Modern Day Masculinity
I had an interesting conversation with an older gentleman recently. He made a comment about men and masculinity that sort of stuck with me. When he discovered that I was not married, he said he “understood why” so many women like me couldn’t find a man. Yes, I had to actually have this conversation with a stranger…..again.
Apparently, all the real men left on the planet is in his generation (He was 58 years old). Well, it turns out he had this theory that if a man’s masculinity is questionable (for any number of stereotypical reasons) then he isn’t a real man.
I started to think about what masculinity is defined as now. I imagine that this is a generational thing because men today can be sensitive and strong at the same time. Does every man who can’t rebuild a car engine need to have his masculinity questioned?
Do you think that masculinity has been redefined to represent something new or different?
Do you think masculinity is measured by the wrong things? Does it ever play a role in how we meet and date?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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379 comments Add your comment
MzNewy
May 3rd, 2011
3:58 pm
@ Dreams 3:57- how appropriate…cause that was a shot if I ever saw one. LMAO
Purple Rain
May 3rd, 2011
3:58 pm
MzNewy, LOL buying a vowel was funny!
Purple Rain
May 3rd, 2011
3:59 pm
Dreams, LOL
Sassy1
May 3rd, 2011
4:01 pm
Dreams–I guess there is a joke in there somewheres? If you must know getting the faucet flowing has never been a problem for him. BAM!
SexyCool
May 3rd, 2011
4:01 pm
Wow….just wow….
Who typed the “flatline” the other morning? I thought it was brilliant. Using it now….
________________________FLATLINED________________________
Please resuscitate….
Sassy1
May 3rd, 2011
4:02 pm
As a matter of facts..the faucet is flowing right now with just the mere thoughts of him…if you must know. BAM!
Sassy1
May 3rd, 2011
4:04 pm
I might just have to excuse myself a do a little clean up…BAM!
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 3rd, 2011
4:04 pm
Sassy1 — Does your puddy actually go “BAM” when you get excited? ‘Cos that would be awesome…
For Real
May 3rd, 2011
4:05 pm
“Yes I did, yes I did. Perhaps I should be angling for a Pellegrino sponsorship?” – For Real now trying to shake that smack out of Swiss’s smacked up body.
“Is that what scared Kym off the blog?” – No there was an incident with her news paper. I wrapped AAD in the news paper and wrung her doorbell and when she answer and grab the news paper… well Kym wasn’t the one that answer door…. I mean I don’t how many times I have to say sorry Grammy Kym for them to forgive me.
Zipppppppppppppppppppppppp!!!!!! – “It is so dark down here by the airport…”
SexyCool
May 3rd, 2011
4:05 pm
Sassy1 – you type like Blaine Edwards talks.
Sassy Me...Obama got Osama :-)
May 3rd, 2011
4:06 pm
buying a vowel was funny!
Now the question is does she know which one to buy?…okay I’m done(I think)
AmazonRed™
May 3rd, 2011
4:07 pm
Oh yeah…where did Kym go?
Sassy1…what do you do for a living? Does it involve writing?
Purple Rain
May 3rd, 2011
4:09 pm
“as a matter of facts” there is that “s” in the wrong place again.
SexyCool, you sure you want one of us men to bring you back?
Swiss, BAM! that might hurt.
SexyCool
May 3rd, 2011
4:09 pm
I ain’t gone lie. When Prof used to go in on me, I *seriously* considered quitting the blog. I felt straight victimized. But…I ain’t no punk. (lol)
SexyCool
May 3rd, 2011
4:11 pm
Purp…I thought about that. Get ya’ hands off my lady parts. (lol)
For Real
May 3rd, 2011
4:11 pm
You know most people don’t know when a person has to pee but I’m thinking that’s not the case with Sassy1.
Lawyer: Your Honor I would like to present the facts of this case concerning the murder of these two little girls…..
Sassy1 Puddy: BAM!!
TenderRoni
May 3rd, 2011
4:11 pm
Rain, Rain, go away come back another day!
Purple Rain
May 3rd, 2011
4:12 pm
Sassy her favorite vowel is “w”!
Amazon, if she types like this I wonder what she talks like. She works in a lawyer’s office she said….So I am sticking with that she must be a dumb, fine woman. She is not editing anything, hopefully no answering any phones. Must be there for looks.
sassy1″You’s really going to pays me for just sitting her looking pretty?”
Her Boss: “ZIIIIPPPP!”
Sassy1
May 3rd, 2011
4:14 pm
Actually, I do a lot of things…mainly I work for a group of PI attorneys…I do voiceovers for several local radio stations, churches and other orgs. I do calligraphy and logo’s for a couple of high end businesses…if you must be in my business.
SlimNumeroUno
May 3rd, 2011
4:14 pm
Vowels in Sassy’s world are A E I O U and often times S…Bbbbbbbbbb BAM!
For Real
May 3rd, 2011
4:16 pm
Please resuscitate…
For Real now performing mouth to vulva on ScooL.
lick, suck, fondle
lick, suck, fondle
lick, suck, fondle
Dayumit LIVE ScooL LIVE!!!
lick, suck, fondle
lick, suck, fondle
SexyCool
May 3rd, 2011
4:17 pm
You don’t do those Title Pawn commercials, do you?
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 3rd, 2011
4:17 pm
I’m pretty sure Sassy1 is actually Antoine Dodson…
TenderRoni
May 3rd, 2011
4:19 pm
This is one crazy, but funny blog
Purple Rain
May 3rd, 2011
4:19 pm
Tender,
SexyCool, see me massaging your inernal lady parts have brought you back to life!
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 3rd, 2011
4:19 pm
Slim / SexyC — Got. D@mn.
You two are cold blooded… 
AmazonRed™
May 3rd, 2011
4:19 pm
I do voiceovers for several local radio stations, churches and other orgs.
AmazonRed™
May 3rd, 2011
4:21 pm
I ain’t gone lie. When Prof used to go in on me, I *seriously* considered quitting the blog. I felt straight victimized. But…I ain’t no punk. (lol)
Sounds like the Tyra Banks vs. Naomi Campbell beef. Tyra admitted one relief from retiring from modeling was never having to deal wth Naomi in a show again.
SexyCool
May 3rd, 2011
4:22 pm
Aw hell…EVERYbody around here gets hazed. If you come back, you crossed the burning blog sands. Otherwise, well…….you don’t get the blog vest or the key to the side door or the knock to secret desk drawer where WillieD hides the Ripple.
Sassy1
May 3rd, 2011
4:23 pm
Not finding you’ll very friendly or nice…just trying to make the day go by a littler faster. Geez!
SexyCool
May 3rd, 2011
4:23 pm
“I never would have thought it affected you.”
Never let ‘em see you sweat.
The Truth
May 3rd, 2011
4:24 pm
Hilarious
Thanks for the thumbs up on the movie. Slim, will hit that early bird special.
Purple Rain
May 3rd, 2011
4:24 pm
sassy1, you are the one who shared your business just like you are sharing your “s”.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
May 3rd, 2011
4:25 pm
Sexy Cool – or the man the Blog bar from time to time! LOL @ Ripple!
The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)
May 3rd, 2011
4:25 pm
Don’t take it personally, Sassy1… It’s just part of the initiation… We’s f__ks wit e’rrybodys.
Celisea
May 3rd, 2011
4:25 pm
SexyC – I ain’t gone lie. When Prof used to go in on me, I *seriously* considered quitting the blog. I felt straight victimized. But…I ain’t no punk. (lol)
Naaaw, say it ain’t so. You don’t strike me as such.
Sassy1 – If you have realized by now, it’s a set up. Stop answering please.
AmazonRed™
May 3rd, 2011
4:26 pm
Not finding you’ll very friendly or nice…just trying to make the day go by a littler faster. Geez!
I’m definitely the mean girl, cuz this made me laugh.
Celisea
May 3rd, 2011
4:27 pm
haven’t haven’t haven’t
AmazonRed™
May 3rd, 2011
4:27 pm
Never let ‘em see you sweat
Well, we saw plenty of that. You lost your cool a couple times. But I never thought you took any of it to heart, at least not the point where you considered leaving.
Sassy1
May 3rd, 2011
4:27 pm
Catty men….WOW!
SlimNumeroUno
May 3rd, 2011
4:27 pm
You’ll = you will not you all
You have got to be doing this on purpose, PLEASE tell me it is all intentional for our entertainment
Sassy Me...Obama got Osama :-)
May 3rd, 2011
4:28 pm
just trying to make the day go by a littler faster.
Well you were given a new dictionary AND a thesuarus…accroding to what we’ve read so far that could keep you busy for quite some time. And looking at the pictures don’t count
Celisea
May 3rd, 2011
4:28 pm
Frankly I think Sassy1 is pretending. I don’t think she’s new and I think the country talk is all intentional.
SexyCool
May 3rd, 2011
4:28 pm
It just got tiresome because it seemed to be never ending.
And I certainly would not EVER attempt to claim innocence in the whole bit. (I am the one that changed “Black Barbie” into “Blackie.” However, I wasn’t throwing jabs outta nowhere, for no reason on a consistent basis.
SlimNumeroUno
May 3rd, 2011
4:29 pm
‘We’s f__ks wit e’rrybodys.’
Quick, somebody slap Swiss. I think the “s-syndrome” is contagious.
Purple Rain
May 3rd, 2011
4:32 pm
Technical Foul on SexyCool! YOU were the one to go in hard on her!
DreamsMaterialize
May 3rd, 2011
4:32 pm
Sassy1 all the commentary you caused definitely made my day go by faster. don’t worry, today it’s you, tomorrow it will be someone else’s turn. ya’ll have a good night.
SexyCool
May 3rd, 2011
4:33 pm
Purp – she would start it. I would ignore, refrain from participating for as long as I could. Then, I would give as good as I got.
SlimNumeroUno
May 3rd, 2011
4:33 pm
Sassy – Maybe I should’ve thrown a subscription to Wikipedia in there too
AmazonRed™
May 3rd, 2011
4:35 pm
Purp – she would start it. I would ignore, refrain from participating for as long as I could. Then, I would give as good as I got.
From what I remember, you were the one who offended her first. But she’s the one who kept coming at you once you were on her ish list. She was pretty ruthless.