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Dating: How much information are you entitled to?

I was talking to my friend about his new relationship when he asked me how he could find out if she had a friends with benefits situation with someone.  We actually had a full on discussion about whether he should ask her outright (absolutely not) or how he could read the “signs” and tell. (For the record, all of his supposed signs were dumb)

I thought it was incredibly sweet (although slightly insane) that he was acting so irrationally about this young lady.   I have never seen him this “concerned” about a woman’s single status.  At the same time, I had to give him a reality check.  Keep this up and you will surely blow it, dude. Relax and let things continue to progress naturally. My guess is, the more he spends time with her, the less he will worry about “other dudes” or competition.

To be honest, I never think you should ask for information that you really don’t want the answer to. What would he do if she said, “Yes, I’m getting served up on a weekly basis when I’m not with you!”  When you are just in the getting to know you stage of dating, you aren’t entitled to every single detail of that person’s life.

Do you ever wonder if the person you are dating is seeing multiple people? Would it bother you if they were?

How much information do you think you are entitled to? What would you do if someone you were seeing asked you if you were pursuing/seeing/sleeping with other people? Would you be offended? Have you ever asked that question on a date?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

428 comments Add your comment

Geechee

April 27th, 2011
7:15 am

Sorry MIA, but your buddy is going to blow it for sure. If he is that much of a protectionist that early in the game, then he will be over the top as the relationship progresses.

It doesn’t bother me if my new dating partner was seeing someone else early in the dating cycle. Exclusivity doesn’t happen automatically with the first date. It has to be earned as the relationship progresses. It is common in every relationship to eventually have the conversation about whether either partner is seeing someone else and that eventually leads to the exclusive agreement.

In the modern dating world of Match.com, when both partners feel that a reasonable match has been found, they agree to turn off their match profiles to other potential partners. It’s like a modern, electronic confirmation of exclusivity.

call me dude

April 27th, 2011
7:24 am

It is not necessarily bad that the girl of your dreams is getting it on with someone else. I am pretty sure my “personal trainer” is getting it on with another dude. I think of her relationship with me as very smooth, I was getting alot of pain in my knee and she made it all go away, so I think of our relationship as healing. She manipulated the aching joint like a majician, I really like her. I pay her, sooooooooo it is business,however there is a lot of pleasure doing business with her.

SlimNumeroUno

April 27th, 2011
7:58 am

Good Woebegone Wednesday,

I have no problem nor think it’s inappropriate to ask a date if they are currently dating others. I would not necessarily get all specific with whether or not they have a FWB, or how many of the folks they date are actually effing each other. For the most part, I always assume a person I have just met is at least talking to one other person

Bada Bing

April 27th, 2011
8:01 am

What my date does is non of my business unless we are sleeping together. There should be a pre-coitus agreement…kinda like a pre nup.
I’m serious

Atlanta= land of the free, home of the thirsty

April 27th, 2011
8:03 am

“Do you ever wonder if the person you are dating is seeing multiple people?”
No, just ask. These are grown people, right?

“Would it bother you if they were?”
If they were trying to hide it yes. If they were upfront about it, no. Seems there’s some confusion here between “dating” and exclusive. If the two aren’t exclusive what’s the deal?

I’ll be sitting this one out today.

czBrat

April 27th, 2011
8:25 am

I never think you should ask for information that you really don’t want the answer to.
easy breezy. moving on.

HiYas

Ark2011

April 27th, 2011
9:04 am

It’s all a part of it. It’s no business of mine who she sees when I’m not with her and vice versa. Once we become committed, then the rules change. I’ve had FWB’s and I know many women that have had or have them. Nothing wrong with that. Some want the pleasure without the strings. To each their own. To be honest, it kinda excites me that a woman would have a FWB’s because it lets you know off hand that she does have a libido and a strong one at that.

Lana

April 27th, 2011
9:08 am

It’s no business of anyone else until you become mutually exclusive. I wouldn’t ask and wouldn’t like being asked until we decide “we are officially a couple”. I have had a couple of guy friends in the past year and sometimes we hang out and even get naked. He thinks it’s sexy that a woman can view sex and simply pleasureable and fun and believe me, I’m all about that. You anal retentive, holier than thou, goody two shoes can blast all you want about how bad it is, but as for me, I plan on getting me some this weekend.

MC Hammock

April 27th, 2011
9:12 am

Nope, none….what is in the past is in the past. I’ve done a few things and had some “relationships” that I wouldn’t want to advertise, but they sure were fun, fun, fun. I don’t mind a reasonable amount of trouble. When you become a couple, the slate starts then and there. Simply put, don’t ask the question if you don’t want to hear the answer.

knockoutblonde

April 27th, 2011
9:16 am

If you’re that nosey about my past, I might even make stuff up just to shock you. It’s none of your business. Who HASN’T done stuff they don’t want out in the open. You lived and you learned. I’d rather be and have someone that has taken a few risks, been burned a time or two, but at least they LIVED life. You can take your boring, always by the book, conservative types with you to the grave. You only go through life once, but if you do it right, once is enough.

Wifey

April 27th, 2011
9:19 am

If there is any one on this blog that hasn’t had a few shadows in their past, you’re either very boring or not trying. I could care less about your past and don’t ask me about mine. Of course, I’m refering to the regular stuff. If you were a drug pusher, murderer or rapist, that’s different. But the occassional threesome, tried pot or had FWB’s (god knows, I’ve had many of them in my past), all you’re gonna do is perk my interest.

LL411

April 27th, 2011
9:23 am

If you seem to be happy, healthy and living I assume you have a life pre LL411, no I don’t ask and to be honest it raises my horns when asked… Now, if we start off on the good foot, enjoying each others company we’ll spend more and more time together and if either of us “had” a FWB we’d probably never have known. I co-sign with MC “When you become a couple, the slate starts then and there” no need to visit the past. After my s/o and I’d been together for awhile he wanted to back into details, I told him I honestly don’t rememeber much… you see he’d stepped in an replaced all that :)

abc

April 27th, 2011
9:29 am

Of course a bunch of chicks wouldn’t want to disclose. Yawn.

I’d just ask, if I wanted to know. If a chick was dating me and casually effing someone else, she’d no longer be dating me. I’d want to know something like that — it would be a strong indication of moral lack of compatibility.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
9:40 am

He has every right to know if she’s sleeping with someone else, especially if they’re sleeping together; or even plan to.

When I got to feeling some kinda way about a female, I asked. If she was indeed getting “served weekly” whilst dating me, then we no longer need to see each other.

M. (pronouced M dot)

April 27th, 2011
9:43 am

Good day.

This is an interesting topic because some people want their cake and to eat it to in dating…meaning they want to do their thing and want you to just sit on the sidelines waiting. I live by one rule, if we are just dating….stay out of my business and I will stay out of yours. I was seeing a woman who was always trying to cross reference what I said…Such as:

Her: What are doing this weekend?

Me: Meeting my friend for dinner, you?

Her: Which friend is this?

Me: Blank face:

Do you ever wonder if the person you are dating is seeing multiple people? Would it bother you if they were?
I sometimes wonder but then if we aren’t exclusive I cant say anything. Also over time, whatever she is doing will come to the light…Honestly most women really aren’t good at really handling 2 guys at one time unless she keeps it super real with you but she probably wont because of how she thinks you will look at her if she says, hey I am dating a couple of guys now. He WONT take you serious.

How much information do you think you are entitled to? What would you do if someone you were seeing asked you if you were pursuing/seeing/sleeping with other people? Would you be offended? Have you ever asked that question on a date?

I wouldnt say I am entitled to much information, but I will say just keep me out of your love triangle and I have to remove myself from the drama if I sense it. I have been asked that question and I just tell them the truth. Some women give vague answers like, well I date…what does that REALLY mean lol?

czBrat

April 27th, 2011
9:52 am

s/o had a terrible habit of asking soooo many ??? rule is … if you ask, expect honest answers. i think that early in our relationship he really believed there was something to uncover. mine is what some on this blog would probably consider a boring dating past. fine by me.

anyone here in need of a chuckle? (Daniel is a beast!! LOL)
http://www.someecards.com/2011/04/06/the-best-obnoxious-responses-to-misspellings-on-facebook

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
9:52 am

Not to be crass, but if she’s getting it in with another dude, I don’t know where that ends.

I deplore the thought of kissing/being/holding something or somewhere another man has “visited” recently.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
10:00 am

Morning,

WOW. Most will say they’re cool with whatever a person does while not in a relationship or have done prior to their relationship. I will agree to a certain extent. I don’t want to know what happened and I’m okay with whatever floats your boat prior to me but I ain’t cool if we’re starting up and you’re still getting at with someone else. I for one, may be catching feelings but maybe not yet established exclusivity ain’t cool with the one minor detail of just because we’ve not officially sealed, giving you the green light to do other chicks. What? You’re going to just drop everybody June 1st lickity (sp) split? Right. I tend to feel the need to peel back while we’re making our way to exclusivity so by the time we arrive there’s no other contenders. Yeah, that’s what they say but really I don’t know too many dudes cool with picturing some dude hamming you while the most he’s getting is a couple hours of your time over dinner all because ya’ll ain’t seal the deal but everything else (feelings, spending time together, possibly sex, etc) is happening.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
10:00 am

there are no other contenders

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
10:02 am

Morning All!

You are right, M dot, that a lot want their cake and the ice cream and everything else! But they don’t want you to have any. Guess what? It doesn’t work that way! It’s unrealistic for either party to expect the other was sitting at home twiddling their thumbs before you came along. Both should assume the other is dating when they meet. Dating and all that could possibly go along with it, be it sleeping together or just a good night kiss. All that is possible when you are dating. Unless you are going on a lot of first dates that end with a handshake, and we all know that’s not likely!

So you meet someone new. Date and get to know that person. This is another good reason for holding off on the intimacy. If you don’t want to go where someone else may have been recently, chill. When the 2 of you decide to be exclusive is when all the “side” stuff should be cut off. Then you can ask the questions. But you don’t have the right to roll in and expect exclusivity, when you yourself are still getting some FWB stuff on the regular.

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
10:08 am

If you have a question ask it, everyone involved is an adult right?

And it is okay to ask someone if they are currently sexually active and I usually follow that up with asking if they are disease free. If you are offended by me asking you, that is a sure sign you are not my type.

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
10:10 am

Dan I agree, I am supposed to be putting in the courting efforts and then after I drop her off she calls a dude over for clean up duty? I don’t think so.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
10:10 am

For the record,

As long as there is no video and/or Ray J wasn’t involved – I don’t care about your “past”. I’m only concerned abou the time we’ve been seeing each other.

If you had a regular “buddy” prior to us getting together and didn’t cut that off, it’s a problem for me. Reason being, if you hadn’t seen enough in me to make him useless to that cause, then we don’t need to continue forward.

And yeah, the “we weren’t exclusive” thing doesn’t really work for me (as I don’t use it), because if we’re seeing each other and see a future together, your instinct should’ve been to let the other dude he’s been replaced.

LL411

April 27th, 2011
10:11 am

Kimmie… EXACTLY!

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
10:12 am

And to answer what I think on whether or not you’re “entitled”…NO, NOPE. However I have nothing to hide. I won’t answer questions because frankly you should be concerned with what’s currently on the table. But what’s currently on the table is all that should exist.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
10:14 am

Dan – I’m agreeing with your 10:10

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
10:14 am

*about and “*know he’s been replaced”

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
10:19 am

I guess I am confused. Are we talking new-new, as in about 5 or 6 dates or are we talking about you’ve been seeing each other a few months?

Because you’re right, if we’ve been seeing each other awhile and just haven’t had “the talk” about being exclusive, you can’t play that card. You should have cut the others off already.

But if it’s only been a few dates, uh no, your expectations that that person is only seeing you are persumptuous.

DJ Sniper

April 27th, 2011
10:21 am

When I was single, I wasn’t really bothered when I met a new chick and found out she was dating others, because I was doing the same. If things started to move towards a more serious tone, then we would discuss cutting all others off. That’s pretty much what happened with me and my wife.

LL411

April 27th, 2011
10:25 am

I just didn’t like guys that come off the rip wanting to talk about my sex life or his for that matter…. We don’t know each other yet. After time, we’ll both know if we’re interested in more and the conversation will naturally turn in that direction.

If you had a regular “buddy” prior to us getting together and didn’t cut that off, it’s a problem for me.

Say it!

abc

April 27th, 2011
10:25 am

Sooner or later, you’ll want to know their past. Criminal history, drug use, religious views, relationship history, etc. If you don’t know those things, then you don’t know them. History of relationships demonstrates a lot about their character. If they did the football team, or if they’d have sex with whoever was available as long as they didn’t have to go without, are not that different of a scale, in my opinion — they all point to a lack of moral compatibility with someone like me. If they’re doing someone else while they’re getting to know you, it doesn’t seem to me that they’re all that interested in you.

While I’d just ask a chick if I wanted to know, 99% of the time I figure she wouldn’t tell, or would lie.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
10:26 am

@Kimmie

The line isn’t that clear for me.

3 or 4 dates, I couldn’t tell you. But for me when I feel the *need* to kiss you, that’s when that other dude should be pink-slipped.

DJ Sniper

April 27th, 2011
10:31 am

WiseDiva, was your friend wondering if his new chick still had her cut buddy, or did he just want to know if she had had one period?

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
10:38 am

Do you ever wonder if the person you are dating is seeing multiple people? Um…no…I’d just ask IF we were at the point where I was concerned about it. Until such time, I would assume that a single, dating person who is single is dating.

Would it bother you if they were? No. Because at some point, if the relationship is taking us to an exclusive situation, the conversation would be held and it should no longer be a concern. Until a definite decision is made about where the relationship is going…all bets are off. Would I like it? Probably not. But do I understand and expect it? Of course.

Chink

April 27th, 2011
10:38 am

I have never been the serial dater…One at a time for me. I give you my undivided attention so there is no excuses about why it won’t work.

And if I feel someone is putting me in a rotation he is cut off. I don’t compete.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
10:41 am

WD: How much information do you think you are entitled to?
Reply: Sounds like dude is really feeling for that girl and wants to invest more into it, but he doesn’t (and shouldn’t) takes things any further until he has the answers he needs. We are entitled to all the answers we seek, but if these questions aren’t answered, then don’t get mad if we come to our own conclusions and behave accordingly.

WD: What would you do if someone you were seeing asked you if you were pursuing/seeing/sleeping with other people? Would you be offended?
Reply: I would be completely honest with that woman if asked, I don’t have anything to hide and I wouldn’t be offended in the least bit.

WD: Have you ever asked that question on a date?
Reply: Yes I have asked before, and I will continue to ask in the future. I have to protect my interests; I don’t want to end up catching feelings for a “street lady.”

DFW D.C.

April 27th, 2011
10:42 am

until you make the rotation, why even wonder

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
10:42 am

This:

2. Their “window of bangingness” is much, much longer than all other women’s.

Between the fine wines – women who seem to get better looking as they get older (think Halle Berry), the steadies — women who seem to look exactly the same as they did when they were 25 (think Stacey Dash), the seasoning salts — super fine 20 year olds who are now super fine 40 year olds (think Nia Long), the martians — women whose combination of age, fineness, and proportions defy the laws of the universe (think Kenya Moore), the shirleys – legitimately old women who still look like they’ll wear your ass out (think Jenifer Lewis), and the loomers — women who decided to wait until they were 43 to become dimes (think Regina King), it’s not a game with black women’s “aging well” game.

–Today’s VSB (www.verysmartbrothas.com) post

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
10:46 am

And quite frankly, a person who is sexually involved with one person really shouldn’t be dating another person with the intent of starting a relationship. I know it doesn’t happen that way….but really…if Judy is jumping up and down on Jimmy’s johnson while she’s dating Joe, Judy is cheating herself and Joe.

This is a prime example of SAYING you want to be in a relationship but ACTING otherwise. Guess what? It’s really not okay to be settling for an FWB when what you really want is the whole package…but…you can’t tell grown people that. (lol)

cba

April 27th, 2011
10:47 am

Celisea 10:00, AGREE
Dan 9:40, 9:52, AGREE,AGREE
PR 10:08, AGREE
abc 10:25, AGREE

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
10:50 am

if Judy is jumping up and down on Jimmy’s johnson while she’s dating Joe, Judy is cheating herself and Joe

I was sitting here calmly looking out my window at the grey sky when this ^ grown-up riddle appeared on my screen and made me LMBO.

That’s all I have to say…”I am laughing my behind off at those few words”.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
10:52 am

Oh one last thing, so many people settle for the FWB situations hoping to change it into something more.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
10:52 am

DAN: I totally agree with your 10:10 am post.

ABC: I see what you’re saying in your 10:25am post and I also agree with you.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
10:54 am

SexyCool: you ain’t neva lied about that, your post on 10:46am is spot on :)

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
10:57 am

If Judy is jumping on Jimmy’s johnson while jockeying for Joe’s, how many johnsons will Judy end of up with? None.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
10:58 am

And that’s not to say that I have not done that very thing myself. However, as I learned better, I did better.

And you’re right, Rock. A lot of times the logic, mostly for females unfortunately, is that they can sex him into changing his mind about a relationship.

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
11:00 am

Raqi – Your 10:52, I agree totally

Dan – I get what you are saying. Me personally, I was always like Chink, only really date one at a time. That might not be the hip thing to admit to, but that’s me. I can only concentrate on one at a time. If it ends at one date, so be it. But I couldn’t realistically expect that the guys I meet up with are the same and more than likely are dating others. That’s why I’ve always taken my time to get to know a guy before getting super-close. He has plenty of time to cut the others off by the time we get there.

Blackfoote

April 27th, 2011
11:04 am

Information drives us along the road of life and if you’re not informing(transparent)then you can park on the railroad tracks. I don’t need to read your diary but information is crucial for both individuals.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
11:06 am

Raqi – Oh one last thing, so many people settle for the FWB situations hoping to change it into something more.

You’re exactly right.

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

April 27th, 2011
11:11 am

“Sooner or later, you’ll want to know their past. Criminal history, drug use, religious views, relationship history, etc. If you don’t know those things, then you don’t know them”

abc — Cosign.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 27th, 2011
11:19 am

Morning

You aren’t “entitled” to anything, but that shouldn’t stop you from asking if you want to know. On the first few dates, I don’t really care what you’re dating life is like, and I don’t ask. I just assume you’re a grown woman who is DATING. It would be naive of me to think you were just sitting around waiting for a guy like me to show up. I surely wasn’t sitting around. If we’re vibing, I’ll let you know I’m ready to cut loose ends and ask if you’re ready to do the same. If you are, then we move forward.

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
11:20 am

I absolutely hate doctor apptmts.

If you ask, then get ready for the answer. But, you have no business asking anything about my sex life so early on into the relationship. Let’s date and get to know each other without even discussing FWBs. One of th problems in 2011, so many want to talk about sex 20 mins after meeting. There are so many other parameters of my persona worth getting to know before discussing sex.

MzNewy

April 27th, 2011
11:29 am

Good morning all!

If we are just dating…nope…don’t care. Cause seriously I think that some folks say dating when it’s really the horizontal mamba.

When I say dating, I mean we are just going out, having a great time in a social setting and going home…alone. Now if we are not having the “are we becoming exclusive” talk…don’t ask me shiznit and I won’t ask you.

The reality is that you had a life before MzNewy, and I would hope that meant you had some sort of social life too.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
11:30 am

Leggs i don’t think you get it, sex is very, very important “parameter” of your persona at least to most men. If a man is into freaks then he will not have a problem with it either way, so the chances of him asking you is slim. But for men don’t dates those types of women, it is a very important question to ask, and we’ll need to know this before we realize we’re wasting our time with trying to date you or take you seriously.

Blackfoote

April 27th, 2011
11:31 am

Cool Obama released his birth certificate good news what will the birthers have to talk about now. Trump abandoned the birther issue when he found out it was being released now he is talking about how Obama got into Harvard Trump is tripping…..LOL

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
11:33 am

MzNewy : these things are needed to be known BEFORE we consider you exclusive relationship worthy. So the question is gonna be asked BEFORE the “exclusive talk”.

Wifey

April 27th, 2011
11:33 am

If you are so nosey as to ask early on (think 3 – 5 dates), you have low self esteem. prodding and suspicious by nature. It’s like the red herring, “If you don’t have anything to hide, you won’t mind the police breaking in and looking through your stuff.” That’s not the point. When the time comes, we’ll discuss it. But this attitude lends itself to further down the line inqusitions and frankly, before I met you, my life is none of your business. Whether I had 5 or 50 patners before you isn’t up for discussion. If you ask me on our 5th date if I was seeing someone else, I’ll say yes even if I’m not. Life goes on and like everything, it waits or pauses for no one.

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
11:35 am

@MikeP ~ I most definitely do get it. Just no need to talk about sex within 30 mins of meeting me. That’s all I’m saying. Some feel the need to have that conversation quickly. I don’t. That’s all. And, of course sex is an important part of one’s persona, who doesn’t know this??

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
11:37 am

Trump can’t even tackle his wig how can he run a country…gheesh Not to mention FINDING criticism on nothing issue. Handle that first Trump THEN we can move on to bigger fish to fry.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
11:38 am

these things are needed to be known BEFORE we consider you exclusive relationship worthy.

What other “worthy” would I be? You’re spending time and hanging out with me obviously. You can do that but need to decide if I’m relationship worthy? Just wow.

cba

April 27th, 2011
11:43 am

Blackfoote, I heard some guy substituting for Neal Boortz and he said,”oh I never doubted he’s a citizen, I just want to see his Harvard transcript”. Man, those people are relentless. Why can’t people just be honest and say why they don’t like the man.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
11:44 am

wifey: it has nothing to do with self esteem or being suspicious: its simply about going after what a man wants in his own life. If a man doesn’t want a hoe (by his own standards & measures) then so be it. I for one will NOT be dating anyone more than 5 dates without knowing the persons “traits and behaviors.” If she lies or balks about me asking legitimate questions then she aint the right woman for me, imma get ghost real quick.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
11:44 am

Although I have always been a one man at a time woman, I wonder if the guys that feel the need to know if the woman is bedding another feel that way had the topic been a woman wanting to delve into the personal life of her new male love interest. Especially since I have it seen it stated on here so many times by the men that they keep a five finger rotation going until they decide a woman is worth their everything.

Blackfoote

April 27th, 2011
11:45 am

LOL……@Leggs I knew you would come back with something.

LOL……Celisea Trump is funny as hell, he’ll never win, though I like his straight talk until it’s about some BS.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
11:46 am

Blackfoote – Celisea Trump is funny as hell

He’s a clown

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
11:47 am

Blackfoote – He strikes me as being above reproach…thus the bad hair.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
11:48 am

Leggs: if you get it, then you’ll know why its important to get these outta the way before we get into “relationship” mode with you, im not saying it should be asked in 30mins or less; but it does need to be satisfactory addressed before you’ll see me take you seriously.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
11:48 am

Since we’re having Piece of Cake cake today, I’m eating early…hungry…gotta run. All we need is a reason to get cake from there…lol

Wifey

April 27th, 2011
11:49 am

I agree with Celisea, you’ll find out during the “getting to know me” process. But putting me on a stool in a dark room with one light in my face and start asking questions will get you an exit ticket. Frankly, you scare me. If we are getting to know one another and you get into something I don’t feel comfortable sharing, I just say “I’d rather not go into that.” If you still push, get ready for “Check Please!”. Wow, that was easy….

Go give someone else the “Bad Cop/Worst Cop” treatment.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
11:50 am

Okay, before I go…dudes talking about they gotta know, ummm how will you know? Seriously. I ain’t been one slanging ass so I don’t have that to hide but I know I’ve told a dude what he wanted to hear and he was none the wiser. Urrum, that was back in the day but I’m just saying? There’s nothing to this “wanting to know” and “can’t move forward until I do” and asking about my left pinky. You know what you’re told.

Blackfoote

April 27th, 2011
11:51 am

CBA I know last night on Fox they were talking about the man being at church Easter Sunday. They making reference about the pastor being racist like they did with pastor Wright.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
11:52 am

Celisea: read my post again. I was talking about how a man sometimes won’t entertain being in an exclusive relationship with a woman unless these types of questions are addressed, and you all are saying we shouldn’t be asking unless we’re in a exclusive relationship… see the difference here.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 27th, 2011
11:56 am

A chick can ask me anything she wants. If I feel it’s out of bounds, I’ll say so. I never get upset at someone for asking though. My answer, or lack thereof, could save us both a whole lot of time.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
11:57 am

Mike P – I was talking about how a man sometimes won’t entertain being in an exclusive relationship with a woman unless these types of questions are addressed

I understood. But are you entertaining otherwise…without those questions addressed? If so then how is she “worthy” enough to do that but not worthy enough to move forward exclusively?

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
11:58 am

And really, would he have a problem with the fact that she would be involved with that type of relationship? Or it about whether or not she may or may not have one ONgoing?

Those are two different concerns.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
11:58 am

Mike P – Meaning, are ya’ll entertaining enough to date or hang out or maybe a little dusting? If you’re not asking drilling questions to get that done, why are you needing to know specifics to make it officially when you’ve been doing “official” stuff already?

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
11:59 am

“im not saying it should be asked in 30mins or less; but it does need to be satisfactory addressed…” before you’ll see me take you seriously.”

@MikeP ~ so you DO see it the same way I see it.

Wifey

April 27th, 2011
12:00 pm

I didn’t sign up for having to get grilled about everything from the past 15 years in order for you to give me your “seal of approval”. Try doing it the customary way of just TALKING and EXPERIENCING your date instead of sifting through the rap sheet of years gone by. How many of us are the same person we were ten years ago? You’re either not or you’re lying.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
12:00 pm

I totally agree with dreams here.

Women folk: It ain’t difficult either answer truthfully or politely decline to answer, it really is that simply; and its not a reason to get all upset and frighten over.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
12:01 pm

Wifey – How many of us are the same person we were ten years ago?

Good point wifey

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
12:01 pm

wifey we’re not talking about your distant past, we’re talking about what you’re currently doing while dating with me

DJ Sniper

April 27th, 2011
12:02 pm

Raqi, I gotta agree with you on this one. Some dudes really shoot themselves in the foot when it comes to this issue. I can understand a guy being leery of dating a woman who is/was a stripper or something like that. On the flipside, a lot of us guys have very fragile egos, and some of us can’t seem to accept the fact that a woman has a sexual past. What really kills me is when guys trip about a woman having a FWB situation in her past, yet he’s done the same thing. We’re our own worst enemy sometimes. If the two of you are feeling each other, then let things flow. If the woman does have an inner freak and you play your cards right, then you can definitely benefit from it.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
12:02 pm

Uttt, well that’s true to Mike P…

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 27th, 2011
12:02 pm

They making reference about the pastor being racist like they did with pastor Wright.
Sorry but it burns my ears to hear the term “racist” being thrown around without people really knowing what it means. Racism and prejudice are not synonymous. The media is guilty of perpetuating this false usage.

Blackfoote

April 27th, 2011
12:03 pm

Dreams I feel like that too I got nothing to hide and with time you’ll know mostly everything about me.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
12:03 pm

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
12:04 pm

Applaud applaud DJ Sniper…a man agreed and rightfully so :)

Okay I’m going to lunch for real now

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
12:06 pm

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http://lovejones2011.eventbrite.com/

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
12:07 pm

everyone: again we’re only talking about whether you are in a FWB with someone while dating someone else… we’re not talking about people’s past exploits.

Blackfoote

April 27th, 2011
12:08 pm

Dreams good point the media should say it like it is it’s pure prejudice.

DJ Sniper

April 27th, 2011
12:09 pm

Celisea, when I was single and I met a new woman, I always operated under the assumption that she was seeing and possibly being intimate with other people. Doing that kept me from being thrown for a loop by finding out that informaton later on down the line.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
12:11 pm

I have NEVER been in a FWB while dating a woman, so it goes without saying that I will expect the same from the woman I’m dating. If I find out that she was or lied to me when asked, then I’ll check out, plain and simple. Then I’m on to the next woman who peaks my interests.

Wifey

April 27th, 2011
12:11 pm

@Mike P, even so…..don’t get into that sort of stuff within the first 3-5 dates. You are shooting yourself in the foot. Guess what….I wasn’t at home waiting for you to call because I have a life. Chances are, if you tried calling me on the weekend, just assume I was out on a date and what happened on that date is no business of yours, just like what you did on your date is no business of mine. People just get so cock eyed serious and it’s like a job interview when all we are doing is dinner and/or drinks. Take that shyit somewhere else.

Wifey

April 27th, 2011
12:16 pm

Exactly, DJ Sniper. Just assume for arguments sake that she was rolling some other guy good before you came along. It’s a more realistic attitude. Now she’s dating you and him because you have perked her interest. Now it’s a two way street 1) One of the guys will impress her more or 2) She will decide that she likes something about either one more. If you start grilling her about where she’s been and who she’s seeing….guess what happens to your phone number and rating scale?

cba

April 27th, 2011
12:16 pm

After the second date, Ms cba asked me was I serious about a relationship because she was already dating someone. I said, I’m very serious and as they say, the rest is history. It felt good to push another guy to the curb because about two years earlier, I was the victim :-) .

Blackfoote

April 27th, 2011
12:17 pm

DJ Sniper good call dudes will blow ourself up.

Angela

April 27th, 2011
12:18 pm

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
12:18 pm

“If you start grilling her about where she’s been and who she’s seeing….guess what happens to your phone number and rating scale?”

Bears repeating.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
12:22 pm

Wifey: yeah, in a way, it is sort-kinda like a job interview: when you have a desire to seriously date someone you gotta asked the right questions even if it may offend some, but then again, that’ll only mean you may not be the right person for me to consider to take seriously. If you were fun to being around and I like having having you around, we could still hang out (and only hang-out), but I wouldn’t date you anymore. And we’d only hangout with other friends who’d hangout with us, but no more dinners for two, late nights walk-n-talks, nothing romantic.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
12:24 pm

And that’s not to say that you cannot inquire about my activities when we are not together, I just don’t want to be put through an inquisition. Besides, mostly, I’m going to be fairly forthcoming about the activities that I feel are worth sharing. And if I didn’t tell you, it’s not your business.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 27th, 2011
12:25 pm

“If you start grilling her about where she’s been and who she’s seeing….guess what happens to your phone number and rating scale?”
Wifey I don’t personally do this, as I’ve stated. However, I think the other guys are saying that being demoted on the rating scale or having your phone number lost would actually be a positive. The woman for those guys would respond and not be offended. If she does otherwise, then they know she’s not the woman for them. Losing their number would be doing them (and her no doubt) a favor.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
12:26 pm

FWB with someone while dating someone else

MikeP, but men do it all time and they feel justified on the simple basis of the two have not agreed to only date each other. I absolutely agree with asking what you want to know but stop acting brand new like it’s not that common of an act.

Now getting into a new FWB situation while you are actively dating someone is scandalous, but a person getting it in from a friend and then meeting someone else is not that uncommon.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
12:27 pm

If someone that I was *just* dating and not sleeping with had asked me that particular question, my immediate thought would have been – “Where did that question come from? And why would do you want to know?”

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
12:27 pm

@Sniper

Your post would be valid, if dating was a one way choosing process.

@Wifey

You can “live your life” like you want to, no judgments here. However, if you getting down like that and I’ve told you I’m trying to build something with you, by all mean do so. But, know that I won’t be a part of that life.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
12:28 pm

wifey: i dont understand what the big deal is, you women folk be asking us all these sorta questions all the time. but when we’re the ones asking the questions you all have a big problem with it. and for the record, when asking the questions, i don’t consider it “shooting myself in the foot”, its more like “dodging a bullet.”

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
12:29 pm

I’m just getting the feeling that some dudes really expect “exclusive” behavior and benefits from jump though they probably aren’t doing the same. It seems they also automatically label a lady that’s not sitting at home waiting on him to ride up on his horse, a ho.

Double standard

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
12:31 pm

I’m just getting the feeling that some dudes really expect “exclusive” behavior and benefits from jump though they probably aren’t doing the same. It seems they also automatically label a lady that’s not sitting at home waiting on him to ride up on his horse, a ho.

ding ding ding…and there you have it.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
12:33 pm

Raqi V: I’m not acting all brand new… I have standards that only I myself can hold myself to and I can not answer for other men as to why they don’t have similar standards for themselves. So what other men do with their w@ng is non of my concern so as long as its not with the woman I’m dating. :D

LL411

April 27th, 2011
12:33 pm

Story…. Met guy, he called and wanted to play a “game” you could only pass on 3 questions (HUH?).
Mind you I’m 45+, and I’m like uh, ok?. I had no idea that’s how some people “get to know” (he’s was like late 20’s early 30’s), after a few questions I cut him off and told him I’m of an era where real conversation will reveal everything you need to know. He got angry that I wouldn’t play along and insisted that that was how his friend found a perfect match… WHATEVER!

Wifey

April 27th, 2011
12:34 pm

No, it is definately, positively NOT a job interview. It’s a DATE. Remeber when people used to go on those? You find out with casual, pleasant, conversation watching the way he/she looks at you, seeing any signals she does or puts out and the chemistry. it’s not a situation where you go down a check list in your notebook with a “Yep, Yep, Nope, Yep, Nope, Yep,….). You find out by just experiencing, feeling and listening. For gosh sakes, just make it a medical examination while you’re at it and ask for school transcripts and banking records. If someone was like that, we wouldn’t even make it past the seating part at the restaurant.

And I can see it in the bedroom “Missionary-yep, a WHAT?-definately not, French kiss-have you brushed your teeth yet?. snuggling-have you shaved your legs?”. Thanks, but DEFINATLT no thanks.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
12:35 pm

@Cel/Kimmie

Objection: assuming facts not in evidence.

If I haven’t told you about a rotation, do not assume there is one.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
12:35 pm

I forget who said this early in the blog but it bears repeating: If you’re in a FWB, then you should not be dating, period. and that goes for both sexes male and female.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
12:36 pm

Dan: please repeat that: :D

Objection: assuming facts not in evidence.

If I haven’t told you about a rotation, do not assume there is one.

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
12:36 pm

Better to ask what you want to know rather than come to your own conclusions. Facts are facts and are not based on emotions or assumptions.

Why didn’t you call me?
Because I thought you were a whore!
You should have asked.

(and that is not gender specific)

DJ Sniper

April 27th, 2011
12:37 pm

Dan, which post were you referring to?

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
12:37 pm

See Dan, if we are not trying to get in her pants, some think there must be a rotation when in face we are actually taking things slow and easy

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
12:37 pm

Dan – And if she haven’t told you nor will tell you, you shouldn’t assume she’s got one either.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
12:38 pm

Judy: Are you seeing/sleeping with other people?
Joe: Weeeeellll…….I have a few friends that I hang out with sometimes, but it’s nothing serious. I mean, I ain’t got no girlfriend or nothing.
Judy’s now thinking: Yeah. He’s sleeping with at least one of those chicks and at least one of them thinks she’s his girlfriend. Let’s see how this is gonna play out.

********

Joe: Are you seeing/sleeping with other people?
Judy: There’s someone that I’ve been seeing, but I don’t see it going anywhere. In fact, I haven’t seen him in a couple of weeks.
Joe is now thinking: Yeah, she fckn buddy. But…he must not be putting it on her good or he got another girl and it ain’t her turn. I’ma try her out, but I’ma have to watch her too. She prolly a ho.e.”

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
12:39 pm

Dan said he wanted to know and if they didn’t have the talk he would assume something was amiss. Dan it goes both ways. If you don’t have rotation and know that as fact and feel you shouldn’t be accused you should apply that same thought process to someone before grilling them or because they won’t allow the grilling. Doesn’t means she’s guilty, she just may feel you’re not entitled to know.

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
12:41 pm

Dan – This is real life, not a court of law. For my protection, I’m going to assume any healthy normal man I meet is dating others. Not laying up with a different one every night he’s not seeing me, but leading a normal single life. When we get to know each other and decide we want to build something, then that’s where things change. Not that hard. You keep talking about after you’ve decided you want to build a life with someone. At that point if she’s still seeing others, you walk. That’s a no-brainer and not what I’m talking about.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
12:41 pm

And really if she is hoeing or FWBing and sees you as possibly the one, honestly you think she’ll tell you? Seriously? So again I would ask how would you know….really?

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
12:43 pm

Cel – exactly.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
12:43 pm

And really what right does anyone have to tell someone who they can or cannot see just do date you? You are just dating. Only when you are at the point of wanting a relationship with that person should ask that person to make certain provisions for you.

And better yet find someone that is better suited for you if you find are wanting them to make drastic changes and/or certain parts of their lifestyles does not coincide with what you like or want.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
12:44 pm

SexyCool: hey if that’s what you think that’s going on then, it is, in your world, not mine.
all men are not dogs, and all men are not cold-hearted, calculating, only wanna-fck-machines.
just like all women are not manipulative, deciteful, controling who_res.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
12:45 pm

I know…it’s a boatload of dudes that possess these Cal Lightman/Lie to Me skills…they know a lie when they *see* one.

Wifey

April 27th, 2011
12:45 pm

Right Celisea. I could tell you everytime you ask the question that I’ve only been with one man my entire life…but I’d be lying. But how would you know unless you hired a PI to investigate.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
12:47 pm

MikeP – I didn’t say they were…in fact, I intended to post a disclaimer as those two scenarios being examples of the damaged thinking that is one unfortunate result of the state of dating/relationships in today’s society.

And if you will remember, I initially stated (as you agreed with and REstated) that anyone actively involved in an FWB arrangement should not be dating someone else with the intent of entering into a serious relationship.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
12:47 pm

SexyCool, is this BigBooty Judy that you keep referring to? LOL

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
12:47 pm

SCool – abc says all women lie anyway!LOL!!

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
12:49 pm

honestly you think she’ll tell you? Seriously?

Like DUH, do they really believe that she would. LOL

abc

April 27th, 2011
12:49 pm

For me, a chick that was dating more than one guy at a time seemed frivolous, a turn-off. Not my type. Maybe some folks don’t mind that sort of thing, but if I was interested in a chick, I was interested, and if she wasn’t likewise interested, I’d leave it alone. I was never inclined to try and sell myself to anyone. I suppose you might call it a requirement of real chemistry.

Chink

April 27th, 2011
12:49 pm

You see this is tricky because I have had a long term relationship with someone and I was hurt when I found out he was seeing others in the beginning after he told me he wasn’t..and we were just dating then.

Bottom line just tell the truth…

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
12:50 pm

He sure does, kimmie.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
12:52 pm

But alphabet man how would know she is seeing some other guy on a non-serious type of way? She could just be seeing him once every quarter for maintenance purposes while she look for the one. How would you know she had him and then ended it with him when you begin to grow on her?

DJ Sniper

April 27th, 2011
12:52 pm

Abc, so you’ve never been the type to date more than one woman at a time?

Chink

April 27th, 2011
12:52 pm

Abc ..I agree with ya

Hey is Big Booty Judy from a movie or something..not the first time I heard that.

abc

April 27th, 2011
12:53 pm

And really if she is hoeing or FWBing and sees you as possibly the one, honestly you think she’ll tell you? Seriously? So again I would ask how would you know….really?

Now, yall can call me out on it, but on the same page you back up what I’m saying. Of course, a man can’t expect a chick to tell him the truth about anything she doesn’t want to tell. It’s just the way chicks are, and by leading their lives by this principle, are adept enough at lying that most people can’t tell. Men, on the other hand, suck at lying.

You may as well not bother asking about the number or relationship history or anything else. Just go with your gut, guys. But me, if I felt like asking, I’d just ask.

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
12:55 pm

@kimmie ~ but we know better. :wink:

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
12:57 pm

abc – C’mon every breathing being knows the trait of lying for a man is in his dna.

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
12:57 pm

Leggs – Like I said earlier, me thinks the double standard is in full effect here!

abc

April 27th, 2011
12:58 pm

No, I’m not the type to deal with more than 1 woman at a time. I can’t say I never did, but I can say that I didn’t like it, and it wasn’t a persistent condition. But then, I never had a relationship that took a long time to get off the ground. They were all at high altitude pretty much from the start. It makes sense to me — if we weren’t really really interested in each other, I wouldn’t have wasted my time and effort on them.

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
12:58 pm

“You may as well not bother asking about the number or relationship history or anything else. Just go with your gut” Pray tell, how do you do that? Unless she’s a virgin it’s safe to say she’s been in a few relationship over the course of her life.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
12:59 pm

DJ Sniper: Abc, so you’ve never been the type to date more than one woman at a time?

I can’t answer for abc, but I would like to answer this one: I have never dated more than one person at a time. Now mind you, I’ve entertained the idea if my current doesn’t pan out and I’ve already decided she has no future with me then I might go look up the girl who flirted with me and gave me her number (without me asking for it). But have never dated one girl while dating another a week later. I focus dating one at a time.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
12:59 pm

Oh man…did y’all see the video of that cop punching that chick in IHOP over the weekend? He cold-cocked that ass. (lol) The video that they had on Channel 11 was a clearer shot of the punch than the one they had on Channel 2. He’s about to have some problems.

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
1:00 pm

Yes indeed, yes indeed. It’s funny to read that a man would assume a woman is in a relationship or sleeping with someone even if she says she’s not. That was weird.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
1:01 pm

I did and without fully knowing allllll the details, she threw back a few good blows of her own….good for her.

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
1:01 pm

Now, that’s what you call, going around the mulberry bush to answer the question…the answer is YES!

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
1:03 pm

I just think men should realize when you have all these hoops and requirements, more often than not you’re getting told what you want to hear. Like Leggs said, unless you’re her first or the other extreme she’s got a hole like the abyss….you know what she reveals and tells.

Willie Dynamite

April 27th, 2011
1:04 pm

Afternoon All,

I am a little surprised at some of the responses today. IMO I think alot of folks are quite naive. The ratio of folks only dating 1 person at a time i would guess is very small. These same folks however are in the same pool as folks dating multiples, yet they are looking for that 2nd needle in the haystack. I don’t and wont bash them for having their standards set at that level. The rest of us on the otherhand seem somewhat presumptuos in that we believe that every other single person IS dating multiples.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
1:05 pm

And while I do buy into the notion that how people truly are will surface, I’ve also seen women that was a bit loose and met the one and got their act together. Because they’re intentions to go straight was one of the heart, they didn’t fall back into that “loose” lifestyle….silly rabbits

DJ Sniper

April 27th, 2011
1:05 pm

Chink, Big Booty Judy was a character played by Buffy the Body in the movie “ATL”. You can guess why she got the part. Thankfully, it wasn’t a speaking role. lol

Abc, please tell me you don’t actually ask a woman how many men she’s been with.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
1:07 pm

Ya’ll remember “Best Man?” Yeah, like that. She was all virtuous but had gotten her own revenge and he was none the wiser until somebody told. Otherwise he would have thought he married ms pure as the driven snow. I know it was a movie but it was a depiction of how things sometimes truly are.

Sassy Me :-)

April 27th, 2011
1:07 pm

Oh man…did y’all see the video of that cop punching that chick in IHOP over the weekend? He cold-cocked that ass.

I saw that video this morning and was like :shock: I had to look at it twice to notice that before he punched her, he slapped her….that’s when she started swinging but that cop punched her right square in the face. They might try to get her on obstruction of justice or some other charge but APD is about to get sued outta the wazzooo.

He must’ve thought afterwards that I done fked up

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
1:07 pm

My niece has big booty judy on her fb page…ummm, can you say ghetto

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 27th, 2011
1:10 pm

Annnnnnd this is one of the reasons I don’t even bother to ask the question. Who has the time to be playing detective, trying to figure out if someone is lying? But if there was something I did want to know, and I felt that it was important for me to know, then I’d just ask. At the end of the day I’m the only one responsible for my choices. So, f%$& you if you get offended by my asking. Likewise, you have can ask me anything you want. Not saying I’ll never be offended, but I’m a big boy and I’ll get over it. I respect your need to look out for self as much as my own.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
1:11 pm

So, f%$& you if you get offended by my asking.

Wow Dreams…for real?

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
1:12 pm

Dreams – You’re turning into a meanie :(

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
1:12 pm

And as long as a potential partner is disease free, focused on you and the budding relationship and behaving accordingly, why does the past have to be the dealbreaker?

For some reason, this reminds me of that joke that says, “I may not be a virgin, but I still got the box it came in.” (lol)

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
1:13 pm

You’re right, Sass…that roundhouse hook was preceded by a pimp.slap.

DJ Sniper

April 27th, 2011
1:14 pm

LMAO@ SexyCool’s joke!!!!!!

I’m with you on that. As long as she didn’t have the clap and her exploits weren’t on video for the free world to see, I wasn’t all that uptight about her past. As I said earlier, play your cards right, and you could end up with your own personal porn star:)

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
1:16 pm

Celisea:

Dreams – You’re turning into a meanie :(

but that was real talk :)

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
1:19 pm

hey why are my posts are not being updated…
I am not saying anything offensive here… :(

Chink

April 27th, 2011
1:19 pm

But we are not talking about the past we are talking about the present!

If you are presently dating anyone else.. presently sleeping with someone…etc

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
1:19 pm

Shuddup Mike P…lol

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
1:20 pm

And to again bring it back around to speak to the specific topic, I would expect that a single and dating person is actively dating. Does that mean I think they have a rotation? No. It just means that I would not have an issue with them doing so.

But dating other people doesn’t automatically translate to sleeping with other people.

Does that mean that I want to knowingly be involved with someone who is currently sexually active with another individual? Heckie naw. Because that means that you are not fully available to explore a relationship with me. So, keep doing what you’re doing over there. And…if/when/if all that is over, holla back. I may or may not still be available and/or interested.

Geechee

April 27th, 2011
1:21 pm

Hey, does having an affair count as dating more than one person at a time?

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
1:21 pm

DJ Sniper: some of us are spiritual people, which will not be discounted.
it takes a certain spirit for a person to be a porn star… i will have none of that, no thank you.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
1:23 pm

LOL at still having the box.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
1:23 pm

Celisea: lol :D

Sassy Me :-)

April 27th, 2011
1:23 pm

Roundhouse hook is right SC and the pimp slap started it all…I’m sure he’s been placed on
admimistrative leave WITH pay” while it’s beng investigated. Lil Becky n her lawyer are gonna rack up on this one…

As long as she didn’t have the clap and her exploits weren’t on video for the free world to see, I wasn’t all that uptight about her past.

more real talk…

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 27th, 2011
1:24 pm

Wow Dreams…for real?

Dreams – You’re turning into a meanie

Awwww Celisea I don’t think that’s mean. I’m just saying that there are situations where what you don’t know CAN hurt you. You are well within your rights to ask whatever questions you “feel” you need to ask if you think you can get the answers. Sure people can always lie, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t ask. You KNOW men are the masters at the “you didn’t ask me that” tactic. I’m not saying that you should be disregarding another person’s feelings, but the truth is that (no matter how diplomatic you think you are), you can’t control whether someone will get offended. Would “offending” someone keep you from asking if they had a STD? I bet not.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
1:24 pm

Geechee – We usually allow the trolls to roam the top of the morning. You default to troll status when you

1. Ask an asinine questions

2. Already know the answer

3. Trying too hard to be funny

4. Trying too hard…period

5. Disrupting the flow

Oh, maybe I shouldn’t say that. I have been told this is not my blog.. :(

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
1:25 pm

How come what we expected to be a grey gloomy day looks to have turned out to be rather pleasant? :sad:

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
1:25 pm

question…singular

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
1:25 pm

And even if you are currently sexually active with another individual, it’s not going to be my business or my concern until I decide whether or not I have more than a passing interest in you or if I am going to be sleeping with you myself.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
1:26 pm

All in all everyone has the right to ask whatever they want to know.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
1:26 pm

Spiritual folk got freak in ‘em too.

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
1:27 pm

As long as you value and respect yourself, one will be fine. As soon as you start to compromise your standards is the exact moment you lose self respect.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
1:28 pm

raqi: r u unhappy about the pleasant-ness?

Chink

April 27th, 2011
1:28 pm

Spiritual folk got freak in ‘em too.

Yeah like some pastors…

DJ Sniper

April 27th, 2011
1:28 pm

Mike, I wasn’t talking about an actual porn star, as in one who actually does movies. I said “your own personal porn star”, meaning a woman who is exclusive to you and will serve you up like the chicks do in the movies.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
1:28 pm

Sassy – Becky – exactly – white chick/white cop – it is the outrage heard around the world. I’m sure she will be making the morning news show/talk show circuit appearances in the next few days.

Willie Dynamite

April 27th, 2011
1:29 pm

Spiritual folk got freak in ‘em too

Its that holier than thou pent up energy waiting to explode. I must admit its quite pleasurable being on the receiving end. hahaha

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
1:31 pm

I agree wit ya 100% purple rain

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
1:31 pm

MikeP, I am unhappy that we postponed our day at the lake because it looked like the weather was going to be rather gloomy.

Back from Diva imposed Exile

April 27th, 2011
1:31 pm

Dan,PR,ABC….all on point!

But to be honest,i tended to just put the other chics on lay-a-way,the moment I began to spend more time with the serious one.
They then went on to officially drop themselves off,withouting me having to mouth anything to them..

Its a poker trick…

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
1:32 pm

I’m sure she will be making the morning news show/talk show circuit appearances in the next few days.

Yep on her way to being the next Reality TV show star.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 27th, 2011
1:33 pm

All in all everyone has the right to ask whatever they want to know.
Raqi Exactly……….unless you wanna know about that time in Tijuana. lol

Spiritual folk got freak in ‘em too.
SexyC Say it ain’t soooooo. lol

Mike, I wasn’t talking about an actual porn star, as in one who actually does movies.
DJ So, a reformed/born-again Heather Hunter or Janet Jackme is out of the question? lol

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
1:34 pm

DreamsMat, or Vegas. :lol:

Enough Already

April 27th, 2011
1:36 pm

Welcome back, Me.lo!

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 27th, 2011
1:37 pm

DreamsMat, or Vegas.
Raqi Speaking of…I need to make a trip out there. lol

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
1:37 pm

You KNOW men are the masters at the “you didn’t ask me that” tactic.

Dreams – Yep, like that dude I dated for a year before I found out, thru my cousin, that he had a 4 year old daughter. When I asked him about it, he said I never asked him if he had kids! :shock:
Dreams, would I have to ask you, a grown man, whether or not you had kids? Wouldn’t you volunteer the information? But he had no relationship with her, not even a picture of her up in his house. He just sent a check every month.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
1:38 pm

Purp – that reminds of a line from the movie that Cel mentioned earlier – The Best Man – Which is actually a quote from Audre Lorde.

“If you don’t define yourself for yourself, you’ll be crunched into other people’s fantasies for you and eaten alive.”

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
1:39 pm

kimmie, I guess him only sending a check was like him sending off his power bill in mail. smh

Back from Diva imposed Exile

April 27th, 2011
1:41 pm

EA..thanks..glad to be back!

DJ Sniper

April 27th, 2011
1:43 pm

LOL@ Dreams!!!!! Now I gotta go and download some old videos of those two when I get home. lmao

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
1:45 pm

Raqi – You are right about that! He said the woman came up after they had broken up with a 2 year old. Did the DNA and she was his. Now just sends a check. I asked him about it & he just shrugged.

Geechee

April 27th, 2011
1:49 pm

@Celisea: It’s your blog if you want it to be, but really “troll”. That’s kind of harsh, like Fion harsh. But in the end, I’m guilty of #1, #2 & #5 and you called me on it.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
1:50 pm

@Sniper

The one where you agreed with ole girl about “dude shooting themselves in the foot”, we choosing each other; my say matters just as much as hers.

@Kimmie/Cel

I don’t assume anything. I believe what you tell me until it’s proven otherwise [remember Dan's a cards up player]. And if you feel as if you need/want to lie to me, I’ll take that into consideration too.

If the truth is you getting knocked while we’re seeing each other, tell me, allow me to make an informed decision. If the truth is you put buddy on hold, tell me that too.

But if you (again the nebulous you, not personal toward anyone) feel like I don’t “deserve” to know, then you don’t deserve me.

#truthmatters/hurts

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
1:57 pm

And to the point about “why I’m asking” – because I want to know, I care.

If I didn’t, I stay strapped, you keep the info, and we ain’t got to worry about getting that close.

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
1:57 pm

WOW, men acting like this action from a girl/woman is truly unacceptable, but they do it all the times. Up until they too decide she’s the one he wants to concentrate on spending true quality time with. Bet no in all cases the dude put that S on his chest and had that heart to heart right off the bat like so many are saying the woman should do.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
1:59 pm

Leggs – it’s the same reasoning that calls for an unfaithful man to be forgiven and an unfaithful woman to be dumped.

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
2:01 pm

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
2:04 pm

DreamsMat, does your bar serve non-alcoholic vodka or scotch? My friend is having a small dilemma and I want to buy her a drink. However I will not support her habit therefore it not is going be a virtual drink but alcohol free also. LOL

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 27th, 2011
2:04 pm

LOL@ Dreams!!!!! Now I gotta go and download some old videos of those two when I get home.
DJ Me too! lol

Dreams, would I have to ask you, a grown man, whether or not you had kids? Wouldn’t you volunteer the information?
kimmie You already know how I feel about mine. I hold mine up and proclaim her to the world, proudly. The dude you’re talking about probably is the loser he seemed to be, but I have known dudes who have been through the ringer trying to be involved in their kids’ lives and had pretty much given up the fight. It’s a real sad sight actually. You can see the misery and sadness on his face everyday.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
2:04 pm

They can dish it but they can’t take it.

Back from Diva imposed Exile

April 27th, 2011
2:06 pm

Leggs..u know we cant change anything now…that double standard is now an accepted standard since the dawn of time…from the time of Abraham….

a woman that shanks more than one man at a time is a w***re….a man is a player..u chics even gave guys a hipper(wrd) adjective! lol

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
2:07 pm

Exactly, SexyC/Raqi V. And for the record, this is not me dumping on men. The dbl standard is rampant in these har parts!

(Everyone excuse my typing on my previous post)!

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
2:08 pm

It’s the same reasoning that says I can sleep with 700 women and be a “stud”, she sleeps with 5 and is a wh0re (by society’s standards).

I live in this world, I didn’t make it.

And, the D don’t hold to that “reasoning” neither.

If you dealing with a dude, just let me know; it doesn’t stand to follow that I’m going to bounce. But the fact that you have the confidence and character to give that info will likely make me want to stay and get to know you better.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
2:08 pm

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
2:09 pm

Leggs/SCool – Too many times in discussions on here women are accused of getting too serious too quick. Assuming that just because she & a dude have gone out a few times and maybe had sex, they are now an item. That we want to get exclusive too quick.

All I think we are really saying is, a date or 2 is too soon to be getting very personal and expecting exclusive boyfriend/girlfriend rights. Most of the time, if a person is on the up and up, and really feeling you, the others get kicked to the curb naturally. You are too occupied with getting to know this person you like to make time for all the other hangers-on. There may be a few stranglers still texting and calling, but you shouldn’t even have time for others if you have a full life already. Plus I thought a FWB situation was someone you called every now and then when you’re in a drought or between relationships. Not much closure needed there, unless one of you were hoping that FWB was gonna turn into something serious.

This just isn’t that hard, people.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 27th, 2011
2:10 pm

DreamsMat, does your bar serve non-alcoholic vodka or scotch?
Raqi That’s the beauty of the blog bar…you can have any drink you like…without the effects. lol Non-alcoholic scotch coming up. I can guarantee that she won’t experience any chemically induced drunkeness, but I make no promises on placebo effect. ;-)

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
2:10 pm

Spiritual folk got freak in ‘em too.

Yep, shole do :)

Geechee – Your right…that was harsh..not Fion harsh though. He started spazzing out all because no one would agree with his opinion. Until then I thought he was pretty cool.

Hey MMEELLOO – What happened to my CDs you burned for me?

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
2:10 pm

@Back ~ and because the dbl standard has been around since the dawn of time, it’s not fair for the men to come on here badmouthing woman and her scandalous, ho acting ways, when they do it. Acknowledge the dbl standard and STFU. That’s all, Mister Magoo!

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
2:11 pm

Here, here – kimmie.

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
2:12 pm

Not calling you Mister Magoo, Back. Just a cartoon reference!

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
2:12 pm

“I can sleep with 700 women”……um, yeah….hope your Dick.Johnson doesn’t fall off. (loL)

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
2:12 pm

Dreams – I hear you. Except I assure you this was not a case of a dude who really wanted to see his child and couldn’t. That’s what got to me. Even though the child obviously was not planned, there seemed to not be even a small part of him that wanted anything to do with her. He said he didn’t have any feeling toward her.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
2:13 pm

Assuming that just because she & a dude…

kimmie, exactly. But you know I accepted long time ago that some things will just be. And too certain double standards I have no desire to want to match a man on.

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
2:14 pm

@Back, for the record, Diva said she never banned you.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 27th, 2011
2:14 pm

Hey Mel to the lo. Glad to have you back. You can see I been campaigning for your release the whole time.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
2:14 pm

@Kimmie – agreed

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
2:15 pm

My new coworker is 31. He walked up on me taking a pad out of my drawer and couldn’t speak after that. Then when I came out of the rest room he was waiting for me…huh? He said why did it take you so long…and finished with oh, never mind. Ummm, dude you’re a man you have a mama and a sister and HOPEFULLY a woman. By 31 you should be aware of the trappings of womanhood.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 27th, 2011
2:17 pm

He said he didn’t have any feeling toward her.
kimmie then she’s better off without him. his treatment of her would reflect his resentment.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
2:18 pm

And too certain double standards I have no desire to want to match a man on.

Meeeee either.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
2:18 pm

If a man has sleep with 700 women he needs to better his loving skills to match his talk. Obviously those that he has slept with is not going back for more leaving time for him to go disappoint another.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
2:19 pm

Guess not, welcome back Me.lo

Blackfoote

April 27th, 2011
2:19 pm

Kimmie well said, some things are not anybodys business after a couple dates it has to have time to ferment. Overtime the rest of the crowd will become extinct.

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
2:21 pm

@Celisea ~ really, is he gay? Just heard gayness reading your post. What man waits for a woman outside a rest room, asks what took so long, then say’s nevamind?

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
2:22 pm

@Raqi

Not true (see also, facts not in evidence), 700 women (an exageration obviously) is not that difficult:

365 days in a year x 15 years = a possible 5475 “encounters”

making 700 a small percentage of what he could’ve done.

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
2:23 pm

Raqi – Me don’t want to match those either!

Dreams – You are right, she’s better off. It would be a tough thing to have to explain to a child, or adult later, though.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
2:23 pm

hope your Dick.Johnson doesn’t fall off. (loL)

Yeah and you know that’s about the time when they want to go get boo’d up wanting some nurturing woman to love and respect their tired worn out behinds.

Blackfoote

April 27th, 2011
2:23 pm

Zulu that you what up bring that fire back.

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
2:24 pm

Celisea – That’s weird! :shock:

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
2:24 pm

Leggs – My gaydar kicked in long ago but last week he was trying to convince me otherwise saying when he gets married he wants to wake up to a made up face…that in and of itself confirmed for me. That also spoke to me revealing he ain’t NEVER went at it….with a woman.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
2:24 pm

*even with repeat business

@Cel – if he walked past and let one rip (pooooot) and told you “You’re over 30, you should be aware of male issues” would that be okay?

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
2:26 pm

Kimmie – Not often at I at a loss for words but I almost didn’t know what to say when I saw him lurking outside the bathroom. Then he seemed surprised. LOLOL…AAAAND he said, I came around here (the hallway where the bathroom located) twice…then the “what took you so long” jumped out. I said it too…

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
2:26 pm

… a possible 5475 “encounters

Exactly proving my point that obvious the first 75 did not feel compelled to go there again leaving another day him to get with number 76, 77, 78…5475.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 27th, 2011
2:27 pm

Ok Ladies I must be reading comments in a blog bizzaro world because I’m not getting from the guys what you all are getting. All of the guys who have said that they would ask the question have also said that they 1) do not keep a rotation, 2) date one woman at a time, 3) would not have a FWB while pursuing someone else. So, they expect the same from the women they are pursuing. So, what’s all this “men acting like this action from a girl/woman is truly unacceptable, but they do it all the times”, “it’s the same reasoning that calls for an unfaithful man to be forgiven and an unfaithful woman to be dumped.”, “They can dish it but they can’t take it.”? If you’re generalizing, then maybe these things are true, but speaking specifically to the men who have posted here, there is no double standard being presented. Now, if you’re saying you don’t believe them, then that’s something different entirely.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
2:27 pm

Dan – @Cel – if he walked past and let one rip (pooooot) and told you “You’re over 30, you should be aware of male issues” would that be okay?

I don’t know why but I’m rolling at this statement….can barely type…from laughing so hard. You sound offended

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
2:28 pm

Well he may want to marry a woman that thinks along the lines of Whitley. Remember when she would wake up a good 2 hrs before Dwayne Wayne and put her makeup on and jump back in bed. BAM, he wakes up to the beautiful, already madeup woman. Not real at all. Yeah, dude doesn’t know women.

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
2:28 pm

MeeeLoooo! “Wonder Twins Activate” I Micheal you Tito!!!!

Welcome Back!

There are times on here when the men have double standards but not as often as the times when the women on here do. So get used to it, it’s not an even playing field.

Becky= white girl? I guess that’s cool but I wonder…………..

Back from Diva imposed Exile

April 27th, 2011
2:29 pm

Hey Sexxy..i got them Celisea/Leggs

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
2:30 pm

Dreams, they are using transitive relation without the application of logic. LOL

DreamsMaterialize

April 27th, 2011
2:30 pm

Back, for the record, Diva said she never banned you.
Leggs So, why can’t we type his name? What’s that all about?

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
2:31 pm

Celisea, sorry for hanging out outside your bathroom…sniffing the air as you opened the door.

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
2:32 pm

Dreams – I’m generalizing, I admit it. And pulling from memories of past blog discussions over the years.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
2:33 pm

Purp – this is another one of those phrases that you apparently just aren’t familiar with. It’s really no different than knowing that when you type “Shaniqua” or “She-NayNay” they are most likely NOT referring to a blue eyed blond….

but then again, with some folks, you could be. (lol)

Blackfoote

April 27th, 2011
2:33 pm

LOL……@Purple

Lord Velonese

April 27th, 2011
2:33 pm

Withholding any information that is need to know, is sure fire way of knowing the person in question is no good, and should be let go of Immediately. I am glad I’ll never meet some of you sheesh.

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
2:34 pm

Dreams, I agree something had to happen because we can not type his name, ever. BUt you know how women do, something happens that they know they did and they will deny deny deny and that is still not considered a lie. LOL

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
2:34 pm

Diva is not the only one who moderates this blog. She may be the only moderator commenting, but she is not the only one watching it.

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
2:34 pm

Dreams – Plus no, I don’t buy these dudes are as pure as the driven snow! :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

April 27th, 2011
2:34 pm

but then again, with some folks, you could be. (lol)
SexyC True because I know a white woman named Laquetta. lol

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
2:36 pm

That’s what I kind of thought too. The blog has an AJC regulated filter that is probably out of Wise’s control.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
2:37 pm

@Cel

Not offended, but the suffrage movement and Women’s Lib says that you’re an equal; by all rights and priviledges there in: if he’s to accept unequivically your physical needs as a woman, then you should accept his equally.

POooooot

Back from Diva imposed Exile

April 27th, 2011
2:37 pm

Hey Dan…

but on topic..dont u guys and girls ask this elementary question when u first meet somebody,”are u seeing someone?”..If the answer is “NO’,then its safe for me to assume,she aint FWBenefiting anybody.
If she she says Yes,then assume she may be feeling u but proly eaglespreading for another tho..

Fair?

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
2:37 pm

Sexy Cool, I just know without a doubt if I used “Shaniqua or She Nay Nay” on here referencing a woman. implying she was black, I would be slammed hard. So I was just wondering. LOL

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
2:37 pm

Anyone remember that episode of Martin, when Tommy kept talking about this woman he was dating named Aquanetta? Everyone was surprised when she turned out to be Swiss!! LOL!!

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
2:38 pm

“….sniffing the air as you opened the door.” He probably back doors it so he likes the smell of crap! (I know, I know, just nasty)!

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
2:38 pm

From the article about the IHOP incident – “Her friend, Roberta Caban, said the officer never identified himself before the scrum.”

Yeah…no…the police uniform was not a clue.

Lord Velonese

April 27th, 2011
2:39 pm

P.S I really like to mess Christian women because they think because of their “Christian label” they are exempt from a lot of things, as a fellow Christian I’d like to point out how much BS is in that, same can go for men.

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
2:39 pm

I was about to type that, SexyC! She doesn’t have governing power over the blog.

Back from Diva imposed Exile

April 27th, 2011
2:40 pm

Dreams/ Swizz..thanks for ur efforts in keeping zulu alive

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
2:41 pm

Oh…and Sassy…looking at the picture that is on the front page of ajc.com…she looks like she could be bi-racial.

DreamsMaterialize

April 27th, 2011
2:41 pm

And pulling from memories of past blog discussions over the years.
kimmie Hey hey hey, I thought you all said the past was the past. lol

Diva is not the only one who moderates this blog. She may be the only moderator commenting, but she is not the only one watching it.
SexyC That’s like going with someone to break into a person’s house and then saying, “but I didn’t actually take anything, my partner did!”

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
2:43 pm

See how the ladies are covering for each other. Be leary it is almost Thursday I think they are setting up for another onslaught.

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
2:43 pm

Yeah…no…the police uniform was not a clue.

FUNNY!

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
2:43 pm

Actually, Dreams, it’s more like, “My husband says you aren’t welcome in OUR house. So, you can’t come over.”

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
2:44 pm

Leggs, no I didn’t like your crap after I back doored you. ( I know I know even nastier) LOL

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
2:46 pm

Did the officer hit her first or did she hit him first or who initiated physical contact first? The cop is definitely wrong in the situation, especially if he hit her first. If she hit him first the cop is still worng but she will still get an assualt charge in the least, because just because a person is not a cop does not mean you are free to hit them. I am not a lawyer but I do watch Law & Order, besides who wouldn’t want to punch a cop who was a little to big for his britches?

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
2:47 pm

No DreamsMat, it’s like blaming your supervisor that delivered the message when the Asst. Vice President is the one that actually fired you.

I would imagine the job of a moderator on a relationship blog is quite low on the scale of importance for AJC however maintaining a certain level of decency is at the very top. While they obviously welcome all participants, repeat offenders will eventually get dealt with.

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
2:48 pm

Exiled – What is your opinion about the below exchange:

Exiled: It’s been nice talking to you, Princess. Can I call you sometime?

Princess: Sure, I’d love that. So are you seeing anyone?

Exiled: No one serious. You?

Princess: No one serious either.

Now from that little exchange, what would you do? Do you ask further “what do you mean, no one serious?” That could mean you’ve got a rotation, a few FWB’s, just a few you hang out with, dating someone just to pass the time but looking for someone better, etc.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
2:49 pm

She first tried to push the officer off of the female who was with her. Then he slapped her and she started hitting him……..that’s when he came from down south on her.

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
2:50 pm

I thought you all said the past was the past. lol

Dreams – Not me! I remember! :lol:

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
2:50 pm

SexyCool, or like my husband telling me if one of my friends can’t come over without keeping up and starting a whole bushel of drama he stops that friend at the door.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
2:50 pm

Or tell her she is no longer invited.

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
2:50 pm

@PR ~ then why ya hanging around bathrooms sniffing the air? Apparently, you’ve become accustomed to some type of scent (LOL).

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
2:51 pm

Raqi, in your situation would not the supervisor know WHY the Asst Vice President was firing the person. Or were they just truley just walking in and saying “hey, you are fired..I don’t know what happened or why” and then just walking away?

Willie Dynamite

April 27th, 2011
2:51 pm

Kimmie – exactly

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
2:53 pm

Leggs, because I thought she was on her cycle. (how gross do you want to go?) LOL

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
2:54 pm

Even better analogy, Rock.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
2:55 pm

I didn’t post that to go left with the nasty…lol I was truly floored at his expression and the loss of words upon seeing a pad. Surely he’s aware of the a woman having a cycle and how all that plays into reproducing or not and the whole of it’s purpose….surely he knows that

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
2:55 pm

Well, APD must suck at training their cops or one just slipped through the cracks.

SlimNumeroUno

April 27th, 2011
2:56 pm

Howdy, howdy, howdy

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
2:58 pm

I think he’s a creep and probably a woman beater because of how reacted and pounced on that woman. Throwing blows like she was a man. It just “popped” off…no hesitency at all.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
2:59 pm

PurpleR, who said the supervisor doesn’t know why you got canned? What difference does that make? The point is while the super may stand over you while you work the AVP is the one that has the power to put you out should you refuse to obey the rules.

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
2:59 pm

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
3:00 pm

Exiled – Again to your 2;37 – These days it’s really not enough to ask someone if they are seeing someone. You need to straight up ask them if they are married too!

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
3:01 pm

@Cel

My point is, whether or not something is common, doesn’t mean it’s commonly shared.

Of course women have periods, even gheys know this, but walking around with a pad around your neck like a Roc-a-fella chain is a little too far.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
3:02 pm

And PurpleR, the supervisor is not obligated to you but to the one that he answers to. So if the AVP did the firing himself, which seems to be what happened, the supervisor even if aware of why does not owe you an explanation.

DreamsMaterialize

April 27th, 2011
3:02 pm

Actually, Dreams, it’s more like, “My husband says you aren’t welcome in OUR house. So, you can’t come over.”
SexyC Further illustrates my point. Your husband saying it is the same as you saying it. Most times you’re probably saying your husband said it as a way of you not having to be the one who said it. lol

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
3:03 pm

It matters because Wise is our “rep/face of the blog” so when asked what happened and the response was “I did not ban or block him” and the fact is that he was banned or atleast name blocked a better answer should be given or some research done. But I guess “wasn’t me” is sufficient. That is just my opinion.

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
3:06 pm

@PR ~ UUUGGGGHHH!!!

@Celisea ~ I know you didn’t. Was only commenting on him sniffing the air and wondering WHY?

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
3:06 pm

PurpleR, you are wrong. When you work for someone you do as you are told when it comes to their business. She never stated she does not know why he got banned but the fact is she did not do it , she stated that and she owes him nor anyone else an explanation.

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
3:06 pm

Okay Dan, LOL

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
3:08 pm

@Dan ~ what in the heck made you post that???

Willie Dynamite

April 27th, 2011
3:08 pm

I’ll jump in and ask a simple question. Not to take a jab at Zulu but honestly does it matter who actually banned him? I mean whose faut is it you ran that stop sign 100 times and on the 101st time agot a ticket? Then you blame the cop. Really?

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
3:10 pm

Raqi, you think like a woman and I am right! Anyone getting fired has a right to know why they get fired even in a right to work state

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
3:12 pm

Then they need to go ask the one that fired them. Period.

Now that’s thinking like someone with commonsense.

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
3:12 pm

Willie D, stop bro I am having fun. LOL But doesn’t a cop give you a ticket for traffic offenses or a list of charges when you are arrested. LOL

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
3:12 pm

WillieD, I have tried twice to agree with you put the blogmaster will not allow it. LOL

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
3:12 pm

I don’t know too many people who get fired without at least having a clue as to why without anybody telling them.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
3:13 pm

While let me just say you “fun” is coming off as ignorance.

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
3:13 pm

Commonsense would tell you that there is only one representative of leadership on here and there is no access to the others.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
3:14 pm

SexyCool, or already knowing. Most places are required to give you a few warnings.

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
3:14 pm

I don’t know too many people who get fired without at least having a clue as to why without anybody telling them.

SCool – They are in denial, with themselves. But they know!

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
3:15 pm

You or your? The typo kind of made your 3:13 lose the intended effect of mentioning ignorance.

Willie Dynamite

April 27th, 2011
3:16 pm

ok I’ll ask a different ?. Was anyone surprised that Zulu got banned?

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
3:17 pm

But hey, all is well because ” he wasn’t banned” LOL

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
3:17 pm

Dan – but walking around with a pad around your neck like a Roc-a-fella chain is a little too far.

Go back and re-read oh intelligent one. I said as I opened the drawer (that holds my purse), I was pulling out a pad when he approached. He was the one at a loss for worse upon said pad exiting purse. That’s nowhere near dangling from my neck.

Back from Diva imposed Exile

April 27th, 2011
3:18 pm

EXILED? Me..

Kimmie..from that exchange, i take it she has some rotation(s),so the moment we are on date two and she is kissing me or talking about feeling me,im pressing her on the “serious” codes she dropped and telling her to clean house,never mind “exclusive” has not come in the vocab. Othwerwise if she’s hesitant, i put her on rotation 897! lol

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
3:18 pm

Willie D, my answer to that is “No” .

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
3:18 pm

Kimmie, yep. And when the “supervisor” warn you of you offending actions your nose at them for delivering a message they as an employee also has been instructed to give.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
3:19 pm

Surprised is not the word I care to use. LOL

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
3:20 pm

This whole IHOP issue is an example of why I don’t really agree with municipalities allowing off duty officers to work security jobs IN UNIFORM.

The actions that the officer took were not those of a policer ON DUTY enforcing the law. They were the actions of an employee of a business. However, because of his uniform, he is immediately seen as a police officer and the chick has now gotten punched out by a City of Atlanta police officer instead of an IHOP employee.

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
3:20 pm

Celisea, it caught him off guard at the desk, no clue about him outside of the bathroom though. That was strange.

Willie Dynamite

April 27th, 2011
3:21 pm

Zulu – banishment and exiles (Exiled like you Baby Doc or somebody) aside how was your trip abroad. Did you go Solo or with members or your immediate family? Any stories you care to share?

Back from Diva imposed Exile

April 27th, 2011
3:21 pm

I am not surprised, not sure who wld be…

but im offended that i got baned! lol

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
3:22 pm

MMEELLOO, we’re going to have to make arrangements for me to get my CDs. Can you drop in the mail?

Back from Diva imposed Exile

April 27th, 2011
3:24 pm

WD…home is alwzys best,they say….i had a hard time downloading..but thats another long story

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
3:25 pm

Sexy Cool, is APD responsible or IHOP or both? Do cops have to have a permit to work a second job or can they work where they want? That is a sticky situation, can an off duty cop make an arrest if he see’s a crime? I guess the cops would need to identify themselves if they are out of uniform.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
3:25 pm

SexyCool, be it employee or officer that dude was just throwing his weight around and overused his power of authority. From what I heard on the news she just placed her hand on his shoulder and he hit her.

Has there been a video yet that showed what transpired to make him even go over to her? The video I saw starts when she touched him then he hits her.

DreamsMaterialize

April 27th, 2011
3:27 pm

Whatever, the moderators are biased anyway. What they ban on this blog, they allow (probably support and encourage) ten times worse on other ajc blogs. Those same people we call “trolls” on here also post on some of the other blogs, and they fit right in. No banishment there.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
3:28 pm

Because I deplore the use of that acronym, though am tired of being misconstrued, I will end all future exaggerations/jokes with “haha”.

I thought the Roc-a-fella chain was enough to show that I was joking, dag

kimmie

April 27th, 2011
3:29 pm

Dreams – Yeah, especially on the political blogs. It is sick some of the comments that are allowed.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
3:29 pm

What they ban on this blog, they allow…ten times worse on other ajc

DreamsMat, have you ever heard the saying “When in my house you play by my rules?” or else be-gone-my-friend. It is what it is.

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
3:31 pm

Dreams you actually got a warning email before right?

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
3:32 pm

Dan – though am tired of being misconstrued, I will end all future exaggerations/jokes with “haha”.

Dan a simply smiley face or “lol” might take the edge off

abc

April 27th, 2011
3:32 pm

Abc, please tell me you don’t actually ask a woman how many men she’s been with.

No, but if I did, I’d expect to not be told the truth, so why bother? I can think of one chick that ever told me the truth, and I only asked her because she asked me first; and our numbers were about the same, so whatever. I was pretty active when a very young man. By the time I was 25 or so I figured out that getting laid was too easy, and didn’t mean much to me if all I was doing was booty call. The numbers didn’t clock up anywhere near as fast after that. Just the same, it’s pretty high; if I asked a chick and then she asked me, I’d rather not talk about it so much myself. ‘Course, I’d just give a straight answer. Straight answers to straight questions.

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
3:32 pm

Yes, I get that that’s what you’re saying but I still wanted to say that anyway :)

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
3:33 pm

And actually the acceptance of repeat offenses is not an argument worth me wanting to fit for.

Now if they banned Asians from the blog then I would be the first to say that’s not fair. Or if they banned the access from mobile devices I would say let’s protest. But fighting so that the allowing of severely breaking the rules can be accepted…naaah that’s not a battle I care to fight.

DreamsMaterialize

April 27th, 2011
3:33 pm

DreamsMat, have you ever heard the saying “When in my house you play by my rules?” or else be-gone-my-friend. It is what it is.
Raqi Except that the “rules” are that there are no rules except when selectively applied. If you want to tout your rules, then also tout your consistency in the implementation. Otherwise, they’re not rules at all.

Willie Dynamite

April 27th, 2011
3:35 pm

Dreams – agreed, it is literally a free for all on the other blogs. But dare i say IMO opinion its allowed because usually its of a racist tone. From my viewpoint it is much more allowed to be racist/prejudiced than to have open sexual talk so to speak. With that being said in the word of the great CeeLo Green from the mighty Goodie Mob. ‘These (FOLKS) dont owe you no explanation’

Back from Diva imposed Exile

April 27th, 2011
3:36 pm

post ur add Cee..

DreamsMaterialize

April 27th, 2011
3:37 pm

Dreams you actually got a warning email before right?
Purp Yeah, and my posts are pretty mild by most people’s standards.

Now if they banned Asians from the blog then I would be the first to say that’s not fair.
Raqi Even if they were murder-prone muslims? lol Sorry I couldn’t resist.

Willie Dynamite

April 27th, 2011
3:38 pm

hahaha good one

DreamsMaterialize

April 27th, 2011
3:39 pm

From my viewpoint it is much more allowed to be racist/prejudiced than to have open sexual talk so to speak.
WillieD You’re 100% on. That’s actually what the moderator told me when I brought up that very point. She said that they encourage free expression and opinion, but they draw the line at vulgarity. Apparently, there’s nothing vulgar about racism. lol

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
3:40 pm

Deplore is a strong word to use for the meek LOL (LOL).

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
3:40 pm

Speaking of Cee-Lo – I totally enjoyed that new show, The Voice, last night. And I don’t know how Javier Colon has gone virtually unnoticed for so long, but I bought his two albums on Amazon.com last night before the show was over.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
3:41 pm

DreamsMat, and that my dear is the advantage of being the owner of the house. My rules. LOL

If I allow you to enter my house wearing your shoes but tell WillieD he has to remove his…my house, my rules. :wink:

Chink

April 27th, 2011
3:41 pm

If you want to tout your rules, then also tout your consistency in the implementation

I likey…

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
3:42 pm

Even if they were murder-prone muslims?

Yep, even if. LOL

DreamsMaterialize

April 27th, 2011
3:42 pm

Speaking of Cee-Lo – I totally enjoyed that new show, The Voice
SexyC Yeah Cee-lo’s the man. I like the musical progression he’s made. I still think he’s way underrated though, well at least in the states.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
3:43 pm

Or free about sexual expression.

Solution, racist words to replace the “dirty ones”

C0ck = peckerwood (as I know my fairer skinned friends would get the joke)

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
3:44 pm

So since there are different standards on different blogs on this site, who sets the standards of rules for this “house”? Wouldn’t that person have knowledge and power to ban those who break them? I doubt each blog has one boss, but they do have supervisors who moderate them. What does moderate mean again?

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
3:46 pm

LMBO

I just almost IHOP-copped my daughter. She just walked up and stuck me with a push pin. It must have fallen on the floor when I was tacking up my grocery list.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
3:47 pm

Ladies – I need recommendations for a shoe brand and/or store. Since my new spot is about a quarter of a mile from the MARTA station, I walk to the station to take the train into work every day now.

I need transition my work shoe wardrobe from mostly higher heels to a lower, more comfortable height that I can walk to the station, remain professional, stylish and fashionable (not at all worried about sexy – I will save sexy for TheDude – lol.)

I have some Enzo’s, some Aigner’s and some Liz Claiborne’s, but trying to find similar shoes, in town, is proving difficult. I prefer not to shoe shop online, but…..

What do you suggest?

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
3:47 pm

@SexyC ~ I thought The Voice to be an excellent show. Very good singers. Frenchie was delighted when a Christina’s chair turned around. All she needed was one chair. The elation showed all over her face. Felt a little sorry for the 56 year old woman from NJ. No chairs…went home kicking rocks.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
3:47 pm

Dreams – IMO, Adam has the best team so far.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
3:47 pm

To see my boy from around the way on Late Night with David Letterman, the tonight show, and Colbert – warms a brother’s heart.

@Dreams – underrated is not nearly strong enough

Willie Dynamite

April 27th, 2011
3:51 pm

If I allow you to enter my house wearing your shoes but tell WillieD he has to remove his…my house, my rules.

Dynamite now walking in raqi house with flip flops and socks on wearing a Fidora with a drank in my hand. Soooo how long before the ol man get off work? j/k j/k please dont get all deep and philosophical on me.

Chink

April 27th, 2011
3:51 pm

I like http://www.naturalizer.com/ pretty stylish but comfy..I hate for my feet to hurt.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
3:51 pm

Leggs – Frenchie almost didn’t get a turn around. That song really didn’t showcase her vocal talent. I’m sure the song was a nod to her sexual orientation, but…it almost did her end.

Oh…and the Jersey chick looked great for her age, but her voice was just not strong enough and kinda bland. She didn’t seem to have a lot of range.

DreamsMaterialize

April 27th, 2011
3:52 pm

DreamsMat, and that my dear is the advantage of being the owner of the house. My rules. LOL
Raqi The house analogy sounds good, but it doesn’t quite hold. There are way more restrictions on a business owner than there are on a house owner. Everyday our company has to navigate literally hundreds of laws (federal, state, and county) to ensure that we don’t get sued out of business. If we make an offer to one customer, and they can show that their offer was less favorable than another person’s with similar credentials, then we could easily get rolled into a class action law suit, have auditors come in and look through our books, etc. We are required by law to fairly and consistently administer the products we sell. We don’t get to pick and choose because we are the “owner” and make the “rules”. We would have been forced out of business a long time ago.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
3:55 pm

SexyCool, what’s your style?

My friend Deni’s work keeps her moving and on the go and she just recently started trying a brand that I never considered and she has gotten some really cute shoes. I tried on a pair of hers and they are super comfortable and cute.

What’s your style? Don’t mean to rush you but I have to go the store to get some fresh garlic and mushrooms.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
3:55 pm

But no grandmama shoes….

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
3:59 pm

SexyCool, she has this shoe, http://www.aerosoles.com/product1.asp?P=WELLWISHER and it is quite comfortable. But she does order online though.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
3:59 pm

Trying to come up with a tv character comparison…..

I’m business casual for the most part, but more emphasis on the business than the casual. I wear a lot of slacks/blazer, skirt blazer combos. Now that it’s getting warm, I will wear more dresses.

And yeah…I like my mushrooms fresh too.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
4:00 pm

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
4:00 pm

The woman the cop hit is on ajc.com

DreamsMaterialize

April 27th, 2011
4:00 pm

Dreams – underrated is not nearly strong enough
Dan I agree. Sometimes I miss his flows from the Goodie Mob days, but I understand that dude was just way too talented to be boxed in like that. Of course if he was still only flowin, I wouldn’t have this new ish to be diggin.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
4:00 pm

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
4:01 pm

@SexyC ~ I know. That’s why she was so happy when she did get a chair because she knew the song was almost over.

Raqi V

April 27th, 2011
4:02 pm

DreamsMat, I am getting ready to run out so I need you to take this rent-a-cop costume and this flashlight and guard my house while I run to the store. You better not let anyone in and if they ask why tell them “just because”. LOL

You all have a wonderful evening. I hope you all make it home before those storms come thru.

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
4:03 pm

@SexyC ~ it probably went against her that she sang a throwback Dionne Warwick song (lol).

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
4:07 pm

He said on Chelsea Lately (the only time I’ve seen that show – horribull), that he was doing a new Goodie Mob album, then another Gnarls Joint.

But Rico ‘nem knew he was good. The original Outkast was supposed to be Ceelo, Dre and Big Boi; changed it at the last minute.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
4:10 pm

Leggs – I thought she sang “I Kissed a Girl.”

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
4:13 pm

Hidden home ownership costs – have two trees in front of my house that I want cut down. Just found out that I have to pay $230 for a permit from the City.

I will now commence with some Yosemite Sam type cursing…..”Rackum. Mackum, Smackum. Filth. Flam. Flarth.”

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
4:14 pm

I’m talking about the lady from NJ. I thought she sang “I Say A Little Prayer??”

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
4:14 pm

What happened to the Hawks? And what times does the NFL Draft start tomorrow?

Donald Trump is really a tool.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
4:16 pm

OH…lol…I thought we were still on Frenchie. You’re right. Jersy Lady did sing an *old* song

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
4:19 pm

Dang, I forgot Frenchie sang that song…that’s a weak song for her to sing! Boy, she came close to blowing her 5th chance at stardom.

Sassy Me :-)

April 27th, 2011
4:19 pm

The woman the cop hit is on ajc.com

Oh the isht is really about to hit the fan now….the more press/publicity this story gets the darker the shadow cat over APD…not that they care,though..

Sassy Me :-)

April 27th, 2011
4:19 pm

should’ve been *cast*…

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
4:23 pm

Off topic: A school teacher who may have been upset about losing his job was arrested after he disrobed at his school (Clayton County) and walked around naked.

Dang, people are losing their minds left and right.

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
4:24 pm

An elementary school at that!

DreamsMaterialize

April 27th, 2011
4:25 pm

DreamsMat, I am getting ready to run out so I need you to take this rent-a-cop costume and this flashlight and guard my house while I run to the store.
Raqi I used to be a security guard for Allied Barton. I hope you pay more than they did. lol Should I use the same rules they had? They always told us “you’re NOT the cops, you CALL the cops.” lol

Just found out that I have to pay $230 for a permit from the City.
SexyC Plus the cost to actually get someone to cut them down. Are they big trees? Then again you seem to have an extensive network of people who know how to do things. So, you might already got the low low price on cutting them down. lol

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
4:27 pm

I remember when reading there of a kids family trying to sue the APD because an off duty officer shot a kid at an apartment group where he was during security. The judgement was that APD was not liable because the guy was working a second job and not on police duty, he even had his uniform on..but yet the guy was still liable for shooting the unarmed kid So I would imagine IHOP would have to pay for this one instead of APD or they will just pass the buck to the officer in this case too.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 27th, 2011
4:29 pm

@SC

Didn’t you forget a 6 pack and saw around those whino’s (wink, wink)?

Sassy Me :-)

April 27th, 2011
4:29 pm

Thankfully all of the children were gone…this fool was talking about still wanting to teach,especially now that his third eye had been opened.. He said that to the officer arresting him..idiot

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
4:33 pm

The teacher may rest his case on the Taco Defense. Much like the Twinkie Defense one used in a murder. The kids had already left the school.

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
4:33 pm

Third eye? Was he talking about his one-eyed snake? hahaha

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
4:33 pm

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
4:35 pm

That’s how the police officer took it, PR!

Celisea

April 27th, 2011
4:35 pm

Thankfully all of the children were gone…this fool was talking about still wanting to teach,especially now that his third eye had been opened.. He said that to the officer arresting him..idiot

Oh my….Lord help us

Purple Rain

April 27th, 2011
4:35 pm

Good evening all, family time!

Sassy Me :-)

April 27th, 2011
4:37 pm

For real Leggs….he said that to the officer and the officer replied in kind that he can’t have his third eye exposed to the public. Sounds like he may’ve been on the cusp of some kind of mental breakdown….that plus the fact that he’d just found out that his contract wouldn’t be renewed for the next school year.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
4:38 pm

Yeah…Dreams…my uncle is a landscaper. (lol)…but I’m just saying….

Dan…I am really not trying to get hit with a fine that could possibly end up being more than the permits. But…I *do* live in da hood (kinda) and I’m sure that enforcement is not so strict in my area…so….you know I’m thinking about it….

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
4:39 pm

“He said he still wanted to teach, but “on a new level, with hands in the earth, gathering the essence and learning how to love one another and fully appreciate the spiritual realm.” ”

Yeah, he may have been on the cusp of a mental breakdown!

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
4:47 pm

Kimmie– This is what usually happens when I decide to pursue a woman who I already have a friendly/flirty report with but I’ll soon discover she’s not on the level:

Mike: It’s been really nice talking to you, Princess. Can I call you sometime?
Princess: Sure, I’d love that. So are you seeing anyone?
Mike: Nope, I’m single and available. And what about you?
Princess: No, not really.
Mike: huh? What do you mea…
Princess: No one serious.
Mike: Oh okay, haha no one serious, I get what you’re saying.
Princess: Yeah, I’ve got friends, everyone do, you know…

I few days goes by…

Princess Text-ed the following: Hey what’s up? haven’t back from you
Mike text back: Yeah, I’ve been busy!

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
4:51 pm

MikeP – what if her response was, “I go out on the occasional date or two every now and then, but I’m not in a relationship or serious with anybody.”

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

April 27th, 2011
4:51 pm

“The original Outkast was supposed to be Ceelo, Dre and Big Boi; changed it at the last minute.”

Wow, that would have been quite a trio… wonder what kept Cee-Lo away?

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

April 27th, 2011
4:51 pm

Did I see Me.lo sneak in here earlier?

Sassy Me :-)

April 27th, 2011
4:52 pm

Read y’all tomorrow…I really don’t feel like going to the gym…I reallllly don’t…

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
4:53 pm

You sure did, Swiss! You’re a great campaign mgr.

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

April 27th, 2011
4:58 pm

Me.lo — You still lurking, bro? How goes it?

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

April 27th, 2011
4:59 pm

Okay, can I not say “hot and wet mangrove swamp” anymore?

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

April 27th, 2011
4:59 pm

Interesting…

So can I not say “Come out of the”

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

April 27th, 2011
5:00 pm

Ah, so I guess “lurk-ers-ville” is out of bounds?

Wife # 3

April 27th, 2011
5:01 pm

I wish I had known about the other 2 :(

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

April 27th, 2011
5:01 pm

You can’t say “lurk-er” anymore?

Sassy Me :-)

April 27th, 2011
5:01 pm

let it go bionic wang man…..it’s okay

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

April 27th, 2011
5:02 pm

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

April 27th, 2011
5:02 pm

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

April 27th, 2011
5:02 pm

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

April 27th, 2011
5:03 pm

how about just “ker”

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
5:03 pm

now THAT is too funny…

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

April 27th, 2011
5:04 pm

So, I suppose one of the many incarnations of “lurk-er” must have p!ssed somebody off…

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
5:04 pm

SexyCool, It depends…
If my thoughts on her is that she “MAY BE” a potential girl-friend candidate but I gotta date her to see if she is indeed an actual “candidate”: then no, I honestly wouldn’t be satisfied with that answer manly because it was a yes or no question.

If however, the woman had asked me for my number or I wanted her number as friends only, then I wouldn’t care all that much about her avoiding my direct question since I don’t date friends, I would only hang out with her, she’d pay her way or I’d pay my own.

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

April 27th, 2011
5:06 pm

E.O.D:

“If she won’t give you the information you ask for, put it in her butt. Works every time.” ~ Big Tim

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
5:08 pm

Okay…I had to go back and read the dialog that you posted, when did “And what about you?” become a yes or no question?

Mike: And what about you?
Chick: Yes.

Huh?!?!?

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
5:10 pm

Because isn’t the standard for determining whether a question is a yes or no question the fact that it can be answered with just one word? Yes or no….

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
5:11 pm

Nice catch, SexyC!

Leggs

April 27th, 2011
5:12 pm

And what about you?

No.

You can answer it with one word. Will it makes sense is another can of beans.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
5:15 pm

Sexycool:
the question she asked me (So are you seeing anyone?)was a yes or no question: I answer no = nope and then i added the addendum (I’m single and available), added commentary really. Afterwards I threw her question back at her (So are you seeing anyone?) by saying, “and what about you?” still a yes or no question if you follow the logic.

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

April 27th, 2011
5:17 pm

“if you follow the logic”

You’re arguing with a chick. Logic is irrelevant. ;-) :lol:

Oh sh!t, where’d I put my vest???

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
5:18 pm

so if princess says no to that question, I am going to operate as if she’s not “seeing ANYONE” if later down the line the truth comes to light that she had a FWB while dating me, game over… (1) because she lied to me (2) homie don’t play that!!!

if princess says yes, then i would not date her at that time, since I’m not desperate.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
5:18 pm

Okay…so, now I can’t follow logic? Really? Naw…still doesn’t fly.

Because following *normal* conversation, if her response is “No. I’m not.”, the question could then be “Are you not what? Single and available? Or not seeing anyone?”

There is too much in the context of what you posted that can be misconstrued and really, people don’t talk like that….THAT’s what’s not logical.

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
5:20 pm

we’re talking about general conversational logic Swiss lol :)
it would’ve been easier to simply say it/hear it rather than typing/reading it on computer screen

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
5:22 pm

Swiss…what’s really not logical is me arguing logic with a man. If this blog has proven nothing else, it’s that men and women operate under different schools of logic than men. And men, because female logic is not their logic, have declared females to be incapable of possessing logic at all.

We just speak a different language. And your inability to speak my language does not erase the existence of that language.

I’m out…two fangas….(that means peace)

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
5:22 pm

sexycool: Okay…so, now I can’t follow logic? Really? Naw…still doesn’t fly.
nope, i wasn’t insinuating that you couldn’t follow logic.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
5:23 pm

correction – it’s that women operate under different schools of logic than men.

SexyCool

April 27th, 2011
5:25 pm

So…the qualifier has gone from not sleeping with anyone on a casual basis to not dating anyone else at all?

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
5:30 pm

no… if Princess has a FWB, i wouldn’t go any further with her… if she’s dating others, then she’s not seriously dating me (my own assumption) so i wouldn’t either, until her and i have that talk… about if she’s “sexing somebody while dating me Before i would seriously date her (hence our earlier conversation this afternoon).

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
5:31 pm

as you can see… answering honestly in the very begining saves both a lot of time, money, and possible heartache

Mike P

April 27th, 2011
5:32 pm

g’nite folks

Simple Man Know known as "Coitus Interruptus"

April 27th, 2011
5:42 pm

Damn..I missed 9 pages today..Must have been a spirited afternoon….