I was talking to my friend about his new relationship when he asked me how he could find out if she had a friends with benefits situation with someone. We actually had a full on discussion about whether he should ask her outright (absolutely not) or how he could read the “signs” and tell. (For the record, all of his supposed signs were dumb)
I thought it was incredibly sweet (although slightly insane) that he was acting so irrationally about this young lady. I have never seen him this “concerned” about a woman’s single status. At the same time, I had to give him a reality check. Keep this up and you will surely blow it, dude. Relax and let things continue to progress naturally. My guess is, the more he spends time with her, the less he will worry about “other dudes” or competition.
To be honest, I never think you should ask for information that you really don’t want the answer to. What would he do if she said, “Yes, I’m getting served up on a weekly basis when I’m not with you!” When you are just in the getting to know you stage of dating, you aren’t entitled to every single detail of that person’s life.
Do you ever wonder if the person you are dating is seeing multiple people? Would it bother you if they were?
How much information do you think you are entitled to? What would you do if someone you were seeing asked you if you were pursuing/seeing/sleeping with other people? Would you be offended? Have you ever asked that question on a date?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog