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Dating Dilemma: Not ready for sex

Have you ever been in a situation where you decide to postpone/delay getting physical with someone you are dating?  It can be difficult explaining why you aren’t ready.  You don’t want to send the wrong message that “not now” actually means not ever.  So how do you tell someone you just need more time?

Everyone has different waiting periods – from minutes to months – when it comes to deciding when they want to hook up.  You would think that it is easy to meet someone with similar waiting periods, but it can be tricky.

While one person is ready to “get it out of the way” before things get too serious, someone else may want the opposite.

How do you bring it up when you see that you are headed to that part of the night  when you want to cool things off before it goes to far?

What would happen if your decision to delay sex is met with hostility? Is that one of those defining moments that can make or break a relationship?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

288 comments Add your comment

ASB

May 18th, 2011
6:34 am

Part of the waiting is ensuring the both of us are compatible. Too many people rush the physical part of a relationship. When the relationship doesn’t work out, feelings are hurt.

Plus, you should wait until the disease free reports come back!

MzNewy

May 18th, 2011
8:04 am

If I wanted to wait and he didn’t and used hostility to voice his displeasure I would give him two fingers and be out. Because that is a sign of things to come if I were to stay.

I brought it up with my current beau. Told him I wanted to see if we were compatible in other ways, if we could hang out together without having to end up in the sack and he honored that. All too often, people stay in a sexually gratifying relationship with someone they really are not compatible with. My motto is the relationship is not going to be in the bed 24 X 7, so after sex, then what?

Ark2011

May 18th, 2011
8:57 am

It varies, but if you are attractive and we are vibing, usually guys thoughts lead to the physical aspect. If that were the case and nothing happened after regular dating for over a month, I’d start hitting the breaks, no matter how well we were otherwise compatible. That part of a relationship is too important to me.

Outside of that, if I meet a beautiful woman and within an hour she wants to rock n roll, I’m good with that, too. At least she’s got a libido and that’s a good start…lol

Lana

May 18th, 2011
8:58 am

I don’t have a set time table as to when I want to take that step. I’m a pretty amorous woman and I really enjoy the sexual arts. If I get the itch, I get the itch. It’s happened after a few weeks and it’s happened as soon as we started the conversation. Sponteneity is the key.

Roberta

May 18th, 2011
9:03 am

After 5 or 6 weeks of dating, if one person still “isn’t ready”, it’s time for the other person to move on.

Dave

May 18th, 2011
9:03 am

Being that I really, really enjoy all aspects of intimacy, I will only wait for so long before I move on. If a woman told me that she needed time, I would give it to her. But if it went a couple of months, you can rest assured that I also have a “regular” elsewhere. I would never, EVER date someone that said she wanted to wait until marriage. Good luck and good night.

knockoutblonde

May 18th, 2011
9:06 am

If you say no to me after a great evening and I am making all the moves, short of pulling my skirt up and pointing, you have just been eliminated from the pool. I want (and have) a rocking sex life and I have no intention on letting that get away. I would much prefer it be with one man, but if I have to make a few “test drives” on the parking lot, I’ll do it. Nothing beats a couple of hours of rolling around in the sheets, on the table, on the floor or pretty much anywhere. In fact, I just felt a twinge just typing this and it’s still morning!

MC Hammock

May 18th, 2011
9:14 am

I’m with the majority, here. I might wait, but it won’t be for two months. That being said, when I dated my first wife, we were in bed within a couple of weeks and it was pretty much every or every other day for almost a year. As soon as we got married, it dropped to about once every two weeks then once a month, then once every two months. Your dating life has very little to do with your married life, as far as the sex part goes.

Wifey

May 18th, 2011
9:16 am

Sex in the relationship….um…gotta have it and ain’t gonna wait for it. If I tell you NO when you make you’re move, that means that I’m not only NOT interested in getting naked with you, but I’m also NOT interested in you. There will be no future dates, either.

Miller Lite

May 18th, 2011
9:17 am

If a woman tells you NO (or not right now) that’s one thing and understandable. If a GUY tells you NO, then that’s a really bad sign. It’s not ALWAYS the case, but it’s usually the case.

Laid Back White Guy

May 18th, 2011
9:18 am

Wanna meet for lunch KOB? lol

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 18th, 2011
9:18 am

@KOB

Why not lift the skirt and point? Or point under the table? Could make for an interesting night…

knockoutblonde

May 18th, 2011
9:23 am

LOL@Dan. if I have to make it obvious, then I suspect that him locating it himself may be an ordeal in itself. Although I usually go pantiless when I wear a dress, I’ve never had to go to those extremes to make my intention known. I’m actually pretty verbal about it and nothing arouses a man more than a woman that can slip in a little dirty or slutty talk into the conversation. Talk about turning Winnie the Pooh into a Grizzly Bear!

abc

May 18th, 2011
9:24 am

This is a topic suitable for high schoolers. Grow up.

knockoutblonde

May 18th, 2011
9:26 am

@Laid Back, sorry, I have to work today, but that doesn’t mean I won’t be thinking or fantasizing about a nooner. When I can’t do it really, my mind is pretty active about it. Most of my buds always tell me that I have a man’s sex drive in a female body. It’s a curse…lol

Lana

May 18th, 2011
9:27 am

KOB, you and I were cut from the same cloth it seems. Rock on, babe!

MzNewy

May 18th, 2011
9:28 am

Whoa…now I said I would wait awhile not on a clock but until the chemistry is right. Usually after a month or so… I enjoy a great romp too but not going to confuse a good lay with a good mate.

If I am not vibing with him on that level after a month or so of dating…I mean where I at least THINK about it, I am moving on because I’m just not that into him.

DJ Sniper

May 18th, 2011
9:28 am

I think I like KOB. Date + no panties=winning! lol

knockoutblonde

May 18th, 2011
9:28 am

Gotta hit the bricks. Have a great Wednesday everyone!

man's perspective

May 18th, 2011
9:31 am

Problem is that people want monogomy too soon. Most people want the commitment before sex. Ask yourself, “How can I commit before I know we are compatible in bed.” Sex and money are top two reasons relationships end. When i was single and interested in a woman, I would just hangout with them as friends. Usually, rather than pick them up on a formal date I would meet them out at a restaurant, club, friend’s house, concert or what have you. That way if either one of you began to feel uncomfortable it is easy to leave without the pressure of the good-night kiss. Also, I think it helps to establish a friends first approach. If she asked me to follow her home, then I knew that she was ready to experiment with the sexual side of our relationship and most importantly she was in the power position which I think made the sex ultimately that more enjoyable and ultimately us more compatible! The worst sex is when a woman feels she has to do it because she has found herself in a situation in which there is no easy way out.

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
9:32 am

Physical as in Kissing??

Lana

May 18th, 2011
9:36 am

MzNewy, I understand that, too. But I’ll take a good lay with an OK guy over bad sex or NO sex with someone that is mate material. Hell, sometimes I’m thinking to my self “If I don’t get sex soon, I’m going to rape the next guy that I see.” I wouldn’t, really, but I’m thinking that.

Bill Clinton

May 18th, 2011
9:38 am

Attention KOB,

Give me a call…I would like to meet you.

Motocross Survivor

May 18th, 2011
9:39 am

I’m always amused at reading the comments of casual porkers like these. Most of these wankers and scanks never find a long-term meaningful relationship. My wife and I waited four months, and we’re still happily married after 32 years.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
9:39 am

This is a topic suitable for high schoolers.

abc, well after reading most of these comments IMO it seems that it reached the intended audience.

SMH

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
9:43 am

Good morning….

High five, Raqi V. Great comeback. Loving it!

You be surprised how many women go pantiless when wearing a dress.

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
9:44 am

Congrats, Motocross!

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 18th, 2011
9:48 am

@Leggs

I wouldn’t, I know cut and color off sight.

Lana

May 18th, 2011
9:50 am

Oh well, in come the “Leave it to Beaver” mom wannabees. They only do it in one position and they don’t even like it that way. I’ll leave y’all to your boring lives. Later!

Lana

May 18th, 2011
9:51 am

They are like toasted bread with no butter, jelly or cinnimon. Booooorrrriiiiinng………..

Waiting

May 18th, 2011
9:52 am

I have a 90 day rule because most folk can’t keep up a charade that long.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
9:59 am

I have to start wearing my wedding ring more in the morning.

On topic: I don’t mind waiting however long for sex if I am pursuing a meaningful relationship, sex will come and I can put my physical needs on hold while I figure out everything else.

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 18th, 2011
10:00 am

@Waiting

A sociopath can outlast you, believe me. And, after the 90 days,
(s)he’s still not invested and all you’ve done is caused yourself to lose weight becuase of an arbitrary rule.

@Lana

I’m calling you out.

If you’re a brave and “’bout dat” as you claim to be, why run when someone opposes your opinion.

You really gone let names on a computer screen run you off? Really? Sissy…..

DreamsMaterialize

May 18th, 2011
10:04 am

It can be difficult explaining why you aren’t ready.
No it isn’t. Watch: “I’M NOT READY”. See how easy that was. No explanation or disseratation needed. A chick doesn’t have to beat around the bush to tell me she’s not ready. I don’t try to pressure people to do anything they don’t want to. If you’re not ready I’m cool with that. But you should respect that I AM ready as much as I respect that you’re not.

Simple man....

May 18th, 2011
10:05 am

OK then…..The responses this morning have me wondering….Why can a woman not be active and agressive about her sex life and still be taken seriously by other women???? KOB and Lana seem like strong well adjusted, rational women that happen to be completely comfortable with THEIR sexaulity….Why do so many other women look down on then for that?????

Lana

May 18th, 2011
10:05 am

I’m not running, I’ve just seen them spout off and just run people ragged because they have a different take. If you are sexual, then you’re a slut. If you’re enjoying single life, then you haven’t grown up. If you partake in something that doesn’t fit in a Sunday School decorium, then you’re a bad, bad person. That Raqi chick is the queen of ‘em. All she does is stay in the level “5″ and if you go above that, you’re a deviant. She is the epitamy of “What do women think is a sex addict? Anyone that has more sex or enjoys sex more than she does.”

czBrat

May 18th, 2011
10:07 am

HiYas

well. this is one of those topics where i usually come off looking like a prude. with the exception of my ex-hubs (we met in high school and i made it clear i was not giving up my virginity before marriage), i’ve not felt the need to discuss a sexual time table with any man i’ve dated.

thankfully, my dating experiences have been founded in friendships. we spent time out doing things and talking and getting to know one another in settings that didn’t smack of intimacy. yeah, there was some lusting going on after a while, but we enjoyed the process. and talk of exclusivity HAD to happen before getting tangled.

but hey, good for those who are less inhibited and completely comfortable with their lifestyles. you make the world a much more interesting place to live. :)

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
10:07 am

Dan, stop instigating.

And further more this Lana person took it upon him/herself to assume their comment is one of the “most” that I spoke about. No? No names were called. LOL

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
10:08 am

What would happen if your decision to delay sex is met with hostility? Is that one of those defining moments that can make or break a relationship?

Hostility?!?!? Really?!? Dealbreaker. No further discussion necessary.

TenderRoni

May 18th, 2011
10:09 am

Yeah, its funny how they came on here boasting about their sexual prowess, then disappear.

If the intention is for a meaningful relationship, I will take some time to get to know the guy. But I don’t really have a big “X” on the calander of this is the day I”m going to sleep with said man.

At this point in life, I’m wanting the three C’s before treating him with the cookie. Comfort, Compatiablity, and Commitment.

Lana

May 18th, 2011
10:09 am

Thank you, Simple.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
10:09 am

Simple Man, read what I wrote to Dan. I didn’t point to any particular comment when I made my statement. If you or anyone else felt that your comment should have been included in my general opinion then that’s on you. No names were called.

Lana

May 18th, 2011
10:10 am

See the comment ny Raqi? The defense rests.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
10:11 am

Leggs, now I am really. LMBO.

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
10:11 am

Enter your comments here

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
10:12 am

“Plus, you should wait until the disease free reports come back!”

Yeah…it sounds responsible and sht to say that. But really…who does that? And is telling the truth when they *say* they do?

JeromeMJ

May 18th, 2011
10:14 am

KOB sounds like an AIDS spreader with an oozing puss brain. Not very sexy or something to dunk in. When you see that run like hell because you now know a psycho freak who will be cryin on your shoulder after puking on you from too much booze.

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 18th, 2011
10:14 am

@Lana

Clearly you haven’t stuck around long enough to hear Raqi get really real about her husband.

Even without that, why are letting the opinions of others stop you from voicing your own?

My thought – this board could use some women that are actively dating, enjoying a healthy sex life, and aren’t too stuffy to comment on it. I think it would be an added voice to the community.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
10:16 am

What would happen if your decision to delay sex is met with hostility?

When I read this ^ statement all I can think is “But no one owes it to you to have sex with you”. I don’t care how many dates you go on, how much money is spent and how much of a great time you have together no one owes you their body.

Mrs. Tazzee

May 18th, 2011
10:16 am

Interesting comments.

When I was in the dating game, I mentioned my celibacy when the topic came up. Most guys would say they were fine with it while not really being fine with it – if you know what I mean. I only had one guy that flat out said he couldn’t date me.

I think it was my last 2 years of dating that my position changed from I’m waiting until marriage to I’m not sure if I’ll ever get married and I want some of that good stuff. As I stated yesterday, when I met my husband I wasn’t sure if I wanted marriage. And that was my struggle in it all – I believe fornication is a sin, but I wasn’t sure if marriage was for me. So the last few guys I dated, I was honest with them. When the subject of sex came up, I told them how long I’d been celibate. I also told them that I wasn’t quite sure where I was on that spectrum so if they were looking for a sexual relationship, I wasn’t the one. Similarly, if they were looking for a celibate relationship – I might not be the one.

With me – physical attraction didn’t make me want to have sex, it was the heart connection. Let me rephrase that – a hot makeout session would spark the physical desire to have sex, but that was easy for me to walk away from. It wasn’t until I started truly caring for a man that I struggled with not getting more intimate. I have friends that have stayed in relationships because the sex was soooo good. I never wanted that to cloud my ability to pick a mate.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
10:17 am

Dan, yet and still I did not type one name in my comment. If she feels like hers is one of the most then maybe, just maybe…

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
10:18 am

Most men are dogs.

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
10:20 am

I have said one more than one occasion that I don’t put a timetable on a decision about when to go all the way with someone that I am dating.

I am an advocate of taking steps to make sure that you are having the safest contact possible, making responsible decisions and going with works for you.

I believe that the physical/sexual compatibility is a key part of the decision making process when you determine to what direction a relationship should take.

What I believe that you should fiercely guard are your emotions and your mind. Letting yourself go too soon emotionally is far more damaging than quickly engaging in responsible sexual activity.

czBrat

May 18th, 2011
10:22 am

You be surprised how many women go pantiless when wearing a dress.
i actually have no prob with this whatsoever, leggs, but it aint happening with a guy i’m casually dating. :wink:

^5 @ dreams 10:04 and sexy 10:08

Mrs. Tazzee

May 18th, 2011
10:24 am

Simple Man – show me one comment where a woman looked down on KOB and Lana for their comments. abc (a man) was the first to say something negative about the comments (in general) and Raqi agreed. I don’t see where anyone specifically called out those ladies’ comments. I think you’re just trying to start something…

Waiting

May 18th, 2011
10:27 am

@Dan simply superior – you may be correct that a sociopath can outlast my 90 day rule. It doesn’t matter to me if they can or not. Nothing is worse to me than for a woman to “give it up” only to find out that this person is not the one! As a lesbian, I find my 90 day rule to come in quite handy! Those that only want sex will move on and those that are interested in a meaningful long term relationship will stay around for as long as they can. :-)

Ark2011

May 18th, 2011
10:28 am

Yes, yes, yes, Raqi….most men are dogs. Just like most women are hyper emotional, irrational and creat self inflicted psychological trauma for themselves.

Be careful about generalizations. You are cutting yourself with your own knife…..

kimmie

May 18th, 2011
10:30 am

Morning Gang!

Wow, some folks, even though they put on like they are soooo uninhibited, are soooo sensitive and defensive!!!LOL!! Do you & don’t worry about what others do or won’t, or won’t comment on.

I thought we were all adult here. I’m all about exercising my rights as a grown a– woman, able to make my own decisions about what I do. Physical intimacy has pretty much always been tied to my heart. I’ve never had a timetable. I have to be attracted to a man and feel comfortable with him before we go there. The attraction part he has very little control over. The comfort part he has a bit more wiggle room. The quicker he makes me feel comfortable and secure, the quicker it will happen.

Hostility?? He better get out of here with that!

Dan – Addressing your stuffy comment. I know with me it’s not a matter of being stuffy. I blog from work so I have to watch it. I’m a bit more private as well. But stuffy, no.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
10:32 am

Mrs. Tazzee, I know they are because they could not have been reading me for long. And if I am a “Leave it to Beaver” mom I am probably the only June Cleaver that just wore a black lace bustier, garter belt and crotchless panties Sunday night while riding reverse cowgirl. LOL

letgetthisstr8

May 18th, 2011
10:32 am

Which 1 is da skank and whick 1 is da hoe. they both work fo da same pimp

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
10:34 am

Ark2011, I simply made that generalized statement just to see if any men would voluntarily put themselves in that statement and get offended. I actually did not expect one man to do it. I was attempting to make an example seen. But thank you for the response.

blue-eyed-blonde

May 18th, 2011
10:35 am

I’ve not seen any of the blog “ladies” putting anyone down. It seems to me Lana was the first to accuse some of being “Leave it to Beaver” moms. She seems to be the one with her panties in a wad…oh wait….that can’t be now can it?

Mrs. Tazzee

May 18th, 2011
10:35 am

Raqi – don’t you get started! I can’t see my husband at lunch like you can, LOL.

As a matter of fact – it was Motorcross (a man) that first said something negative about the comments. abc simply addressed the topic.

And I wish a mofo would get hostile with me about the decisions I make regarding my body! That’s a sign for an immediate exit.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
10:39 am

LOL Mrs. Tazzee. Okay I will stop. I have to take the little lady to the doctor’s in about an hour anyway so I am about to get ghost.

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
10:40 am

“So how do you tell someone you just need more time?”

Well…..”I need more time.” usually works pretty well for me. :)

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
10:41 am

LOL…..nothing is worse to me than for a woman to…as a lesbian…

talk of high anticipation and then a cataclysmic anti-climax with that lesbian comment!

:lol:

czBrat

May 18th, 2011
10:41 am

I am probably the only June Cleaver that just wore a black lace bustier, garter belt and crotchless panties Sunday night while riding reverse cowgirl.
c’mon now, raqi. you know still waters run deep. no telling what june had up her crinoline sleeve.

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 18th, 2011
10:42 am

@Raqi/Taz

I never said that anyone said that….today. But she’s made a similar comment before and I wanted to let her know that there are those of us that welcome new voices.

@Kimmie

I feel you, I’m at work too. And I know that I have to watch my tongue (at least for the next 36 or so hours), and I’ve seen you ladies get professionally nasty a time or two before.

@all (regulars)

my comment, like your Raqi, wasn’t directed at nor named a single person; it was for Lana to know that she doesn’t have feel some kinda way about expressing herself.

@Lana

About your knee high leather boots……

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
10:44 am

“While one person is ready to “get it out of the way” before things get too serious”

If someone takes that stance, that’s a turn off. And usually a sign they are not going to be into YOU enough to bring you pleasure.

There is a difference between being into the act and being into the person that you are acting out with. There is also a difference in the result. Whereas it’s a part of the decision making process for me, I also have to be feeling you enough to not feel like I’m performing or convincing you how good I can be.

Lovely Brown

May 18th, 2011
10:44 am

Good Morning to all!

The comment about Leave It to Beaver moms made me laugh!

Just because some women don’t unwrap their cookie for every man that makes them a lil hot makes them boring?!

And I have found out from living a lil while that the ones, male or female that always talk about sex how they get it, how they do it, how freaky they are, etc. are usually the ones not getting any or are really boring when you do get them in the sack…all talk and no action.

Really sexy people don’t need to advertise.

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
10:45 am

I thought “man’s perspective” post at 931a made some very good points.

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
10:47 am

Or convincing u how good I can be..

As if that’s a bad thing SexxyCool…lol

kimmie

May 18th, 2011
10:48 am

Really sexy people don’t need to advertise.

Lovely – Bears repeating! Empty wagons make the most noise!!

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
10:50 am

I really do not understand what all of the fuss is this morning. Just been an adult and deal with whatever decisions you make.

Now when this stuff is over I need some advice from the men.

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
10:51 am

Yeah, but Meelow, for me, sexual contact with you is an expression of the attraction, interest and feelings that I am developing/have developed for you, not a session that is purely for entertainment purposes only or to prove a point.

Big Un

May 18th, 2011
10:53 am

Lovely, I agree with that statement….to a point. Sometimes the quiet women will drag you back to their bedroom by your hair and then put a lock on the door when they leave, cause they ain’t finished with you.

But I’ve met many more women that just oozed sex and would talk about it quite openly, then they proved it when toe met leather. One woman in particular made me call a friend to come pick me up, because she wouldn’t take me back to my car. She had left to go cook me some breakfast and said “Dont’ go anywhere. We aren’t finished. I called my buddy and was whispering “Come help me. She won’t let me LEAVE!” I slipped out of the bedroom window while she was in the kitchen. A man’s got to know his limitations….LOL

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
10:53 am

SexyCool, I agree. Feeling that you are connected with a person and getting it on after only 3 dates is not the same as fkcuing for sport.

Simple man....

May 18th, 2011
10:54 am

Mrs. Tazzee, My comment was one made about women in general….I read / participate in this blog often and my question was a fair and legit question. Women do often catagorize and condemn other sexually liberated women. Women that are in touch with embrace their sexality are often labled…That was not an indictment of anyone else. It was not a judgement on anyones lifestyle…Just asking why women pass judgement on other women….

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
10:55 am

“tissue” is today’s slang word of the day:

“Let me tissue how to Dougie”

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
10:57 am

How can it be stealing when WiFi is trespassing in my house?

Lovely Brown

May 18th, 2011
10:58 am

She had left to go cook me some breakfast and said “Dont’ go anywhere. We aren’t finished. I called my buddy and was whispering “Come help me. She won’t let me LEAVE!” I slipped out of the bedroom window while she was in the kitchen. A man’s got to know his limitations….LOL

I have had my laugh for the day! Thanks Big Un :-)

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
10:59 am

My brother got my son a t-shirt that reads “I’m what happened in Vegas!” LOL

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
10:59 am

czBrat, I know. LOL I just said June Cleaver the comment came after mine and you know…

LOL

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
10:59 am

You don’t have “haters” people just don’t like you!

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
11:01 am

Diva says ‘everyone has different waiting petiods’

Ladies yes,Men?? not so sure…

Guys,anybody here with a s3xual road block on a chic u feeling? Please let us know.

Me none…I will get it in today if u oblige..

Dog much…u right Raqi…raising my hand!

Al

May 18th, 2011
11:01 am

Ummm….sport fking is wrong? Sorry, I didn’t get that memo.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
11:01 am

Washing Machine:” I want you inside of me, I want to get you wet”
Clothes:”That’s hot, I want you to toss me around,…I’m dirty”
Washing Machine:”I like dirty!”

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
11:02 am

Exiled, like I said earlier if I really like her and want her in a relationship I would prefer and won’t cross the sexual path until I knew everything else was kosher. Sex is the easiest part of a relationship IMO

abc

May 18th, 2011
11:02 am

Being comfortable with one’s sexuality and posting all about it on a public forum, or discussing it in a public setting via any means, are entirely different things. So far today, this discussion speaks most about exhibitionism and voyeurism.

Al

May 18th, 2011
11:04 am

Exhibitionism and Voyeurism, TOO? Dayum…..I gotta get caught up on thses new rules…….

czBrat

May 18th, 2011
11:06 am

and sexy’s 10:51 is exactly why the concept of ‘make sure the sex is good before you commit’ baffles me. if we’ve established connections on multiple levels that are not merely based on physical prowess then WE … YOU and ME … make the sex good.

Just asking why women pass judgement on other women….
probably for the same reasons guys who exude sensitivity and put a woman’s needs ahead of their own are judged to be tw-ats by other men. we’re flawed humans.

reign … just zip it!! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Dave

May 18th, 2011
11:13 am

@czBrat, oh no, I beg to differ. You can be in love with someone and the sex can be bad. That’s like the folks saying that there is no such thing as bad sex….BUT….THERE….IS. When I’m dating you, I can like you, but if you are inhibited, prudish or don’t place much importance on a sexual relationship and have no interest in adventure and exploration. That’s a deal breaker, even if you are the nicest person in the world. Just my opinion….

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
11:19 am

CanalZone, there are two types of people, those who stay on topic and…Hey I like frosted flakes!

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 18th, 2011
11:19 am

Yeah, for some folks it (sport fcking) is.

For others, it’s a way to relieve frustrations, tensions, and (shockingly) getting to know someone on a more initimate level than words can express.

I’ve seen sex be used in many ways and let me say ^ are among my top 5. (rounding them out, makeup and angry – in no particular order)

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
11:19 am

Love is said to be more important than money, have you ever tried paying your bills with a hug?

Celisea

May 18th, 2011
11:22 am

Just because some women don’t unwrap their cookie for every man that makes them a lil hot makes them boring?!

Bears repeating

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 18th, 2011
11:23 am

slow golf clap for Dave

Yeah, that “love makes the sex better” motif is really some Hollywood/fantasy isht.

Nothing worse than feeling a woman emotionally only to find out y’all are not sexually compatible.

And, whoever say whatever, but once you reach a certain age, if you ain’t done it, ya won’t.

And, I personally have moonwalked away from a number of those situations.

shamon!

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
11:24 am

PR..11:02

I hear u about not crossing the s3xual path..but it’s easier when she puts the brakes on that and u choose to agree coz u value her like u describe or to move on.

My question is do u mouth the 2 month rule or whatever rule u have,urself or u just keep it quiet and make sure ur hands don’t go beyond what u are comfortable with.

U say ‘babe I like u but no sex until……’

Really?

czBrat

May 18th, 2011
11:26 am

no need to beg, dave. :) i’ve been in situations where the greatest sex became less than fulfilling once our feelings took a different turn. i’ve also been in situations where i’ve enjoyed something, shall we say a bit different from my norm, simply because i soooo enjoyed the guy. these have been MY experiences, hence my opinion.

to your point, if the inhibited chick is into you enough, she’ll open up to exploration. ijs.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
11:30 am

Exiled, I have said no but I am still interested. I don’t have a time frame on when it can happen it just depends on the other stuff. These standards are only for a woman that I value, I have had sex with some women soon but I knew that we were not going to be long term.

As far as good sex bad sex etc. Sexual relations is what you make it, if you have the patience for someone who is sub standard to your liking, bring them up to speed. No two people are the same that person may think that you sexual prowess is sub standard as well. I do believe if to people are genuiely into each other they will get on the same page sexually at some point. Train the puddy to your liking! LOL

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
11:36 am

PR….let’s talk about ur real lyfe experiences if u don’t mind…

U have said ‘no but I am still interested’

How did the ho$ny thirsty one take it,was her h$0rny ego still intact after that rebuff?

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
11:37 am

Exile, I am married to her, that’s the most recent experience

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
11:42 am

PR….damn she’s hot!

and I’m sure she wont regret the move coz when u were ready u came in well tricked out like some classic cadilac!

Lol

Dave

May 18th, 2011
11:43 am

In my experience, hang ups are the big barrier. No, some people just don’t WANT to experiment or learn. They think something is dirty or wierd. Many times, you can’t buck or break that. You can TRY to train or convince, but if they aren’t gonna do it, then they aren’t gonna do it. Even if they do it, theu won’t enjoy it because they just have that mental block. Don’t fight it. Either accept that this is the hand you are dealt or move on. I choose to move on.

As far as love and sex, I’ve been in love and had good sex and BAAAAAAAAD sex. In starining my tiny little brain, the most breath taking sex I ever had…and I mean this chick could take the first pitch out of the park on the first swing, was someone that I knew through work and she made the fourth of July happen every time. The bad thing is that I know how it CAN be….but hasn’t been that way ever again. Why didn’t I end up with her? She didn’t want to be tied down and I was just her flavor for about two months. But I knew that whomever was next, that man thought the same thing I did.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
11:46 am

She respected me more for making that decision and it let her know how I felt about her and respected her

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
11:48 am

Exile, when I was ready to she wasn’t ready to. LOL

Willie Dynamite

May 18th, 2011
11:51 am

Morning All,

I have no problem with a Chick expressing there desire to wait. She doesn’t owe me anything. Even after time and money has been spent she still doesn’t owe me anything. I have the choice to make if I want to continue down that road. To each there own. HOWEVER, for me during the dating phase of my life, Physicality was a general progression of the budding relationship. No timetables but if we have progressed in our dealings to that being the next logical step then…….I would have a problem if that point came and we both knew it but still nothing. Being a gentleman I would excuse myself from the equation. Plus my ego doesn’t do so well if it thinks I’m getting some for any reason other than ‘I just gotta have him’.

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
11:55 am

PR..I was told in the past that she wasn’t ready….I left them intact(no pun) do that another man can have them.

I like to get the pressure off quick so we can focus on less vane stuff…

czBrat

May 18th, 2011
11:56 am

i think people with hangups tend to have hangups about more than just sex. i also think people with open minds tend to be open-minded about more than just sex. what i’m saying is, without knowing exactly how a person will be in bed, if you’re taking the time to get to know them you would pick up on a few things that tell you if they lean toward the very conservative or the wild side or somewhere in between. making that move into the bedroom should not reveal an absolutely shocking dealbreaker (unless your s/o failed to mention they’re transgender :shock: )
and as reign said, fine tuning the dance should be part of the fun.

kinda bored with this now so … reign, amuse us with a few more yuks please.

Willie Dynamite

May 18th, 2011
12:02 pm

In my experiences the truly unihibited Chicks treat Sex like a Sprint. Nothing wrong with that. The prudish (outwardly June Cleaver types) treat Sex like a Marathon. Nothing wrong with that. Know your lane and find a running mate that can match you stride for stride. Some 40 yard dashers are great for a few romps and tend to re-invent the 4th of July very frequently. Some prudes have a helluva stride once you get deep into the race.

czBrat

May 18th, 2011
12:08 pm

ahhhh, willie. have i told you lately that i luv you? :wink:

Lovely Brown

May 18th, 2011
12:20 pm

Some prudes have a helluva stride once you get deep into the race.

Sounds like the Kentucky Derby…..there is always a pace horse( the unihibited chick? ), they come out fast like gangbusters, but they never win the roses.

It is the horse that stays back in the pack( the prude? ) and picks the other horses off one by one with a steady pace and comes on strong in the end that wins……

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
12:27 pm

Lively Brown…it is the horse that stays back in the pack….and comes on strong in the end that wins the race….

hmmmmm,u talking of a one on one,man to woman s3ual romp or that analogy works best in a three_Some of two females and one stud?

Fion

May 18th, 2011
12:29 pm

@ Willie D

Here, Here!!! Nothing like discovering a closet Freak.

Celisea

May 18th, 2011
12:32 pm

Sweet Lord in heaven….EYE CANDY migrated to the new floor with us…not one but 2…mmm mmm mmm. Wonder if he saw me do a double take?? Work just got better :)

Lovely Brown

May 18th, 2011
12:34 pm

@ Exiled- There is only one “horse” that wins the roses. ;-)

Makes me think about Talladega Nights, Ricky Bobby’s dad- If ya aint first, ya last :-)

Willie Dynamite

May 18th, 2011
12:37 pm

Brat – uhh no you haven’t, but its understood. Just give me a smile after that wink and I’m good.

Brown – They each have there place. Some seasons and situations call for that pace runner. Life may be a Marathon but this weekend might not be the time for that slow build.

Fion – 99% of them are. You just have to bring it out of them. 1 mans prude is quite possibly another mans Kapri Styles.

Lana

May 18th, 2011
12:38 pm

I prefer a little bit of everything depending on the location, mood and lead up. Sponteneity and creativity are what makes the good, great. Sometimes you feel the need for just all out lust and other times, slow and steady. Both horses can win in the race designed for them. Quarter horses are great for short distances, cutting and manuverability. Thoriugh breds are great for the mile race, but only moving in a straight line. It’s the ability to mimick both breeds that makes one more of a winner. IMO (since we brought up the horse analogy)

SlimNu

May 18th, 2011
12:38 pm

Well, i’m just strolling in but any dude that catches an attitude if I choose not to sleep with them is just plain WACK. At our age, you should have those type emotions in check with someone not being ready to give you some puddy.

Still trying to catch up

TenderRoni

May 18th, 2011
1:06 pm

random: Man I just saw the cutest guy in Walmart

Fion

May 18th, 2011
1:11 pm

Things that remind me of Great Sex.

Finding $20 in a coat that I haven’t worn since last winter.

Sunny day at the beach!

Red Ferrari

Marvin Gaye’s “Since I had You’

In conversation with 2 interesting Women

Great Food at Dinner Party

Top down at 100+ Mph

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
1:28 pm

I had a real gangster moment at Walmart:

The line was really long both of them that they had open. After waiting and the line moving slow I just walked up front cut in front of the redneck that was next and said “I’m Next!” Lady rang me up and now I am back home. That was totally uncalled for but damn it feels good to be a gangster! LOL

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 18th, 2011
1:29 pm

@willie D

I hear you, truly.

But after a while my leg cramps and my chest start to hurt, I can’t be running marathons with no end in sight.

While I may have flubbed the analogy, my point holds. If it’s in there and the guy has to turn Sissphus to get to it, at a certain point, I’mma let the boulder roll over the next fool.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
1:33 pm

Dear Chair,

I know you get more ass, but I get more head.

Sincerely,

Pillow

SlimNu

May 18th, 2011
1:34 pm

Purp – I’m not going to see the Mrs on Mob Wives am I after that gansta move at Wally world? lol

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
1:36 pm

Slim, SooWoo

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
1:38 pm

Marathons usually end after about 26.2 miles…and you can usually get it done in three and a half to seven hours.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
1:38 pm

I caught an alien jacking off in my freezer.
Me:”What the hell are you doing?”
alien:”I cum in peas”

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 18th, 2011
1:42 pm

@SC

Ask Richard Pryor’s dad’s widow.

She.literally.killed.a.man.with puddy

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
1:45 pm

Guys, I have a crush I know I shouldn’t and I am not going to act on it but damn I can’t deny it I have a crush.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
1:48 pm

Alphabet Man are you still around? I need your professional man/father opinion.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
1:49 pm

Feels good to get that off of my chest. LOL

Fion

May 18th, 2011
1:50 pm

@Purp
….I’ll play is safe and assume it’s not the Alien!!!!!

DreamsMaterialize

May 18th, 2011
1:50 pm

Is your crush close to home Purp? You could be in the danger zone if it is.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
1:54 pm

Where is 2CPTG? He can answer this for me.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
1:55 pm

DreamsMat, hey I didn’t see you.

I saw a nice pocket today that I would like to get the hub for father’s day from his two littlest ones. The one I saw and like is $75. Should I be looking for a nicer one or is that about how much a pocket watch is going to be.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
1:57 pm

I saw a nice pocket WATCH…

Danggit.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
2:03 pm

Fion, no it’s not the alien. LOL

Dreams, I saw her a few months ago and noticed she was I would not say very beautiful but it was just something about her that was “attractive” anyway I would see her in the morning I thought sporadically whenever I was at the gas station.( I fill up the tractor twice a week and I just drive it to the station) So I started to notice that she was there whenever I was there, I thought to myself her little car does not burn that much gas. After a while I noticed that she was just getting coffee and a breakfast sandwich. I played it cool and never really made I contact but I do watch her. Well this morning she smiles and decides to speak. Well I just said “hello” and she stood there giving me all of the signs to pursue really quickly I said “have a nice day” she said “you too, I will see you friday morning” To me that tells me she has been watching me also, and knows the days that I come in there. I can’t switch up my days because she is there everyday, and I am not going to change gas stations or run from her. I am not going to get to know her or anything but human nature is a bitch there is something I am attracted to about her.

abc

May 18th, 2011
2:03 pm

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
2:06 pm

Exile, I am not Catholic, she probably doesn’t know I am married but regardless I am not doing anything with her or asking her name or anything

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
2:07 pm

PR…u catholic right?!

maybe God(not the Devil) is telling u something…..good!

:lol:
If she don’t know u married,leave her alone. If she knows…well,dust her off!

Fion

May 18th, 2011
2:10 pm

Hey!!! Hey!!! Arnold……..I mean Purp. Down boy, down.
For all that is good and decent Purp you just cannot do it.
If that’s not good enough, think all the kids that look up to you! :)

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
2:10 pm

abc, I saw a nice pocket watch today that I would like to get the hub for father’s day from his two littlest ones. The one I saw and like is $75. Should I be looking for a nicer one or is that about how much a pocket watch is going to be

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
2:14 pm

Fion, I am not going to do anything. I just wanted to get it off my chest

SlimNu

May 18th, 2011
2:15 pm

Not asking her name or anything would make it more exciting I’m sure. lol

Celisea

May 18th, 2011
2:16 pm

Plus you have a new little one…that’s motivation enough to K.I.M.

DreamsMaterialize

May 18th, 2011
2:16 pm

Hey Raqi. I actually haven’t worn a watch in a few years. I have about six, all nice and in excellent condition, just sitting there. lol I would say $75 should be fine. Not trying to deflect, but I think if you like it, it must be pretty good quality. You seem to have an eye for that, so go with it. Oh, and when is father’s day again? lol

abc

May 18th, 2011
2:17 pm

You can get a decent pocket watch for that much; Staur makes some nice ones that go up to around $200. Start adding jewels and all, the sky’s the limit, it could be Rolex prices if you go far enough. My own preference is along the lines of vintage railroad pocket watches, depending on age/type/condition, anywhere from $500-$3500, occasionally more.

But, for a reliable and good looking watch, $75 should be plenty. Get quartz movement instead of mechanical, probably less, and more reliable; most pocket watches are mechanical, though. Which is fine.

Maybe you could get the old man a nice vest w/watch pocket and watch chain to accessorize.

Fion

May 18th, 2011
2:18 pm

@ Purp

Volleyball Diva update. It ain’t over, but it will be within 2weeks.

kimmie

May 18th, 2011
2:19 pm

Speaking of Arnold, yall seen the pictures of the baby mama? I thought he had done better. She looks kinda old, older than 50.

Motocross Survivor

May 18th, 2011
2:19 pm

Purple Eyeshadow wrote:

“I had a real gangster moment at Walmart:

“The line was really long both of them that they had open. After waiting and the line moving slow I just walked up front cut in front of the redneck that was next and said “I’m Next!” Lady rang me up and now I am back home. That was totally uncalled for but damn it feels good to be a gangster! LOL”

The “redneck” (Poor White Guy) just saw how much trouble he’d get into for touching a poofter.
You wouldn’t have been as successful with me.

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
2:19 pm

Coming up for air…what you guys talking about other than the Kentucky Derby?

@kimmie ~ I said “dang, she’s 50.” She’s not aging well.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
2:21 pm

Thanks abc.

I am getting the watch for two reasons. He made a statement Sunday morning so when I saw the watch I thought it would be nice to get. And he also used to have one that his grandfather gave him that got stolen when he was in college. I want to have it engraved also.

DreamsMaterialize

May 18th, 2011
2:22 pm

I thought he had done better. She looks kinda old, older than 50.
kimmie That was my initial thought too, but then again we don’t know how she looked twenty years ago at 30 when they supposedly started kicking it. I want to see the old pics! lol

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
2:22 pm

LOL DreamsMat. I am sure your daughter will let you know when that special day arrives.

kimmie

May 18th, 2011
2:23 pm

That sounds like a really nice gift, Raqita.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
2:23 pm

kimmie, she is ugly but then again Maria is not a looker either, but the lady he cheated with look ugly.

Fion, why you ditching Ms Volleyball?

Celisea, I am not going to engage her. What kind of car do you drive Celisea, was it you? LOL

kimmie

May 18th, 2011
2:24 pm

Dreams – Yeah, I forgot about the 20 years. I was subtracting back when the kid was born, in my head, and she still didn’t look that great! But 20 may make a difference!

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
2:25 pm

Motocross Survivor, put up or shut up. What are you saying? Because in this instance you really have no clue as to what lurks on the other side of your screen.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
2:26 pm

On Arnold’s side piece…

When I saw the picture yesterday I made a comment that I am surprised at how she looks. My friend’s hubby said that Arnold was all heart for that woman. Just like Charles was for Camilla. A person loves who they love.

Celisea

May 18th, 2011
2:27 pm

but then again we don’t know how she looked twenty years ago at 30 when they supposedly started kicking it.

Now this was my first thought when I first saw pics of her. I just figured she’s aged and I’m sure it’s been a good 10/15 years since their first tryst…

PR – It wasn’t me…I drive a benz

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
2:27 pm

Kimmie!
It’s not the looks that mattered to Arnold,,it’s the other good stuff….( :wink: )

too bad the newspaper people are trying to throw her under the bus,posting that ugly pic.

In any case wld a prettier baby mama be consolation to Maria?

Problem with some of these married woman is that whine too much once married and feign( lie) headaches when the Hubby wants dome frisky action.

Serves her right!

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
2:27 pm

Celisea, no it wasn’t a benz. Dang I thought I was lucky, and what are you doing looking at eye candy on your floor. I thought you only had eyes for me. What does my competition look like, I need to sneak in and give you my card while he goes to the bathroom if you two ever go on a date.

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
2:28 pm

But here’s the thing about the babymomma….15 years ago when the sexing was going on…I’m sure she was a lot hotter. At this point, she’s a 50 year old chick that used to be a maid.

Celisea

May 18th, 2011
2:28 pm

Anyway, he ain’t exactly easy on the eyes either…lol It’s one of those affairs where you see something other than the picture we see.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
2:28 pm

Thanks kimmie. I just hope it gains as much sentimental value with him as I am hoping it does. LOL I am choosing it for reasons I think he will appreciate. It’s more of a keepsake item than someone I expect him to use.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
2:29 pm

I said “dang, she’s 50.” She’s not aging well.

Leggs, now you know, but I can’t say…

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
2:29 pm

Or…yeah…what DreamsMat said. (lol)

Celisea

May 18th, 2011
2:30 pm

Well not a good 10/15…cause the kid is 10…I’d say possibly a good 15/20 years since the beginning.

Lovely Brown

May 18th, 2011
2:32 pm

On Arnold- Maria Shriver has never been beautiful…IMO

The maid looks like at one time she was smokin’ hot. She has ‘that’ look.

Fion

May 18th, 2011
2:32 pm

@ Purp

Last month she went MIA on a Saturday. When I asked what was the deal,
I got the“I needed my space” comment. I think she’s tippin with the Ex
I’ve been cool towards her since and she can feel the change, BTW, which I think she wants.

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 18th, 2011
2:33 pm

Look,

It proves the idiom that cheating is a matter of convenience and opportunity, that’s it.

Sure he could’ve knocked off a stunna or too, but in Hollywood, they don’t pop out kids like that.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
2:34 pm

…he ain’t exactly easy on the eyes either…

Celisea, not even a little bit. When he and Maria first got married the first thing I thought is those babies are going to be interesting looking. Both of them with those chiseled jaw lines. LOL

Celisea

May 18th, 2011
2:36 pm

Raqi – Both of them with those chiseled jaw lines. LOL

Funny you should mention…I was looking at GMA this morning and thought (while observing the jaw line) gheesh she’s a Kennedy…lol

Lovely Brown

May 18th, 2011
2:37 pm

On Arnold again :-)

Maria looks like she would break if you touch her.

It’s not right at all, no justification…. but I bet the maid was giving Arnold sumthin’ he could feel

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
2:37 pm

LovelyB, I agree. LOL The other woman just looks like your average middle aged woman of her origin that has not had $$$$ to put into her physical upkeep. Maria on the other hand is made of money…

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
2:38 pm

Fion, if the feeling is gone and not worth working through, have one more bedroom romp. Take some pictures to cherish the memories and then have fun for the rest of the spring and summer!

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
2:39 pm

You right Dan because in the Hollywood they just hide those mishaps (Janet J and Kim F) or terminate them.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
2:39 pm

Message to any guy interested Celisea is off limits until 1/2/2038

SlimNu

May 18th, 2011
2:40 pm

Many guys cheat with women that are less attractive than their main chick. I would assume that is because they are probably getting something from the other party besides looks, that they feel the main chick is not giving them…i.e. attention, listening to their sob stories, wild uninhibited sex, the non-stress of being in a relationship, fun etc.

abc

May 18th, 2011
2:40 pm

I’d recommend finding out exactly what his grandfather’s watch was, if possible, and getting one just like that. But then, I like the old and vintage stuff.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
2:41 pm

Slim, I think they may just listen and relax a little instead of always driving them crazy and not listening. Not to many men sob. LOL

Celisea

May 18th, 2011
2:41 pm

PR – Message to any guy interested Celisea is off limits until 1/2/2038

Ummm, nothing between now and then??? We may have to renegotiate…lol Soooo you’re gonna sit tight??

Fion

May 18th, 2011
2:42 pm

@ Purp
I’m plannin’ full Frontal Assault Memorial Day Weekend. Then Finito!!!!!

That’s why I said 2-weeks.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
2:42 pm

Celisea, if you ask me to I would. :) But you haven’t asked. You can have a boyfriend just let him know you have a date in 2038 and don’t hold it against you. You are one of the few women on her I wonder why a man has not came and claimed you yet. I like you, from what I ready you would make a good SO for a deserving man. :) (oh snap someone get me a b.a.b. t-shirt)

Fion, LOL

Sassy1

May 18th, 2011
2:42 pm

I takes my time when giving up the cookie!! If dude is trying to pressures me…he can gets to stepping…quick, fast and like yesterday…BAM….be gone!

Lovely Brown

May 18th, 2011
2:43 pm

It proves the idiom that cheating is a matter of convenience and opportunity, that’s it.

True. But I still believe back in the day the maid was hot.

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
2:43 pm

giving him something he can feel..

See….I like u Lovely Brown!

SlimNu

May 18th, 2011
2:44 pm

Purp – Yall may not necessarily sob but you know what I mean…make it seem like their current situation/relationship is sooooo bad.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
2:45 pm

Oh thanks abc. That’s a good idea. I will see if his brother knows.

Celisea

May 18th, 2011
2:46 pm

PR – You are one of the few women on her I wonder why a man has not came and claimed you yet. I like you, from what I ready you would make a good SO for a deserving man. (oh snap someone get me a b.a.b. t-shirt)

Awwww, that’s so sweet…but um…erummm…how you know?? Because I won’t say so?? For me…and it’s just me…it’s a matter of privacy. Not knocking anybody else but I’m good joking or reading jokes or even reading others but no speakee on current personal adventures. Past experiences? Yeah, why not?

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
2:47 pm

Slim actually no I don’t. If a woman sits there and listens to that stuff well she gets what she deserves. LOL

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
2:47 pm

I’m in stitches, Raqi V. I know!

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
2:47 pm

Hello, Leggs!

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
2:48 pm

You right Dan because in the Hollywood they just hide them (Janet J and Kim F) or terminate them (Countless hollywood beauties).

kimmie

May 18th, 2011
2:48 pm

Exiled – You said exactly what I thought you would say, about baby mama and! Ain’t nobody throwing her under the bus, she threw herself there! I read an article about her, she “pursued Arnold” they said, but obviously he didn’t resist too hard!LOL!!

Arnold can’t keep his hands to himself, remember that was in the news about him a few years back and he had to apologize.

And yeah, I guess it does serve Maria right, after “upgrading” him and sticking by him thru his mess & birthing 4 of his babies.(i’m being sarcastic)

No it wouldn’t make Maria feel any better if maid was prettier, just an observation!

Lovely Brown

May 18th, 2011
2:49 pm

Yall may not necessarily sob but you know what I mean…make it seem like their current situation/relationship is sooooo bad.

Yeah, it’s/she is soooo horrible, doesn’t listen, don’t have sex, the list is endless.

Yet every night there he is, in her face…..don’t cheat, leave.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
2:49 pm

What blog female gives it the goods the quickest do you all think? Okay don’t type it but I know what everyone’s answer is….BAM! LOL

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
2:50 pm

It takes time when giving up the cookie……dude trying to pressures Sassy…BAM!
@Sassy!

so how long,on average is a session of cookie giving for U Sassy?

Sassy1

May 18th, 2011
2:53 pm

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
2:54 pm

Hey there, PR!

Is SexyC on here? SexyC, I heard on the news that Maria was told about the love child in JANUARY, not last week like I thought.

Sassy1

May 18th, 2011
2:55 pm

PR—Bust he77 wide open. :evil:

Lovely Brown

May 18th, 2011
2:57 pm

Bust he77 wide open.

My granny used to say that! LOL!

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
2:57 pm

Why?

Sassy coz u said ‘I takes time when giving up the cookie’
and not,’before I give up the cookie’

so u talking about live cookie giving here so no wonder my question….

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 18th, 2011
2:58 pm

@Raqi

Exactly, until they get the come up…..

Believe Arnold wasn’t it; see also McCartney, Paul, Carrey, Jim, Carey, Nick…

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
2:58 pm

I am laughing too hard, my lunch may come back up.

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
3:01 pm

Kimmie!

she pursued Arnold? that’s Arnold PR spin!

u know that’s not an equal contest there..servant and master… Its the other way round actually.

He proly raped her.

More like a slave master relationship if u ask me.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:03 pm

Sassy1 there is a saying on the blog. “A hit dog will hollar” LOL I didn’t say your name.

Sassy1

May 18th, 2011
3:03 pm

Who the he77s is you…Exiled? WHATEVER!!! None of your business…thats is how long? Marinate on that!!…Exiled!

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:04 pm

Who is you Exiled? Who is you?

Sassy1

May 18th, 2011
3:05 pm

PR—go suck on a egg while you kicking rocks!

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:05 pm

Where are you finding all of these men and listening to their sob stories? If there was no one to listen there would be less talking. LOL

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:06 pm

Who is you Sassy1…who is you?

Sassy Me...Stir it Up :-)

May 18th, 2011
3:09 pm

Hold up wait…I know we gave assy1 a brand new dictionary accompanied with a sparkly thesaurus but did anyone give her a blog jacket? I thought newbies got one(if she is in fact new and not a recycled blogger reincarnated). I’m jus sayin… :mrgreen:

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
3:11 pm

Sassy?

so u don’t like to clarify thangs on here..I’m just aksing a question on my 2.57 pm that’s all.

Actually, I likes U! :lol:

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
3:14 pm

“Sassy1 there is a saying on the blog. “A hit dog will hollar” ”

This is a real saying in the real world (LOLOL).

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:15 pm

Sassy, I am sure you have a legal case for name infringement or something.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:17 pm

Leggs are you checking your email today?

Lovely Brown

May 18th, 2011
3:17 pm

who is you?

You know who I is! I’m done :-) Y’alls have a good evenin

Celisea

May 18th, 2011
3:18 pm

Recycled…she’s been given a vest already…lol Posting emoticons I don’t have the swing of yet

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:20 pm

Celisea, who is you?

Lovely Brown, ciao bella!

Sassy Me...Stir it Up :-)

May 18th, 2011
3:20 pm

Recycled…she’s been given a vest already…lol

Oh okay then…carry on..

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
3:22 pm

Sassy1 is not a new blogger. She knows her way around this camp.

@PR ~ I’m in and out of email. Let me go see if any good news is there.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:23 pm

Ladies, I think Simple Man incited a mature sexy fashion show on here once. Let’s do it again. What are you all wearing today? Please describe from head to toe.

Sassy Me...Stir it Up :-)

May 18th, 2011
3:24 pm

I am sure you have a legal case for name infringement or something.

Maybe so but I’ll leave assy1 alone for now and give her a chance to crack open that dictionary…and looking at the pictures don’t count :lol:

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:24 pm

Leggs, her first day here she stated something that made me know that she has been around here before.

Sassy1

May 18th, 2011
3:24 pm

PR–You trying to wacking off at your work!! REALLY! :neutral:

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
3:25 pm

Nothing in my email, checked junk email and I got the alert. Thanks, PR!

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
3:26 pm

Clothes. Shoes.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:27 pm

Leggs, your filter thinks I am junk. LOL

kimmie

May 18th, 2011
3:32 pm

There is a picture on tmz and on Huffington post, of Arni’s baby mama at her baby shower.

No, not much better.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:32 pm

SexyCool, that was not cool or sexy. LOL Smart ass :)

Celisea

May 18th, 2011
3:33 pm

PR – I is Me

Who you be?

Celisea

May 18th, 2011
3:34 pm

I think I’m going to head out early….I’m fighting a migraine….yet again

Celisea

May 18th, 2011
3:34 pm

PR – I’m about to leave in a few I think….I been fighting this thing but I’m gonna have to sleep this off. I’ve been carrying a couple of day now.

Oh that was funny….clothes. shoes…..lol

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:35 pm

Celisea, I is me too, but we’s both can’t be me or cans we be’s me at 2 diferent timeses?

Celisea! You are in charge of making sure I don’t fall into that stuff what happened? LOL

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
3:35 pm

Clothes. Shoes.

I’m done… :lol: :lol:

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:35 pm

When are you leaving? I was going to do some after hours blogging with you.

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
3:36 pm

:lol: @PR! It seems like that.

Celisea

May 18th, 2011
3:37 pm

Not sure what’s going on with the timing of the posts but this thing is acting retarded

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:38 pm

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
3:45 pm

Kimmie

the dagger for Maria is that she actually contributed gifts be4 and proly after the kid was born…maybe shared Arnold dirty tid bits with baby mama, not knowing she was getting served too.

I know of a real life situation like that….

Men are Dogs!

SlimNu

May 18th, 2011
3:46 pm

Oooooooh, you said a bad wooooooooord

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:55 pm

Exiled, Maria was probably venting to the maid and then the maid went and did to Arnold everything that Maria was complaing about. LOL

Sassy Me...Stir it Up :-)

May 18th, 2011
3:58 pm

Arni’s baby mama at her baby shower.

she looks a lil robust n manly…maybe that’s how they grow em where Arni’s from and/or she reminded him of his mom. I ‘on know…

LP

May 18th, 2011
3:59 pm

Hello all,

I am new to posting but not new to reading this blog. Let me just say that I have thoroughly enjoyed myself today. I have nothing to add to the topic discussed because you all have said just about everything. I will have to make it a point to tune in for future discussions. Hope you all have a good day!

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
3:59 pm

PR,so those two women shld figure out who to blame between the two of them,Right?

I agree…what man is going to go between a woman’s legs unless she allows it.

And then she betrays another sister…(I know,white sister)…
Come on! Lol

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
4:01 pm

LP, Hello!

Exiled, has anyone place any blame on the maid at all? Everyone is just mad at the Terminator. He didn’t rape the maid and she helped keep the secret too.

kimmie

May 18th, 2011
4:04 pm

Exiled – I know of a real-life case like that too!

Purple – I certainly blame the maid too. She knew he was married!

Just a jacked-up situation all the way around!

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
4:06 pm

PR!

Nope!

not really… the blame,if at all is, she ain’t pretty enough to f?!$&ck him!

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
4:08 pm

Yesterday, while reading about the study where the article talked about Balck women being the least physically attractive women in the study conducted, all I could think about was The Color Purple – “You shole is ugly.”

I laughed my ass off and promptly forgot about that foolishness. (I’m still laughing…..)

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
4:11 pm

SexyCool, I heard about that but didn’t bother reading it.

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
4:13 pm

Rock – you know the weird way my mind works…reading Sassy1s today made me think of it.

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
4:14 pm

Hello, LP…hope you comment more going forward!

“she ain’t pretty enough to f?!$&ck him!” You know better, Exiled. One of two reasons can apply: (1) Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and (2) puddy has no face! :wink:

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
4:15 pm

She came to mind earlier today when the ped doc said something and I said “yowza”. LOL

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
4:15 pm

Leggs, Puddy has a face and i’ve kissed it right smack on the mouth. LOL

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 18th, 2011
4:23 pm

C’mon now…

Let’s see… If you were a maid, making minimum wage (at best), probably illegal, and had a chance to be a baby mama for a rich, U.S. citizen, celebrity/politician… I’d bet my bottom dollar that every one of y’all would be f__king The Governator, too… :lol:

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
4:27 pm

Puddy has no face….

PR..ignore Leggs

Leggs…take that camera phone,go home and get in the bathroom and do an Eddie Long on ur ugh ugh…

Tell us tmrw if the face appeared.. Lol

MC Hammock

May 18th, 2011
4:29 pm

I’d fk Maria so good n hard that all those lines on her face would disappear. She needs a good bout with revenge sex.

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
4:29 pm

There are reports that her salary was app. $1200/week. Of course, no idea if that’s true or not.

MC Hammock

May 18th, 2011
4:30 pm

I’ll bet Maria is ready with the crotchless body stocking and platform stilletos and shaved smooth as a baby’s bottom. I’ll bet she’s gonna unload some nasty hip movement the next time she gets a dude.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
4:31 pm

Leggs, you are right about that. Some guys will screw anything that lies still long enough to mount it.
When I was in high school we had a boy get expelled for having sex with one of the mental retarded girls. He didn’t care. Whomever let him, he did. There was running joke in school about him saying dogs run and hide when they see him walking thru the neighborhood.

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
4:33 pm

Mental retarded?

Lol Raqi,don’t speak English like my grand ma like that.

But mentally challenged people have functioning hormones too,don’t they?

That’s a bad example.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
4:34 pm

Those mentally challenged kids would come to our school once a week to use the arts and crafts rooms. Next thing we know he is being hauled away never to return. SADS.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
4:35 pm

SADS = Such A Damn Shame

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
4:35 pm

Puddy has no face….

PR..ignore Leggs

Why Exiled! How many of you have admitted to sexing the fat girls but wouldn’t be caught dead in public with her. How many has had a ugly chick or two but wouldn’t let your friends know about it…sometimes, puddy has no face!

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 18th, 2011
4:36 pm

“There are reports that her salary was app. $1200/week.”

I wonder if that was before or after she started giving up the enchilada…? :lol:

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
4:36 pm

@Exiled ~ you just can’t help yourself can you!?! Being banned meant nothing to you. Keep it up, you won’t even find the back door to get back in, my lil buddy!

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
4:37 pm

@Raqi V ~ thanks you. I know I’m right!

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
4:37 pm

Oh no!! I did a “Sassy1″ with that hanging “s”

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
4:38 pm

Leggs I used same words u used,what I do?

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
4:39 pm

Leggs, I haven’t done a porker or an ugly lady.

LOL@Raqi talking about retards in a nice way.

Ladies, always act like the choose top notch guys to bed. Until they break up then he is the worst thing since herpes

Ark2011

May 18th, 2011
4:45 pm

I have never, ever done a fatty, but I did have a weekend with a chick that from neck down, she was playmate material. But from neck up, she was about a “1″. But one thang fo sho, she could rock and roll better than anything on video…a lot. Of course, we never went out….lol

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
4:46 pm

This is what you did —> “Leggs…take that camera phone,go home and get in the bathroom and do an Eddie Long on ur ugh ugh…”

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
4:46 pm

and u saying that’s actually worse off than mouthing the words ‘puddy’?

????????

MC Hammock

May 18th, 2011
4:47 pm

I always heard that ugly chicks were the best in bed, cause they are just overjoyed that they are in the game! They gotta make the most out of their opportunities!

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
4:48 pm

I would think a fat girl would be the best.

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
4:51 pm

Fat girls kum quick,maybe same as uglies

Coz Xmas cones once a year,so much excitement when it does!

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
4:52 pm

Simple man....

May 18th, 2011
4:54 pm

Popping in for a minute….Not scared to admit it..Once upon a time a few years ago…I had teh big girl (about 2 bills) that work her way into my rotation…She started out as a one timer, cause I was running block for one of my boys. But she was really cute, had a great personality, and was world class in the sack!!! Went from stopping by at 1230 am to hanging out with her at the skating rink during prime date hours!!!

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
4:55 pm

Simple – I’m sure she will be eternally grateful for the huge favor that you did her by allowing her to be seen in your company in public.

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
5:04 pm

Dayum, a “1″ :lol:

MC Hammock

May 18th, 2011
5:05 pm

“World Class in the sack”…gotta remember that. Also, “If sex were a team sport, she would be the Franchise Player”

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
5:05 pm

Yes, I do. It’s not the words that get you banned, well it is, but is more about the nasty implications you have behind those words! Just watch yourself. Puddy is acceptable here!

Sassy Me...Stir it Up :-)

May 18th, 2011
5:06 pm

Went from stopping by at 1230 am to hanging out with her at the skating rink during prime date hours!!!

Big girls need love,too Craig

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
5:08 pm

I remember you telling us about her, SimpleM, when you and PR were going back and forth with who had “porkers” or “fugglies” in the past!

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
5:11 pm

So saying’ picturing puddy’ is not severe or the couching of it,like I did in some colorful lingo?

:lol:

What gives?!

Simple man....

May 18th, 2011
5:20 pm

Scool…Quite the opposite..She turned out to be one of the best people I ever met!!! Bleesed to have had her pass thru my life!!!