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Thank you, Mom

I want to wish all of the mothers a Happy Mother’s Day.  I am so thankful to have my Mother give me great love, support, and advice.  She certainly is the original Wise Diva. I have learned a lot about love and relationships from watching her and listening to her.

What is the best advice you ever received from your Mother? Did you listen to her?

I was talking to a friend who told me that her new boyfriend thinks she would be a great mom. She was really flattered that he saw her in that way.  How important is it to men that women show/have a desire to be a mother?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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ASB

May 6th, 2011
5:51 am

My mom is a wonderful, loving and wise mother. I took her advice except when I met my children’s father. She was right! I will definitely listen in the future!

Happy Mother’s Day to all Moms!

SlimNumeroUno - Tequila wasted *sigh*

May 6th, 2011
8:39 am

Mood Gorning FIGT *hiccup*

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
8:48 am

Morning all -

Great topic WiseDiva. My mom rocks. She’s always let me be my own person, she’s never tried to clip my wings, she celebrates my independence, she’s my biggest cheerleader (seriously) and she even says she looks up to me!

I appreciate all the years she spent at home raising us. She had a promising career, but saw a promising future in her family.

Her best advice was to enjoy life, no matter the season. She let me be a kid when I was a kid, trusted me as a teenager (must have been terrifying for her :lol: ) and encourages me as a single woman, because once I’m locked down…I’ll appreciate my “me” time.

My mommy rocks!

TenderRoni

May 6th, 2011
9:02 am

Roses are Red
Violets are Blue
You are a beuatyful Mom
Now can I have two dollars for school

This was my pre-Mom’s day note from my daughter today. Gotta love them.

Hope all the Moms have a great Mother’s Day!

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
9:18 am

That is too cute Roni. :lol:

Happy Mother’s Day to all our blog Mommies! Keep on holding it down!

Simple Man.....

May 6th, 2011
9:18 am

Mrs W.Ann Green
Sunrise – 9/18/47
Senset – 7/26/06
I love and miss my Mother Dearly…… :(

Tancred

May 6th, 2011
9:23 am

I really don’t like my mom at all. Sure, I appreciate the fact that she fed me, got me off to school, etc. But I am still angry at her for constantly trying to get me to buy into her version of religion. She is a bigot and an ignoramous to boot. Thank goodness I got out of the house at a relatively early time. Just talking to her makes me depressed. I’m not mean to her face, but any affection I give her is just for show. Mother’s Day is just another marketing ploy anyway.

SlimNumeroUno - Tequila wasted *sigh*

May 6th, 2011
9:27 am

Sorry for your loss Simple Man

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
9:32 am

((Hugs)) at SimpleMan. I always send a prayer out to those whose Moms are no longer with us.

Chink

May 6th, 2011
9:36 am

Thank You Mom Thank You Grandma! The both raised me…

My mother showed me alot and I learned from it…my grandmother supported and loved me to no end!

To me instead of thinking if someone would be a great mother …men need to start thinking of how to be a great father. Not trying to stir the pot but too me that puts alot on the other person to be “great” and it doesnt work that way ..think about you and how you would be great. It sounds alittle childish …being a great mother doesnt happen before you have a child. You never know what parenthood can do to someone until they actually go through it!

czBrat

May 6th, 2011
9:39 am

let’s see. my mama was cut from a slightly *cough* different cloth. she advised me to marry the man who loves me not the man i love; didn’t listen to that. she advised me to always have an “ace in the hole”; didn’t listen to that. and she never understood the tomboy side of me. she thought girls should only show the world their soft, pretty side. didn’t listen to that either.

and even though it’s not her mother’s day, i’ll be calling her to say that she has been the one person in my life who sacrificed all she had and all she could to make sure my life was a good one. she kept me happy, healthy, educated and spiritually fed. so even though i didn’t take all of her advice, she is still the reason for the woman i am today.

luv and miss you mommy. see ya in two weeks! :)

Ared, luv your first post. Simple, truly sorry for your loss.
buenos dias, slim! i see you partook. :lol: you remind me of my daughter’s fb post yesterday. she said she wasn’t sure if she was given the day off just because of her last name, but she was taking it! (we ain’t mexican)

HiYas!

Rell

May 6th, 2011
9:40 am

S/O to all the mothers…enjoy YOUR weekend.

I love my mother for being all she could be for me and my brother..and teaching from an early age to stand on my own

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
9:42 am

You never know what parenthood can do to someone until they actually go through it!

Chink – Amen. I’m not a mother…but I have seen some instances where guys went for the woman who’d make a good mother…(and they did), but they also valued motherhood over everything. Making other relationships (like with their husbands/ baby’s fathers) insignificant. I think managing loving relationships are an important part of parenting too.

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
9:44 am

Thank you czBrat. Happy Mother’s Day to you! And glad you enjoyed that day off! :lol:

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
9:50 am

“La calma è la virtù dei forti.” and “Can che abbaia non morde.” The calm is the virtue of the strong and the barking dog doesn’t bite. I love my mama those two things she taught all of us growing up. When she gave me her blessing to ask for my wife she said somethings that are rather personal but they will always stick with me.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
9:51 am

CanalZone show me your soft and pretty side. :O

TenderRoni

May 6th, 2011
9:52 am

I can’t even put into words the love I have for my Mom. I don’t know where I would be, if it wasn’t for her sacrfice and selflessness she has shown me.

The best advice she given me: You can do anything you set your mind to. Put your faith in God. God is an on-time God. And to love your family

DreamsMaterialize

May 6th, 2011
9:54 am

What is the best advice you ever received from your Mother? Did you listen to her?
From as early as I can remember my mom would say, “Life isn’t fair. As soon as you realize that then you can move forward and do great things.” Not only did I listen, I’ve incorporated it in my life. I never make excuses, and it’s served me well. I owe that completely to my mom.

czBrat

May 6th, 2011
9:56 am

and here i am thinking it would be swiss who’d make mud of my mommy memories. :wink:

kimmie

May 6th, 2011
9:56 am

Morning All!

I had an absolutely fabulous mother! If I am even a fraction of the same kind of mother, it will be a blessing. It’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think of something she taught me. A lot of the things she tried to tell me that I didn’t believe are coming to pass – I am seeing them!

Other than the obvious qualities she had, like wisdom, smarts,morals, dedication – my mom was elegant, had exquisite taste, and a LOOKER! She was gorgeous! I know I am biased, but the sentiment is echoed by all when they see pictures and remember her. I kept her good taste in mind when picking out my wedding dress. Went to Phipps like we did when she took me to get prom dresses. She knew I wanted a pink dress for my wedding – and yes I walked right up on it in Saks! First and only dress I tried on and it is perfect. She always encouraged me to be me – not ordinary, but excellent.

I miss her dearly. Love ya Mom! :)

Amia

May 6th, 2011
10:01 am

Anyone that knows me, knows that my mother and I are extremely close. I think what I love about her most is that she will listen to me and if I am wrong, she has no reservations about not siding with me. She has always allowed me to live my life as I see fit, while going with me every step of the way. I am extremely fortunate to have her in my life. I can’t say enough about her. Don’t get me wrong, we argue like crazy sisters sometimes but quickly get over it. She lives in another state far, far away, but she and other family will be here for Memorial Day Weekend.

I mailed her a goody box for Mother’s Day. It has a whole bunch of her favorite things in it like clothes, make-up, candy, accessories, etc… So excited for her to open it up.

Shout out to those who don’t have their mother but still keep her memory alive.

Prayers go out to those of you who eren’t not blessed with a loving mother. I pray that your disdain for her vanishes.

kimmie

May 6th, 2011
10:01 am

Dreams – That’s one my mom used to say to us – “No excuses” That and “Be a leader, not a follower”. I use those with the kids now. They’ve taken to saying it for me now!LOL!!

abc

May 6th, 2011
10:02 am

Mom told me to never talk about my personal life at work, and don’t try and make friends with coworkers. Their personal biases will play against you more often than not. I tend to follow her advice — sometimes when I haven’t, I’ve seen the wisdom of her advice. I see it happen all the time.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
10:03 am

Canal Zone, I understand the love we have for our mothers but I am not foing to have sappy lovey dovey stuff ruin my blog freaky friday :) I am just making sure we will change the tone this afternoon. LOL

Mo (aka Moeisha)

May 6th, 2011
10:03 am

Happy Friday All!

Rell – whats good mayne!

Best advice from mom – gosh there is so much to put here…..let me think of what I would consider the best and i’ll post.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms in Blogsville!

M. (pronouced M dot)

May 6th, 2011
10:05 am

Good day everybody.

My mom raised 8 kids (2 sets of twins, including me and my twin sister) and has given me countless pieces of advice, sayings, cliches, and nuggets.

The ones that I still hear her saying is what goes around comes around and dont give to receive. I know its cliche but she really instilled a lot in me with those and taught me early how to treat and respect people.

My brother also gave me the best advice ever….Never trust a woman as far as you can throw her….LOL He still says this to this day to me!

Rell

May 6th, 2011
10:09 am

hello Mo

best advice from my mother “Dont turn out like your dayum daddy”

M. (pronouced M dot)

May 6th, 2011
10:11 am

@czBrat

What was your mom’s definition of an ace in the hole?

TenderRoni

May 6th, 2011
10:12 am

@M- my mom always said that to me too, when I was youngin. especially the what goes around comes around. And another clich one was, Treat people the way you want to be treated. Definitely words to live by

M. (pronouced M dot)

May 6th, 2011
10:17 am

@TenerRoni

LOL My mom used to always say Fat meat is greasy lol

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
10:24 am

From my grandmother, I learned the value of smart work and that hard work won’t hurt you. She used to say all the time, “Aint no use worrying. Worryin’ll kill ya.” I also learned from her example of not giving a damn what other folks thought about her. (Used to embarass me as a kid, but now…I understand.) I have learned to embrace my individuality and celebrate what sets me apart.

From my mother, I learned my laid back attitude. My cool comes from my mom. It is sometimes mistaken for lack of passion or indifference, but really, it’s about staying even and balanced. She used to say to me, “Look out for yourself. Know how to have your own back. Know when to let your guard down…and even then, don’t let it down.”

From my stepmom, I found the example of how to be in a relationship, how to take care of a husband and how to laugh at damn near everything, live life all out and to cut out folks who consistently bring bllsht along with them.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
10:29 am

Thank you Mom for being the straight talking, advice giving, compassionate woman that you were. Thank you for the tough love as well as a shoulder to cry on. Thank you for being the true essence of a beautiful, poised woman and teaching me to do the same. Thank you for showing me the acts and spirit of a dedicated and loving wife and mother. Thank you for teaching me integrity and never to compromise it. Thank you now for coming to my dreams showing me those I should not trust and where I need to be careful and steer clear of harm. Thank you for teaching me to love the Lord. Thank you.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers reading.

Trevor0529

May 6th, 2011
10:30 am

Happy Mothers Day to my mother, my sister in-law and to all mothers in the world today. You are all loved and appreciated.

:)

Mo (aka Moeisha)

May 6th, 2011
10:33 am

SCool – “My cool comes from my mom.” Me too! My mom is the master of a poker face and Ive been told Im the same way. However when you get ‘RC’ (my mom) started or get under her skin, she is RUTHLESS with it….as I have been told I am. We both make it point to try and not ‘go there’ but if it happens, look out!

One thing my mom would say to my siblings and I growing up that I think is hilarious now: Dont go to school acking a dayum fool and embarass me because YOU will be waaaay more embarrassed when its all said and done. They are your friends up there, not mine!

czBrat

May 6th, 2011
10:36 am

i’m cracking up @ rell 10:09 cuz i say that to my son.

m., mama believed every woman should have a backup man.

Dont go to school acking a dayum fool and embarass me because YOU will be waaaay more embarrassed when its all said and done. They are your friends up there, not mine! :lol: :lol: :lol:

TenderRoni

May 6th, 2011
10:38 am

That reminds me, she used say: What goes on in this house, stays in this house.
And, Walk outta here like you have some sense (that was the warning so we wouldn’t act up in public)

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
10:42 am

“Dont go to school acking a dayum fool and embarass me because YOU will be waaaay more embarrassed when its all said and done.”

Yep…you could end up the only kid in the 10th grade sent to school in a uniform and some Payless church shoes. (lol)

SlimNumeroUno - Tequila wasted *sigh*

May 6th, 2011
10:43 am

I understand the love we have for our mothers but I am not foing to have sappy lovey dovey stuff ruin my blog freaky friday I am just making sure we will change the tone this afternoon

Purp – you are so crazy….

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
10:45 am

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
10:45 am

My mom gave me tons of advice and taught me hundreds of lessons but I think the one that really stands out for me is “Learn from your mistakes”. She would say if and when you make a mistake learn from that because if you don’t you are bound to repeat. Until you learn.

SlimNumeroUno - Tequila wasted *sigh*

May 6th, 2011
10:45 am

Not knocking Payless but them church shoes don’t ever have any good traction on the bottom of them. You can’t ever really tell who has on a pair until you see that one lone kid sliding all over a carpeted floor. :lol:

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
10:47 am

I could go on for quite a while on this topic, but it would all be kind of a downer, so suffice to say: Thanks for everything, mom! Happy mothers day & RIP….

I’ll check back in later after the Seis de Mayo beer has kicked in…. ;-)

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
10:48 am

Slim, :) I love my mother dearly and appreciate all that she has done for me and my family. But papa taught me pretty much everything growing up, his boys. Mama was more with my sisters doing stuff and teaching them how to be ladies. We were always out doing something with papa before school, after school and weekends all day. Mama taught me what to look for in a woman and how to be kind to others and I appreciate that fully!

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
10:48 am

Dont go to school acking a dayum fool and embarass me because YOU will be waaaay more embarrassed when its all said and done.

That is just like my mom. She had no problem coming to the class and embarrassing us. She pinched me one time on my neck drawing tears like a river. I was the only child in the 3rd grade that ever had a hickie. However mine was produced by mother’s strong fingers. LOL

SlimNumeroUno - Tequila wasted *sigh*

May 6th, 2011
10:50 am

Anyone going to be in the Eastside/Conyers area Sunday evening and want to hear some live Blues/R & B? (my stepdad will be performing at Marshall’s Sports Bar & Grill at 7pm) I think the cover is only $10.

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
10:53 am

Happy Mother’s Day to my mommie….my mom is the all time greatest mother in the world. First and foremost for grounding me in the Word of God. I haven’t always liked it, spent many years running from it but have come to love it. For the sound advice before I was able to realize just how invaluable. For not saying “I told you so.” For understanding because she’d “been there and done that.” For loving my kid seemingly more then loved me…grandma’s love and giving her at the rip old age of 80 something the same EXACT advice she gave me :) For being THAT woman and the glue that bind. For raising 8 children. For taking special special care of her dying daughter and having the power of prayer when my sister didn’t have the strength to go just one more day during her “last” days. By example, showing me it’s not a short exchange to forego and seemingly “give up” many many worldly desires for Christ’s sake…now (and as he’s always been) God is her ever present help in her aged years and now her time of need. For making my daddy love her beyond what seems natural…who asked for her and thanked her for everything before he crossed over to the other side. And for all she did, I truly truly get it now…

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
11:02 am

One thing that I have learned in my 43 years that I will add to what my mother taught so I can teach my daughter is “learn from other people’s mistakes also”.

Don’t be so bullheaded that you cannot heed the advice from others. If someone tells you not to walk down that street because there is a fire and they got burned by it, don’t walk down that street.

I love my friend Doc and I wish her a Happy Mother’s Day. She has shared some really useful information about her life and mistakes that has helped and is helping me now.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
11:06 am

LOL Purple. Since it is Friday and yall likes to get freaky, I was joking with my besties one time about wondering which one of my parents donated me my Fiyah. LOL

Probably my mom because she could a fiesty something when she wanted to be. Or maybe my dad, you know those Latinos do it like rabbits. LOL

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
11:08 am

Whoopi is on The View tearing up. She doesn’t have her mom this year. :cry:

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
11:10 am

Raqi, I think my mother was the freaky one also. Tons of siblings and we heard somethings growing up and we saw some things when we used to pirate our parents dresser drawers. She was always all over my father showing him love growing up, papa was cool about it…but our walls were thin. And as far as my ears can tell both of their tools still work. LOL

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
11:12 am

For not saying “I told you so.”

Celisea, exactly. Just thinking back to that day I sat there in front of her crying mostly because she had warned me but those dreadful words never parted her lips. She just told me I will soon get passed it.

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
11:14 am

Raqi, I think my mother was the freaky one also

:lol:

My parents had three kids in 5 years before mom closed down the shop. They were up to something. :lol:

Sweet Pea

May 6th, 2011
11:14 am

A shout to all the mommies and women who are mentors to others for their unconditional love and tireless efforts! Your work is not in vain as it will be greatly appreciated either now or later ;0)

My mom is a straight shooter, a woman who is firm with her words but filled with love, strength, and wisdom. Like EF Hutton…when she talks I listen and a few words of wisdom that I have kept in mind along with others….Love yourself first! If you can’t say anything nice then say nothing at all or at least be tactful about whatever you say..Get your education so that you can make your own money, and the list goes on and on!

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
11:22 am

O/T – Just this morning, I realized that, somewhere along the way, it became less important that my mate be described as handsome or hot or fine and more important that he can be described as good, solid, stable, consistent, considerate.

Words that have more to do with his character attributes than his physical appearance.

(The fact that I think he’s hot and that he does IT for ME is just bonus.)

Rell

May 6th, 2011
11:23 am

@Purp…word…we need all the ladies to break em out and put them on the glass :-)

Mo (aka Moeisha)

May 6th, 2011
11:23 am

My mom was a teacher, I had the pleasure of going to school where she taught. My brother had her as a teacher. Mom was a BEAST in those hallways and that classroom. But she would not hesitate to ‘go there’ if need be.

Tancred

May 6th, 2011
11:28 am

Here’s a shout-out to all those young mothers I see on The MARTA, yelling obscenities to their kids in the stroller, smackin’ them upside their heads and “feeding” them that horrible red drink sugar water. They shout “Shut The F*&^ Up or I’m Gonna Kick Your Ass!!” I can’t see how that is gonna make those little kids become good adults. And then there are those 4,305 babies in Clayton Co. born between 2003-9 to “mothers” aged 15-19 (today’s AJC). That can’t be good. For every “great” mother mentioned here, there are probably 5 or 6 that are just plain horrible, and the cycle continues. Happy Mother’s Day indeed.

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
11:36 am

^Thanks to our lil ray of sunshine. :lol:

Tancred

May 6th, 2011
11:37 am

Yeah, I can be a pisser. Sorry, but I call em as I see em.

TenderRoni

May 6th, 2011
11:38 am

Are you the type to see the negative in everything..gheesh!

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
11:40 am

Raqi – She just told me I will soon get passed it.

Only a mom can do that…only a mom. With no feelings of ah ha…just happy you opened your eyes enough to move one :)

kimmie

May 6th, 2011
11:40 am

Raqi – I was reading about how your mother showed up to school and pinched you. My mom did almost the same to me, in 5th grade. I took something to school I was not supposed to. My mother, with her 6th sense, knew it and came marching into that classroom, right up to me and said “give it to me”! Took me out in the hall and pinched me! I tried to straighten up before I went back in but the damage was done!

Mama did not play!!! And I’m thankful she didn’t!

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
11:43 am

Tancreed – For every “great” mother mentioned here, there are probably 5 or 6 that are just plain horrible, and the cycle continues. Happy Mother’s Day indeed

Be happy for the good ones :) Find the silver lining

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
11:46 am

And really Tancred, you should do for your mom what she allegedy didn’t do for you. Show her some love. Sometimes if you love folks that won’t or can’t love, they’ll love you back. Every mom should be possess love but some don’t.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
11:46 am

SexyCool, I can literally sense your happy ‘sigh’.

But while I do very much feel you and agree, this morning when the hub was enticing me to dance with him to his rendition of “You’re All I Need to Get By”, I thought he was totally hot at the time. LOL

Rell

May 6th, 2011
11:46 am

Here’s a shout-out to all those young mothers I see on The MARTA, yelling obscenities to their kids in the stroller, smackin’ them upside their heads and “feeding” them that horrible red drink sugar water. They shout “Shut The F*&^ Up or I’m Gonna Kick Your Ass!!”

^^ dayum the kids…i have seen women talk to there men this way…

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
11:47 am

Celisea, yes only a mother.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
11:51 am

LOL kimmie My mom worked at the school. She was a 5th grade teacher. My dumb self knowing she was only a hallway away didn’t even consider she was going to be in there in a matter of minutes.

Willie Dynamite

May 6th, 2011
11:54 am

Morning All – Happy Mothers Day to all the Moms and for everyone that assumes the Motherly role.

I thank for my Mom for just being her. She taught my brother and me what we needed to know. She gave us a Hug when we needed it not just when we wanted it. She taught us the value of life through everyday lessons. I say she was perfectly made to be our Mother. Wouldn’t trade any of it in for the World.
I can name so many pieces of advice but its two that stick out to me. Firstly, when we were younger she would get mad anytime we used the word FAIR. She always told us stop saying that word. life aint Fair, Fair is where they sell Cotton Candy. To this day I tell my kids the same thing slightly different but the same message. lastly, the night before I left home to go to College we had a real good talk. Straight up no chaser kind of talk. I asked her why she never encouraged me to stay home and go to College instead of moving out of state at such a young age. She explained that everything she did was so I could go into the world and be my own person. That was going to happen whether i stayed home or moved half-way around the world. She said she raised me to be a good person and now I had to go and be a Man.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
11:55 am

Tancred, what did your mother teach you?

Ladies, show us your tiiiiiiiiiiiiiTAYS ( In my Matthew McConaughey voice)

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:00 pm

I will not lie and say that I liked everything my mother did and/or said to me. That would be a lie. But being 43 now and looking make I appreciate what she did and tried to do. And once I became a mother I clearly understood why she did the things she did. My mom would get us right where we committed the crime.

Just recently Liz and I were at the bank and she wanted to be bad, wallowing on the floor and walking away. After speaking to her twice I took her and shook her a little telling her to straighten up. This other customer looked at me like I had committed a major offense. I looked right back at her and said “And?” The teller snickered saying she must not have any children.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:04 pm

I bet she turns over in her grave everytime I mistype a word. LOL

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
12:05 pm

Willie D – I got another “how are you text” :lol:

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
12:05 pm

Actually, Rock – seems to me as if the people with the baddest kids in creation are the ones that look at you sideways for disciplining yours. Them and…..well, let me not go there. (lol)

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
12:09 pm

And like one of my friends used to say about her son – “I jack him up cause I’m trying to keep him out of jail.”

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:10 pm

I remember one time I thought I was all grown up and whatever (I was 27 LOL) and called myself going toe-to-toe with my mom. She said, “if you ever spoke to me like that again…” Period.

She didn’t even have to say what she would do. LOL

Another time she told me “watch yourself young lady”.

Just to warn you all, the one person that I can talk about more than I talk about my husband is my beloved mother. That woman was fabulously awesome.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:11 pm

Yeah you are right about that SexyCool.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:12 pm

Did you all hear that? It sounded like someone turned over in their grave. LOL

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
12:16 pm

“seems to me as if the people with the baddest kids in creation are the ones that look at you sideways for disciplining yours. Them and…..well, let me not go there.”

Not to worry, SexyC, I’ll say if for you… :lol: My people have bought too much into this whole touchy-feely, new-age, “time out” BS.

Mrs. Swiss made me go to mass with her on Easter Sunday (yeah, I’m that whipped) & there was this family there with an incredibly annoying spoiled brat of a son — probably 2 or 3, I’m guessing. This little punk would just shout “NO!” at his mom when she asked him (and, yes, I do mean asked, rather than told) to do anything. :shock: And the whole time, she’s talking to him like he’s the one in charge! “Now, mommy needs you to ____. Can you do that for mommy, please?” I wanted to drag both of them out side & beat them senseless….

Mo (aka Moeisha)

May 6th, 2011
12:20 pm

SexyCool – “And like one of my friends used to say about her son – “I jack him up cause I’m trying to keep him out of jail.” ^^^5 for that one! I say something similar, “I punish him now so a judge wont have to later’ or ‘I get in his chest now so I wont have to strangle him later’

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:22 pm

LOL Gouda. I have seen exactly what you are talking about.

My sister is like that with her kids. That little girl of hers is so G-R-O-W-N. I spanked her behind one Thanksgiving they were here. Now every time that little Miss Diva sees me see speaks all humble and innocent. She is 8 now and I will spank her behind again. LOL

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
12:23 pm

Well, Swiss….*you* said it. (lol)

I mean it makes sense…you stay out of my business and let me discipline my child and it will decrease the chances that he robs yo’ ass when he’s 15.

cba

May 6th, 2011
12:30 pm

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY to all the mother bloggers. During the couple of years I’ve visited this site, I have read many posts where you have shared the love and responsibility of being very good mothers. The influence you have on your kids will last their entire lives. For me, no one come close to the love and guidance I recieved from my mother. I must add, my maternal grandmother was a very close second. Even though they are both gone, still today if I’m in a situation of uncertainty, I ask myself, what would my mother think or how would this make her feel.

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
12:34 pm

And once I became a mother I clearly understood why she did the things she did. My mom would get us right where we committed the crime.

That’s why I said I truly truly get it now. I have no problem and I’m never scared to “go there” wherever she goes there. Of course I don’t nor have really had a problem with that but a couple times over the years I’ve done it…with no apologies. One thing about kids, they take and use leverage if they think at the slightest they have you overa barrel.

Actually, Rock – seems to me as if the people with the baddest kids in creation are the ones that look at you sideways for disciplining yours.

Let me just say amen to this

Mrs. Swiss made me go to mass with her on Easter Sunday (yeah, I’m that whipped)

I bet before it’s all over with you’re gonna be the biggest christian we know :) Mrs. Swiss got it I see

Willie Dynamite

May 6th, 2011
12:34 pm

Ared – have you talked to this dude since he dropped the ball?

Tancred

May 6th, 2011
12:37 pm

Well, let’s just say that my mom never approved of me trying to find stuff out on my own, to “think for myself,” as they say. Her big thing was indoctrination, an aggressive foisting of Catholic dogma and piety and a constant disparagement of anything secular or humanistic. The more I started to question the obvious failings of biblical explanations for the world, the more she warned me of my likely place in Hell, just like those little cartoon handouts you find on The MARTA. Her “love” for me is entirely selfish in that my “salvation” will make HER feel good; my worldview will always be wrong in her eyes. She even refused to go to my wedding because it was in the “wrong” church (I since regret having it in ANY church). She is simple-minded, superstitious, ill-tempered, and regretful because she thinks that she “failed” her duty to mold a good Catholic boy. Like I said, I appreciate the fact that I was fed, clothed, and given medical treatment (as long as I was bleeding enough), but I can’t say she ever appreciated ME as I grew to form my own opinions.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:38 pm

SexyCool and Mo, exactly.

You know knucklehead’s father and knucklehead’s dad have totally different disciplinary tactics. One time the knucklehead must have forgotten under whose roof he was standing and decided to talk back to his dad. LOL

He grabbed him so fast it scared me. Sent that little puppy scurrying to his room with his tail tucked. LOL

I slapped him before I knew it one morning because I told him to do something and he talked back. The hub told him ‘I bet you won’t think to say that again” and laughed at him.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:42 pm

Tancred, I disagree with you. While how you mother taught is not what you have chosen to be, her teaching was her loving you. She believes in the way she serves and she tried to raise you in her belief.

Why hate her for that? Yeah you couldn’t do what and how you wanted while under her roof, but I guarantee you her efforts were what she felt were in your best interest. You chose a different way but she tried in how she knew.

SlimNumeroUno - Tequila wasted *sigh*

May 6th, 2011
12:43 pm

Kids need boundaries and discipline…PERIOD. My sister will tear my little niece up if she get’s a little beside herself. I’ll never forget the time my mom and stepdad had left the house to go out of town. After coming back inside, my sister goes upstairs..niece is no where to be found. Come to find out, this little booger figures out a way to open the front door and goes running after my mom. My sister was totally freaked out when she discovered that she went outside. She tore her butt up and said she didn’t care Who saw her. LOL!

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:44 pm

And seriously to carry that type of hatred around in your heart for your mother is frightening. She is your mother.

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
12:47 pm

Tancred – What if she’s right?

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
12:50 pm

Ared – have you talked to this dude since he dropped the ball

Yeah, I answered a few texts right after. Since I told you the story of how he dropped the ball, I haven’t.

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
12:52 pm

My mama raised me in the church, although I left. I wanted to do and find things out on my own. I was raised in a somewhat strict environment. But not once will I hold my mother at fault. Truthfully, what I pegged as stict was really not being able to do everything I thought I was adult enough to do. My mama knew better than me. My mama had the oversight of outcomes and consequences. While I thought she was sooo wrong…back then. I’ve lived and come to know and experienced first hand she wasn’t wrong at all. Too, I have a daughter and the same oversight that I lacked as a child, I now have it. My kid will and does think the same way…it’s life’s cycle. She ain’t gonna be exactly happy with me these next few years but she’ll come to understand what I was doing the entire time. It seems to me (and I could be wrong) that you’re still on there hanging on the ledge of hate. Reel it in some…I bet you’ll “see” clearer as a result. Only a mother that loves their child will take every effort to protect…if that means going against you, so be it.

Willie Dynamite

May 6th, 2011
12:53 pm

Ared – So is it a done deal in your eyes?

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
12:53 pm

SexyC — Yeah, that’s one of my biggest pet peeves (unruly kids in public). And then you get the parents of those unruly kids who say stupid sh!t like “well, you don’t have any kids, so you don’t know….” Yeah, well, I may not have any kids, but I had parents, and I know my parents would have beaten my azz if I acted like your spawn in public… :lol:

Celisea — Yeah, Mrs. Swiss has definitely got it. But don’t hold your breath on that last part… ;-) Actually, Mrs. Swiss isn’t religious, either — she just feels obligated to go to this church from time to time since we pretended to be parishioners to get the discounted rate to use the building for our wedding… ;-)

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
12:57 pm

Swiss – she just feels obligated to go to this church from time to time since we pretended to be parishioners to get the discounted rate to use the building for our wedding

You ain’t right man :)

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:57 pm

There are plenty of things that my kids do not and will not like about how I am trying to raise them but I pray they get over it and see that I only have their best interest at heart.

Celisea, sadly Tancred is not the first and only person that harbor hatred for his parent for trying to teach some right into him. And that hatred usually stems from what that person was not allowed to as a result of being taught.

No matter what one’s belief system grows up to be, it’s frightening hearing people hate their own parent because she wanted to teach them a right way. You should at least appreciate her for trying even if it does vary from what you believe.

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
1:06 pm

I don’t view Tancred’s situation of differing belief systems of those of his mother as I would a parent that is opposed to and refuses to accept her child’s sexual orientation.

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
1:07 pm

Ared – So is it a done deal in your eyes?

You told me to KIM so I am! But yeah, that was a deal breaker for me anyway.

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
1:08 pm

Let me state that a bit more clearly….

I don’t view Tancred’s situation of differing belief systems of those of his mother as any different than that of a parent that is opposed to and refuses to accept her child’s sexual orientation.

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
1:13 pm

Raqi – Celisea, sadly Tancred is not the first and only person that harbor hatred for his parent for trying to teach some right into him. And that hatred usually stems from what that person was not allowed to as a result of being taught.

Cosign…usually that’s the case. A child that never got over not having their way. To this day, NOBODY can do things against the rules of my mama’s house…not a reason to hate. Buy your own house and do your own thing and love her still.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
1:15 pm

I am sitting here thinking about how hard my hub goes in on our boys but how quick he is to defend them when I am being to motherly with them. He always tell me they are men and to let them make certain mistakes. What doesn’t break them will make them good strong willed men.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
1:19 pm

SexyCool, in that case I would gladly welcome my child hating me for me not accepting something I know to be wrong. I hope it never happens but if one of my kids get up the nerve to tell me they want to practice a lifestyle of loving their own gender, I will not hate that child but I will not allow the practicing of it in my house. Meaning, no your ‘partner’ can come with you to visit me. No I will not take part in your commitment ceremony.

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
1:21 pm

I will not hate that child but I will not allow the practicing of it in my house. Meaning, no your ‘partner’ can come with you to visit me. No I will not take part in your commitment ceremony

I ain’t trying be funny or agree just to be agreeing, but I’m 100% whole heartedly on this one. And I’d do the same. No “partners” coming to visit.

DreamsMaterialize

May 6th, 2011
1:21 pm

I can see Tancred’s point, and I can see the counter points too. Moms (the good ones) will try to do everything they can to make sure they raise up good children. Now, that doesn’t mean that everything they do will be right or that they won’t make mistakes. A child should understand this when they grow to be an adult, but a parent should also understand that their children won’t necessarily be clones of them.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
1:21 pm

…can NOT come…

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
1:28 pm

What if the supposed wrong/sin was criminalin nature? What if your child owned a car dealership that was the front for a chop shop? Or if he were a drug dealer? What if he cheated on his taxes, claimed dependents that he doesn’t have? Stole peoples identities? Was a kleptomaniac?

Should he be unwelcome then? Wrong is wrong, right?

Rell

May 6th, 2011
1:28 pm

well – i have a questions…when will the fake butt injections stop…i mean its getting out of hand now…i seen a butt so big one day, her but crack look like a winking eye

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
1:31 pm

DreamsMat, but why hate her for it. Tancred has stated plainly that he hates his mother for trying to instill a way that she believes in him. That’s no reason to hate her. He does not have to go along with what she believes and teach but to hate her is awful IMO.

Hating someone for wanting you to be good person is mindboggling to me.

Those things that I did not agree with my mother on I did not bring up around her. Things she said that I did not like I just heard it and went on about my business. I didn’t hate her for telling me “don’t do this”, “stop doing that”. She had a right to say how she felt and what she believed. I had a right to accept it or ignore it. There was never any love lost.

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
1:33 pm

Y’all know I’m just debating, right?

Different argument – HYPOTHETICALLY SPEAKING – what if Tancred’s mother was raising him to be an extreme racist? I mean – that’s what she strongly believes is right, right? Is he still wrong for his intense feelings for her attempts to instill that set of beliefs in him?

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
1:37 pm

SexyCool, I never said I would not welcome my child to my house, I said I would not allow his/her practices in my house, i.e. His/her partner.

As with all the other stuff you named I will tell him I do not agree with what he is doing but I will not tell him he is not welcomed in my house. If he sold drugs I would not accept money from him nor allow him to bring drugs in my house. If he ran a chop shop I would not accept a car from him and will not advise those I know to buy from him.
If he cheated on his taxes or stole identities I would just look for him to eventually get caught. And yeah I will even visit him in prison but I will not accept something I believe to be wrong just because it’s my child doing it.

Heck I don’t want your child doing it to me so I don’t want my child doing it to you.

And no I am not being self-righteous, I am just stating what I believe in. We all have a right to what and how we believe.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
1:39 pm

SexyCool, I wouldn’t say he should hate her but I would say do the same thing he has chosen to do now, not be around her.

The teaching of hatred is never right.

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
1:40 pm

One person’s action will never justify your own.

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
1:42 pm

i seen a butt so big one day, her but crack look like a winking eye

Friday’s laugh…now that’s a big ole butt

Rell

May 6th, 2011
1:44 pm

@celisea…yea there needs to be a revolution for the itty bitty tit tay camp and the nar tap of azz camp…tired of big butts..i even seen an asian chick with a XV large arse…now you know its out of hand

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
1:46 pm

I never said I would not welcome my child to my house, I said I would not allow his/her practices in my house, i.e. His/her partner.

So why would your child be able to bring a heterosexual partner into your house he/she isn’t married to? Isn’t fornication/premarital sex wrong? Isn’t out of wedlock parenthood wrong? Wouldn’t that mean your grandchildren shouldn’t be accepted either?

Or do you just pick and chose what’s “more wrong” than others?

For the sake of argument too…

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
1:47 pm

“Hating someone for wanting you to be good person is mindboggling to me.”

But buying a particular set of religious dogma != being a good person.

My whole family are also extremely religious and, obviously, I think they’re completely brainwashed. But I also know that they’re good people (though perhaps misguided or deluded) and that trying to reason with them over something they believe so fervently (with no supporting evidence) is a losing proposition. So, that’s just one of the topics I never discuss with them…

Luckily for me, my family aren’t overly judgmental or overbearing (well, at least not in as mean-spirited a way as I’ve seen from some), so I can just avoid the topic normally. But, it does probably keep me from visiting family more than I do…

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
1:47 pm

Rell – Well I certainly don’t have that problem. I’m nicely proportioned. My sisters use to tease me growing up cause they had butts for days and I was rather framed much smaller than them. Well now that stuff is settling on the butt sisters, they got big butts everywhere. Those butts have moved to the front too. All I can do is laugh and continue to look hawt :)

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
1:48 pm

And if the folks call my house looking for “Isaac Hayes” imma point them in the direction of Mr. No-Good-Son-Of-Mine.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
1:51 pm

We are talking about religion now? I was raised Catholic, now I am non denominational. Swiss, using the church. LOL Where are the tittays?

SlimNumeroUno - Tequila wasted *sigh*

May 6th, 2011
1:51 pm

Swiss – How did your folks react to you deciding to marry outside of your race? How did her family take it?

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
1:52 pm

PR – Swiss WENT to church…Celisa now singing Mary Mary’s rendition of “How I Got Over” :)

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
1:52 pm

Purple — I figure turnabout is fair play…. ;-) :lol:

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
1:53 pm

You’re on your way…you just don’t know it yet. Ten years from now you’ll be Deacon Swiss on the left pew…you’ll pay back every dime from your turnabout

Sassy1

May 6th, 2011
1:55 pm

Good Afternoon Everyone!!
TGFIH!!
Happy Pre-Mother’s Day to all moms.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
1:56 pm

AmazonR, why would I not let my son bring his girlfriend to my house? No they cannot sleep together in my house but they can come by. There is nothing wrong with a man and woman dating. I believe in a man and a woman being together.

And why would I not accept my grandson, he is innocent. He didn’t ask to come here.

I clearly stated that what I do not believe in I have a right to not accept in my house.

I dated men and took them to meet my parents but we weren’t engaging in intercourse while there.

It’s kind of narrow minded to say just because a man and woman is not married it’s wrong for them to date. They are supposed to date.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
1:56 pm

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
1:57 pm

Slim — They were all fine with it. My dad loves Mrs. Swiss — she’s a lot like my mom, actually. Unfortunately, Mrs. Swiss never got to meet my mom (nor I her dad, for that matter), but I’m pretty sure she & my mom would have hit it off. They actually probably would have teamed up against me, so maybe the timing was good… :lol:

Mrs. Swiss’s mom seems to like me just fine. It’s a little hard to know, because she only speaks French & creole, but she seems okay with me. And her brothers like me.

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
1:57 pm

Rell – One word on the butt thing – Nicki.
(that is all)

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
1:57 pm

Sassy1 used an apostrophe???????

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
1:58 pm

But, it does probably keep me from visiting family more than I do…

Swiss and that’s any and everybody’s right to do the same. But it can be done without hating the people for what they believe.

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
1:59 pm

“But it can be done without hating the people for what they believe.”

I agree. But then, we don’t really know how Tancred’s mom was… Some folks are a lot harder to be around than others when you don’t agree on things like that…

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
2:01 pm

“You’re on your way…you just don’t know it yet.”

Celisea — It’ll never happen. I’m not the least bit attracted to young boys. :lol:

SlimNumeroUno - Tequila wasted *sigh*

May 6th, 2011
2:01 pm

Sassy1 used an apostrophe???????

Purp I was thinking the saaaaame thang. I sat speechless because I was sort of in shock.

Swiss – Cool beans…You’re IN THERE ;-) So is she any good at making gumbo? I’d like to take the time to invite myself over for Gumbo night. I’ll bring the spoons

Sassy1

May 6th, 2011
2:01 pm

Purple Rain- Everybody knows that…have you not seen ANY Mother’s Day Cards. Geez!

Rell

May 6th, 2011
2:05 pm

Yeah swiss how they feel about you marrying a sister

I watched black in latin america the other night….brazilian women are black…so take that take that essence article

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
2:05 pm

It’s kind of narrow minded to say just because a man and woman is not married it’s wrong for them to date. They are supposed to date.

I agree…that’s why I DIDNT SAY THAT.

But it’s not “right” for them to fornicate before marriage. It’s not “right” if they’re shacking before marriage (living in sin). It’s not “right” if they have a child out of wedlock.

It’s all behavior that is not right…but because your child happens to be gay…then all of a sudden that person isn’t welcome in your home? You wouldn’t go to a commitment ceremony where your child would be pledging all the same things married people do? What’s the alternative? Pretend to be straight? Live their lives alone? Marry someone of the opposite sex to appease you?

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
2:05 pm

sassy1, really?

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
2:07 pm

“Pretend to be straight? Live their lives alone? Marry someone of the opposite sex to appease you?”

Become a Republican Congressman?

:lol:

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
2:07 pm

I think out of all of that fornication, shacking and etc between a man and a woman a union of marriage could form and God may or may not put his hand on that but if two gays ended up married the end result may not have a chance for that same blessing

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
2:09 pm

Become a Republican Congressman?

:lol:

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
2:11 pm

“a union of marriage could form and God may or may not put his hand on that”

And from that marriage a child may be born & the parents could take that child to church where the priest may or may not put his hand on that.

(Couldn’t resist) :lol:

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
2:11 pm

Swiss who said that they were Catholic? lol

Sassy!

May 6th, 2011
2:11 pm

Since you’ll knows soooo much. What about this: my next door nieghors is a single parent with 16 yrs old daughter. Everytime she gone out for a long time the ‘Hot Tailed” girl have boys over. And it aint; never the same boys. Some drives over, some walk. Me and my other nieghbors been speaking on it …should we let the mama knows what is happening?

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
2:12 pm

But it’s not “right” for them to fornicate before marriage.

Neither can I assume that they are fornicating without witnessing it. Right?

I was helping my son financially with his living arrangements since he is in college. When I found out that he has a woman staying with him I immediately stopped my financial help. I will not help him do wrong.

I cannot make him put her out but I can make the choice to not contribute to it.

And again I never said a child the chooses to practice a lifestyle of being gay will not be welcomed in my house. I just will not allow them to bring their ‘partner’ as their partner to my house. Allowing that would be me accepting something I do not believe in.

I believe in men dating women all day long. I have no problem with my son dating women. Now he needs to just get out of school and marry one.

There is one thing that can never be done. You cannot run my house and I cannot run yours. You have all the right in the world to accept into your home whomever and whatever you choose based on whatever you choose to base it on. I have the right to do the same. And at the end of the day we both are going to lay our heads on our pillows and sleep well at night.

Well at least I know I will. LOL

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
2:12 pm

I think out of all of that fornication, shacking and etc between a man and a woman a union of marriage could form and God may or may not put his hand on that but if two gays ended up married the end result may not have a chance for that same blessing

Uh huh…well, one sin is not above all others in the Bible.

Certain ones are just more accepted in society.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
2:13 pm

Mother’s day is thanking your mom for not swallowing!

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
2:16 pm

Uh huh…well, one sin is not above all others in the Bible.

Sin is sin but homosexuality is what God deemed as an abomination. It’s not natural nor was it created by God. Fornication is natural. Many other sins are a result of our “sinful nature” but the same sex is not. A man and a woman wanting each other…nothing wrong with that. He only ask that you do within the confines of marriage. So yes, you go from fornication to marriage, God will honor and respect. Once you’re married, he’s not harboring what you did before. There is no marriage for 2 men or 2 women. HUGE difference.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
2:16 pm

What’s the alternative?

That would be not bringing it around me. All of my kids have the right to choose whatever path in life they want but that does not mean I have to accept it. I teach them how I believe and from there my job is done.

Sassy!

May 6th, 2011
2:17 pm

I dont believes in shacking!! My mama says, people build shacks for temporarry use, until they REAL house is ready.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
2:17 pm

Amazon I was not talking about the sin I was talking about the end result.

Sassy!1, why don’t you ask one of those boys to come and fix your toaster? Or call the cops or tell the mother otherwise you are just being a nosey gossiping neighbor. LOL

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
2:18 pm

Neither can I assume that they are fornicating without witnessing it. Right?

Well, you won’t be witnessing anything going on in your gay childs life either. So as long as the person they bring over is a “friend” you’d be good right?

DreamsMaterialize

May 6th, 2011
2:18 pm

DreamsMat, but why hate her for it…
There was never any love lost.

Raqi I didn’t say anyone should hate anyone. As a parent, I personally don’t allow the use of the word. I may have missed where Tancred actually said he hated his mom. I don’t condone hate. It does seem though that his mom hates him for who he has become. Is that not wrong of her? Is it any more right for a parent to hate their child than it is for a child to hate their parent. There are things that I do differently than my mom did, but she doesn’t hate me or hold me in contempt for it. If my intentions are good, and I’m not hurting anyone, then she’ll even support/encourage me in my endeavors, despite them being at odds with what she thinks is the right way to do it.

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
2:18 pm

Sassy1 is brighter than what’s painted. She’s having as much fun with ya’ll as ya’ll are having with her.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
2:19 pm

What is the difference between shacking and fornicating everyday?

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
2:19 pm

Sin is sin

The end.

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
2:19 pm

Sassy1s – I would let her mom know….depending on what her mom is like.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
2:21 pm

Celisea, I agree I don’t believe she is what she seems either. She switches it on and off to much.

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
2:21 pm

Rell — No problem with it at all. Now, there are some extended family members, who I’m sure probably have their own opinions about it, but I never associate with them anyway (even before I met Mrs. Swiss).

Slim — Uh, yeah, I’ve got to say, Mrs. Swiss can cook her back out… Never made gumbo (unless you’re talking about Legume — which she does make & is awesome), but her Haitian patties, griot, ble (wheat), rice & beans and fried plantains will make you slap yo mama (even on Mother’s Day). ;-)

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
2:22 pm

You have all the right in the world to accept into your home whomever and whatever you choose based on whatever you choose to base it on. I have the right to do the same.

No one was arguing that by the way. I chose to believe that Jesus would have accepted a homosexual into his home, as he did with murderers and other people of society deemed “unacceptable.”

I guess it just surprises me coming from you, knowing you’ve been open with some of the sins of your past, I doubt your family ever shunned anyone you chose to become involved with. But I guess it’s fortunate you ended up being heterosexual.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
2:22 pm

The true purpose of sex from the beginning of time is for procreation. That will never change. Two men having sex will never create life, neither will two women. It was never meant to be and it will not be.

Put a man on an island with 100 men for 100 years and let’s see how many offspring are produced and how quickly they all will die out.

Now put a man on an island with 50 women for 50 years and let’s watch the babies grow.

No every woman probably will not have a child, but even if just one does it more than will ever be produced on an island full of men loving men or women loving women.

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
2:22 pm

PR – She’s enjoying the laughs as well :)

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
2:25 pm

The true purpose of sex from the beginning of time is for procreation. That will never change. Two men having sex will never create life, neither will two women. It was never meant to be and it will not be.

Again, so what? That means you can’t accept someone homosexual in your home for Thanksgiving dinner because he or she is dating your child?

Rell

May 6th, 2011
2:26 pm

I love fornicating :-) , respond if you like it as well

I like po -rn

I like liquor

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
2:28 pm

And on that note I am done. I have people coming over so I need to carry this charcoal outside and start getting stuff organized.

I am precooking these baby backs, yall should smell them. mm, mm, good

Sassy!

May 6th, 2011
2:28 pm

Well me and the mama do not sees eyes to eyes, she lets her mutt poop in fronts my mailbox and she acts like she aint gots to pick the poops up saying it is public roads. We had some words over that there.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
2:28 pm

LOL Rell and you have the right to.

kimmie

May 6th, 2011
2:30 pm

Funny, did any of you all see Greys Anatomy last night? Callie’s parents, well her mother mainly, could not and would not accept her les relationship and baby. She came in town for the ceremony, but just could not take it and left.

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
2:30 pm

Then Sassy1s – leave it be. She wouldn’t accept it from you and would see it as another intrusion from her busybody neighbor.

SlimNumeroUno - Tequila wasted *sigh*

May 6th, 2011
2:34 pm

swiss – I’m a glutton for plaintains when they are cooked just right….My exes family was from Trinidad and I miss his moms cooking.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
2:34 pm

kimmie, have you ever put vinegar in your potato salad? I started doing it a couple of years ago and it is awesome. Gives just the right amount of tanginess.

Yes I am getting ready to peel some potatoes in a minute.

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
2:35 pm

Slim — I’ve never had Trini plantains, only Jamaican & Haitian…. I like the Haitian way better — they’re crispy… mmmm mmmm :-D

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
2:36 pm

Sassy1 – Just an fyi…something is usually funny the 1st time and MAAAAYBE the 2nd time. I’ll even venture to say you might get a sniggle a 3rd time. But a hundred times afterwards, it’s sort of loses it’s luster.

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
2:36 pm

Crispy on the outside, that is… soft on the inside. I feel like there’s a joke waiting to be made there….

Sassy!

May 6th, 2011
2:37 pm

Can two folks be going together and not doing sex?

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
2:37 pm

kimmie – I DVR’d it. I’ll get to it sometime this weekend. Callie’s parents have come a long way tho. They disowned her at first.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
2:38 pm

TGIF=Tongue Goes In First

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
2:39 pm

Circling back to topic,

Some days I really do love being a mother despite the hours being infinite. But the compensation of love coming back to me is Priceless.

Liz just came up for me to pick her up then she kissed me on the cheek and hugged me for no reason. LOL

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
2:40 pm

Can two folks be going together and not doing sex?

Sassy1, if you don’t know the answer you are probably not old enough to be dating.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
2:41 pm

Raqi, there is a new foster kid on the farm who is 2. I play with him and after I leave or if I play hide and seek with him. I can hear him say “where ‘ito, where ‘ito go?” I don’t know why I am sharing this but it just makes me smile.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
2:42 pm

Going together where?

Sassy!

May 6th, 2011
2:44 pm

Well, Boo is REALLY getting into church and talking that we should be starting to LIVE right. And we may stop doing it. Not sure if we will be OK.

SlimNumeroUno - Tequila wasted *sigh*

May 6th, 2011
2:45 pm

Swiss – that’s how she used to cook hers. MMMM MMMMm Guuuuud And even though there maybe a joke in there somewhere, I can’t say the crispy part should be included. :shock: BBQ’d wangs & thangs :lol:

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
2:47 pm

Well, Sassy1s – if he is really intending to do right by you, it would seem that a proposal should be forthcoming as opposed to y’all just being roommates because it’s convenient.

Sassy!

May 6th, 2011
2:47 pm

Boo is a PKs and thinking he gots a calling on his live.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
2:48 pm

Celisea, if I respond to sassy1 again please kick me in the shin. Thank you!

Rell

May 6th, 2011
2:50 pm

@swiss…i like the way haitian cook period..but i agree the way the haitians make plantian chips is good…and they are slightly sweeter…

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
2:50 pm

Sassy1, then get married.

Sassy!

May 6th, 2011
2:51 pm

I am only 24 and I loves him but feels like I needs more time before I gets married. He say, this gone be the last time, but last times always leads to more next times. LOL

Rell

May 6th, 2011
2:52 pm

lol. sassy…come on now boo….really…you can hold out cant you…lol

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
2:53 pm

Sassy1, time to do what?

kimmie

May 6th, 2011
2:53 pm

Raqi – Never tried it, but I will.

Amred – Her daddy has come far, but her mother, not so much! It was pretty good, the episode. Actually a little better than PP last night.

Sassy!

May 6th, 2011
2:53 pm

Raqi – IT!

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
2:54 pm

Exactly my question. More time to do what? Do you not live together? Are you not sure he’s husband material?

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
2:54 pm

And for the record, we all have a calling on (purpose for) our lives.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
2:55 pm

So you cannot do IT! as his wife?

Rell

May 6th, 2011
2:56 pm

@sexy….no one don’t…new christians will let you know how much better and how much more purpose they have than you :-)

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
2:57 pm

PR – Celisea, if I respond to sassy1 again please kick me in the shin. Thank you!

I had to LOL on this one….funnneee I say keep entertaining.

Sassy!

May 6th, 2011
2:57 pm

SC – I ain’t shacking. He is a good person and will take care of me. But it is me aint seen no good marriages and aint seen a lot of good couples. I just wnats to be sure it gone last.

Question from the sidelines....

May 6th, 2011
2:57 pm

Ok..we get it.some of you hate / dont believe that a person can be born gay. If this is the case , please tell us when did you “decide” to be strait????

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
2:58 pm

OMGosh…doing “it”….now THAT sounded like a word from The Color Purple…lol

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
3:01 pm

Sassy1, life is a gamble.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
3:02 pm

Celisea, look into my eyes…just look into my eyes!

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
3:02 pm

Well, Sassy1s…all you have to do is create some more “fixing appliance” type tests. If he passes them, marry him…IF he asks.

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
3:03 pm

SlimNumeroUno - Tequila wasted *sigh*

May 6th, 2011
3:06 pm

PR – Come take a short walk with me for a minute….lol

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
3:06 pm

I hope he does because if he doesn’t that should tell her something about how he views her.

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
3:07 pm

M is for the million things she gave me
O means that she’s only growing old
T is for the tears she shed to save me
H is for her heart is pure as gold
E is for her eyes of love light shining
R is for the right which she’ll always be
Put them all together they spell M-O-T-H-E-R, a word that means the world to meeee!!

I was taught this in SS when I was about 10.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
3:08 pm

Okay Slim, where are we going?

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
3:11 pm

Exactly, Rock. I know I have recounted the story of the guy that I was dating who two years into the relationship became a religious zealot. While he was “in the world,” I was good enough to fornicate with. Once he got saved, I was not good enough to marry. {kanye shrug…..}

SlimNumeroUno - Tequila wasted *sigh*

May 6th, 2011
3:15 pm

We’re going on a ‘Hay Ride’ ….cough cough….lol

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
3:16 pm

SexyCool, exactly. Breaking up just because you don’t want to be with a person any more is one thing. But doing so after yall done flipped and flopped each other every which way from here to Timbuktu and one decides now that they want to “live right” you are not who they want to live right with.

That’s a hard blow for any one to take.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
3:16 pm

A Sticky Icky Hay Ride!

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
3:19 pm

Raqi/SexyCool, that seems like it’s judgment or lack of respect to me.

Sassy!

May 6th, 2011
3:19 pm

SC – what happened?

See Boo is confused he quotes scriptures, praying for everythang under the sun and still wants to do it. Then he wants to pray for forgivenesses after doing it. Get upset when I looks at him funny.

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
3:20 pm

It wasn’t that hard of a blow for me to take. I wasn’t interested in that lifestyle. Plus, after he got “good religion,” I could see him becoming more and more opinionated and judgemental. And like I ended up telling him after he called himself chastising me for something that I’d done, “Look, buddy, only God can judge and last I checked you were not the Father, the Son or the Holy Ghost, so you can miss me with all that.”

Needless to say, that was one of the last times I heard from buddy.

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
3:21 pm

Sassy1 – Whatever You Say I AM? Sounds strangely familiar

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
3:22 pm

Impromptu spit baths…thanks mom I do not miss those. Slicking down an errant hair or if I did not wash my face good she would use her spit and finger to clean the dirty spot on my face.

Sassy!

May 6th, 2011
3:22 pm

I goes to church and loves God but I knows right from wrong. So doing it and then forming a two person prayer circle after sex is not right in nobody eyes.

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
3:23 pm

Sassy1s – he was into that pentecostal/holiness movie. It probably didn’t help that his pastor was his father. Their extreme and literal interpretations of the scriptures did/do not fit my belief system. It was their belief that because I was divorced, anyone who married me would be committing adultery and that we were going straight to hell.

(Plus, considering that all of their women dressed like the “Country Mouse” – well….I’m too flossy for that…lol)

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
3:23 pm

Purple, that’s a simple case of “good enough to bed but not good enough to wed”.

Heck if I am with someone having good sex while not married imma want that same good sex while married so why not marry Mr. Good. The Lord never said just because you start living for him you have to forego physical pleasure. Yeah you have to give up your rotation and settle down with one person but he never said not to enjoy having sex with your spouse.

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
3:24 pm

Sassy1s – do you have any children?

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
3:24 pm

Celisea, not that you bring it up.

SexyCool, I hate that when people get holier than though and are still wallowing in the same mess or when they criticize those TRYING to walk right and the whole while proclaim that they are living perfect.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
3:25 pm

Raqi, I agree. I would not want to marry a dud in bed.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
3:25 pm

not means now

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
3:26 pm

Hey who was the blog woman that had a problem with her man smoking weed like it was a big sin?

Sassy!

May 6th, 2011
3:27 pm

No kids and that is another problem. I do not wants children at ALL. He says he wants a lots of children. NOT ME!!! BAM

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
3:27 pm

Sassy1, tell ole boy either marry you or else. I know you said you are not ready but throw that at him and watch him show his true colors real fast.

Anybody that convicted of committing an act is not going to keep endulging in it. He would have asked you to be his wife long time ago.

He wants his cake and to eat it too. Tell him wedding cake is the only cake you are interested in.

kimmie

May 6th, 2011
3:28 pm

SCool – Folks trip me out getting holy after they, as my fabulous mom used to say, have “done everything they are big enough to do”! I’m not perfect by any stretch, but I’ve tried to live a decent life all along. Suddenly I’m not holy enough for you since you’ve suddenly found religion. Miss me with the judgement!

kimmie

May 6th, 2011
3:30 pm

Sassy! – I have to skip thru most of your posts, because the hillbilly ghetto slang is getting on my nerves. But if you all don’t agree about something as important as having children, why are you with each other? That’s major.

Sassy!

May 6th, 2011
3:30 pm

Raqi V – Ms Yvonne my mentor says the things.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
3:31 pm

I do not wants children at ALL. He says he wants a lots of children.

Sweetie obviously you two are wasting each other’s time. Let him go find himself a bride that is on the same path as he and you go do the same.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
3:31 pm

Sassy1, mentor? Girl how old are you again? LOL

SlimNumeroUno - Tequila wasted *sigh*

May 6th, 2011
3:32 pm

I think they forget to read & carryout the part where you’re suppose to do unto others as you would want them to do unto you….Not Judge

Sassy!

May 6th, 2011
3:36 pm

Cause I thinks we are trying to win each other over to the other side. Do not believes I am telling all my business onlines. I thinks I just settled for him because he wore my nerves down to the nubs then I really fell for him.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
3:38 pm

Just because I am guilty of doing something does not make it right. However just because I stopped doing it does not make me any better than anyone that still does it. It just makes me having chose a way of life apart from that. And just because I tell you that you shouldn’t do XYZ does not make me judgmental of you.

Just because I laid with Liz’s dad before we married does not mean I will not teach her that she should wait until married. I can’t make her but I can tell her.

Sassy!

May 6th, 2011
3:38 pm

Raqi V – 24. Ms. Yvonne been my mentor since I was 16 we family now.

SlimNumeroUno - Tequila wasted *sigh*

May 6th, 2011
3:39 pm

he wore my nerves down to the nubs then I really fell for him

So he wore you down like Steve Urkel tried to do to Laura on Family Matters? Not quite my idea of falling in love.

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
3:40 pm

Yep, Slim…and “Let he who is without sin…..”

But you know how folks pick and choose which scriptures to live by. Like buddy’s mom, she was mean as a rattlesnake during the week. But on Sundays, *wudn’t nobody holier* (lol)

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
3:40 pm

Cause I thinks we are trying to win each other over to the other side.

Well all that is going to happen there is he is going to keep “wearing you out” until he finds someone he wants to settle down with and marry. It’s obvious you two are on different paths, why keep giving yourself to him and he doesn’t want you.

Light of the World

May 6th, 2011
3:41 pm

Matthew: And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

Mark: And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.

Luke: Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.

Roman: So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
3:47 pm

Um…yeah, Light – I’ve noticed how you come by plugging your blog and not contributing to the discussion. Not interested.

So nice how you picked out only specific verses and not the entire passage with which context can better be ascertained.

By the way, if I were going to go with the “literal” interpretation of those versus. my husband left me for a stripper. So HE committed the adultery. Now, can I marry TheDude and not go to hell for doing so? (Please note my intended sarcasm and my restraint in telling how much of my ass to kiss. Oh well…blew that.)

Sassy!

May 6th, 2011
3:47 pm

Ms Yvonne teaches me things my mama could not. My mama is a hard working woman but worked so hard so much my brothers had to take care of me. Ms. Yvonne opened my eyes to things I had only saw on TV. We see art shows, festivals, jazz music concerts and we travel every year. Ms Yvonne showed me how to be a lady and not a tomboy.

SlimNumeroUno - Tequila wasted *sigh*

May 6th, 2011
3:48 pm

Yall have a good weekend and HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO ALL….love your kids, cherish them and bring them up in the way you want them to go..

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
3:49 pm

Happy Mother’s Day to all you blog mommies…the weekend is upon us :) Afternoon all

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
3:50 pm

Sassy1, while all comments are welcomed here and I definitely am not the moderator of this blog, but suggest you take your questions to Ms.Yvonne. She knows you better than any of us and you can take the truth coming from someone you trust better than some strangers.

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
3:54 pm

Oh…wait…I know…I can go kill my ex (teasing) and then since he will be dead, I can marry with no worries.

yrb…

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
3:55 pm

Sassy1, you still didn’t say why you aren’t ready to get married.

Yall know I haven’t peeled these darn potatoes yet. The eggs are almost done boiling. LOL But I have seasoned all the chicken and made…hold on….40 kabobs of chicken, shrimp and beef.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
3:56 pm

I can go kill my ex (teasing)

SexyCool, do they still allow conjugal visits in the prisons? LOL

For Real

May 6th, 2011
3:57 pm

Happy Mother’s Day to all the Blog Mommies!!!!

I may be wrong but when I read Sassy! I imagine she is talking with a now&later in her mouth. Oh and it’s the red flavor.

Sassy1

May 6th, 2011
4:00 pm

Just do not think I am “experienced” and mature enough. I can be very selffish and my mouth is always tooo “Sassy.” I so full of me, do not think I have room for anyone.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
4:01 pm

Oh well it seems like every one has gone home.

But hey, wait…someone left their ball. SWISS COME BACK. IS THIS YOUR BALL LYING OVER HERE BY HOMEPLATE?!?!?!?!

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
4:02 pm

Then why are you dating?

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
4:04 pm

Raqi — Could be… Does it taste salty? ;-) :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

May 6th, 2011
4:17 pm

I’m still here. Raqi Can you save me a plate of that ‘tater salad?

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
4:17 pm

Rock isn’t putting that in her mouth. It’s all dried up and crusty looking.

Willie Dynamite

May 6th, 2011
4:35 pm

Actually the grilled skewers dont sound too bad. Quick, easy, different hmmmmm. doable…