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Social networking and relationships don’t mix

I have lost count on the number of breakup stories I’ve heard involving Facebook, Twitter,  even LinkedIn! I don’t know how long it will take before people realize that social networking and romantic relationships can become problematic.

More people are finding each other on social networking and that is a great thing.  However, when it comes to maintaining a relationship…well, social networking can pretty much become a major source of a relationship drama.

When you are dating someone, do you add them to your friend’s list on your social networking sites?

Do you think it’s a good idea to find the online profiles of people you are interested  in dating?

My friend Greg thinks that it’s the same thing as taking your man or woman to a bar/club. You think it’s a good idea until someone says or does something that crosses the line.  Then you are wondering why you even bothered “taking sand to the beach” in the first place.

We agreed that the way you handle the situation says a lot about your relationship.  What do you think? If you are having arguments about something related to your online activity or social networking,  is it a sign of something deeper?

If your date or mate is using social networking in a way that makes you uncomfortable, how do you handle it?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

309 comments Add your comment

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:19 pm

Leggs, what is the latestes updates on the crooks girl?

Slim, for some reason that seams like it may hurt.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
2:21 pm

PR – Gotcha. Sounds ideal to me. :)

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
2:22 pm

DreamsMat, nothing. That’s just part of every woman’s who has a live-in man life. LOL

I was just telling PurpleR that having sex with himself has some advantages for him. LOL

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
2:23 pm

cba:
That lady fought off a 20 something year old intruder while she is naked and still was able to put him down that chick is bad.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:23 pm

Raqi, I play with her tatas while I please myself. Okay that was TMI

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:24 pm

Blackfoote, what are you talking about?

SexyCool

May 11th, 2011
2:25 pm

Rock – Exactly.

Like I explained to TheDude recently, sometimes, it’s like stepping off the side of the pool – a slow warming until immersement. Sometimes, it’s like diving of the diving board into the water – refreshingly shocking. And sometimes, it’s like diving off a cliff – a deep, indescribable thrill.

DreamsMaterialize

May 11th, 2011
2:26 pm

DreamsMat, nothing. That’s just part of every woman’s who has a live-in man life. LOL
Raqi oh ok cuz I’m sleep quick fast and in a hurry. That’s some of the best sleep. lol

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
2:27 pm

@Celisea ~ I don’t want to let it wash away, but I’m going to.

@Blackfoote ~ no, I didn’t go to court.

I was doing volunteer work at Salvation Army with a few co-workers when one of them came up to me and asked if I’ve heard from ___________. I guess the look on my face spoke volumes. She told me that she too got shafted by this person 3 years ago. She loaned her $1,000 and was never repaid. I gasped! The person receiving the $$ even stopped talking to the one who loaned her the money. I could never borrow that kind of money from a co-worker then act like she’s a piece of dirt and not return the funds. The co-worker said she took her into a conference room and laid out a sorrowful story on things going on in her life, ex hubby stalking, and she just didnt’ have the $$ to return to her. After that she stopped speaking to the co-worker who loaned her the money. I She washed her hands of her and took a loss. I never knew any of this. Sorry, I’m not walking away from you owing me $1,000. $125 I can see, $1,000 not!! Hell, she had no qualms about still working around this person and not paying the loan back. So, I know she’s not even thinking about paying me back. Karma will rear its ugly head and bite her in the azz!

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
2:27 pm

Celisea you’re the ones who started being Sassyfied today it just rubbed off on us…….LOL

DreamsMaterialize

May 11th, 2011
2:30 pm

Karma will rear its ugly head and bite her in the azz!
F%$#k that, sometimes you have to take it upon yourself to BE the karma. lol

Sassy1

May 11th, 2011
2:31 pm

Hello Everyone! Beautiful Day in the A-T-L.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
2:31 pm

LOL SexyCool. Yeah it’s like “hmmm, I wonder which it will be tonight.” And ya never know until it happens.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:32 pm

Leggs, if someone owed me $1000 and didn’t pay me. Let’s just say I would get my money or something worth way more than $1000 from them.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
2:33 pm

See what you did Blackfoote? You summoned.

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
2:33 pm

Purple a lady in Duluth was attacked today in her home while she was showering. The intruder broke into her home scuffled with her and she got away ran to her room and got her gun and shot him dead.

Sassy1

May 11th, 2011
2:33 pm

I likes meeting mens the old fashioned ways face to faces.

DreamsMaterialize

May 11th, 2011
2:34 pm

Hello Everyone! Beautiful Day in the A-T-L.
Sassy1 what ATL are you in…it’s 90 degrees out there. lol

MzNewy

May 11th, 2011
2:34 pm

@ Leggs…girrrrrrrrrrrrrrl you are better than me like Dreams said…my new name would be KARMA….

Whoooosa…I had a flashback…:)

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:34 pm

F**k Karma, up close and personal get your money. I would take her car or walk in her house and take some jewelry or something of value while she watched or I would just take it out of her ass whenever I saw her. I don’t care the gender and I am not getting Johnny Law involved!

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
2:35 pm

@Raqi ~ 6 weeks ago I loaned $125 to someone I thought was a friend. I’ve known her for 8 years, and we use to work together. She got fired about 4-5 months ago. She said she would return the $$ that evening, but haven’t heard back from her. I paid a bill for her online before her check hit the bank. I haven’t been a pest about contacting her, but I have contacted her and she has completely ignored me. So, I gave away $125 to finally see the true character of this person (even though I had a strong inkling). I just thought she wouldn’t shaft me, and she did.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:36 pm

Blackfoote, that guy was a halfway crook. LOL

sassy1, face to faces huh? I knews you were into groupses.

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
2:36 pm

Wow Leggs. My husband just said yesterday that he is getting out of the Savings and Loans business. He can’t save because he keeps loaning.

I was just seeking advice from a friend about something like this this morning.

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
2:36 pm

F%$#k that, sometimes you have to take it upon yourself to BE the karma. lol

I agree, I agree!

Sassy1

May 11th, 2011
2:37 pm

Notification: Me and Boo don’t go together no more. I was sad yesterday but today I rise.

cba

May 11th, 2011
2:37 pm

Blackfoote, I was wondering if the guy was a stalker but when I heard he was in his 20’s, now I’m thinking maybe a neighbor. The story said she’s in her late 40’s or early 50’s. Either case, he probably knew she was alone.

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
2:38 pm

cba – Really folks ain’t got to know anybody to commit crimes nowadays. Just the way the the world and getting worse. I don’t condone killing but if you’re up in my place and it’s either you or me, if I have the means (or if not), I’m taking you out….all the way.

Sassy1

May 11th, 2011
2:39 pm

I loves hot weather but it messes up my hair.

DreamsMaterialize

May 11th, 2011
2:39 pm

girrrrrrrrrrrrrrl you are better than me like Dreams said…my new name would be KARMA…
Newy We should open up a business called Karma. People can pay us a fee to make sure other mofkers get what’s coming to them. lol

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:40 pm

Sassy1, did a “Notification” to let us know she had a breakup. LOL

Lookouts heres she comes

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:42 pm

Karma is crap, don’t do the legal thing don’t gossip. If you want to pay someone back do it up close and personal don’t hide behind a system or words. Go take what is yours, but then again you could end up like O.J. or someone else you know. LOL

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
2:43 pm

She hasn’t paid $125 in six weeks?

The thing that irks about the folks my hub loaned to over the past several months, most of them hit him with the “imma pay ya back when I get my income tax check”. Knowing they were lying because if they weren’t they would have paid him back already. Here is May I know some of them that borrowed from him live paycheck to paycheck and was up in Walmart and “hole-in-wall taxpreparers” rapid filing with their last year pay stub.

I don’t want to even talk about it anymore.

Imma go back to talking about stupor inducing O’s.

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
2:43 pm

@Raqi V ~ I agree with Mason, get out of the business. One thing I realized is if I continue to help folk who will I be able to turn to in an emergency. I opt to turn to myself and keep my $$ in my own account!!!

WOW, Kudos to the nekkid woman handling her business.

@MzNewy ~ I’ve pondered and I’ve pondered over this mess. I’m very thankful it’s only $125. I can walk away from that. Sure, I thought about small claims court, but I would be inconvenienced a second time around. I could eat the $125 now, so I’m going to. I have no doubt, she will be calling in a few months or even by the end of the year for another favor. I will say, “Yes, I can help you, but I won’t…CLICK”

Blackfoote

May 11th, 2011
2:44 pm

“See what you did Blackfoote? You summoned.”

Celisea I’s knew shes come backs……LOL

Hello Sassy1 hows you doin?

DreamsMaterialize

May 11th, 2011
2:44 pm

Sassy1, did a “Notification” to let us know she had a breakup. LOL
And plumbers worldwide rejoiced at this breaking news, sparking riots and looting of all hardware stores.

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
2:47 pm

@Raqi V ~ see that’s just poor taste and disrespectful…it’s like a slap in the face. Mason stepped out and helped you out and now all you can do is lie in my face or ignore. It pains me, but it is what it is!

CCC

May 11th, 2011
2:47 pm

@AMAZON…the last time I read this blog did I read u met a guy at a bar, stared making out with him & would of even had sex with him but didnt only because he didnt have protection!!! So the real you is finally revealed. You people really believe the goody good images the “H”’s on here claim to be. FUNNY.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:47 pm

Dreams, LOL.

SlimUno

May 11th, 2011
2:47 pm

Lookouts heres she comes

OMG, I was on the phone and had to hang up because I bust out laughing…whew! :lol: :lol:

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
2:47 pm

Blackfoote – Aren’t you just full of jokes today? :)

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:48 pm

Celisea, Dreams and Blackfoote are hilarious today.

Leggs

May 11th, 2011
2:51 pm

Well, I meant lie in his face and ignore him.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:51 pm

Is Amazon even here today?

Celisea

May 11th, 2011
2:52 pm

I dunno but she should be. CCC looks like she’s ready for a brawl :)

SexyCool

May 11th, 2011
2:52 pm

Sassy1s – wishing you the best. “Now, what IS you gone do?”

Raqi V

May 11th, 2011
2:53 pm

PurpleR, I agree with you on over a certain amount you want something, anything of equal value. LOL
My hub says he learned early on in business to be leery of clients and customers who will only give you a P.O.Box and/or cell number. He said it’s pretty impossible for someone to deny you your money when you are sitting there in their office in front of them. But when they only have a P.O.Box you don’t know where to go and find them.

Purple Rain

May 11th, 2011
2:53 pm

1.2.3.4 I declare thumb WAR!

Sassy1

May 11th, 2011
2:53 pm

My friend girl mets this man online he was a H-O-T-M-E-S-S. The pictures he put on the pages was 10 years old. He looked like he was 5 months prego and she says he smelled like sour milk.

DreamsMaterialize

May 11th, 2011
2:54 pm

Mason stepped out and helped you out and now all you can do is lie in my face or ignore.
Leggs If you’re loaning money, you have to take the emotion out of it and approach it as a business. You have to treat these people like the Payday Advance or Title Loan places would treat them. Make ‘em put up everything they have just to get $200 dollars. Make ‘em sign a contract so if they default, you can take their shyyyyt. Forget “helping” someone out.

cba

May 11th, 2011
2:55 pm

I was talking to my brother earlier today and we were discussing when could I get the tickets for Spelman graduation. His daughter is graduating. He said Spelman was giving the tickets out late because they are afraid people would try to sell the tickets. Mrs Obama is the speaker. All I could say was, WOW !! Times are difficult, myself included, but no way would I try to sell those tickets.