Why do you need marriage?
I don’t think that anyone should be talked into marriage. If you don’t want to marry, you definitely should not do it. You know what you want, right? So ..I don’t understand why people try to convince people who do want to be married, that they are wrong for wanting to get married.
A couple I know have been together for a couple of years and one of them decided that marriage is not what he wants. This is causing quite a dilemma now because he wants to convince his significant other that being together should be enough.
What do you do when you realize that your views about marriage has changed since you first started dating someone? How do you explain the reason you want and need to get married?
A lot of people change their outlook on something, but when that has an impact on the person you are with, how do you figure out what to do next?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Purple Rain
May 17th, 2011
2:39 pm
kimmie well if Maria knew and did nothing people should nto be mad about it and mind their on business. How do we know she hasn’t been sharing her cookies? LOL
Maria: “Are you going out again tonight?”
Ahhnold: “I’ll be back!”
Purple Rain
May 17th, 2011
2:40 pm
All of this is not going to hurt Arnold one bit.
Celisea
May 17th, 2011
2:41 pm
PR – Maria ain’t the issue right now. We’ll stick to not liking Arnie for his indiscretions…lol
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Nope this probably won’t hurt Arnie too much. I think Tiga is the only man I’ve seen dragged through the mud for indiscretions. Everybody else seems to get off rather easily.
SlimNu
May 17th, 2011
2:45 pm
It’s about time for Maria to get her groove back with a much younger, much more in shape, young tender. lol I heard Arnold is supposed to do another installment of the Terminator but i’m having a hard time wrapping my head around that because he just ain’t no spring chicken anymore
SexyCool
May 17th, 2011
2:46 pm
True, Cel – but o’ Elgin *kept* having chicks drop out of the sky or out of his bed.
SexyCool
May 17th, 2011
2:47 pm
Er..um…Eldrick…or whatever his real name is.
cba
May 17th, 2011
2:48 pm
If you look at recent politicans who have cheated on their wives, what do the men have in common? They all married women with impeccable credentials. Bill to Hilary, John Edwards to Elizabeth, Spitzer’s wife is a lawyer, the governor of SC wife is in finance and now Arnold to Maria. The point is, as I have discussed with my wife, the woman they are having an affair with doesn’t need credentials, they have that at home. At that point, it’s all about the sex. (IMO)
Simple man....
May 17th, 2011
2:49 pm
SlimNu….I feel kinda bad for saying this, but I saw Maria on MSNBC this morning and she looks bad…Not sure if she would have any success shopping for a young one at this point….
Leggs
May 17th, 2011
2:50 pm
It was stated she didn’t find out until last week.
SlimNu
May 17th, 2011
2:50 pm
Everybody else seems to get off rather easily.
Do yall think Kobe Bryant got off easy when he not only raw dawg some chick but then threw Shack under the bus? lol
abc
May 17th, 2011
2:52 pm
What does a man get from marriage?
Simple: a wife provides a good life for her husband. The man provides and protects the means for her to do so, with full confidence in her. Read Proverbs 31, “A wife of noble character, who can find?”
Find a woman like that. They’re out there. They seem well camouflaged sometimes, but they’re there.
SexyCool
May 17th, 2011
2:54 pm
I wouldn’t say she looks bad. She just looks her age. Like a 56 year old woman who hasn’t had any/much work done.
Hell, Arnold is 63 hisdamnself. All these old ass folks running around getting it wrong. smdh…
Purple Rain
May 17th, 2011
2:54 pm
Conan could care less. LOL He already did the deed, Besides I think the Kennedy’s are dirty any way. LOL
Leggs
May 17th, 2011
2:57 pm
@DDD (Damn Damn Damn). I thought he could have come up with something other than a boilerplate apologzy. That in itself was sickening.
All these old ass folks running around getting it wrong. smdh… and getting it on!
kimmie
May 17th, 2011
2:57 pm
I was just talking to one of my coworkers about it. She said if it’s one thing the Kennedy’s can do and that’s handle a scandal!LOL!!
Purple – True, it really won’t hurt Arni because his political career is over anyway. How it was handled won’t hurt Maria either. You said she did nothing, what was she suppose to do? Their marriage is over, she’s getting paid. The ones that may be hurt are the children.
SCool – I agree, Tiga deserved all the mud with all them chicks coming out of the woodwork. He’s doing fine too, even if he never wins another tournament. He just built a 50 million dollar home. Dating a stingy-haired blond chick he knew when she was just a kid a few years ago that lived down the street from him & Elin. Yep, he’s doing just fine!
Purple Rain
May 17th, 2011
2:58 pm
kimmie, those kids will be fine. They have Kennedy and Arnold money to help them through amongst thier other hollywood problems.
kimmie
May 17th, 2011
2:59 pm
Leggs – It was “stated”.
kimmie
May 17th, 2011
2:59 pm
Purple – Errbody will be fine then. Why is it even news?
Cause it’s SCANDALOUS!LOL!!
Leggs
May 17th, 2011
3:00 pm
I know kimmie, I know. Started to to type. “No doubt, the media is on her side at the moment.”
Purple Rain
May 17th, 2011
3:00 pm
LOL at all of the hate.
Purple Rain
May 17th, 2011
3:01 pm
Arnold conquered everyone in the Conan series and Red Sonja, he killed the predator and came back from the future to save the world in the Terminator. He also supported legalizing weed. He deserves all the side puddy he can get. He is the man! How many times did Maria save the world? None she is just riding the Kennedy name. LOL
Leggs
May 17th, 2011
3:03 pm
@kimmie ~ it is scandalous…I gasped when I heard it this morning. Don’t care for either of them, but I was still very much surprised.
Leggs
May 17th, 2011
3:04 pm
Naw, can’t gasp at the other side of America (Jerry Springer)….none of them are in a position like the Terminator. But, I might gasp in child support court.
Purple Rain
May 17th, 2011
3:04 pm
Leggs go to child support court or Jerry Springer you can gasp all day, that’s nothing new. LOL
kimmie
May 17th, 2011
3:06 pm
Leggs – You aren’t kidding the media is going to be on her side, especially since she’s a part of the media! She knows EXACTLY how to spin this!
I always kinda liked Maria. Never cared anything about Arnold one way or the other, still don’t.
Purple Rain
May 17th, 2011
3:07 pm
kimmie, so what! Arnold is to much man for one woman! LOL
Leggs
May 17th, 2011
3:08 pm
Arnold is a twit!
SexyCool
May 17th, 2011
3:08 pm
“Arnold conquered everyone in the Conan series and Red Sonja, he killed the predator and came back from the future to save the world in the Terminator. ”
You know that was just play-acting, right?
DB
May 17th, 2011
3:09 pm
Re: Arnold. Guess he was a closet Democrat all along! (aka Bill Clinton!)
kimmie
May 17th, 2011
3:10 pm
Purple – LOL!!! Usually, or so I’ve heard, when dudes are huge in one area they are small in others. Just sayin’
So I guess whenever Maria was chillin at the Kennedy compound, Conan was getting it on with the maid. More his speed anyway probably!LOL!!
Maria is actually a very respected journalist.
Purple Rain
May 17th, 2011
3:10 pm
A twit that was good enough for her to marry! Amazing change after the fact. LOL
Bruce Lee, Shaft, Black Belt Jones, Rocky, Clint Eastwood, Chuck Norris, Obama, George Bush (2),Arnold, Allan(from the Hangover), the guy from Ninja Assasin and the member of SEAL Team 6 are all men who can do whatever they want to do in life. Certified Bad Asses! Can’t forget Rosie O’Donnell
Leggs
May 17th, 2011
3:11 pm
Crazy, my post is once again above PR’s statement to me.
kimmie
May 17th, 2011
3:11 pm
You know that was just play-acting, right?
SCool – I don’t think he does!
Leggs
May 17th, 2011
3:12 pm
kimmie ~ you’re thinking along the same way I am today. I was thinking of him being so muscle bound he probably shrunk in other areas (LOL).
SexyCool
May 17th, 2011
3:13 pm
He’s 63. I’m sure even the muscles have shrunk.
Leggs
May 17th, 2011
3:13 pm
I’m cracking up on the play-acting bit! Forget about Terminator and Predator and whatever else and remember the twit in Kindergarten Cop.
Purple Rain
May 17th, 2011
3:14 pm
And Maria worked in media….like that’s real. LOL
Arnold is the real deal!
Purple Rain
May 17th, 2011
3:14 pm
If you all want to talk about another man’s wang you will have to take that conversation up with Meeelloo
Leggs
May 17th, 2011
3:15 pm
No, I was thinking WHEN he was muscled…not now!
Purple Rain
May 17th, 2011
3:15 pm
Tron from the Dave Chappelle show is pretty bad ass
Exiled!
May 17th, 2011
3:15 pm
my post is once again above PR’s…..
@Leggs,so what u saying…u want to be atop PR now?? Lol
The Reanimated Corpse of I'm Swiss (now with titanium-infused, bionic w@ng)
May 17th, 2011
3:15 pm
“Re: Arnold. Guess he was a closet Democrat all along!”
Must be. If he were a real Republican, he’d have been caught smoking pole in an airport bathroom or something…
Purple Rain
May 17th, 2011
3:17 pm
That is exaclty what she is saying…..again!
kimmie
May 17th, 2011
3:17 pm
Purple – Out of all the dudes you mentioned, I am only impressed with the SEAL’s.
Exiled!
May 17th, 2011
3:17 pm
Leggs..I just thought the ‘once again’ was like a crying out loud! Lol
hint hint and wink!
Exiled!
May 17th, 2011
3:19 pm
PR..I will talk about ur Wang this one time and quit….
based on all the bells and whistles u say are attached on the shaft of ur wang,consider displaying it at some museum.
just saying.
kimmie
May 17th, 2011
3:19 pm
Purple, oh and impressed by the President. The others, not at all.
SexyCool
May 17th, 2011
3:20 pm
I would also take Barry out of that list, along with the SEALs.
And I am super-side eyeing you for putting Obama and Allan on the same list. (lol)
Purple Rain
May 17th, 2011
3:21 pm
I like Leggs because she is deep!
Purple Rain
May 17th, 2011
3:24 pm
Sexy Cool, Allan would kick butt. Who let the dogs out who who who? 1 man wolf pack!