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Social networking and relationships don’t mix

I have lost count on the number of breakup stories I’ve heard involving Facebook, Twitter,  even LinkedIn! I don’t know how long it will take before people realize that social networking and romantic relationships can become problematic.

More people are finding each other on social networking and that is a great thing.  However, when it comes to maintaining a relationship…well, social networking can pretty much become a major source of a relationship drama.

When you are dating someone, do you add them to your friend’s list on your social networking sites?

Do you think it’s a good idea to find the online profiles of people you are interested  in dating?

My friend Greg thinks that it’s the same thing as taking your man or woman to a bar/club. You think it’s a good idea until someone says or does something that crosses the line.  Then you are wondering why you even bothered “taking sand to the beach” in the first place.

We agreed that the way you handle the situation says a lot about your relationship.  What do you think? If you are having arguments about something related to your online activity or social networking,  is it a sign of something deeper?

If your date or mate is using social networking in a way that makes you uncomfortable, how do you handle it?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

309 comments Add your comment

Mindy

May 11th, 2011
5:47 am

My fiance and I met on an online dating site. He asked me to not date anyone else after our first meeting. At first I was taken aback, but when he expressed his interest in concentrating on just getting to know each other first, well, it made sense. We both hid our profiles from being viewed by others. I had been on dating sites for a few years and like everyone else, experienced “the kid in the candy store” syndrome and now I was focusing on just him. When the relationship became serious we discussed our expectations and ideas. We now live together and have a combined email address. As of now we are not on any social networking sites. If we decide to go on one in the future, it too will be a combined page for the two of us. We also agreed to no longer speak to acquaintances of the opposite sex whom we had met in our dating lives, hence we got new phone numbers.
We believe in ’safe-guarding’ our relationship. Face it, someone will always be after you or your mate. Whatcha gonna do about it? When a man approaches me, even ‘innocently’ my response is “I’m engaged”. Nip it in the bud. It seems to ward off the little foxes we all encounter as well as my own temptations in an abrupt and decisive way!

MzNewy

May 11th, 2011
8:13 am

My Ex was using social media in a way that made me uncomfortable. He was allowing women to flirt with him on facebook etc. saying that “he can’t stop them from posting whatever but his response is what I should be worried about.” While I use social media to advertising my acting gigs etc, he used it to maintain connections with ex-whatevers…
What did I do about it? Got rid of him. A man that truly respects me and our relationship will not allow that kind of nonsense.

Social media, like anything else only amplifies problems you already have.

Shay

May 11th, 2011
8:20 am

SMDH – Whooooooo that damn Facebook is something else….all kinda foolishness is goin’g on it’s the worst thing since Viagra. I’m going to lurk on this here.

Lovely Brown

May 11th, 2011
8:32 am

Social media, like anything else only amplifies problems you already have

I thoroughly agree with this, MzNewy. Another thing I do not understand is folk just putting their all on the ‘net….body parts, personal info, etc. I just don’t get it. Everybody and their pastor is in cyberspace :-)

MzNewy

May 11th, 2011
8:46 am

@ Lovely – exactly. I have seen folks get in cyber arguments putting all the family business on the net. CRAZY!!!!! There is a thing as TMI. Unfortunately, people put things on the net that they really would not want exposed IRL (in real life). Hiding behind keyboards…SMH…

Chink

May 11th, 2011
8:50 am

Mindy Thats sounds like ya’ll have a good thing going safeguarding your relationship … I don’t think its about trust it’s about going all in!

I remember I had a EX who was on myspace it was definitely a major conflict. I think the only way things would work is for both parties to be on the same page on how they want their relationship to be viewed in the public. But now days people don’t want to give up all their independence.

DJ Sniper

May 11th, 2011
8:57 am

Me and my wife have our own separate Facebook pages, and it hasn’t caused us any problems. For starters, neither one of us feels the need to comb through the other’s page to see who said what. We have friends in common, but we have our own set of friends as well. Also, if there is a disagreement in our household, that’s where it stays. We do NOT put that type of business all out there for everybody to read.

Been there done that

May 11th, 2011
9:16 am

From my personal experience social media can be a good thing or a bad thing. But remember, everything happens for a reason and all actions or inactions have consequences.

Facebook may have caused my divorce but it has also brought me to a very special person and place. I am better off and it gave me a chance to start again. Being trapped in a suffocating relationship was slowly killing me and causing me to make poor desicions.

It all started innocently enough with Classmates then LinkedIn then Facebook and Yahoo messenger. I was unhappy and looking for something more out of life. It always starts with good intentions but one thing always leads to another.

After destoying a marriage and hurting many people, I have refrained from Facebook and other social media sites out of respect for my new partner and relationship. I have learned from my mistakes and will no longer put myself into a situation where I will hurt the people that I care about the most.

If you are on Facebook and your spouse is not on your friends list, your relationship is already done and you just havent worked through the formalities. Social media can be a blessing or a curse, the choice is yours and so are the consequences. I am just glad that bad things can sometimes lead to better things. :)

DR. X

May 11th, 2011
9:19 am

Cheating is cheating, on the corner, in a bar, or on F-Book. Social Networking is just another way for folks to speak. I don’t worry about WTF my lady does online because she LOVES ME. RING, RING, GET A CLUE. Trust is trust, and regardless of the medium, social intercourse will follow the morals of those involved. Gosh, i wonder if telephones may have had an effect on people’s cheating and breaking up. GET REAL, choose wisely my friends – and sleep peacefully at night.

DR. X

May 11th, 2011
9:30 am

This relates to a primary principal – if you are an alcoholic, don’t drink. If you can’t be trusted or have NO self control, DON’T FLIRT, If you want a happy life, once again, Choose Wisely and Behave Appropriately. Love never dies of natural causes – Love dies when people MURDER it.

Fedup

May 11th, 2011
9:31 am

Mindy, sounds like more of a control issue than a love issue.

MzNewy

May 11th, 2011
9:32 am

and the Doc has spoken lol :)

Lovely Brown

May 11th, 2011
9:39 am

People are gonna cheat even if they have to communicate in morse code and with tin cans and string. It is not the net, it is the person and their character. And how they view their relationship.

DR. X

May 11th, 2011
9:42 am

BTW, F-Book cannot cause a divorce. Guns don’t kill people, bullets usually do, but it the aim and intent that seals the event. Listen to some Blues – “Had a cheatin’ (woman/man) threw his butt right out the door…..”

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
9:47 am

Morning,

Wow…so much passion this morning. I don’t really “do” FB. I have a page and connected with a coworker and 2 cousins in DC….that’s it. Don’t want to be connected or found….not like that anyway. People that I’m connected wiht and have a relationship with are people that I see and interact with daily. FB feels to exposed. I guess though if you’re into being social then FB is the place to be. I agree with the person that said that people aren’t to blame. There are plenty cheaters not on FB and plenty on FB not seeking an opportunity to cheat.

SlimUno

May 11th, 2011
9:48 am

My beau and I are on each others friends list on fb. So far no one has said anything inappropriate and I don’t stress it because I’m the one he spends his time with. Even when I’m around him and he instant msgs folks, I give him that privacy as long as I don’t feel disrespected. Have I ever been curious on who he was talking to or what was discussed? Of course, but we all need a level of privacy. I just don’t want to go into this relationship with all the doubt, jealousy, and hangups from my last one. He deserves a fair chance, fair level of trust until or if he shows me otherwise.

Amia

May 11th, 2011
9:49 am

Mindy, you really seem to have this all worked out. I really like the way you and your SO are handling the social networking.

When I go onto FB, I have a few guys that will only inbox me. They are Married! They never post on my wall. Just trying to be sneaky. I just keep it casual and say hi and keep it moving. No one will ever say I messed with their husbands.

I also know a few married female friends who are wrapped up in risky convos with FB guys. Playing with fire!

Sassy Me...Stir it Up :-)

May 11th, 2011
9:56 am

However, when it comes to maintaining a relationship…well, social networking can pretty much become a major source of a relationship drama.

Excellent point…got a meeting will Ttyl…

M. (pronouced M dot)

May 11th, 2011
9:58 am

Good day..

There are many advantages to social media but from a social angle, it can be a diaster. I think everyone has their issues on both sides. My theory is FB helps you reconnect with people that you lost connection with then you realize why because they are annoying! All their meaningless posts, rants, etc are just too much!

Actually in dating, I have had a different social media experience. Some women that I have met and have been added to FB, etc have been the WORST. I know 2 women that I dated but you try to set something up from them and they never return your calls, but they are on FB, Twitter CONSTANTLY updating, commenting, etc. SUPER FLAKEY! I think social media also gives people this false cyber confidence to say and act a way they normally would not act. Just my take!

M. (pronouced M dot)

May 11th, 2011
10:00 am

@SlimUno

“I just don’t want to go into this relationship with all the doubt, jealousy, and hangups from my last one.”

Hey Slim. Was this statement attributed to social media or just interacting with the last guy?

How did you handle these issues?

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
10:02 am

I think social media also gives people this false cyber confidence to say and act a way they normally would not act. Just my take!

Translation: Folks faking

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
10:03 am

I have a page though because I’m nosey :)

AmazonRed™

May 11th, 2011
10:04 am

Morning all -

Social networking I love it. It’s like a real time soap opera.

Usually I refrain from adding a love interest until we are better established. However, I made an exception recently. And wouldn’t you know, a few days after I added him one of my guy friends (who must have a radar) posted a comment “we should have had sex ages ago, not sure how that never happened.” Oh, and did I mention that my friend had a profile pic of him grabbing his crotch at the time? Yeah, I didn’t notice, but the new guy did. :lol: Fortunately, we had a good laugh about it. :lol:

AmazonRed™

May 11th, 2011
10:11 am

We now live together and have a combined email address. As of now we are not on any social networking sites. If we decide to go on one in the future, it too will be a combined page for the two of us. We also agreed to no longer speak to acquaintances of the opposite sex whom we had met in our dating lives, hence we got new phone numbers.

Wow…I’d never knock what is working for them…but that’s a bit much. I’d only do all that if one party had already cheated or was a recoving sex addict or something. :lol:

Lovely Brown

May 11th, 2011
10:12 am

I would love for someone to elaborate on the question…

If your date or mate is using social networking in a way that makes you uncomfortable, how do you handle it?

Mr_NYC

May 11th, 2011
10:14 am

If it makes you uncomfortable…
Maybe folks are getting caught up in the technology and the medium. Disrespect is disrespect. Communicate and address it just as you would any other issue. If you can’t resolve it or find satisfaction, well …

AmazonRed™

May 11th, 2011
10:17 am

If your date or mate is using social networking in a way that makes you uncomfortable, how do you handle it?

L Brown – It speaks to character. If it happens you should say something and hopes that person rectifies it. It hasn’t happened to me because respectful dealings in instances such as this is what I require. I did date a guy who had like 3000 friends, and a lot of the women ate up his every word. While I thought they looked thirsty and desperate, he wasn’t feeding into it or flirting back. And that was the important part.

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Lovely Brown

May 11th, 2011
10:30 am

Thank you AR and Mr_ NYC.

It is hard dealing with a person that would rather “speak” to a computer screen than you. But other than that, they have never given you any cause for concern…….

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
10:33 am

Social Networking, my wife and I have a joint FaceBook page, I am hardly ever on it because this blog is enough Social Networking for me and I love you all for helping me pass my days!

Indy Cutie

May 11th, 2011
10:38 am

I personally never understood how a social networking site can ruin a relationship if theres no “shadiness going on in the first place”. My S/O and I are fbf and its clear we are together. We write on each others walls, comment on each others posts, and so far nothing inappropriate or disrepsectful has happened. Do i get side messages from guys in my inbox, yes i do and I delete them and KIM. Im sure he gets them from females too and I can only trust he’s doing the same since nothing has been brought to my attention to think otherwise. Social networking only magnify relationship problems that are aready there….except now they’re in black and white and there’s no misreading that

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 11th, 2011
10:40 am

:?:

Maybe it’s just because I’m so immersed in technology for my line of work, but I just don’t see how social media is any different than any other social setting. Inappropriate is inappropriate, whether in person or in cyberspace. Just act like grown-ups and it shouldn’t be a problem.

kimmie

May 11th, 2011
10:41 am

Hey Gang!

Don’t really do FB. Got a page to get info on this boutique I like. That’s it. My boo and some friends made me a friend, but I never look at the page. Don’t know when the last time I did.

This blog is the extent of my “social networking”. There is nothing I put on here that I would be ashamed of my boo or anyone seeing. I know one of my brothers looks at this from time to time. Again, nothing he probably doesn’t already know he’s read here about me.

FB can HELP with breaking up relationships in a GOOD way! My niece found out this Navy guy she was seeing was married on FB! Sure she would have found out eventually. But dude was stupid. Saved her some time!

I don’t have much else to say on this subject. If you ALLOW FB, Twitter or the gossip that lives down the street to interfere in and disrespect your relationship, that’s on you. If you choose to let it all hang out and air all your dirty laundry on FB, Twitter or the club down the street, again that’s on you.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
10:43 am

I know 2 women that I dated but you try to set something up from them and they never return your calls, but they are on FB, Twitter CONSTANTLY updating, commenting, etc. SUPER FLAKEY!

Mdot, that’s not flakey. That’s just a clear indicator that “she’s just not that into you”. Period. We all find time to do what we want to do. If you are calling a woman and she is not calling you back, she’s not into you.

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
10:47 am

Was shown how to get on FB over a year ago. Went on it a few times and now friends are telling me they left messages. They ask why I haven’t answered back my reply is don’t remember my password and I want to take it down. It’s another medium to communicate though not for me. Give me a message in a bottle, hand shake, or an email anytime.

DreamsMaterialize

May 11th, 2011
10:47 am

Morning
There was cheating and relationship drama before social media, and there will continue to be when the next new craze hits. It’s not the tool, it’s the person holding it.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
10:50 am

Lovely Brown, I have never really been into MySpace, Facebook and the like, but I do agree with you. If someone is going to cheat they will do so by whatever means they can. It is all about character.

My hub and I both do not do the social networking sites. I came across this blog one day after reading the obituary of an old classmate and from there clicking on other links on the ajc page. I did not come here to make friends, however I have gotten to know a little about some here that I do have the desire and intentions of meeting in person one day, but that is not why I started reading and commenting here.

That being said, in choosing to be a part of this forum I know how to mind my manners and how far to take matters. As I said before I am very selective in whom I choose to deal with on a more personal level. If you play with fire you are bound to get burned one day.

I have never not spoken of my husband the love that I have for him and him for me. My presence here is strictly for entertainment purposes only.

And this can be a lovely and informative crowd at times. LOL

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
10:56 am

Raqi V:

Very informative I got your tip on preparing grits in cold water rather than boiling it to make creamier grits no more lumps thank you.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
10:58 am

I would not want to date a woman who posted on her FB page all of the time. I would like some of her life to be “exclusive” to me and not just pictures and status updates of her every day activities and thoughts. All 1000 of your friends know about something before I do or I have to find out stuff via FB or if I do something nice and sweet you have pictures of it posted all over the place? For some that may be cool, but it’s not for me.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
11:00 am

For me and strictly in my opinion, FB places me in the mind of teeny boppers. I know I’m not that much older than many that posts and connect but it just seems so juvenile wanting to keep up and know everybody’s business. I guess though that why you have the option of allowing those to connect and making your page as private as possible.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
11:04 am

that’s….I meant

Sometimes I get requests to connect although I not sure how because the name I have is not my name…it’s a coded name. However, I find it funny that folks requesting to connect just doing it all willy nilly. Don’t have a clue who I am, just want to connect. I usually “ignore.”

Mrs. Tazzee

May 11th, 2011
11:06 am

Interesting… I don’t see how social networking can break up a relationship. Character is character – respect is respect. Social networking just gives a cheater another avenue; a shady person another medium for their shade.

My husband and I are on FB. Most times our profile pics are of the two of us. No one has ever said anything disrespectful to me on FB – but then again, no one would even before I got married. I don’t deal with or friend folks that would do such a thing. When we were dating, one of his friends (one that I knew had a thing for him) started to get disrespectful on his page. He unfriended her online and in real life.

If your mate is using social networking in a way that makes you uncomfortable, you should let them know. If they blow it off – it’s time to move on. If anything, your mate will respect your feelings. Even if s/he doesn’t feel the same way, they’ll care about what makes you uncomfortable. If the response is that you are being too sensitive, then perhaps you need to find someone that respects your sensitive side.

unless you really are being too sensitive

kimmie

May 11th, 2011
11:09 am

Celisea – A little juvenile to me as well.

Purple – I get you, it’s like no such thing as privacy or special things between you & your boo anymore – for some folks anyway.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
11:10 am

Blackfoote, hey you are welcome. LOL

I love to cook but I don’t know everything about all things. When I read that kimmie is a foodie that gave me a connection to someone to ask a question to every now and then about cooking.

And it’s nice to read other people’s experiences and ideas. Some really good information here has helped to see where I should probably not do ABC or I should maybe try doing XYZ. Having unbiased input can be helpful.

Now I don’t put much stock in some commenters and their comments. I weigh who and what I take to heart. But still all the same I like socializing here with you all some days when and while I can.

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
11:12 am

Celisea:
Haven’t heard teeny bopper in a long time….too funny

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 11th, 2011
11:13 am

Like Dreams said, it’s a tool and not inherently dangerous.

If you use it for fun, or catching up with old friends – cool.

If you’re really think you’re creating “a brand” (seriously, someone told me that), you may need counseling.

Beyond that, like a rock, a hammer, or fire before it, social networking is about as “dangerous” to life, love, and the pursuit of either as Flaming Hot Cheetos

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
11:14 am

Don’t have a clue who I am, just want to connect. I usually “ignore.”

Celisea, that reason alone is why one of my friends took her entire page down. It seems like folks be just friending people just because the can. She showed where one of her relatives has over 300 “friends” on facebook and she knows that woman don’t know all of those people. LOL

Lovely Brown

May 11th, 2011
11:17 am

I have a FB page, I just don’t check it much anymore. I think the last time I went there was about two months ago. I will log on to FB to check my daughter’s (14, 17) pages. I really used to be into the ‘net….got into a bit of trouble in my RL( real life) because of some things said online. This is a really about as far as it goes for me now…..y’all seem like a good group of folk and I have found some useful info here.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
11:24 am

Dan, you know how I feel about “catching up” on folks I haven’t spoken to since only the Lord knows when? I don’t.

Those that I had the desire to stay in touch with that I went to school with or worked with at sometime I have their number and/or address and they have mine. When I changed my number or moved I let those I wanted to stay connected with know. Those I didn’t care to stay connected with I let fade out. And they did the same for me.

If I call a number or send to an email address that is no longer in use I know that person has chosen to not stay connected with me. I don’t even take it to heart.

I did have one person that I ran into a few years back ask me why I didn’t tell them I changed my number. I just honestly told them if we have not called or spoken in over a year there was no need to tell them.

That’s about like when I change cell phones, there is usually a couple of contacts I don’t keep.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
11:27 am

Blackfoote – LOL…You know I had to dig that one up :)

Raqi – Celisea, that reason alone is why one of my friends took her entire page down.

Seriously. Who in the world have 1000 plus friends?? That’s just folks connecting because there’s a button to push…lol Then too, if you expose certain information to “friends”, those folks that you know nothing about yet connecting have access to you personal information.

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 11th, 2011
11:31 am

And that’s all well and good Raqi – for you.

But, again, it’s a tool.

A classmate of mine passed away in a car accident, leaving a wife and newborn. They didn’t have the funds for a funeral or to get back to the A. Through FB, our high school class got him and his family home. And I hadn’t spoken to him in years.

Point is, like a comb through kinky hair it’s the intent of the user that makes a tool what it is.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
11:34 am

Dan – A classmate of mine passed away in a car accident, leaving a wife and newborn. They didn’t have the funds for a funeral or to get back to the A. Through FB, our high school class got him and his family home

There’s always the upside of everything. That’s was great.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
11:41 am

That was great….I’m done :(

abc

May 11th, 2011
11:45 am

Personally, I participate in absolutely no ’social networking’. Neither does my wife. It poses all kinds of problems regarding personal privacy, relationships, and chronic/compulsive behavioral disorders. Facebook, in particular, resembles a MMOG more than anything else, to me.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
11:47 am

Dan, that’s a good deed done. However those types of acts have been accomplished well before social networking medias were on the scene. I am not saying that they are all bad, I am just saying getting in touch was being done before they existed.

I hear about incidents and happenings of former classmates or co-workers by way of the grape vine. That obituary that I mentioned earlier that I came to ajc to read, I was called and told about which lead me come online to look it up. And I attended the funeral.

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
11:48 am

Celisea:

Feeling a little Sassy1 today……LOL

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
11:57 am

Blackfoote – Shuddup…I’ve had the syndrome for a couple of days now. I will do better :)

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
11:59 am

Speaking of cooking…

I was on some of that JuneCleaver yesterday. I made the most wonderful and delicious lamb chops with mashed sweet potatoes and sautéed green beans. Had the little lady already bathed, fed and in bed by the time the hub and I sat down to dine. Just divine. LOL

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
11:59 am

LOL Blackfoote. That’s funny.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
12:00 pm

I might head up to North Georgia Premium Outlet this weekend…. I’m feeling a discounted BB’s purchase coming on.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
12:01 pm

Hush Raqi :) Don’t laugh with him :(

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
12:03 pm

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
12:03 pm

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
12:07 pm

Carter’s
May 5 – 11
$6 summer stock up sale.

Gap Outlet
Outfits under $20 for boys & girls

Talbots
May 10 – 16
30% off shorts, capris and skirts
Additional savings on your favorite tops
40% off all Markdowns

Crabtree & Evelyn
May 26 – June 2
Gels/Lotions Sales Event: Buy 1 get 1 50% off

Banana Republic Factory Store
Now – May 19
Everything for her on sale
60% off select styles
The Real Deal – Outfits under $40

There you have it folks…just a couple of things that jumped out at me.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
12:10 pm

I think I am programmed to subconsciously cook just enough at every meal because if my hub every asked me why do we have to have leftovers if I am home every day I will not only stab him in the eye, I will stop cooking altogether.

A lady at church told me Sunday that she was not having a very good Mother’s Day because she was still upset at her husband asking her that the Friday before. LOL

I wonder what does he prefer she do with the leftovers, throw it in the trash? Let it sit in the refrigerator and rot? I know, or rather hope my hub will never say anything like that to me. I don’t want to have to end up throwing a plate of hot spaghetti in his lap.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
12:11 pm

Celisea, I am not laughing at your typos or him pointing them out. I am laughing because he gave them a name. It’s funny (and a little annoying) if she (Sassy1) does it on purpose but it’s freakin hilarious if she doesn’t. LOL

MzNewy

May 11th, 2011
12:12 pm

Slow day on the blog…. :( maybe it will pick up after lunch.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
12:16 pm

Celisea, that gap sale may be worth taking the drive for. The boy and the little lady both need new summer outfits. And with the little man hopefully coming home in 6-7 weeks…

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
12:17 pm

I forget teenagers don’t wear ‘outfits’. I told my son that he needed to get a new ‘outfit’ for Easter morning, he said only babies and women where ‘outfits’. Men his age wear shirts and pants. LOL

Lovely Brown

May 11th, 2011
12:18 pm

Raqi V- My sister in law does not and will not eat leftovers, so she and her husband eat out a lot..it’s just them so maybe the food bill is not that bad. But I was still kinda shocked by the absolutely no leftovers policy.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
12:22 pm

Raqi – I gotcha…lol I mean mugging Blackfoote though for pointing it out…lol

I say go for it….make it worth you while…lol I saw a couple of others but those caught my eye. Yes indeedy, a good sale is always a great time for stocking up.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
12:24 pm

Raqi – Since he’s no longer doing “outfits”, BB mentioned something on men’s clothing but I didn’t copy and paste that part…check it out.

The last time I went up there to shop I almost passed out from the sale going on at BBs. Seriously. Boots 75% off??? Yeah, I almost passed out.

kimmie

May 11th, 2011
12:27 pm

Lovely – I know a few that love to boast about the no leftovers thing. One has a large family and will cook enough for an army, but won’t touch any of the leftovers. I KNOW she does it to be bougie though. It’s like every other time I see her she has to let me know. I don’t know what she & others are trying to prove. To me it is stupid and a waste. I know some things don’t taste that great leftover, but some things are just dumb to not eat because they are leftover. I mean if you bake a big ham & turkey for Tday, why not at least make sandwiches with the leftover meat?

It’s wasteful and not cute!

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
12:28 pm

Lovely Brown My sister in law does not and will not eat leftovers, so she and her husband eat out a lot..it’s just them so maybe the food bill is not that bad. But I was still kinda shocked by the absolutely no leftovers policy.

My fake wanna-be niece tries that on my sister but I’m not buying.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
12:28 pm

Lovely Brown, unless they are eating from the Steak & Shake $4 menu every night, eating out gets veeeeeerrry expensive. Eating at just chain restaurants for two adults can be $40+ a pop including beverage and tip. And that’s on the low end.

That’s at least $120 a week if you just eat out 3 times a week. That’s a high food budget. I spend about $350-400 a month on our food bill and that covers breakfast, lunch and dinner.

Some things actually taste better eaten the second day. LOL The seasonings have had time to marry properly.

AmazonRed™

May 11th, 2011
12:31 pm

The main thing I keep off my FB page is my relationship status. When you change it, whether to married, or single, or divorced or in a relationship, it shows up in your news feed for all to see. And they get tons of comments, even the break ups do.

The funniest part is when spouses unfriend each other after a fight…then you get a news story that they’re “friends” again, or married again. Too much. Or the ones who get divorced and change their names to something cheeky to throw off suspicion.

So I just leave it blank. No need for that microscope.

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
12:32 pm

Raqi V I think most women and guys here do well in the kitchen. I take note when you and Kimmie have something on the burner. I put lamb chops on the grill last Saturday going for an encore this weekend.

Lovely Brown

May 11th, 2011
12:33 pm

Some things actually taste better eaten the second day. LOL The seasonings have had time to marry properly

I agree with this.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
12:35 pm

kimmie, leftover are great for lunch the next day IMO. And it saves money.

The only foods I will not eat reheated is eggs, cabbage and spinach. Other than that all else is fair game.

And you are right it’s just a stupid tactic for show. If it was good enough to eat last night why would it not be good enough the next day? Or day after that? People do have some strange ways about them.

AmazonRed™

May 11th, 2011
12:52 pm

Heck…I cooked a casserole at 11 pm on Sunday cuz I knew I need lunch for the next couple days. I didn’t even eat it fresh. :lol:

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
12:53 pm

Tomorrow I am starting a detox program. It’s called “Purity”.

A lady at my church took Kimberly Snyder’s “Glowing Green Smoothie” and incorporated it in a “Purity” program that she created. The regime is a two days program that detoxes your mind, body and soul.

I made the smoothie and it tasted it already. It’s wonderful. It looks like baby diarrhea but it tastes great. LOL

The detox of the mind is no television, radio, chat rooms LOL or any other vice that contaminates or pollutes our thoughts. This includes carnal conversations with friends and family also.

The body is an inward and outward program. Drinking the smoothie and only purified water for breakfast and lunch and only organic products for a sensible dinner takes care of the inside. The outside is using an exfoliating mask that she gives a recipe for. This is same lady that told me about the honey massage.

The soul detox is reading some recommended passages from the bible once when you wake in the morning, at noon and in the evening before going to bed.

No junk food whatsoever, no sex, no television or any other carnal acts that we as people engage in. I talked to a couple of other people that have tried and they said they felt revived and anew after the detox. One lady did say the smoothies gave her the runs. LOL

Imma try it out. It’s only for 2 days. Oh and the night before starting I cannot have anything to eat after 7pm.

SlimUno

May 11th, 2011
12:58 pm

Hey Slim. Was this statement attributed to social media or just interacting with the last guy?

How did you handle these issues?

M Dot – A bit of both, to answer your question. In my last r’ship, my ex used all forms of virtual avenues to do his dirt and FB, Myspace, email etc were some of those ways. I’m not quite sure though what type of answer you are looking for in how I handled the issues, being that apparently we are no longer together. ;-) Exman would say the same stuff like, “I can’t control what folks post on my page or what they call me” or “We just be trippin, it’s innocent, nothing serious”….I just got tired of trying to dechiper the BS.

Off to lunch

DreamsMaterialize

May 11th, 2011
12:58 pm

What no leftovers!!! I love leftovers. Chili the next day is awesome. A meatloaf sandwich the day after is off the chains. Shyyyyt I can eat baked mac and cheese all week. lol

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 11th, 2011
1:02 pm

Have fun with that detox, Raqi.

Me, I’m going on my 37th consecutive year of “tox” & loving every minute of it…. :lol:

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
1:08 pm

Blackfoote, I had lobster ravioli on the menu for tonight but I don’t really feel like being bothered with making pasta today. I must go buy some pasta sheets and have it anyway. That depends on what time the little lady wakes from her nap.

If not, it’s heart attack invoking fried chicken, with cholesterol injecting mac-n-cheese and some fresh gas imploding broccoli to even it all out. Oh and sweet tea to wash it all down.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
1:10 pm

AmazonR, what type of casserole did you make?

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
1:14 pm

Swiss that titanium-infused bionic wang cracks me up man it’s just funny…..LOL

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
1:16 pm

I love leftovers, some things taste better the next few days. I get mad if she cooks and we still have leftovers. I heat them up in the oven or on the stove, I do not like to use the microwave.

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
1:17 pm

Allright Raqi V where do you live? Tell the hubby guess who’s coming to dinner…..LOL

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
1:18 pm

Swiss, it should be interesting. Everything in the smoothie is fine for me to have.

I hardly ever watch tv during the day. My hub is the television person around here so I will not miss that. I am actually going to go the gym tomorrow for a few hours after I finish doing around here what gets done. That will help me not be tempted to talk call any of my friends or talk to you all since the radio is out. By the time I leave there, go pick up Liz, come home and shower, it will be time to make dinner and then go to bed.

Two days without sex is no biggie. And reading the bible is something I do anyway.

Friday I will wash, rinse and repeat. LOL

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
1:20 pm

I can’t wait to have sex with someone besides myself……………….

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
1:25 pm

PurpleR, look at it like this. At least you know what you want and how to give it to you. And then you don’t have to fake the “cuddle” when you are done.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
1:25 pm

PR – I heat them up in the oven or on the stove, I do not like to use the microwave

Me either. I never use it…period. My kid does. Then that’s only to make popcorn (rarely) or heat leftover chicken that’s she’s eating for a snack. Neither of us use for all out cooking.

Raqi – And reading the bible is something I do anyway.

Some days I really like reading you. You always keep it real.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
1:31 pm

that NOT that’s….Blackfoote you have jinxed me

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
1:31 pm

LOL…..@Purple

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
1:32 pm

Raqi, I don’t mind cuddling lol. Yes I know what I like but nothing compares to the real thing, besides I know where my hands have been. LOL

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
1:33 pm

LOL…..@Celisea

Are you sure you’re not Sassy1?

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
1:33 pm

Thank Celisea. I enjoy reading you some days also.

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 11th, 2011
1:34 pm

Titanium infusion is very serious business, Blackfoote… particularly in the w@ng-al region.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
1:34 pm

Blackfoote, I am going to have to breakup with myself, the thrill is gone.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
1:38 pm

I feel so cheap and dirty afterwards…lol

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 11th, 2011
1:39 pm

Raqi — So, apart from the smoothies, it sounds like this won’t be much different from your normal routine… how does that qualify as a “detox” again? Just askin’… ;-)

I think a more apt detox for you would be 48 consecutive hours of Skinamax, Ho-ho’s and Nehi Grape soda… :lol:

SlimUno

May 11th, 2011
1:39 pm

(I’s back)

Purp – Did you try using your other hand? Might feel like some new-new

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 11th, 2011
1:40 pm

… While m@sterbating, of course….

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
1:42 pm

Blackfoote – Celisea is now mean mugging you :(

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
1:42 pm

Slim I use both hands, so that nobody feels left out.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
1:45 pm

Celisea why are you means mugging hims?

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 11th, 2011
1:45 pm

Is it weird that my least favorite part of banana pudding is the actual banana?

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
1:46 pm

PR – I can’t hear you

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
1:46 pm

Swiss, it is perfectly normal for a man not to like banana’s

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
1:46 pm

The other hand is a good one Slim…..LOL

Ho-ho’s Nehi grape drink watching skinamx I can relate…..LOL

SexyCool

May 11th, 2011
1:47 pm

abc – blogging is a form of social networking.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
1:47 pm

Sexy Cool, how are you :) I meant to ask you about your dog how is it?

For Real

May 11th, 2011
1:48 pm

Raqi: I’m going to start a detox program.

Mase: I hope you not expecting me to join you?

Raqi: It would be nice but no.

Boy: Me neither daddy!

Raqi: Hush up boy!! You will eat whatever I give you!

Boy: Dad?

Mase: Go play boy. (mouthing behind Raqi’s back) I got you…

Raqi:Yeah go play before I….

Mase: SO, what does this detox involve?

Raqi: Don’t be trying to change the subject. That boy…

Mase: So, you don’t want me to listen?

Raqi: That’s not what I said… Well it involves me eating organic foods, drink distilled water, drinking this smoothie, reading the bible and no sexy for two days.

Mase: Huh… (get up and pulls out his laptop)

Raqi: Huh? that’s it? That’s all you have to say? What are you doing?

Mase: Facebooking.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
1:49 pm

For Real, HA HA HA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
1:49 pm

skinamx = “skinamax”

See Celisea you’re not the only ones.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
1:51 pm

PurpleR, I call the post-coitus cuddle the fake cuddle because there is approximately a 7.23 seconds window of time from ejack to the roll off to a state of deadman hibernation setting in. LOL Instead of a real cuddle it’s more like on his way to his back narcolepsy set in.

I told one of my friends this once and she said well at least he doesn’t roll away, to the other side the bed and turn his back to go to sleep like I’m just the flavor of the night jump-off every single time. LOL

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
1:51 pm

Robert “Tractor” Traylor was found dead :(

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
1:54 pm

Raqi, sometimes I remain in there after ejack and relax for awhile or I flip her over and start right back up…..I am also guilty of just rolling over and air drying (sticky) and going to sleep.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
1:56 pm

Can’t see your posts Blackfoote. Did you say something?

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
1:56 pm

Sometimes you have to treat her like a queen and cuddle other times you have to treat her like a slab of meat with no soul…pound away and then just walk away like it never happened. Marriage is great! LOL

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
1:57 pm

Good day, everyone!

What’s the dil le o? I have no idea how to spell that word. What’s the topic?

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:01 pm

Leggs, how are you?

SexyCool

May 11th, 2011
2:01 pm

Hey you…in Dallas for work this week. I forgot my toothpaste and started to rough it by just brushing. But then, I felt like I was on an episode of Survivor. So, I went down to the desk and asked for some toothpaste.
GiGi is still alive and she has returned to solid poops. She will start training classes next week. All is well in her world.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
2:02 pm

My friend DocB says about her hubby, if he doesn’t go out like a light when it’s over she didn’t do it as good as she should have or could have. LOL

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
2:04 pm

Celiseas I was stating you nots the only ones with the typos todays. I had ones toos……LOL

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
2:04 pm

LOL ForReal. You are truly a comedian.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:06 pm

Sexy Cool, dry brushing will get them clean but with no toothpaste your breath might not match the clean teeth. LOL

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
2:07 pm

Blackfootesss – Cuts its outs maynes

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
2:07 pm

@PR ~ I’m good, very good.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
2:08 pm

I freakin love that name GiGi. LOL

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
2:09 pm

Hey Leggs how you do is.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:09 pm

Raqi, a little game I play with myself is to try and have “calm” orgasm without all of the moaning, groaning and convulsing. Sometimes I can do it most times I can’t. It’s funny how women can hold onto it all calm then just BURST out for a fer seconds then back to being calm, but yet sensitive

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:10 pm

Leggs, you are more than good!

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
2:11 pm

&Blackfoote ~ cute. I is good is!

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
2:12 pm

You guys interested in an update on my thiefing ex-friend?

SlimUno

May 11th, 2011
2:12 pm

Slim I use both hands, so that nobody feels left out

Purp – a hand or gy…wow! :shock:

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
2:13 pm

Purple the flood gates have opened widely…..LOL

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:13 pm

Blackfoote, LOL

cba

May 11th, 2011
2:14 pm

KUDOS TO THE LADY IN DULUTH !!! JOB WELL DONE.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
2:14 pm

Leggs – I am. And yes, I’m sticking to forgetting the high road stuff. You took the high road when you made her a loan.

PR – You REALLY seem like you have waaaaay too much idle time. Do you work? Not trying to be funny but just asking. You’re here most days all day so I was wondering if you get the farming out of the way like early morning hours and kick back the rest of the day.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
2:15 pm

PurpleR, actually for woman, or rather this woman, the O’s are not all the same. Some are more quick and calm and some are more earth shattering. Some are right to the point and some tend to linger for a while. In various forms yet all satisfying.

And some are just headache inducing. I hate those. I don’t think those are supposed to happen like that. LOL It’s like those empty orgs that you all have at least once in your lifetime. The bang without the buck. LOL

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:15 pm

Slim, yes I still have some rome left, why don’t you lend a friend a hand?

Blackfoote, We’s is ons the same pages!

SlimUno

May 11th, 2011
2:15 pm

Purp – why don’t you try to bust inside yourself where there are no visible signs of orgasm?

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
2:15 pm

We’s is ons the same pages!

An ode to Sassy1…that was funny

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
2:17 pm

Leggs, someone stole from you? What did they steal?

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:17 pm

Celisea, I work every morning from about 430am my time to 930am, come in and shower, relac play on the computer hang out with the wife and son then in bed by 8pm and up at 330am. We are an hour behind, when I am missing for a few days I am usually turning crop which takes me all day and is very intense. That’s why I usually pop up close to 10 daily. But just sitting here watching them sleep is boring, I am the errand guy.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
2:17 pm

PR – yes I still have some rome left,

See we’ve all been Sassy1-fied

DreamsMaterialize

May 11th, 2011
2:18 pm

Hey hey hey, what’s wrong with the roll-over and sleep after the ride has come to a complete stop?

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
2:19 pm

Leggs you went to court and filled out a warrant didn’t you I know you did……LOL

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:19 pm

Leggs, what is the latestes updates on the crooks girl?

Slim, for some reason that seams like it may hurt.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
2:21 pm

PR – Gotcha. Sounds ideal to me. :)

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
2:22 pm

DreamsMat, nothing. That’s just part of every woman’s who has a live-in man life. LOL

I was just telling PurpleR that having sex with himself has some advantages for him. LOL

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
2:23 pm

cba:
That lady fought off a 20 something year old intruder while she is naked and still was able to put him down that chick is bad.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:23 pm

Raqi, I play with her tatas while I please myself. Okay that was TMI

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:24 pm

Blackfoote, what are you talking about?

SexyCool

May 11th, 2011
2:25 pm

Rock – Exactly.

Like I explained to TheDude recently, sometimes, it’s like stepping off the side of the pool – a slow warming until immersement. Sometimes, it’s like diving of the diving board into the water – refreshingly shocking. And sometimes, it’s like diving off a cliff – a deep, indescribable thrill.

DreamsMaterialize

May 11th, 2011
2:26 pm

DreamsMat, nothing. That’s just part of every woman’s who has a live-in man life. LOL
Raqi oh ok cuz I’m sleep quick fast and in a hurry. That’s some of the best sleep. lol

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
2:27 pm

@Celisea ~ I don’t want to let it wash away, but I’m going to.

@Blackfoote ~ no, I didn’t go to court.

I was doing volunteer work at Salvation Army with a few co-workers when one of them came up to me and asked if I’ve heard from ___________. I guess the look on my face spoke volumes. She told me that she too got shafted by this person 3 years ago. She loaned her $1,000 and was never repaid. I gasped! The person receiving the $$ even stopped talking to the one who loaned her the money. I could never borrow that kind of money from a co-worker then act like she’s a piece of dirt and not return the funds. The co-worker said she took her into a conference room and laid out a sorrowful story on things going on in her life, ex hubby stalking, and she just didnt’ have the $$ to return to her. After that she stopped speaking to the co-worker who loaned her the money. I She washed her hands of her and took a loss. I never knew any of this. Sorry, I’m not walking away from you owing me $1,000. $125 I can see, $1,000 not!! Hell, she had no qualms about still working around this person and not paying the loan back. So, I know she’s not even thinking about paying me back. Karma will rear its ugly head and bite her in the azz!

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
2:27 pm

Celisea you’re the ones who started being Sassyfied today it just rubbed off on us…….LOL

DreamsMaterialize

May 11th, 2011
2:30 pm

Karma will rear its ugly head and bite her in the azz!
F%$#k that, sometimes you have to take it upon yourself to BE the karma. lol

Sassy1

May 11th, 2011
2:31 pm

Hello Everyone! Beautiful Day in the A-T-L.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
2:31 pm

LOL SexyCool. Yeah it’s like “hmmm, I wonder which it will be tonight.” And ya never know until it happens.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:32 pm

Leggs, if someone owed me $1000 and didn’t pay me. Let’s just say I would get my money or something worth way more than $1000 from them.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
2:33 pm

See what you did Blackfoote? You summoned.

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
2:33 pm

Purple a lady in Duluth was attacked today in her home while she was showering. The intruder broke into her home scuffled with her and she got away ran to her room and got her gun and shot him dead.

Sassy1

May 11th, 2011
2:33 pm

I likes meeting mens the old fashioned ways face to faces.

DreamsMaterialize

May 11th, 2011
2:34 pm

Hello Everyone! Beautiful Day in the A-T-L.
Sassy1 what ATL are you in…it’s 90 degrees out there. lol

MzNewy

May 11th, 2011
2:34 pm

@ Leggs…girrrrrrrrrrrrrrl you are better than me like Dreams said…my new name would be KARMA….

Whoooosa…I had a flashback…:)

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:34 pm

F**k Karma, up close and personal get your money. I would take her car or walk in her house and take some jewelry or something of value while she watched or I would just take it out of her ass whenever I saw her. I don’t care the gender and I am not getting Johnny Law involved!

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
2:35 pm

@Raqi ~ 6 weeks ago I loaned $125 to someone I thought was a friend. I’ve known her for 8 years, and we use to work together. She got fired about 4-5 months ago. She said she would return the $$ that evening, but haven’t heard back from her. I paid a bill for her online before her check hit the bank. I haven’t been a pest about contacting her, but I have contacted her and she has completely ignored me. So, I gave away $125 to finally see the true character of this person (even though I had a strong inkling). I just thought she wouldn’t shaft me, and she did.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:36 pm

Blackfoote, that guy was a halfway crook. LOL

sassy1, face to faces huh? I knews you were into groupses.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
2:36 pm

Wow Leggs. My husband just said yesterday that he is getting out of the Savings and Loans business. He can’t save because he keeps loaning.

I was just seeking advice from a friend about something like this this morning.

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
2:36 pm

F%$#k that, sometimes you have to take it upon yourself to BE the karma. lol

I agree, I agree!

Sassy1

May 11th, 2011
2:37 pm

Notification: Me and Boo don’t go together no more. I was sad yesterday but today I rise.

cba

May 11th, 2011
2:37 pm

Blackfoote, I was wondering if the guy was a stalker but when I heard he was in his 20’s, now I’m thinking maybe a neighbor. The story said she’s in her late 40’s or early 50’s. Either case, he probably knew she was alone.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
2:38 pm

cba – Really folks ain’t got to know anybody to commit crimes nowadays. Just the way the the world and getting worse. I don’t condone killing but if you’re up in my place and it’s either you or me, if I have the means (or if not), I’m taking you out….all the way.

Sassy1

May 11th, 2011
2:39 pm

I loves hot weather but it messes up my hair.

DreamsMaterialize

May 11th, 2011
2:39 pm

girrrrrrrrrrrrrrl you are better than me like Dreams said…my new name would be KARMA…
Newy We should open up a business called Karma. People can pay us a fee to make sure other mofkers get what’s coming to them. lol

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:40 pm

Sassy1, did a “Notification” to let us know she had a breakup. LOL

Lookouts heres she comes

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:42 pm

Karma is crap, don’t do the legal thing don’t gossip. If you want to pay someone back do it up close and personal don’t hide behind a system or words. Go take what is yours, but then again you could end up like O.J. or someone else you know. LOL

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
2:43 pm

She hasn’t paid $125 in six weeks?

The thing that irks about the folks my hub loaned to over the past several months, most of them hit him with the “imma pay ya back when I get my income tax check”. Knowing they were lying because if they weren’t they would have paid him back already. Here is May I know some of them that borrowed from him live paycheck to paycheck and was up in Walmart and “hole-in-wall taxpreparers” rapid filing with their last year pay stub.

I don’t want to even talk about it anymore.

Imma go back to talking about stupor inducing O’s.

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
2:43 pm

@Raqi V ~ I agree with Mason, get out of the business. One thing I realized is if I continue to help folk who will I be able to turn to in an emergency. I opt to turn to myself and keep my $$ in my own account!!!

WOW, Kudos to the nekkid woman handling her business.

@MzNewy ~ I’ve pondered and I’ve pondered over this mess. I’m very thankful it’s only $125. I can walk away from that. Sure, I thought about small claims court, but I would be inconvenienced a second time around. I could eat the $125 now, so I’m going to. I have no doubt, she will be calling in a few months or even by the end of the year for another favor. I will say, “Yes, I can help you, but I won’t…CLICK”

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
2:44 pm

“See what you did Blackfoote? You summoned.”

Celisea I’s knew shes come backs……LOL

Hello Sassy1 hows you doin?

DreamsMaterialize

May 11th, 2011
2:44 pm

Sassy1, did a “Notification” to let us know she had a breakup. LOL
And plumbers worldwide rejoiced at this breaking news, sparking riots and looting of all hardware stores.

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
2:47 pm

@Raqi V ~ see that’s just poor taste and disrespectful…it’s like a slap in the face. Mason stepped out and helped you out and now all you can do is lie in my face or ignore. It pains me, but it is what it is!

CCC

May 11th, 2011
2:47 pm

@AMAZON…the last time I read this blog did I read u met a guy at a bar, stared making out with him & would of even had sex with him but didnt only because he didnt have protection!!! So the real you is finally revealed. You people really believe the goody good images the “H”’s on here claim to be. FUNNY.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:47 pm

Dreams, LOL.

SlimUno

May 11th, 2011
2:47 pm

Lookouts heres she comes

OMG, I was on the phone and had to hang up because I bust out laughing…whew! :lol: :lol:

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
2:47 pm

Blackfoote – Aren’t you just full of jokes today? :)

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:48 pm

Celisea, Dreams and Blackfoote are hilarious today.

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
2:51 pm

Well, I meant lie in his face and ignore him.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:51 pm

Is Amazon even here today?

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
2:52 pm

I dunno but she should be. CCC looks like she’s ready for a brawl :)

SexyCool

May 11th, 2011
2:52 pm

Sassy1s – wishing you the best. “Now, what IS you gone do?”

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
2:53 pm

PurpleR, I agree with you on over a certain amount you want something, anything of equal value. LOL
My hub says he learned early on in business to be leery of clients and customers who will only give you a P.O.Box and/or cell number. He said it’s pretty impossible for someone to deny you your money when you are sitting there in their office in front of them. But when they only have a P.O.Box you don’t know where to go and find them.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:53 pm

1.2.3.4 I declare thumb WAR!

Sassy1

May 11th, 2011
2:53 pm

My friend girl mets this man online he was a H-O-T-M-E-S-S. The pictures he put on the pages was 10 years old. He looked like he was 5 months prego and she says he smelled like sour milk.

DreamsMaterialize

May 11th, 2011
2:54 pm

Mason stepped out and helped you out and now all you can do is lie in my face or ignore.
Leggs If you’re loaning money, you have to take the emotion out of it and approach it as a business. You have to treat these people like the Payday Advance or Title Loan places would treat them. Make ‘em put up everything they have just to get $200 dollars. Make ‘em sign a contract so if they default, you can take their shyyyyt. Forget “helping” someone out.

cba

May 11th, 2011
2:55 pm

I was talking to my brother earlier today and we were discussing when could I get the tickets for Spelman graduation. His daughter is graduating. He said Spelman was giving the tickets out late because they are afraid people would try to sell the tickets. Mrs Obama is the speaker. All I could say was, WOW !! Times are difficult, myself included, but no way would I try to sell those tickets.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:56 pm

Raqi, especially bad for people who owe me and have something to lose.

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
2:57 pm

You are absolutely correct, DreamsM. I’ve learned so much. And, to top things off, I like who I am and how I would never use a person like that. My word is all I have to offer, and my word is a good one!!

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
3:02 pm

Leggs, loan me $125 if I default I will be your sex slave until all debts are paid.

[...] take before people realize that social networking and romantic relationships can become problematic.http://blogs.ajc.com/misadventures-i…res_in_atlanta Facebook (or any other social network) does NOT have the ability to destroy a relationship – [...]

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
3:03 pm

@PR ~ I can get a sex slave right now w/o shelling out any money?

You asked for a loan yesterday, my answer is still NO! (lol)

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
3:04 pm

Gets naked for Leggs, “Now what’s your answer?”

Sassy1

May 11th, 2011
3:05 pm

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
3:06 pm

sassy1 is a regular, I don’t even know how to make that face. LOL

cba

May 11th, 2011
3:09 pm

Leggs gave her the cheat sheet, PR :-)

MzNewy

May 11th, 2011
3:10 pm

@ Dreams…I know right….and sometimes I would even do it for free…wouldn’t even take a lunch. LOL

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
3:11 pm

:lol: :lol: sounds like cba is tattle telling!!

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
3:11 pm

Leggs you know who gets on my nerves the worst? Those women in his family. Not the older women because they love him to pieces but those younger ones that are always trying to play on his sympathy with their sad sob stories.

When we move to where are most of them live (VA) they are going to find out there is a new Bytch in town and imma be cutting them off at the door steps, phone line and at the knees. (Celisea , see this is why I try to stay reading the bible. I need help keeping my bytchiness in check, help to stop using words like bytch. LOL)

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
3:12 pm

@PR ~ if you hoover on the emoticon, it will tell you how it’s done.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
3:14 pm

Leggs, hoover over it like a vacuum?

cba, Leggs is to nice to everyone I bet hse gave her some money too.

Raqi, your type of bitchy is sexy! LOL

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
3:14 pm

@Raqi V ~ I think you need to keep reading your bible because you sound like you will cold co*ck someone in a heartbeat. I used to, not anymore but if pushed can do it again….

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
3:18 pm

sassy1 has dropped the whole IQ of the blog by 20%

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
3:18 pm

hover….sorry!

DreamsMaterialize

May 11th, 2011
3:18 pm

see this is why I try to stay reading the bible. I need help keeping my bytchiness in check,
Raqi Sometimes you have to be like the master who forgave his servant’s debt, but his servant didn’t forgive the debt of a fellow servant. So, the master had the first servant tortured until he could repay his debt. Torture those bytches…it’s biblical. lol

Sassy1

May 11th, 2011
3:20 pm

PR- You really aint funny AT ALL!

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
3:22 pm

Leggs, what goes best with a southern fried chicken dinner? LOL

A pair brown 4” peep toe pumps with a beige linen belted wrap dress? Or a pair of 3-1/2”strappies with this cute little blue sleeveless number that I bought yesterday with money my boys gave me for Mother’s Day.

Yes I get dressed for dinner at home quite often. LOL

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
3:24 pm

LOL Dreams and Leggs. I don’t like sticking my nose in my hubs business but I don’t like folks taking advantage of him because they know he just likes to help.

But I tell you he is getting to a point where the dams that hold back his anger is about to break. When it happens all imma say is “get ‘em baby”. LOL

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
3:26 pm

“Leggs, what goes best with a southern fried chicken dinner? LOL”

Collard greens, rice and gravy, kool aid….then sex for dessert!

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
3:27 pm

sassy1 I knows I isnts funny and you aints gots no smarts AT ALL

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
3:29 pm

Raqi – When we move to where are most of them live (VA) they are going to find out there is a new Bytch in town and imma be cutting them off at the door steps, phone line and at the knees. (Celisea , see this is why I try to stay reading the bible. I need help keeping my bytchiness in check, help to stop using words like bytch. LOL)

I keeps a small one at my desk at all time but given coworkers irks me just the same, I truly understand the need to keep and stay read up…lol

PR – sassy1 has dropped the whole IQ of the blog by 20%

OMG…lololol You are a riot today

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
3:29 pm

Dreams LOL that’s my motto “Torture those bytches…it’s biblical. lol”

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
3:30 pm

Dang, Raqi V, I didn’t even read the rest of your post. I stopped with the first sentence….well, at least I did put sex on their for dessert.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
3:31 pm

pair of 3-1/2”strappies with this cute little blue sleeveless number

Raqi – Well you didn’t ask but I’ll give my opinion just the same, I like the above better.

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
3:32 pm

on there…

@PR, perhaps you’re right about the IQ dropping.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
3:32 pm

LOL Leggs, I have the menu already taken care of. I was asking about what to wear.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
3:34 pm

Leggs, I would like to trade sassy1 out for “I Am” can you make that possible? I told you, LOL

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
3:35 pm

ut oh…Sassy1 is mads nows

Sassy1

May 11th, 2011
3:36 pm

Whatever purple high heeled, laced gloved one!

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
3:38 pm

Not only is the blog IQ dropping, the blog itself is retarded. I posted my 3:35 post after ready Sassy1’s 3:36 post but somehow it’s reversed. This has happened a couple of times today….hit refresh and 3 or 4 comments added ahead of the one you saw post ahead of those.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
3:38 pm

reading reading reading…not ready

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
3:39 pm

I’s beens Sassy1fieds

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
3:41 pm

I now realize that Raqi V. Reading comprehension is so so very important!

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
3:43 pm

Raqi – I so agree. None of us are there…that’s why we’re striving not to call folks beotches or act a beotch :)

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
3:43 pm

Celisea, I am by no means a bible-thumper but I do believe God and I know I have not reached the place that is totally pleasing to him. That’s all I want to say about that for now.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
3:45 pm

You see?! It did it again….placed my post ahead of someone’s post that I’m responding to. Cwazy in here today

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
3:46 pm

sassy1, you should type more often when you are upset. We can understand you better. :)

Dr. Patty Ann

May 11th, 2011
3:55 pm

As a relationship expert I have definitely seen how social media, especially fb, has influenced emotional infidelity and sexual infidelity. People feel safe talking to a “stranger” on-line (like telling someone on a plane whom you think you will never meet again your whole life story). Also – people can now connect with ex’s. Here are some very practical and do-able ways to insure you do not fall onto that very slippery slope of taking your on-line, innocent enough relationship and crossing the line over into emotional and sexual infidelity.
1. Tell your partner you have become “friends” with an ex
2. Let your partner see, and have access to what you write – hey, if you have nothing to hide you have nothing to hide
3. Avoid sharing confidences and secrets with these ex’s or new friends on-line – this will begin to emotionally pull you away from the intimacy you have in your current relationship and begins the descent down a very slippery slope.
Dr. Patty Ann Tublin
http://www.drpattyann.com

Sassy1

May 11th, 2011
3:56 pm

PR – I loves you too…BooBoo

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
3:58 pm

Leggs, I can be his French apricot pastry (soft and delicate with a sweet surprise) and he can be my American Éclair (Long, smooth with a creamy middle). LOL

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
3:59 pm

Dr. Tublin, I don’t think there would be any discussion past point #1. How does one become “friends” with an ex? No matter the response, I would not listen.

abc

May 11th, 2011
4:00 pm

I’m hesitant to characterize ‘blogs’, especially in the form of a forum such as the ones here at ajc.com, as social media. Social media indicates that there are social relationships of some kind formed as a result. A forum such as this one — not at all unlike those that first appeared on Wildcat BBS in the 80’s — don’t require anything in terms of social relationship. It’s nothing more than posting opinion, feedback and rebuttal. I don’t consider that I’ve formed any relationships here. Frankly, folks here know so little about me that there’s no way anyone could draw a line between my posts here and my person. I’m sure that for some that post here, that’s not the case, but for me it is.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
4:00 pm

Be careful sassy1 you are single now, I may come date you and fix you toaster. LOL

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
4:01 pm

OMG, Raqi v ~ go sit in the corner! You are a fiery little vixen today! Heck, most days! :wink: However, the visual of an American Eclair was intriguing, to say the least.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
4:05 pm

abc – From your posts we can concretely state that you believe women as a whole are natural born liars.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
4:05 pm

Get your eyes off my husband’s eclair!!!

LOL

SexyCool

May 11th, 2011
4:05 pm

Last I checked, conversing, exchanging ideas and discussing topics fell under the definition of socializing.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
4:05 pm

abc, in a nut shell, loves his wife, thinks all other women are liars, musician who scowls at what is considered music now, pessimist and wants to know the how and why…with proof of everything presented to him.
See I know you. LOL

abc

May 11th, 2011
4:06 pm

Yeah, that’s true, but that doesn’t really represent anything pertaining to relationship, does it? That’s just my substantiated opinion. Lots of people share that opinion.

Although, I wouldn’t say ‘naturally born’. Women learn this behavior from a very early age.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
4:06 pm

Raqi, I wish I knew you because I would ask you some questions just to see if my perceptions were correct. I would just want the answers nothing else. LOL

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
4:07 pm

abc, what about the friendships that have formed and take place in person that exist because of this blog? Is that not social networking?

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
4:08 pm

PurpleR, you can ask me.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
4:10 pm

Raqi, I respect you as a lady and I would not ask you questions of that nature, no they are not perverted but they are nothing I should be asking a married woman about. I will just keep my thoughts smiling :)

SexyCool

May 11th, 2011
4:11 pm

I’m not going to go back to your original content because I’m blogging from my Blackberry and it would take FORever to find it.

But…I’m pretty sure you initially stated that you did not participate in any form of social media. I was simply pointing out that blogging can indeed be considered a form of social media.

abc

May 11th, 2011
4:11 pm

I wouldn’t say I discount ALL music being made these days. In fact, I’d state (as I was taught in music school) that there’s something good in all music genres, and one must look for it. Thing is, for me, a lot of contemporary forms tend to, ahem, obscure their true goodness, and I have to really search for it!

I’m not a pessimist. I am a pragmatist. I’ll admit though, sometimes I’ll take up an arbitrary or contrary point of view just for the sake of debate. Not a very attractive attribute, I know.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
4:11 pm

abc – Although, I wouldn’t say ‘naturally born’. Women learn this behavior from a very early age.

From who? Their mommies or the men in their lives…daddies, brothers, etc. As much as men cheat and LOVE sex and most have to grow out (not really) the desire to act on having/loving/wanting several women, can you honestly say women are better liars? Heck that’s half the proof right there…being born a man. I don’t mean that in a bitter way…just saying

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
4:12 pm

Oh those type of questions. You are right, keep those to yourself.

abc

May 11th, 2011
4:13 pm

I suppose at least several of view have met in person, Raqi, and for you there’s that aspect… I’d never do that, though. It would kind of kill the merit of my participation in this, for me.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
4:14 pm

Raqi, they are not bad and not disrespectful, I just don’t think I should ask a married lady that type of stuff. :)

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
4:15 pm

@Raqi V ~ I didn’t quite know how to say that w/o you thinking I was thinking of your hubby. Not, I was thinking of someone else! Too funny.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
4:15 pm

I agree Purple. I don’t want to hear them either.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
4:16 pm

Leggs, I know. I am just acting crazy along with you. LOL

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
4:19 pm

I know you are, that’s why I laughed. You are naughty by nature. Probably worse than the group!

abc

May 11th, 2011
4:20 pm

C, I’d say for sure that girls learn that behavior from the women in their lives.

I suppose you could characterize an online forum as social media then, SC. It’s a bit of a disconnect for me, though — this kind of thing is an idea that goes back 25 years.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
4:23 pm

Leggs, did I tell about the time I was in the shower when he came home? I will tell you about it tomorrow if I didn’t. It’s a funny story. Not naughty but funny.

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 11th, 2011
4:23 pm

Yeap, back then abc and ‘nem was sending carrier pigeons all over the A with notes.

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
4:24 pm

@Raqi V ~ ok, tell me about it tomorrow…you know I love all stories that are funny, even the wet ones.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
4:25 pm

I can’t tomorrow Leggs. I forget about my detox. I will tell the next time I read you.

Oh and did I tell yall my son had a picture of his girlfriend in her undies on his phone? He no longer has a phone and he no longer has a girlfriend. I took the phone and her parents took the girlfriend.

SexyCool

May 11th, 2011
4:28 pm

abc – well, I can agree that only the term “social media” is a relatively new form. Because really, email can be considered social media. And I know you’re not going to tell me that you’ve never emailed.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
4:31 pm

Raqi, Leggs 4:19 said it all for me, LOL

SexyCool

May 11th, 2011
4:31 pm

Dan – (lol)

abc

May 11th, 2011
4:32 pm

I guess none of yall remember dial-up modems and Wildcat BBS etc., a world before the Internet? I remember reading a paper on http and html specifications around 1987-88. It sounded awesome, an endless repository of knowledge, linked and interlinked so that any one thought could be followed and researched; then the marketeers showed up.

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 11th, 2011
4:32 pm

@SC

abc is so old school he still writes with quill and ink

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
4:32 pm

Dan, when do you come up here? LOL

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
4:34 pm

Leggs, it’s in my DNA.

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 11th, 2011
4:34 pm

@abc – I’m j/k

abc

May 11th, 2011
4:35 pm

yeah, and if I run out of ink, hammer and chisel. Those granite books get a little heavy to carry around though.

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
4:35 pm

Oh snap, Raqi V! :shock: These kids are are off the chain.

@PR ~ then you read my 4:19 wrong (lololol).

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
4:36 pm

@Raqi V ~ I’m very much aware…that’s why I said you’re naughty by nature!!

Ok, PR, Ok…you read my 4:19 right!!!

abc

May 11th, 2011
4:36 pm

Now yall going to tell me that everything you do on a PC is social media? Email? Word? Anything published is social media?

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
4:37 pm

Raqi is so old school…

How old school is she?

She is so old school is getting ready to cut up a whole fryer and fry it. LOL

Yeah I know my humor is everything but humorous. LOL

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
4:38 pm

She is so old school is getting ready to cut up a whole fryer and fry it

Yeah, that’s old school

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
4:38 pm

That is old school…but so economical!

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 11th, 2011
4:39 pm

@PR

I’ve been following the dicussion, posted once earlier

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
4:39 pm

I must admit it feels great sitting at my desk in a jogging suit and sneakers on a Wednesday. It feels great and weird at the same time!

DreamsMaterialize

May 11th, 2011
4:41 pm

not the pics in the undies. how old is your son again Raqi? In high school right?

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 11th, 2011
4:44 pm

“It sounded awesome, an endless repository of knowledge, linked and interlinked so that any one thought could be followed and researched”

Not to mention an endless array of p0rn — any niche fetish you desire — right at your fingertips…

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
4:45 pm

Dan I was asking when do you come to Minnesota, not about the conversation.

Raqi, if he kept the picture of her in the undies I am sure he deleted the ones of her nude.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
4:46 pm

Raqi, we buy the whole chicken and not the individual parts as well.

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
4:48 pm

@PR ~ you actually buy chickens. I would have imagined you just choked one to death on your farm! J/K

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 11th, 2011
4:49 pm

Uh huhuhuhuhuhuh

Purple chokes chickens.

Uh huhuhuhuhiuh

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
4:52 pm

Leggs, we don’t have the room or the weather standards to farm chickens.

Swiss, she said “Choke the chicken” lol

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 11th, 2011
4:52 pm

@PR

Next thurday evening, though I will be indesposed at that time.

abc

May 11th, 2011
4:52 pm

Yo mama so old I told her to act her age, and she died.

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
4:53 pm

Dan - Simply....Superior

May 11th, 2011
4:54 pm

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
4:55 pm

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
4:55 pm

Now, that’s funny, Dan!

abc

May 11th, 2011
4:56 pm

That’s one of the things the Internet turned into alright, Swiss… I recall in 1996, p0rn was 3% of internet content, and 85% of internet commerce.

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
4:57 pm

Killing Time Murders Opportunities….

PEACE!

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
4:59 pm

Dan – indesposed

Told ya….Sassyfied

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a closet FULL of T-Shirts and "matching ensemble on many"))

May 11th, 2011
5:27 pm

Hi All
Only read a few but have to agree with several who have suggested that social networking does not change anyone…but could “embolden” some with the anonymity. Much like alcohol does not really change someone, but it can accelerate or exaggerate what is already in them anyway.

On another note, I would vote to hang/shoot/gas that SOB who set his girlfreind on fire…I’ll pay for the rope. That gene pool needs to end here and now.

Randyt (Where in the World is Randy "Sandiego")

May 11th, 2011
5:34 pm

Re the comments about Raqi, she has always talked with respect for her man, and I have always been impressed with that. That is class to me.

MzNewy

May 11th, 2011
5:38 pm

Ms. Duluth should teach self defense classes…They say she hit his azz with the shower rod first…people are just FED UP with folks trying to violate them. I am glad she was able to defend herself.

J/W

May 11th, 2011
6:41 pm

People social network and flirt on line because it’s better than real life.

katelyn

May 11th, 2011
11:30 pm

In order to have a good relationship – you just have to disconnect from all of the technology out there, just read this today about disconnecting to better your relationship – http://www.dinklife.com/topic/love-sex/stay-connected-sometimes-you-have-disconnect