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Dating Dilemma: Not ready for sex

Have you ever been in a situation where you decide to postpone/delay getting physical with someone you are dating?  It can be difficult explaining why you aren’t ready.  You don’t want to send the wrong message that “not now” actually means not ever.  So how do you tell someone you just need more time?

Everyone has different waiting periods – from minutes to months – when it comes to deciding when they want to hook up.  You would think that it is easy to meet someone with similar waiting periods, but it can be tricky.

While one person is ready to “get it out of the way” before things get too serious, someone else may want the opposite.

How do you bring it up when you see that you are headed to that part of the night  when you want to cool things off before it goes to far?

What would happen if your decision to delay sex is met with hostility? Is that one of those defining moments that can make or break a relationship?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

288 comments Add your comment

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
2:54 pm

Hey there, PR!

Is SexyC on here? SexyC, I heard on the news that Maria was told about the love child in JANUARY, not last week like I thought.

Sassy1

May 18th, 2011
2:55 pm

PR—Bust he77 wide open. :evil:

Lovely Brown

May 18th, 2011
2:57 pm

Bust he77 wide open.

My granny used to say that! LOL!

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
2:57 pm

Why?

Sassy coz u said ‘I takes time when giving up the cookie’
and not,’before I give up the cookie’

so u talking about live cookie giving here so no wonder my question….

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 18th, 2011
2:58 pm

@Raqi

Exactly, until they get the come up…..

Believe Arnold wasn’t it; see also McCartney, Paul, Carrey, Jim, Carey, Nick…

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
2:58 pm

I am laughing too hard, my lunch may come back up.

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
3:01 pm

Kimmie!

she pursued Arnold? that’s Arnold PR spin!

u know that’s not an equal contest there..servant and master… Its the other way round actually.

He proly raped her.

More like a slave master relationship if u ask me.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:03 pm

Sassy1 there is a saying on the blog. “A hit dog will hollar” LOL I didn’t say your name.

Sassy1

May 18th, 2011
3:03 pm

Who the he77s is you…Exiled? WHATEVER!!! None of your business…thats is how long? Marinate on that!!…Exiled!

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:04 pm

Who is you Exiled? Who is you?

Sassy1

May 18th, 2011
3:05 pm

PR—go suck on a egg while you kicking rocks!

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:05 pm

Where are you finding all of these men and listening to their sob stories? If there was no one to listen there would be less talking. LOL

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:06 pm

Who is you Sassy1…who is you?

Sassy Me...Stir it Up :-)

May 18th, 2011
3:09 pm

Hold up wait…I know we gave assy1 a brand new dictionary accompanied with a sparkly thesaurus but did anyone give her a blog jacket? I thought newbies got one(if she is in fact new and not a recycled blogger reincarnated). I’m jus sayin… :mrgreen:

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
3:11 pm

Sassy?

so u don’t like to clarify thangs on here..I’m just aksing a question on my 2.57 pm that’s all.

Actually, I likes U! :lol:

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
3:14 pm

“Sassy1 there is a saying on the blog. “A hit dog will hollar” ”

This is a real saying in the real world (LOLOL).

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:15 pm

Sassy, I am sure you have a legal case for name infringement or something.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:17 pm

Leggs are you checking your email today?

Lovely Brown

May 18th, 2011
3:17 pm

who is you?

You know who I is! I’m done :-) Y’alls have a good evenin

Celisea

May 18th, 2011
3:18 pm

Recycled…she’s been given a vest already…lol Posting emoticons I don’t have the swing of yet

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:20 pm

Celisea, who is you?

Lovely Brown, ciao bella!

Sassy Me...Stir it Up :-)

May 18th, 2011
3:20 pm

Recycled…she’s been given a vest already…lol

Oh okay then…carry on..

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
3:22 pm

Sassy1 is not a new blogger. She knows her way around this camp.

@PR ~ I’m in and out of email. Let me go see if any good news is there.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:23 pm

Ladies, I think Simple Man incited a mature sexy fashion show on here once. Let’s do it again. What are you all wearing today? Please describe from head to toe.

Sassy Me...Stir it Up :-)

May 18th, 2011
3:24 pm

I am sure you have a legal case for name infringement or something.

Maybe so but I’ll leave assy1 alone for now and give her a chance to crack open that dictionary…and looking at the pictures don’t count :lol:

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:24 pm

Leggs, her first day here she stated something that made me know that she has been around here before.

Sassy1

May 18th, 2011
3:24 pm

PR–You trying to wacking off at your work!! REALLY! :neutral:

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
3:25 pm

Nothing in my email, checked junk email and I got the alert. Thanks, PR!

SexyCool

May 18th, 2011
3:26 pm

Clothes. Shoes.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:27 pm

Leggs, your filter thinks I am junk. LOL

kimmie

May 18th, 2011
3:32 pm

There is a picture on tmz and on Huffington post, of Arni’s baby mama at her baby shower.

No, not much better.

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:32 pm

SexyCool, that was not cool or sexy. LOL Smart ass :)

Celisea

May 18th, 2011
3:33 pm

PR – I is Me

Who you be?

Celisea

May 18th, 2011
3:34 pm

I think I’m going to head out early….I’m fighting a migraine….yet again

Celisea

May 18th, 2011
3:34 pm

PR – I’m about to leave in a few I think….I been fighting this thing but I’m gonna have to sleep this off. I’ve been carrying a couple of day now.

Oh that was funny….clothes. shoes…..lol

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:35 pm

Celisea, I is me too, but we’s both can’t be me or cans we be’s me at 2 diferent timeses?

Celisea! You are in charge of making sure I don’t fall into that stuff what happened? LOL

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
3:35 pm

Clothes. Shoes.

I’m done… :lol: :lol:

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:35 pm

When are you leaving? I was going to do some after hours blogging with you.

Leggs

May 18th, 2011
3:36 pm

:lol: @PR! It seems like that.

Celisea

May 18th, 2011
3:37 pm

Not sure what’s going on with the timing of the posts but this thing is acting retarded

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:38 pm

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
3:45 pm

Kimmie

the dagger for Maria is that she actually contributed gifts be4 and proly after the kid was born…maybe shared Arnold dirty tid bits with baby mama, not knowing she was getting served too.

I know of a real life situation like that….

Men are Dogs!

SlimNu

May 18th, 2011
3:46 pm

Oooooooh, you said a bad wooooooooord

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
3:55 pm

Exiled, Maria was probably venting to the maid and then the maid went and did to Arnold everything that Maria was complaing about. LOL

Sassy Me...Stir it Up :-)

May 18th, 2011
3:58 pm

Arni’s baby mama at her baby shower.

she looks a lil robust n manly…maybe that’s how they grow em where Arni’s from and/or she reminded him of his mom. I ‘on know…

LP

May 18th, 2011
3:59 pm

Hello all,

I am new to posting but not new to reading this blog. Let me just say that I have thoroughly enjoyed myself today. I have nothing to add to the topic discussed because you all have said just about everything. I will have to make it a point to tune in for future discussions. Hope you all have a good day!

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
3:59 pm

PR,so those two women shld figure out who to blame between the two of them,Right?

I agree…what man is going to go between a woman’s legs unless she allows it.

And then she betrays another sister…(I know,white sister)…
Come on! Lol

Purple Rain

May 18th, 2011
4:01 pm

LP, Hello!

Exiled, has anyone place any blame on the maid at all? Everyone is just mad at the Terminator. He didn’t rape the maid and she helped keep the secret too.

kimmie

May 18th, 2011
4:04 pm

Exiled – I know of a real-life case like that too!

Purple – I certainly blame the maid too. She knew he was married!

Just a jacked-up situation all the way around!

Exiled!

May 18th, 2011
4:06 pm

PR!

Nope!

not really… the blame,if at all is, she ain’t pretty enough to f?!$&ck him!