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Thank you, Mom

I want to wish all of the mothers a Happy Mother’s Day.  I am so thankful to have my Mother give me great love, support, and advice.  She certainly is the original Wise Diva. I have learned a lot about love and relationships from watching her and listening to her.

What is the best advice you ever received from your Mother? Did you listen to her?

I was talking to a friend who told me that her new boyfriend thinks she would be a great mom. She was really flattered that he saw her in that way.  How important is it to men that women show/have a desire to be a mother?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

257 comments Add your comment

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
1:13 pm

Raqi – Celisea, sadly Tancred is not the first and only person that harbor hatred for his parent for trying to teach some right into him. And that hatred usually stems from what that person was not allowed to as a result of being taught.

Cosign…usually that’s the case. A child that never got over not having their way. To this day, NOBODY can do things against the rules of my mama’s house…not a reason to hate. Buy your own house and do your own thing and love her still.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
1:15 pm

I am sitting here thinking about how hard my hub goes in on our boys but how quick he is to defend them when I am being to motherly with them. He always tell me they are men and to let them make certain mistakes. What doesn’t break them will make them good strong willed men.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
1:19 pm

SexyCool, in that case I would gladly welcome my child hating me for me not accepting something I know to be wrong. I hope it never happens but if one of my kids get up the nerve to tell me they want to practice a lifestyle of loving their own gender, I will not hate that child but I will not allow the practicing of it in my house. Meaning, no your ‘partner’ can come with you to visit me. No I will not take part in your commitment ceremony.

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
1:21 pm

I will not hate that child but I will not allow the practicing of it in my house. Meaning, no your ‘partner’ can come with you to visit me. No I will not take part in your commitment ceremony

I ain’t trying be funny or agree just to be agreeing, but I’m 100% whole heartedly on this one. And I’d do the same. No “partners” coming to visit.

DreamsMaterialize

May 6th, 2011
1:21 pm

I can see Tancred’s point, and I can see the counter points too. Moms (the good ones) will try to do everything they can to make sure they raise up good children. Now, that doesn’t mean that everything they do will be right or that they won’t make mistakes. A child should understand this when they grow to be an adult, but a parent should also understand that their children won’t necessarily be clones of them.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
1:21 pm

…can NOT come…

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
1:28 pm

What if the supposed wrong/sin was criminalin nature? What if your child owned a car dealership that was the front for a chop shop? Or if he were a drug dealer? What if he cheated on his taxes, claimed dependents that he doesn’t have? Stole peoples identities? Was a kleptomaniac?

Should he be unwelcome then? Wrong is wrong, right?

Rell

May 6th, 2011
1:28 pm

well – i have a questions…when will the fake butt injections stop…i mean its getting out of hand now…i seen a butt so big one day, her but crack look like a winking eye

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
1:31 pm

DreamsMat, but why hate her for it. Tancred has stated plainly that he hates his mother for trying to instill a way that she believes in him. That’s no reason to hate her. He does not have to go along with what she believes and teach but to hate her is awful IMO.

Hating someone for wanting you to be good person is mindboggling to me.

Those things that I did not agree with my mother on I did not bring up around her. Things she said that I did not like I just heard it and went on about my business. I didn’t hate her for telling me “don’t do this”, “stop doing that”. She had a right to say how she felt and what she believed. I had a right to accept it or ignore it. There was never any love lost.

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
1:33 pm

Y’all know I’m just debating, right?

Different argument – HYPOTHETICALLY SPEAKING – what if Tancred’s mother was raising him to be an extreme racist? I mean – that’s what she strongly believes is right, right? Is he still wrong for his intense feelings for her attempts to instill that set of beliefs in him?

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
1:37 pm

SexyCool, I never said I would not welcome my child to my house, I said I would not allow his/her practices in my house, i.e. His/her partner.

As with all the other stuff you named I will tell him I do not agree with what he is doing but I will not tell him he is not welcomed in my house. If he sold drugs I would not accept money from him nor allow him to bring drugs in my house. If he ran a chop shop I would not accept a car from him and will not advise those I know to buy from him.
If he cheated on his taxes or stole identities I would just look for him to eventually get caught. And yeah I will even visit him in prison but I will not accept something I believe to be wrong just because it’s my child doing it.

Heck I don’t want your child doing it to me so I don’t want my child doing it to you.

And no I am not being self-righteous, I am just stating what I believe in. We all have a right to what and how we believe.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
1:39 pm

SexyCool, I wouldn’t say he should hate her but I would say do the same thing he has chosen to do now, not be around her.

The teaching of hatred is never right.

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
1:40 pm

One person’s action will never justify your own.

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
1:42 pm

i seen a butt so big one day, her but crack look like a winking eye

Friday’s laugh…now that’s a big ole butt

Rell

May 6th, 2011
1:44 pm

@celisea…yea there needs to be a revolution for the itty bitty tit tay camp and the nar tap of azz camp…tired of big butts..i even seen an asian chick with a XV large arse…now you know its out of hand

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
1:46 pm

I never said I would not welcome my child to my house, I said I would not allow his/her practices in my house, i.e. His/her partner.

So why would your child be able to bring a heterosexual partner into your house he/she isn’t married to? Isn’t fornication/premarital sex wrong? Isn’t out of wedlock parenthood wrong? Wouldn’t that mean your grandchildren shouldn’t be accepted either?

Or do you just pick and chose what’s “more wrong” than others?

For the sake of argument too…

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
1:47 pm

“Hating someone for wanting you to be good person is mindboggling to me.”

But buying a particular set of religious dogma != being a good person.

My whole family are also extremely religious and, obviously, I think they’re completely brainwashed. But I also know that they’re good people (though perhaps misguided or deluded) and that trying to reason with them over something they believe so fervently (with no supporting evidence) is a losing proposition. So, that’s just one of the topics I never discuss with them…

Luckily for me, my family aren’t overly judgmental or overbearing (well, at least not in as mean-spirited a way as I’ve seen from some), so I can just avoid the topic normally. But, it does probably keep me from visiting family more than I do…

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
1:47 pm

Rell – Well I certainly don’t have that problem. I’m nicely proportioned. My sisters use to tease me growing up cause they had butts for days and I was rather framed much smaller than them. Well now that stuff is settling on the butt sisters, they got big butts everywhere. Those butts have moved to the front too. All I can do is laugh and continue to look hawt :)

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
1:48 pm

And if the folks call my house looking for “Isaac Hayes” imma point them in the direction of Mr. No-Good-Son-Of-Mine.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
1:51 pm

We are talking about religion now? I was raised Catholic, now I am non denominational. Swiss, using the church. LOL Where are the tittays?

SlimNumeroUno - Tequila wasted *sigh*

May 6th, 2011
1:51 pm

Swiss – How did your folks react to you deciding to marry outside of your race? How did her family take it?

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
1:52 pm

PR – Swiss WENT to church…Celisa now singing Mary Mary’s rendition of “How I Got Over” :)

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
1:52 pm

Purple — I figure turnabout is fair play…. ;-) :lol:

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
1:53 pm

You’re on your way…you just don’t know it yet. Ten years from now you’ll be Deacon Swiss on the left pew…you’ll pay back every dime from your turnabout

Sassy1

May 6th, 2011
1:55 pm

Good Afternoon Everyone!!
TGFIH!!
Happy Pre-Mother’s Day to all moms.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
1:56 pm

AmazonR, why would I not let my son bring his girlfriend to my house? No they cannot sleep together in my house but they can come by. There is nothing wrong with a man and woman dating. I believe in a man and a woman being together.

And why would I not accept my grandson, he is innocent. He didn’t ask to come here.

I clearly stated that what I do not believe in I have a right to not accept in my house.

I dated men and took them to meet my parents but we weren’t engaging in intercourse while there.

It’s kind of narrow minded to say just because a man and woman is not married it’s wrong for them to date. They are supposed to date.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
1:56 pm

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
1:57 pm

Slim — They were all fine with it. My dad loves Mrs. Swiss — she’s a lot like my mom, actually. Unfortunately, Mrs. Swiss never got to meet my mom (nor I her dad, for that matter), but I’m pretty sure she & my mom would have hit it off. They actually probably would have teamed up against me, so maybe the timing was good… :lol:

Mrs. Swiss’s mom seems to like me just fine. It’s a little hard to know, because she only speaks French & creole, but she seems okay with me. And her brothers like me.

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
1:57 pm

Rell – One word on the butt thing – Nicki.
(that is all)

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
1:57 pm

Sassy1 used an apostrophe???????

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
1:58 pm

But, it does probably keep me from visiting family more than I do…

Swiss and that’s any and everybody’s right to do the same. But it can be done without hating the people for what they believe.

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
1:59 pm

“But it can be done without hating the people for what they believe.”

I agree. But then, we don’t really know how Tancred’s mom was… Some folks are a lot harder to be around than others when you don’t agree on things like that…

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
2:01 pm

“You’re on your way…you just don’t know it yet.”

Celisea — It’ll never happen. I’m not the least bit attracted to young boys. :lol:

SlimNumeroUno - Tequila wasted *sigh*

May 6th, 2011
2:01 pm

Sassy1 used an apostrophe???????

Purp I was thinking the saaaaame thang. I sat speechless because I was sort of in shock.

Swiss – Cool beans…You’re IN THERE ;-) So is she any good at making gumbo? I’d like to take the time to invite myself over for Gumbo night. I’ll bring the spoons

Sassy1

May 6th, 2011
2:01 pm

Purple Rain- Everybody knows that…have you not seen ANY Mother’s Day Cards. Geez!

Rell

May 6th, 2011
2:05 pm

Yeah swiss how they feel about you marrying a sister

I watched black in latin america the other night….brazilian women are black…so take that take that essence article

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
2:05 pm

It’s kind of narrow minded to say just because a man and woman is not married it’s wrong for them to date. They are supposed to date.

I agree…that’s why I DIDNT SAY THAT.

But it’s not “right” for them to fornicate before marriage. It’s not “right” if they’re shacking before marriage (living in sin). It’s not “right” if they have a child out of wedlock.

It’s all behavior that is not right…but because your child happens to be gay…then all of a sudden that person isn’t welcome in your home? You wouldn’t go to a commitment ceremony where your child would be pledging all the same things married people do? What’s the alternative? Pretend to be straight? Live their lives alone? Marry someone of the opposite sex to appease you?

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
2:05 pm

sassy1, really?

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
2:07 pm

“Pretend to be straight? Live their lives alone? Marry someone of the opposite sex to appease you?”

Become a Republican Congressman?

:lol:

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
2:07 pm

I think out of all of that fornication, shacking and etc between a man and a woman a union of marriage could form and God may or may not put his hand on that but if two gays ended up married the end result may not have a chance for that same blessing

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
2:09 pm

Become a Republican Congressman?

:lol:

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
2:11 pm

“a union of marriage could form and God may or may not put his hand on that”

And from that marriage a child may be born & the parents could take that child to church where the priest may or may not put his hand on that.

(Couldn’t resist) :lol:

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
2:11 pm

Swiss who said that they were Catholic? lol

Sassy!

May 6th, 2011
2:11 pm

Since you’ll knows soooo much. What about this: my next door nieghors is a single parent with 16 yrs old daughter. Everytime she gone out for a long time the ‘Hot Tailed” girl have boys over. And it aint; never the same boys. Some drives over, some walk. Me and my other nieghbors been speaking on it …should we let the mama knows what is happening?

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
2:12 pm

But it’s not “right” for them to fornicate before marriage.

Neither can I assume that they are fornicating without witnessing it. Right?

I was helping my son financially with his living arrangements since he is in college. When I found out that he has a woman staying with him I immediately stopped my financial help. I will not help him do wrong.

I cannot make him put her out but I can make the choice to not contribute to it.

And again I never said a child the chooses to practice a lifestyle of being gay will not be welcomed in my house. I just will not allow them to bring their ‘partner’ as their partner to my house. Allowing that would be me accepting something I do not believe in.

I believe in men dating women all day long. I have no problem with my son dating women. Now he needs to just get out of school and marry one.

There is one thing that can never be done. You cannot run my house and I cannot run yours. You have all the right in the world to accept into your home whomever and whatever you choose based on whatever you choose to base it on. I have the right to do the same. And at the end of the day we both are going to lay our heads on our pillows and sleep well at night.

Well at least I know I will. LOL

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
2:12 pm

I think out of all of that fornication, shacking and etc between a man and a woman a union of marriage could form and God may or may not put his hand on that but if two gays ended up married the end result may not have a chance for that same blessing

Uh huh…well, one sin is not above all others in the Bible.

Certain ones are just more accepted in society.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
2:13 pm

Mother’s day is thanking your mom for not swallowing!

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
2:16 pm

Uh huh…well, one sin is not above all others in the Bible.

Sin is sin but homosexuality is what God deemed as an abomination. It’s not natural nor was it created by God. Fornication is natural. Many other sins are a result of our “sinful nature” but the same sex is not. A man and a woman wanting each other…nothing wrong with that. He only ask that you do within the confines of marriage. So yes, you go from fornication to marriage, God will honor and respect. Once you’re married, he’s not harboring what you did before. There is no marriage for 2 men or 2 women. HUGE difference.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
2:16 pm

What’s the alternative?

That would be not bringing it around me. All of my kids have the right to choose whatever path in life they want but that does not mean I have to accept it. I teach them how I believe and from there my job is done.

Sassy!

May 6th, 2011
2:17 pm

I dont believes in shacking!! My mama says, people build shacks for temporarry use, until they REAL house is ready.