Second chance after disappearing act?
I have learned to be fairly resilient when it comes to dating. After your ego is bruised or your heart is broken, you eventually manage ways to keep it moving. What happens when those classy individuals who faded into oblivion without explanation return to the scene of the crime?
My friend Justin is going through this now with a young woman he met last spring. She stopped returning his calls and he was never sure why. She claims that she was afraid they were getting too close too fast. Of course, now she is ready.
Why does it seem like the moment we have hit our stride again and moved past the dating misadventure, people who blew their chances come back? That is one of those dating situations that always baffles me. Why do people do that? What do they expect?
I think people can change their bad dating behavior or habits, but your character is probably going to remain the same. Do you give second chances to people who seem to want one?
f someone from your past asked for a second chance, how would you handle it?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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abc
May 4th, 2011
2:55 pm
Yeah, but since there’s no body, there’s no way to prove or disprove kidney disease.
Statements are that bin Laden was unarmed. Why couldn’t the crack team of SEALS capture him alive? An old Arab man without a gun is that hard for our guys to subdue? bin Laden would have been a much more valuable prisoner than a corpse — which, of course, can’t be proven either way.
The moon landing isn’t a valid comparison; one can see debris from the lunar landings in telescope and orbiter photographs.
Dan, I figure that nobody in the Administration is that concerned with whether I believe the story or not. They don’t seem to be concerned whether anyone believes it, from what I’ve seen. Given the past 10 years of governmental mendacity, I suppose nobody would expect them to be forthcoming. As far as me fighting, I did my 10 years in the military — I could just barely squeak under the age limit, but I’m not inclined to do it again.
Celisea
May 4th, 2011
2:56 pm
Surely you can’t be……. smh
AmazonRed™
May 4th, 2011
2:56 pm
Hmmm…Mr. Google says “Light Blue” is indeed a perfume made by Dolce and Gabbana.
DreamsMaterialize
May 4th, 2011
2:56 pm
He was just a liar,
kimmie might be right up a SEALS alley. They probably have to deny many of the missions they complete. If they get caught, they probably gotta lie like he!! too in order to not jeopardize future missions. If you think about it, lying is kinda what they’re all about. lol
TenderRoni
May 4th, 2011
2:58 pm
Ohhh…when will Brian McKnight bes in concerts??? Hes a must sees.
AmazonRed™
May 4th, 2011
2:59 pm
Ohhh…when will Brian McKnight bes in concerts??? Hes a must sees.
June 3rd. Atlantic Civic Center.
DreamsMaterialize
May 4th, 2011
2:59 pm
Hmmm…Mr. Google says “Light Blue” is indeed a perfume made by Dolce and Gabbana.
ARed guess I’m as ignorant as that dude because I’d never heard of that perfume until today. Of course I’m not fixing stoves either, so I guess I’m an all-around loser. lol
TenderRoni
May 4th, 2011
3:01 pm
@ARed thanks looking up tickets
AmazonRed™
May 4th, 2011
3:01 pm
ARed guess I’m as ignorant as that dude because I’d never heard of that perfume until today.
Well, I’m a chick and had never heard of it, and I guess I should follow such things.
Thought I haven’t bought a bottle of perfume nor stopped a perfume counter in over 10 years. It’s all gifted now.
Purple Rain
May 4th, 2011
3:01 pm
Dreams, LOL
kellibean
May 4th, 2011
3:02 pm
Biting my tongue…Must ignore Sassy…
kimmie
May 4th, 2011
3:03 pm
Dreams – Yeah, like lying about whether or not you’re married, if said “wife” is living with you or not, how many kids you have, retired from the military, but can afford to throw money around like you’re Lebron, you know, stuff like that!
Hey, it’s all good – he’s a part of the past. Don’t care for the military types much anyway. Our last convo, he snapped at me on the phone and started talking crazy! Had to definitely let that go!
SexyCool
May 4th, 2011
3:05 pm
I hadn’t heard of it either.
Sassy1
May 4th, 2011
3:06 pm
“Lite Blue” is a nice Spring smell good. Really lite not to strong.
AmazonRed™
May 4th, 2011
3:06 pm
The Obama could be using bin Laden’s body as a dart board in the basement of the White House for all we know. How would pics help you again? Especially since you’re at the mercy of whatever they want to release?
czBrat
May 4th, 2011
3:10 pm
perfumes? moon landings? concerts? grammar? hmmmm. i guess i’ll go with concerts. i’ve paid absolutely NO attention to who’s coming to the A this summer. i don’t suppose there’s an update on nearby prince dates/venues? probably should have make the trip to greenville. oh well.
off topic: just WOW on this show “the locator”. i’ve boo-hooed every 30 minutes for the past 5 hours.
Purple Rain
May 4th, 2011
3:10 pm
If he released pictures some would scream that it was digitally altered or altereds.
kimmie
May 4th, 2011
3:10 pm
Amred – The pics debate? Just another way to discredit anything the Prez does. Now we all know that!
Lite Blue is actually one of my favorite spring fragrances!
Leggs
May 4th, 2011
3:12 pm
@DreamsM ~ you know I meant gasp!
Dan - Simply....Superior
May 4th, 2011
3:14 pm
@abc
I’m saying, 7 years ago you were branded a heretic and traitor publicly for suggesting the President may have been misleading us into Iraq. Now, every decision by this President is openly questioned and debated like a Monday morning sports radio show.
Forgive me if I sounded trite, but I’m sick of the double standard and hypocrisy in politics right now.
Leggs
May 4th, 2011
3:14 pm
An old Arab guy…he was only 54…that’s not old!
@DreamsM ~ I never heard of that perfume either. I was in the mall this past weekend and there was a tester for Paloma Picasso. I use to wear this fragrance religiously, back in the day. Now, I want a bottle. I’ll wait for Mother’s Day!
kimmie
May 4th, 2011
3:15 pm
Dan – Amen!
Leggs
May 4th, 2011
3:16 pm
@czB ~ what show are you watching for the past 5 hrs.
@Dan ~ so am I!
Sassy1
May 4th, 2011
3:18 pm
I don’t think its a good idea to release pictures of dead folk. If they had the body in plain sight (BAM) folk would still say…It ain’t him. So let them keep saying whatever.
Sassy1
May 4th, 2011
3:21 pm
BinLadens knows he dead, cause he didn’t wake up!!!
SexyCool
May 4th, 2011
3:23 pm
Sassy1 reminds me of Tosha Mack for some reason.
AmazonRed™
May 4th, 2011
3:24 pm
i’ve paid absolutely NO attention to who’s coming to the A this summer. i don’t suppose there’s an update on nearby prince dates/venues? probably should have make the trip to greenville. oh well.
Just keep your ear out for Prince…he gives the city something crazy like 72 hours notice when he comes sometimes. Then sells tickets for like $25. He’s hit a lot of major cities, so I have a feeling he’ll come here.
And of course all the buzz is around Sade as well.
SexyCool
May 4th, 2011
3:24 pm
“Tosha gone get her gun. We scared! We scared!”
Willie Dynamite
May 4th, 2011
3:25 pm
Afternoon All,
Not much on topic so I’ll jump in on the POTUS topic. Good decision not to release the photos. I think the conspiracy theorists will have poke at it released or not. besides this is America, they will eventually leak.
I give Credit to the Bush admin for doing some of the dirty isht they did to help get us to this point. I give Obama credit for having the Ballz (sorry Swiss) to take a chance. If he had failed then they would be roasting him Non-stop. Since he succeeded then of course he gts no credit. cant win for losing.
I have to hand it to him, He had a helluva week. He is slowly eliminating one by one all the a-hole arguements from the nuts and making a point to get re-elected. Plus did you see how he roasted Trump at the WH dinner? that was classic.
abc
May 4th, 2011
3:28 pm
The Bush Administration DID mislead us into Iraq! Branded a heretic for so saying, I don’t know about that… I think that was pretty much mainstream American thought by the time the 2008 elections came around. I seem to recall a steady and constant stream of criticism of Bush for everything from the coverup of his (bogus) military record, to his mis-spent youth, to his mis-handling of Katrina, to his ability to say stupid things every single time he was within range of a microphone… the only President to dodge shoes thrown at him, if you recall. That’s about the only thing for which he gets positive credit.
Scrutinizing our government in general and the Presidency in particular is the right thing to do. We elected them, they’re supposed to work in our interest. Remember ‘transparency in government’? That’s another Obama plank that didn’t mean anything, after all. No change. The Obama Administration is at least as secretive as that of Bush. This is another example of it.
Leggs
May 4th, 2011
3:29 pm
If and when Prince comes here, I will pay top dollar (lol)! I’ve been hearing out his concerts for years.
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 4th, 2011
3:29 pm
Okay… Let’s just pursue this for the sake of argument…
1) Let’s say the US did want to fake bin Laden’s killing…They would have to be absolutely that he was, in fact, dead to begin with. Because we all know that if they pulled a stunt like this while he was still alive, that joker would be popping up on more videos than Paris Hilton’s head on night-vision.
2) Why not take him alive? Because they wanted him dead, not alive. Why spend the millions it would likely cost to detain, prosecute and execute the guy? Not to mention the media circus it would create. You know he would probably have represented himself, if for no other reason to garner a platform to spew a bunch of spiteful BS for all the world to hear at the trial. No reason to put the country, much less the families of 9/11 victims through that.
3) Why the quick burial at sea? At sea, so that there would be no physical burial place for whack-jobs to build a shrine to the f__ker, and quickly so that the US could at least pretend they did it to adhere to Islamic requirements for a speedy burial. Bringing the body back here would completely forgo even the appearance of propriety on that front, so then we would be left of the option of either blatantly denigrating the body or turning it over to someone who actually wanted it, which we certainly didn’t want.
4) If the we were inclined to fake such a thing, why in the world would Obama sign off on it now, rather than waiting for closer to the elections?
5) And if this were staged, why would we have picked a “hideout” guaranteed to further strain already tenuous relations with an Islamic nation with nukes?
AmazonRed™
May 4th, 2011
3:30 pm
Willie D – Ol Buster sent me a “hope all is well” text yesterday. In fitting with today’s topic…I haven’t responded yet…
czBrat
May 4th, 2011
3:30 pm
ahhhh. now sade and lenny i AM keeping an eye on. s/o says prince will not bypass atlanta because he knows he has to come put on a show for his biggest fan. (sometimes my baby is such a goober
)
leggs, the locator reunites people who have searched for each other for years and years. most of these are adopted kids meeting bio parents or sibs split up at an early age. heart wrenching stuff.
AmazonRed™
May 4th, 2011
3:31 pm
If and when Prince comes here, I will pay top dollar (lol)! I’ve been hearing out his concerts for years.
I went to see him on his Purple Rain tour when I was a pre teen. Totally inappropriate for a girl my age, but my parents took me so. *shrug*
Willie Dynamite
May 4th, 2011
3:33 pm
Ared – don’t know of whom you speaketh of. hahaha
cba
May 4th, 2011
3:33 pm
Thanks Leggs, I’m 54 too but I shave more often.
Sassy Me...Obama got Osama :-)
May 4th, 2011
3:33 pm
just WOW on this show “the locator”. i’ve boo-hooed every 30 minutes for the past 5 hours.
There’s no way to watch that show and not cry….man the endings always have me needing some kleenex.
Sassy Me...Obama got Osama :-)
May 4th, 2011
3:35 pm
assy1 reminds me of Tosha Mack for some reason.
IN yo face….BAM!!!
I couldn’t help it…it was like a relex or something…
Sassy1
May 4th, 2011
3:35 pm
BinLadens kinda looks like Swiss Beats.
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 4th, 2011
3:36 pm
Leggs — You want a Prince concert, you say? Enjoy!
When prompted, enter:
Username: MIA
Password: MIA
(it IS case-sensitive)
AmazonRed™
May 4th, 2011
3:37 pm
Ared – don’t know of whom you speaketh of. hahaha
Willie Dynamite
May 4th, 2011
3:38 pm
Ared – I repeat, don’t know of whom you speaketh of. hahaha
SexyCool
May 4th, 2011
3:39 pm
Sunday, TheDude told me about the Sade tix he bought for us. I’m on the lookout for Prince, Stevie Wonder (a girl can hope) and I really would like to see Chrisette Michele live.
kimmie
May 4th, 2011
3:40 pm
Amred – I was at that Prince show too. Off the chain!
I’ve seen him 3 times. Full monies worth each time!
Gon be all up in that Sadey concert!
Willie Dynamite
May 4th, 2011
3:41 pm
I’ve had a crush on Sade every since I can remember. But dayum she seems like the most depressing Chick to be around. Every song just sounds sad like I suppose to feel bad while listening to her.
Leggs
May 4th, 2011
3:42 pm
Thanks, swissy poo bear! Listening to Sign o Times….too bad Erotic City isn’t on the list.
Leggs
May 4th, 2011
3:42 pm
I would love to see Chrisette Michelle and Rachel Ferrel in concert together.
kimmie
May 4th, 2011
3:44 pm
Willie – Have you seen her in concert? Incredible! Killer band! Changed clothes 3 times. And not depressing at all!
SlimNumeroUno
May 4th, 2011
3:44 pm
So I see nothing much is going on in here.