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Thank you, Mom

I want to wish all of the mothers a Happy Mother’s Day.  I am so thankful to have my Mother give me great love, support, and advice.  She certainly is the original Wise Diva. I have learned a lot about love and relationships from watching her and listening to her.

What is the best advice you ever received from your Mother? Did you listen to her?

I was talking to a friend who told me that her new boyfriend thinks she would be a great mom. She was really flattered that he saw her in that way.  How important is it to men that women show/have a desire to be a mother?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
11:12 am

For not saying “I told you so.”

Celisea, exactly. Just thinking back to that day I sat there in front of her crying mostly because she had warned me but those dreadful words never parted her lips. She just told me I will soon get passed it.

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
11:14 am

Raqi, I think my mother was the freaky one also

:lol:

My parents had three kids in 5 years before mom closed down the shop. They were up to something. :lol:

Sweet Pea

May 6th, 2011
11:14 am

A shout to all the mommies and women who are mentors to others for their unconditional love and tireless efforts! Your work is not in vain as it will be greatly appreciated either now or later ;0)

My mom is a straight shooter, a woman who is firm with her words but filled with love, strength, and wisdom. Like EF Hutton…when she talks I listen and a few words of wisdom that I have kept in mind along with others….Love yourself first! If you can’t say anything nice then say nothing at all or at least be tactful about whatever you say..Get your education so that you can make your own money, and the list goes on and on!

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
11:22 am

O/T – Just this morning, I realized that, somewhere along the way, it became less important that my mate be described as handsome or hot or fine and more important that he can be described as good, solid, stable, consistent, considerate.

Words that have more to do with his character attributes than his physical appearance.

(The fact that I think he’s hot and that he does IT for ME is just bonus.)

Rell

May 6th, 2011
11:23 am

@Purp…word…we need all the ladies to break em out and put them on the glass :-)

Mo (aka Moeisha)

May 6th, 2011
11:23 am

My mom was a teacher, I had the pleasure of going to school where she taught. My brother had her as a teacher. Mom was a BEAST in those hallways and that classroom. But she would not hesitate to ‘go there’ if need be.

Tancred

May 6th, 2011
11:28 am

Here’s a shout-out to all those young mothers I see on The MARTA, yelling obscenities to their kids in the stroller, smackin’ them upside their heads and “feeding” them that horrible red drink sugar water. They shout “Shut The F*&^ Up or I’m Gonna Kick Your Ass!!” I can’t see how that is gonna make those little kids become good adults. And then there are those 4,305 babies in Clayton Co. born between 2003-9 to “mothers” aged 15-19 (today’s AJC). That can’t be good. For every “great” mother mentioned here, there are probably 5 or 6 that are just plain horrible, and the cycle continues. Happy Mother’s Day indeed.

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
11:36 am

^Thanks to our lil ray of sunshine. :lol:

Tancred

May 6th, 2011
11:37 am

Yeah, I can be a pisser. Sorry, but I call em as I see em.

TenderRoni

May 6th, 2011
11:38 am

Are you the type to see the negative in everything..gheesh!

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
11:40 am

Raqi – She just told me I will soon get passed it.

Only a mom can do that…only a mom. With no feelings of ah ha…just happy you opened your eyes enough to move one :)

kimmie

May 6th, 2011
11:40 am

Raqi – I was reading about how your mother showed up to school and pinched you. My mom did almost the same to me, in 5th grade. I took something to school I was not supposed to. My mother, with her 6th sense, knew it and came marching into that classroom, right up to me and said “give it to me”! Took me out in the hall and pinched me! I tried to straighten up before I went back in but the damage was done!

Mama did not play!!! And I’m thankful she didn’t!

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
11:43 am

Tancreed – For every “great” mother mentioned here, there are probably 5 or 6 that are just plain horrible, and the cycle continues. Happy Mother’s Day indeed

Be happy for the good ones :) Find the silver lining

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
11:46 am

And really Tancred, you should do for your mom what she allegedy didn’t do for you. Show her some love. Sometimes if you love folks that won’t or can’t love, they’ll love you back. Every mom should be possess love but some don’t.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
11:46 am

SexyCool, I can literally sense your happy ‘sigh’.

But while I do very much feel you and agree, this morning when the hub was enticing me to dance with him to his rendition of “You’re All I Need to Get By”, I thought he was totally hot at the time. LOL

Rell

May 6th, 2011
11:46 am

Here’s a shout-out to all those young mothers I see on The MARTA, yelling obscenities to their kids in the stroller, smackin’ them upside their heads and “feeding” them that horrible red drink sugar water. They shout “Shut The F*&^ Up or I’m Gonna Kick Your Ass!!”

^^ dayum the kids…i have seen women talk to there men this way…

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
11:47 am

Celisea, yes only a mother.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
11:51 am

LOL kimmie My mom worked at the school. She was a 5th grade teacher. My dumb self knowing she was only a hallway away didn’t even consider she was going to be in there in a matter of minutes.

Willie Dynamite

May 6th, 2011
11:54 am

Morning All – Happy Mothers Day to all the Moms and for everyone that assumes the Motherly role.

I thank for my Mom for just being her. She taught my brother and me what we needed to know. She gave us a Hug when we needed it not just when we wanted it. She taught us the value of life through everyday lessons. I say she was perfectly made to be our Mother. Wouldn’t trade any of it in for the World.
I can name so many pieces of advice but its two that stick out to me. Firstly, when we were younger she would get mad anytime we used the word FAIR. She always told us stop saying that word. life aint Fair, Fair is where they sell Cotton Candy. To this day I tell my kids the same thing slightly different but the same message. lastly, the night before I left home to go to College we had a real good talk. Straight up no chaser kind of talk. I asked her why she never encouraged me to stay home and go to College instead of moving out of state at such a young age. She explained that everything she did was so I could go into the world and be my own person. That was going to happen whether i stayed home or moved half-way around the world. She said she raised me to be a good person and now I had to go and be a Man.

Purple Rain

May 6th, 2011
11:55 am

Tancred, what did your mother teach you?

Ladies, show us your tiiiiiiiiiiiiiTAYS ( In my Matthew McConaughey voice)

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:00 pm

I will not lie and say that I liked everything my mother did and/or said to me. That would be a lie. But being 43 now and looking make I appreciate what she did and tried to do. And once I became a mother I clearly understood why she did the things she did. My mom would get us right where we committed the crime.

Just recently Liz and I were at the bank and she wanted to be bad, wallowing on the floor and walking away. After speaking to her twice I took her and shook her a little telling her to straighten up. This other customer looked at me like I had committed a major offense. I looked right back at her and said “And?” The teller snickered saying she must not have any children.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:04 pm

I bet she turns over in her grave everytime I mistype a word. LOL

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
12:05 pm

Willie D – I got another “how are you text” :lol:

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
12:05 pm

Actually, Rock – seems to me as if the people with the baddest kids in creation are the ones that look at you sideways for disciplining yours. Them and…..well, let me not go there. (lol)

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
12:09 pm

And like one of my friends used to say about her son – “I jack him up cause I’m trying to keep him out of jail.”

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:10 pm

I remember one time I thought I was all grown up and whatever (I was 27 LOL) and called myself going toe-to-toe with my mom. She said, “if you ever spoke to me like that again…” Period.

She didn’t even have to say what she would do. LOL

Another time she told me “watch yourself young lady”.

Just to warn you all, the one person that I can talk about more than I talk about my husband is my beloved mother. That woman was fabulously awesome.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:11 pm

Yeah you are right about that SexyCool.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:12 pm

Did you all hear that? It sounded like someone turned over in their grave. LOL

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
12:16 pm

“seems to me as if the people with the baddest kids in creation are the ones that look at you sideways for disciplining yours. Them and…..well, let me not go there.”

Not to worry, SexyC, I’ll say if for you… :lol: My people have bought too much into this whole touchy-feely, new-age, “time out” BS.

Mrs. Swiss made me go to mass with her on Easter Sunday (yeah, I’m that whipped) & there was this family there with an incredibly annoying spoiled brat of a son — probably 2 or 3, I’m guessing. This little punk would just shout “NO!” at his mom when she asked him (and, yes, I do mean asked, rather than told) to do anything. :shock: And the whole time, she’s talking to him like he’s the one in charge! “Now, mommy needs you to ____. Can you do that for mommy, please?” I wanted to drag both of them out side & beat them senseless….

Mo (aka Moeisha)

May 6th, 2011
12:20 pm

SexyCool – “And like one of my friends used to say about her son – “I jack him up cause I’m trying to keep him out of jail.” ^^^5 for that one! I say something similar, “I punish him now so a judge wont have to later’ or ‘I get in his chest now so I wont have to strangle him later’

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:22 pm

LOL Gouda. I have seen exactly what you are talking about.

My sister is like that with her kids. That little girl of hers is so G-R-O-W-N. I spanked her behind one Thanksgiving they were here. Now every time that little Miss Diva sees me see speaks all humble and innocent. She is 8 now and I will spank her behind again. LOL

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
12:23 pm

Well, Swiss….*you* said it. (lol)

I mean it makes sense…you stay out of my business and let me discipline my child and it will decrease the chances that he robs yo’ ass when he’s 15.

cba

May 6th, 2011
12:30 pm

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY to all the mother bloggers. During the couple of years I’ve visited this site, I have read many posts where you have shared the love and responsibility of being very good mothers. The influence you have on your kids will last their entire lives. For me, no one come close to the love and guidance I recieved from my mother. I must add, my maternal grandmother was a very close second. Even though they are both gone, still today if I’m in a situation of uncertainty, I ask myself, what would my mother think or how would this make her feel.

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
12:34 pm

And once I became a mother I clearly understood why she did the things she did. My mom would get us right where we committed the crime.

That’s why I said I truly truly get it now. I have no problem and I’m never scared to “go there” wherever she goes there. Of course I don’t nor have really had a problem with that but a couple times over the years I’ve done it…with no apologies. One thing about kids, they take and use leverage if they think at the slightest they have you overa barrel.

Actually, Rock – seems to me as if the people with the baddest kids in creation are the ones that look at you sideways for disciplining yours.

Let me just say amen to this

Mrs. Swiss made me go to mass with her on Easter Sunday (yeah, I’m that whipped)

I bet before it’s all over with you’re gonna be the biggest christian we know :) Mrs. Swiss got it I see

Willie Dynamite

May 6th, 2011
12:34 pm

Ared – have you talked to this dude since he dropped the ball?

Tancred

May 6th, 2011
12:37 pm

Well, let’s just say that my mom never approved of me trying to find stuff out on my own, to “think for myself,” as they say. Her big thing was indoctrination, an aggressive foisting of Catholic dogma and piety and a constant disparagement of anything secular or humanistic. The more I started to question the obvious failings of biblical explanations for the world, the more she warned me of my likely place in Hell, just like those little cartoon handouts you find on The MARTA. Her “love” for me is entirely selfish in that my “salvation” will make HER feel good; my worldview will always be wrong in her eyes. She even refused to go to my wedding because it was in the “wrong” church (I since regret having it in ANY church). She is simple-minded, superstitious, ill-tempered, and regretful because she thinks that she “failed” her duty to mold a good Catholic boy. Like I said, I appreciate the fact that I was fed, clothed, and given medical treatment (as long as I was bleeding enough), but I can’t say she ever appreciated ME as I grew to form my own opinions.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:38 pm

SexyCool and Mo, exactly.

You know knucklehead’s father and knucklehead’s dad have totally different disciplinary tactics. One time the knucklehead must have forgotten under whose roof he was standing and decided to talk back to his dad. LOL

He grabbed him so fast it scared me. Sent that little puppy scurrying to his room with his tail tucked. LOL

I slapped him before I knew it one morning because I told him to do something and he talked back. The hub told him ‘I bet you won’t think to say that again” and laughed at him.

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:42 pm

Tancred, I disagree with you. While how you mother taught is not what you have chosen to be, her teaching was her loving you. She believes in the way she serves and she tried to raise you in her belief.

Why hate her for that? Yeah you couldn’t do what and how you wanted while under her roof, but I guarantee you her efforts were what she felt were in your best interest. You chose a different way but she tried in how she knew.

SlimNumeroUno - Tequila wasted *sigh*

May 6th, 2011
12:43 pm

Kids need boundaries and discipline…PERIOD. My sister will tear my little niece up if she get’s a little beside herself. I’ll never forget the time my mom and stepdad had left the house to go out of town. After coming back inside, my sister goes upstairs..niece is no where to be found. Come to find out, this little booger figures out a way to open the front door and goes running after my mom. My sister was totally freaked out when she discovered that she went outside. She tore her butt up and said she didn’t care Who saw her. LOL!

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:44 pm

And seriously to carry that type of hatred around in your heart for your mother is frightening. She is your mother.

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
12:47 pm

Tancred – What if she’s right?

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
12:50 pm

Ared – have you talked to this dude since he dropped the ball

Yeah, I answered a few texts right after. Since I told you the story of how he dropped the ball, I haven’t.

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
12:52 pm

My mama raised me in the church, although I left. I wanted to do and find things out on my own. I was raised in a somewhat strict environment. But not once will I hold my mother at fault. Truthfully, what I pegged as stict was really not being able to do everything I thought I was adult enough to do. My mama knew better than me. My mama had the oversight of outcomes and consequences. While I thought she was sooo wrong…back then. I’ve lived and come to know and experienced first hand she wasn’t wrong at all. Too, I have a daughter and the same oversight that I lacked as a child, I now have it. My kid will and does think the same way…it’s life’s cycle. She ain’t gonna be exactly happy with me these next few years but she’ll come to understand what I was doing the entire time. It seems to me (and I could be wrong) that you’re still on there hanging on the ledge of hate. Reel it in some…I bet you’ll “see” clearer as a result. Only a mother that loves their child will take every effort to protect…if that means going against you, so be it.

Willie Dynamite

May 6th, 2011
12:53 pm

Ared – So is it a done deal in your eyes?

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 6th, 2011
12:53 pm

SexyC — Yeah, that’s one of my biggest pet peeves (unruly kids in public). And then you get the parents of those unruly kids who say stupid sh!t like “well, you don’t have any kids, so you don’t know….” Yeah, well, I may not have any kids, but I had parents, and I know my parents would have beaten my azz if I acted like your spawn in public… :lol:

Celisea — Yeah, Mrs. Swiss has definitely got it. But don’t hold your breath on that last part… ;-) Actually, Mrs. Swiss isn’t religious, either — she just feels obligated to go to this church from time to time since we pretended to be parishioners to get the discounted rate to use the building for our wedding… ;-)

Celisea

May 6th, 2011
12:57 pm

Swiss – she just feels obligated to go to this church from time to time since we pretended to be parishioners to get the discounted rate to use the building for our wedding

You ain’t right man :)

Raqi V

May 6th, 2011
12:57 pm

There are plenty of things that my kids do not and will not like about how I am trying to raise them but I pray they get over it and see that I only have their best interest at heart.

Celisea, sadly Tancred is not the first and only person that harbor hatred for his parent for trying to teach some right into him. And that hatred usually stems from what that person was not allowed to as a result of being taught.

No matter what one’s belief system grows up to be, it’s frightening hearing people hate their own parent because she wanted to teach them a right way. You should at least appreciate her for trying even if it does vary from what you believe.

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
1:06 pm

I don’t view Tancred’s situation of differing belief systems of those of his mother as I would a parent that is opposed to and refuses to accept her child’s sexual orientation.

AmazonRed™

May 6th, 2011
1:07 pm

Ared – So is it a done deal in your eyes?

You told me to KIM so I am! But yeah, that was a deal breaker for me anyway.

SexyCool

May 6th, 2011
1:08 pm

Let me state that a bit more clearly….

I don’t view Tancred’s situation of differing belief systems of those of his mother as any different than that of a parent that is opposed to and refuses to accept her child’s sexual orientation.