all glam and sexy. third date, dinner at his house … i showed up in jeans, sneaks and a tee. s/o and i didn’t do it up hot and sexy for a night out together until about our fourth or fifth date. we were already very impressed with each other “as is”.
cool, it’s absurd the number of times i’m approached at the supermarket looking a few small steps away from homeless
i realize some men make that arena a regular hunting ground, but i can’t help smh at the thought that there are soooo many other chicks around who took the time to comb their hair, why not go harass one of them? 
morning all!
SexyCool
May 23rd, 2011
8:53 am
Nobody wants to be with someone who looks like they made no effort. A natural, simple look is one thing. Looking like you are about to scrub floors or mow the yard is something else altogether.
George P Burdell
May 23rd, 2011
8:55 am
This is an unfortunate example of women tranferring their female-to-female behavior onto female-to-male relationship. Women will spend hours talking to each other about what they will wear when they go out together. For some women, she’ll want to be “slightly” better dressed than the other women in their group so that she has more power. Unfortunately, this subliminal message does not come across in a female-to-male date. A guy sees a woman dressing up for him as a compliment to him. He may see “putting it out there” as meaning she wants to put it out for him (figuratively and literally). I know this is not always the case, but that is the message sent when a women overdresses for an occasion.
Simple Man.....
May 23rd, 2011
8:58 am
Morning Peeps!! (CZ hope your weekend went well)….
Guys fully grasp a concept that alot of women seem to miss….. If she is on point when we see her in “jeans and a T-Shirt, then we KNOW she is going to be nice when she dresses to impress…We (most of us anyway, make our appearence choices about us and not ladies….
CoolShadow
May 23rd, 2011
9:07 am
@czBrat – apparently you’ve got that sumthin’ sumthin’
But that was what I was alluding to is that some women put it together and make it look effortlessly, while some make an apparent effort to glam up and still don’t measure up. I can’t pinpoint why that is sometimes except there’s something about a woman who’s gorgeous and exudes sensuality and wears it like a classy perfume and makes it look like it was done with little or no effort.
czBrat
May 23rd, 2011
9:21 am
i had an ab fab weekend, simple. thanx so much for asking. i hope yours was a blast too.
obviously, this all boils down to personal preference. getting dressed to the 9s was never my method for snagging a beau. i’m much more likely to respond to the guy who is drawn to me in my bare essence.
Simple Man.....
May 23rd, 2011
9:22 am
CZ…In Pa. working until the end of the week….Can’t wait to get home!! The weather here is TERRIBLE!!!!
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
9:25 am
Morning,
I looooove the comments from the men today because I’ve NEVER been one that wore or needed to wear globs of makeup. My daugther was snuggling up next to me last week and said “mama you have beautiful skin”
I agree with Cool Shadow in that natural beauty and sexy are parallel and radiates on their own. Confidence is key. The exterior radiate when you inner beauty and confidence comes through.
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
9:26 am
radiates and your not you
SexyCool
May 23rd, 2011
9:37 am
I know P-lito is somewhere in Minnesota. Is he close to Minneapolis?
abc
May 23rd, 2011
9:38 am
Most guys don’t go for the makeup-like-cake-frosting look. We’d rather see you the way you really look. Clean is good.
czBrat
May 23rd, 2011
9:45 am
btw, good to read you guys this morning. considering saturday was the end of the world, looks like we’re the ones who missed the rapture. i can happily state that i am in good company.
Dan - Simply....Superior
May 23rd, 2011
9:47 am
The tornado hit near my girls house, SC, P-Lito is further north.
Luckily most of the family was at the mall, there’s no major damage thus far..
SexyCool
May 23rd, 2011
9:53 am
Glad to know that your folks are safe.
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 23rd, 2011
10:05 am
Toby — Um, mostly what I heard in your post was, “Blah, blah, blah, whine, whine, blah blah.”
But this: “the law which allows men to go shirtless & not women is clearly sexist and immoral” — I completely agree with.
Morning, blogville…
Dan - Simply....Superior
May 23rd, 2011
10:09 am
@SC
Yeah, it was a little nerve wrecking to say the least, some folks don’t do well in crisis situations…
On topic:
I love a dressed down woman, to show up that way exudes confidence and the “don’t care” attitude that I’m attracted to.
Too much make-up, clothing, etc. shows me that you’re trying to hard. It’s like going out and seeing guys and girls in the latest trend in fashion. Yeah, you’re “so fresh and so clean”, but really, you’re peacocking.
My advice, do as little as makes you comfortable and let the inner you show. Beauty is skin deep, but ugly is to da bone
SexyCool
May 23rd, 2011
10:34 am
One of my besties has been married for 20years and still does not like her husband to see her without her makeup.
SlimNu
May 23rd, 2011
10:39 am
SexyCool – I would not ever want to be that dependent upon make-up. I know a chick who will not leave the house without ‘putting her face on’. And to me, it’s strange to use that expression but if you’ve ever seen a person who religiously wear makeup, without makeup, then you know exactly what they mean because they almost look nekked, sick, etc.
Oh yeah, good morning to all the survivors of the rapture from Saturday.
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
10:44 am
My coworker says his parents have been married about 34 years and she gets up 30 minutes ahead of his dad to do her face. Say what? Ut uh. We’ve had a couple of kids done the do a gazillion times, you’ve seen my O face and I’m worried about how I appear before you without make-up? I know this is going to see brash but really, that’s dang silly after 34 years.
abc
May 23rd, 2011
10:46 am
The rapture story is remarkable to me because those involved weren’t treated completely and only as simple-minded crackpots. To me, that showed that folks were thinking “hm… maybe… what if?” Which is a pretty good thing in some ways.
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
10:47 am
seem
Simple Man.....
May 23rd, 2011
10:49 am
“We’ve had a couple of kids done the do a gazillion times, you’ve seen my O face and I’m worried about how I appear before you without make-up? I know this is going to see brash but really, that’s dang silly after 34 years.”
LOL….(Co-signing)
czBrat
May 23rd, 2011
10:59 am
Celisea/SCool, i do believe that’s more common in our parents’ generation. goes along with the comment about seeing the O face. i think they’re “lights off” kinda folk. just guessing.
Lovely Brown
May 23rd, 2011
11:00 am
Good Morning to all!
Men always say they don’t like the makeup, hair , etc. but when I was single and hitting the club the ‘makeup chicks’ always got the most attention……
abc
May 23rd, 2011
11:02 am
Lovely… you’d base your actions upon behaviors observed in a bar? Really?
Hm, maybe, possibly. I admit to being unfamiliar with the bar scene. That said, I’d submit that you’re unlikely to meet anyone of significance in a bar. It’s a trifling scene, in my view — but, like I said, I don’t go there, so what do I know.
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
11:04 am
abc – To me, that showed that folks were thinking “hm… maybe… what if?” Which is a pretty good thing in some ways.
I agree….Funny you should mention…this same thing came up in church yesterday. A lady came by Saturday (kids are there on the weekend playing games and ball) and was crying because she didn’t know if it was true and said she wasn’t “ready.” As a result, a couple of the ladies sat her down and explained to her what she needed to know in accepting Christ.
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
11:05 am
czBrat – LOLOL…yep, I’m agreeing with the “lights out” comment
Dan - Simply....Superior
May 23rd, 2011
11:07 am
@LB
I didn’t say I wouldn’t knock a peacocking chick, as I would. They are the one’s with the lowest self-esteem in the place.
And like all animals, humans sense weakness….
abc
May 23rd, 2011
11:07 am
The pastor said “Good to see you all here this morning… or is it?” Nudge nudge wink wink.
DreamsMaterialize
May 23rd, 2011
11:07 am
If your date went totally casual, all natural, “carefree” when she shows up, would you admire her and think it’s refreshing? Would you wonder why she made no effort in being sexy for you?
So are you implying that “all natural” takes no effort or that is isn’t sexy? I know plenty “all natural” girls, who are very sexy. They’ll all tell you that natural doesn’t mean no effort. Your hair, skin, nails, whatever still require proper care, even in their natural state.
kimmie
May 23rd, 2011
11:07 am
Morning Peeps! Beautiful Monday!
I have never been one to “let it all hang out”. I agree, SCool, I can’t get the mindset that one should not put forth any effort at all.
I like to look nice. Getting prepared for the date, whether you are going full-out glam or casual going bowling, is part of the fun. I’m a girly-girl, don’t take that away from me! I don’t wear much makeup, but a little is perfectly fine. I’m sorry, I just don’t know of many ladies that are that devestatingly beautiful that can walk out without a stitch of makeup and not even run a comb thru their hair. Yes, some guys say they do, and that’s wonderful for you. At least some lip gloss is in order! If one has pretty skin, granted much is not needed. Of course, some overdo it. But to let some of you in on a secret – even the “natural look” is not really “natural”, especially on people you see on tv!! It’s makeup, honey. Actually that’s the way it’s SUPPOSED to look, like you’re not wearing any.
I actually see the problem with some being just the opposite – some folks let it hang out too soon or too often. You should take your mate for granted. Sure, getting up before them & applying makeup is a bit much, but doesn’t everyone deserve to look a little special every now and them? If not for your mate, just to feel good yourself?
Even if one is “trying too hard”, at least they are trying.
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 23rd, 2011
11:08 am
“The rapture story is remarkable to me because those involved weren’t treated completely and only as simple-minded crackpots”
I must have missed that memo…
SlimNu
May 23rd, 2011
11:10 am
Mrs. Tazzee, I will use eye liner at times and a lip gloss but I hardly do the full on make up face. So if one can appreciate how I look on mainly day to day, when we go out and I spruce it up a bit, they can appreciate that just as much. But i’m not a guy so I can’t really speak for them on if that’s an issue with them or not.
Mrs. Tazzee
May 23rd, 2011
11:10 am
Morning Folks!
I always started dating guys with the casual look. Very little makeup if any because that’s how I am 99.9% of the time.
When I was a teen, I vowed to never cross over into what I called the ‘makeup zone’ – it’s what SlimNu described, where a woman looks sick without her makeup. Just the other day I was saying I probably should start wearing something more than gloss on a daily basis (eyeliner, mascara) – but naw, I’ll continue to go au naturale.
Lovely Brown
May 23rd, 2011
11:15 am
@ abc- I would never base my actions or opinions on anything I have ever seen in a bar. I would be beyond lost lol!
Just telling what I have seen.
@ Dan- peacocking….I like that!
kimmie
May 23rd, 2011
11:16 am
Lovely – I agree, and it’s not just the bar scene, but everywhere. I don’t see the “Mabelline” chicks with a shortage of men on their arms.
Dan – It is not always a low self esteem thing. Sometimes it can be cultural. I have a latino friend that is all about the bling on everything. Everything has to have sparkle or glitter on it, from her makeup to shoes. Clothes are super-tight. Makeup always a little overdone. Other like individuals – fixed up exactly like her. She exudeds confidence and her husband seems to worship the ground she walks on.
Dan - Simply....Superior
May 23rd, 2011
11:17 am
Yeah Kimmie,
But like “confidence”, “trying too hard” is a very thin line for DTM.
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 23rd, 2011
11:17 am
Being well dressed and painting on the makeup are two separate issues, in my opinion. And how you dress is mostly dependent on the setting. As long as it’s appropriate and you wear it well, cool. I’m never a fan of a lot of make up. Some lipstick, maybe a little eye-liner if you want glam it up on occasion, but give me a natural face over Tammy Faye Baker any day.
kimmie
May 23rd, 2011
11:18 am
You should NOT take your mate for granted. – Oops!
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
11:19 am
I just don’t know of many ladies that are that devestatingly beautiful that can walk out without a stitch of makeup and not even run a comb thru their hair
I’m one that’s not worn make-up. The most I’ve done is brown gloss…nothing else. I’ve never bought cleansers or any skin products either. I do the same thing I’ve always done. Wash every morning with a separate clean washcloth…no soap, warm water followed by a very simple bland lotion to keep moisture. No blemishes, no bumps….nothing. Of us girls 2 of us had skin like this and the other 2 battled acne for years. I’m also a girly girl…very much so. I love womenly type stuff, sexy clothes and especially sexy shoes. Feminism though is not the essense of applying make-up.
SexyCool
May 23rd, 2011
11:20 am
Some of the most natural looking folk I’ve seen have been wearing some of the most skillfully applied makeup. Because really, if you’re doing it right or unless you’re going for a dramatic look, you really shouldn’t be able to tell you are wearing it.
“Your makeup looks nice.” is not always a compliment. Sometimes, it means “Wow…you must have on five pounds of makeup.”
Make up should enhance. It shouldn’t scream “Look at me. I bought out the MAC counter.”
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
11:21 am
Wait…twice I’ve worn makeup….I was Ms. 12th Grade and some sort of club queen my 10th grade year. For coronation and for homecoming.
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
11:21 am
4 times then…if you’re counting
Lovely Brown
May 23rd, 2011
11:24 am
doesn’t everyone deserve to look a little special every now and them? If not for your mate, just to feel good yourself?
I like to dress up sometime for just for me. When you look good, you feel good.
As far as my husband goes- When I stayed at home I would try my best to look better than I did when he left for work in morning. Who wants to come home to someone looking all crazy? Especially when they have been surrounded by ‘peacocks’
all day.
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
11:25 am
Lovely Brown – When you look good, you feel good.
Exactly…
kimmie
May 23rd, 2011
11:25 am
Dan – I’m just saying, what may appear to be “trying to hard” is just a regular day for some people. Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder.
The latino friend and I were looking at some pictures of a celebrity guy with his new girlfriend. The girlfriend looked like a model and was gorgeous. She had a nice hairstyle, minimal makeup look and a cute dress on with minimal jewelry. Her look looked effortless and elegant. My friend commented that she looked too “simple”.
kimmie
May 23rd, 2011
11:28 am
Feminism though is not the essense of applying make-up.
Celisea – I agree. It is all-encompassing. And you are fortunate to have such lovely skin that you can maintain on a simple regimen- that is one of the best assets you can have in my opinion. But that is just not reality for a lot of ladies, is all I am really saying. A lot of makeup caked on can make a bad skin problem worse too.
SexyCool
May 23rd, 2011
11:29 am
Then there are folks that looked washed out when they are not wearing makeup…case in point…all those “stars without makeup” photos.
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
11:33 am
Kimmie – A lot of makeup caked on can make a bad skin problem worse too.
Yep, true. IMO, it seems like a person’s skin/face sort of becomes dependant on “needing” makeup if it’s a ritual that’s been done over the years. Talk about folks looking extreme without it, I have seen some folks where you want them to put their face back on. Whatever works for each person.
abc
May 23rd, 2011
11:37 am
I’d speculate that if there’s that big a difference in the way one looks with and without makeup, then you’re wearing way too much makeup.
I think that if you spend a lot of time and effort with makeup in order to ‘look natural’, you probably don’t really look that natural. Clean is fine. Look the way you really are.
DreamsMaterialize
May 23rd, 2011
11:41 am
it seems like a person’s skin/face sort of becomes dependant on “needing” makeup if it’s a ritual that’s been done over the years.
Celisea This is actually true. Your body is resillient and naturally produces oils and chemicals to moisturize your skin and cleanse your skin. So, when you continually put on moisturizer, cleansers, and makeup you’re tricking your body into thinking it no longer has to produce these natural chemicals and oils. What you’ve acually done is stripped your body of the ability to perform it’s natural functions, making it chemically dependent on these artificial chemicals.
kimmie
May 23rd, 2011
11:42 am
it seems like a person’s skin/face sort of becomes dependant on “needing” makeup if it’s a ritual that’s been done over the years.
Celisea – I could not put my finger on it, but so true! For me, a little helps protect my skin from the elements. Most people think I don’t wear anything. When I do add a little eyeshadow or blush, it definitly looks special to people when they see me.
What I hate to see is a completely natural and shiny/oily look in pictures for a special occasion, like a wedding or special event. You really should put forth a little more effort when you are being photographed or will be on tv, especially with this high-definition now. I’ve seen a few bridal pictures, and when they look back they are going to regret it. I know they wanted to look soft and natural, but yet they came out washed out and greasy, like they just got out of bed and put on a wedding dress!
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
12:00 pm
It’s attractive when someone is comfortable in the skin that they are in. I don’t like make up on a woman, but I do like manicured nails, nice hair etc. As far as clothes go as long as she has a sense of style I am fine with that. Basically just take pride in your appearance without going over board.
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
12:10 pm
Exactly Kimmie/Dreams.
I remember my mama buying those compact sponges from Reed’s Drug store with several in a pact that would consume oil. She sometimes carried a compact and sometimes she’d have just those sponges. If she felt “shiny” she’d sponge her forehead, cheeks and chin
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
12:13 pm
The stockbroker was cool with no makeup but he HATED my nails. Go figure…lol They weren’t dirty or ragged, nor looked like bird claws….he just didn’t like them. He told me over dinner, cut your nails off or get them done. Of course he was king pedi/mani.
DreamsMaterialize
May 23rd, 2011
12:13 pm
In other news:
Camping’s PR aide, Tom Evans, told the LA Times that the group is “disappointed” that 200,000 true believers weren’t lifted up to heaven on Saturday while everyone else suffered and eventually died as a series of earthquakes and famine destroyed the Earth.
So were they disappointed that they weren’t saved or that everyone else didn’t suffer?
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
12:14 pm
pack not pact
Willie Dynamite
May 23rd, 2011
12:16 pm
Afternoon All,
Put me in the effortless category. I dont mind a little make-up and whatnot. Heavy make-up is a turn off. I am totally against having to spend hours just to go out. To me the confidence behind ‘the look’ is what gets me. Sure for some Women the made up look gives them confidence but thats temporary IMO. natural beauty is a misnomer. I dont think the chick that pays no attention to her look is anymore natural than the one that applies minimal makeup. I just want you to be comfortable in your skin and not make us late cause you in the mirror past our reservation time. And to be a Man, you gon sweat that make-up and perm out anyway in a few. Then what???
at1981
May 23rd, 2011
12:23 pm
Yes!!!!! That is what I want to see! The “uniform” is a turnoff……”uniform” meaning when the high heels and tight jeans makes a woman look sexier than they actually are by accentuating their hips and butt and she has on more makeup than usual. I’ve learned to spot that a mile away now if a woman is really sexy in that getup or if its just a “uniform” where her sexiness stock will go down once she is dressed down! I prefer a very casual, low key, no stress 1st date where we both are dressed down, so we can see the real “us”. If she is sexy to me in flat shoes, plain jeans and a top, and with very little makeup on…….then I KNOW she will be even more sexy with the heels, tight jeans, and more makeup on!!!
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
12:29 pm
Basically I want the breast to hang , stomach to be as flat and ass to curve just the same naked as she is clothed. I am a fitness freak and could only be married to another fitness freak. Make up I don’t understand the dynamics of it except to say that I do not like a lot of it.
Willie Dynamite
May 23rd, 2011
12:32 pm
I just want to recognize you in the morning, afternoon, evening without all the controlled mechanisms. If I’m attracted to you in the produce section without all the pretenses then we good. Personally if I think you made yourself up just to run some errands or go to the grocery store then I may smile and compliment you but K.I.M.
Willie Dynamite
May 23rd, 2011
12:39 pm
In addition, The eye contact you make with me when we are talking and not the compact you keep lookin at while applying touch ups to your makeup. The smile in your voice when I say something silly but true that hits home. The smile on your face when I say something or do something that makes you squirm but not wanting me to stop or change the subject. That is what matters to me not what shade eye-liner or lip gloss you have on. But then again I may be wrong.
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
12:47 pm
Yet another reason to get to know the woman’s family. Do all of the “sit well” as the age? LOL
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
12:52 pm
PR – Yet another reason to get to know the woman’s family. Do all of the “sit well” as the age
My mama is heavyset, always have been and so are all my sisters and brothers…I’m the only one that’s not fat. My daddy was always a nice size. Even as he aged, he didn’t have a lot of sagging skin and had a slight pooch but for the most part he aged very well
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
12:54 pm
…my point was (12:52) sometimes not. Things skip around. Genetics can sometimes be funny
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
12:55 pm
See Celisea, I would have just missed out on you then.
Everyone but you… I would have thought that it was coming eventually.
Willie Dynamite
May 23rd, 2011
12:57 pm
Celisea – yep you are right, genetics can be a wild card. My MIL is 5foot nothing, My FIL is 5foot 3, My BIL is 5foot 4 but my wife is 6 foot. She has very tall people in her family but if I only looked at immediate family I’d think she was adopted.
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 23rd, 2011
12:59 pm
Willie D — How tall was their mail man?
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
12:59 pm
That just a risk I nor my truck suspension can take. LOL
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
1:03 pm
Too, my mom’s mother was a red head with really long hair. My mom was the only one that took after her father. All of her sisters were fair skin and red heads..naturally. My mom sisters all resemble their mother.
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
1:10 pm
PR – I would have thought that it was coming eventually.
Well given that I’m not exactly a teenager anymore, I can’t just induldge like I use too…lol I’m about to hit the sidewalk now. Really though, I can pretty much eat anything as long as I don’t over induldge. Sweets are going to be the death of me. As long as I’m eating hearty well balanced meals, I don’t gain a thing. If it’s junk food though, a couple of days of that and I can tell in my clothes. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not skinny nor do I look 25…cause I’m not but I can’t complain.
Willie – That’s wild…6 feet and everyone else in short? Yeah, there was some dna/gene jumping in her family.
Even to us (me and sibs) the girls favor in pairs. My and one sister favor, then the other 2 and the pairs look nothing alike. My brothers are 3 that favor and 1 that looks nothing like them or my mom or my pops…maybe he was adopted…lol Actually he favors my grandmother…the only of 8 kids to look like my mom’s mom.
SlimNu
May 23rd, 2011
1:12 pm
A lot of folks in my fam are actually pretty tall so I’m not certain why i’m as short as I am. Maybe I took after my grandmother who isn’t really that tall.
Willie Dynamite
May 23rd, 2011
1:26 pm
swiss – thats funny cause when I first met them i had no idea. Me being the a-hole that I am I mentioned something along those lines and got the side-eye. Then as I met moer of the family i understood. Heyal that was the first time I actually met a native-american. Black folks always talk about I got indian in my family. Well sure enough Great Grandma and Great Aunts straight off the reservation.
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
1:30 pm
Celisea, I can understand that. I rarely eat junk food at all our family dinners put moe over the edge calorie wise sometimes but I just stay on top of it. LOL
Willie, there are bunches of Native American’s up here on and off the reservations. Pretty women!
SlimNu
May 23rd, 2011
2:08 pm
I guess all of blogsville left to go touch up their make-up or powder their nose. Yaaaaawnnnn
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
2:08 pm
Check your email,
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
2:08 pm
Not you Slim, LOL
DreamsMaterialize
May 23rd, 2011
2:16 pm
I guess all of blogsville left to go touch up their make-up or powder their nose.
Slim Or maybe they were taken to heaven Saturday and we’re what’s left. Strange though cuz that would mean that Celisea and abc didn’t make it, but me.lo did. lol
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
2:24 pm
Dreams – It didn’t happen…but it’s gonna
SlimNu
May 23rd, 2011
2:26 pm
Dreams – Or maybe we’re the only ones left in Hell on Earth. lol
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
2:27 pm
Dreams, that was funny! LOL
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
2:27 pm
Dreams – Mmmm hmmm, why just me and abc? Why MMEELLOO? Mmm hmmm
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
2:28 pm
Why is that “strange?” Whatchu tryna say?
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
2:31 pm
Celisea, can’t go anywhere until 2038
SlimNu
May 23rd, 2011
2:32 pm
This blog is schizo…still posting comments above already posted comments
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
2:33 pm
PR – That ain’t a trip where you can reschedule. Just know you might need a back-up because I’d hate to be a no show. Hopefully you’ll plan on foregoing 2038 as well…in the event we’re summoned ahead of then
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
2:37 pm
Forego…
Lord Velonese
May 23rd, 2011
2:40 pm
“Dating: Should ladies let it all hang out?”
I say go for it, just don’t get upset when someone laughs or vomits at the site of you. Of course if it’s that bad you could pose for “The people of Walmart” just sayin.
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
3:00 pm
The people of Wal-Mart. LOL
Celisea, why do I feel you are trying to just figure out a way to get out of it all. LOL
SlimNu
May 23rd, 2011
3:03 pm
My sister was out and about this past weekend and sent me a pic she took of this group of chicks that clearly mistook a pair of underwear as shorts….I say that because the shorts were so far up their hinies that the bootay was hanging out from the bottom revealing all sorts of dimples, crevaces, and other nastiness. Do chicks really think that’s cute or do they just not give a dayum?? I’m slim and I still don’t like my ass to be all out & exposed…smh
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 23rd, 2011
3:07 pm
“Hopefully you’ll plan on foregoing 2038 as well…in the event we’re summoned ahead of then”
Purple — Should I save a seat for you at the next Agnostics Anonymous meeting…?
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 23rd, 2011
3:08 pm
“Do chicks really think that’s cute or do they just not give a dayum??”
Slim — Before I can comment on this, I’m going to need to see the pictures, please.
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
3:11 pm
Slim I am going to need you to send me those pictures so that I can make an informed comment.
Swiss, no I have a meeting somewhere else. LOL
SlimNu
May 23rd, 2011
3:15 pm
I have one I can send you….address? lol
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
3:18 pm
PR – Celisea, why do I feel you are trying to just figure out a way to get out of it all. LOL
Not at all. Let’s plan this way, either “on the other side” or if we’re still here 2038. How’s that?
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
3:26 pm
Slim, carlitogiordano@yahoo.com
Celisea, on the other side I am going to make you my angel
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 23rd, 2011
3:28 pm
Slim — karaoke bus (no spaces, all 1 word) at ya-who dot com (get it?)
I’m a spam-averse nerd….
DreamsMaterialize
May 23rd, 2011
3:32 pm
Dreams – Mmmm hmmm, why just me and abc? Why MMEELLOO? Mmm hmmm
Celisea I couldn’t (well didn’t feel like) assigning everyone on the blog to chosen/not chosen status. lol I put you in the chosen category because you’re SO awesome that it would surprise me to not see you make the journey to paradise.
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
3:37 pm
Dreams – I put you in the chosen category because you’re SO awesome that it would surprise me to not see you make the journey to paradise.
Mmm hmmm, this read a bit “loaded” LOL
abc
May 23rd, 2011
3:53 pm
Actually, 2038 is the next computer date/time bug, like the millenium bug only different. Unless we get 128 bit CPUs before then, that could handle a number that corresponds to the number of seconds since Jan 1, 1970. Or something.
If you’re referring to the Apophis asteroid, that will pass under the orbits of man-made satellites on Friday, April 13, 2029, if I recall correctly; proceed in a loop around the sun, and then head straight back at us, perhaps to collide 7 years later, April 13th, 2037. Scientists have a hard time calculating the loop around the sun and subsequent path, because they figure proximity to Earth’s gravity will cause the asteroid to wobble, because it’s elliptical.
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
3:58 pm
abc, thanks that is interesting stuff to know!
abc
May 23rd, 2011
4:02 pm
That’s 2036, not 2037, for the return path, 7 years… hmm, 7 years?! It’s another doomsday theory, but one that’s based in fact.
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
4:04 pm
This was one boring blog day
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 23rd, 2011
4:17 pm
C — You say that as if the day’s over. We’ve still got a good 45 minutes or so… It’s not over until WE SAY IT’S OVER! Was it over when the Germans bombed Pearl Harbor? Hell, NO!
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
4:18 pm
LOL, Swiss I watch that movie last week!
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 23rd, 2011
4:18 pm
Let me finish analyzing (pun intended) these booty pics Slim sent & we’ll get things jumping in this joint…
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
4:22 pm
Slim, ok those women are totally wrong in that picture.
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
4:23 pm
The one on the far right in the heels…maybe but the others. Well Meeelloo would do them. LOL
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 23rd, 2011
4:25 pm
Purple — They looked like they were posing for an ad for “Booty Sweat”
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
4:31 pm
Swiss – C — You say that as if the day’s over. We’ve still got a good 45 minutes or so… It’s not over until WE SAY IT’S OVER! Was it over when the Germans bombed Pearl Harbor? Hell, NO
Yeah but it’s hard to get it going after 8 hours…lol If you can make happen in 45 minutes what didn’t happen all day, you are one baaad mutha..shut yo mouf…lol
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
4:32 pm
Someone needs to slap the owner of the store who sold them those shorts.
SlimNu
May 23rd, 2011
4:36 pm
The one on the far right in the heels…maybe but the others. Well Meeelloo would do them.,/em>
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 23rd, 2011
4:37 pm
Purp — They probably thought they were buying them for their kids…
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
4:39 pm
(throws of my clothes in one motion for Celisea and starts to dance) Ohh not that kind of action (turns around and looks over my shoulder at Celisea) You tipping?
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 23rd, 2011
4:39 pm
Um…. yeah… I might have had a run-in or three with some booties very much like those back in my man-ho days… Don’t judge me!
Purple Rain
May 23rd, 2011
4:44 pm
Swiss, tell me you are lying? Who knew you had a cottage cheese only diet back in the day.
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 23rd, 2011
4:47 pm
Purple — To quote Rick James: Cocaine is a helluva drug…
(Although, in my case, it would be more like Jack Daniels + a week or more with no puddy)
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
4:50 pm
Umm, PR…no not THAT kind of action…
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
4:53 pm
But I guess if you say “action” in these here parts that’s about the natural assumption….for some huh
ARed has been MIA for a few days. Wonder if she gave the greenlight to the smooch guy…..hmmm
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
4:53 pm
Now THAT’S action
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
4:55 pm
Alright you few faithful, have a good evening
Celisea
May 23rd, 2011
4:56 pm
Retarded blog
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 23rd, 2011
4:57 pm
Actually, there are a couple of regulars MIA today… Maybe the rapture did happen…?
Guess that means those of us left behind might as well get to sinnin’
