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Dating: Dealing with doubts

We have all heard those cautionary dating tales that make you stop and shudder.  They seem so outrageous and ridiculous that it is hard to imagine it happening to you.  Until it happens to you… and then you can totally see how people misrepresent themselves.

It’s unfortunate that a few dating misadventures can turn us into cynics.  I think it happens to the best of us, but you never want that to be the reason you blow things with the new guy or girl. What do you do when you have doubts about someone you are dating?

I think it is always good to check your cynicism before your let your spidey senses go off.  There are a lot of great people to date who aren’t trying to annihilate your heart.

Do you ever get paranoid? Have you ever dated someone really great but you started to have random doubts?  That awful cynical voice says, “It’s too good to be true” and you are suddenly fighting off negative thoughts. How do you handle it?

What is a healthy dose of skepticism and what is downright dating paranoia?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

114 comments Add your comment

SexyCool

May 2nd, 2011
2:13 pm

What about Mr. MDMI? (Might Don’t Make It)
:)

Willie Dynamite

May 2nd, 2011
2:17 pm

haha, Mr. MDMI, I like that. His azz just dont know she’ll switch up the tool from a 9/16 to the Allen Wrench Mertic system in a minute.

AmazonRed™ - Lake Show tonight!

May 2nd, 2011
2:21 pm

Amred – I’m being real nosey – did you take “someone else” to the game?

No…company tickets. Ironically, we had an extra. I invited him, but it was an hour before tip and he was up in Alpharetta, so he passed.

DreamsMaterialize

May 2nd, 2011
2:22 pm

That game was a bootee-clincher
SexyC Easy bait for swiss lol

Willie – Yeah, they can say what they want, the Prez got it done!
kimmie Let’s see how much he has to do. Unemployment is down, GDP is growing, stocks are up, bin Laden was killed. I guess he just needs to broker a reunification of North and South Korea, convince Iran to voluntarily stop it’s nuke program, demand that Russia just give all their nukes to us out of good faith, and get Israel to agree on a separate state for Palestine…all while eliminating Somali pirates and defeating Gadafi, Castro, and Hu Jintao in a game of 21. Then just maybe some will be convinced that he should be re-elected.

AmazonRed™ - Lake Show tonight!

May 2nd, 2011
2:22 pm

As a Man glad to see the bruh is hanging in there

Why? He’s not all that special! :lol:

You can call him “Ketel One” LOL

SexyCool

May 2nd, 2011
2:23 pm

Actually, I hope he does make it.

kimmie

May 2nd, 2011
2:28 pm

Amred – Okay, cool move! You invited him, that definitely sticks out in his mind. I think this is going to be a great friendship, possibly more!

:)

AmazonRed™ - Lake Show tonight!

May 2nd, 2011
2:35 pm

Actually, I hope he does make it.

Eh… :lol:

SexyCool

May 2nd, 2011
2:38 pm

(lol) – understood….trust….for a *while* I didn’t let myself get *too* excited about TheDude.

Willie Dynamite

May 2nd, 2011
2:40 pm

Ared – Why? He’s not all that special!
heyal, I think he is. how many random Bar Patrons do you do you invite to check the tonsils? Then again I could be giving you too much credit. Didn’t think so. hahaha. Ketel One is mainstream. good try although I said generic lets try for a little more personal.

SC – Me too, shiiiiid Bin Laden finally got got. why not.

Kimmie – DON’T I repeat DON’T bring up the F word again. Buddy already being waved around 2nd base. No need to chit-chat with the 3rd base coach. Stop it I say, At least let dude get thrown out sliding into home.

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 2nd, 2011
2:40 pm

“….for a *while* I didn’t let myself get *too* excited about TheDude.”

And now he’s all clinching on your booty & isht…. See how quickly things change? ;-) :lol:

kimmie

May 2nd, 2011
2:43 pm

kimmie

May 2nd, 2011
2:44 pm

Hey, did we run ole Fion-a off permanently? LOL!!

SexyCool

May 2nd, 2011
2:45 pm

(mean-mugging Swizzie….) (lol)

Dreams…you were right…too easy.

AmazonRed™ - Lake Show tonight!

May 2nd, 2011
2:49 pm

(lol) – understood….trust….for a *while* I didn’t let myself get *too* excited about TheDude.

Well, I just don’t see anything earth shattering about this dude. I do allow myself to get excited…but with this dude being a little older (10 years) with a couple of kids…I’m just like “eh.”

Y’all only know about this one. Doesn’t mean he doesn’t have competition. ;)

AmazonRed™ - Lake Show tonight!

May 2nd, 2011
2:50 pm

good try although I said generic lets try for a little more personal.

Picky picky…how bout Gene then…for “GENEric. LOL

DreamsMaterialize

May 2nd, 2011
2:54 pm

You can call him “Ketel One” LOL
ARed Ketel One has been around for like 400 years, so they have staying power, if anything. Might be what you’re looking for. lol

Kimmie – DON’T I repeat DON’T bring up the F word again.
Yeah kimmie stop cursing. What that dude ever do to you?

Dreams…you were right…too easy.
SexyC Somehow I think you already knew that. lol

Purple Rain

May 2nd, 2011
2:55 pm

AmazonRed™ - Lake Show tonight!

May 2nd, 2011
3:06 pm

ARed Ketel One has been around for like 400 years, so they have staying power, if anything. Might be what you’re looking for. lol

*blows raspberry * LOL

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 2nd, 2011
3:10 pm

Whose raspberry did you blow again, ARed?

Willie Dynamite

May 2nd, 2011
3:10 pm

Ared – So you got a team or what? We finally got a dude that broke the glass and making it rain ever so slightly in the parking lot (pun intended) and you like EH???? what the heyal is that? I want some answers woman.

MzNewy

May 2nd, 2011
3:15 pm

Taking a stab at the afternoon spin….

I am not as easily enamored as I was in my youth. I think my dating misadventures have lead me to not let folks in so easily. It’s good to be somewhat protective but bad to be so protective that I don’t know how or more importantly WHEN it is ok to let my guard down. I am glad that I have a good balance of the two. Sometimes, I have wondered if I ran off a MWP (Man with Potential) but my gut has never been wrong thus far.

AmazonRed™ - Lake Show tonight!

May 2nd, 2011
3:18 pm

Whose raspberry did you blow again, ARed?

:lol: Get your mind out the gutter! I’m a lady! :lol:

AmazonRed™ - Lake Show tonight!

May 2nd, 2011
3:21 pm

So you got a team or what? We finally got a dude that broke the glass and making it rain ever so slightly in the parking lot (pun intended) and you like EH???? what the heyal is that? I want some answers woman

:lol: Like I said, I date. ;)

But me making out with dude is really nothing new OTHER than the fact that it was our first meeting. That was more of what I did in college! :lol:

Purple Rain

May 2nd, 2011
3:27 pm

I take my “hello” back and will replace it with an “F*ck the whole lot of ya!”

Have a good, day :)

SexyCool

May 2nd, 2011
3:31 pm

(lmao)…..Purp…dude…you are a riot!!!!

AmazonRed™ - Lake Show tonight!

May 2nd, 2011
3:33 pm

“YES, YES! F*ck you too!” – Prince Akeem

Celisea

May 2nd, 2011
3:40 pm

PR – I take my “hello” back and will replace it with an “F*ck the whole lot of ya!”

Some days it just depends on who you are. Maybe you ain’t nobody today :)

SexyCool

May 2nd, 2011
3:41 pm

Crazy folks…..rotflmao….

SlimNumeroUno

May 2nd, 2011
3:45 pm

My co-worker is so crazy. Her and her hubby spent the weekend vacationing with another couple. The other hubby is a bit of an arrogant booty hole…the dialogue

Dude: So is that drink kicking in yet, I see you sipped it up pretty fast?

Chick: Apparently not fast enough because you’re still annoying me.

Dude: Eff you!

Chick: Eff you harder!

Dude: LOL, your next drink is on me.

Either i’m delirious or that was really funny to me for some reason.

(Purp’s story made me think of that)

Willie Dynamite

May 2nd, 2011
3:58 pm

Ared – OTHER than the fact that it was our first meeting. That was more of what I did in college
un hunhhh. We take our victories anyway we can get them.

Purp – Dayum bruh. Have a drank on me. Don’t worry we (as in me,don’t get it twisted) got a key to the blog bar. You good just never eva speak about the back room, or the futon with the leopard sheets, or the blinking red light up in the corner. Other than that you good. Gon head and get you a double shot for all I care. And oh yeah, I know you don’t partake BUT under the desk to the left knock two times like Fred G. Sanford and I got something to make the clouds go away.

Slim – Thats why I hate the couples getaway unless its one of my potnahs.

Purple Rain

May 2nd, 2011
3:59 pm

“I am very happy to be here”- Prince Akeem

Purple Rain

May 2nd, 2011
4:06 pm

Willie D. my man! Thank you. LOL

AmazonRed™ - Lake Show tonight!

May 2nd, 2011
4:06 pm

un hunhhh. We take our victories anyway we can get them.

Well, you asked. :lol:

SlimNumeroUno

May 2nd, 2011
4:08 pm

Willie – speaking of licka, me and the beau went through a full bottle of 1800 Saturday and i’m SO SURPRISED I wasn’t sick the next day. Sure I woke up still buzzing but it didn’t take me out like it has in the past. Because for a minute, I was beginning to think tequila was my kryptonite :oops:

SexyCool

May 2nd, 2011
4:14 pm

WillieD….You got some ripple *hid* in that desk drawer?

Willie Dynamite

May 2nd, 2011
4:24 pm

Purp – no prob bruh. Just remember this aint that “I got $5 on it” isht. Not for the Peanut gallery and not for everyday having bad day issues.

Ared – yeah I did. Good answer (you aint fooling me). I see you, but I like it.

Slim – Atta Girl. I make it a point to get Wifey White gurl wasted every so often. plus she dont remember nothin but what I tell her.

SC – Ripple is now the new Patron. They just don’t know it. New bottle and cool labeling they think they got some top shelf.

AmazonRed™ - Lake Show tonight!

May 2nd, 2011
4:26 pm

Good answer (you aint fooling me). I see you, but I like it.

You have so little faith in me Willie D!!! :lol:

AmazonRed™ - Lake Show tonight!

May 2nd, 2011
4:28 pm

Only two pages of comments today. Sad. :lol:

Willie Dynamite

May 2nd, 2011
4:30 pm

Ared – You are so consistent its boring. I’ll take anything that seems to get you off your spot. I’m easy like that (smile).

SlimNumeroUno

May 2nd, 2011
4:32 pm

Willie – Yeah that usually happens to me, not remembering. I always would wake up feeling like i was in that movie Hangover. A toof missing, no pants and a melted snickers bar stuck to my back. :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

May 2nd, 2011
4:32 pm

might have to file today under the Lost Topics archive. lol

DreamsMaterialize

May 2nd, 2011
4:35 pm

Slim you just gotta learn how to handle that tequila. You respect her, and she’ll give you some of your best moments, but disregard her gangsta, and you’ll swear her off forever. lol

Willie Dynamite

May 2nd, 2011
4:39 pm

Slim – If you @home i dont see whats the probelm. Sounds like a good nite to me.

AmazonRed™ - Lake Show tonight!

May 2nd, 2011
4:43 pm

Ared – You are so consistent its boring. I’ll take anything that seems to get you off your spot. I’m easy like that (smile).

:lol: Yes, I take pride in having a rather vanilla dating life. You have a daughter right? You’ll grow to appreciate that if she has a vanilla dating life too. :lol:

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 2nd, 2011
4:46 pm

Oh lawd… When you’re going outside to take down a “Where’s Osama?” sign the day after that b!tch got a cap popped in his noggin’, and there are newspaper photographers outside waiting to snap a pick of this event… put on some pants that don’t show off your CT to the whole world:lol:

SlimNumeroUno

May 2nd, 2011
4:46 pm

Dreams – Tequila and I had broke up for a little while. So I’m thinking, this is her way of making amends and saying she’d like to resume our friendship. I just hope she isn’t setting me up for a major, BOOM IN YO FACE, moment. I’ve been hurt by her before so i’m going to tread forward verry verry carefwually. hiccup

Willie – I’m normally at the house but I still don’t like the feeling the next day when it feels like Star Jones (PRE-GASTRIC BYPASS) sitting on my face with steel toe boots on.

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

May 2nd, 2011
4:50 pm

GOT D@MMIT, Slim! You finally throw out a visual of another chick sitting on your face and it just had to be Star F__king Jones?!?!?

SlimNumeroUno

May 2nd, 2011
4:53 pm

swiss – now you know I couldn’t possibly spoil you that good. Just think of me as a Sweet & Sour Gummy bear. First I’m sweet, then I give you a nasty visual such as that. :lol: And when did you take that pic of me? You know I that was my laundry day and i was waiting on my undies to dry. No respect I tell ya, none

Willie Dynamite

May 2nd, 2011
4:54 pm

Ared – dayum, You right but this a grown up convo. No need to brings the kiddies into it. Straight out the Raqi playbook.

Slim – Its ok, Star Jones is not as heavy as before. Just act like a dude and picture someone else. hahaha

Swiss – did you see the crutches? Some dude came off the top ring-rope for that.