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Dating Dilemma: Not ready for sex

Have you ever been in a situation where you decide to postpone/delay getting physical with someone you are dating?  It can be difficult explaining why you aren’t ready.  You don’t want to send the wrong message that “not now” actually means not ever.  So how do you tell someone you just need more time?

Everyone has different waiting periods – from minutes to months – when it comes to deciding when they want to hook up.  You would think that it is easy to meet someone with similar waiting periods, but it can be tricky.

While one person is ready to “get it out of the way” before things get too serious, someone else may want the opposite.

How do you bring it up when you see that you are headed to that part of the night  when you want to cool things off before it goes to far?

What would happen if your decision to delay sex is met with hostility? Is that one of those defining moments that can make or break a relationship?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

288 comments Add your comment

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
4:08 pm

Yesterday, while reading about the study where the article talked about Balck women being the least physically attractive women in the study conducted, all I could think about was The Color Purple – “You shole is ugly.”

I laughed my ass off and promptly forgot about that foolishness. (I’m still laughing…..)

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
4:11 pm

SexyCool, I heard about that but didn’t bother reading it.

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
4:13 pm

Rock – you know the weird way my mind works…reading Sassy1s today made me think of it.

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
4:14 pm

Hello, LP…hope you comment more going forward!

“she ain’t pretty enough to f?!$&ck him!” You know better, Exiled. One of two reasons can apply: (1) Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and (2) puddy has no face! :wink:

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
4:15 pm

She came to mind earlier today when the ped doc said something and I said “yowza”. LOL

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
4:15 pm

Leggs, Puddy has a face and i’ve kissed it right smack on the mouth. LOL

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 18th, 2011
4:23 pm

C’mon now…

Let’s see… If you were a maid, making minimum wage (at best), probably illegal, and had a chance to be a baby mama for a rich, U.S. citizen, celebrity/politician… I’d bet my bottom dollar that every one of y’all would be f__king The Governator, too… :lol:

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
4:27 pm

Puddy has no face….

PR..ignore Leggs

Leggs…take that camera phone,go home and get in the bathroom and do an Eddie Long on ur ugh ugh…

Tell us tmrw if the face appeared.. Lol

MC Hammock

May 18th, 2011
4:29 pm

I’d fk Maria so good n hard that all those lines on her face would disappear. She needs a good bout with revenge sex.

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
4:29 pm

There are reports that her salary was app. $1200/week. Of course, no idea if that’s true or not.

MC Hammock

May 18th, 2011
4:30 pm

I’ll bet Maria is ready with the crotchless body stocking and platform stilletos and shaved smooth as a baby’s bottom. I’ll bet she’s gonna unload some nasty hip movement the next time she gets a dude.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
4:31 pm

Leggs, you are right about that. Some guys will screw anything that lies still long enough to mount it.
When I was in high school we had a boy get expelled for having sex with one of the mental retarded girls. He didn’t care. Whomever let him, he did. There was running joke in school about him saying dogs run and hide when they see him walking thru the neighborhood.

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
4:33 pm

Mental retarded?

Lol Raqi,don’t speak English like my grand ma like that.

But mentally challenged people have functioning hormones too,don’t they?

That’s a bad example.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
4:34 pm

Those mentally challenged kids would come to our school once a week to use the arts and crafts rooms. Next thing we know he is being hauled away never to return. SADS.

Raqi V

May 18th, 2011
4:35 pm

SADS = Such A Damn Shame

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
4:35 pm

Puddy has no face….

PR..ignore Leggs

Why Exiled! How many of you have admitted to sexing the fat girls but wouldn’t be caught dead in public with her. How many has had a ugly chick or two but wouldn’t let your friends know about it…sometimes, puddy has no face!

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 18th, 2011
4:36 pm

“There are reports that her salary was app. $1200/week.”

I wonder if that was before or after she started giving up the enchilada…? :lol:

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
4:36 pm

@Exiled ~ you just can’t help yourself can you!?! Being banned meant nothing to you. Keep it up, you won’t even find the back door to get back in, my lil buddy!

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
4:37 pm

@Raqi V ~ thanks you. I know I’m right!

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
4:37 pm

Oh no!! I did a “Sassy1″ with that hanging “s”

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
4:38 pm

Leggs I used same words u used,what I do?

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
4:39 pm

Leggs, I haven’t done a porker or an ugly lady.

LOL@Raqi talking about retards in a nice way.

Ladies, always act like the choose top notch guys to bed. Until they break up then he is the worst thing since herpes

Ark2011

May 18th, 2011
4:45 pm

I have never, ever done a fatty, but I did have a weekend with a chick that from neck down, she was playmate material. But from neck up, she was about a “1″. But one thang fo sho, she could rock and roll better than anything on video…a lot. Of course, we never went out….lol

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
4:46 pm

This is what you did —> “Leggs…take that camera phone,go home and get in the bathroom and do an Eddie Long on ur ugh ugh…”

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
4:46 pm

and u saying that’s actually worse off than mouthing the words ‘puddy’?

????????

MC Hammock

May 18th, 2011
4:47 pm

I always heard that ugly chicks were the best in bed, cause they are just overjoyed that they are in the game! They gotta make the most out of their opportunities!

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
4:48 pm

I would think a fat girl would be the best.

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
4:51 pm

Fat girls kum quick,maybe same as uglies

Coz Xmas cones once a year,so much excitement when it does!

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
4:52 pm

Simple man....

May 18th, 2011
4:54 pm

Popping in for a minute….Not scared to admit it..Once upon a time a few years ago…I had teh big girl (about 2 bills) that work her way into my rotation…She started out as a one timer, cause I was running block for one of my boys. But she was really cute, had a great personality, and was world class in the sack!!! Went from stopping by at 1230 am to hanging out with her at the skating rink during prime date hours!!!

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
4:55 pm

Simple – I’m sure she will be eternally grateful for the huge favor that you did her by allowing her to be seen in your company in public.

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
5:04 pm

Dayum, a “1″ :lol:

MC Hammock

May 18th, 2011
5:05 pm

“World Class in the sack”…gotta remember that. Also, “If sex were a team sport, she would be the Franchise Player”

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
5:05 pm

Yes, I do. It’s not the words that get you banned, well it is, but is more about the nasty implications you have behind those words! Just watch yourself. Puddy is acceptable here!

Sassy Me...Stir it Up :-)

May 18th, 2011
5:06 pm

Went from stopping by at 1230 am to hanging out with her at the skating rink during prime date hours!!!

Big girls need love,too Craig

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
5:08 pm

I remember you telling us about her, SimpleM, when you and PR were going back and forth with who had “porkers” or “fugglies” in the past!

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
5:11 pm

So saying’ picturing puddy’ is not severe or the couching of it,like I did in some colorful lingo?

:lol:

What gives?!

Simple man....

May 18th, 2011
5:20 pm

Scool…Quite the opposite..She turned out to be one of the best people I ever met!!! Bleesed to have had her pass thru my life!!!